Fifteen and Pregnant
Tuesday July 8, 2003
Premenstrual Syndrome PMS Forum: I'm 15 and I've been with my boyfriend for almost nine months. We've been sexually active together for about four months. My parents have no clue at all that I'm having sex. What makes it so hard to tell them is that I come from a family that doesn't believe in sex out of marriage, much less having a child out of wedlock. I recently found out that I am 6 1/2 weeks pregnant and I am so scared.
I have no one to really talk to cause my BF is overseas... I just don't know what to do. How can I go about telling my parents alone so that they don't flip out and go all crazy on me? The main thing I'm scared of is them pressing charges on my BF, because like I said I'm 15 and he is 22. Him being in the military does not help the thing at all cause I know my parents will turn him in. I don't want that to happen, I love him so much. I don't want anything to mess up our relationship. But I'm also not going to have an abortion. What would you do?
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Hey. Well my boyfriend isn’t 22 he is only 18 but i am 16 too. I am 6 months pregnant. i have told my dad but if you really want them to understand what you’re going through then you need to tell them before they find out on their own. just be completely honest and tell them that you’re both planning to raise the child and do whatever it takes. don’t give up just because you assume something. talk to them about it and tell them everything they want to hear even though some of it isn’t exactly what they need. but your choices are your own just like mine were and whatever happens happens. i believe in you even though i really don’t know you.
I’m 15 & pregnant too. But my bf is 16. What we did was sat down our parents my dad and his mom and dad and just explained that we were having sex, and we had made a mistake and that I was pregnant, we are giving our child up for adoption, my parent and his parents are fine with the chose we have made, just tell them your dating someone younger than 22 like someone from school, I hope I helped out! And best wishes to you and your boy friend.
Im 15 years old and pregnant too. Im Roman Catholic and TOTALY against abortion, and supposedly sex out of wedlock…lol..oops…
I LIVE with my grandparents, who raised me since i was a baby. They sent me to PRIVATE school, and put me in gymnastiscs and private violin lessons as well. I am VERY smart and am on the honor role. I also sit 1st chair in orchestra. When they found out, it was at the doctors office. I thought i had an infection in my vagina, but my bf actualy gave me Chlymedia/ Gonhorrea. He is 19, i am 15.
Im not totaly sure if its his er not tho, because i was also involved with someone else b4 me and him went out. Idk…pray for me, i guess. I dont know if i want and Abortion, or just have it…what ever happens, just know God is writing ur life story, and He does EVERYTHING for a reason. All good cumz from bad.
Kristen.
im 15 and almost 8 months pregnant
and the babies daddy is 18
but im not with him no more hes a dead beet
but dont do an abortion
have that baby everything happens for a reason
trust me. finding out i was pregnant and what it was, was the best feeling ever. i cant wait to have my baby boy here in about 1 1/2 months
hello i was looking through here and i came upon your story when i was looking up to see how far along i am. i’m in a totally different situation but i thought i came upon here for a reason. please don’t have an abortion.. it’s never the babies fault. it’s normal for you to be scared but everything works out in the end. you will raise your baby and look into their eyes and realize that you made the right choice. GOD BLESS!
I know this post is from, like, a gazillion years ago, so anything I say is irrelevant to the original poster, but I just felt so badly for so many of you that I wanted to add my two cents.
I’m not fifteen OR pregnant— I’m 23, and I’m married, and I’m not planning to have any babies for a long time. But I’m concerned by how many of you automatically dismissed abortion as an answer. Girls, just because fetuses look as cute in the womb, and just because you can imagine them as the babies they could become, doesn’t mean they are HUMAN BEINGS. They’re tiny cells that don’t have feelings or emotions. If you think a fertilized egg has a soul, then what does that mean for identical twins, who were once one fertilized egg that then split into two? Do they have the same soul or something?
Trust me— my husband is a minister. Abortion doesn’t mean you’re killing someone. Abortion means you’re not going to give birth to someone, which is the same choice you make every time you use a condom or the Pill.
And yes, everything happens for a reason, but why would you think that reason would necessarily be that you ought to give birth to a baby? I think God could just as easily be testing you by giving you an intense ordeal like an unexpected pregnancy and then waiting to see if you can get yourself out of it. I think God acts in more creative ways than just, “Oh, well, I’m going to throw a monkey wrench into your life, so just give up and go with it.” Sometimes God uses these moments to remind us that certain actions (like having unprotected sex at fifteen with a guy who is waaaaay older than you) aren’t a good idea. But that doesn’t mean that your penance is to live the rest of your life in misery…it just means you ought to be more sensible next time.
Girlies, my grandma had an abortion when she was 25, and she says it’s one of the best things she’s ever done. It would have completely ruined her life if she’d had a baby then, but instead she had a wonderful life and two lovely children later on in life.
I’m not saying any of you SHOULD have an abortion, because only you can really make these decisions, and everyone’s situation is different. But a decision isn’t really a decision unless you consider all the options…even abortion.
I’m also preganat i’m 16 and my Bf is 19, he is also goin into the service soon hopefully before the baby id due although Luckily i’m only 4 weeks pregnant. I still haven’t told my grandparents about me being preganant because my grandparents don’t believe in sex out of marriage either. I’m terrified but reading someone else’s post saying that you should go tell them before they find out is the best decsion then thats what i’m going to do, but I need the courage to say it first pray for me as I will be praying for you as well.
I am so suprised and shocked first of all you are 15 what are you doing having sex ESPECIALLY with a 22 year old. I don’t even understand why a 22 year old is eveing talking to a 15 year old that is SICK someone needs to tell his command and get him in trouble. I can’t even believe your parents allow that whats wrong with your parents.
I am 19 and im having a baby in june.. when i found out i was pregnant i was so scared. i didnt want totell my mom or dad because i was still in school. but the day i told my mom she cried and said she was happy for me. my dad just looked at me before we even told him and said “your pregnant arent you?” when i said yes he just smiled.. if your that scared then do wat my 15 yr old cousin did and write your parents a letter.. just tell them your pregnant and scared and you could really use their help. trust me it works. my cousin is 16 now and she has a 5 month old girl. her mom and dad are so helpful with the baby..
Hiya. Im 15. I had a boyfriend for a year and a half but unforntantly he is not my current boyfriend at the moment. Things went really wrong so we ended up splitting. Im still sleeping with him as i love him and have a lot of feelings for him. Im not sure for defiante that i am pregnant but im having symptoms. I also havent come on yet. My ex is 16 and if i was pregnant he is gaurenteed to be the father. If i was having a baby then no matter what anybody else says i wouldnt give it up for the world. I would be happier than ever despite my age and also it makes things better as the father would be the boy i love whom is only 16. My parents would be very disspointed but i wouldnt care. They cant hate you forever. So for all you young teens out there keep the baby if you want him/her. Dont let anybody else bring you down and make you make decisons which you might regret in years to come!! xx
Hi, I am 15 and I am still not sure if I am pregnant…….I have no money to get a pregnancy test and the guy who would be the father wont talk to me becuase i am dating someone other than him……..Idk wat to do and I need help as well so anything you guys could do I’d be so greatful
hey,
i’m sort of in your position. i am 15 about to be 16 in less than a month. my boyfriend is in the navy, basic training. he does know, and we are planning as much as we can. i thought i could try to help. i went to my mom and told her i missed my period. the next day she brought me to the doctor. when the test came back positive i thought, how could this happen to me? i was very scared. she told my dad, and calmed him down before he saw me. i felt bad for putting this on my family. they are not going to make be have an abortion, which is great news! i am completely against abortion. it is not the babies fault. so my advice to you is to just be completely honest. the worst they can do is yell. if they care for you then they will not press charges on the father. being in the service isn’t the best way to start a family, but it could help. being that you are younger than he is there could be problems, but as long as your parents do not press charges then he should be fine. Good Luck and congratulations. I hope the best for you and your baby.
Hey there…
Uhm well im 17 and my bf is 19 in matric now….
Im not totally sure that im pregnant but some of the signs are there and im really freaking out… Im not sure what to do because I took a HPT but it came negative yet im experiencing some of the symptoms and I also took the morning after pill about 5 days ago… So maybe it could be that but Im so affraid I am pregnant iv been doing some research on the internet regaurding symptoms of pregnancy and of the morning after pill and some of them are similar yet Im getting some of the prepnancy symptoms aswell that is why im so highly confused and affraid…..
My family will dis own me I come from a family that is highly against sex out of nedlock and that type of thing my mother will kill me and my fater OMG I dont even wana know what my dad would do….
At the moment I have no1 to turn to talk to this about I have friends that I really trust but im not sure if I feel comfortable talking to them about this im affraid they judge me or think of me differently..
My bf told his mom that I might be pregnant and that situation makes this so much more weird….
I cant go to the clinic alone and I have no idea what Im going to do….