No Sex Drive - Is there sex after hysterectomy?
Friday June 27, 2003
WOMEN'S HEALTH FORUM: I had an abdominal hysterectomy back in September. I kept both ovaries so I am not experiencing any menopausal symptoms. My problem is my libido or sex drive is gone and it is really bothering me. Has anyone experienced a lack of sex drive? I would appreciate any input or suggestions.Join this discussion!
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yes, i seem to be having the same problem. so far have found no help.and it is causing extreme problems w/ my marriage- wish i could no what to do to
I am also experiencing the same..although I had my hyst. 6 years ago…I stopped hormone therapy hoping it might help my libido and its worse now..I don’t know what to do. I have been married for along time and it is causing problems…I wish I could find some help!!! Is there anyone out there who can offer some help???
My hysterectomy was 5 years ago and I have tried therapy and some pills. Nothing is working. My marraige is also suffering. I find myself crying alot lately.
My hysterectomy was about two months ago. I completely understand what you are going through. My sex drive has completely died. My marriage is suffering severely. If you find a solution please post it.
My hysto was 7 years ago and now I don’t even want to think about sex. I have no desire and no response other than pain when I finally give in to my husband’s griping. It doesn’t feel good anymore, and I can’t even make myself feel good during a “solo act”. I would never miss it if I never tried again. Hormones are worthless, too.
My hysto wrecked me.
I had a hysterectomy on October 26, 2007. I got married September 01, 2007. So I am a newly wed. When I was dating my husband my sex drive was over active. I had a lot of complications with my surgery and I keep telling him I am still healing. But when we have sex it does not feel the same. Sex was one of things that kept us passionate for each other. I am really concerned and worried. This was such a plus for us but I have no feeling.
I am so glad that I am not the only person who feels this way. I had my hysterectomy last October and haven’t been the same since. My moods are horrible, I have trouble sleepind and I am like you, sex is not an option for me right now. I have a wonderful husband who has been very supportive but I think that is wearing thin. I just would love to get my life back on track. If I would have known this was going to happen, I would have just dealt with the over active periods.
It feels so good to know that I am not the only person out there with this ‘problem!’ Is there anything that anyone can suggest to improve the sex drive? My husband has been supportive, but enough is enough… sex keeps a marriage alive, and we live like brother and sister, not husband and wife! Help!
I thought I was the only one that felt that way.Since my hysterctomy in 2004 I have no desire have sex. Before it was great my husband is ten years young then me and he wants it all the time. I try cream but no help. So Help me get my sex drive back
I thought my marriage was the only one suffering. My wife had her hysterectomy over 10 years ago. The last 6 years have been completely empty. She won’t talk about it. She feels bad, I feel bad. You are describing our sex life exactly. I thought it was me. If you find anything, please let me know.
I had my hytso about 20 years ago and have been like all of you since
WOW! My hysterectomy was 3/27/o6. It’s been 2 years and I have no urge to have sex. Desperate to gain it back, in my search, the only thing that has helped me the tiniest bit,(I can’t believe that I’m going to admit this online) I watched an “adult video clip” I actually felt a bit aroused, but it only lasted as long as the clip. However I have only watched the clips a few times over the 2 years, mainly because I’m not always in the mood to even be watching such a thing. I’ve tried many things and I too am having a hard time keeping the love in the bedroom alive. I’m 35, married 16 years, and regretting that I had to have the surgery. Knowing what I know now, I would rather have dealt with the heavy irregular bleeding, clots, and severe uterine pain that I had even when I was not on my period. Than to lose the drive to make love to my husband.
More women should speak out. And doctors should be reading this site and respond to this growing concern.
hello to all of you here, i had my complete hysterectomy 5 months ago and at first i hate everyone who comes right next to me. I refused to take hormone pills. And til now i cried for no reasons sometimes and do think of suicide if me and my hubby argued about something stupid.
Yes sex is not even in my mind no more but one day, i hope i dont have to say this but if will help out with your relationship it will be my great help. As i came home one night, please dont judge me but my hubby is on the net watching sexy women making out with their partner he dont know that i was behind him watching too, but oh my god! it was the best sex i ever had that night! I am not a sex maniac but its great to have a good sex after having this complete hysterectomy. try it you might like it! No need hormone pills. Please dont get mad if i went way over my explanation and experienced.
k, ladies this is the best I had the same problem since I had my historectomy. I started selling pure romance shortly after and started using a product that they have that is a heightener. You can go look at christinafriedman.pureromance.com there are 3 of them for women and this saved my marriage I use it and it gets me excited. THERE IS A X-SCREAM, NYMPHO NIGRA, and EX-TCEE.
I have read all the ladies comments and it describes my wife to a tee. She had her Historectomy in 2004 due to cancer. I’m grateful that the cancel was removed and she is doing well, but besides missing the sex, the affection is gone as well. At was starting to think that she has fallen out of love with me. I still don’t know for sure. We haven’t discussed it, and I don’t wnat to press the issue, but it is getting difficult. I can adapt, but it is a difficult prospect to think that this is the way our marriage has to be from now on. Good luck to you all. I not it’s difficult. Let’s hope that your husbands can hang in there.
Had Hysterectomy years ago and never bothered by low libido. Still wonderful sex all the time.
It surprises me to see how many women are having a problem with their sex drive since my mother had a hysterectomy when i was 4 and based on her sex drive, you would have never known. My mother always had a high sex drive and i do too. i’m about to go for a hysterectomy and i’ve started studying tantric sex, kama sutra and taoism again to brush up and maintain some of my techniques. These techniques and styles teach you to maintain and increase your sex drive with your thoughts and imagination. Sorry to hear about the problems but try one, they are not just about positions. They use visualization, breathing, meditating, etc.
My hysterectomy was in 2005. I am 47. I thought it would be great: no more anemia, no more constant bleeding and huge clots, no more exhaustion, no distended belly from a uterus that was enlarged to the size of an 8 month pregnancy due to fibroids. Healthy ovaries get to stay. No hormone therapy. Now I wouldn’t have to keep telling my husband “not tonight, I’m bleeding again”. My sex life was almost non-existent before the surgery. At that time, I wanted to but couldn’t. Now I can, but have no desire whatsoever. My husband has stopped bothering to try. Even when I try, there is just nothing there. The act is an ordeal. Dryness=artificial lubricant. Penetration is painful, but it wasn’t before the surgery. I’m still exhausted all the time, and now I’m afraid my depression is more than just “the blues”. To compound the problem, I know that “average” sex rates run about 1 or 2 times a week. Sometimes my husband goes without for 6 months. When I think there is the possibility he may be looking elsewhere, I force myself to pretend to be interested, all the while desperately hoping it won’t hurt this time, or that he won’t notice that I’m in pain. Because if i tell him, he will think it is his fault instead of mine. It is so bad, that we didn’t have sex even though he was leaving for his deployment to Iraq. He’ll be gone for awhile, and I’d like to try to resolve this problem before he comes home. So far, I haven’t seen any real answers.
I understand and am going through all of what is discussed. I have used the creams from Surprise parties and that works at keeping the dryness and the pain down but I no longer “feel” down there like I used to. I don’t take hrt and I feel like I’m aging by the second instead of by the day/year. I turned 36 this month. I feel like I’m at least 60! It’s crazy! : (
Sadly, I am experiencing the same problems with lack of desire. My husband (of 28 years) and I have always had a wonderful intimate relationship but since my hysterectomy at the end of February this year I have NO interest in sex at all. I am deeply disturbed by this as I love my husband deeply and feel I am letting him down. I don’t know what to do. I am not interested and I am not physically comfortable making love any more. Has anyone tried naturopathy or a psychologist and if so did it help in any way? I am also numb from the navel down to well belo my scar and it is very uncomfortable. I no longer feel attractive or desirable.
Just to read all your messages makes me feel as though I am not alone, but it worries me greatly that this lack of desire seems to persist in so many and may be permanent.
Hi everyone, I had a hysterectomy nearly 8 years ago and I have experienced exactly the same as every other woman on here. I was referred by G.P to a gynae clinic where i was offered a testosterone implant. This impland is placed just under your skin on your lower abdomen, by local anesthetic it lasts for 6 months and I have to say that it does increase your libido by half at least. I have not had this implant in for the last few years as my liver was converting the testosterone into progesterone, so i had to come off it for a while, my libido is nil without it, therefore I am on my way back once again and hoping for another go.
Hope this helps someone X
I had a hysterectomy 12 months ago. The first months after surgery, I was ok. I was able to experience intense orgasms, but now I don’t feel anything. All my erogenous areas are completely numb. I will have to pretend that I am enjoying it. It is better to be alive and faking it and having orgasm while you have an uterine tumor. I am not planning to jeopardize my health by using products and hormones that might help me to regain what I have lost.
i had my total abdominal hysterectomy on may 1. prior to the surgery, my husband and i had sex at least 2x a week and my orgasms were very intense. now…besides the weight gain, depression, constant feelings like i want to just run away…..i have no sex drive and when i finally give in….nothing. it takes forever for me to get the least bit aroused and even then…it’s a fraction of what i felt before.
it takes tremendous effort for me to “just give in” when it’s been awhile and then i’m just going throught the motions to satisfy my husband. why is it that there is nothing to help us? if men were going through this there would be millions of products.
I had a hysterectomy a year and a half ago.My husband and I have tried to have sex only 3 times,resulting in pain and burning for me.He is afraid to be intimate with me,and just avoids the subject altogether.I feel castrated and robbed,very angry.I can reach an orgasm,solo,but intercourse is so painful now. I was too embarrassed to tell my gynocologist until a month ago.She acted like it was no big deal that we cant have sex anymore..and said there’s not much you can do about it..and gave me estrogen cream for my vagina.She said its because I have no cervix.I asked her if my cervix could be left (prior to surgery)but she was adamant that it could not.How I wish to God I had gotten other opinions,and had my cervix and ovaries left in place.The doctor does not think sex should be any big deal for someone my age(late forties) Well,it is a big deal…my husband and I had a GREAT sex life prior to this,I never had any prob;ems in this area whatsoever.We were the cute and romantic couple that people called “Luke and Laura”(He looks just like Tony Geary!)Is there any hope for us?I know he will love mw unconditionally,but I feel like we are platonic room mates now.
My wife had a hysterectomy 21 years ago, due to ovarian cancer. For years intercourse was painful, but she did have some sex drive and frankly her orgasms are something I envy. Still, sex had tapered way off, to 1x per month maybe. Last Spring I decided to quit satisfying myself solo and apart from her. It led me to be intensely touching and sexually interested in her - I have an above average sex drive — and she undertook to try to work on her pain issue (I had given up hope there, but wanted to try different things). Lo and behold, her pain disappeared. We have had really the best sex in 20 years, about weekly and occassionally more. Usually she is feeling it — I have been surprised by her passion at times. We do have some mismatch in our libidos, but I have to take heart in the progress.
I’ve been a wellness counselor for years and had a hysto. a long time ago after flooding every month. After a few months, I became very dry, eventually losing all sexual feelings! My husband definitely didn’t understand. I frantically tried estrogen, foods, nutritian, supplements, herbs and other products. I few years ago, I found a progesterone cream that helped, but only a little. Four months ago, I started drinking this specially prepared juice for energy because I had given up on ever being sexual. Surprisingly, after about three months, my sexual feelings started to come back. I thought it was a lost cause forever because nothing I had tried worked. In all my years of studying health, it’s the most amazing food I’ve ever run across!!! I was so excited, I decided to join a networking group so I could buy it cheaper. I’ll never go without it!!!