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Do Women Enjoy Anal Sex?

By October 3, 2003

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A visitor to the Women's Health forum is looking for advice:

"I have only in the last year returned to the "single life" after 15 years of marriage. I had never had anal sex with my husband, nor had it ever been an issue. Now that I am dating again, I am told that anal sex is commonly practiced. I'm certainly not saying that there is anything wrong with it, it's just that the men that I have met are taken by surprise that I had never had anal sex before now and that I don't consider it to be something I really enjoy, or perhaps I am just new to it and it scares me a little. A man that I have been seeing a while tells me that he has dated many woman that wanted mainly anal sex. Please don't feel that this post is judgmental in anyway; I'm just wanting female points of view on anal sex and perhaps good or bad experiences in order to form my own opinion. At the end of the day, I realize that one does whatever they are comfortable doing..."

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Comments
June 17, 2006 at 5:37 pm
(1) barbara says:

wonderful, what more do u want than a penis inside your….great.try it smoothly

July 13, 2006 at 1:45 am
(2) sal says:

I have been with my wife for over 17 years. We started dating in college. She was a virgin at the time and very curious about various types of sex. WE had vaginal, oral and anal sex, and she really enjoyed anal sex, as long as I go GENTLY. We occasionally still have it and obviously she still likes it. Whenevber you have anal sex make sure the guy is lubricated and definately have him go gently so you dont hvae any rectal bleeding.

July 27, 2006 at 9:25 pm
(3) Stephanie says:

A boyfriend in college introduced me to anal sex. Until that time I had only had oral and vaginal sex. He was good sized, but after plenty of foreplay and lube I found that it felt amazing – just very “full”. Now that I’m married I so have anal sex with my husband and I’m able to achieve an amazing orgasm if I stimulate my clitoris while having anal sex.

August 7, 2006 at 8:57 pm
(4) ed says:

u r lucky, it is very sweet, i like it many times.

August 8, 2006 at 12:51 pm
(5) Sarah says:

I am one of those women who prefer anal sex. It turns me on like no other form of sex. My current boyfriend is very well endowed and I love the way he feels in me more than my average sized boyfriends. He hits spots I never knew existed!

September 27, 2006 at 4:22 pm
(6) MS says:

Interesting forum!

I have read allot of the comments by these lovely ladies and it appears that by quick consensus that most women here stated that they do it to please their man.

So with that said if the man did not request anal sex of them they would not have anal sex. Being a man and having been with my wife for over twenty five years. My desire for anal sex started about ten years ago for some unknown reason. I have been the only man she has ever been with so it’s not like some have suggested to conquer a first again.

I personally really like it allot and well my wife does it to please me. That is really not a nice situation I would prefer to be in but it appears to work. I do find it interesting that men can have fantastic oral and vaginal relations with their woman but hell, we always want more.

Allot of times I feel guilty divulging myself in a sexual act that she does not prefer. Not sure what drives this but I have accomplished having this type of relations fewer and fewer times.

I do agree with what some have said as it being a TABOO and I am sure that men like myself enjoy it more we feel we are taking something that is not freely given. I think if it was in my case “ Yeah do me in the butt any time you want and I love it and yada yada yada .” Men wouldn’t want it that much. I think deep down it’s a control factor and when the control is gone the need for it as well is gone…

Please give me your thoughts.

October 1, 2006 at 10:31 am
(7) Roger says:

A man who craves anal sex with a women is insecure. The desire is for complete power and domination, not a pursuit of sexual pleasure for himself and certainly not for his partner. If a man truely found his wife sexually attractive and respected and valued her he would not have to sodomise her. I say to wives, if youre doing it to pleasure your husband and you hate it, consider whether he truely repects and loves you.

October 1, 2006 at 5:30 pm
(8) Ben Dover says:

While my wife and I both enjoy anal sex where I penetrate her, the best sex happens when she pentrates me. It took me years to get up the nerve to ask her to do me, but now we do it more often than any other sex act — her strap-on dildo is always erect, unlike my penis. I think a lot of guys who are penetrating their women are fantasizing about switching roles

October 18, 2006 at 3:35 am
(9) Love It! says:

There is nothing wrong with anal sex and for me it is amazing! The orgasms are much stronger and the feelings much more intense. Make sure you are clean, lubed, and relaxed. Give it a try!

October 22, 2006 at 8:26 am
(10) Steve says:

My wife loves anal sex and often slides her butt plug in my anus during foreplay BJ then we are both anally satisfied at the same time, it achieves intense orgasms for both of us. Please use plenty of lube…..

October 26, 2006 at 5:16 pm
(11) jena says:

Sex is an amazing thing in all its ways, but its up to you on what you want to try.I have done it and have it with a four of guys and only 3 i enjoyed it with.

November 6, 2006 at 2:25 am
(12) pops says:

if you are uncomfortable with the concept, chances are you will not enjoy the act. remember that it should be give and take. What f your partner is not willing to do certain things that only you may enjoy. Be sure you keep your sex life on an equal even playing field

November 9, 2006 at 5:24 am
(13) mikkey says:

After 3years of togetherness my boyfriend and i tried anal sex and truth be told it was incredible. we tried once before,fairly early on in the relationship but it was too painful (my partner’s a big boy) however recently I have enjoyed anal stim when having sex in doggie style
and decided that perhaps i cud try again. at no point did my partner pressure/me. lots of lube+clit stimulator. amazing!

November 10, 2006 at 7:10 pm
(14) Mickey M. O'Leary says:

I like anal sex. My friend laker and I do it all the time and sometimes my wife will oblige too and use the strap on on me. I think both men and women need to be open to this experience. I am normally impotent, so receiving anal sex is for me the only way to feel like a man. Or woman!

November 11, 2006 at 2:41 am
(15) D-Yan says:

Wow on comment number 14. Taking it up the ass makes you feel like a man…. LMAO

November 30, 2006 at 11:09 pm
(16) Tammy says:

My current boyfriend turned me on to anal sex. I don’t tbhink he realized what a maniac he was creating when he convinced me to try it. All I can say is: WOW!!!!!!! He was slow and gentle and well lubed up. He is quite big and he made sure to take his time. Once he was in “to the hilt” so to speak I had a very pleasant and “full” sensation in my lower belly. After a bit of time he was, well let’s just say he was very vigorous! I had an orgasm so intense I never imagine it could feel so good. Then feeling him come inside me…felt like a living creature was released in my lower tummy!

December 30, 2006 at 6:51 pm
(17) Anal Queen says:

Doit!Up the ASS is Heavenly ! DOIT ! AND DOIT! But Lube up Well First ! and then doit deep . . . hard n fast

December 31, 2006 at 5:34 pm
(18) Mitch says:

I am a 56 year old male. I am reading this trying to find a consensus of those who have tried anal sex. A conservative man, married for 34 years, with mostly a normal sex life, my wife and I never experienced it primarily because it was undesirable to her, and I respected her wishes. She considers it unclean and immoral. The problem is, ever since I was a young lad, young adult and now middle aged, I have been more stimulated by the female butt and anal area than I was the vaginal area. At this age, without the prospect of anal sex, I am beset with ED. While Viagra is an option, my interest in vaginal sex is just no longer enough to motivate me to do anything about it. I understand her feelings about it and she understands my motivations. Without any resentment, we more or less accept the absense of sex. However, I can’t stop my desires for it, even at this age, and I feel like I am going to miss out an experience in life that has influenced me all my life. Am I a pervert? Do my desires and fantacies constitute an unreal expectation. I hear so many comments by women with bad experiences, and yet many of the female comments in this section have been positive. What am I to think?

January 5, 2007 at 3:01 am
(19) ukuni says:

two questions. i’ve heard that women in quebec (i live in toronto, canada) engage in anal sex more than in ontario – both are provinces in canada. is there any truth to it? i want to try anal sex, how do i go about asking a woman to have anal sex with me?

January 8, 2007 at 5:47 am
(20) Claire. says:

I am 28 and have enjoyed anal sex from the age of 17. I saw one of my brothers prono tapes and it was happening on there and it turned my on so much I wanted to try it. I’ve never had a bad experience however, I would say, use plenty of lube and if you have a clit viabrator use that at the same time, it’s simply sensational.

January 10, 2007 at 5:09 am
(21) Sue says:

Isn’t strange that you get more men answering your question than women?? I’m suprise no one has ever thought of “human waste aka shit” can be get stuck on the tip of the penis … I have not tried and never will. Men are all for it cos its tighter and for their own perverse pleasure. Where only a handful women claimed they really like it but with lube. Its just not natural … Your anus is not meant for sex full stop.

January 10, 2007 at 10:29 pm
(22) LoverNATURE says:

Firstly my unlimited RESPECT,VALUE AND SALUTATION to all and thier personel opinions.

1-WHY WE HAVE NATURAL LUBRICANT FROM THE VAGINA AND NOT FROM ANUS ?

2-ANAL SEX IS CREATED BY MAN AND IT DOES NOT EXIST IN NEITHER ANIMAL KINGDOM NOR PLANTS !

3-WE ARE SURE THAT THE MAN DOES NOT ENJOY THE PLEASURE OF SEX IN ANY OTHER FORM MORE THAN HAVING IT THROUGH VAGINA .

4-CREATIVITY OF POSITIONS AND STYLES WAS ONLY DESIGN TO FEEL MORE SENSATIONAL BETWEEN PARTNERS OF DIFERENT SIZES SO ON AND SO FOR BUT NOT FOR ANAL .

5-SEX IS NOT NEW TO HUMANS NOR RELIGIONS WHERE WE CAN FIND GREAT PEOPLE TOOK THE IMPORTANCE TO EXPLAIN ABOUT SEX,FOR AN EXAMPLE KAMASUTRA .BUT NON;I REPEAT NON OF THEM RECOMENDED ANAL SEX .

6-MORALLY NO OTHER CREATURE WORST THAN US .

I CONCLUDE,WHY SHOULD WE GO FOR AN ALTERNATIVE WHEN WE HAVE THE BEST OF WHAT WE WANT.

A MAN AFTER SERVING SENTENCE IN PRISON IF HE IS GIVEN A CHOICE OF VAGINA OR ANUS OR ORAL OR MACHINE OR ETC ?
ALL OF US KNOW WHAT HE WILL GO FOR.

THAT IS ALL FOR NOW.

January 15, 2007 at 9:39 pm
(23) Luke says:

LoverNATURE.

Dolphins, benoboes and flamingos have full homosexual relationships. The kamasutra depicts anal sex. The rest of your post is anti-sex dogma so I’m dismissing it out of hand. The question wasn’t “Who would like to regurgitate some conservative rubbish to make me feel guilty and dirty about something quite common?” Try to stick to the facts.

Mitch: I don’t know how you are gonna get around this but 56 years old is too young to just give up on sex when you are still sexually active. You aren’t a pervert you are just more adventureous than your wife. Please stop torturing youself about this.

To most everyone else: Thanks for telling us of your useful pleasurable experiences.

Luke :)

January 31, 2007 at 1:17 pm
(24) Carlos says:

Based on research, anal sex can be very pleasurable for women because the rectum shares a wall with the vagina, and the sexual nerves are actually closer on that side, which makes the sensation unique, stronger and quite possibly orgasmic.

Women are just as excited as man to be venturing into the anal aspect of sex and know how it feels. Today they don’t longer sharing the violating of some sort of unwritten moral code or taboo for trying what perhaps please them. Sure, for men it’s going to be much tighter, although the pain for women is inevitable, is perhaps the thrill of it all

So, the overall satisfaction is based on your mental or physical position.

February 2, 2007 at 11:31 am
(25) r says:

I tried anal sex for the first time last night. I have to say, it didn’t hurt, and it made me scream like a banshee! My husband was great and just did as I asked and it was a pleasure for us both. It was sensitve in new areas and we loved that it was a little bit naughty. We did use plenty of lube. It wasn’t anything like I thought it would be. I think I actually liked it more than my husband, though he says he’s game anytime!

February 4, 2007 at 12:29 pm
(26) MFD420 says:

Wow!
Thanks for sharing everybody.
I pressured a couple of girlfriends into it during University days, but it always ended it awkwardness and neither really enjoyed.
I’ve been in a stable, happy marriage for 10 years and we’ve begun exploring the intimate ‘digestive tract’ sex possibilities. Now I don’t know if the posts above are true or not, but now that I’ve a clean and pain-free technique for the intimate act of anal, our relationship is more open than it’s ever been.
When I penetrate that area, gently at first, withdraw and re-lube a couple of times, don’t be anxious, stop immediately if things get awkward… that woman turns into a different person! She’ll enter a state of perpetual orgasm and collapses at the end. If any of you have ‘been there’ you know what I mean.
Why would I ever cheat? To be able to give my life partner such a sensation, it fulfills me.

I don’t know about reciprocating… I guess I’m the squeamish one in the relationship…

Anal in monogamy –> consenting adults should do whatever they damn well please

Here’s to ‘full body’ sex!

MFD420
canada

February 6, 2007 at 2:48 am
(27) Jaycee says:

I enjoy anal play. Pain is not inevitable for the woman if you a work into it by using fingers, first one and work up to 3 and use lots of lube. Breathe and relax. One way to really get into it is for woman to squat or kneel over man and very slowly lower herself onto shaft bit by bit, moving up and down in tiny increments. Man may help “aim” but should not push until woman is very relaxed and comfortable. In this position the woman has more control of penetration, and by facing each other they can communicate easier, enjoy each other’s facial expressions and have plenty of clitoral stimulation. Fantastic!!

February 8, 2007 at 11:29 pm
(28) Michelle from SoCal says:

Ever since my dear husband of many years introduced me to Euro-porn, which featured extensive anal pleasuring, we have enjoyed anal intercourse as an essential aspect of our frequent love-making! I recommend it for everyone.

February 11, 2007 at 3:37 am
(29) Richard says:

My first wife and I explored anal sex, and found it mutually erotic and enormously satisfying right from the start. As nearly all proponents have posted, lots of lube, and start slowly. We were both young, and “university student rebellious” types at the time, which probably helped the anal adventure significantly. Unfortunately though, as we grew older, we grew apart (mostly due to work pressures). My second wife flatly refuses to go there, though that does not stop my fascination with anal. I would never seek outside the marriage – I am just not that sort of guy, and in practical terms, it would cost the earth to divorce. Being a bit of a fatalist, I believe everything that is meant to happen will happen for the right reasons, and in good time, so I just continue to wait, like Sylvester the cat waiting to catch that darned canary!

February 12, 2007 at 6:15 pm
(30) MFD420 says:

Hey Richard,

Get drunk or stoned together and ‘accidently’ massage the ‘forbidden’ area through her underwear. It’s amazing how contained women are about these things until they get used to the idea. It might take a year or so, but build up to in very slow, subtle steps.
It took me five years (mainly for me to get the courage and to get past the ‘what if she thinks I’m a sick perv’ stage)
Or, while performing oral sex (after a bath or shower), use your tongue on the area between the vagina and anus–but build up to it slowly.

By hey, if she won’t let you go down on her, the anal thing will not happen. You’ll have to stick to spanking.

Sodomy in monogamy WOO HOOO!!!!

MFD

February 16, 2007 at 3:03 pm
(31) Lisa says:

My husband and I have been talking about and just got a DVD to help us start. I am very exciting about trying this, not sure why all of a sudden I just am into this idea. I don’t think I would consider it with anyone else, he is the best in bed and out of bed.
Anyway, I do have a question. I am very concerened about poop. I know it sounds stupid, but I am worried that when he goes into me that something else will come out. Or that when I am trying to relax and breathe that something will come out.
Help relieve my worries. Be honest, tell me what I have to do to avoid that.
Lisa

February 19, 2007 at 10:40 pm
(32) Dabu Quinn says:

I would love to have anal sex with my wife. But she does not seem to be interested in sex enough to ever get to do it anally. I’m lucky to get it more than twice a week. Marriage has been the worst thing for my sex life. She use to have sex with me all the time. After marriage it’s not even an issue anymore for her.

February 22, 2007 at 1:44 pm
(33) bill edwards says:

I am 67yo male ,my wife is 60 we been doing anal sex for well over 40plus year and it only gets better with age the trick is lots of lube and love for each other and be willing to try new thing in your sex life

February 22, 2007 at 4:01 pm
(34) Gambler says:

Comment 30….. Good question, I do not claim to be an expert. (I have had 3 partners that enjoyed this) Yes it can be an issue and obviously “preparing” is a good move, Most times it isnt and a shower after is always good.
Do not mix and match “holes” going from one to the other, this is very unhygenic. But for the most part your fears will not be an issue.

February 24, 2007 at 10:45 pm
(35) franc black says:

ladies, this should be your rule #1 with those anxious guys: you can’t poke it unless you are willing to lick it first

bathe/shower before and after, lots of lube (also helps coat the insides and block residual poop smears)

be patient be gentle do not rush (at first)

get an anal probe or slim vibrator to loosen things up first

sodomy in monogamy is the most intense thing that I’ve ever experienced

have fun y’all

franc

February 25, 2007 at 9:58 pm
(36) Beth says:

Wow…I never knew that so many liked it. I’m gonna keep track of this thread for sure.

Thanks
Beth

February 27, 2007 at 3:30 pm
(37) Liz says:

I am a very tiny woman and my husband is a heavy man. He has brought this suject up several times because he says his friends like it and he has also seen porn and wants to do this very much. I however told him I would think about it but really dont want to. However he has insinuated that after 5 yrs of marriage and our child that if I do not comply maybe we shouldn’t be together. Should I try this though I don’t want to to keep our family 2gether or should he just leave me alone about it I am really upset about this whole sexual act please help

March 1, 2007 at 5:30 am
(38) lhw says:

I have been married a very long time and have not had a wide range of sexual experiences so anal sex was a completely foreign thing to me……. until recently. I had my first experience a few weeks ago. I must say the thought was exciting and I thought I was ready, however I it was a little harder to accommodate the size of my partner then I thought it would be….and we didn’t really get to complete the act. It was painful and I had bleeding for a few days afterwards — I’m guessing it is all part of the “breaking-in period” And even though it was not successful the first time, I’m willing to give it another try it the opportunity presents it’s self again.

March 1, 2007 at 7:59 pm
(39) julia says:

i was reluctant to have anal sex because i have irritable bowel syndrome and am very anxious about the butt area. last night was my first experience with anal and it was the worst sensation i have ever experienced. my boyfriend is experienced with anal and used lots of lube but it was still awful and i would advise anyone to make sure you really want it before you let anyone near your back door.

March 3, 2007 at 10:22 pm
(40) franc black says:

i’m willing to bet that half of all marriages fail because of this kind of issue

by ‘sodomy in monogamy’ i mean that once you have had satisfying anal sex with a partner, how could you ever leave it?

but be fair to both: you’ve got to get the passage ready of an extended period of time–fingers for ten or so sessions, tongue a few times, then a butt plug or small vibrator (yes! from one of those dingy little pervert sex shops!!), lots of lube always (remember the smears guys!), patience, patience, ….

it’s about building trust and submitting totally to another human being… soul mates….. it’s real! soul mates really do exist! and if you want him be yours, let him poke your heiny….but remember ladies –> he MUST lick it first! just hope he likes the taste of lube….;)

March 15, 2007 at 6:35 am
(41) analover says:

Anal sex may be enjoyable for most men but it may not be enjoyable for most women, at least initially. If the man insists on doing it, ask him to wear a condom, lubricate it and go in slowly. I am told there are more germs in the anus than elsewhere and so condom is a must to avoid infection. Lubrication is a must to avoid pain as well as internal injury which may or may not be repairable. Going in slow is also a must to avoid pain to woman and internal injury. All said and done, dont do it on a regular basis; it might end up with permanent damage to bowel movement of the woman. And if the woman does not like it or feels uncomfortable, dont do it at all if you really love her.

March 15, 2007 at 12:23 pm
(42) bob says:

My present girlfriend hesitated at first, but with a little “playing” in that area got turned on to it. Now we do anal sex almost all the time and she has earth shattering orgasms. She has just begun to involve me in those great pleasures.

March 28, 2007 at 11:06 am
(43) Kathleen says:

It’s fine not to be interested in anal sex. Heterosexual anal sex is nothing new–the hetaira did this in Greece and it was used by couples in the Middle Ages as well.

If you’re interested in anal sex, research the facts, use plenty of lubrication and go slowly at first. If you’re not interested in anal sex, don’t do it, regardless of stereotypial assumptions about “everyone does it”. Some people may enjoy it, but medically wise, anal fistulas, irritation, loosened bowel movements can all occur. You’re also more likely to expose yourself to STDs, especially HPV, which can cause colon cancer.

Do what’s comfortable to you–don’t be with a judgemental or demanding partner who can’t take no for an answer. Or better yet, if he keeps pressuring you for anal after you’ve said no, tell him OK–you’ve always been interested in using a strap on on his back door. A real open man is one who enjoys anal sex as both a top and a bottom.

April 6, 2007 at 11:03 am
(44) researcher says:

Thanks for starting this thread.
I’d love to see references for hetaira in Greece and couples in the Middle Ages–info too vague to do a search. I have not been able to find anthropolgic evidence of female anal sex. There is some new data which sugggests that many common lubricants (KY and astolglide) tested on vaginas are destructive to rectal tissue, so plenty of lube might be counter productive. Never use a spermicidal jelly, they definitely increase odds of infection. Most research has been done with men who have sex with men even though there are 10 times as many women having anal sex as MSM (because there are many more women than gay men).

April 20, 2007 at 6:00 am
(45) Internet Guy says:

This is to Mitch from December 31, 2006:

Your post sounded very heartfelt and sincere, have you tried telling your wife something similiar to what you wrote? You could also gather information from a woman’s point of view, and both of you read it together. If her concerns are based on lack of information, you may be able to alleviate them.

It can be sad to miss out on something you have always wanted to do, and I hope everyone gets a chance to do things that are important to them. If you and your wife have a heart to heart talk, being open, honest, and loving, whatever conclusion is reached will hopefully sit well with both of you, especially if you love eachother.

I hope that you both find a great solution!

April 20, 2007 at 6:49 am
(46) Nicky Blue Eyes says:

I’ve tried anal sex with a girlfriend at the age of 15. She didnt enjoy it because it hurt even with lube. My recent girlfriend sweares that it wont happed ever but I snuck a finger while having oral sex with her and she really enjoyed it. We normally have great sex, she says I pack more heat than any man she’s ever been with. She has always been afraid of things she’s never done but I think she’d like this experience if she only gave it a chance. Obviously I’d take it slow because its only her first time…after i warm it up with a finger ^.^ . My friends girlfriend highly recomends it and I can’t wait! For all the haters/haterettes I’m not trying to use this as a control factor, just something new to spice up our sex life. I’m 23 and she is 21…im way more experienced than she is so I’d like to try something new which she likes but doesnt have the guts to admit lol. Advice or suggestions are welcome!

April 20, 2007 at 6:52 am
(47) Nicky Blue Eyes says:

sorry for double post! All I know is after i performed great oral sex and gave her a poke or ten she told me her body felt numb. Ive never heard that before + her screaming orgasims showed me her shyness cant hide her anal interests :-)

April 20, 2007 at 7:10 am
(48) Nicky Blue Eyes says:

Also on one occation I made her squirt while she was on top (Though i tend to do all the work while she is on top). It was like a waterfall which not every woman can do. Ive tried it with my fingers like Ive seen on porn but I havent been able to duplicate it. When my hand is in i feel a webbed bit of flesh and a large ball up north In primary G-Spot location! She is stimulated by both but which is the G-spot? I’d like to know where to focus so she reaches a rediculous orgasm and squirts like Ol’Faithful lol

April 21, 2007 at 1:18 pm
(49) GIRL_19 says:

I’ve had anal sex with three different men. I enjoy it most of the time with my current partner but sometimes it hurts a little. We watch a some anal sex videos online to get me going sometimes and he kisses my neck and gets me all turned on before he can slide inside me. He has to be lubricated otherwise he has a hard time going in.

April 25, 2007 at 3:09 am
(50) An honest guy says:

I must say that more and more of my girlfriends are ask me for anal sex, some even expect it as part of our usual sexual routine.

Being a caring sort of bloke and having asked my girlfriends what their views on anal sex are I get two answers.

1. Depending on how the woman is built and her mood, anal sex hightens pleasure gives a more intense experience.

2. It’s a naughty girl fantasy / controll thing… or just fun to do something seen as kinky or diferent.

So at the end of the day as long as the two of you are honest about what you want and like and are caring it’s all good.

THOUGH I WILL SAY….

1.Guys be gentle, she must also be very relaxed and happy to play!
2.More lube the better….
3.Even more lube…
4.Did I mention lube?

Have fun yall… :-)

2.

April 27, 2007 at 11:48 pm
(51) Rose says:

Firstly, to #44, the thing that stood out of all the threads, was your bracketed comment about gay men. Let me put you straight…there are more hetrosexuals that perform anal sex than anyone else, because a man wishes or has anal sex does not make him gay, and not all gay men have anal sex. Comments like the one you made shows how homophobic people are.
Anal sex has been practised for centuries (as stated by others)it has often been used as a form of contraception.
There are many good books around on anal health & sex, which will tell you about hygiene etc. You should never go from anal to vaginal sex (the other way round is ok) use plenty of lube, take it real slow (also stated by others) you may have watched a porn movie with anal sex and seen how they just go at it…what you don’t see, is how long it has taken those people to get to that stage, and don’t forget, they do it for a living.. and another important thing not mentioned by anyone else, is trust and communication…they go along way in an anal encounter!
Also, it is still illegal in some countries. Many people enjoy (and so they should) anal sex.
Those who make comments like ‘oh it’s only for outgoing things, not in’ usually shows how you have been brought up to believe these things.
No-one should be or feel pressured into performing sexual acts that they do no want to participate in.
And to #7 thread…because a man desire’s anal sex with a partner does not mean that he is insecure, and only wants to dominate that partner….I’m wondering if you have had a bad experience in your past life to make you feel like this!
I would also suggest for those of you who may not be in a monogamous relationship, to practice safe sex by using a dam for oral sex, especially when rimming, use a condom when penetrating anywhere!
And my final comment would be to those of you who desire anal sex but currently have unwilling partners….all good things take time!!
To #48…I suggest you communicate with your partner about ‘where to go’ ask her where she likes it, get her to show you how….communication and sharing that is part of the enjoyment of it all.

May 8, 2007 at 10:05 pm
(52) sarah says:

I love anal sex, just thinking about it makes my panties wet

May 9, 2007 at 5:58 pm
(53) JM says:

anal sex is an incredible feeling. It was not until recently that I became involved with an incredible woman who I foresee marrying. Before i could even ask her interest levels, she stated that she thoroughly enjoys it; especially during her period. She told me I had to experience it. I have to tell you the feeling is absolutely amazing. She moaned so intensely from the pleasure being received. We plan on practicing it more often. I am HOOKED. Woman … you must try it. If you do not succeed the first or second time, do not say no. I hear so many woman say that they did not enjoy it at first. But then upon more experimentation, they cannot imagine their sex life without it now. Get aroused, use lots of lubrication, and go slowly. Once in and she is relaxed. The motion can begin. Have fun …. !!!!

May 11, 2007 at 6:26 pm
(54) Jilly says:

definitely only in monogamy…i don’t want to think that my partner would play with other E.Coli and then bring it back to our bed
my boyfriend always uses his finger first, this is like asking if it’s ‘OK’ at that time (like if I feel clean enough and confident enough) and lube applied several times while working the area to get it ready for bigger things!

trust, loyalty, cleanliness, patience, and LUBE LUBE LUBE!!

on average we include an anal session about twice a month (like on a weekend with lots of time to be patient and cleanup and such)

i was never sure how popular it is as i do not discuss with friends, but this boards seems to indicate that safe loving anal pleasures are a monogamous couple’s best kept secret!!

Jilly

May 13, 2007 at 2:36 am
(55) LauraS says:

My husband and I have been having anal sex for about three months now. We tried it after a friend told me she enjoyed it with her husband. I was a little surprised by this. I started thinking about it and asked my husband if he wated to try it. After four or five trys we suceeded. I had the most incredible orgasm I’ve ever felt. My husband said he never felt anything so intense as cumming in my butt.

Since that time we have anal sex almost every day. We can’t get enough. A lot of days I think about having him in my butt. When he gets home I jump him when he walks in the door just so I can have him in my butt. My husband loves it to. That’s good because I only want him in my butt now.

May 18, 2007 at 2:25 pm
(56) insop says:

my gf once asked me to do it ” you been dying for this for age havent you ” it was out of the blue
and i hadnt been thinking on it
but i must admit it was a fantastic night

but i would like the women tell us men how we should try to ask our partners
hoow to ask if they would like it

May 19, 2007 at 8:45 pm
(57) Mr A says:

Hello. I thought I would pop by and say – as a man – that some of these comments are very opinionated. Almost as if some of these women enjoy making men out to be the bad guy.

Never had an interest in anal myself, although I have used a finger with my girlfriend as the pressure on her anus helps achieve a greater orgasm.

I am proud to say I am not a selfish man and I never think of my own pleasure during sex. My concentration lies soley on my beloved and I don’t rest until she is satisfied. All the man haters in here are obviously dating the wrong people.

I apologise if it seems as though I am crabby. I just don’t like to see all men tarred with the same brush. I myself am very loving and I have feelings.
Please accept my apologies if I have broken the mood.

May 26, 2007 at 1:51 pm
(58) Alan says:

I ‘ve had many girlfriends that so loved getting oral sex with a finger in the butt. They had the most powerful, intense orgasms I’ve ever seen! Some of them really liked anal stimulation in general, and always wanted to take an enema first to clean out some. The enema was a huge turn on for them too. A few had special nozzles, like inflatables and dildo nozzles that were a huge turn on for them. As far as what is normal sex, Masters and Johnson put it best by saying that “abnormal sex is anything that can’t be done” (which is nothing).

June 9, 2007 at 4:16 pm
(59) zamir akhtar says:

I am married divorced and remarried person and personally feel that man like and always try for anal sex very few ladies love to enjoy. Ist point that lady should be willing for that
2ndly she should be happy and more hot before performaning sex.
3rdly her position should be properly and well direct for easy entery
4th lube of good quality be used
5th enter just head of cock and then take out many times then enter half and then slowly slowly enter full in deep to avoid pain and unpleasent. during this touch fingure on coilters
it will be better if lady sit on head of cock and take in side ass. just after opening by finure or head of cock then come in motion and enjoy properly hard ass and hips sequeeze man properly. so u can enjoy more perfectly and completly. but frequest enjoy of anal sex may destroy urs marriage life so keep it up in limited and some occassion for more and more enjoyment

June 10, 2007 at 5:38 pm
(60) David says:

My wife of 10 years and I had first tried anal sex after 2 years into our marriage. It happened in a very suprising and unexpected way. One night I teased her about her tight jeans and she said, “I know what you are thinking about.” We walked into the bedroom and without saying another word, she took my penis and began rubbing her anus. I pushed and before either of us knew it, we had both had orgasms. We have anal sex several times a month and are guilty-free about it. It is our lives and we enjoy it.

June 10, 2007 at 5:39 pm
(61) David says:

My wife and I have always had good communication. I tease her a lot because she has an incredibly sexy body, especially her beautiful butt. In jeans, she makes me super hot. Anyways, she enjoys getting her anus licked. One night we both came home early from a party and were in the mood for sex. She was wearing a thong and she took my penis and rubbed it against her anus. I got real hard. She continued to rub and just kept looking it my eyes, we were both silent, and I began to push in and it went inside her. First time for the both of us. She was breathing hard due to her reaching an orgasm. I continued to pound. We both reached our orgasms. She told me she secretly wanted to do this for some time but was embarrassed. I admitted to her that I too was embarrassed to bring it up. Now we have it regularly about 3 times a week. We have been married for almost 10 years. Anal sex can be very enjoyable with trust and honesty.

June 11, 2007 at 6:18 pm
(62) pat says:

right on David! same here … i could have gone through life without it, but now that it has been discovered, neither of us would want to give up this special thrill!!

June 19, 2007 at 2:18 pm
(63) LISA says:

I want to try to do this with my boyfriend but I don’t know how to bring it up. Last weekend when he was fingering me he put his finger in my bottom and I want more…It was great. So the question is how do I bring it up??

June 20, 2007 at 8:24 am
(64) Rachel says:

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Liz, don’t do it. Threatening to break up the family over ANY sexual act is on par with RAPE. Your husband is an unreasonable, horrible person if he’s trying to pressure you into it that severely. You can find better.

June 21, 2007 at 8:10 pm
(65) Katie says:

I think that anal sex is a great alternative for people in their teens (like myself) who are worried about pregnancy or who don’t think they are ready for intercourse. I haven’t expirianced it yet but I am seeing my boyfriend during July long weekend and I’m SO excited/apprensive about it. Especially after hearing so many “mixed reviews.” I am truly a child of research and am learning so much, these definetly seem to be the key things:
- The anus is very sensitve and has no natural lube, use plenty of water-based lube.
- *Water-Based* Lubricant is important as it won’t reduced the effecttiveness of a condom, which should definetly be used because of the bateria and because the anus is somewhat more likely to become infected with an STI.(HIV, etc.)
- The woman (or man) on the reciving end must be VERY relaxed, as this will make for an easier fit for.. well whatever is headed for your rear end. Lots of foreplay helps with relaxation.
Anywho, I hope I don’t sound like a complete idiot and that I helped someone out.
There’s my two cents.

June 25, 2007 at 7:54 pm
(66) Redda says:

I have had many experiences with Anal sex, I tried it in my marriage and it really didnt work out, it was very painful and i didnt like it. After my divorce I met a guy who was really into anal, I suggested i would like to try it again, He did it the right way, Ladies if you are worried about the potty on the penis issue, try giving yourself an Enema before hand, this will clean out the area and you wont have the worry of poo on the penis.
Yes lube is important, Yes you have to work your way up to it.
I have been with my partner for 5 yrs, he had never had anal sex, i suggested it to him and he doesn’t actually like it as much as vaginal but he does it to please me.
So you see there are men out there who arent pressuring their women to have it, Us girls like it just as much as guys do.
People need to realize we are creatures of pleasure and we look for that next step in achieving it.
i say partake in as many pleasures as you can, you only live once.

July 4, 2007 at 10:23 pm
(67) pat says:

Katie and Redda,

You two should get together and write a guide on this for adult females (and males too, I guess).

One has the questions, the other has the answers. And you both have the MOTIVATION!!!

sodomy in monogamy =)

July 6, 2007 at 11:12 pm
(68) sandy says:

My husband of 19 years is not interested in sex more than every few months – if I am lucky. I recently started having an affair with someone who asked if I would try anal sex. I am considering it….

July 17, 2007 at 12:02 am
(69) maybe says:

Even dogs are smart enough to know the right hole! Disgusting and I do not believe women enjoys it. Women who enjoys it simply wants to please the man in their lives period!

July 17, 2007 at 12:25 am
(70) Ketlene says:

I have been married to my husband for 20 years. I never knew that he likes anal sex until one day few months ago we were doing it doggy style and he tried to put it in there. I said ,honey, wrong hole and he replied” I want to put it in there” It was so painfull and I bled like I just lost my virginity.The problem is he tried to do it with out any lubricant. I think he didn’t think he needs it. The next day I went to the store and get some lubricant and do it again and it was good.Last week he tried to do it again but with out the lubricant, i couldn’t finish it cuz it was painful….believe it or not he can cum so quick while doing it the back door than the front door. Maybe because it’s really tight in the back door.

July 18, 2007 at 12:33 am
(71) Happy says:

Plenty of comments…All valid..except for number 22

July 19, 2007 at 12:03 am
(72) Arizona couple says:

My first time ever performing Anal sex with a woman was at age 22. I had always wanted to try it but was always to nervous to ask. My partner at the time had just tuned 18.We were young and very curious but we started off with vaginal sex. As things moved forward, She was the one who asked if I wanted to try this taboo act. I was very suprised and excited at the same time. I am pretty sure that we both had better orgasms from it. Some women in my life enjoyed it,some… not so much. I think the key is to respect your partners limits. If they arn’t into this don’t push the issue. No pun intended!

July 20, 2007 at 8:09 pm
(73) Craig Kois says:

I love anal sex, especially in between class breaks with my extra naughty students ;)

July 26, 2007 at 7:23 pm
(74) greg says:

2-ANAL SEX IS CREATED BY MAN AND IT DOES NOT EXIST IN NEITHER ANIMAL KINGDOM NOR PLANTS !
I suppose the all caps should have been a good indication, but this is simply not accurate. anal sex exists in *plenty* in the animal world, for one. sheep, monkeys, dogs, in both hetro and homosexual context.

two. plants?! PLANTS?!

July 28, 2007 at 3:19 pm
(75) LOVE IT!!!! says:

I love anal. I prefer it actually. I think everyone should try it. You don’t know what you’re missing.

July 28, 2007 at 8:35 pm
(76) Wanting it says:

I’m a 49 year old female and have never had the privelege. I’ve wanted to try it as long as I can remember. It looks like I may have an opportunity soon and I can hardly wait!!

July 31, 2007 at 9:17 pm
(77) C says:

Some good comments for both the pros and the cons.

I’ve recently started researching this topic because my boyfriend (who has experienced anal with two other partners previously) has been grappling with this issue.

I have a ton of gastrointestinal health issues including Irritable Bowel Syndrome, have needed a colonoscopy by age 25, and have been prone to UTIs (despite all precautions). Furthermore, I have never really been interested in anal. I can’t even watch it on porn because it makes me so uncomfortable!

We have a very active, adventurous, and frequent sex life, including plenty of oral for both of us. However, I don’t want to lick his anus, and I don’t want anal sex for myself. I would be perfectly fine never having my anus licked. He hasn’t expressed an interest in being poked, only in penetrating me.

He insists that he “thinks {I} would enjoy anal, and just don’t know it.” I’ve seen this posted by other guys on this thread.

But I’ve had my “salad tossed” once by previous partner when I was intoxicated, and I’ve had a finger inserted partially before. I did not take any pleasure from the insertion. And I did not enjoy being licked when I was sober.

I feel really pressured to give him this because he is unsure how to deal with his problem (he admits it’s his hangup, not mine). I’m worried that he will resent me or be unhappy that I don’t want anal. He says he has to “deal with the fact that {he’ll} never get anal again.”

I’m leaning towards sticking to my answer of “no” for penetrating me anally. I was a solid “no” on licking him, but I did read about DENTAL DAM. One health website recommends it to avoid contracting a STOMACH VIRUS.

Other helpful information and concerns to consider:
1. Many websites recommend Astrolglide in combination with Latex condoms.
2. Many health website insist using a condom for anal to avoid bacteria and disease.
3. If licking or putting your mouth on an anus, use Dental Dam or clear kitchen wrap to avoid contracting a stomach virus.
4. Anal sex can result in tearing of the rectal tissue and bleeding which leaves “open gates” for bacteria, viruses, infections, cystitis and STDs. It can also cause permanent damage to the rectum and colon, in the worst case.
5. The RECEIVER is the one AT RISK for damage. As the receiver, it’s YOUR health at stake.
6. Anal sex can also result in fistulas, irritation and loose bowel movements.
7. Finally, most medical websites say: IBS + Anal Sex = a REALLY BIG MESS

So if you are willing to risk it, and you take all the precautions and it’s something you want…great. Hopefully knowing some of the risks will help.

August 3, 2007 at 6:38 am
(78) James says:

You shouldn’t do anything you don’t want to do or be bullied into it.

As a open minded guy I have no interest in Anal but if others want to then fine.

Just be careful of injury and infection.

My girlfriend does not want it-so why should I force her?

And no I don’t want it done to me!

August 7, 2007 at 12:36 pm
(79) miss sunchine says:

omg how can u ppl love anal sex…my boifren is crazy bout it…its painful u ppl…..

August 8, 2007 at 5:34 pm
(80) Dr. BootyLove says:

I feel that maybe I’m gifted in a weird sort of way! I understand the “ins and outs” so to say, from all veiwpoints. I’ve been sexually active since 14 (and I’m not even 30 yet), and every since my first experience with anal sex I not only feel in love with it….but I’ve never had a problem making a women feel comfortable enough to enjoy anal sex. I like what I do and I do it well!
There were a few that would not let me anywhere near the bootyhole…, thats alright, we still had fun. There has been times where she let me, but I stopped because I saw it was hurting her too much.
You can’t be greedy when it comes to anal sex, “it takes 2 to make a thing go right”!!! I’ve have been several of ladies first anal experience, and most of them get can’t get enough of it!
Funny story, I had one of my ex-girlfriends friends call me wanting tips to help her enjoy it in her relationship!!
All I’m saying is, if it is approached the correct way from start to finish, almost anyone should enjoy it!

August 21, 2007 at 4:23 pm
(81) stuart says:

My wife and I tried it this weekend and in the 15 years of marriage, she has never had an orgasim like that. It did take time, slowly working the fingers in and out, that was so erotic, that it made me cum

August 22, 2007 at 6:59 am
(82) christie says:

My husband gives me an enema before doing it. You need to try it.

August 22, 2007 at 4:23 pm
(83) stuart says:

Christie,
Can you please tell me how he does it and what are the benefits. My wife was extremely tight and it took about 30 minutes before I was able to enter. I know that normally in the past when my wife has an orgasim, she gets really wet, but when we tried anal sex, she actually quirted a stream of juice, is this normal?

August 25, 2007 at 5:45 am
(84) kate says:

I am a 31 year old straight woman and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years. Before being with my boyfriend I had stimulated myself anally during masturbation, but felt embarrased to ask for this with a man. When my boyfriend began to touch me in this area it was extremely enjoyable and I find gentle anal sex gives me the most incredible orgasm if combined with clitoral stimulation, much better than vaginal sex by a million miles. That is my personal story, but each to his or her own taste. Just for the record, I have anal sex because I want to, not because my boyfriend coerces me into it – my desire is as strong as his. I find the view that women cannot enjoy anal sex of their own accord without the notion that a man has to suggest it unliberated and insulting.

September 6, 2007 at 3:09 am
(85) DEBBIE says:

Mitch, you can have anal sex with me anytime you want!

September 8, 2007 at 2:26 pm
(86) ollie says:

Its your ass, no one has the right to tell you what to do, if you want to try it do if you dont then dont simple as that. My personal experience is, I was introduced to it by wife, i was not keen, afraid of hurting her, not a chance she loves it ! and as hard as I can manage, ( plenty of lube). Those who say it’s not natural, neither is flying put we still do it.

September 19, 2007 at 4:25 pm
(87) g says:

I am a male who has had anal sex with a few ladies. Never have they not enjoyed it as much as I do. I personaly think a women enjoys anal sex in ways she cannot enjoy it with out it. I have had my ladies on there tummy with me in there ass and a vibe in theri vangina. Lots of kissing holding and really being close. This goes on for a while then she gets to the palce where she is wild and wants to be ramed hard and then it happens. She has an amzing climax. But it is not jsut a physical thing if a man knwows how to give a lady anal she feels really close to him and vice versa. It can be very romantic.

September 25, 2007 at 5:35 pm
(88) David says:

I’ve been married to my wife for 10 years. I’ve always fantasized about her gorgious butt. We tried anal soon after we were married, but couldn’t get it in (even with lube) and she said it hurt, so we didn’t try it again for a long time. A few months ago, we tried again and she figured out a better position to get it in. It felt fantastic for me, very tight, and very erotic being that I had fantasized about her butt for so long. I had to go very slow, because she was very tender. She wanted to do it again the next day, and about once or twice a month every since. Now she has improved to where she wants me to give it to her hard and fast. I get off in like 60 seconds this way. It is also great because we don’t use any birth control (due to various reasons) and so normally I can’t just get off inside of her, but I can with her butt!

September 28, 2007 at 4:00 pm
(89) louis says:

I started anal by myself ist to help dilate my anus and help with hemhorroids.Worked great. Then I liked bigger dildos for a bigger stretch. Not gay ,my wife doesn’t like anal and I’ve given up on her.Its not a power issue just something I enjoy.Our marriage suffers .Separated for a while now back together.Given up the toys but not turned on with normal sex.She is judgemental and not open to anything new.This issue is divisive for us.Best to fool around than hurt myself anymore. Had surgury before to remove foreign object.Its easy to get obsessed with anal desire.

September 29, 2007 at 10:23 pm
(90) Rachel says:

I’m a transgendered person, normally (and genetically) male, sometimes female. All my life, most of my sleeping dreams I’ve been in my male persona, but at least one third of the time I’ve been female in the dream. This has been WAY before puberty and there was no eroticism in the dreams.

However, by the time puberty hit, I had the hots for women(both aspects of me). Curious, I had to try anal masterbation to see what it would be like to have something inside me. It was wonderful!

Presently I am 44, married to a wonderful woman, we have pretty vanilla vaginal and oral sex as male(me) and female(her), and we enjoy it immensely. REALLY.

She knows all about my feminine side and is actually supportive and gives me clothing/appearance advice occasionally when I crossdress.

My feminine side also has it’s own sexuality which my wife knows ALL about, she’s not into that as a participant but that’s fine, we’re such a good match otherwise it’s nothing to quibble over.

Basically I satisfy myself femme-wise by anally masterbating wearing sexy clothes and listening to pretty music such as Enya(sp?)and I love it. It’s like treating oneself to a long hot bath or massage. It’s also akin to Goddess worship by enjoying ALL feminine aspects of myself including the sexual side.

My wife knows I do this and actually lets me do it whenever I feel the need. I would gladly share it with her but again, she’s just not into it. I don’t pressure to DO it, and she doesn’t pressure me not to.

So, I say all that crap about anal sex being non-natural or power-complexes by men over women, male insecurity, etc, is nonsense. There are always going to be some men who are jerks and want power and control over women, and unfortunately, the popculture and porno industry portray and support that section of men. I AM NOT ONE OF THEM!!!

Anal sex can be beatiful, intense, subtle, enjoyable, relaxing, energizing, etc. It’s also clealy NOT for everyone, neither is mint-chocolate chip icecream. I’m tired of those who denigrate it by being abusive practitioners and I’m tired of those who denigrate it by portraying it as something negetive. It is what it is and what you make of it.

I want to tell anyone who is curious to try it, well lubed, with a condom, know your partner, take your time and relax and enjoy it. If it’s not for you, you’ll know it, if it is, you’ll know it.

-Thanks, Rachel

October 2, 2007 at 12:37 am
(91) A Real Woman says:

I’ve read most of the post on here and 90% seem to be from Men. It is amazing how much Men are willing to lie to convince women to try anal sex.

Women do not prefer anal sex. Women are typically coersed into anal sex by their partner. A woman doesn’t normally have a prostate, our bodies are not made to enjoy anal sex. The anus actually tears, unlike the vagina which is made to stretch and endure drama. However, an abused women can be made enjoy anything. The self destructive behavior of low selfesteem can make a woman do anything for the adoration for a man; even eat his shit if he requests. That is too bad.

October 3, 2007 at 8:51 pm
(92) billy joe says:

testing

October 5, 2007 at 11:36 am
(93) andik5 says:

i’ve been with my husband for almost 20 yrs… we’ve gone through phases where we have lots of anal sex, little or none. most of the time i really enjoy it and have explosive orgasms- with the help of a vibrator or him rubbing my clit. the woman must be relaxed, the guy should go slowly and use tons of lubrication! these things cannot be stressed enough. unfortunately i do have IBS and sometimes just don’t feel comfortable with him “going there”. an enema wouldn’t always work in my case, but i’d still suggest doing one if you’re worried about a mess. if a mess occurs, let him clean it up… it just goes with the territory guys =P we’ve found that anal sex makes us feel so close, like we can do anything together. other than that i’ve felt i’ve had the control over HIM
not that he had it over me. but maybe its because i know how to *move* and make him crazy. enjoy honey! i love you
BIG.

October 6, 2007 at 1:59 pm
(94) glennk5 says:

in response to andik5, my beautiful wife of almost 20 years. anal sex was in the begining very one sided because although it felt great to me, we left her clitoris out of the game. BAD idea! we now know the “ins & outs” of anal sex & it is a wonderful part of our sex life. it is amazing how explosive her orgasms are with backdoor play & proper clitoral stimulation! for a long time this was the only way she would orgasm during intercourse. when she orgasms while i’m inside her butt it’s intense for her & the sqeezing involuntary contractions by her spincter muscles are OMG incredible. it’s of course important to use plenty of slipery lube ( we like “Wet” ) & make her very relaxed & ready. licking her clitoris & va-gay-jay & a gentle rim around her anus is a good start. gently inserting a finger into her bum while orally pleasing her clit is always a welcome start. from experience it is easiest penetrate her with my penis with gentle pressure from up above her anus & once my head meets her perininium it just slides in. then it’s a matter of repeating slowly in & out an inch @ a time until i’m all the way in her. after that it’s either off to the races or a slow steady build up… depends on her level of excitement. we feel so close when we “go” there. it’s like giving all of ourselves & being naughty! as for positions, give em all a try. for us, with my lovely wife on half on her stomach, with left leg bent up & out to the side is the best. i’m able to reach around & rub her clit with my fingers. once we “get” it she moves with me, pulling me in to the hilt & BAM, it’s amazing!!!! cumming in her butt is also a wonderful feeling!
we have been apart for months because of a relocation & will be together next weekend for good again. i can’t wait to reunite & have some great sex…. all kinds!!!!! i love you andi!

October 6, 2007 at 5:13 pm
(95) Scott says:

Well, I can actually speak form both sides of the coin. I am a hetero male, and I love to both give and receive anal.
I have never pressured my partners, it has nothing to do with control or insecurtiy, what kind of crap is that!
It requires trust, communication, and intimacy, and builds these into the relationship as well. Patience, gradually building form fingers and tongue, to small toys and up, allow one to relax and adjust. Lots and lots of lube, wehn you think you have enough, use more. Waterbased Slilquid Sassy is fantastic. Not only are the feelings of penetration, fullness and G or P spot stimulation out of this world, but it adds a new, and much deeper, dimension to the relationship.
In short: it’s not dirty, it’s not evil, it doesn’t hurt, if done properly, it can add spice to the relationship, and last but certainly not least, it will give you mind blowing orgasms.
In response to all you mindless dogma espousing, purtiannical sheep…get thee to a monastary, and keep your vacuous comments to yourself!

October 8, 2007 at 12:38 pm
(96) cen says:

I havent thought about Anal Sex b4 but I found my self full with curiousity & really want to try it!
My g/f had never had it before, she is also willing to try :D
I will try & tell u folks — I will have my beloved g/f post her opinion too :D
there is nothing bad about trying sth new –i will use all the advices of the guys above

cheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeers

October 9, 2007 at 2:34 pm
(97) Dhaturastar says:

This is now becoming an issue with my boyfriend and I. We’ve been together for about two years. Have tried it a couple of times (with lube and without), as soon as he starts penetrating, my muscles tense and it hurts so we’ve never gone ‘all the way’. The other night “it slipped” I tried to relax but the pain was horrible and it made me bleed. The weird thing is that when I watch anal sex it gets me really excited, I even fantasize about it. I think I would really enjoy it if it didn’t hurt so much. Why do some women experience more pain in this area than others? does it get easier the more you try? this is something i want to experience but without the pain. any other suggestions besides using more lube?

October 9, 2007 at 7:59 pm
(98) andik5 says:

dhaturastar~

what about a couple of drinks to relax you a bit before trying? the “keys” to pleasurable anal sex is relax, lube, relax, lube… be very excited! do you have a vibrator? use it while he SLOWLY PREPARES you, with a finger. in fact if you can climax once before he even goes there the better off for you. there is a product it’s called Anal Ease, it numbs you up a bit, you could get some and try it? i would say the reason some women have more pain/pain at all is because they aren’t prepared, they aren’t relaxed. you must not tense up. i have to tell myself over and over to RELAX, be “open”. and my husband and i have been doing it for yrs… it’s the same everytime, but you will learn to make yourself remember not to get tense.
it takes practice. but is so worth it! you could watch it and masterbate… get yourself more ready for him. that’s fun =D

best of luck to you!

~andik5

October 13, 2007 at 2:14 am
(99) liz says:

HELP – my boyfriend wants me to try anal sex, I am really frightened to try this, we get on really well and the sex is great but he keeps pushing me to try this. I am only tiny 5’2″ and an english size 6, he is over 6 foot, and huge in the willy department. Oh god, I feel like just calling it a day and sacking the whole relationship and walking away. I did it only once before with my first boyfriend and he told me he would stop if it hurt, he did’nt, and held me down until he had finished, and it really hurt. So I’m carrying a lot of fear from that first time. I haven’t told my boyfriend about this experience. please help before i walk away from this otherwise very perfect relationship. what do i do to stop it hurting?

October 13, 2007 at 7:59 pm
(100) andik5 says:

liz~

have you explained to the current boyfriend what the previous boyfriend did to you? he raped you. you have to tell him AND be able to completely TRUST him.

since this is such a “personal” subject,
anal sex i mean, i have to ask a personal question… do you have a therapist, have you dealt with the rape?

~andik5 (i am female 36 yrs old, have been raped/assulted too)

October 15, 2007 at 2:19 pm
(101) al says:

oh lawd. got that right andik5. have tried an anal. and yes it hurts like just after not during, sez my girlfriend. but maybe the next time, just like the vagina, it gets used to it, u knw what i mean? just lube it for xo and tell him be gentle lol.

October 15, 2007 at 8:22 pm
(102) M says:

I have to say, this has been so helpful to me! Prior to my current boyfriend I had tried anal sex two other times, and did not find enjoyment in it at all. When my current boyfriend wanted to do it I was less than enthusiastic, and uncompromisingly uninterested. He assured me I would be begging for it one day. (He was very lucky we didn’t break up that night!) Well what do you know, but since that fated night I have grown to enjoy our anal sex sessions. My orgasms are intense and longer than during traditional sex. Yet despite how much I have been enjoying it, it still felt dirty, and I found myself feeling guilty for enjoying it the next day. After reading the women’s comments about the enjoyment they have found in anal sex I feel I can let go of feeling “slutty” and “dirty” for really enjoying it. Thanks so much!

October 17, 2007 at 11:32 am
(103) al says:

hell yeah ur right ;p but one thing bothers me though. is it “dirty” enough to catch some diseases coz i aint wearin condoms. someone pls answer. and i hate buyin condoms. i have my reasons. and pls dont ask. lol. can someone help me with this one

October 19, 2007 at 12:34 am
(104) cen says:

following up comment #95, i have been trying anal sex with my gf for 6 times in the last 10 days!!! to be honest i have no special feeling about it except it was tight (as if she were graping my willy) my gf however thinks it was nothing special too it wasnt painful tho (thanks to the enormous tips above)!
we did it for 6 times to relax and get ourselves used to it (guys above said u gotta get used to it to be able to enjoy) but really i/we still find nothing special about it!
we turned to our classical sex which gives us skythundering orgasms ..
guess anal sex is not for us but it is for sure others main pleasure!
i think it has much to do with ppls psychology than their gentical desires

October 19, 2007 at 5:13 am
(105) FRANCOIS says:

I’ve read all the comments about anal sex, and i found some to be very helpful, and some not to be. i got to admit the fist time i did ask my wife to try it cause i wanted to know what it feels like at first she did not want to, i let it go the one day i don’t know if it’s because she could read it in face or from my gestures, she decided to give it a try we did , as Cen said it was tight but did not like it as much as i did the vagina she got a way of tighting her vagina that i would not trade for anal sex but every time we have sex she always wants me to do her anal i do it and take pleasure it it because i can see how much she enjoys it but if i had the choice i would not do it again because i feel like I am hurting her.( any comments anyone).

October 19, 2007 at 7:47 am
(106) woot says:

^^
why would u think that ur hurting her?

October 19, 2007 at 6:11 pm
(107) cen says:

comment105. why would u think that ur hurting her?
because he is hurting her! try to picture someone sticking a 1.25 inch pipe in to your butthole & visualize the feeling! (he should be kind enough to use lube and go slowly)

does it hurt buddy?

October 19, 2007 at 8:59 pm
(108) andik5 says:

al~

hell yes you can catch diseases by not using a condom during ANY type of sex. and anal has the highest risk, so get yourself some condoms. be smart. protect yourself and HER.

~andik5

October 19, 2007 at 11:49 pm
(109) FRANCOIS says:

Well my wife and I have the best conversation while we’re having sex normal or bareback. She always tells me what she likes, and sometimes even if she likes it if it does not feel good we try something different after reading last night’s comments she and I had a long talk and we’ve decided to keep doing it I’ve come to realize it’s not about my wants, but HERS and HERS alone, if it makes her happy that her hubby does that for her then I have fulfill her needs and mine which is first foremost to please HER :-)
PS: A HAPPY AND SATISFIED WIFE = A HAPPY HOME

October 20, 2007 at 4:47 pm
(110) cen says:

andik5~ FRANCOIS~

we do have plenty of nerve ending in the sphincter/rectum cavity (and perheps P/G spots in there) –not everybody know they can enjoy the stimulation of the area due to many reasons/restrictions i.e. cultur, religion or personal prejudices.
a receiver must train him/herself to focus on the area and enjoy.. gradually (quite fast actually) it becomes essential part of his/her sexual life!
people who do not train themselves wont really enjoy (with/without a partner)!! they might have never thought of that at all, sometimes!
many cultures has mentioned similar scinarios through history but there is no scientific proof.

quite surprisingly, my gf asked me tonite to give her anal after oral and not vaginal anymore!! i am shocked –but that is not a proof to my theory anyway!

any comments guys?

October 24, 2007 at 11:18 pm
(111) sara says:

HELP …. i dont really know how i feel about anal sex i DO get excited when i watch anal sex in porn ,and i am a little curious about it ,beside , it seems lots of people here enjoy it a lot , i dont want to miss the preasure, but i never tried real anal sex,,it just happened something when i was with my first boyfriend , when we were having sex, he kinda tried to insert a finger into my arse , it hurts like hell but i feel a little excited about it , i think i wanted more but i asked him to stop as i couldn’t stand the pain , now my current boyfirend, he always tells me he wants to try it , but ,, he ‘s not experienced either , he’s never tried before and he is big .. I am frightened but willing to try one day soon , so .. please give us any tips suggestions as both of me and my bf are new about this..

October 25, 2007 at 5:01 am
(112) Dugran says:

I am amazed by the closed mindness of lots of people here. Criticizing people for doing anal sex using the old “it is not natural” excuse is typical of bigot, religious people.

Anal sex is not natural? what has to do nature with men? do we follow nature like ants? aren’t we evolved creatures? do you know that in nature ill ones, criplled ones, weak and old ones are just left dying by other animals? this is NATURAL. So what? do you think we man should act the same?
should we change mate each new season like most animal do? is monogamy natural?
Please stop using the non-existen nature argument. We are Homo Sapiens Sapiens. We do what we want, not what nature tells us. Otherwise what would be the difference between us and baboons?

October 25, 2007 at 11:00 am
(113) FRENCOIS says:

Anal sex can be a perfectly safe activity as long as you take the necessary precautions. You should remember that your anus and rectum do not have their own natural lubrication nor the kind of elasticity the mouth and vagina enjoy. That is why anal sex must be practiced with care. There are three things that should always be used whenever anal penetration is taking place; lubrication, condoms TIME TIME TIME,and common sense. Liberal amounts of lubrication lubrication (LOTS OF IT) are necessary because the rectal wall can be quite sticky and is subject to tearing and lesions if not kept lubricated. (KY) In addition, the anus and rectum are narrow, so lubrication is needed to press inside smoothly. Condoms are another necessity. Enemas, douches and other cleaners will not be able to get all the germs and bacteria out of the rectum. Not only is anal sex facilitate the transmission of STDs better than any other form of sex, it can also cause urinary tract infections and other bacterial diseases. Latex protection is essential, and can offer additional slickness. Finally, use your common sense. The rectal wall curves and is thin so long, hard objects can tear your insides. Don’t wear any jewellery on your hands, and cut your fingernails if HE IS going to put he’s finger in your anus. Most importantly, he has to respect your body. Don’t push the limits and go only as far as you feel comfortable.
IF YOU WANT YOU AND YOU PARTNER MIGHT WANT TO SIT DOWN AND READ TOGETHER REMEMBER TAKE AS MUCH TIME TO READ AS IT WILL TAKE YOUR ANUS TO RELAX :-) .
I DO NOT RECOMEND BUYING TOYS FOR NOW BECAUSE IT TAKES AWAY FROM HIM KNOWING HOW IT FEELS GOING INSIDE YOU, AND ALSO TO UNDERSTAND AND FEEL THE PRESSURE OF YOU ANUS AROUND HIS PENIS SO WHEN YOU SAY STOP IT MEANS STOP. HAVE FUN (:-

October 28, 2007 at 2:32 am
(114) adriena says:

Omg, Anal sex was the best thing that heppened in my life! When My boyfriend asked me to have anal sex with him I immediately agreed and we did it with no lube! After an hour of intense anal I had such an explosive orgasm I almost knocked him off of me!

I love itttt!!!!!

October 28, 2007 at 7:08 pm
(115) Scared says:

I tried to have anal one time before but even with lube it hurt and we stopped (different b/f). I am young (28) and have a small amount of hemorrhoids. Is this going to make it hurt worse? Plus, when should you do the enema, like the morning of or an hour before? I’m scared it will hurt again but he really seems to want to do it. With his finger first he says. I’m not opposed, just scared. Kinda like the first time you have vaginal sex, it’s very nerve racking. HELP!

October 29, 2007 at 3:32 am
(116) Answer to (SCARED) says:

you sound like you 13 yrs old. One advice you are not ready to have sex and talk to your MOTHER.

October 30, 2007 at 10:27 pm
(117) andik5 says:

scared~

i think you should talk to your doctor before you have anal sex… it just sounds like a BAD IDEA if you have hemorrhoids. jmho

best wishes,

~andik5

October 31, 2007 at 2:58 pm
(118) aa123 says:

Im 20 and ive been with my gf for about 5 years now. we tried it once but it was too tight and it hurt her so since then we just stuck to vaginal/oral. She has not expressed desire although I would be down if the opportunity arose, however I do agree that it should be totally up to the girl. Having a sexual relationship doesnt just come with anal, so no one should expect their woman to just give it to them. I saw a comment above when a husband was threatening to leave the relationship if she didnt have anal. All i can say is get the hell out of that relationship because that isnt really love. As for all the people coming on here judging people who “sodomize” their willing partners, you are wasting your time. Some women like it, some dont. If they like it, have fun, if they don’t leave them alone. Just ask yourself this. Would you be down with HER sticking a strap on inside you?

November 1, 2007 at 7:40 am
(119) triquoise says:

my previous girlfriend introduced analsex to me when i was in college. i confess that i enjoy it so much. i’ve been married for 7 years now and my wife doesn’t even want to think about it. actually she turns paranoid whenever the subject surfaces! the desire grew stronger than ever & that elude me to cheating.. i cheated once & i continued cheating whenever i feel a strong desire for anal sex!!! now i don’t ask her for that anymore,,,, and i wounder does that make her any happier?

November 4, 2007 at 1:11 am
(120) Christine says:

It feel great the wet penis

November 7, 2007 at 11:11 am
(121) andik5 says:

Comment by triquoise — November 1, 2007 @ 7:40 am

i’d just like to say to YOU triquoise, that you’re extremely immature. i feel sorry for your wife and i hope she comes to her senses and finds someone who really LOVES and RESPECTS her, because YOU obviously DON’T. or maybe you could just GROW UP, remember your WEDDING VOWS and change your ways. treat her like the blessing she is.

November 8, 2007 at 8:51 pm
(122) HANDDOJO says:

(ANSWER TO TRIQUOISE COMMENT 118).

I HAD A DOG , A CHOW MIXED WITH GERMAN SHEPARD HE DIED 8 MONTHS AGO I STILL HAVE HIS HOUSE HIS BOWL AND HIS TOYS. I WAS THINKING MAYBE YOU CAN COME OVER AND REPLACE HIM AS THE DOG THAT YOU ARE DON’T WORRY I’LL MAKE SURE YOU GET FIX BEFORE YOU MOVE IN YOU KNOW SNIP & CLIP SO YOU’LL REALLY BE LEAVING LIKE A DOG IN A DOG HOUSE BUT WITH NO BALLS.

November 19, 2007 at 1:11 am
(123) David says:

Hi all, as one that has lived with a full anal fetish since the age of 15 (now 30) I thought I’d throw in my 2 cents.

My first girlfriend of 6 years from the age of 14 introduced me to anal, which I quickly became obsessed with. She then proceeded to use my obsession with anal sex against me. Fights would typically end with “I let you do that to me, so you will obey.” Okay, maybe not “obey”, but that was the running theme. Looking back, I finally realised that I never once forced her – any time she said it hurt, we stopped. It was her own issues that I got caught up in (the story is obviously a lot longer than what I’ve written here). And boy, did I get caught. For over 10 years I couldn’t look at myself in the mirror – literally. I’m an attractive guy, yet I was completely disgusted with myself, and was completely sure that everyone else knew it too. It took me years to drag myself out of the depression (now 31) and lots of councelling.

Anyway, I’m digressing. To be honest, after living with it for so long, I’m not even completely sure what motivates it, even after lots of councelling (apart from the obvious physical niceties). I’m pretty sure it’s about wanting the woman to be completely open to me, but it’s more than that – my fetish/fantasy is that the woman enjoys it as much as I do, like it’s the ultimate pleasure. So yeah, it’s all kinda mixed up for me.

All that said, I’ve just had the very wonderful experience of introducing my current girlfriend to it for the first time, and I’m happy to say, she really likes it. I’m totally amazed. She says it’s a mix up of vulnerability and physical tingling all over.

Something else I’ve realised (that I should have started doing a long time ago). Guys, it’s okay to be nervous, just make sure you go even slower – she will know you’re nervous and get nervous herself (unless she’s the one instigating, I’m guessing..)

Thank you sincerely to all the open minded and supportive people that have posted on here. Wow, there really are some bigots out there…

Cheers, David.

December 2, 2007 at 10:39 pm
(124) holly says:

my first anal attempt was terrible i was drunk and sorta forced into it i didnt want to do it but didnt want to get in to a fight so just let him do it . it did not feel very good. then i started thinking about it for some reason even though i didnt enjoy it the last time. and about a month ago i let my new boyfriend do it an i just loved it it felt totally different in a great way and i crave it alot it was awesome i fully recommend trying it

December 11, 2007 at 9:51 pm
(125) Soran says:

The main reason these responses are so inconsistent is because women in general don’t really understand how to make anal intercourse really pleasurable. one often mistaken element is that not only should you use lube, but you need to be stretched as well (scissoring with two fingers particularly). I have experienced both unpleasurable anal as well as VERY pleasurable anal and the difference is obvious. One thing I’ve noticed however is as long as you are relaxed, it doesn’t matter how fast or slow you go. But generally once you’ve relaxed it in, its more pleasurable when its fast and hard. Unlike the vagina, the anus is VERY flexible.

I personally am new to sex in general, but I find anal to be incredibly comfortable; you just have to know what you’re doing.

December 18, 2007 at 5:13 pm
(126) Jean Genet says:

I don’t wish to sound like some vile womanizer, but the women I’ve been with have all loved *mutual* anal sex. My friends, all of whom are lesbians, love anal with their partners. I absolutely agree with the many people who’ve said tons of lubricant is essential, otherwise it’s a very selfish man causing a woman unnecessary pain. My girlfriends have had tremendous orgasms from anal sex, especially if their G-Spot is stimulated at the same time by a dildo or vibrator in the vagina. Being penetrated by a woman wearing a strap-on is nothing short of wonderful and is an essential experience. In my experience, women f***ed in the ass have far more powerful orgasms than even having a man go down on them. Giving a woman an extended anal tonguing and licking oftens relaxes her anal muscles. And that is profoundly erotic in and of itself.
The fact that anal sex of any kind (straight, gay, or with tongues, toys, or penises) doesn’t fall under the heading of traditional, bourgeois, reproductive sex is what many people to loathe if not at least feel uneasy about it. With plenty of lube (and love, of course), anal sex shouldn’t hurt at all (unless pain is something you are into.)

December 30, 2007 at 9:41 pm
(127) beau says:

I would like to say that once you try it like many women you will probably love it.I am a 30 year old man and have tried it with at least 4 women and the one girl that I tried it with was against it until one night I was giving her oral and she let me use my tongue on her tush and inserting my penis inside of her after doing it more and more and she would use her fingers in her vagina while I would be in her tush
the orgasms were AMAZING for both me and her we aren’t together anymore but once you try it you will probably love it as long as it’s slow at first I also would love to have a hot orgasm in her tush she loved it.

December 31, 2007 at 2:32 am
(128) slong says:

I am a 34 yr. old woman and it took my husband and I over 10 years to try it (even though I had fantasized about it much longer) – now that we have – it is amazing. We have been together for so long, I feel so comfortable and the erotic feeling it sends through my spine is indescribable! Tips: Make sure you’re relaxed (NOT TENSE), horny!, and some good old Vaseline does the trick. It feels spectacular and you’ll want more. Trust me! Have fun – that’s what sex is all about anyway!

January 1, 2008 at 12:56 pm
(129) Kelly says:

I love anal sex, it turns me on so much and it makes me cum so quickly. I tried it before with previous boyfriends and never really enjoyed it but now my current boyfriend and I have it all the time. I cant get enough. Relax and try it!!

January 5, 2008 at 2:05 am
(130) john says:

Continue having anal sex. You will soon start using diapers.
There is supposed to be a sphincter at the anal opening. When this is overstretched, whether through unnatural sex or manual dilation. it becomes permanently loose and you become incontinent of feces.
Unlike the vagina, the rectal muscles are not as resilient.
I still don’t understand why people will not appreciate and enjoy natural, complimentary anatomy of the female genitalia, but stick their…up the sewer. yuck!

January 5, 2008 at 11:38 pm
(131) Sarah says:

I have had anal before and enjoyed it but what concerns me is the health risk, much like the comment before me i am worried about my tush being permenently loose.

January 7, 2008 at 12:25 am
(132) Omar says:

Im a 21 year old guy.

Had plenty of girlfreinds and none of them ever have asked me to do them up the bum nor would i want to. I get all the thumbs up and A Starts without going down choclate avenue.

Ladies If you prefer anal sex over normal sex then then i guess you’ve never had a man that can hit your G-spot.

January 7, 2008 at 9:04 pm
(133) andik5 says:

in response to john who wrote the post #130…

are you a doctor? where did you get this
information from?

omar? try getting her G spot, her clit and being in the “chocolate avenue”. now
THAT’S one unforgetable earth shattering
orgasm for a woman!

January 7, 2008 at 9:34 pm
(134) Omar says:

andik5 i would … but then i think about what comes out of “choclate avenue” i just think ewww…. Maybe im a bit too hygenic eh?

January 10, 2008 at 4:10 pm
(135) John says:

My first wife and I started having anal sex ,when we were dating and thru out our marriage. I’m liked consumed with the idea of giving my present wife multiple orgasms,and then having Anal sex but my wife says I’m to wide for her and she’s afraid it going to hurt to bad but she does like me penetrating her with my finger and rubbing she clit while she is giving me head,(69).
There’s just something about kissing, and biting her cute little ass and licking her Anus , while she is giving me head!
I think she is as consumed about giving me head as I am having Anal sex with her. I need some help from the Ladys on how I might succeed, in giving her another way of having amazing orgasums !

January 15, 2008 at 11:38 am
(136) andik5 says:

omar… i guess this is just a subject that is “to each his/her own.” you shouldn’t be forced into doing anything you’re not comfortable. sorry if i seemed pushy.

other john who wants the ladies advice… maybe you should take your “blessing” of being wide and accept
your wife’s anus has a limit =P

January 17, 2008 at 5:04 am
(137) dinyo says:

You are all either fake, liberated people, or just damn crazy. either way, you have my respect

January 17, 2008 at 10:44 am
(138) honest guy says:

Ok I have read this list of responses, and I must say. First I am 31 years old and have managed to talk many women I have been with into trying anal. Notice I said talk them into it. Of 14 women I managed to get to do this only one woman actually asked me before I did her. We spent 1.5 years together and near the end of the relationship she asked me to and it was too painful for her it never came up again.

My first wife knew I wanted it and did so to please me quote “please me” of all the 14 women I have shared this with

NONE i say NONE enjoyed this in the manner that I did.

And before you say I just didn’t do it correctly, I research everything before I attempt it.

Lot of lube …. patience ….. slow start ….. setting the mood … you name it

None of it matters for the woman, if they tell you they enjoyed it then I am going to say 90% of the time they just really really love you and are just trying to make it good for you.

Because I can just about bet anything it did nothing for them at all

my 2 cents

FYI after I come to this realization I don’t ask a partner about it anymore

If it comes up fine …. if not …. it needs to be pleasurable on both sides …. this subject isn’t in every experience i have ever had

best of luck to you all

Neil

January 17, 2008 at 8:43 pm
(139) Erika says:

I just love the feeling of a rock hard penis moving in and out of my anus

January 17, 2008 at 8:46 pm
(140) Clint Aden Martin says:

gross, i hate anal sex. it’s just so disgusting. missionary style is all I need

January 24, 2008 at 1:28 am
(141) dangerousgame says:

I tried to have anal sex with my self last nite with the handle of the glass sqidgy in the shower… i lubed it up with sorbolene and worked it in , it felt good , i was just getting a hard on and than i felft a rumble in my bowel … before i knew it i had taken a crap in the shower cubicle and had a hell of a mess to clean up ,,,, i an not so sure i want this to happen to my wife in our bed when i finaaly convince her to try … any ideas on what went wrong??

January 25, 2008 at 4:12 pm
(142) andik5 says:

use an enema before hand. her too =)
nice and clean!

January 25, 2008 at 11:53 pm
(143) Old Codger says:

Well I Be, Ain’t never heard so much crap in all my days. You guys know good in well ain’t no lady wants no rod up the wahzoo! You young whippersnappers try anything to get your rocks off. In all my born days I ain’t never heard of such rediculus stuff. Butt plugs, anus grease, what the heck! Take it from Pa, If you look her straight in the face, I mean straight in the eyes, & be a real man. A real Husband, & give it to her the way a real man should, you want require none of these new fangled ideas of butt sex. Grow up, love your lady, honor & take care of her needs like a real man! If you young whippersnappers were half the man I was back in my day you want have to be a doin such things to please your woman. Sincerely, Old Codger

January 26, 2008 at 4:08 pm
(144) Dawn says:

I tried buttsecks with my ex for the first time. Now I am engaged and my fiance is demanding it, so that he won’t feel like my ex got something he can’t have. (By the way, we engage in frequent 2-way anal play…so it’s not like he’s asking for something that would be off limits for me to do to him, and that’s how it was with the ex…A selfish lover, but I loved him for some reason.) Still, I don’t think that’s fair, because I didn’t find full anal sex pleasurable when I tried it. I told my man that, and he retorts by saying that if we only do it once, that’s enough. I don’t want to feel forced or pressured into anal sex, and I tell him all the time he’ll be able to have buttsecks with me when I’m comfortable with it, but all of his pressuring makes me feel less and less comfortable. I don’t feel like this is creating a good foundation for a lasting marriage. It makes me feel like he is just looking forward to putting his penis in a hole no matter my wishes. Any thoughts on this situation?

January 26, 2008 at 4:38 pm
(145) andik5 says:

my advice is marriage counseling… we went for it before we got married so we’d have “issues” dealt with. that’s my
two cents!

best wishes =)

January 26, 2008 at 8:08 pm
(146) Jessie says:

I have to tell you that I am a woman in my early 40′s and have found anal sex to be very orgasmic. I have an awesome guy that makes me have multiple orgasms during anal sex without needing vaginal stimulation at all. This is a rareity but a very unbelievable sensation. If you haven’t tried it – what are you waiting for?
We both enjoy it thoroughly and no one is just doing it for the other. The satisfaction is very mutual.

January 26, 2008 at 9:05 pm
(147) loved says:

“The real man is not the one who can love a million woman but who can love one women in million different ways.”

January 30, 2008 at 11:39 pm
(148) 1dancer says:

so I heard that sometimes women poop after anal.Is it true? How often does it happen.

January 30, 2008 at 11:51 pm
(149) Georgia Lawerence says:

I always take a big crap before I engage in analcourse, that way my hubbie always gets fecal matter on his member.

January 31, 2008 at 3:54 pm
(150) Mcraqur says:

I have a question regarding the timing of the enema. I love giving and receiving anal with my boyfriend (he does too). He was new to it … I wasn’t new to anal but it had been many years since I had a willing partner. Anyway, my question is what is the best timing for me to give myself an enema? The first time I tried it, I did so about 1-2 hours before we had anal. All seemed well at the time however, later that night and the next morning I still had the hershey squirts. Thank god I didn’t during the session! So, how far in advance do you hose out?

February 2, 2008 at 5:45 pm
(151) -nirvana says:

I think it was a couple months ago that my fiancee and I tried Anal. A past boyfriend and I attempted one time, but my fiancee now is a little smaller then my ex, and it didnt really hurt all that much. My fiancee used to joke around with me about fingering my butt, and did a couple times, but it always just felt uncomfortable. The first time we did it was during sex, we were doing it doggy style and he wanted to see what I would do, and pushed it in a little, I told him no, and a few minutes later I decided that we needed to do something new, and it really couldnt be all that bad, so I told him to make me cum again [I usually have multiple orgasms during sex, the most I've ever had was 40 in a 3 hr session] he did, and we used a lot of lube, and he went slow. We did it one more time, and then we havent done it since. I think it was one of those things that we just wanted to try, just to say we have, and if we liked it.. well, good for us, but neither one of us was that interested, I dont think. The first time I ever really got into anything anal was during oral when he accidentaly licked a little too far back and noticed that I gave a little moan/gasp

February 3, 2008 at 7:28 am
(152) John Doe says:

I just want to thank everyone that has been honest about anal sex. My girlfriend and I have been sexually active for almost a year…she’s actually my first and am hoping to be my one and only. A couple of weeks ago by accident while grabbing her ass during sex my finger went a bit too far and well since then it’s been the best sex we have ever had. I am so amazed by how much a little bit of the finger during penetration can affect the act. Anyways she was honest with me and has always had a fantasy of trying anal sex, I was trying to do some research to make sure that I got it right so that she was pleased and I didn’t do it wrong. So thanks for building my confidence with this and for everyone else that wants to bash this…I can only agree with you if a guy forces, but some women want it and unless you only use sex as an act for procreation like it’s done in “nature” then shut the hell up and stop judging people who are enjoying themselves for then you!

February 3, 2008 at 10:27 am
(153) John Doe_22 says:

Very interesting to read all of these comments. I’m a man in his mid forties. My wife and I have been married for 20 years. Great to find this post while doing some research. I’m intrigued by the idea of anal sex..mostly because of a similar situation to comment 152.

During foreplay time when rubbing my wife’s butt and the moving to caressing her clitoris, she moves in such a way that my hand will come up to her anus. This happens in multiple positions when I’m caressing her clitoris, to the point of some brief finger penetrations. She really expresses pleasure with this.

As open as we are about sex. I think neither of us ask the other about the anal sex because we somehow think it is taboo. Any ideas how to proceed? Communication is probably the best step on this one.

February 3, 2008 at 9:17 pm
(154) pflaume says:

the diaper argument is an urban myth and whoever said it should educate themselves on the topic before babbling some nonesense.
To anyone that has been curious about anal sex i highly recommend this book “The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women” by Tristan Taormino, theres also a porn / documentary film by the same woman with exactly the same title, however the book is better imho
Enjoy

February 5, 2008 at 11:20 pm
(155) seymur butts says:

i had an ex a few years ago and we tried ananl.it was awful,it hurt me so much my eyes watered and i felt i never wanted to do it again.
then a few years on i met a guy with a smaller ‘member’ we tried it. it was totaly pain free, but also pleasure free, we tried it a few more times and still no joy so i just told him it hurt too much and i didnt want to do it any more, he persistantly kept asking to do it over and over everytime we did doggy,until we broke up. now the guy im with. i was a bit worried to do it with at first, but we tried it , and oh my god its amazing , i think 90percent of the time its me that instigates it, as soon as i feel his member sliding up and down from my ass to my clit, i just want it there and then, and the very rare times that i dont want it and he instigates it , i just tell him, not tonight love, and he agrees, he puts no pressure on me at all………
so basically, it can be good or bad depending on the trust you have with your partner, the respect he has for you and how you at that time feel,
remmeber the first time you had sex, that hurt, that needed you to be relaxed and you needed trust etc, just treat it like that and youll have no orobs !! xxxxx

February 6, 2008 at 2:53 am
(156) Bruce paull says:

I have been out with a lot ao ladie’s and each time i have tried to have anal with them it’s been a no no i dont think i am that big at 26 cm erect and 17 cm in circ so all i can say is that most of the men have smaller penises than me and because of this fact it makes them feel good because it is tighter than the vigana so ladie’s practice your pc muscle to tighten up on and you partner all the best take care

February 9, 2008 at 5:05 pm
(157) Women Only?? says:

so how many men have had the pleasure? None of these posts mention men being penetrated, and I don’t mean gay sex. Dildo, strap-on? Some of you guys try it and then come back and talk about it – pain or not.

February 12, 2008 at 12:09 pm
(158) Jenae08 says:

Ah, anal sex is, I believe is something that really has to be approached with caution. Go in with the idea that the woman you are with has never had it. Even if she has, still with caution.

I have tried it…and it depends on the situation…how sexually stimulated I am. I find that slow going on all areas is best for doing anal. If every other part of my body is enjoying you, then so will…my anal part…

but slowly.

February 13, 2008 at 7:18 pm
(159) jennifer_21 says:

im 19, ive been very close to trying it but never had, i would like to see more comments posted about how people feel,. i dont think theres anything wrong with it,i guess im just scared to try.

February 18, 2008 at 9:45 am
(160) classy23 says:

To loved (147)…What a description of a
” REAL MAN ” !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

February 22, 2008 at 1:09 am
(161) another bob says:

Every part of a woman is sexy, but the mind is where you turn it loose. If you are adoring your woman and making her feel Sexy, a little anal foreplay, a finger then two, a little stretching,oral,verbal,touching,etc.is essential. Don’t ask if you won’t put your mouth there. Anal sex is nasty sex. If either isn’t willing don’t do it! I’ve never been married and lots of women like it and just as many won’t so don’t push the issue. Good sex is about respect while thrilling. Prudes aren’t gonna enjoy it mentally.I’ve had women that lubricrated anally, it’s white. This isn’t for everybody and is high risk sex, use good judgement. If you are both sexual, nasty beasts it’s a treat but it isn’t for everybody.

February 23, 2008 at 8:24 am
(162) magid says:

i think this against nature , becasue when we think about that we find that it is not good to do this magic and God given in aplace we are not in the sex time never want to see it or think about. More if we like that and make it natural some wrong will happen because it sex is not for only injoing it is only for growth and having child, Mainwhile most women are not have any organism when doing anal sex , so if aman love his wife or his grilfriend he must not do some thing that she noe like it

February 25, 2008 at 8:03 pm
(163) Dr Dan says:

Well, we were excited about the positive coments here about anal sex. We did it the other night, great for me I loved it. My wife however, does not want to do it again. She said I did it ok and did not hurt her. Butt, she finds the concept disgusting and doesnt like the feeling of needing to poop afterwards

March 1, 2008 at 7:03 pm
(164) asdat says:

Its stupidity, after reading above comments me also tried. nothing felt special. too much paining and spoiled 1 day good sex.wife also telling same. wasted some oil.

March 3, 2008 at 10:10 am
(165) Freda says:

Before anal sex I eat lots of mints. Being a lesbian I only go with girls. I get her to crouch over my face so that I can lick her arse, put 2 fingers up and pull it open. I then thrust mt tongue up and try to suck her out. Quite often it makes her want to push so that bits slide out into mouth. Since my mouth is so minty I cannot taste her turd and just spit it out.

March 3, 2008 at 2:55 pm
(166) Lilith says:

I’m amazed at all the lovers of anal sex here. The times I’ve tried it were painful and horribly uncomfortable and I’ve never had the desire to do it again. It will also lead to incontinence. My husband is a doctor and talks about how gays and porn stars have huge problems with incontinence due to anal sex.

March 4, 2008 at 1:37 pm
(167) claire says:

On special occasions I let my man do whatever he wants to me. Hwever he knows that a lady needs a lot of oral and warming up b4 a r hard f***ing anal. I’m sure my man lives for bum day sunday. I was introduced to anal when i was 17 but didnt begin to fall in love with it til 21+. I would say to all you guys your best chance of you getting it is if you suggest it as sumthin that turns you on then back off about it. Give it time for your lady to think it all through, comment her on having a sexy behind

March 4, 2008 at 1:46 pm
(168) Kate says:

Taken from a christian website (in response to questions of morality)

Are you saving yourself for your wedding night? The Devil wants you to fail, that’s why he puts stumbling blocks in your way. But God wants you to succeed, and that’s why he has given us an alternative to intercourse before marriage: anal sex. Through anal sex, you can satisfy your body’s needs, while you avoid the risk of unwanted pregnancy and still keep yourself pure for marriage.
“I thought the Bible said anal sex was a sin.”

This is a common misconception. Anal sex is confusing to many Christians because of the attention paid to the Bible’s condemnation of homosexual acts. However, it’s important to realize that these often quoted scriptures refer only to sexual acts between two men. Nowhere does the Bible forbid anal sex between a male and female.

In fact, many Biblical passages allude to the act of anal sex between men and women. Lamentations 2:10 describes how “The virgins of Jerusalem have bowed their heads to the ground,” indicating how a virginal maidens should position themselves to receive anal sex. Another suggestive scripture tells of a woman’s pride in her “valley” (referring to her buttocks and the cleft between them) and entices her lover to ejaculate against her backside: “How boastful you are about the valleys! O backsliding daughter who trusts in her treasures, {saying,} ‘ Who will come against me?’ (Jeremiah 49:4) And in the Song of Songs, the lover urges his mate to allow him to enter her from behind: “Draw me after you, let us make haste.” (Song of Solomon, 1:4)

March 4, 2008 at 1:53 pm
(169) kate says:

“Isn’t anal sex dirty?”

The Bible says, “To the pure, all things are pure.” (Titus 1:15) The Lord created your body, and no part of it is imperfect or unclean. God also created our bodies for pleasure, and anal sex is just one of the many ways, including standard sexual intercourse, that we can enjoy this pleasure and share it with a partner.

Although the anus is used for elimination, in reality it is not as dirty as you think, especially after a shower or bath. Elimination is also a natural process of our God-given bodies, so our conception of the anal area as dirty has more to do with our own psychological hang-ups. If the idea of direct contact with this area is still distasteful to you, the male can wear a condom as a barrier

“If you’re going to have anal sex, why not just have regular sex?”

This is a good question: If you’re going to have sexual contact before marriage, why not just go the whole nine yards and have regular sex? There are many good reasons for having anal sex instead. The first reason is practical: having conventional vaginal intercourse can lead to unwanted pregnancies. While it’s true that the Lord bade us to “be fruitful and multiply,” (Gen 1:22) the Bible also counsels that “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.” (Ecl. 3:1) Pregnancy outside of wedlock can have dire and life-altering consequences for all those involved. Having anal sex allows you to greatly reduce this risk.

Second, for a young woman who has never engaged in sexual intercourse, having anal sex allows her to preserve her virginity (i.e., maintain an intact hymen) until marriage. There is no greater gift that a bride can give than to offer her pure, unsullied maidenhead to her husband on their wedding night.

Finally, anal sex allows both partners to save the most intimate and powerful sexual act, that of face-to-face vaginal intercourse, for their mates in marriage. This type of sexual relationship represents the most powerful union between a man and a woman, and so it rightfully should be reserved for one’s life partner. Fortunately, you can engage in anal sex prior to marriage and still be able to share the deeper, more meaningful act of consecrated love through vaginal intercourse with your wedded spouse.

March 5, 2008 at 12:40 am
(170) Jennie says:

I used to have anal sex all the time with an ex boyfriend.. we both loved it and i think it feels great. I have been with a different guy for over 6 yrs now, and I really want him to give it a shot. We tried it once in the first year of our relationship and it was too tight for him, he was totally turned off, he actually cried… he says he feels like hes doing somethin wrong, and he just cant get over the fact that “thats where i poop from” lol. so we didnt try that again lol. He tells me he is interested in trying again… for me… so could anyone help me out with tips on how to get HIM ready? I am perfectly fine with anal.. i love it, and i like it rough. I know to use lots of lube but what position do you think would be most comfortable for him? me on top?

March 6, 2008 at 4:58 pm
(171) Chuck says:

Freda
E-Coli bacteria is present in the human intestinal tract. It serves various purposes there to maintain proper health and function of the entire digestive tract. Outside the digestive tract, E-Coli bacteria cause harmful infection. Oral-anal contact leaves you succeptable to a multitude of gastr-intestinal problems, anything from simple diarrhea to issues that may require you to be hospitalized. Intravenous antiobiotic administration is used to treat systematic infection.Oral-anal contact immediately followed by oral-vaginal contact, leaves your partner succeptable to urinary tract infection, kidney and bladder infection. I’ve treated many such cases in my practice, this is not something I read about in a book.I’m about the most uninhibited guy you will come accross, pleasure is the name of the game when it comes to interacting with my partner sexually. I’ve made it my business not to engage in any activity which may compromise my health or that of my partner. Know the facts, examine your priorities and proceed from there. All the best.

March 8, 2008 at 4:37 am
(172) dagmar says:

The only people who enjoy anal sex are men. Women only say they enjoy it because they think it will please their men.
I don’t know when straight men started expecting anal sex but if they are not willing to take a giant butt plug up the ass then they ain’t getting any from me. If they do take it then they are obviously gay.

March 10, 2008 at 3:30 pm
(173) aria berenbaum says:

most guys are intro’ed to anal via porn and have unrealistic expectations that women are going to love having their anus pounded. this is not the case, a minority of women actually enjoy anal. and with those that do, it takes significant stretching foreplay and tons of lube. women shouldn’t feel awkward about not enjoying it. and please, never allow a guy to pressure you into this–that never has positive results for the woman. in my experience male fascination this anal often stems from suppressed homoerotic desire. there is nothing wrong with this, but my advice to the guys is: don’t torture your girlfriend out of fear of facing your true desires.

March 12, 2008 at 12:03 am
(174) me says:

Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

Dear questioner, thanks a lot for your question and concern about your religion and Allah’s Legislation even in what concerns your sexual life with your wife.

Almighty Allah says in the Qur’an: “Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth (have sexual relations with your wives in any manner as long as it is in the vagina and not in the anus), when or how you will, and send (good deeds, or ask Allah to bestow upon you pious offspring) for your own selves beforehand. And fear Allah, and know that you are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give good tidings to the believers (O Muhammad).” (Al-Baqarah: 223)

In the foregoing verse the word harth (tilth) indicates that only vaginal sex is permissible in Islam, because it is from this place children are produced. The semen lodged in the womb from which offspring comes is likened to the seeds that are planted in the ground, bringing vegetation. Both of them are substances from which something else is produced.

All Muslim jurists agree that anal sex is haram (prohibited), based on the hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): “Do not have anal sex with women.” (Reported by Ahmad, At-Tirmidhi, An-Nasa’i, and Ibn Majah.)

Khuzaymah Ibn Thabit (may Allah be pleased with him) also reported that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Allah is not too shy to tell you the truth: Do not have sex with your wives in the anus.” (Reported by Ahmad, 5/213.)

Ibn `Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Allah will not look at a man who has anal sex with his wife.” (Reported by Ibn Abi Shaybah, 3/529, and At-Tirmidhi classified it as an authentic hadith, 1165)

Further, it is reported that the Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him) referred to such an act as “minor sodomy”. (Reported by Ahmad and An-Nasa’i)

However, it is allowed to caress the wife and stimulate her around the anus, without having sex in this area. It is reported that `Umar Ibn Al-Khattab (ay Allah be pleased with him) came one day to the Prophet and said, “O Messenger of Allah, I am ruined!” “What has ruined you?” asked the Prophet. He replied, “Last night I turned my wife over,” meaning that he had had vaginal intercourse with her from the back. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) did not say anything to him until the verse cited above was revealed. Then he told him, “[Make love with your wife] from the front or the back, but avoid the anus and intercourse during menstruation.” (Reported by Ahmad and At-Tirmidhi)

If one does have anal sex with his wife, he has committed a grave sin, which requires repentance. He should regret and feel contrite for committing such a sin. Allah Almighty destroyed a whole nation who were accustomed to this evil habit.

But, the wife is not considered divorced as many people think, because there is no evidence to support this view. However, scholars maintain that if a man habitually does this or insists on having anal sex with his wife, she has the right to ask for a divorce, because he is considered an evildoer who is causing harm by his action, and also because the purpose of marriage cannot be achieved through this action.

The wife has to resist this evil action and refuse to respond to her husband’s desire to have anal sex. She should remind him of Allah as well as the punishment of those who transgress the Bounds set by Him, Most High

March 12, 2008 at 5:11 pm
(175) analsexlover says:

1st off, Muslims never shut up. 2nd off stop imposing your will on the world. 3rd Stop blowing up Jews, its not cool. 4th Stop blowing up people who disagree with you. 5th If you in America, your not welcome, please leave.

March 13, 2008 at 8:39 am
(176) Kev says:

‘Me’ – comment 174:
“All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.”

Please keep your religous comments to yourself – we are NOT all muslim and if you are truly seeking acceptance from the rest of the world you will not achieve this by thrusting your religous views upon the rest of us.

If you have a comment that is geared towards the topic at hand then please express it in context if you are able to think for yourself. ie in plain english.

“Allah Almighty destroyed a whole nation who were accustomed to this evil habit” – please advise how this is relevant to the topic being discussed? Are you aware of the topic being discussed?

March 14, 2008 at 1:34 pm
(177) Taylor says:

Comment 175 and 176 pretty much says it all. I agree with both of you.

March 15, 2008 at 10:31 pm
(178) No Comment says:

For the past 20 year, I have experienced anal sex with several girlfriends that had prior experiences and others that I introduced them to it.

And although almost all of them did enjoy having anal sex and had great orgazams; I must admit that all of them prefered veginal sex.

So I guess it is fair to say that women will consent to anal sex out of their desire to please their partner more then purely wanting it.

In other words, asking a woman if she likes anal sex is pretty much similar to asking her if she likes the taste of her man’s cum; It smells bad and most probably tastes bad, but they are willing to do it just to statisfy their partners desire.

March 16, 2008 at 1:00 pm
(179) Brandy says:

Just remember the three “-ations”; lubrication, relaxiation, and communication! It may seem a little weird at first, but, patience, pratice and explartation; you will become more familar with you body before you know it!

March 17, 2008 at 10:28 pm
(180) fanny says:

testing

March 17, 2008 at 10:48 pm
(181) fanny says:

When my husband asked me for anal about 2 years ago I was so relieved. I have always fantasized about it and for years have utilized intense anal stimulation for masturbating. But even after being with this wonderful man-and enjoying amazing sex–for over ten years, I was still too embarassed to ask for anal. It’s what I’ve always craved though and yes, I enjoy it immensely. And yes–YES!YES!–I have great orgasms from anal sex.
I’m sqeamish about cleanliness. We joke that I’m “fecal-phobic”. I only ask for anal when I’m feeling super fresh down there and if my husband asks for it and I don’t want it for whatever reason, we just go vaginally. He never pressures me.
I don’t believe anal is for every woman, though. If you can’t get turned on by the idea I don’t see how you’ll enjoy the act.
Don’t be pressured and don’t settle for a selfish partner who can’t respect your boundaries.

March 18, 2008 at 12:39 pm
(182) Judy says:

I always thought in times past anal sex was to
avoid pregnancy.

March 19, 2008 at 2:41 am
(183) coco says:

I Was married for many years and never asked for anal sex becaused i was embarressed that he would think there was something wrong with me… i didnt know other women liked anal sex… I now have this boyfriend who makes me feel so comfortable and free with my sexuality..i can have an orgasm with vag intercourse but it takes time but with anal sex i can have an orgasm in seconds…but outside my relationship it is still a secret u never know who understands and who looks at it as wrong and dirty.. its my little secret and i like it….

March 19, 2008 at 5:39 am
(184) Nigeria says:

Wow!itis amazing to hear this wonderful men and women commenting on this issue of Anal. i ve never tried it b4 becos my girl will not give me a chance even for once i ve this sentimental attachment to female butt(anus) i heard friends say is fantastic, i will love to try it with a woman who knows d need and who loves it. i ve great dick both in length and size, it would a dream come true if i deep my hard dick in d back door of a woman.

March 23, 2008 at 3:05 pm
(185) Atlanta Man says:

I am a male (41), from Atlanta.

I apprciate the women who are open about their preferences. Sex is an intimate action between 2 people. No one else has the right to tell them how they should feel or how wrong they are. Wake up, the dark ages are over.

Atlanta Man.

March 23, 2008 at 7:33 pm
(186) GH says:

I am a 27 year old male, and I have always fantasized about having anal sex with a woman. I tried but it never seems to go in, I’m not that big just a little more than average but I cant seem to fit it in and once i am close the girl would be in pain so I wouldnt continue. This is with using lube of course. Any advice? I’m so glad to hear that some ladies love it, the thought of seeing feces stick to my penis is scary though. Anyway please advise. :)

March 24, 2008 at 11:42 pm
(187) wayne mackril says:

To all the lovely ladies who have discovered the joys anal sex can bring,we{I} salute you!!{hehe}Seriously though,I,ve met some women who were turned off by it and some that couldn,t get enough{anal}Not “all”men are into it though as I found out during a “survey” at work once and proceeded to cop a bit of “flak” for my honesty…Should a guy come right out and ask if she likes anal when he first meets a girl??”Fozzy” from downunder!!Cheers…

March 27, 2008 at 9:41 am
(188) Mayzee says:

I have often fantasised aboutanal sex & was too embarassed to bring it up due to societial views not hygienic , must be only gay men who want to do ‘it’ etc
Now having been in a relationship with a lovely man where we are totally honest & open,anal sex was a natural progression for us.My partner had not done this before whereas I had but I had not expiereinced such intense pleasure & satisfaction.Clitoral stimulation & gentle (well lubed,& relaxed ) anal penetration is a match made in heaven. Sex between 2 consenting adults should be open,honest,caring & enjoyable.If it feels good to both of you.Do it!

March 29, 2008 at 9:13 pm
(189) Plain Jane says:

To all those who shared your knowledge and experiences, thank you for your openness… It helped more than you know. I can’t wait to put all that information to good use. OMG, it’s hard to believe but I’m actually looking forward to having anal sex! I will be sure and let my luck partner know he owes his good fortune all to you! LOL.

To the “OTHERS”, stop hating and damning! If this act is such an abomination, why are you on this site??? We all have our religious convictions and didn’t ask for yours. I don’t know anything about the qur’an but I’ve got a bible verse for you: JUDGE NOT, LEST YE BE JUDGED. And analsexlover, don’t be an a**(every pun intended)! Your are proof ignorance and hatred comes in many forms.

March 29, 2008 at 9:15 pm
(190) Plain Jane says:

WOW!

March 30, 2008 at 10:41 pm
(191) Domald says:

It can be very enjoyable.

Be gentle and careful though. With objects, make sure they don’t have sharp edges or can break, or can go all the way in (they can be hard to get out, some people have to go to the ER). With penises, use a condom for hygienic and health reasons (even if you’re monogamous).

Also, thanks to all you women. I’m glad to hear so many enjoy it too.

April 1, 2008 at 7:42 pm
(192) Nick says:

Anal sex power! my wife always ask me do it everytime. About 16year ago i ask her try do anal sex first time, she dislike it, so few month later she ask me try do it again, then using it……now she addict anal sex.

April 4, 2008 at 8:45 pm
(193) missing out me says:

Couple years ago by accident we my husband and I tried anal sex. I did not enjoy it it was very painful,and he did not want anything to do with it. I saw it on the tape and think about it all the time an wants to try it again. My husband is the type that once he said now one time thats it. I however crave to try it, then one night he came home high and want to have sex, and naughty me put exactly where I want it to go…and I am totally hooked on it-unfortunately, I tried talking to him about it again and he still did not want to discuss it but I personally had a feelings that he enjoyed it, so every opportunity I get when he is high and put it where I want it…I cannot wait for the day to come when he will just accept it and go with the flow where I can experience the licking and then the sticking the whole shabang…ouch thining about it just turn me on… until then I do not pressure him, but feel bad that I do it the way I do, somehow though I know he knows because he is usually just high and never drunk – those ladie who husband wants to do it just give it a try if you dont like it then dont do it, but it is quite fustrating and hard when you want something and cannot get it from the one you love ,your sole partner if the person is weak willed they can have extra affairs which is worse than the pain you will feel from trying at least once….guys how can I get him to fest up to me and want to go all the way…help desperately awaiting a good but plub…..

April 6, 2008 at 7:14 am
(194) Ladylove says:

I was married for 6 years and could never enjoy anal sex with my husband. I could not relax enough for a comfortable entry. He was always interested, I wanted to participate but it wasn’t enjoyable.
Since I have been in a serious relationship again, my boyfriend and I have been more experimental. He is very caring, sincere and will communicate with me about our sexual experience. I too am more open about it now. We have been ‘working’ up to anal sex and are able to enjoy it together after two months of foreplay. WE enjoy it. I don’t do it for him and he doesn’t do it for me. It’s something that takes a lot of relaxation, massaging, lubrication and ofcourse cleanliness. Try it if you’re comfortable. If you’re not then don’t.

April 6, 2008 at 11:27 am
(195) Happy Daze says:

Interesting topic

I was looking for the reason why I find the idea of “anal sex” with a woman so attractive; not necessarily penetration as such, but the act of using my tongue in a lovers’ anus to pleasure her. It has such a magnetic attraction! I could do it for hours…..

So: Is it a thing that woman gives in reciprocation of allowing her lover to derive pleasure from her, for himself?

Either way; man and woman are together to enjoy their reciprocated mutual sexual pleasures without condemnation, dogma, fear, guilt or force…

Happy Daze

April 11, 2008 at 4:23 pm
(196) jane says:

i love it it was great the way his dick went in and out of me was great

April 14, 2008 at 12:34 pm
(197) jessica says:

i love sucking cock i have had anal oral any kind and i am only 13

April 18, 2008 at 6:19 pm
(198) simon says:

I had a very full relationship with a girl I used to live with (we were not going out, we just happened to be sharing accommodation and ended up having sex quite often).

The first time that I slept with her it was apparent that she preferred being taken from behind, because her back was so sensitive (?). I always put a finger in her butt and she obviously liked that so on about the 3rd occasion we made love she was lying on her front and I just took a chance. I was very concerned that I might have got the wrong idea but she was keen.

So from then on we had anal sex as often as vaginal. I much preferred anal sex in the missionary position because it sort of felt so intimate: you can kiss and you can go very deep and you can touch each other. We never used any kind of contraception during anal sex (it wasn’t that kind of relationship), and often did not bother with any lube, but we did inhale poppers which sent her completely over the edge and made the whole experience almost surreal. We got as high as we could, me lying on top with her legs wrapped round me neck and I felt that I was as far inside her as it is possible for a man to go.

She also loved reverse cow girl for anal sex. And of course I loved sitting on her strap on. We also did a lot of other stuff.

The whole relationship was completely sexual. She was a bit older than me but she was wet 24 hours a day and she had a wonderful body (small breasts). She said that she came when I withdrew.

In short it was pretty good news and it makes any subsequent relationship seem a little bit inadequate.

April 18, 2008 at 6:27 pm
(199) simon says:

sorry about the last comment – will no doubt annoy a large number of people x

April 21, 2008 at 2:40 pm
(200) Angela says:

im a very horny 15 year old.
mmmm anal sex is soo kinky
hell yeah up the ass
treat me like a bitch mmm hmmm
blackheart2go@hotmail.com

April 21, 2008 at 11:15 pm
(201) Sara says:

I’ve always been more turned on by anal sex but only tried it for the first time with my fiance. At first it was a little painful but I knew it would get better so we kept trying. I enjoy it more than vaginal sex, and my orgasms are amazing and more pleasurable than vaginal. We do it every time we have sex now. Ladies if you don’t like it the first few times, keep trying, it’s so worth it!

April 28, 2008 at 8:44 pm
(202) Misty says:

I have to admit, the first time I experienced anal sex, it was horrible. I was frightened and it hurt worse than losing my virginity. I really thought I loved this guy so it was a first for me. Well, after the awkwardness wore off I enjoyed it. ALOT>>> Well that was 4 years ago and since then, well lets say I finally moved on and I suggested going anal to my fiance. He wasnt sure I was serious till I took the tip of his penis and started rubbing it on the opening to my anus. Lets just say he realized I wasnt kidding. We don’t do it alot this way, hes not some kind of freak in the bedroom. But Anal sex with someone you love is just like vaginal sex or letting a man lick between my thighs. Its erotic and sensational. Normally we spoon together to do anal sex for his fear of hurting me. Last week though, I think I broke him of it. In the midst of vaginal sex, I let it poke my butt. I was already extremely wet from going vaginally and it was on his penis. It only took a small amount of lube and before he knew it he was moaning…YES HIM> I love the feeling of letting loose and being a bit naughty. I can not wait till next weekend!

Just a tip though. For all the ladies who are scared. Its ok. Be scared, and if you dont want to let him come in the back door its ok. Its gotta be something that the both of you want to do. Anal sex can be very enjoyable for both of you. Its a feeling I cant describe and do it justice!!!

April 28, 2008 at 10:33 pm
(203) anal couple says:

my wife & i have been married for 11 yrs. and have anal sex as much as we have vaginal sex,fellas when you want some butt start off slow and use your tongue.start off with your penis in the crack of her ass, then very slowly put it in and let the lady control how fast and far you go u will be surprised on how much the both of you enjoy the experience.ps- its great birth control

April 30, 2008 at 11:43 am
(204) denise says:

is there a cleaner way in have anal sex.

May 3, 2008 at 8:57 am
(205) Suneha says:

A relative forcibly did anal sex to me saying that i wont get pregnant. My husband has never done anal sex with me may be because he is very simple person and also in India people talk dirty about such things. In fact my relative’s wife has also never allowed him to do anal sex. Since i was worried i spoke with my house maid on this. She told me she also had been raped in ass by a military person. My relative has been lately insisting that i satisfy one of his friends who has not experienced anal sex. I am bit worried now. Could anyone advise on doing anal sex in group.

May 5, 2008 at 2:42 pm
(206) Bobbie says:

I have read many of the experiences and opinions listed above…and being that the experiences and opinions are much the same, the response is many. I am a 53 year old woman who has been divorced for 25 years. I have had many loving relationship during this time and a few flings. I have tried anal, but never completely penetrated. There was not enough pleasure to endure the discomfort associated with it. Yes, there was plenty of lube involved. Point being and this is going to be raw and unfiltered. As a woman I have experienced with my own body as well. I do not believe my body is designed extremely different than most females. I will admit, my true pleasures come from clitoral stimulation. If women would stop faking and lying about orgasms they say they achieve through vaginal penetration..to please a man, keep a man, compete with all the women looking to land a man…then maybe we could finally truthfully get real answers to these questions. Until then it is mostly bla bla bla coming from the women. Those women who will write and say I do not know what I am talking about, then let me be the first to congratulate you on your “one of a kind” body parts and nerve endings that defy most of the women that exist and why book are written by doctors to educate and encourage women not to feel guilty for not achieving “so called” vaginal orgasms. Ps..I am not spell checking.

May 6, 2008 at 11:56 pm
(207) Monique says:

I have tried anal sex and I didn’t enjoy. It was very painful I guess it my first time doing it. I tried it another time and I still didn’t enjoy it. I rather stick to oral and vaginal sex.

May 10, 2008 at 9:46 pm
(208) henry says:

as long as I have had sex I have never had nor desired anal sex I think its dirty and dangerous I am now 81 and still feel the same way I would never even mention it to my wife or any other women

May 13, 2008 at 8:38 pm
(209) linda says:

I am 41 and tried anal for the first time just a few weeks ago…it was the most incredible feeling….i didnt know how good it would be. The problem is after he came inside me the next couple of days i felt quite ill, loose bowels and wind pains etc. Is this normal? I want to do it again but am afraid of the after effects..

May 21, 2008 at 8:51 am
(210) nat says:

guys please I would really like to hear from real women about this kind of sex not men pretending to be women.

can’t we just make this blog usefull?

May 23, 2008 at 5:58 am
(211) cen says:

Reply to Comment #174, “Me”:
>
who the **** are u greating with that sentence?? do u think u r entering a mosque?
I am Muslim too but I hate the way sick ppl introduce islam to others!!
sorry but what u posted was spam!!

Comment #176 “analsexlover”, I feel u r another extremist from America!! America wasn’t built for analsexloverZ only! it is for all americans regardless of their religion.

don’t spoil this thread with politics .. plz focus of the subject!

May 23, 2008 at 5:35 pm
(212) tar says:

Oh I cherish the moment my boyfriend suggested the idea, I had never tried it and I never expected it would be that good! Still, we did it very slowly at first and with loads of lube too (it’s funny how i found out he had bought a lube bottle, just in case – he was totally planning to convince me)

My favourite way of doing it is being on top. I can control how fast and how deep it is, and it is more intimate (although sometimes is really cool to just go about it wildly, doggy style).

And really, he likes it so much i love doing it, not to mention it has given me such incredible orgasms…!

May 25, 2008 at 7:47 am
(213) online says:

good thanks

May 26, 2008 at 11:51 am
(214) william says:

I love anal, my gf said she *enjoys* it occasionally. We did anal almost every time we had sex. I am sure we did it in the best way possible. She developed little hemorrhoids, then later slight incontinence. Since last year we stopped anal completely. Now that she restored control over her sphincter muscle the hemorrhoids are still there!! as i said i love anal but i will never do sth that hurts her!!
some ppl would argue that doing anal the right way wouldn’t hurt! but man i wouldn’t shoot my self in the foot twice just to prove the opposite. It doesn’t worth the pain.
that’s my two cents.
luck!

May 27, 2008 at 10:18 pm
(215) Amy says:

My husband is my one and only sex partner. It was by accident early on in our marriage. I was 22, he was 25 that we had anal sex. I was on my side and he was thrusting away and I was very lubed and on the out thrust I moved and on the in thrust he went into my ass. Funny bit, he asks what hole am I in? It was good then but I was too lubed up. I am 37 now and I truly enjoy it, it is MY fetish. I don’t like too much lube just a little blob will do. Best position is leaning over the bed, another one is missionary where I can put my legs over his shoulders that way we can still kiss and bite each others neck. Sex gets better with age, and trust & love are wonderful. Try anal sex only with someone who you trust. I’m sad to see that so many people have had multiple partners that just does not agree with me. I’ll buy the toy shop out if anything happens to my lover/husband. Going on 18 years of marriage. Whoo Hoo. If you happen to be a little unclean just make a joke of the pooper smell and get in the shower and go for it.

June 11, 2008 at 4:20 am
(216) John says:

I haven’t read all of the posts so hopefully this is not redundant. I’m a hetro 46 year old male. I pretty sure my interest in anal sex was triggered by the Penthouse magazine “Forum” sex stories I used to read as a young teenager. I’ve have had anal sex with all my partners over the last 30 years. I think I like it (or the idea of it) because it’s a bit kinky and I like the idea of the women being naughty and/or submissive. I am most interested in it before it’s happened with my partner for the first time. It’s a thrill when you get let into to that forbidden, unchartered territory. For guys who don’t understand the interest in anal sex, a thought: think about how badly you would want your partner to give you a blow job if she never had, or refused to do so.

In reality I think anal sex on the “giving end” is a somewhat over-rated. First off it’s not really any tighter and it doesn’t feel all that different except that it’s less juicy. Second, it can be a bit of a come down when it’s over because sometimes you can be a bit “messy”. Don’t ever let on when this happens because she’ll be embarrassed. Finally, like vaginal sex, when it’s over the women can have issues with wet sounding gas that can be embarrassing for them if you hear it.

I’m quite large so women are often reluctant when I try to initiate anal sex for the first time. However, I have a very successful technique. First, to avoid any unpleasantries, make sure you do a deep investigative probe with your finger. It sounds gross, but much better to find out before hand that the passage is all clear. After she’s is loosened up, lubed, etc, get into the missionary position with her knees raised up (yes doing it from behind is more fun, but be patient). Position your self at the entrance, but do not attempt to penetrate. Tell her to push herself down on you whenever she is ready, and to do so at her own pace. Let her control the penetration and strokes until she is fully relaxed. This technique is about 10 times more successful than the man initiating penetration from behind.

When women put their finger in my butt it has almost always been uncomfortable. It’s probably because I’m too tense and the only lube was saliva. There was only one time in my life where it felt good, and I have to say it was really good. So I can understand how being on the receiving end can be great once you are in the “zone”.

By the way, since I’m over forty my doctor always gets on the rubber glove and checks my prostrate. He tells me to “bear down” or “push”. When I do this, it never hurts.

June 18, 2008 at 1:26 pm
(217) carly says:

from my experience, to make anal sex feel good you have to be positioned on your side while your man is playing with your clit. he has to start off really slow and work his way up to being rough. it really works try it.

June 23, 2008 at 6:11 pm
(218) Kelly says:

i like it !!!! i mean ive just got engaged but weve been together for 5and a half years and i simply enjoy it if a man knows to take i slow and understands that its an occasional thing its cool i am a young 20 yr old lady and i +
love anal sex!!!!

June 23, 2008 at 6:21 pm
(219) Dennis says:

I am a male and I prefer anal lovemaking to vaginal anytime It’s partially because I do enjoy the the dominant aspects, but also because of the tight squeeze.

One of the most IMPORTANT things I love about anal lovemaking is the intimacy it builds.

Any woman can give up her booty hole, but when a faithful and intelligent woman loves me with her bottom its mind blowing. Whenever I’m a womans first Its extremely special to me. Most woman have lost their vaginal virginity, but not all have lost their anal virginity. Anal lovemaking makes a woman and a man closer hands down.

I respect all woman and I would stand up for a womans rights with my life, but I must feel her love from her back door. its the best love their is, THE ABSOLUTE BEST!

June 26, 2008 at 12:39 pm
(220) Alex says:

My wife and I have tried it and I have had it with other women before my wife. She does not like it and now I find myself really wanting a woman that will let have anal intercourse with her… Not sure why, but I really enjoy it and would love to have an affair with a woman that is like minded…

June 27, 2008 at 5:49 am
(221) Lube tester says:

Anal sex between a man and a woman is illegal.Anal sex between men is legal. do you know what they call this……. Sods law…

June 30, 2008 at 4:11 pm
(222) Olive hizklosoff says:

Me, 63, she, 61. Married for 40. Been fingering her ass rimming her, and using buttplugs for many years. About 3 yrs ago, she said “You can put ‘it’ in if you want.” I did and she came like never before. I came inside her. Now, anal is part of almost every lovemaking session, always at her request

July 1, 2008 at 7:32 pm
(223) lovehimmadly says:

Ive been having anal sex with my husband for 7 years, I dont do it to please only him, and I never do it if I dont feel like it.We do it on occassion, and I have geat orgasms, I prefer vaginal sex most of the time, but I like to mix it up.Honestly my husband likes it because of my reaction to it, more than anything else, sure its tight and naughty, and he’s in control and all of that, but he loves to hear me moan and scream and loose control of inhibition in a great way.Honestly its the same for me when I give him oral sex, I love to do it for him, because Im in control, I have him by his most valuable body part in my mouth making him moan and yell and loose control and inhibition, and I see nothing wrong with that because we love and trust eachother deeply.

I find many of the comments about this to be interesting.To the guy that does it to his wife when he knows she doesnt like it, shame on you, you are taking advantage of the one person in this world whom you are the closest to.It doesnt matter if she is submissive, she still deserves your respect and empathy.

I would say to the Poster, if you want to try it, then theres nothing wrong with that and to go for it, if you dont want to then dont allow this guy your dating to pressure you.Doing something you dont want to do with a man in a new relationship is no way to start your divorced life.Also please use a CONDOM and lubrication if you decide to do it.If you dont like it then stop right then and their, and if he still trys to push you into it after he knows you didnt like it then get rid of him.

July 1, 2008 at 7:52 pm
(224) lovehimmadly says:

Bobby just because you dont enjoy vaginal orgasm or dont know what one is , doesnt mean we all dont.I have always had vaginal orgasms, along with clitoral stimulation and without, infact I find clitoral stimulation to tickle too much to the point of discomfort if there is too much stimulation.A great vaginal orgasm is when you feel the penis on the inside and the thrusting creates a grabbing sensation on the vaginal walls and your vagina starts to pull the penis harder and harder and then you orgasm much more intensly than you would from just clitoral orgasm .Also not all women fake liking things to please men, so dont assume that just because a women says she likes anal sex that it means shes “faking”.It sounds like you dont know very much about sex, and maybe you should do more research before you start trying to tell other people what they feel and what they dont during sex.Every womanes anatomy and sensitivity to penetration and touch is different.

July 2, 2008 at 5:59 am
(225) Californicator says:

I find it OH SO sexy when the girl squirts a minimum of 8 OZ (1 cup) of extra fudgy diarrhea all over the place at the time of climax. After this terrific mess is made, I ask her to eat / drink the remnants from my penis/torso/legs first, then to consume the remaining diarrhea from the rubber sheets. If I’m extra lucky, she’ll vomit profusely AFTER this ritual, giving us YET another bodily excrement to incorporate into our passionate mess. If I could find a way to work in some other wastes/fluids, such as blood, boogers, tears, and sputum, i’d be ON TOP of the world!

Try it folks, Try it! You WON’T ever want to have ?normal? sex again!

July 2, 2008 at 6:03 am
(226) Californicator says:

I’m sorry folks!! I just couldn’t resist the urge to make up that disgusting nonsense (previous post) !!!! the posts here are lacking something truly twisted…

Seriously Tho – If you’re in a loving, respectful relationship, there’s nothing more personal and invigorating than having a chick want to take it up the *ahem* and like it!

I’ve converted 5 girlfriends to Butt-Piratesses in my nearly 20 yrs of doin it.

enjoy yall

July 2, 2008 at 3:56 pm
(227) susie says:

My view abot anal sex.I was told by my doctor its not a healthly thing to do,your anal is where you pass your bowel it is can lead to std. I know its very uncomfortable an painful. I was force that way twice it was like if someone took a knife an cut me. I am sorry. I have seen patience who had anal sex through out their life a the hole it left its scary. if people like that so be it.

July 3, 2008 at 8:19 am
(228) ICI says:

Any sex can cause infection, however, anal is horrendous. To any man who goes with a woman cos his wife wont do this and who does not use contraception needs shot in the head instantly. But then again men who do this generally have their brains down there anyway. Just give a thought to your partners safety, if you cant have any for yourself, or respect for that matter. Nasty, nasty little bugs live up there and cause bad problems with the ph level of the vagina

July 3, 2008 at 1:04 pm
(229) DonnyE says:

I’m a soon to be 50 male and neither my wife or I enjoy anal. The orifice located a few millimeters to the North or South (depending on one’s perspective), works just fine for the two of us.:) I hope I’m not weird.

July 4, 2008 at 4:30 pm
(230) Andrew789 says:

Reply to comment # 205

Looks like you enjoyed the anal sex your relative forced on you. I will advise you not to agree to satisfy your relative’s friends desire, otherwise, before you would realize, there will be a line of his friends eager to stick in your ass and you will become famous ass giver which might ruin your married life.

Moreover, be careful whom you allow to penetrate from behind. Too forcrful and rough penetration my loosen up your musceles and you will always have poop leaking out in your underwears.

July 6, 2008 at 2:18 am
(231) Tom says:

Ok, the guy that said men that want anal sex are “insecure” is way off. I am a man that likes to have anal sex because DANG does it feel tight. Even if I am really liquored up and struggling to reach orgasm I can usually get there by anal for sure. God it’s really great feeling! Unfortunately my wife pretty much does it for me and does not get too much from it. Because of this I usually prefer not to have anal sex with her. It bothers me that she only does it because I want it. It’s an occasional thing…..sadly…

July 6, 2008 at 6:18 pm
(232) confused man says:

Hi guys,

I am new here, I am not going to debate whether anal sex is good or not. I am asking abt the technique, I mean, how do you have a CLEAN anal sex.
Well, it seems that I cant have a clean anal sex, unlike those performed in the hardcore DVDs. It seems that those pornstars have a certain technique on how to have a clean anal sex, I mean, the penis doesnt get creamed with filth unlike me.
Should a girl has a fasting period before anal sex? For how long before the sex itself? Is there any minimum time limit to crap before the sex? How do a girl clean her rectum? Just by using finger? Is a finger deep enough to cover the filth area? How do those pornstars do it?

Cheers,
Confused

July 7, 2008 at 6:54 pm
(233) rena says:

has anyone considered using a deadener and a good lube? i know tooth pain killer gel works great, the active ingrediant is 21% and won’t de-sensitize him if he has a good fitting condom on…and it’s only a buck at the dollar stores.
also, using the latex free condoms help as they go on tight(ish) and don’t get too baggy too fast.

anal can feel good, if you do it in a way that makes it enjoyable for all.
have fun,
rena

July 8, 2008 at 10:04 am
(234) stacey says:

I have only thing to add to this discussion. My partner of many years ago had a phase where he used to like to do it anally for a while, then ending up in my vagina. 10 years later, after having been mysteriously ill for some time, I ended up having emergency surgery to have one of my ovaries removed because it had rotted. My advice is, never let anything into your vagina which wouldn’t be good for you to have in your mouth.

July 8, 2008 at 11:49 pm
(235) oldmarriedlady says:

I’ve been with the same guy for 25 years and we’ve had anal sex from the beginning. 2 important things for girls to enjoy it: 1)You need a good lube, one that maybe is kinda thick and gooey for good coverage. 2) relax, have you guy stay still while you guide him in and take your time. A really great way is to have your guy lay on his back while you straddle him. Lube him up, alittle extra lube on your bum and guide him in. As you bump and grind, your sensitive area up front will get a nice work out too. Guys can play with those nipples for extra fun. Do remember that after anal sex, do not enter the vagina again and guys need to also wash up with soap after too to prevent any infections. Take it slow, lube well and practice!

July 9, 2008 at 5:16 am
(236) Heather says:

I first had anal sex in 1997 and loved it, I have anal sex about 3 times a week now and have the best orgasms I have ever known every time and prefer it to any other sex, you really have got to try it to find out if it’s for you,,,Heather

July 9, 2008 at 12:48 pm
(237) Chrissy says:

I personally hate it, Me and my husband have tried it and it hurts so bad for me, he never gets to go in the pressure is to much for me. I think one time he got a little in and it brought me to tears. He was lubricated and we was gentle but it just isnt something i am comfortable with. I guess if you arent comfortable then i wouldnt do it. the woman needs to be completely sure before hand.

July 10, 2008 at 4:49 am
(238) chris says:

hi eveery one
1- in many religions anal sex is prevented
Judaism’christianity,Islam consider it agreat sin
2-iam adoctor and i say that anal sex is very harmful it may lead to
anal incontinence
rectal fissure
rectal prolapse
Infection with HPV virus which may lead to rectal cancer
infection of penis wit E Choli which may lead to urethritis and cystitis
leakage of semen fram anal canal to blood leeading to formation of antibody against sperms and infertility
3-most of comments talked about pleasure ,orgasm
none af them talk about if they have children after that
so any one have anal tell us if he had children after that

July 10, 2008 at 4:49 am
(239) Superman29 says:

Well everyone, after reading all your comments, I can see there are many similarities and common differences. I see the typical “i love anal” and the “I’ll never do it” or “I tried it b/c hubby wanted to and it hurt, so I’m not going to do it again” or “I’m scared.” I’m a 29 year old young man who has been gradually more and more obsessed with the female ass and anal sex since I was about 15. One girl let me experiment a little in college and finger her ass and she wanted me to put it in a little, but I was so nervous it didnt go in. None of the girls I dated would let me into their behind complaining I was “too big”. With enough lube and patience, I’m sure it would have worked, but anyway. I finally tried it after marriage, and I can say that although we both liked it, I discovered that it is something that is more of a perversion than real satisfaction. Something drives you to it, whether it be pyschological or the devil himself, I don’t know…but it’s not just human desire for the tighter taboo back door. It does feel great, and the image alone of a big dick going into a girl’s tight sexy ass is enough to send me over the edge. But in all honesty, the vagina “feels” overall better – it’s wetter, smoother, easier to start the action, healthier, and most of the time, both parties usually don’t complain about it. Religiously, culturally, anal is wrong for some, but to each his own I say. Do what you will, and repent if you feel it’s wrong and try not to revert back to it. My opinion is if you want to do it, do it in moderation…like once in a while, not every day or every time you have sex…it’s a sensitive area. In the end, I’ve found that anal sex should not be something that is endulged in because it can become a perversion of the mind or heart which can tear apart relationships if the other partner doesn’t like it equally or enough to enjoy it. And this takes away from the love that the relationship was built on to begin with. To Everyone – happy lovin: vagina lovin, mouth suckin lickin lovin, finger lovin, or butt lovin…take care. peace.

July 14, 2008 at 11:28 pm
(240) Sooze says:

My husband and I have just started to experiment with anal play. I have never been that interested before, until my husband used a finger inside my *** while I was using a clit stimulator. the orgasm I had was like nothing else I had experienced, sooooooo intense.

Relax and enjoy, you’ll love it!

July 15, 2008 at 8:05 am
(241) Nabeel says:

hi
I am an Arab and Muslim and I like anal sex, we have in Islam may be religiously but I do not dismissed by sometimes but I do not find pleasure when I occasionally enjoy

July 15, 2008 at 8:25 pm
(242) ann says:

glass butt plugs…www.GlassToyBox.com

July 16, 2008 at 2:02 am
(243) mark f in boston, ma says:

my name is mark. i love anal. blah blah blah. i dated a girl who wouldnt let me play with her anoos. once when she fell asleep i lubed it up and slipped it in. is that wrong???

sincerely,
buttmaster in boston

July 16, 2008 at 12:28 pm
(244) grge says:

id love anal sex. im a guy yes, but my girlfriend seems to be strongly against it. i really want to find a way to persuade her to try it. any tips? arguments for?

thank you.

July 16, 2008 at 6:03 pm
(245) jane says:

im a muslim girl i know its not allowed in my religion butt i try it and i feel amazing i like it more than vaginal sex in front i dont feel aroused but w/anal sex i feel so horny and i dont want to take it out there i want it inside me 24/7 wow its lot of pleasure try it girls

July 16, 2008 at 7:54 pm
(246) Brando Bumlover says:

I want my bf to do me in the bum but i feel like he may be turned off if i make poopy on his dinky….do men mind if there is a “poop ring” after???

July 18, 2008 at 2:14 pm
(247) jane says:

girl never come out the poop if you was it w/a strong pipe put strong water to your anus then push it to relise do it again and again till its only clean water go out then injoy the sex darling

July 19, 2008 at 2:09 am
(248) chriss says:

hi eveery one
1- in many religions anal sex is prevented
Judaism’christianity,Islam consider it agreat sin
2-iam adoctor and i say that anal sex is very harmful it may lead to
anal incontinence
rectal fissure
rectal prolapse
Infection with HPV virus which may lead to rectal cancer
infection of penis wit E Choli which may lead to urethritis and cystitis
leakage of semen fram anal canal to blood leeading to formation of antibody against sperms and infertility
3-most of comments talked about pleasure ,orgasm
none af them talk about if they have children after that
so any one have anal tell us if he had children after that

July 19, 2008 at 9:33 am
(249) James Amoun says:

Anal sex is a dirty game ,used for pleasure only.
Good families they do not do so.but many they do .is left for every body to do what he likes.

July 19, 2008 at 9:57 pm
(250) cindy says:

recently my boyfriend and i have been trying to do anal sex but it has hurt me every time so from reasing i learned we probably need more lube but also we experienced him fingering me in the butt to kinda warm me up… but everytime it feels like i just have to go to the bathroom? is this normal, or should i relax more, or will it get past that once he’s all the way in? please help!!!

July 20, 2008 at 5:48 pm
(251) katie says:

I asked my boyfriend to do me in the butt after watching a porno movie of many girls getting it like that up the butt and enjoying it. i know they are actresses and probly fakin, but i wanted to try cuz i was curious and kinky and it looked soo hott on video. so i took it the other day 4 the 1st time. he loved it cuz it was so tite. i loved it cuz it was so big and filled me up. when he gave me his cum up my butt it was totally awesome. glad i tried it. gonna do it like this once a week..at least! I luved havin his cock up my ass!! thats rite i agree i want it in there 24/7 too!

July 20, 2008 at 6:47 pm
(252) YouCanDo says:

Myself and friends that I know have practiced anal sex on our girlfriends or wives for many hears and have openly discussed it.

The fake doctor that posted and does not know how to type English, is also very clueless.

The anus and rectum can easily deal with a human sized penis, because it is not much bigger than the waste it eliminates every day. Anal sex can be easily done if the man starts slowly, uses plenty of lube (though for some women they can actually do it without lube), and uses finger or a butt plug to stretch the woman.

My friends have kids and they do anal sex all the time. Many couples have practiced anal sex for YEARS without problems. Frequent anal sex actually makes the anus and it
s muscles stronger. Like any Karate, Yoga, or Gymnast can tell you… Muscle can be both strong and flexible. A couple of studies were done where people that practiced anal sex often, with a human sized penis, were LESS likely to suffer incontinence as they got older. Anal sex conditions the muscles, while not practicing anal sex means less conditioned muscles, less control, and more likely to suffer incontinence at older ages.

Washing up before and after sex, is proper hygiene. It does not matter if you are doing vaginal or anal sex. If you wash up, you don’t usually have any problems. Also people that have sex with the same person for extended periods of time, get “used to the other person’s flora of bacteria” to a certain extent.

Many women also can achieve orgasm from anal sex because the vagina and rectum share a common wall, the penis in the rectum can place pressure on the cervix and fornix area (producing deep orgasm), certain angles can stimulate the G-spot, and the man or woman can play with their clitoris at the same time.

July 23, 2008 at 2:20 am
(253) lolly says:

anal sex is best worked at.i practised alone first,with toys and lube…now i am used to the sensation of penetration and can take my man without fear of any pain..just intense arousal.I am a real woman who enjoys anal.i have had the most intense orgasms through anal.plenty of lube though guys!!!!

July 23, 2008 at 11:07 am
(254) Gill says:

I perefer anal kissing than anal sex.
GILL

July 25, 2008 at 4:11 am
(255) sara says:

this guy i knew just rammed it in me and it hurt so badly.before this incident ive always wanted to try it now i dont. luckily it was just the tip..for 2weks i couldnt hold my you know what! i dont recommend this at all..

July 25, 2008 at 4:13 am
(256) sara says:

i only like a tongue in my ass after my bad experience!

July 26, 2008 at 7:51 am
(257) Ali says:

I consider that anal sex is the best over the other types of sex ,especially when i feel my penis moving inside my girlfriend ass ….Wooow it’s wonderfull and full of pleasure

July 28, 2008 at 4:16 pm
(258) C. unt says:

What’s wrong with an big Johnson in the brown eye? I’ve been told every women dreams about it but most are afraid to even let their man lick their balloon knot.

The grass is always browner on the other side of the Hershey highway.

July 28, 2008 at 7:49 pm
(259) cleanandsmooth says:

After two years of comments I did not see one that discusses high colonics as a pre-anal sex preparation. This provides the evacuation of fecal matter while stimulating the anus. This also provides a greater sense of control knowing that the “yuk” factor is eliminated or at least reduced dramatically. It also provides for more room in the rectum and colon. It should also be stated that after a colonic a probotic should be taken of introduced in the system to replace the good bacteria that has been eliminated.

Ladies, it also helps with those monthly constipation issues and relieves bloating.

Enjoy!

July 28, 2008 at 9:07 pm
(260) Bill says:

I love anal sex. I am a guy and find it very exciting to have a guys big member slide deep inside me. I like doing it with women but they usually are not into it as much as guys are. Guys are usually more willing and are easier to have sex with.

July 29, 2008 at 12:27 am
(261) ben says:

Anal sex feels really good to the guy because the ass hole is so tight onyour dick

July 29, 2008 at 7:09 am
(262) jane says:

im a woman but im really willing to have anal sex than vaginal sex anal sex is more powerfull and i feel really good

July 29, 2008 at 10:45 am
(263) Ryan says:

Hold on. So Anal Sex supposedly feels better, while Vaginal Sex is really known as sex, and can get you pregnant?

August 2, 2008 at 5:07 am
(264) john says:

Hey Sue Honey! Unless you are a dyke, you are probably a very deprived woman or a cold hearted bitch who likes a passive guy you can boss around. Go out and get a real man! Maybe then youll realize you not only like it, it keeps its shape unlike the other hole.

August 4, 2008 at 9:11 pm
(265) Ali Babbba says:

My husband when we first got together and got intimate started asking me about the back door.. It was WAY to out there for me! I didn’t have any desire at ALL for it.. Well as time went on.. we tried it a few times… each time i still didn’t like it.. Honestly i felt like i was pooping but the turd was going in and not out..LOL.. So we let it go a while.. later on we adventured into the land of sex toys.. Well one time while i was bent over doggie style and he i was stimulating my clitoris with a bullet on high.. he was doing my china and accidently slipped out.. well being all lubed up.. he went to stick it in again and accidently poked the wrong hole. WOW! Let’s just say i went thru the roof! It was the most AMAZING ORGASM I”VE EVER HAD!!!! Seriously!!! I fully recommend it to anyone! STimulate your clitoris.. use lube, bend over doggie style, before he starts putting his penis in get to the point where you are just about to “go nuts” trust me.. you’ll be begging him! Also while you use a bullet or clit stimulator on yourself at the same time stick a finger into your vagina at the same time.. I GUARANTEE you will be the one to cum first!!! Trust me guys get turned on SO much when we like it! SO he will probably just follow as soon as you do! I cannot tell you how much you will enjoy this. Try it!

August 5, 2008 at 8:23 am
(266) converted-A-lover says:

I am a girl and my girlfriend really enjoys anal pleasure. I found out she liked it a few months ago which kind of shocked me, but i slowly got used to the idea. She has a butt plug which she let me watch her use and the orgasm she had was magnificant. I have come round to the idea of anal sex on myself and we are gradually bringing anal stimulation into our sex life.

At first we used tongue (i love doing that to her), then fingers (we both love that) and i just yesterday bought my first butt plug! (vibrating plug…so excited, i can only imagine how amazing it is going to feel.

We have already spoke about using dildos (specially made ones that are slim of course). I have to say i am really looking forward to trying it. My girlfriend has been into it for many years and is aware of the ‘safety requirements’. She is also very gentle and i trust her completely.

I do play with my anus in preperation i guess, just to get used to the sensation and so i will be able to use the butt plug more comfortably and soon the dildo.

I don’t care about any religious beliefs about it or even moral. Both my girlfriend and i are the only two involved in it. We are both more the comfortable and excited about it.
So if you are gay or straight, as long as you do want to genuinely try it and trust your partner to be gentle, then there is no reason in the world not to.

The feeling from even the tip of the anus is enough to send you over the edge. So be patient, buy lube, relax and have fun. Spend a few romantic hours having foreplay to get you excited. Tease the anus and when you feel ready gently push one finger in (with lube) and wiggle it about. If you are not comfortable with you partner doing it for your first time i would advise doing it yourself until you feel good about it.

August 6, 2008 at 1:09 pm
(267) Ray says:

Anal sex is filthy and all u perverts know it.The penis was made for the vagina and vice versa. Stop trying to convince us that what u r doing is normal. It is sick and leads to all kinds of diseases.

August 6, 2008 at 6:43 pm
(268) julian. says:

I’ve done plenty of research on the topic of anal sex, and most people agree that enemas are too invasive for anal cavity cleansing. They recommend that one uses a douche or something to clean out the bottom ten inches of the colon, and nothing more. And anal sex does not make a man gay or straight. If you’re using a condom it shouldn’t spread disease. Use WATER BASED LUBE with a condom to prevent the latex from breaking down. Always always use a condom to prevent STI’s, even in committed relationships. And doctors that say anal sex is “bad” for you are clearly out of the loop. Anal sex is only bad for you if you do it wrong. Same goes for vaginal sex.

August 6, 2008 at 7:28 pm
(269) Ace says:

My wife and I have been married for 6 years(26yrs old), we tried anal sex early in our relationship and it okay but she was very sensitive. Now for about the last 2 years we have regular anal sex that brings both of us to incredible orgasm. The best two positions, for us, are missionary with the woman grinding nd thrusting up against the man while he keeps his pelvis in a firm position and perhaps only slightly moving/thrusting. Great for slow loving making very erotic.

The other position is doggy style using either a pillow between the womans legs or either partners hand to stimulate the clitoris. We have found this position is best for hard, fast and heavy sex. My wife has the biggest orgasm from this position and you can change it up by lifting up ur lady so that you are both kneeling and upright which leaves both partners hands a lot more free to “roam”.

Anal sex, if done right, is amazing!

August 7, 2008 at 5:39 am
(270) vicar and tart says:

wow! its sad that people marry for anal sex or sex only….if that’s the only reason to get ‘married’ then the world is really more screwed up than I thought….don’t intend to try it anytime soon for health reasons and marriage or not, my health is more important than seconds of pleasure. :)

August 7, 2008 at 1:35 pm
(271) trashy says:

me and fiancee together 6 years have great sex and i like to lay across her stomache and lick on the clit and finger her vagina while fingering her anus and shes has great orgasms i dont plan on pushing her into it or giving her altimatums. if shes not comfortable then i dont see how it would ever work. when i first played with her anus she was kinds wierded out and now when i eat her out i will finger her anus and she is on the clit immediately because she knows she is going to orgasm hard and that makes me happy. never try to force yourself in her anus or vagina for that matter its rape dumb asses and she wont trust you and definately not be comfortable with you sexually. dont cheat on your woman in end you will regret it i promise trying little things and different things is great and you will find each others limits and comfort zones. if you love each other then you have all the time to do this making each other uncomfortable doesnt make progress if you will and for the comment above married people have usually spent some amount of time together and are usually comfortable with each other and are doing what happily married people do get closer. im getting married and its not for sex. why are you even on this page are you looking for free porn again. shame on you. i would suggest taking time all around and keep things enjoyable. start small literally and get used to the idea. it may be something you enjoy or it may be something you hate but there is all kinds of knowledge above take what you can use but dont be pressured you wont enjoy it.

August 10, 2008 at 2:51 am
(272) Los says:

One learns to satisfy a woman vaginally through vaginal stimulation, an in,around, up, to the side and withdraw rhythm that is truly her frequency alone, via close and then direct stimulation of her G Spot ( as per Mr hotshot and his G spot comment) and then via the but where one can also provide a variety of stimulating strokes and also hit the G Spot from another angle. The Doctor is right – super care is necessary and the most important thing besides LUBE is that there are two sets of sphincters – one set at the opening of her anus and another set – the part that hurts – that do not relax as easily as do the outer sphincter muscles. It is this second set that once you and she get beyond, you will, as the girls commenting here have shared, you will reach an orgasm BEYOND!! It is great – my ex and I tried it she asked for it but we were 19 and 20 and dumb – I hurt her poor sweety. We never tried it again ever! My next girl expressed that she was very interested in anal sex -and we planned ahead for it — upon getting my huge strawberry shaped penis head lubed enough to enter, she literally physically shuddered and fell from a doggie position right to her face on the bed from such immediate and intense orgasms – every move I made regardless of how small a move – she exploded!! This revitalized my interest and enjoyment of adding anal sex to our repertoire of fun things to do in bed together. Two sets of sphincters and yes lots of H2O based lubricant.
I think ass sex is great but I also feel that the human body possesses an innate intuitive barometer as to how frequent a couple should “plow the road!” This way, one doesnt tear down the tissues within the person he loves.
Chaser48

August 10, 2008 at 10:58 pm
(273) tootie says:

chihuahuas are way better than women. Their anus’s are so much tighter!!! And dont use lube just shove that dry hard cock in there…make him scream!!!

August 11, 2008 at 2:35 pm
(274) mark2008 says:

My wife and I do have anal sex now and then. She really likes it when we can do it. It’s not often that she can do it as she gets nervous to easy and as soon as that happens it’s over. She tightens up and we both know it won’t happen. I have told her that we can forget about trying it again and she tells me to bite my tongue that we will try again. LOL I guess she likes it when we are successful.

August 12, 2008 at 2:39 pm
(275) Tee says:

I tried it years ago and it didn’t hurt but I didn’t get any sexual pleasure from it. It just felt like nothing really. From the comments below I assume he was doing it wrong!

August 13, 2008 at 3:35 am
(276) Jules says:

All men seem to want these days is anal. I’ve read all the posts here. There’s a lot of men pretending to be women, saying how great it is. (a couple pretending to be young girls, yeah right!)

I’ve had anal sex, I know what it’s like. You can’t fool a woman who knows. Indirect simulation is not as good as direct simulation.

So much is expected of us girls. We must be nice, look a certain way, remove all our body hair, constantly be tanned and attractive. Never age. NOW we have to have enemas before we can get any touch!!

I’ve had enough! I’ve had enough of fullfiling mens desires and not getting much back. I don’t want anal. I did it for them! But I’ve had better orgasms on my own. Sorry but it’s true. Oh yes, I can be a big faker just like the rest of us. We are all turning in to fakers to prove we are as good as the girls who preform in films. Real troupers! We want it, we can take anything! Even though we all know they are acting, it’s their flippin’ job!!

Men are sheep. You show them endless films of anal and they think it’s the holy bleedin’ grail!! Oh, to meet a man that doesn’t!! That gets the job done without me having to yawn and think of england while he stinks it up my arse.

I’m finished! I’m growing ALL my boby hair, chucking out my fake tan and never doing a damn thing that I don’t want to again.

Over and out!

August 14, 2008 at 3:40 pm
(277) Amfony says:

Woman definately love anal sex if the guy knows what he is doing. I tried in my earlier days and didn’t know what I was doing and neither of us got much out of it. Now more experienced I have had anal intercourse with my girlfriend that was very satisfying for both of us.

As for what is the motivation there? I definately love the female ass, but I think surely there is a significant psychological component to it with domination and what not. That’s the crux of the pleasure of it and if you and your partner can get into that (knowing the differnce between fantasy and reality) it can be great fun.

August 14, 2008 at 3:45 pm
(278) Amfony says:

“I tried it years ago and it didn’t hurt but I didn’t get any sexual pleasure from it. It just felt like nothing really.”

Have your partner spank you and tell you what a filthy little slut you are for having a big cock shoved up your fat ass. And diddle your clit with your fingers or a small vibrator. You have to let your inner whore out.

August 15, 2008 at 5:24 am
(279) neo79 says:

I have been dating my girlfriend for 6 months now and we just recently tried anal and found out that she likes it more than vaginal sex I was astounded and very excited by this… use lots of lube and be easy until she gives you that green go light guys!!!

August 15, 2008 at 10:36 am
(280) L says:

You’re all a bunch of freaks. What’s next? Stick your penis into my ear hole please, I can’t feel anything through my butt anymore? Come on. This just begins to explain why humans will destroy themselves(ourselves).

August 15, 2008 at 10:38 am
(281) M says:

Hello everyone, after having anal sex, do you go back to having vaginal sex? Doesn’t it get boring? Vaginal sex is necessary for women’s health.

August 15, 2008 at 10:42 am
(282) Carla says:

Oh my God, Jules, you are so right! I’m a woman, a young woman, and having anal sex sucks! It’s like taking a dump but to your insides, come on! Let’s cut the crap now, huh? Thanks, Jules, for your comment, it’s absolutely true!

August 15, 2008 at 1:20 pm
(283) Amfony says:

Jules and Carla, what’s more likely: A)you do not enjoy anal sex so that means that all women do not enjoy it and that all women who claim to enjoy anal sex are faking it; or B)you do not enjoy anal sex so that means that some women do not enjoy anal sex.

Also Carla, as a “young woman” you haven’t figured it all out yet (sexually or otherwise). I like things sexually now that I didn’t care for in my early twenties (in my mid-30s now). So of course you like what you like but people and tastes change.

To M (message 282): of course it does not get boring. That’s like breasts becoming boring after you get to third base. :P From my experience it has been an “occasional” thing anyway. Certainly don’t go back to vaginal RIGHT AFTER anal though without bathing first. :)

August 15, 2008 at 7:33 pm
(284) Jay says:

My girlfriend Mycelia tried anal sex with me. She liked it because it didn’t turn out to be messy after all. I made her fart though, however there was no human waste whatsoever.

August 16, 2008 at 2:52 pm
(285) A Muslim's point of view says:

According to islam anal sex is prohibited. having it is a major crime in islma. and if the husband demands for it the wife has the full right to say no. there are many posts here which says that anal sex is great. but i feel most of them must be posted by guyz who want to get laid. I agree with jules and and carla. so i take it as women dont prefer anal sex. and islam prohibited it 1400 years ago. Islam doesnt opress the woman. Infact it safeguards her. You have to learn it to understand it. hope u ladies find the truth of islam and find peace in it.

August 16, 2008 at 4:49 pm
(286) bane says:

me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 10 months here, and we recently tried anal sex and i was really shocked. i did it for him because i knew he had always wanted to try it, and im very open to ‘new ideas’ :]. but honestly with a little clitoral stimulation, and of course as everyone keeps saying, LUBE; it is really enjoyable.

and what is up with all these peoples weird comments anyways?

August 17, 2008 at 6:28 am
(287) cute17 says:

The only thing I can say
Doit!Up the ASS is Heavenly ! DOIT ! AND DOIT! deep . . . hard n fast

August 18, 2008 at 1:27 pm
(288) Curious says:

I am very curious about trying anal with my husband – but I have hemmorrhoids. Will it make them worse or what?

August 18, 2008 at 4:40 pm
(289) bob says:

I told my wife once that I wanted to try it but she didn’t. I thought that was an end to it. Years later we both were drinking when she told me she wanted to try it. So we did. She enjoyed it while we were doing it, but the next day she said her butt hurt so bad she didn’t want to do it again. We used ky. I wonder if we didn’t use enough or maybe we should have used something different. I enjoyed the feel of it. For some strange reason it made me feel really intimate with her because she was letting me enter her in a place she normally wouldn’t. I would like to do it again, but I doubt it will ever happen.

August 19, 2008 at 12:34 pm
(290) Carisma says:

I’m 52 an was an anal virgin until 3 weeks ago. Now I’m addicted to it! My husband has been patient and has for many years touched the area with finger and penis whenever he could. It was when his tongue moved to the anus during oral that I went into ecstasy and we’ve never looked back. We’ve had anal once or twice a night ever since! Amazing.

August 19, 2008 at 4:23 pm
(291) gay says:

i am gay i love it when the cocoks stuck in there

August 20, 2008 at 1:22 am
(292) LC says:

At first I thought anal sex was bad and that is caused excrutiating pain. Not anymore. I tried it about 4 or 5 months ago and now I love every minute of it. I now make it a part of my sex life and do it everytime I have sex. I just make sure I have a lot of lube handy, because plenty is needed when having anal sex. I think every woman should try it at least once in their life.

August 20, 2008 at 3:06 pm
(293) henok says:

i want to try it but i feel it hur her if some body wants to advise me wellcome

August 21, 2008 at 5:36 am
(294) Stupid says:

OMG some of you guys are so dumb….don’t you think that some people like anal sex while others hate it………

Some women like it while others say its painful and doesn’t feel right.

I hate seeing comments like……….How can any women enjoy it?????

Or……..you guys r freaks

Anal sex has been done for CENTURIES and I agree not to force you loved one to do it……………..but please all you people who think sex is taboo to talk about in open and was raised to think that missionary position is the only way to have sex…STFU’

Your ignorance makes me sick…close minded retards

August 21, 2008 at 1:47 pm
(295) Please don't be so close minded people... says:

I never even considered anal sex a possibility until I got with my husband and he suggested trying it. I love exploring new things and want to please him sexually so I gave it a chance. The first time we tried it he was very sweet and tender but it was still uncomfortable for me. We kept trying and now we have anal sex a couple times a week and we both love it. My advice would be to try different positions, maybe watch porn with anal in it to become more aroused by the idea of it, use lots of lube and experiment with different types of lube and to buy anal toys. Also use a clitoral vibrator while he’s inside of you…it produces the strongest orgasms. If you try it a couple of times and still have no interest at all then stop. If you try it and can’t quite take it all but the idea still arouses you then keep trying. In order to do it you have to be comfortable with the idea and learn how to relax yourself and open up to him. Good luck.

August 22, 2008 at 3:55 pm
(296) annie says:

I am a 28 years old lady. I am scared about any kind of sex with my boyfriend. I do fantacise many times about sex with him, but when we try to do so, i could not perticipate actively. what should i do?

August 22, 2008 at 4:49 pm
(297) ds says:

I have great anal sex with my husband. I orgasm in waterfalls and sometimes he will stop and finger me and the orgasms so are so intense that we both get soaked. Don’t know why but he can make me squirt like no other. My best orgasms are anal with clitoral stimulation.

August 23, 2008 at 6:51 am
(298) rae says:

right on target #7

August 23, 2008 at 2:06 pm
(299) KinkyVixen says:

My partner and I have been together for 4 yrs (since i was 16) and have a very open, adventurous and kinky sex life. When we first tried anal it hurt so it wasnt brought up again. But after awhile I couldnt stop fantasising about it, and I would finger myself up my ass and use toys. We tried it awhile later and it was amazing, and ever since then our sex life has been mind blowing! We both love knowing that we can indulge in all our wildest fantasies with each other without feeling ashamed or dirty

August 23, 2008 at 7:21 pm
(300) luvanal says:

My bf and i BOTH find anal sex very pleasurable and exciting. We like to try new things, recently he got curious about why i love all things anal, and i was turned on about the idea as well! I licked and fingered him, and while i prefer being on the receiving end, I love the pleasure that it gives him! I would love 2 use a strap on with him n I know he is keen but im kinda nervous about it too! There’s nothing more fulfilling than feeling completely comfortable 2 share deepest darkest desires with partner

August 23, 2008 at 8:16 pm
(301) KinkyVixen says:

And 2 all the women on here who say that just coz they don’t enjoy anal sex that no women must, and that we r just pretending 2 please our man, don’t be so narrow minded!! We all r different, and while some women have no interest in anal, others find it very pleasurable and arousing! Just as we all like our icecream a different flavour, we all find different things sexually arousing!

August 25, 2008 at 5:02 am
(302) Gebelik doğum says:

Thanks for your article ;)

August 27, 2008 at 5:10 pm
(303) 73baby says:

This is an amazing post, and very facinating to read all of the different viewpoints from all of the different people around the world.

From my point of view as a woman, I absolutely love anal sex, whether it is with my boyfriend or while I am masturbating. I have extremely strong orgasms that are both extremely intense and uncontrollable. I have never experienced pain and feel like my sex life is well-rounded from including anal sex in my lovemaking and masturbation. My boyfriend had never experienced anal sex before we met, and said something on the drive home the other day that I thought was sweet. He told me that even though we do it for sexual pleasure, he feels connected to me because I trust him enough to do something that is very sacred and private between couples. I hadn’t thought about it in that context until he brought it up, but he’s right, it is about trust. I trust him to do something that has the potential to hurt me, but I know that because he cares about my pleasure first, he makes sure that I am enjoying myself so that he can relax and enjoy himself too. Maybe it’s weird to feel that anal sex is sweet, but I thought that him knowing it was important that our minds be connected was the biggest turn on of all.

August 28, 2008 at 1:45 am
(304) sabrina says:

I must say, I just saw this posting and thought I needed to say something. I started anal at 15 and ALL of my friends gave me crap about it no pun intended there! And it was great I enjoyed it and than 5 years later my same friends from highschool confesssed they love ANAL. I think if its done right than its is amazing!! I mean seriously it is based off of trust, as long as you use alot of lube and he slowly enters and listens to you and than once as he is in, go at it and stimulate the clit possibly with a “bullet” the most amazing orgasm you will ever have!

August 28, 2008 at 5:50 pm
(305) llcherry0306 says:

Im a newlywed and not to much after my honeymoon did me and my husband anal and I did not the after feeling at all, but it wasn’t that bad then I thought. I dont know what holds for the future but if I tried it once and guess I can try it again. lol

August 29, 2008 at 12:13 am
(306) be careful says:

i have been left infertile because my partner and i were not careful enough during anal play. he occasionally after fingering me anally would put it back in my vagina, this caused pelvic inflammatory disease which i nearly died from and my fallopian tubes had to be removed. so jst be aware that CLEAN anal sex is absolutely important. we now use latex gloves and condoms for any anal play, and never go from one to other

August 30, 2008 at 11:12 am
(307) bgoatsgirl says:

anal sex is amazing. not saying you would like and not saying you wouldnt. but if you want to try it start off by 69ing with your man and let him slide a finger in. you’ll warm up to it and learn that you love it. i was against it til i moved in with my fiance. he surprised me one night when he slid a finger in and its been one of the main things since then..its great….you should try it….maybe talk your man into letting you finger his “butt”…a lot of men like it. its like a g spot for men

September 2, 2008 at 11:54 am
(308) Ina's toy says:

My wife became addicted to anal sex recently.

Being the curious researcher that I am, I learned that the reason why she can orgasm this way lies in the anatomy of the female.

There is an area known as the posterior fornix or “cul de sac” located on the far back wall of the vagina behind the uterus. It is only accessible after a woman is sufficiently aroused (her uterus will tilt allowing access) and unfortunately usually only accessible by a 6″, or longer, penis. Fortunately, This area can be stimulated anally (whether the female is aroused or not). The thin wall separating the vagina and rectum allows for stimulation of the nerves of the posterior fornix.

My penis is 7″ so I have the added benefit of getting her off with fornix stimulation, both vaginally and anally, but for some reason she prefers anal.

September 5, 2008 at 8:10 pm
(309) abraham says:

it sounds like most comments are left by gay guy’s pretending to be women. although i like women who like getting it in the butt. who do you think your fooling?

September 7, 2008 at 7:50 am
(310) sav says:

A lot of comments here are so puritanical and so completely lacking in understanding about the scope of human sexuality. People are into a lot of different things sexually. That’s the way it’s always been. If both partners in a relationship are okay with it, then they shouldn’t be made to feel immoral or dirty.

September 7, 2008 at 9:57 am
(311) Nhlapo.MJ says:

this is an interesting issue.Anal sex is one my most high fantasy in my sexual life.i’ve tried it before with someone but due to the pain because i’m an African man with a huge penis that is more than seven inche long we stopped before i can ejaculate inside her.i like women who are curveceous and have big bum.it is private and sacred because you need to talk first before engaging in something like that.you need to communicate about sex not to make it a taboo.all i can say is it doesn’t have to be painful if u are gentle.

September 12, 2008 at 5:00 pm
(312) nappies or diapers says:

hi all, this is important. My wife loves it but it is limited to 3 or 4 times a year. The reason is if you do it all the time, as you get older your muscles are weakened/stretched and your poop just falls out by itself. TRUE. Be careful you could have to wear nappies or diapers as you yanks call them.

September 13, 2008 at 10:31 am
(313) very sick people says:

When men need more then a vagina they went for the ass. When the ass isnt enough they will look for multiple partners or just cheat on there women. Why has the main focus of life been put on sex. Is it just another drug, another way to cope with life. Courting a woman, romance, dancing with her, pulling out her chair, opening a door for her, telling her how much she is loved by you, writing a love letter with out sex talk telling her about her wonderful qualities…..Is too much focus on orgasm cheapening the life, love relationship with women. Are women nothing more then something to poke. Where has respect for women and ourselves gone. Are we just animals with no choice. Are we becoming shallow….life is only about sex? When life is near the end for each and every one of us…is sex all what life was supposed to be about or was it much more? Have we become animals. Is the purpose of Life supposed to be about Love? What is Love? Do animals Love or just hump because thats all the choice they have been given for there existence? Are we becoming like animals that have no focus on Love? Are we looking for some ultimate fullfillment? Are we looking in the wrong direction? Is Love all we need or is it sex is all we need. Whats our choice which separates us from only having animal instinct. Is Love primarily about intercourse? Is life about intercourse. Do we really want a deeper meaning for life. Will we be at peace. Will sex be enough???

September 13, 2008 at 3:33 pm
(314) Sammii says:

i dislike anal sex. i tried it last night for the first time, & never again.

September 14, 2008 at 1:26 pm
(315) rayna says:

OMG reading all this made me sick lol. first of all you men who want anal done on you…turn off ur porn , you watch to much of it. I bet majority of all of you watch porn 5 times a week. oh & you shouldnt even be around children, your all just horny all the time. its sick. calm down relax, you all want to much of everything, like animals. If doctors showed you a list of all the health effects of this, you would be in denial, if you caught stds, it wouldnt stop you either. thats why theres so many hirricanes in the world , your all going to hell, i doubt you care. also im not at all religous, im just not stupid, im not the type to justify my actions and making it seem ok to suit my desires. anyways animals take care , oh no man or women will ever be just satisfied with just anal , you will soon find urself wanting three-somes, & swingers, your desires will only grow, then when your in your graves (you cant deny that) you will look back & think about what you did with your life. a animal will being on a higher scale trust me

September 14, 2008 at 3:31 pm
(316) Amfony says:

To (314) very sick people:

Of course sex is not the most important thing in the world. Of course love is more important and it’s sad for anyone to think otherwise.

But this is a discussion of sex. If someone is discusing cars or politics it is not saying that cars or politics are more important then other things.

Romantic dinners and love letters and all of those things are nice too. Anal sex doesn’t stop you from any of these other things.

September 14, 2008 at 9:56 pm
(317) rayna says:

317- your missing the point, we know this forum is about anal sex however,you have to admit that we have become a society that is obsessed with anal sex, porn, three-somes , swingers. im not religous but it doesnt take a genious to know that the anal area was created for poop. i was reading posts above on how women would strap on a dildo & bang a guy. its becoming more & more nasty, worse then animals. He might as well be gay. Just because it feels good dosent mean do it. a lot of things that would take me to jail would feel good. we are so quick to follow orders of man made laws but we ignore gods. Then you wonder why we get hit by hurricanes and we lose our homes. I can easily laugh at these posts and ignore them, but i care. For all the women who say ” i like it”, i hope u like it when you have to wear a diaper, or when you catch a desease. TURN OFF UR PORN, this is how ppl start out gay , bi, or confused!, u get into one thing then that one thing doesnt turn you on, so you try something else, then that doesnt turn you on, so then you try the worst. never satisfied. its like when you tell 1 lie, you end telling 10 lies.

September 14, 2008 at 10:04 pm
(318) you are ver sick people says:

to # 317…What I said is about anal sex….its also about vaginal sex, sex in general, backward morals and values, also about no values, and about life, love, happinesss, and about choices, and going down the wrong road looking for the ultmate fullfillment. Its all questions designed for our minds to think and then listen to our heart to see if it really feels right for each one of us. Let any question posted by anyone cause us to think and help you in any way that its meant to help you. Always we must decide for ourselves but listen closly to your soft still inner voice it will be your guide to all that is right and true. The Truth which is Love will set us free and keep us on the right road….There is a wrong road……

September 14, 2008 at 10:31 pm
(319) Im a New Yorker - Yankee says:

To the southern floridian, Tennessein, Georgian, Redneck azz holes. MOOOOOOOOOOO = AssBangingYourCows–Shut the F k up.

September 15, 2008 at 5:38 am
(320) elmo10 says:

Its kind of Funny how all the Muslims, or pretend Muslims say that Anal sex is a forbidden charm in the Koran, adn if a woman says no then so shall it be? Yet Mohammed had sex with 8 year old boys, and how do you have sex with a boy, 8 years old?? And in Islam the woman has no right to file any greivince against her husband, no mater wat the issue. if they do, they are possibly stoned to death if the husband sees it right.

Muslims are the, besides the greeks No.1 butt pirates the world over. And it is not immoral to rape a boy up to the age 15 who is not related to the family. It is all in the Koran on behaviour and Mohamheds past. wh do people not kow this stuff when it is threatening to take over youre life’s?. By force neverless.
Mohamhed, the Child Molester, both Boys and girls, married when she was 9? is not a pervert, and a rapist, and raping boys is not a crime but enjoyfull for a scared kid?? Muslims, go to hell!!! If not by suicide by a 5.56 traveling 3000 fps up youre ass.
If you had the common decency to treat youre own women with respect and rights, then maybe we will listen to you. Untill then, shut up, or leave this country and world applaudingly, please before we have to shoot you all in the arse!!.

September 15, 2008 at 9:59 am
(321) s says:

Some of you ppl r so closed minded…why do u think ur so much better than us that u can judge what we do? In most cases, anal sex is not about being immoral or that we’re not satisfied and trying to find some other way to get our rocks off. It is about being intimate with ur partner and being able to share all of urself with the person u love. At least, it is that way with me and my husband. If ur comfortable sexually and emotionally with someone then what is the harm in exploring new things together

September 15, 2008 at 1:29 pm
(322) GuruBio says:

Well woman and men, the truth is (almost every) living creature find mates for reproduction purposes. That includes us, human. And for this reason the only way of doing it is via vaginal sex (in natural way). Other than that such as oral and anal sex is purely for so called “entertainment” purposes only. Orgasm was just added into the elements so that the pleasure will helps to encourage us into more reproduction, maintaining our species. So, the conclusion is for what reason do you need sex in the first place? If you have the answer then determine how you want to perform it.

September 15, 2008 at 5:00 pm
(323) mande says:

elmo10 can you plz give us proof in the quran where it states the prophet raped a 10 yr old boy? loool u should right novels, ur really good. stop dreaming about little boys u sick queer.dont be jelous that the muslim religon is about purity, about women waiting till marriage to have sex, they dont drink they dont eat pork, they clean our selves evertime when they pray 5 times a day, DO WHAT YOU WANT, YOU WANT YOUR GIRL TO STRAP ON A DILDO & BANG YOU FROM YOUR ANAUS, GO AHEAD, WHO CARES, BUT DONT MAKE UP LIES. KEEP UR FILTHY MENTALITY TO YOUR SELF. im not muslim but my brother converted, & my brother would never converted if he knew anything of the nasty rumors were true. AGAIN go do your homework , read the quran , THATS IF YOU KNOW HOW TO READ. anyways im outy i hope you all enojoy getting up your asses. bubyee

September 15, 2008 at 5:03 pm
(324) rayna says:

you i laugh when u idiots say theres no haram in exploring. Theres a limit to everything. As i was reading that men like it up the anal and the girlfriend uses a strap on, it so sick. let be real. you can achieve a orgasim the way god intended so why exceed limits. why do we women lower oursleves so this degree. DAMN

September 16, 2008 at 9:09 pm
(325) ajb says:

I first tried it when showering with my husband years ago. We were showering/playing. I was well lathered and bent over to pick up dropped soap. He was sliding his erect penis along m crack and it “slipped” into the wrong opening.I commented “you have it in the wrong place he stated to pull back and i stopped him and said to just slide in in carefully. I think he was shocked. But he did. I reached back and held his hi with one hand and massaged myself with the other. I tried to keep him from noticing I was taking are of my button. When I came, he exploded in me.
We have continued having anal ever since.
my husband isn’t large but good in bed. Some other guys who I had sex with in the past, I doubt if I would have allowed the acidental entr to continue due to size and lack of concern for me. but my gu is just right in both ways.
A few years later i got a “realistic” dildoe of six inches which is both longer and thicker than he. I as concerned about getting him to let me insert it into my vagina while he was in my bottom. he hesitated at first but went along with it. I enjoy having both spaces filled. Either he or I also massage my clit when both openins are filled. This part of our sex is done for me!!. He gets his special pleasures, too.
As an aside, I also have an 8 inch dildoe which i much thicker than the other one. I use that when alone in the sower and oly in my vagina.Its one I can straddle or bac onto on the shower wall. Those fill that opening. His tool does great in my bottom, mouth or hand. Of course he access to all of me whenever he wants. if you are curious try. It can take practice or as in my case . . one slip into the wrong opning planted a seed (more like a lot of seed) in me. I have loved it ever since.

September 17, 2008 at 3:42 pm
(326) jane says:

wow ajb sorry for me coz no available dildo here in middle east i wanna try it really coz whene my husband do it in my backdoor im just playing w/my clit i wish i could get one of that dildo thing

September 17, 2008 at 7:14 pm
(327) romario says:

elmo10 make sure please before you say any thing,,,

September 18, 2008 at 4:29 am
(328) dana says:

My husband and I engage in anal sex at least twice a week. Although a little painfull in the beginning, i really enjoy it. This is the only way I can reach an orgasm.

September 18, 2008 at 9:30 am
(329) candice says:

I enjoy sex. But I noticed my body as changed.

September 18, 2008 at 10:06 pm
(330) ajb says:

jane access to good dildos in the middle east is something I know nothing about. But. as i said, my husband is great in all ways. But, i like both openings filled and either he or I play with my clit (usually me).His dick is nice but doesn’t really fill my front (he can visit it any time he wants). that is why I want him to enjoy my backdoor, play with my clit, allow me to use my “small” dildo while he is in the back. It is great!! (His tongue is also great!!). When alone, I have a natural dildo that I can sit on or preferably attach to to my shower wall and back onto. I only do that when alone at home. I do not want my husband to feel inadequate . . . which he is not. I just like variety without seeing other men which I don’t (well not often).
Can’t you order a nice natural dildo from Doc Johnsons on the internet. High quality ones feel almost like the “real dick”. I love mine and they bith get used “hard”!! I’m nearly 60 years old and like all my openings filled by my husband, dildos, tongues, fingers . . . sometimes friends. Try to get what you need; artificial or by discreet friends.

September 18, 2008 at 11:20 pm
(331) ajb says:

Oh, Jane the dildo I use alone is an eight incher that is very thick. I’ve tried it in my bottom but like the six incher better there. Don’t overdo it in the back. Better to save it for smaller visitors. keep your vagina for your husband and if you get a good dildo (get a good natural one).Of course if you dohave other men of large size let them have access to the front and save one special place just forthe husband. At least that is my philosophy. Works for us!!

September 19, 2008 at 12:26 am
(332) heather says:

I was with only one man for over 25 years, and recently am involved with another. He introduced me to anal sex and I love it. He also introduced me to “poppers” found in the heterosexual community in Quebec – that is where he is from -and it certainly makes the sex easier. Poppers can be found in the gay community in Ontario

September 20, 2008 at 5:39 pm
(333) jane says:

thanks ajb for the impormation sorry anyway coz im not so good in english im from phillipines my husband marry me when im 16 and now im 30years old im not really happy in our relationship coz hes so unfair he dont let me to go out or to have friend if i need something he take me i dont have any friend but just recently i found friend but his so far im in middle east and his in newyork

September 20, 2008 at 5:41 pm
(334) jane says:

thanks ajb for the imprmation but i cant have dildo coz i dont have anyfriend here in middle east my husband not let me to go out or to have friend

September 20, 2008 at 5:45 pm
(335) jane says:

i really wanna buy dildo but i dont know how or where i dont have a visa card i just have a cash but i know that its not allowed in here so sorry for me

September 20, 2008 at 11:31 pm
(336) Anticipating says:

In response to comment 178: (and several others)

I wasn’t going to respond, but this one was the straw that broke the feminist’s back.

My experience with anal is limited and comes from a time (I was 15) when I didn’t know my own worth. I was ‘sodomized’ and hurt to the point of sobs as it happened and was pretty scarred by it.

Now, I am 28 years old, I KNOW my self worth, and I’m in a relationship with someone I truly adore. And I want him to pound my ass flat. I came on here today to do research, being an obsessively clean person, I was searching for horror stories. Instead I found a bunch of men and women trying to degrade me by saying that my desire of this new exploration with the man I love is only due to my subservient and spineless feminity. I couldn’t possibly be doing it because I am an adventurous, curious, and open woman. It’s because I am programmed to please my man.

There is POWER in pleasing your man. When I wrap my lips around his cock, I am in complete control of that man, and he knows it. And when I make him come (and swallow, because apparently I am brainwashed to believe that is my duty as the fairer sex and not because I like to show him who it belongs to!) I detest the taste and only do it because he tells me to, and that’s only after he decks me for burning the roast.

The moment I open myself to him to let him penetrate me bass-ackwards, I know that his greatest concern will be my comfort (and he has yet to make a move for fear of hurting me, he is rather well endowed). I won’t lie though, the thought of a clitoral vibrator and anal coersion, of my man losing his absolute mind with his fingers gripping my hips after being utterly careful to do it right, his skin against mine, his breath labored and excited…it has a moistening effect, ladies and gentlemen. That’s power…and it is mine. If we work, we will work it often, if not…he’s a stallion in any department, I don’t think it will cause too much trouble.

Anal may be taboo to some, but to those who don’t find it such, don’t try to force your anti female stance on them. If a woman wants her man to sacrifice his cock to the ass gods, and he is a willing victim…then step the hell off and let the lady through.

September 21, 2008 at 5:26 pm
(337) The Cookie says:

I’ve practice many different forms of sex with my partner as well. My partner even told me that during a session she had 5 orgasms with anal sex alone, while during another session only up to 4 with vaginal. I never thought that a person could get that many orgasms with just anal sex alone in one session. It is definitely great for me.

September 22, 2008 at 2:29 pm
(338) rhinocock says:

My thoughts on anal are simple:

What started off as something experimental with my wife (watching to many xxx movies) gave me a feeling of dominance over her (not to forget that it feels awesome). She would let me do it even though she didnt really get an orgasm from it.

Overtime and with some experimentation I finally found a way to make her want it. Once Im in and after everything relaxes she enjoys it, however, she has multiple orgasms when she puts the strap on clit stimulator on while I do her ass.

In our sexual exploration she also wanted to play with mine. A vibrator and a blow job rule. My best orgasm ever was the first time she did me with a strap-on.

Mutual Anal play is awesome. Incredible orgasms. At this point we have sex at least once a day. Mostly anal. Blow job without a vibrator boring.

September 22, 2008 at 4:01 pm
(339) Dreika says:

Wow, all of you on your “domination” hang ups have it totally wrong. Firt off, it isn’t always about domination…what is that? It doesn’t mean the man is insecure, or has issues with woman or wants to control women. Some people honestly enjoy the feeling of anal sex, so what? Why turn everything into a psychological issue? Secondly, even if there is domination involved, usually the partner receiving anal (remember not just women can take it up the wazoo, men have butts too) likes that aspect of it. And NO that doesn’t mean he or she has esteem or confidence or self-worth issues, or is being abused. Some couples practice anal regularly along with other forms of sexual expression. I am not saying people (of both genders and then some) have not been forced into it…but women have also been forced into vaginal sex and oral sex, and men have been raped and forced also! So does that mean ALL forms of sex no matter what or a form of control and rape? I don’t think so. And to the remarks above about it not being “natural.” Well neither is any single other sexual act besides vaginal intercourse. So I guess oral sex is wrong also and is about some underlying psychological factor I mean that isn’t natural at all either, in fact kissing is not natural! We do not kiss by nature…that is a man made gesture of adoration! I guess that is wrong and immoral also!
I also don’t believe it is just about the man’s pleasure! Women , many women, find a lot of pleasure with anal sex…why are feminist always to eager to jump on the “she is just doing it for him! ” issue? If she didn’t want to do it, well she wouldn’t. I would also like to add to that however, that sometimes in reletionships we do need to do things the other partner enjoys. It goes both ways, not all men enjoy cunninglingus do they? No, many do not…but they do it to please her. It shouldn’t be constant, and one partner should not be the only one getting favors..but now and then, it is good to do those things. However, in most cases women who engage in anal sex, like it and that doesn’t mean she has childhood issues because of it, and it doesn’t mean her husband/bf/fiance/bed buddy/one night stander is some abusive, raping, dominating, womanizing jerk either! Most men , if you tell them no…will stop! They may whine or beg, be mad or hurt..but they will stop. A mature man will respect that and swallow the dissapointment and move on.
I also have to agree with the remarks I read above about men enjoying anal…why is that never mentioned? Men I have herd get more pleasure out of anal than women do because of the prostate factor. I say anal should go both ways, if she can take it…then he should be able to! That is also what I mean about domination and how ridiculous that is. Maybe both participants just really enjoy getting and giving it up the butt! It isn’t anymore about domination than both partners giving one another oral is it? Why does it have to be about domination? Unless that is what both people are into…it isn’t about that at all! And who says the woman has no control? What is that about? Women have A LOT of control during anal, control of their movement, of the speed of focusing on their pleasure and their partners pleasure. The person receiving anal does not have to just lay there like a lump! You can still be part of the act and should be! It is much better that way. I think far too many people have such cliche, naive and black and white mindsets on just about everything. It is either this way, or that way…case closed. Sexuality is dynamical and we are dynamical creatures…nothing about humans is black and white, so why would sex be? It isn’t about HIS pleasure and HER being dominated and only doing it for HIM. In fact it isn’t about gender at all…is SHE domianting him if she does it to him? Or if it is two men…is one more dominate? I never saw it that way, it is just another sexual act that feels wonderful if done the correct way. If someone isn’t into that that is fine, find something else. Geesh people…come on.

September 22, 2008 at 4:16 pm
(340) A feminist sick of abuse! says:

No you are wrong Dreika. Anal sex isn’t natural, and is no ok! And it is about domination, and men use it to control women. How could a woman find pleaure in something so grotestue, dangerous and painful? I guess you must enjoy rectal examns at the doctors office to? You sound like you have issues with men and never learned self-respect, you must have been incested by your father or uncle or brother and now you think you have to let men do what they want to you. I feel bad for women like you, you have been abused your entire lives and don’t realize it. You need some help , and then men forcing you into this need to go to jail. Men don’t really enjoy anal either, it is just a way to control women that is all. You deluded yourself into thinking there is pleasure to it…there isn’t. What happened to you when you were a little girl to warp your thinking like this? Also, what do you mean men taking it up the butt? That is wrong..men don’t do that, only gay men…are you a gay man? What are you talking about? Why even bring that up? You sound really confused, scared, lost and brainwashed. You should stop letting men take advantage of you just so you feel loved and wanted. I will pray for you that you can find the help you need and get out of these horrible releshionships you are in. I pray for all women who are deluded and coherced into anal sex and say they like it to cover up the pain. When are you men going to stop using your larger stature and penic to hurt and control women! Men are insecure and hate that women are by nature smarter and more clevere than them, thatis why they use things like anal rape to get the upper hand! It is sickening, and even more sickening that women like Dreika are so disillusioned they actually think they like it,and think the way she does!

September 22, 2008 at 4:53 pm
(341) im wondering says:

i have been wondering for some time now wat anal sex is like i have been wanting to try it although my girlfriend is not up to it at all infact she said that there is no way that she would try it and i feel that i kinda said the wrong thing wen we were talking about it cuz i said “that i wouldnt want to either cuz i thought that my penis wasnt supposed to go there” and i really regret it cuz i actually do want to try it and i want to try it with her and i dont want to do something that she wont be comfortable with but i just cant stop thinking about it and i dont want to ask her cuz i dont want her to get offended or think that i am gross or something… wat should i do?

September 24, 2008 at 3:17 am
(342) Unbeliever says:

Some of these comments are disgusting, not in the sense that some of the posts above are looking down on people for what they do in the bedroom. If my wife and I want to explore what we like then so help us that is our right as beings with free will we owe it to ourselves to try and experience new things. As for the man who liked his wife to do him ok why not just respect the man and leave it be? Do you really not have anything better to do than to traverse the vastness of the web and preach your personal feelings? I don’t expect an answer and I don’t want one just please try to hold back the preaching ok we got your message but you deliver it in entirely the wrong way. You preach from personal disgust and hate that never changes peoples minds it just strengthens their resolve. (Not the person who posted about the Muslim faith you did it very non agressively it was still a bit gruff but you weren’t trying to destroy people) As for the feminist your post was utterly disgusting destroying what little respect anyone can have for you as a credible poster. First you berate men for wanting to “control” women I do believe that sex is about control it is something that turns both men and women on the power to control your partners pleasure is that a bad thing? It is good that you are passionate about something but you go about sending your message the wrong way by personally attacking women who say they like anal and saying that they were sexually abused is a stretch. (it does happen but some women may like it) Your whole post is Drenched with ignorance. Not every man wants to control women and sex CAN sometimes be a loving and passionate thing. The harder you preach your rhetoric the more people will be disgusted by your representation. Stating that “You will pray for them.” is only hurting your case, too often the church is portrayed as a negative entity because of people like you screaming your beliefs in a hateful manner. You destroy what you fight for.

September 24, 2008 at 1:28 pm
(343) Anal expert says:

Look at all these feminists and lesser men saying men who love anal sex are male chauvinists. Are you out of your mind?

For the feminists.. YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO SAY IN THIS MATTER WHATSOEVER. NONE. You probably wished you had a penis and to feel how great it feels like in the butt. Thats why you’re probably a feminist in the first place eh?

and for the guys who say its demeaning to women..yeah right. If the girl doesnt want to and you forced it on her..its called RAPE and she has every right to go to the police. WHY CANT YOU ACCEPT THAT SOME IF NOT MANY WOMEN LOVE ANAL?

this isnt the 1950s people. Live life.

September 25, 2008 at 4:27 pm
(344) David from Texas says:

For all of you who keep saying anal sex is some kind of domination thing, you are very wrong. Maybe it is for some men, but not for me. I’m just extremely attracted to my wife’s butt. It took almost 10 years of marraige before she finally let me try it. it didn’t work out the first several times because she said it was painful. Didn’t matter how much lube we used. But eventually she found a different kind of lube that worked much better (it is thicker than the usual watery stuff) Now we do it regularly. I love it. It feels different, it is tighter, and I love the feeling of her butt cheeks up against me. I also like it because we generally don’t use any birth control except for “withdrawal” or condoms. With the back door, I don’t need a condom and I don’t need to pull it out. Since we’re married, there is no issue of disease. It does require a shower afterwords, though.

September 25, 2008 at 5:28 pm
(345) do me there says:

I am recently divorced after 25 years and in my early 40s. My new partner who is bit younger asked me if I did anal and my inital reaction was no way….he is such an amazing lover and all it took was going down on me then down a little further….plenty of lube and a gentle lover who will listen to you and go slow until you say otherwise will make for a wonderful experience. I love it, it’s not a domination thing for him, it pleases him and it pleases me, the orgasm seems to just keep going. I love it and look forward to it each time we are together. It is such an intimate sexual experience, never have I felt so close to someone.

September 27, 2008 at 6:32 am
(346) Laila says:

I am from Indonesia. I dont understand Americans -in this case-. Guys, you waste your time discussing about anal sex. They who dont want to have anal sex: leave them alone. If you want to try or like it. Its up to you. Lets talk about something more sane. Titik. Selesai. Orang Amerika memang gila…
:-)

September 27, 2008 at 1:11 pm
(347) Robbie says:

I would like to offer a different perspective on this one. I’m a young ‘gay’ man, 20, who enjoys sex with women too.
A female friend and I had an excellent night of the hottest sex i have ever experienced with a man or woman because of our anal adventures. She initated this. Funnily enough, i do not enjoy gay anal sex, and certainly didnt propose it to her. However, for her to ask, even beg for me to enter her from behind, to pleasure her as she wanted to be pleasured, was exhililrating for me, as it was for her. Consequently, we both enjoyed the experience. This differes from my previous gay experiences (both giving and recieving) whereby anal is considered by many as the only way to have gay sex and is entered into without any real discussion or mutual care or understanding.

Clearly, anal is suited to certain types of people comfortable in themselves and their partners. For me, anal is more appropriate in a heterosexual relationship.

The informations above that divulge in homophobic and femminist commentaries are completely unfounded and built on moral conditioning of what we are taught to believe is right and wrong. The problem is, these beliefs are outdated and need to be looked at realistically – people are free to explore their sexuality as they wish. Unless some anti-sodomistic 1950′s feminist bible basher decides to smite you down in the process.

Play safe!

September 28, 2008 at 2:28 am
(348) Charli says:

responding to Roger.

My partner never treated it as taking over or full domination. He preferred the tightness of anal as opposed to vaginal intercourse. It has ALWAYS been amazing. I am so sorry you feel that way.

September 28, 2008 at 9:03 am
(349) Cassie says:

Like many women, I have IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome) and it was hard to always enjoy anal because of gastro-intestinal instability with diarrhea, gas, hemorrhoids, etc. I was VERY uneasy about letting something go IN there rather than OUT, but I tried anal with my husband and just loved it. There’s nothing like the feeling of his cock in my ass. I never knew I’d like it so much, but it was difficult and at times painful because of my intestinal problem. I had to do something because I didn’t want to give it up, I was getting addicted to it. My GI doctor told me to change what I ate – more chicken, beef, potatoes, and yogurt drinks with “probiotic” cultures and cut back on the stuff like veggies, fruits, and salads all the time. It really made a difference and with the right lube specially designed for anal sex, we now do anal a lot more and it’s so much more enjoyable because I don’t have bowel inconsistencies or loose stool anymore because I eat a lot more solid foods in my diet. I have thicker, normal stool now which feels like it’s caused my rectum and anal sphincter to open up a lot more to accomodate my husband’s big and thick cock more easily inside me which just makes the anal experience a lot more enjoyable. It’s still very tight, but he likes it more now too because he can pound me harder without worrying about hurting me. I overcame my intestinal worries and can now please me husband with all my orifices equally, and it makes me feel more feminine than I’ve ever felt to know I can satisfy him in every way. He now sticks it up my ass almost every time we have sex, several times a month, and I orgasm much more easily because it feels so much better. We feel our sex life is very “fullfilling” now. (pun intended) ;)

September 29, 2008 at 2:59 am
(350) Roxy says:

I find it that when u are very lubed up u doing the work once it is inserted that way u can control the movement and slowly going in until u get used to the feel and that..That is what I did the first time I had anal sex. And now I love it, It’s the most ultimate orgasm..exspecially when I am

September 29, 2008 at 6:26 am
(351) anonymous says:

Men who enjoy anal sex can’t be 100% straight. Bisexual at least.

September 29, 2008 at 4:00 pm
(352) London chic says:

Jeez you talk about him pounding you ….and you like it, it’s sounds animalistic quite frankly. I think your Americans spend far too much time watching porn and then running into your bedrooms to copy the actors, your a gullible bunch constantly wanting to try out what you see on TV. If you like that type of sex then fine but all it really means is that your anus is tighter than your vagina and he is fed up of your lose vagina so wants your anus…it’s insult. It’s like a drug the first time you take em’ induced is a grt feeling but then you contiune and you never get that very ‘same’ feeling again. Same with virginity men want the tightness all the time and it is just impossible so they resort to Anal sex if you don’t want to do just tell him you have the runs!

September 29, 2008 at 8:35 pm
(353) Page says:

I personally have absolutely NO interest in anal sex, but I respect that there are people out there that do….I just happen to be quite protective of my sensitive bum and know that another tear would be inevitable. I came on here to read opinions about anal sex because my friend’s boyfriend keeps insisting on having anal sex even though she’s still recovering from their previous experience – ie – tearing and bleeding. I told her that I think the fact that she’s NOT enjoying it and that he keeps persisting, is really selfish and sick….if it’s not mutually enjoyable then yes, it IS a control issue and completely and utterly selfish. That’s my opinion. If there’s ladies out there giving in to their man’s persistence though there’s no actual interest on your part, you’ve got a loser on your hands.

September 29, 2008 at 9:24 pm
(354) Allihavetosayiswow says:

hey all i have read just about all the comments on this page, and wanted to just say that i was very scared to try anal but i tried it a few years ago with someone didn’t work tried it again with someone else some years later and didn’t work again then i just tried it this past friday and it was AMAZING!!!! thats all i can think about and i want to do it again i can’t wait till the next time it happens

September 30, 2008 at 5:48 am
(355) Anal Expert says:

To laila, I am from singapore..your neighbouring country if u didnt know u dumb indon.

Asians do anal too..your country is just backwards.

October 2, 2008 at 1:59 pm
(356) Andrea says:

I recently started to have anal sex with my boyfriend and enjoy it allot. I never thought I would but I request it more now. As long he is lubricated and takes his time, you can really enjoy. I find more orgasms more intense when we have anal sex.

October 6, 2008 at 12:45 am
(357) ohohmy says:

I can say that I tried it in my first marriage. It was unconfortably strange and naughty at first but so exciting I wanted more. It completely turned my partner on to no end!
I can’t wait to do it again!! How you enjoy sex with your partner is up to you.

October 7, 2008 at 1:22 pm
(358) UPURZ says:

My wife and I have been playing with other couples for years but it hasn’t been until recently that she tried anal and she LOVES it. She enjoys it so much that she prefers to be double penetrated.

October 7, 2008 at 1:22 pm
(359) UPURZ says:

My wife and I have been playing with other couples for years but it hasn’t been until recently that she tried anal and she LOVES it. She enjoys it so much that she prefers to be double penetrated.

October 7, 2008 at 6:06 pm
(360) micky says:

I have been discussing this with my current partner because neither of us know how anal sex works because neither of us has done it. I am concerned that I am just foisting my desires on her and she won’t enjoy it. I would be much happier if I thought she would get as much pleasure from it as I stand to do. What is the physiology of it? It is clearly not a natural act so what pleasure can she expect to get apart from the obvious intimacy and giving of trust? My doubts will hold me back until I don’t feel too exploitative.

October 9, 2008 at 2:10 am
(361) Nadine says:

I can’t help it. I love getting it up my butt. My fiance loves to give it to me that way, but I always feel so guilty afterwards because it’s supposed to be wrong. Its not like we do it all the time like that, but sometimes I feel like feeling his penis in my butt and he wants to feel a tighter squeeze around his penis so we do it from time to time. whats the big deal if we both like it and he puts on a condom for cleanliness and i clean myself with douch? he really gets off on dominating me and i absolutely enjoy being dominated by him it makes me feel so submissive and girlie and hes so strong and puts me where he wants me and just takes me right there like that. i really feel like im the woman and hes the man. when he handles me this way, i totally give up my butt for him to do what he wants with my body. all i can think in my mind is ‘take it, my butt is urs, enjoy it, enjoy my body, im ur woman, im giving myself to u’ its like i set it to ‘autopilot’ and relax and enjoy the ride. and hes so good and smooth its awsome!

October 9, 2008 at 2:39 am
(362) allison says:

ummmm,I prefer anal to vaginal any day. it’s my choice my body and I choose anal.

October 9, 2008 at 10:37 pm
(363) iamme says:

I don’t care what anyone says. “anonymous” (comment #352) wins for the most idiotic comment. The sex act does not determine whether someone is homosexual or heterosexual or “bisexual” as he or she writes. it’s the GENDER (plainly) of the person with whom you’re having sex. If they’re the same sex as you are—yer gay (DUH!). If they’re the sex opposite of yours–yer straight (The Hell you say!). Claiming that a guy who likes to perform anal sex on a WOMAN is gay (or bi which is basically gay as only pure hetero is hetero), is probably THE most retarded thing I’ve ever heard. Gay men suck each others’ penises. So according to anonymous’ warped logic, obviously I’m gay because I like to receive oral sex from women. What an asswipe. And we wonder why the world is in the sorry state that it is when the answer is plain—it’s populated by too many idiots like “anonymous”. He or she should be ashamed to use his or her name.

October 10, 2008 at 9:24 am
(364) Brittany says:

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 16 months now and tried anal for the first time last night, it was quite painful. we stopped due to the discomfort. Could we have done something wrong? Should we try again?

Brittany

October 10, 2008 at 9:04 pm
(365) answers? says:

im a straight guy ive been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and we tried anal once but didnt use any lube i didnt get it even close to in and it hurt her really bad i want to try it again but the last thing i want to do is hurt her. should i just get the idea out of my head or is there something i could do.
i also like it when she plays with my butt and would not mind the role reversal i actually kind of want to have her put on a strap on and give it to me in my butt.
is there anyone else out there who could give me some tips on both of these subjects prefrebly honest ones not the fake made up ones casue i know theyre in here but i can tell the difference but im here casue i really want to learn so if you could help please let me know

October 11, 2008 at 11:18 pm
(366) KarsonKid says:

I am 81 years old and had my second anal sex a few weeks ago. I had tried it once a long time ago.
I am really into it! My boyfriend is very caring and gentle. Last time it got pretty frentic with hard strokes but it was good. If you have someone that is kind and caring, try it.

October 14, 2008 at 4:06 am
(367) Zarniwoop says:

Even as a guy who has seen a lot of anal porn there are times when I’m just not into it but when I am and she is it is great. I’ve now had the pleasure of three partners who had anal with me, plus one other that was curious but we never got around to it for one reason or another, and yet another that said no but later enjoyed it with a subsequent lover. I’m quite large but not huge, my partners have not performed enemas, and several times there has been no lube but natural juices and it has nearly always been nthing butt [sic] clean, sexy pain free fun. I’m probably just lucky so please heed all the advice about lube, cleanliness and preparation – good luck to you I hope you experience lots of pleasure and fun trying out anal!

October 15, 2008 at 12:06 pm
(368) maxie says:

ok anal,,, well lets just say of course any woman is going to be wierd at first. heres the thing the reason there is some women who like it alot and others who dont,, that due to the fact that there are men who dont know what they are doing they just want it and jump rite in , thats why there are those women who disslike it theyv had it done wrong way. those who do like it is due to the men who knew what they were doing or supposed to do. there is however the percentage a women who dont like it for the main simple fact that they have one either not done it yet so they scared or two have tried it once or three times and each experience sucked ass due to a male who had the lack of knowledge, or experience
so all in all ladies take this and run with it it is a good thing it does feel wounderfully fulfilling like some say they like the way it feels inside them like that they feel a more deeper penatration and connection , and it send you over the orgasm edge. !!! lol! yea buddy.

October 15, 2008 at 1:05 pm
(369) Diane says:

Anal sex leads to serious medical problems including incontinence. Once your sphincter muscles are torn during anal penetration, as time goes on you will lose control over bowel functions and the only remedy is surgery. THINK ABOUT THE CONSEQUENCES OF WHAT YOU ARE DOING PLEASE.

October 17, 2008 at 2:15 am
(370) Gabbie says:

I’m 22 in a relationship and do anal frequently. before i was monogamous, i did anal with almost every boyfriend that wanted it – mostly jocks cause i was on the dance team in highschool and have been very active in college. i know im a slut. im not ashamed of my sexuality. its not my fault guys fall for my ass. ive been taking so many different men’s cocks up my ass i cant even recall how many exactly and i crap just fine, thank u Diane. i believe ive had 16 cocks inside my ass now that i think about it and they all did it with vigor. the man im in a relationship with now is 34 and is not far above average down there – about 7″ and good thickness to get the job done. i have no complaints and take it in my ass over and over again. so thanks for the advice, but no thanks. get ur facts straight, or try it first several times before talking about incontinence so you can feel it for yourself and get some experience…oh yea, and you know what?…you may actually get an orgasm from it!

October 18, 2008 at 6:35 pm
(371) Sonya says:

My advise for anyone unsure about trying anal intercourse. First ask your partner to place his finger at the opening of your anus, then insert it during vaginal intercourse. If you experience the best orgasium you ever had. You should try it fully, expecially if you have a man that can go all night.

October 18, 2008 at 10:44 pm
(372) Patricia says:

Hi dear do not worry you are not the only one of us out there that finds anal sex to be disgusting and unatural.There are trust me lots of us all ages that think this practice is for the kinky and preverse people.There are still normal people out there that would never push this on you.If someone to me sugests this they are on my never in a million years list.Let me tell you i have been in a very very nasty verbal abusive marraige for over 30 years.And am contamplating ending it.But if this is the only way men that i have talked to think of treating a lady.Than i would rather stay in this abuseive marraige than take it up the butt for any man.No thank you dear just tell any man have you heard of AIDs?I work in the nurseing field and find it funny that so many people think the condoms stop everything.Hummm wonder how many unwanted prenancies there are that have said the condom broke or it sliped off.Yeah right.The biggiest increase in new AIDs cases and Herpies and Genatel warts is in the age group between 40s and 60s.Why because so many women that have been in bad marriges that have been stupid and stuck it out for the children because our world told them to.Are just finaly getting feed up with this.Now that the children are gone and they are left looking at a man who they have not loved for years.And what left to enter dating again to a bunch of what sickos and perverts that cant get off by haveing sex with a normal woman who is not in to kinky sex.Thank you very much guys makes me really want to be single again.NOT.No thank you Mr verbaly abusive wins hands down to MR sicko.Not all women want to experance ANAL Sex so if it doesnt seem right to you dont do it.I am telling you talking to even younger women who i work with they say no to it to.So dont worry dear you are not alone.Just set boundries.Tell men before you met them i am not in to kinky sex or ANAL and if you are just keep moving and dont stop cause your a** just dont intrest me one bit.Dont let anyone tell you that it is normal or try it you might like it.I have not tried it and i am pretty sure if i had i would not like something put in a waste treatment plant and than what want vaginal sex or a blow job i dont think so.

October 18, 2008 at 10:52 pm
(373) Patricia says:

Oh and i forgot working in the nurseing field i forgot to tell you women who are doing anal sex.We often wonder how these women who give birth to things that stop up the toilets what happened to them and why can they have such large very large BMs.Years and years of anal abuse.To me if a man wants anal sex than you should be able to shove the biggiest dildo up his anal passage and have him like it.I dont think so bucko.

October 18, 2008 at 11:03 pm
(374) Patricia says:

Oh also i forgot guys.I am very glad that men know so much about Anotomy as there is a nerve in your rectom.That is called the VEGAL nerve.And if hit or damagaded can cause a person to be parlized for the rest of there life.Trust me working in the nursing field of this i know ladies.If hit wrong or damaged you are going to be one damaged woman and the plus side is being laughed at because you are no longer able to be able to hold your stool when you get older.So go for it women there is so many perks to anal sex.

October 19, 2008 at 4:03 pm
(375) K says:

I’m a guy who recently started taking a strap on from my girlfriend. It is an amazing thing. The sensation is uncomfortable for about the first 30 seconds, then it’s just so intense. I am completely relaxed afterward. I like knowing what it’s like to be on the receiving end of what I’m giving…that’s better for me and for her. Does it make you gay if you like this? Only if you do it with guys (as with oral sex).

October 19, 2008 at 10:00 pm
(376) kimbrwi says:

My husband really likes it.. I hate it, but keep doing it anyway. It hurts so bad that I cry during sex, but he just keeps right on pumpin.. I don’t know what to do

October 20, 2008 at 10:41 am
(377) Aubrey Callahan says:

My husband and I did it last night I want to say I loved it and was very pleased. I feel so close to him now, its very sexual.

October 20, 2008 at 5:59 pm
(378) rob says:

and i main thing anal sex helps to enlarge size of the penis enjoy

October 20, 2008 at 6:22 pm
(379) Patricia says:

And we wonder why our world is so screwed up.And so many children are getting hurt by these sick twisted individuals who no longer find sex confined to what is to be between consenting adults.What is next.This is the most disgusting thing i have ever heard of.I do not tell other people how to live there lives.But trust me this is so far off the map its not funny.Some people say at work it is a male domanance thing.But i think men who want to play with a womans butt are just trying out the waters before moveing on to being with a man.And they just dont want to let the rest of the world in on there secrets.So guys get off women butt and go and find some guy who likes it.Not all women like haveing something up there butt.And dont try and make it seem like this is a normal thing.As being a baby boomer its not.It is something that men have just decided that is ok and normal for there sick twisted little minds since they tire of there disgusting porno’s.What is wrong with people they have lost there fricking mind.No anal sex is not the norm.And dont pretend it is.Some men never learn and this is why we can not get a break on the AIDs epedimic.Sorry guys some women are not in to takeing it for the gipper.If my husband ever sugested it to me.I would have him castrated.Or take him to a gay bar.I do not mind gay people they dont try and push there ideas on straight people.

October 21, 2008 at 6:17 pm
(380) rocky says:

I really want to do anal with my wife of 18 years, but she has this mind thing that anal is nasty and it is against God to do such. We just started doing oral a few years ago and thats great, but I want to hit her in the rear. I have slipped a finger in her a few times while doing oral and I noticed that she just tense up and hold herself back from getting an orgasism. I can lick her clit until she gets ready to cum, but as soon as I try to ease one finger in that booty, she moves my hand. I really thinks she wants to let me put the head in her butt, she is scared or something. Most of all she is a christian woman that has been told for years that nothing is suppose to go in the rear. I am a christian and really believes it’s ok to do anal to my wife. I noticed that after we give oral to each other we are so lovely all day long and that state last for a few days and then we are not as close and lovely. I believe if she would let me lube up really good and ease the head in and then part of the shaft, she would like it. How do i go about asking her to let me put my penis in her butt? Even after I slipped my finger in her a few times, she is still against me going in to her. We can be in the act of having sex in the vagina and I try to slide my dick out and close to that tight booty hole, she always move my head back to the front of the vagina. Let me try to explain how I got the craving to do my wife in the anus. Well, one night we had sex doggy style laying on our side. After we both came, we didn’t get up for a shower right away. We laid right there and fell asleep. We went to sleep with my penis still in her vagina. Somehow, my penis went soft and got hard again, but in the process of getting hard, it moved up from the vagina to a tight spot. I woke up when I felt her a hole squeezing around my penis head. I laid ther and enjoyed it. My penis continued to get more and more erect. The harder it got the longer it got and the deeper it went inside of her butt. I could still feel her muscles tightening and looseing around my shaft. At one point it was like she was trying to push it out as you do when you have to do number 2. If felt so good to be inside. It was hot and really tight. I couldn’t help myself. I just started to cumming inside of that booty. I never pumped her once while this was going on. The pressure of being in her butt made my dick just start to jump and squirt cum inside that hole. Later after ejaculating my penis went semi soft, but it was still inside of her. She woke up and moved over from me and then up and to the bathroom. After taking a piss, she can back to the bed and said did I try to put my thang in her butt? I said what are you talking about!!! We went on back to sleep. She never said anything about it to me again. I want to believe that she know that I squeezed my penis her booty, I don’t know how to just ask her straight out can I slide my dick in her anus. At one time she took some sleeping tea and 2 benedryl pills and was almost out of it into a deep sleep. I lubed up good and aimed a semi penis right at her butt hole and as we we laying there, I started to get really hard, so the head went in and her muscle tightened and I started to get off, but she woke up and moved over. Do any of you think that if she would have awaken when I was deep inside of her that she would have liked it? The next time this happens, I am going to keep my dick up in there and wait until she awake to see if she would like it. But anyways, just to mention it about other couples, she says uuulll thats so gross and nasty. I believe she want to but think I will think she is nasty or something.

October 21, 2008 at 8:46 pm
(381) Mark says:

I wanted to say thanks for this string of comments. My wife and I have had anal a couple of times. It was OK for her but I think maybe we should try it again. She might like it this time.

Thanks for the thoughts

October 21, 2008 at 9:35 pm
(382) pandora says:

Well obviously you can’t generalise and say ‘women like this’ because everyone’s different. I personally think just about anything is worth a try because of that, and you can’t find out if you like it without trying it. For me though, I really don’t like anal sex. It hurts, even with proper lubrication. The going in part can be ok (if they’re not well endowed) but the coming out, excuse the grossness, feels like when you do a poo. Yuck.

October 22, 2008 at 11:31 pm
(383) luna says:

GIRLS……..MEN ARE SICK…..U-R-ALL-GOING TO HELL….STDSTDSTD IS WHAT YOUR ALL GOING TO CARRY…..ON.

I AM A 35YEAR OLD MARRIED FOR 15YEARS NO KIDS WELL MY VAGINA IS LIKE A VIRGIN TIGHT, AND MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE THE MOST AMAZING SEX, WE DECIDED NOT TO TAKE UP THE A.. BECAUSE IF YOU WASH & SCRUBB ITS THE A.. SO WHEN PUMPING IMAGINE STINKY….YUK YOU MEN THAT TAKE UP THE A.. WITH TOYS …PLEASE COME-OUT OF THR CLOSET ALLREADY!!YOU ARE GAYYYYYY. MY HUSBAND IS 20YRS OLDER THAN ME, AND WE DOIT SO MUCH HE D… LIKE 15″LONG AND IM STILL SO..TIGHT!!HERES A MSS TO THE GIRLS THAT SAID THEY LOVE IT UP THE….YOUR VAGINA IS SOOOOOO LOOSE OR YOUR MANS D…IS SOOOO TINY THAT YOU DONT EVEN FEEL IT THE NATURAL WAY ANYMORE!!HA BYE BYE!!

October 23, 2008 at 10:35 am
(384) Chloe MaRiE says:

Okay so my hubby and I have done anal sex for about 3 years..maybe only 5 times a year tops. At first it hurt was =uncomfortable..should i say because I was nervous tryin something ”new” anyways this past week alone, we’ve done it 2 times..on monday night and wednesday night! it was so damn good on monday, laying sideways (spooned) and he held me tight kisses my neck and grabbed my thighs and ass so close and warm just pumping slow at first getting him turned on big time!!! like i said it was sooo damn good on monday night that last night i had to give him the ass again! and was happy too! i guess it just took a lil time…to figure out how to enjoy it..now im sure gonna keep doing this..like at least once a week. i came and he came so much damn im getting turned on right now! woohooo ;-)

October 24, 2008 at 1:35 pm
(385) KC83 says:

This is to luna. That was the stupidest comment I have ever read, first off what people do is up to them, you have no right to come in here calling people gay and saying just because someone likes anal sex their vagina is lose… OMG!, get a life and stop putting people down. I think its great! I love it and I’ll do it anytime… (and my vagina is probably tighter than yours:D)

October 24, 2008 at 4:20 pm
(386) im wondering says:

i have been wondering for some time now wat anal sex is like i have been wanting to try it although my girlfriend is not up to it at all infact she said that there is no way that she would try it and i feel that i kinda said the wrong thing wen we were talking about it cuz i said “that i wouldnt want to either cuz i thought that my penis wasnt supposed to go there” and i really regret it cuz i actually do want to try it and i want to try it with her and i dont want to do something that she wont be comfortable with but i just cant stop thinking about it and i dont want to ask her cuz i dont want her to get offended or think that i am gross or something… wat should i do?

October 25, 2008 at 5:53 pm
(387) jane says:

kc83 go on girl get that luna out of here coz shes a stupid im 30years old lady and pilipina my vagina is so tigh coz i dont im single till now and no baby but i give my ass to my boyfriend not because i want to please him its because i want to try everything its a free world if she(luna)dont want it so why shes reading it anyway lol

October 26, 2008 at 12:58 am
(388) ZAQUIA says:

I THINK ANAL SEX IS VERY GOOD BUT SOME TIMES IT’S REALLY PAINFULL I KNOW EVERYTHIG NEEDS TO BE REALLY LUBRICATED BUT KNOW SOMETHING HAPENED AND IT SEEMS TO BE THAT I HAVE SOME KIND OF INTESTIN OUT OF MY RECTUM DOES THIS HAPEN OR SHOULD I GO TO THE DOCTOR
CAN SOME ONE HELP PLS?

October 26, 2008 at 7:12 pm
(389) susan j says:

I do love it. But I dont like being pounded. Very slow in and out makes me quiver. After he comes, I like him to stay in me a long time. Part of the thrill is that it is kind of taboo. Part is being filled up back there. I have some butt plugs and when feeling risky, will wear one on a date. It is like being screwed every minute of the evening.

October 27, 2008 at 8:23 am
(390) jane says:

wow susanj thats amazing if we have that buttplug her in middle east i will do that to everyday its like wow wow girl but sad to say we dont have anysex toys here in emarates im one of lebirated woman here i like sex toy anykind dildo butt plug im really sure i buy that if we have but sorry for me how i wish i can try that

October 27, 2008 at 1:05 pm
(391) ozzy says:

nothin better than in de butt!

: )

October 28, 2008 at 2:25 am
(392) omy says:

I have been having fantasies of using a strap-on to hit my bf from behind–really pound him. I’m sure he will LOVE it–because men claim women LOVE it! He will be so grateful–he will have the best orgasm EVER…but how should I tell him and persuade him to let him have it in the butt?

October 28, 2008 at 2:33 am
(393) omy says:

Dear “im wondering” and all the men with similar situations:

If your gf said she would NEVER consider having anal, then LEAVE her. There are plenty of women out there willing to let you do it to them..so do your gf a favour and leave her..this will turn out better for both of you. Ditto for all those in similar situations. If you “just can’t stop thinking about it” then clearly you don’t have much to think about! Get a freakn life, people!

Cheers!

October 28, 2008 at 2:41 am
(394) omy says:

ROCKY–please stop harassing your poor wife as she sleeps! dayum…what is your problem ..no is NO ..ever fantasize about a large penis in YOUR A-HOLE??

October 28, 2008 at 2:58 am
(395) Mikel Mulraney says:

I heard about some girl who got pregnant in anal sex. the semen must be able to get through the rectal wall. i also heard about a guy who came on his girlfirends face and she got pregnant but that might have been a joke

October 28, 2008 at 10:45 am
(396) randysgirl says:

To “jessica” (197)…please get some help…at 13 you really shouldn’t know the pleasure of any kind of sex…someone has stolen your innocence…get some help…my bf of a year wants to have anal sex..I don’t…his friends tell him the women they have had it with enjoyed it tho I haven’t heard them say so themselves…I think of all the things that can happen after–rectal bleeding, rectal tearing, fecal matter on his penis, possible infections, possible incontinence later in life…it’s just not for me…more power to those of you that are comfotable enough to enjoy it…I think it is a bit demeaning…my opinion…stick with what you enjoy…be happy and be safe..

October 28, 2008 at 2:55 pm
(397) Erica says:

Well, I’m 18 and my boyfriend lives too far away to have sex so I’m still a virgin, but I’m open to just about everything. One night he asked me if I’d ever considered playing with my ass, and I’d tried fingering a bit when I was younger but didn’t like it. Well, he talked me through what to do and I bought some good lube and I absolutely loved how it felt. He loves that I love using toys in my ass. I gently push them in and move them a little in and out to get comfortable, then thrust as hard and fast and deep and rough as I can. The feeling is absolutely amazing. Not just at how dirty and naughty I feel, but there is this pleasure I get… I say that if you’re unsure about whether to have anal sex or not, play around with yourself. You don’t have to let him know, just see if you’re interested in it. Honestly, I was opposed to it at first. When he mentioned it I was like “eww… poop comes from there” but I tried it and I can not get enough. It’s been a few months now and he loves when I call him and moan for him or describe what I’m doing. If you do get an anal toy or a vibrator, just know not to use it vaginally after it’s been in your ass, no matter how well you clean it.

October 28, 2008 at 5:31 pm
(398) Sir Richard Pumpaloaf says:

Well, I have read every comment on this page and upon reaching the end decided to add a comment of my own.
First of all, I want to thank some of the people who have posted honest and frank comments that have helped me in my current situation.
I was in a relationship for 18 years with 1 woman who could not have anal sex. We tried a few times over the years but it was too painful for her, so I never pushed the issue.
Other girl friends either did not want it or those who tried complained about the thickness of my penis, so again, I did not force the issue as it was not so important to me. The thought of doing something that might hurt my lady is not an option. I want her to feel good, not in pain.
Recently, and the reason I found this website was because my present girlfriend loves anal sex. I had to find answers on the subject and began reading the blog here.
Our first time having anal sex we were going at it like crazy doggie style, and I pulled on her long black hair a little, and asked her if she wanted me to give it to her in the ass. She practically begged me to, pleaded with me to give it to her good and hard in the ass.
This was after she had already had a few orgsms through oral and vaginal sex, she was very relaxed and extremely turned on.
I am not sure how she would have reacted if I was to have just asked her before we bagan, I am almost sure the answer would have been much different.
Anyway, the anal sex was amazing, she had several orgasms, and we have anal sex almost every time we make love now.
After reading some posts here, I got the idea to buy her a small vibrator for her clit while doing her anally, (thanks for the advice!).
Once we finished our normal, magnificent oral foreplay, of the first evening with her new toy, I gave her my hard shaft repeatedly in her vagina until she was super hot and in the throes of orgasm. Next, I lubed her ass and my rod up thoroughly and penetrated her beautiful ass. The vibrator added a whole new enhanced experience for her and she came like a wild banshee while I penetrated her from behind. She loves to be spanked on the butt and told how naughty she is, and she loves the thought of doing something “forbidden”. We both love the closeness and the fact that she pleased me with all of her sweet holes and I love her for that too. And, it is nice to know that I can have her in all of her holes.
There has never been a smell or fecal matter on me or her, always nice and clean, tight, enjoyable for both and mind blowing orgasms.
I can say that from some of my friends experiences and my own, that not all women enjoy anal sex, some tolerate it, and some absolutely love it.
You just have to let her know that you love her and be good to her, gentle, listen to her, and never do something or try to do something that she doesn’t like. For beginners, wait until she has had an orgasm already and let your body language ask the question. Finger her ass first while doing her doggie style and see what she does. If she pushes your hand away from her ass she doesn’t want anal. If she allows you to finger her ass, then I hope you have some KY handy cause you’ll be needing it, hehe.
Keep in mind that some women can handle anal sex and some cannot, some love it while others hate it. One more word of advice, never go from the anus to vagina so your lady doesn’t get an infection, and use plenty of soap and water afterwards!

October 29, 2008 at 1:10 am
(399) Jays says:

Anal sex can feel great for a woman. However, the stretching of the anus don’t feel so good, and can get kind of gross over the course of the day – not exactly sexy. I also wonder whether the bleeding and strange sensations I’m feeling from my anus are from anal experimentation 2 years ago. Just be aware. People talk about how great it feels and how sexually free they are – then when they start to suffer the consequences they don’t say much.

October 29, 2008 at 4:03 pm
(400) Jerry says:

I have had 2 relationships prior to getting married. In both of them I tried to do it in the back side. It worked by them letting me try once and then never again. When I was hoping for a wife I was dreaming of a nympho who would do everything I see in the movies. It has taken me 5 years to jab my wife’s ass, she is so uptight that she does not want to show pleasure of any sort. She always says she’s doing it just to please me. Nowadays I just don’t feel like having sex with her because I am tired of trying to make her a freak like me. All I want to do now is move on and find the right freak; a woman like those above… they all love it in the butt. Yet I love my wife and in many ways she is the best. However I’m not seeing myself dying before having a woman entrust her anus in my care, one who will be doing it to please herself as well and one with a dirty mind, loads of experience and no HIV :)

October 30, 2008 at 12:24 am
(401) Mary says:

Hello, I am 79 years old and I adore anal sex ! It has been the drive of my life ever since I reached 50. I am now divorced as my husband of the time could not match up to my expectations. I am now seeing a man with a 10″ penis and really like the feel of it in my anus. But do make sure you lube up well, and as I know from past experience, make sure you put plastic bin liners on the bed as things could get a bit messy ;) .

Happy Orgasms .. Mary. x

October 30, 2008 at 9:15 pm
(402) dig says:

I am 63/4 thick by 73/4long.
My wife won’t do it because she’s afraid of it hurting her

October 30, 2008 at 11:10 pm
(403) brandy says:

well i like it . it drives me crazy how ever since i dated my boyfriend the last 5 years i havent done it cause hes too big to go in there

October 30, 2008 at 11:43 pm
(404) leaftree says:

I am curious about anal sex, but every time I try during vaginal sex, she says no. how do i persuade her to at least try it?

October 31, 2008 at 3:59 am
(405) DanFailiby says:

Me and my Gf tried anal for the first time, it was amazing. But the problem was, we were out of lube, so we decided to get weird and try MAYONAISE. Two days later, she was having constant anal orgasms. so we took her to the doctor, and it turns out maggots had hatched inside her ass.

November 1, 2008 at 9:43 am
(406) Nikki says:

im going to be honest if you suck penis your officially a nasty hoe. I think its so disgusting and if my husband would ask me to i would slap him on his face.And why do people have to be such hoes and sleep with like 3 different men before they are married when they know he’s just using you…if you’re not commited to a relationship that just say’s your easy!

November 1, 2008 at 5:39 pm
(407) Zoo says:

K” about doing it with a strap on does it make you gay. No, because it stimulates the prostate gland, which causes the guy to have the biggest orgasm he can have. I have had anal sex with my girl like about 3 times, and its been rare. However she doesn’t enjoy it.. :P .. She’s thai and african american.I don’t want to force her to do something she doesn’t want to do. Also there is something I bought a while back, its called a fleshlight, and I got the butt 1. I think its awesome if a women lets you have her backdoor. If not oh well theres always the fleshlight :-)

November 2, 2008 at 8:55 am
(408) Katherine says:

I got used to being sodomized by my husband over the years. It all started with a bone headed move on my part one night years ago shortly after we got married. He got his penis soaked from being inside my vagina and just decided to stick it in my ass. It popped in and I screamed from my surprise. He didnt even ask. After it was already in, he asked if I was ok after I yelped, and from my fear of rejecting him or creating awkwardness between him and I so soon in our marriage, I told him I was fine, and he asked if he could keep going and I whimpered a yes and buried my face into the pillow. He paused a few times checking on me, and I reached behind and grabbed his hips and butt and pulled him deeper into me more. By the time he was finished sodomizing me, my ass was swollen red and the pillow was wet from my tears. He asked if it hurt, I wiped my eyes before he could see and I told him it hurt only a little because he was so big, but it was ok. Unfortunately for me I was a pretty good liar. After that night, he would always sodomize me monthly and I hated it. I wanted to make him happy so I gave up my anus for his ‘use’ and endured the pain until he would ejaculate inside of me which I hated because his penis would become so engorged with blood and be at its thickest at the point of his orgasm and I could really feel it stretching my ass like it was tearing it even though I never bled from it, and he would spurt his semen in me spurt after spurt and with each spurt his penis would throb and make the nerves in my ass quiver and my anus tightens up (which he loved and I hated) and then he’d pull out and I’d feel all his semen ooze out of my ass and trickle down my thighs. I felt so used every time…like his personal porno star ass slut. After 3 years of what I would call silent anal rape, I have come to learn to tolerate it and begin to get some pleasure out of it in my own way. My moans are from pleasure now rather than whimpers of pain and tolerance as before. I guess I learned to relax somehow. I knew he was never going to stop sodomizing me, so I figured I’ve got to get some enjoyment out of this. I don’t despise my husband for it because he did ask, and it was my decision to let him into my ass even though it hurt. And I’m partially glad I just kept my mouth shut and took the pain because now I enjoy the feeling of his penis inside of my ass moving in and out smoothly and we have another type of sex we can do together. Its a different feeling.

November 2, 2008 at 5:35 pm
(409) MARY says:

ANY SUGGESTIONS ON WHICH LUBRICANT TO USE WHEN HAVING ANAL SEX? I HAVE ONLY TRIED IT ONCE AND IT HURTS LIKE CRAZY EVENTHOUGH MY HUSBAND IS VERY GENTLE. I REFUSE TO DO IT ANYMORE AND IS REALLY CREATING PROBLEMS IN OUR RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE HE LIKES IT, IT DRIVES HIM CRAZY. ANY SUGGESTIONS?

November 2, 2008 at 11:41 pm
(410) Debbie says:

Mary, I suggest you give him his walking papers,He’s probably gay and hiding behind it in the marriage. Tell him it’s an insult to your P***y , not only that disrespectful, and nasty.

November 3, 2008 at 1:35 pm
(411) Sarah says:

You guys are demented, what is wrong with you? have the men in the world all turned gay?
Anal sex is discusting, any woman who says she enjoys it must have something wrong with her Enjoying it the normal way or she is trying to keep her man who likes anal because he is afraid of being found out of what he really is. I agree with Debbie, it’s an insult to the p***y for a man to go there with a woman. very stange behavior at that. These men have got away with disrespecting women in the past so they will continue as long as they can get away with it..BUT WITH SOME WOMEN IT DOESN”T SURPRISE ME WHAT MEN CAN GET them TO DO.

November 4, 2008 at 7:08 am
(412) bwahahaha says:

I’m not a gay and my dick is not a poo lol

November 4, 2008 at 12:21 pm
(413) zepieee says:

hm yes anal is goodhm yes anal is good

November 4, 2008 at 5:42 pm
(414) i need some addvice says:

well here is my problem and anybody with any suggestions please help. ok well i have a girlfriend that i love very much and we have always had a great time together and our sex life is good but i am just always into trying new thing and she is to but only to an extent in other words she said that she would never try anal sex and i messed up in saying ya i agree i dont think that my penis is supposed to go there so i wouldnt want to do it either. also i love her a lot and i dont want her to think that i am gross or something because i ant to try it and she doesnt, also i dont want to offend her just because i want to try anal with her and i definately dont want to see her in pain. i am not sure wat to so and i really need some addvice. so somebody please help me male or female it doesnt matter i just need some help

November 5, 2008 at 12:34 pm
(415) angela says:

It sounds like you want to see what it feels like there. Just like crack cocaine, you try it once you are addicted and want it again and again. It could ruin your relationship because no woman wants to think her man might be gay. I let a guy once becasue he kept asking and as much as I liked him in the beginning, I started looking at him different after that. I felt violated and dirty. I have decided after that I’m not letting any man screw me back there for their sexual gratification. if that’s what it takes to get them to reach an orgasm maybe they need to take it up with a man since that is the way gay men like it.

November 5, 2008 at 10:31 pm
(416) 1 demented bum bopper says:

Well, where do I start? About 3 hours ago, my beautiful woman was begging me to bury my tool deep inside of her butt. She was a bad girl and I had to give her the proper punishment required for naughty girls when they get very bad.
Here are two facts: 1) some women love anal sex.
2)just because a man is willing to please his woman anally does not make him gay.
You see, it doesn’t matter which of her precious holes I penetrate, what matters most was the fact that I love my woman and she loves me. We love each other and please each other sexually, and she loves taking up the butt. Quite frankly, I don’t require anal sex and neither does she, but we both find it to be an enjoying enhancement to our already excellent sex life.
And to those having questions about how to try it with your lady, and what type of lubrication to use, here is some advice.
First you must be a good lover, you must be willing and able to bring your woman to mind blowing orgasms. This way she will realize that you are worthy of being pleased in the most special ways. Keep in mind that some women just aren’t going to do anal no matter what the circumstances, no matter how much they love other types of sex, some women simply cannot handle anal sex.
A great way to loosen her up is by creating a romantic atmosphere with candles, music, a few drinks, etc… Then you must be able to screw her good and hard after pleasuring her orally for an extended period of time.
You should be willing to perform for at least an hour before you even attempt to fill her butt.
Lastly, good old fashioned KY Jelly is an excellent lubricant, without this you can almost surely kiss your chances of great anal sex goodbye.
To sum it all up, get her good and hot first, don’t be too pushy about the ass, and when the opportunity arises use KY Jelly. Tell her how naughty she is and this is what you do to your naughty, bad little whore. Take it slow until she is relaxed enough to go faster, she should have a great time while you smack her ass and pull her hair, all the while calling her a naughty little whore.

November 6, 2008 at 8:56 am
(417) jane says:

pls someone from uae tell me where to get a dildo i wanna buy email me at blondie.allyson@yahoo.com

November 7, 2008 at 1:59 am
(418) Dave says:

Sarah, you truly are an idiot.

There is nothing worse than a judgemental idiot!

November 7, 2008 at 6:16 pm
(419) Jess says:

I think anal sex is great. My new boyfriend was the first to get it. He pestered me for months for it but I was afraid. I did it one day, It was the spooning position. IT FELT AWESOME! eventually we got to different positions, but spooning is the best, I have the best orgasms. I dont do it for him, but I play games with him and let him pretend to hold me down and do what he wants, I like it for myself, and it turns me on that it turns him on that I love it. If that makes sense.

November 8, 2008 at 2:33 am
(420) sarah says:

Dave, now what is your problem? can’t deal with the truth? is that it? or are you tring to justify your sick relationship with women cause you like to give it up the a**

November 8, 2008 at 3:02 am
(421) tEsTiNg says:

tHiS iS a TeSt

November 8, 2008 at 12:48 pm
(422) Sublime says:

@Nikki

I feel really sorry for your husband, I bet he wishes he never met such an uptight, frigid cow like you!

Sex is supposed to be about exploring and enjoying each other, not about closing your eyes, doing it one position and wishing it would end!

You should lighten up and stop projection your backwards upbringing on your marriage.

Also, learn to spell. You might come across as more credible.

November 8, 2008 at 3:09 pm
(423) mike yuen ken paahana says:

my ex an gf now no like it up the back door but i found a hooker who let me do it for cheap when i like

November 8, 2008 at 3:39 pm
(424) Pete says:

What a facinating and entertaining site. First of all the lady that started asking the questions wanted female points of view only! Crikey, apart from the feminist and religous freaks it certianly offers losts of angles about the subject. I saying that I feel I would like to add my own comments.

Firstly the fact remains what people do at home be they straight or batting for the other side is thier own business. I have been if you pardon the pun, into anal since about 1986. I have had anal with about 10 ladies in that time. I was “introduced” to anal by a lady who sttrongly voiced disapproval of the pratice but later asked me to try it with her. It was rather painful for her and all I could ever do was just slide into her but not thrust. This was all I ever did with her and later I realised that it was painful for her because I was in her upto the hilt and this is the widest part of the penis.

In any case the tightness was unreal and I went onto to having anal with perhaps another 10 ladies. On some ocasions I broached the subject and sometimes they did. Mostly it ws enjoyable but it took sometime before I was able to develop a technique, which ultimately is the the key to a woman enjoying anal penitration. It does help if you do not have a really thick penis however. Over he years I feel I have become confident and competent at it if what my wife and the ladies before her said is true.

The key to enjoyment (for both) is to ensure you both want to do it. I usually start by playing playing with the ladies bum, just running my fingers slowly down between her cheeks, if she is keen she will soon show it. If she gives me the message to stop I do or if she gives me better access I know I am in, so to speak.

I usually use KY and just spend some time sliding my middle finger up and down her crack, stopping on the opening, until finally I just inch a finger in and slowly starting pushing it in and then pulling it out. SALIVA is not good enough even at this point.

I spend some time doing this and just keep easing my finger in and out until I get the whole finger in. I do not however use 2 or more fingers as some poeple suggest, as the few times years ago that I tried this it always seemed to hurt the lady in question.

Once ready I usually do just go straight into her anus but entr her vaginally first, until she is ready. Once she is ready I use stacks of KY on my middle finger and rub it on and inside her bum, I then use it on my penis before SLOWLY entering her. This process is perhaps the most important as she needs to RELAX! So I usually get the tip of my penis inside her, to allow her to stretch and get comfortable. Once I get the nod she usually sends the messsage she is ready for me to carry on and so I

November 8, 2008 at 4:50 pm
(425) Pete says:

CONTINUED FROM ABOVE.

Having got the nod, I start thrusting slowly until I come, although on some occasions the lady concerned may asked me to up the revs, which I am happy to do. However the slower you go the more enjoyment the both of you get. Some positions are better than others, altho doggy, visually is a real buzz. Missionary an get you deeper penitration but it sometimes is quite uncomfortable for the lady. Never move from the anus back to the vagina tho as this can cause an infection / inflamation.

To cover a few points made and left by others I have not worn a condom in overeight years and have had anal perhaps four or five hundred times and have never got an infection. Part of the not wearing a condom is a bloke thing possibly about wanting to leave his calling card but its what I like.

As fo things like getting poop everywhere, only on one occasion have I had it on my penis and in any case most times I wash it down after anal anyway. I have never had a women say it has given her the runs or “clogged” her up. If you use KY and if you come inside the anus, this is no doubt prevents any clogging up.

On one occasion my wife did experience some sort of spasm after I hit the wrong spot but this did go away. At the end of the day if you enjoy it and both are willing do it, if not don’t. It probobly is a bit like 40 years ago when it was regarded as sexual deviancy to give head or heaven forbid come in a ladies mouth or on her face.

I have even let my wife use a butt plug on me after she she asked me. While a bit taken aback at first, it was different, she was keen and I was courious. The experience to me however was more in my head not my bum.

Some of the porno movies certianly do not reflect real life but that is for you and your partner to choose. But hell its not a nice world out there and if you can do something WHATEVER to spice up your life then do it.

For those out there who do “perverse” things, providing it does not hurt anyone, goodonya!

Dont let the feminists, religous freaks and the politically correct influence your life, live life, enjoy life and stuff em.

November 8, 2008 at 8:40 pm
(426) 1 demented bum bopper says:

Jane, why don’t you just use a cucumber or something? Is it really that hard to find a dildo?

November 8, 2008 at 10:20 pm
(427) Tiff says:

Honestly if you are curious it is great and once you do it a few times you will want more and it will feel better than vaginal sex but if you want to have good old regular vaginal sex its hard to get the awesome stimulation you once had before. So try it but after you are board and cant find a new better position in your vaginal sex. but i am probably to late to tell you.

November 9, 2008 at 5:08 am
(428) ginni says:

I have been married for 8 years. I tried anal sex with my husband years ago but we obviously didnt do it proporly as it hurt too much and didnt bother again. I am now having an affair (sorry) and I have been having anal sex with him, he was extremely skillful. We have lots of vaginal sex first so I am really wet and relaxed. He then uses ‘only’ my juices to lube up the arse. It’s wonderful. I am so surprised how easy it is as he’s a big man! WOW. I do find I get a little diarreah afterwards if he comes inside though.

November 10, 2008 at 8:53 am
(429) PJ - Nassau, Bahamas (Male 29 years old)) says:

After reading the two years worth of post here about this topic: Anal Sex- I will add to the rainbow of opinions/comments regarding the topic in discussion.

Let it be known, anal sex (sodomy) practiced is one of the most repugnant and SELF-serving forms of sexual practices, and when really looked at closely showcases one of man’s greatest imperfection: continuously inventing evil devices of which always decimates the good it was woven into. Sodomy as you all know has been the most abhorrent, revolting of all sexual practices from times immortal after its invention by SELFISH men. Nations were destroyed because of it, and for any man and/or woman to debase themselves by such practices clearly deserves the shame and repulse that follows.

In our culture we have allowed this Pagan practice of sexual fulfillment not only to creep in but in retrospect we have become callused of the very practices which destroyed great nations.

Ask any secret society member or rather research as most will not divulge such information (Freemasons, Illuminati, Jesuits and Rosicrucian etc.) all practice sodomy at some point in a member’s inclusion into the hierarchy. Moreover, we all know the origin and purpose of secret societies: total domination.

Rhetorically, why would a men subject their female partner to such contemptible practices? The very practice they scorn when seeing it done among gay men!!

Ladies, you deserve more than this. Your respect as a human deserves more, your self-esteem, your pride and deportment as a lady deserves more. More of what you may ask: Respect!

Ask any of these men who ask women to engage in such grotesque practices…how would you feel if some man engages your daughter, your sister or your mother in such practices…look closely at his facial expression when replying and you will get your answer as to what he really thinks of sodomy.

In closing, systemically it seems men who savor this abominable behavior can truly be classed as: “Broken: Insanity and the Repugnant Male”.

Postscript: Just out of school (post grad), in a loving relationship with a Princess of a Lady I have always and will always respect.

November 11, 2008 at 12:11 pm
(430) cat360 says:

As a woman who has tried anal sex in the past and did not enjoy it I just have to let you all know I recently was on top of my boyfriend and his penis slowly made its way into my anus. I must have been very relaxed because it felt completely different than the first time (many years ago). It was amazing and felt soooo damn good I had an orgasm that was far different than I have felt before. Now…I am the one who wants it that way…more than he does. Go figure.

November 11, 2008 at 3:16 pm
(431) jane says:

bum boppers thanks for cucumber its really amazing and to (pj nassau )what are you talking abouth respect?well i i tell you something before when im not doing nauthy things w/ my husband hes always hurting me he have a gf he hit me you know why because he dont get the satisfaction that he need you put youre partner in youre shoes if you dont like what his doing you fell angry right so why all this nonesense just make youre partner happy and you to enjoy the moment

November 11, 2008 at 3:26 pm
(432) jane says:

for more than 10years of my married i can say now that my husband was contented on me h e change a lot hes so inlove w/me now his always telling me thank you coz i make his life change and that happen whene i give him my anus and do oral become awhore just to him im always try some new style now the more im experementing the more he come crazy on me you girls make youre man happy and believe me you live like a queen coz if you lay only and not do anything believe me youre life is a hell

November 11, 2008 at 6:03 pm
(433) PJ's Princess says:

In response to Jane who asked why PJ would speak of respect in this situation, surely that is clear! Any man who would ask you to do this for him sees you as nothing more than a toy for his own sick sexual gratification, and surely we as women are worth more than that?

As it has already been mentioned within the first few comments, the attraction that men have towards this practice is control and being able to take something that is not freely given and there is a reason that it is not freely given…because it is a painful, humiliating and gross practice to say the least.

Don’t get me wrong, peoples own sexual preferences are their own business, and if its something you truly enjoy then who am I to say you are wrong. But to those who are truthful, who say they do it simply to please someone else regardless of their own pain and humiliation, I say isn’t it time to start saying no?

I for one am happy to be in a loving, respectful relationship, in which I will never be asked to degrade myself in order to “please him” or to ensure he doesn’t leave me. I know which relationship I’d rather be in.

November 12, 2008 at 12:08 pm
(434) Daniel says:

Me and my wife of 3 years did it last week, she was so emberassed as sweetcorn was on the end of my penis!

November 15, 2008 at 1:12 am
(435) Nematove says:

I have never had anal sex. it is TABOO in my funny religion, therefore women do not like it or pretend not liking it. anyway, i am very much looking forward to try. Please help me how to convince my girlfriend to give me her comfort………

November 15, 2008 at 1:16 am
(436) Penny says:

I agree, you guys are demented, is that the only way you like sex? Always getting around to the rear in the bedroom. Just can’t resist that sewer hole. your real sick people, you know that? don’t you? and I think you must have real sick relationships with your wives and girlfriends and they are just as demented that they can only have an orgasm if one is up them? Yeah there is something wrong with those women. NASTY and Discusting

November 15, 2008 at 2:43 am
(437) plush says:

Daniel such a delightful comment hope you both got a good laugh from the experience.I feel that is one of the attractions to anal sex for men dont be offended by some brown and a little sweetcorn

November 15, 2008 at 10:13 am
(438) john bonjohn says:

I just had a revelation reading almost all this thread:
Up to now, I thought that anal sex might be great. I did it a few times with my wife, but as she was ambivalent towards it and me being very cautions (therefore, not relaxed), there was not much pleasure neither for me, nor for her.
Yet, reading this thread I realized that it was simply exactly the curiosity that got me excited, not the anal intercourse as such. And since my curiosity is now cured, due to reading this discussion, I won’t try it anymore.

November 16, 2008 at 6:21 am
(439) Carol says:

I don’t understand what the big fuss is about! I love anal from my husband, and we engage in it twice a month at least! I do not have a leaky end; it’s still as tight as ever. I know this because he always tells me about how tight I am around his penis (and I squeeze a little extra to drive him crazy too, lol) He wears a condom so he doesn’t get an infection from the e.coli. I love the way anal sex with him feels! He has a huge cock, and it hurt like hell at first, but I got used to it with practice and astroglide, and I love having him inside there now. And he stretches me out and fills me up really good. Nice and slow till he gives me his love juice inside me every time. Fantastic!

November 16, 2008 at 8:32 pm
(440) Procrastinating reading this thread says:

A few comments…1st I have had anal sex and I don’t like it! I was drawn to the naughty idea of it at one time, but found the sensation painful at worst and uncomfortable at best. I regret letting my boyfriend at the time pressure me into it. In hindsight I wish I had waited to try it with my present partner who perceived it in a more curious and fun way, rather than with an individual that was obsessed with it and felt some sort of false sense of entitlement to it. Sexual movies and literature portray it as a form of domination and submission, understandably it is a vulnerable position that you should enter into through independent choice. I agree with comments above, I think the fascination with it is related to a psycho-sexual power play that stimulates some people more than others. Personally, and logically I don’t think a marriage should end because one person is not willing to comply to anal sex. I think that anyone who coaches an individual on how to pursue this form of sex with his or her partner after he/she has made it very clear that the partner does not want anal sex performed on him or her is giving BAD advice. Healthy sexuality rests on mutual respect for one another, pressuring and guilting the person into having anal sex violates that respect and becomes selfish. It puts the relationship at risk for exploitation and in some unfortunate cases abuse. If you or your partner doesn’t want to have anal sex, then don’t worry! There are many other wonderful and fun ways to enjoy an exciting sexual relationship – don’t pester and guilt them into an experience they might feel is degrading or painful. Final note, for those of you who are just obsessed with anal sex and contemplating the end of your relationship because of it, think about it … do you not have better or more meaningful aspects of your life that you can focus on? Buy one of those crotch and ass rubber moulds from a sex store and try it without hurting or manipulating the person that you claim to love.
Oh, and to answer the person that started this thread. Engage in a sexual relationship that you feel good about. If you don’t want to have anal sex, then don’t. If you think it is something that you would like, go for it! However, don’t let your decision be influenced by social pressure or by what your partner thinks you should enjoy, or by what other people are doing in their bedrooms. You are the best expert on yourself, mind and body included!

November 18, 2008 at 5:13 am
(441) ha567 says:

This was a good post because it makes me feel like i’ve been closed minded about anal sex. Although honestly I feel like I have reason to be. My boyfriend seems to want to do it but the idea of it has always struck me as grotesque. First of all, there are two things that REALLY bother me about anal sex – the first is that my boyfriend has inadvertently tried to put his penis near my butt a couple of times and i am VERY UNCOMFORTABLE with it, ESPECIALLY when it comes as a surprise. To any guy wishing to have anal sex, I STRONGLY recommend that you breach the subject by talking about it before doing anything at all. Surprising someone with something like that is not only completely disrespectful it also might hinder your eventual wishes and close your partner off to to the idea comletely. Second of all, the idea of starting with anything bigger than a finger absolutely terrorizes me, so definitely the people who have advised to build up to it are on the money. And third, I think a lot of the reason that anal sex scares the bejeesus out of me, is that even though it may be natural and has been around as long as men have been alive, i have ONLY seen anal sex in sexually dominating pornos, which quite frankly make me want to puke. I would venture to say that maybe if anal sex had been presented to me in a gentler way (not by surprise, and not as a domination fettish) I might be more open to it. In fact I know that I like some stimulation/rubbing etc, but thats not what anal sex is presented as. I recently caught my boyfriend watching an anal porno and I found myself very repulsed. I think the major issue is trust – I dont trust him to be gentle, slow, etc. especially in a situation that could seriously hurt, and especially since he’s not very gentle generally. Dont get me wrong, i like it rough, but im 100% sure I will detest rough anal sex and the fact that so many men are into ROUGH anal sex, not just anal sex, seems to me more like an effect of the porn industry and less of a “totally natural” sexual act. The way the porn industry presents anal sex makes me reticent to believe that its a TOTALLY NATURAL completely wonderful sexual act – i would be willing to bet that if those women were not paid to take it up the &*s, 80% of them would not do it, or do it differently. So yeah, thats my take on it, I wish I didnt have such negative thoughts about the subject, but I do.

November 18, 2008 at 5:23 am
(442) ha567 says:

Oh yeah, and to the middle aged dude with ED that doesn’t feel any motivation to overcome his ED because his wife doesnt like anal sex, he SHOULD feel guilty and does deserve his repressed sex life. Not for fantasizing about anal sex, but for expecting his wife to pleasure him and not doing anything at all to pleasure her. Maybe if he wasnt so exacting with his wife and actually tried to please her she would be more willing to bend his way.

November 18, 2008 at 12:23 pm
(443) Dr Andrew F. Blair says:

Anal sex is a practice that typically causes conflict between husbands and wives, is thought of as what the Bible condemns as sodomy (although many believe that sodomy is a reference to homosexual anal sex only), and tends to be initiated and desired by men whose interest got sparked by pornography. Many sexual experts and medical personnel discourage anal sex because of the danger of transmission of infection and tearing of the blood vessels in the rectum.
The penis and the vagina are clean passages, which are free of disease producing microorganisms. The anus/rectum, on the other hand, is a highly contaminated passageway. When the penis enters the rectum, the urinary and reproductive tracks of the man are invaded with the germs from the rectum of the woman. If the man enters the woman’s vagina after having entered her rectum, her reproductive passageways are then contaminated. Both can incur chronic infections like prostititus, vaginitis or a pelvic inflammatory condition. But you might ask, what if we use a condom? The fact is condoms have a significant failure rate when used to prevent pregnancy, yet sperm are much larger than the microorganisms that infect. In addition, a woman can only be impregnated several days per month, but men and women can acquire an infection at any moment of the month. So condoms are not a sure protection against being infected especially when entering the tight muscle of the rectum.

The muscular structure of the anus is different than that of the vagina. The vaginal passageway is controlled by muscles, that expand or tighten to fit any size penis; the vagina is an organ of accommodation. The vagina can tighten so tight as to not allow anything to enter and can expand to allow the birth of an infant. The rectum cannot. That is why the blood vessels in the rectum break when the penis enters it causing damage to the anal/rectal area and raising the possibility of transfer of disease producing microorganisms.

Spiritually, we would interpret anal sex as not fulfilling the New Testament expectation of mutuality. According to I Corinthians 7 and other passages, husbands and wives are to equally give themselves to each other and to delight in each other’s bodies, but never is that to be one-sided or to violate or do something against the other or to be demanded. The husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5), which required him to give up his rights like Christ did (Philipians 2) and give himself to his wife and love her exactly as she is. The women we talk to (in person, via e-mail, or through surveys at seminars) are hesitant or feel violated by their husbands’ pursuit of anal intercourse. Even in marriages where the men say their wives enjoy it, the women will tell us on the side that they do not.

Our personal/professional/spiritual stance on anal sex based on what we know today is that we would not recommend it. We will continue to study this issue and seek clear Biblical and physiological understanding.

November 19, 2008 at 8:39 pm
(444) friska says:

Congratulation, there are lot of diapers….

November 20, 2008 at 12:45 pm
(445) Harry Pal says:

Dear Sir/M’am,
I have been married for 25 years.
In the last few years I have started getting attracted to the arse. Initially I would just enjoy watching the arse then caressing it, licking it. I love the bums, just gripping them opening up and kissing and licking the arse. Now I want more. I want penetration. Rubbing my penis on the arse, seeing the arse opened up delectably and just enjoying the beauty. Thereafter I want to enter and my partner lets me do it, as I caress her clitoris and her arse too gets wet and my cock enjoys her arse and she enjoys it and my fingers in hwer vagina and over her clitoris.
we love love to see the encounter in the mirror.
Frankly, it is great enjoyment for me but for her it is submission and participation but not enjoyment.
The choice rests with individuals.
Harry Pal

November 22, 2008 at 8:26 am
(446) sisebi says:

My wife has tried it and does not enjoy anal sex, she has however given me the joy of receiving with her strap on. This has been common sex in our relationship for years.

November 23, 2008 at 9:22 pm
(447) Jason Suecof says:

Listen to Crotchduster while youre at it, it helps :) Love. J.S (gay)

November 24, 2008 at 1:23 am
(448) Mel says:

I have tried it. It did not hurt but it did not stimulate me either. In fact, it felt like I was taking a dump… not a particularly sexy feeling when you are trying to be intimate. We did it right… I was feeling fine, I was clean and he used lube. But, I kept expecting to see a pile of poop on our bed!!! LOL… gross I know, but that is how it felt for me. I will not do it again.

November 25, 2008 at 2:52 pm
(449) carl guest says:

lamp it in him he wow feel a thing the male loves a bit ov anal nothing wrong with being ruff!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

November 26, 2008 at 7:52 am
(450) matindike says:

I think its OK.But please help in analysing LOT’s story.When Lot was visited by angels,some of the Sodomists come to Lot and said give us your visitors so that we can sleep with them and he said ‘Dont do such a thing I ca give you my daughters and you can do whatever you want with them.’I think Lot know that they want anul sex and they can do it with his daughters not man-to-man.What do you think?Me I think my wife will decide!

November 27, 2008 at 7:52 am
(451) pierre says:

how can one do anything he/she feels good, that’s idiotic, never can man’s desire be satisfied, never!
Those doin it I advice them to think about their values

November 27, 2008 at 9:36 am
(452) jack says:

anal sex is a health issue, too much and cant get a seal, and need a plug, literally, comes latter in life.
re the muslim, how can they respect women with anal sex, when they can rape a women and then stone her cause its her fault, and young girls too!
At least christians respect their women.

November 28, 2008 at 4:55 am
(453) Thursday says:

The Significant Other and I find anal sex very enjoyable, and yes, sometimes it is about domination! The “kink” factor can certainly play a part in all kinds of sexual practises, anal sex included. Sometimes “degrading” is exactly the point, and it’s what we want to do. Duh!

Sex is fun, bottom line (no pun intended). If you have found someone you want to explore with, do so. With anal sex itself, we’ve found that too much “warming up” actually made anal sex more difficult, so it took some playing around to find a happy medium. Works wonderfully now!

As for religious dictums prohibiting anal sex: sod off. Your religion is not mine, thank you very much; and until your god decides to have sex with me, it’s none of their business what I do.

For those who protest it’s “unnatural”: so’s playing Scrabble, and we do that, too. Animals don’t weld, drive cars or ice skate, and I don’t think you want humans to quit those, do you?

As for the so-called medical experts on here, may I suggest ignoring them and looking up the information yourself? Avoid religious sites: they mostly only try to justify their own bizarre rules, using only that information which fits with their world view and distorting or discarding the rest.

Use your biggest sex organ, and see what your mind can do for you. Explore. Play. Have fun. Don’t be afraid to try something new with someone you trust, but first be clear in what you want to try. Without that communication, you’re just not going to have a good time, no matter what you’re doing.

November 28, 2008 at 7:33 am
(454) Ceso says:

tried it when my ex girlfriend asked. we did it after having a regular session and she’s been relaxed. Didn’t take too much effort luckily and after almost ten years i can still hear her voice inside my head saying “ohhh, now i can see why people like it”. we both were so aroused and had great orgasms..

I wouldn’t believe women could enjoy it if i had not seen with my own eyes. It’s a personal choice, and definitely is not something you could enjoy with being pushy and without mutual agreement on this

November 28, 2008 at 4:40 pm
(455) KP says:

Some women truly like it and others do not. My wife is really not big on it. We have done it a couple of times but I know she did it more for me so I have decided not to do it with her unless some day she asks for it (not likely). In the meanwhile, her mother and me do it when we can….honestly!

November 29, 2008 at 3:01 am
(456) doug says:

90yrs old i ahve visited 227 vaginas,maybe a dozen fem bums and a couple of boy bums. My system with a reluctant lady.I asked her to adopt the doggie position at the foot of the bed.we had just come out of the shower.Standing behind i dragged my fingertips across her bum and legs, oh so geently,Up and down between her thighs and across herbum. so so gently.I then asked her to hold open her bum cheeks and bent down and placed my tongue in her anus.It was so sweet.I then alternated my tongue with my fingertips. soon she became uncontrollable and i placed a finger inside her.Asking if it was comfortable i asked her if i might place the tip of my penis there, she agreed and in no timewith GENTLY GENTLY I had the old feller insside her,we proceeded sosoftly.I didnt finsh butsaved that for the nexttime “Voila” as t he French say. i had done it.From then onwards it became more rigourous till she eventually had a bigorgasm for which she thanked me profusely I had acheived what i set ou to do.now she asks me for anal

November 30, 2008 at 2:08 am
(457) nikki says:

Any man that wants totally unatural and perverse anal sex from a woman is a closet homosexual, it’s not natural the anus is a waste removal area, it’s for waste to come out of, nothing to go into! Any woman who says she enjoys it is a puppet and a friggin liar! What’s wrong with you blokes who like giving it up the arse? Go find yourself what you’re really looking for, another pillow biting bloke…gross!!

November 30, 2008 at 7:18 am
(458) Jimmy says:

Although my wife says she does it to please me, she moan like crazy, cum much faster, biger and multiple orgasims to he point when we do the front she ask me to fingure her or she will fingure her self so she can cum. She always ask me to eat her butt hole and toung it. NOW DO YOU THINK SHE DOES IT FOR ME OR SHE DOES LOVES IT, SPECIALLY SHE ALWAYS ASK ME TO INSERT MY WHOLE PAT INN?????

November 30, 2008 at 3:01 pm
(459) Kurt says:

My girlfriend and I enjoy anal sex a great deal. The key is great communication. I’m just stunned how many people can only focus on lube. God provided me with all the lube we need. Licking her ass drives both of us wild. I cannot imagine going down on her without paying some attention to her bottom. We’re writing this together and she just shared with me that orgasms are stronger when we’re having anal sex. It’s naughty and incredible.

November 30, 2008 at 4:34 pm
(460) Kurt says:

After reading everyone talk about lube, my girlfriend and I just had anal sex using a lubricant. Although I will admit it was very slick, I am all about foreplay. I just asked my girlfriend her thoughts. She said, “I would obviously prefer hours of foreplay followed by a good anal rogering, but there is a time and a place for lubricant.”

December 1, 2008 at 4:02 pm
(461) Randy says:

People, ass is exit only. It does not matter how it is put. The fact that it feels good does not make it right. It does seem a lot of people do it; that still does not make it right. Medical doctors, please find a cure for this disgusting act ( yes it is!) It does not matter how it is explained, it is not right. It is immoral. Stop Justifying wrong and evil. A ladies @$$ and that of a man are made the same way, for the same purpose, output. Only In the presence of a real deal, why would one settle for a wrong alternative. And we are wondering why there are so many unexplained diseases. The greater the number of people engaging in this immoral act, the more condemned the human race becomes.
I am surprised we are looking for intelligent life on other planets when we have a lot to do here on earth. Wrong is wrong. Whether done in private, it is wrong. Stop sugar coating. Stop the act!

December 1, 2008 at 5:37 pm
(462) Penelope says:

Well I never had anal until my most recent NB who I am still with, he givesme anal at least 3times amonth and I f*cking love it, I also take a good rimming from him and I rim him, anal is the best ever, especially anal speculum play.

Ass is the future.

December 2, 2008 at 6:32 pm
(463) Luke says:

Randy (461), do everyone a favour and don’t bother posting on a topic like this in future. Your one sided biased opinion is no good to anyone. Just because you consider it wrong doesn’t mean it is. You clearly have no respect for other peoples’ beliefs and opinions.

If anal sex makes you happy and you and your partner enjoy it, go for it. In my opinion, if you want to get the most out of life, do what makes you happy.

I haven’t yet tried anal sex but probably will at some point in the future.

December 3, 2008 at 5:35 am
(464) Real says:

#374, you are so fake. No way that you can be so ignorant and still be a nurse. Millions of people have done anal sex all of their life without any problems, including nurses and doctors.

Women that do only vaginal sex can have a huge list of problems with their vagina. It is wrong to take a few examples, like a prolapsed vagina, and then condemn all vaginal sex.

If you are afraid of doing something new in sex or a prude than confess, don’t create fake and ignorant scare stories. The real issue is that you may be a sex prude and if so, you are probably boring your boyfriend and husband to tears (or they are cheating on you and looking for a better sex partner of a woman).

December 3, 2008 at 10:26 am
(465) Jimmy says:

I would kindly see a reply on my blog # 458….I need to hear your Idea’s…..do you think my wife enjoys it, according to what I wrote…..Please make your comments…so I can be sure if I’m giving my wife what she needs/ loves
Regards

December 4, 2008 at 10:14 pm
(466) Chodna says:

One of the best ways for your wife or girlfriend to enjoy anal sex is to slowly get her used to it in the beginning. The first few times will set the tone. Extended foreplay, heightened sexual excitement, and timing of the naughty proposition is important and counters her natural desire to avoid the unpleasant act. As mentioned in other posts, lubrication is a must. Once she has done it several times, she can be trained to enjoy it more the way she likes it.

Do women enjoy anal sex? I know mine does when she is bucking from the bottom.

December 5, 2008 at 1:41 pm
(467) NATY says:

I had anal last night with my boyfriend. We’ve been dating for over two years. He has always brought up the subject. About a year ago he tried it after a long night at the bar, it was painful even though I was drunk so I was a little discouraged.

Last night we were hanging outside my house in my car,and we started fooling around. We couldnt have intercourse because I had my period, so I brough up the idea of anal, and he was thrilled. He first went down and licked it and used his fingers to open it up. He was very gentle and slow, once he was in, it was heaven for me. I never thought i would say this, but it was GREAT!

December 6, 2008 at 2:34 am
(468) i need some help please! says:

ok so here is my problem i have a girlffriend that i love a lot and dont want to do anything to weird her out or hurt her but i have been want to try anal for some time now but i dont no how to bring it up cuz i no that she is not wanting to try it at all and here are her exact worda ” i will never try anal and if u ever want to dont even bother asking cuz its not going to happen” ya that s wat i would have prefered not to here. i also made the mistake of saying that ” ya i wouldnt want to either cuz i dont think that my penis is supposed to go there” witch i now regret cuz i actually want to try it really bad. i also think that there is a chance that she would like it because she used to be againt being eatin out but i changed that around wen i did it to her cuz now she loves it and wants me to do it all the time. dont get me wrong we dont have a boring sex life at all but i just like to try new things and i would like her to be the person that i try it with. but i definatley dont want to put or relationship on the line from this because i love her a lot. so please anyone out there please give some advice on wat to do or try.

December 6, 2008 at 3:45 pm
(469) Tom says:

my only question is should you do it with or without a condom?

will doing it without a condom automatically give the male an infection?

December 6, 2008 at 7:33 pm
(470) OPENMINDED says:

Having read many of the comments here, I have ONE question: Of those people who said it is “sinful”, “Discusting”, “Immoral”, etc., WHY did they look this subject up in the 1st place? I think they must have some hidden curiousity. ANYWAY, I am female and I love it. I do not replace vaginal sex for it all the time, it just depends on me and my partner’s mood. Both parties must be willing to try it. (Guys, if you feel like you have to “talk” her into it, then dont do it.) It also cannot happen overnight. Be patient. If both truly want it, itll happen eventually. Oh, one more thing, for all of those out there who say ‘…women who say they enjoy it are lying…’, I find it amazing that you surveyed All the women in the world and skipped me. I TRULY love it or I wouldnt have had the kinky facination to look it up :)

December 6, 2008 at 9:11 pm
(471) ZoeandPaul says:

Frankly i am amazed that there are no Pauls or Zoes on this thread yet. We are an unmarried couple from England who would consider the back passage if we could be sure that I wasnt going to hurt her – after all my manhood extends into Surrey.

We have differing levels of experience – not to say who has the greater. Can anyone advise as to which lube to use? I am also interested in pegging – what size should we use?

December 6, 2008 at 9:34 pm
(472) natalie d says:

i’ve tried anal sex about 5 different times with my boyfriend. Every time I’ve started crying just right after the tip barely got in. We’ve used plenty of lube, he’s gone slow, i’ve relaxed, he’s sometimes played with his fingers… but most of the time it feels like something is going to come out??? HELP!

December 7, 2008 at 8:03 pm
(473) lil one says:

I have to say i was the one to bring up anal to my at the time husband. It was his first time also but instead of going slow he pretty much rammed it in. Needless to say i was apprehensive about trying it again. I’ve since divorced and have been dating a wonderful guy for almost 2 years. Every once in a while he’d joke about and i wanted to try at least once more since my 1st experience was hell. We went to the sex shop, got lube, and a few toys. He was amazing…he was patient with me and took as much time as i needed and once he was “in to the hilt” i was the one leaning back to meet him stroke for stroke.
Girls that want to try it…have a partner that is patient and someone you trust. If it hurts tell him to stop and wait. If he doesn’t i’d suggest getting out of there because that is not someone you want to be with.
Guys be patient with your girl and the more you pressure her, sure she might say yes but she’s only doing it so you’ll stop asking and she usually ends up hurt. If she ends up likin it then great.
Oh and no i’m not 1 of those girls that was “coerced” into saying this. In fact i look forward to doing it when my hunny comes home next week. :)

December 9, 2008 at 8:29 am
(474) jane says:

natalie d,yah its always something there like want to come out but try darling what i suggest to you coz i do this believe me(in your cr have a strong running water put it on your anus youd fell pain at first but it will dessapair later put it then push it do it how many times till the water is clear no any dirt come out then try to do it w/your man enjoy it

December 9, 2008 at 4:59 pm
(475) Jimmy says:

Peoples, DO I HAVE TO BEG SO MANY TIMES TO COMMENTS ON MY BLOG # 458……..PLEASE I BEG YOU ALL, PLEASE HAVE A HEART TO REPLY………..I NEED YOU HELP AND OPINION BADLY………….I HAVE WROTE THIS 5 TIMES NOW, LET US SHARE AND HELP EACH OTHER, WE ARE THE FREE PEOPLE’S AND I’M PROUD OF ALL OF YOU

December 9, 2008 at 7:01 pm
(476) Paul says:

My wife and I endulge in anal sex because it is something we both enjoy. The kind of pleasure we experience is different than in other sexual acts. I like to be penetrated anally too. I think that those who hold to the idea that anal sex is somehow immoral or dysfunctional just miss the simple point that IT FEELS GOOD!

December 9, 2008 at 10:41 pm
(477) yea yea says:

Well I tried anal sex when I was 18. Doggie style. I didn’t want it, at that time I did it to please my man. Well over the past 9 years I haven’t really went there and my thought was if a man wanted anal find a gay guy. Tried a few times not successful with my newer boyfriend.

Now I have talked with another woman and she told me to be on top. And thought about it. Just didn’t know if I wanted to.

So my boyfriend wanted anal sex I told him no, but he has been through alot in the past year so I decided that I would try but I was in control, I am a control freak. I hate lube its just turns me off, So we did it only with my female juices. Oh god it felt so good and different. I crave it and I get turned on thinking about it. But there was not enough lube so it did hurt. But after I found a natural lube at a health food store and it doesn’t leave me feeling gross. So we used it the next time. Couple days later, still hurt from the first time, but oh my it felt so good. Try being on top and when he was all the way in I was like are you sure, it doesn’t feel like it. He is not huge, but he is not small. I haven’t got to have an anal orgasim, but I can’t wait because it makes me so good as it is. The Second time was all me. Since we didn’t use lube the first time he wasn’t sure he wanted to do it.

ON TOP!!!

December 9, 2008 at 10:53 pm
(478) yea yea says:

Jimmy

With what you said I would think she likes it. But she may not being willing to say that she does it for herself.

December 10, 2008 at 3:38 am
(479) Jimmy says:

Thanx lots and lots “yea yea” # 478 for your advice, by the way, now she came with another reason, as she always says, do the front with a condom , then take it off and cum in my ass, cuz I wanna feel the hot cum and I do not want to get pregnant….looooooooooooool, why she just tells me she die for Anal sex from the start and matter closed, but women are always the same, they never admit their anal desire loooooooooooooooooooooool

December 11, 2008 at 2:23 am
(480) i need some help please says:

ok so here is my problem i have a girlffriend that i love a lot and dont want to do anything to weird her out or hurt her but i have been want to try anal for some time now but i dont no how to bring it up cuz i no that she is not wanting to try it at all and here are her exact worda ” i will never try anal and if u ever want to dont even bother asking cuz its not going to happen” ya that s wat i would have prefered not to here. i also made the mistake of saying that ” ya i wouldnt want to either cuz i dont think that my penis is supposed to go there” witch i now regret cuz i actually want to try it really bad. i also think that there is a chance that she would like it because she used to be againt being eatin out but i changed that around wen i did it to her cuz now she loves it and wants me to do it all the time. dont get me wrong we dont have a boring sex life at all but i just like to try new things and i would like her to be the person that i try it with. but i definatley dont want to put or relationship on the line from this because i love her a lot. so please anyone out there please give some advice on wat to do or try.

December 11, 2008 at 11:05 am
(481) Dr. JC says:

In retort to #166, No offense dear but your husband is either a liar,a fake,not a doctor at all or he has some deep seated opposition to anal intercourse. After 33 years in practice (Ob/gyn). I have NEVER seen a case directly related to anal sex of incontinence. There is NO available reliable data that supports your husbands point. I and thousands of doctors around the world recommend anal play as part of a healthy sexual lifestyle. I charge you or your husband to produce one white paper, journal entry or other substantiated form of data to support the fable you printed and supposed as fact. The data simply does NOT support your statement what so ever! Practiced in a healthy, secure, safe way … Anal play (digit,penile, safe oral) play is an excellent way to teach trust,communication and patience in a relationship. So in closing again I charge you as does the medical community charge you to produce on shred of evidence to support your negative babble.

December 11, 2008 at 8:57 pm
(482) Carter chiasson says:

Dr. JC,
Great post! I think it’s also important to note that forceful anal play can lead to anal prolapse. So, as it has been said numerous times in this thread, communication is key to a safe and pleasurable anal experience. So be safe out there everyone, and happy bum play :) .

December 13, 2008 at 2:09 pm
(483) Donna says:

It is horrible. Pain without pleasure.

December 13, 2008 at 3:11 pm
(484) MAC says:

Im 36 and have been enjoying Anal sex with women since I was 14. My first experience was in my Fathers furniture business with my girlfriend who was also 14. My father’s store was closed on Sundays and I had my own key because I would close at night.

Well, we decided to go to the store to have sex. We got down to Vaginal sex doggy stle when I got the idea. I stopped and went in search of vasoline. I found some and applied it to my penis and her anus. I entered slowly and she enjoyed every inch of it. I screwed her beautiful Black Butt for a half hour before I came in her ass.

Ive since enjoyed Anal sex with atleast 30 women. Im married now for 8 years and enjoy Anal sex with my wife who has the nicest BUTT this side of the Mason Dixon Line!

December 15, 2008 at 4:15 am
(485) Naomi says:

I had anal sex with both my ex and current partner, and I didn’t like it a bit. For one thing they never went gentle and they never lubricated as i read some comments. The feeling i get was I needed to take a crap. So I really don’t like anal sex, But for him I’ll let it happen once in awhile”GREAT” while..I prefer oral or just good old fashion sex.

December 15, 2008 at 6:25 pm
(486) Kayleigh says:

Men who want anal are a pain in the ass!

December 16, 2008 at 6:34 pm
(487) Amy says:

It’s incredible–in fact, I prefer it over vaginal. It hurt the first few times, but then I started to really like it. You just have to relax and get used to the new feeling.

December 17, 2008 at 1:00 am
(488) anon says:

my boyfriend is always bringing up anal sex, at first he would beg me, when i told him that i am scared that it will hurt and that i feel like its dirty to put something where gross u-know-what come from, he became more subtle about it, but i can still tell from his little comments that he really wants it bad. we tried it once with lots of lube but it didnt even get pass the tip and it really hurt. honestly, i would be perfectly happy if i never tried anal in my entire life. but i feel like im trapped between two fears, fear of harming myself (ive heard it can be painful and bad for u”) and fear that my bf will leave me or cheat on me. the only reason i try is because i just want to make him happy.

December 17, 2008 at 9:02 am
(489) Chris says:

Do men ever get tired of viginal sex?

December 17, 2008 at 12:01 pm
(490) debbie says:

I had anal sex for the first time last week. It was so amazing! I took the advice from a previous commenter to squat over my partner and slowly go down on him. The only thing is when I went too far up and he came out of me, I pooped all over his crotch. He said that he thought it was very hot though..thank god! I will be having lots of anal sex in the future! Thanks alot everyone!!!

-Debbie M.

December 17, 2008 at 2:02 pm
(491) rd says:

RE: comment #488. If you aren’t in a committed,loving, sharing relationship, don’t do anal. If your boyfriend cared for you, he wouldn’t pressure you. A loving partner is supposed to make you feel safe. And if your partner makes you feel unsafe or anxious, anal is not for the two of you.

December 18, 2008 at 2:44 am
(492) anon says:

thnx for the advice, its not that i dnt love him, i love him enough that i would be willing to try anything to make him happy, but i just can’t lie about the anxiety i feel. but sometimes i cant help but feel like im a failure, like he should be with someone else who can have anal sex with him. even if i decide to try, i am *positive* that i wouldnt eat for atleast 24 hours before trying it because nothing grosses me out like poopoo (no offnse to anyone who likes it, i gues its a matter of preference)

December 18, 2008 at 4:15 pm
(493) whocares says:

My did anal sex my girlfriend afew times, not many..about 5. I really enjoyed doing it and it such a huge turn on for me. My current girlfriend is christian and she is against it as she sees it as a sin (she told me if it wasnt a sin she would of tried by now though) anyway i read a comment here earlier about how it is only a misconeception that is a sin? how can i explain this to here?? i may be in!! she has a much sweeter ass than my ex and mmmmm i can just imagaine…

December 19, 2008 at 12:33 am
(494) lovin him only says:

ever since i became sexually active, i have always told myself i would never have anal sex. i thought it was so disgusting, and sounded very painful. but my current boyfriend started playing with my anal around 4 months ago….and it hurt, but then i began to enjoy it. then he decided to put it in and for the first maybe 5 or 6 time it was very painful but also caused me pleanty of pleasure as well. now we have anal sex just as much as vaginal. i love it so much. of course, not as much vaginal…to me nothing compares to vaginal sex, i perfer vaginal over anal any day. but anal is right up there along with vaginal. anal sex and vaginal sex are two completley different sensations. you get goosebumps, chills up your spine. it is like nothing i have ever felt before(and thats a good thing) ! it also turns me on knowing the fact that my boyfriend is releasing his sperm inside me.maybe thats just me…i dont know. as long as your safe about it, and i cant stress enough about how important it is to use tons of lubrication. but just have fun with it, take it slow at first and after that you will really be able to enjoy it.

December 19, 2008 at 12:33 am
(495) lovin him only says:

ever since i became sexually active, i have always told myself i would never have anal sex. i thought it was so disgusting, and sounded very painful. but my current boyfriend started playing with my anal around 4 months ago….and it hurt, but then i began to enjoy it. then he decided to put it in and for the first maybe 5 or 6 time it was very painful but also caused me pleanty of pleasure as well. now we have anal sex just as much as vaginal. i love it so much. of course, not as much vaginal…to me nothing compares to vaginal sex, i perfer vaginal over anal any day. but anal is right up there along with vaginal. anal sex and vaginal sex are two completley different sensations. you get goosebumps, chills up your spine. it is like nothing i have ever felt before(and thats a good thing) ! it also turns me on knowing the fact that my boyfriend is releasing his sperm inside me.maybe thats just me…i dont know. as long as your safe about it, and i cant stress enough about how important it is to use tons of lubrication. but just have fun with it, take it slow at first and after that you will really be able to enjoy it.

December 20, 2008 at 8:27 am
(496) Sarah says:

I am a woman & I’ve had anal sex more than 80 times and really, really loved it. when my boyfriend penetrated me the 1st time in college, it was like heaven.
i’ve also tried double penetration (anal) with my boy friend and my girl friend (she wore a strap on)the best orgasm ever.

its always best to use a butt plug 1st and make sure your partners are well lubricated
also when they first penetrate i find it best when they leave it deep in there for at least 30 seconds before intercourse.

December 22, 2008 at 11:36 am
(497) TJ says:

My wife has gotten off on toys in her butt, but insists she didn’t. Now she won’t let me go near it. she had an episiodemy 7 or 10 years ago and insists that it hurts too much now! I can’t even talk to her about sex anymore! What do I do?

December 22, 2008 at 11:45 am
(498) Spyro says:

RE: #489
No. we never get tired of vaginal sex.
the catch however is that orgasm is all in the guys head(no, the one on our shoulders) so when we get too much extreme stimulus the ordinary can become mundane. 99.9% of us guys agree heat, pressure, and moisture are the key ingredients to a great orgasm. what combines all three better than a vagina? My fiance loves anal and really gets off to it. She asks me to really pound her booty hole but the idea(again in my mind) that Im hurting her keeps me from cumming. I actually have to think about her vagina to make me cum! lol yeah i know I should be grateful but its tough *faking* this 3-4 times a week. I’m well built and it doesn’t look like it should fit, how can i overcome the feeling im hurting her?

December 22, 2008 at 2:31 pm
(499) Rick says:

I am male and love being penetrated in the ass. As some think a clit is a small penis, I think my ass has all the nerves of a vagina. I can have an anal orgasm which is often stronger than a penis one. My fondest desire is to be penetrated by my wife with a strap on. Too bad she finds the thought “disgusting”.

December 23, 2008 at 3:16 am
(500) jack says:

Define anal sex. Licking? Rubbing? Massaging? Fingering? My 50 YO girlfriend likes all of that sometimes when we make love. It’s her body, and she has the say-so. She requests anal intercourse 5 or 6 times a year, and likes it once we get settled and going. I request it 12 times a year, and guess what? I get it 5 or 6 times a year. We have sex three to five times a week – and every time, I have a ball. So there you have it. Balance.

December 23, 2008 at 2:44 pm
(501) Spiro says:

That fact that your SO is really into it and has asked you to “Pound” should relieve you of all fear that you are hurting her. If she didn’t like it, you would not be repeating the act. So relax, enjoy yourself, obviously she is. And live it up and do what every good man does, Respect her request !!!

December 23, 2008 at 2:45 pm
(502) Malibu says:

Spiro

That fact that your SO is really into it and has asked you to “Pound” should relieve you of all fear that you are hurting her. If she didn’t like it, you would not be repeating the act. So relax, enjoy yourself, obviously she is. And live it up and do what every good man does, Respect her request !!!

December 23, 2008 at 6:22 pm
(503) ANALPOWER says:

I think anal sex is wonderful gives u the greatest orgasm ever u should try make shure u lube b4 u have anal my girlfriend enjoys anal she tells she has the greatest orgasms I recommend u have anal sex =D

December 23, 2008 at 7:13 pm
(504) JP says:

Ladies, it is always best to stimulate the butt with a good Butt Plug, or toy of choice, with a reasonable amount of taper, all the while using plenty of a medium lube, not too thick, not to thin. But, beforehand, if you are concerned about a dirty butt, or having an accident, just use a simple warm water and soap enema. Use 2, if you deem it necessary, an hour before being the anal retriever. I guarantee these steps usually take a lot of the guess work and discomfort out of the equation. And as always, RELAX, its only sex.

December 24, 2008 at 8:03 am
(505) JJ! says:

Some of the post are so stupid.

First off, many women like anal especially with a toy and can only reach an orgasm that way.

If you do it you are partial gay? that is so stupid it barely deserve a response My wife has a great ass and entices me to do it often.

Domination? May be bit, but only cause she like to be submissive “taken” if you will.

Damage? Splinter is very strong and moves right back tight right away. We generally do it after a bit of regular and foreplay, Did it at least 350 times with my wife….no problems.

I suspect the people posting negatively don’t get much.

Nothing wrong at all with anal unless she says no.

December 27, 2008 at 7:23 am
(506) annie says:

I would say from experience, get comfortable with the concept of anal sex all the good and bad. There is a cream (anal ease) that helps numb some of that penetration pain for the first couple of times. Makes sure it’s with someone you are comfortable with who will be gentle. Do something at the same time that stimulates other senses (like rubbing your nipples or having him kiss your ear from behind). Make sure you use lots of lube like ky jelly but nothing that causes friction (vaseline or lotion). make him wear protection because there are some really nasty infections that he and you can catch. Lie on your left side because of the way the body atnatomy is it’s the easiest least painful way and RELAX your butt muscles completely do not tense up. you can have a wonderful time. good luck. i have done this and i love anal sex and so does my man.

December 28, 2008 at 7:46 am
(507) Michaela says:

I’ve been with the same man for almost 27 years and we’ve never had anal sex.
I don’t like the idea and my husband has never pressured me in any way – he seems content to do other things.
I was horrified to hear from a nursing friend that anal sex often leads to fecal incontinence later in life…
She has nursed a number of older gay men…not a nice thought!

December 28, 2008 at 6:49 pm
(508) casey says:

My boyfriend and was have sex and he want to put jelly on and then he went to put his penis back in and went in to my ass. I was on the ground crying I was in so much pain not to forget I am 8 months pregnant. I will never for get the pain ever. It was as bad as child birth to me. He said he was sorry. I know he was, but I felt like I was raped! Even though it was a true exacted.

December 29, 2008 at 9:16 pm
(509) Guest7 says:

Wow #14 – I guess you are bisexual, so that is a whole other ball game. Bless your little heart for answering.

December 30, 2008 at 2:07 pm
(510) remo says:

Hi. I am a heterosexual man who loves anal, giving and receiving. I have tried it with my wife before, and only once did she like it. She is a nurse and is very disgusted by the “poop” factor, the bacterial risk, etc. She can’t get past this, so we don’t try it anymore. It is one of the crises of my sex life, but I love and respect her, so I don’t even go near that area anymore.
I have enjoyed anal stimulation for most of my life, and recently bought a butt plug and a large vibrator to loosen myself up. The prostate orgasm is real and earth-shattering. I would also like to say that I have never nor will I entertain homosexual thoughts of any kind, I don’t think if a man enjoys anal stimulation that he is gay, and it certainly does not affect my desire for vaginal sex either.

December 31, 2008 at 12:46 am
(511) Carol says:

Say, I just didn’t want to get pregnant. My boy friend wanted sex, so I looked up anal sex. Got me a small penis dildo & vibrator. I got myself very clean. I then got myself very lubed & relaxed, I anally masterbated and to my exploration, I did enjoy it, I can say, I felt full & satisfied. So later on that week, surprised my boyfriend and allow him to have sex with me,,, only it was anally, he was happy, I was happy and still a virgin vaginaly. Now we only had anal sex once every three weeks. But after 2 years we got married, we do have vaginal sex, but for the past 25 years he still wants my Backdoor every 3 weeks or he will pout & drag his feet & poke out his lip, he is just to put it simply, he is hooked on having sex with my butt(anus)…. After while I wanted to quit, but the we went without anal sex was 16 weeks and that was becuase of the birth of our childred 6 (six), total. So to keep him happy & me, every 3 weeks we enjoy our selves with a long night of ANAL SEX !!!

December 31, 2008 at 1:56 am
(512) Vinnie says:

For the husbands and boy friends waiting.

Keep waiting and gently approaching the subject, let her come around to the idea to do anal out of curiosity and pressure. When I first met my wife she was a “no way, not there, never gonna happen” girl. Over the next several years I would talk to her about it, trying to find out if she was opposed to it based on religious reasons, stories from friends,a bad first try…..the more info I had the better chance of coming up with a good game plan and a valid refute to her story. Eventually her mind got curious, and she’d let me “slip” with a pinky or tongue. Without any more pressure just some east teasing, she asked if that was what I REALLLLLY wanted. DUHHHHH YES, she then said if I had tons of lube, a condom, was very slow and gentle we could try it if I promised to stop if it hurt too much. That wonderful night started with a great bottle of champagne, flowers and dinner. I was showing her how much I appreciated what she was offering to do. After dinner nakedness soon began. It started with lots of body rubbing, kissing and caressing. For me to get my prize I was going to have to work at picking the lock. I started with my mouth, then a well lubed small finger, very slowly, let her get used to it. Then a larger finger with lots of time and lube. Pay attention to her breathing, body signs and the relaxation of her ass. The more relaxed and trustful she is the farther you get. Next I used a very thin jelly vibe. That seems to have sealed the deal. A few minutes later and she was pulling the toy out and asking for me to replace it. With the patients and pace of a bomb squad detective I slowly made my way full tilt balls deep, and just held still until she was completely relaxed. I let her set the pace and just leaned back to enjoy the amazing show. When I finally did cum it was the most intense orgasm ever, I still remember every detail of it. By taking time to build a great foundation for anal sex, I have it at home all the time, half the time she’s the one asking. TIME TRUST TUBES of AstroGlide and a little fore thought, and you should be knee deep is asscheeks forever. Good LUCK

December 31, 2008 at 2:18 am
(513) frank says:

anal sex is abnormal and nature never designed it for sex,it is only the passage route of excrement that nature allowed it.i advice you not to try it.

December 31, 2008 at 11:12 pm
(514) MAC says:

It’s New Years eve and Im anticipating enjoying Anal sex tonight with my wife. Married 8 years and I always go in bareback and always cum in her beautiful round butt.

December 31, 2008 at 11:15 pm
(515) MAC says:

#507 Michaela

Too bad for your husband. Life must be BORING at your home! I would have hund myself or left you by now;)

January 1, 2009 at 2:55 am
(516) MAC says:

I spoke too soon. My wife went to bed early so I guess no Anal action tonight. I was really looking forward to cumming in her juicy butt. Oh well, too bad for me:(

January 2, 2009 at 6:46 pm
(517) Jr boy says:

If anal sex is normal, why don’t we see domestic and or wild animals doing it? Isn’t this against God’s laws? My wife and I are christians, but want to spruce up our sexual relationship. I want to try anal, but she says it’s nasty and God never intended for a penis to go in the anus. Help us if you can. I will check back in a day or two. Happ New Year!

January 3, 2009 at 12:07 pm
(518) DRG says:

My wife not only takes it anally most of the time, she has strong orgasms and even has a little trouble cumming without something in her ass now. And if I wake her up with anal play she goes WILD- a total animal need for rear penetration.

January 4, 2009 at 3:51 pm
(519) MJH says:

I am a woman that was married for years and never experienced anal sex with my ex husband. Never had the desire to do so, even though he asked about it several times. I am now however remarried and I have tried it several times with my new husband. Girls it is not at bad as some would think. I actually enjoy it from time to time with my husband and if I told him that it hurt I know he would stop and not mention anal sex again. Just when the mood strikes, take it easy, use plenty of lube and relax. After a couple of minutes you will discover that you actually enjoy it…

January 5, 2009 at 1:05 pm
(520) gay guy says:

ive been taking it up the ass for years now and i can truly say that its what keeps me going. gives me hope that one day i will find that special dick that will feel so goood inside my rectum that it will bleed

January 5, 2009 at 3:24 pm
(521) Tasha says:

In my sexual experience, it really depends on the guy. My first guy was completely against it, my current guy wants it alot. I personally am not a huge fan… and unless I’m turned on, tied up and spanked, anal will probably not happen. We use plenty of lube when we do it, but it’s still an uncomfortable feeling.

Women have been trained (deliberatly and not) to be clean, and well maintained. Most women hide their bathroom habits, and are usually embaressed by the idea. Especially older women (ages 35+). For me just the idea that something might come out…. or the ‘what if’s… the thoughts distract me enough to keep me from enjoying it at all.

My suggestion: if you really, really want to do it, warm your woman up to it. Talk to her about it and take a bath/shower together to clean up (helps the mind relax)… take the time to really turn her on and just slip a finger back there – not entering, just hovering around the area. Combine it with another activity, like oral, to make the feeling good. Take your time and use lots of lube. Eventually she may get used to it and maybe enjoy it, but if she just doesn’t like it don’t push the issue. Nothing build resentment faster than a nagging partner.

Best of luck!

January 5, 2009 at 6:21 pm
(522) yeah! there is hope! says:

ok so iv left a few comments on here about how my girlfriend does not want to do it at all but now things ave changed. i mentioned it to her the other day and she seemed more so scared about it hurting than that is disgusting. she is by ay means really wanting to do it but she seems some what open to the idea, she said that there is about a 5% chance that she will give it a try and im ok with that. she is now 18 and i am not there yet but pretty close but i am still 17. one of her friends have experienced it and told her that it was horrible it hurt really bad and that she started crying, but i have a feeling that the person she was with didnt take there time, dindt use much lubricant and didnt work their way up to inserting his penis witch iv heard are they main things to do wen trying anal. i plan on easing the idea to her and not pressuring her atll just slowly let her warm up to it use lots of lube and use my fingers first, i also thought that it might she might be more comfortable if we tried it in the shower. well iv got to go but anyone with any suggestions or comments for me feel free to leave some and some addvice would really be appreciated.

January 5, 2009 at 7:38 pm
(523) tammy says:

hey im do good from tammy

January 5, 2009 at 10:03 pm
(524) Jennifer says:

i have just resently tried anal i would have to say that the first time it did somewhat hurt but now it is extremely enjoyable and i am starting to have it more and more and personally its better for me bc i dont really like when my husband puts a balloon on his penis…

January 7, 2009 at 4:39 am
(525) Jill says:

I have had anual sex with a previous boyfriend and I really enjoyed it. He was an averaged sized man. Now my husband is a very large sized man and the idea of anual sex scares me to death. Sometimes he can be too much for me the “normal” way. We have tried it a few times–always well lubed, very slow and me slightly intoxicated–and I always end up crying because it hurts so bad. I feel so bad because I know he wants to do anual–especially since he can’t. We are a very good sexual couple and have amazing sex–but I can’t give him everything he wants. He is very understanding though–and yes he does “lick it” .
I just wanted to share my frustration. How can I go from loving it–to being terrified of it?

January 10, 2009 at 11:50 am
(526) Jr boy says:

Jr boy Please try to answer these questions for me. Thanks
If anal sex is normal, why don’t we see domestic and or wild animals doing it? Isn’t this against God’s laws? My wife and I are christians, but want to spruce up our sexual relationship. I want to try anal, but she says it’s nasty and God never intended for a penis to go in the anus. Help us if you can. I will check back in a day or two.

January 10, 2009 at 5:45 pm
(527) KP says:

I absolutely love having anal sex. I find it extremely pleasurable for me. It was slow at first but now I am used to it. Also when my boyfriend is inside me, I find that my vagina gets more wet, almost flowing with juices more than when he is inside me vaginally. I am dripping. And the orgasm? Its like nothing I ever experienced with vaginal sex, I feel like I just smoked some good weed and high as hell. lol. no lie. I lay there motionless in pleasure sometimes.

January 11, 2009 at 1:54 am
(528) SELFSERVICE says:

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January 12, 2009 at 12:56 am
(529) Rob says:

The beauty of anal sex is to be in a relationship that is filled with love, trust and honesty. Anal sex is not a taboo subject as it brings out the intense feeling of pure pleasure….so, just go out and enjoy..

January 12, 2009 at 11:04 am
(530) Elisa says:

First of all the guy HAS to go slow and be experienced.I’ve met alot of girls who prefer it to vaginal sex. I did’nt get what the big deal was until 2yrs ago when my boyfriend entered me in a missionary position. You can’t imagine how shocked I was when I actually came and hard. Be sure you’re well lubricated and go slow. Try it with your knees touching your shoulders. I think you will be pleasantly surprised. Use condoms and lube and enjoy.

January 12, 2009 at 2:36 pm
(531) Sharon Devlin says:

Try it its really wonderful! its such an orgasmic experience and ive never felt anything like it before. My boyfriend is well endowed and i love the feeling of my being “full” as he can fully stimulate the clit as well as providing plenty of good movements. Try it, you’ll never forget the great feeling (age: 23) xD

January 13, 2009 at 9:45 pm
(532) ZachPaul says:

I’ve been anally minded since puberty. My first gf taught me all the wonders of some good butt-loving. I’ve found through my years of experience that some women like it, other don’t, just as some men like it and some don’t. I’ve been lucky enough to marry a beautiful woman, who like me, has a passion for anal sex. However, it wasn’t untill my wife first did my butt that I realized how incredibly beautiful anal pleasures really are.

My suggedstion: if you want to try it, try it. Otherwise you’ll never know what you’re missing. Conversely, if you don’t want to try it, DON’T.

January 15, 2009 at 6:32 am
(533) jen says:

I’ve tried anal sex with my ex and YES it did hurt and i was scared to try it again but i
have tried it with dildos and again it hurt ALOT but my current boyfriend has mentioned that he hasn’t done it and wants to try it. i’ve read all these comments and i do really want to try it but i’m still scared that it is gonna hurt like the 1st time.

Those who think I’m just doing it to please my bf, NO I am not. I have seen it on a porn site and the woman did look like she was in pain at 1st but she also seemed to enjoy it, lol.
So i say if you wanna try it… go ahead.
guys don’t be afraid to ask your wife /gf about it, my bf asked me. I think technically not all, but alot of women and men who have’nt yet done it actually wanna try anal altho i don’t think my bf would like the idea of a dildo up his rear end. haha

January 15, 2009 at 5:15 pm
(534) good girl says:

I first tried anal sex with the father of my kids whom I was with for 9 yrs. After being together for 5 yrs we expiremented and I have to admit I enjoyed it. After him I have had 3 boyfriends sence. the last one was not inrested in exploring in that but was very much so into oral sex and I have to say was he good at it. My current boyfriend who had never tried it, after 3mons I told him I wanted anal sex, he is a very big guy alot bigger than I had ever had, now we do it about once a week. we both enjoy all sorts of sex but only with eachother. Like most others have Have already said lots of lube and be gental.

January 15, 2009 at 10:24 pm
(535) Anna says:

You people are real demented, It’s sick and very strange behavior. first off, The Rear end was never meant for sex, only for
body waste to come out of and you go there? can you not have sex the normal way? or maybe some of you women do it to keep your boyfriend or husband from going else where…that is real sad. Or maybe just abused women will do any thing.

January 16, 2009 at 2:32 am
(536) sandra says:

wtf…..women where are your dignity????, for WHAT u let hurt yourself and abase and of course corrupt your health!!!…men wants.. but do YOU really wanna it???
of course they want, for them it does not matter where to tuck they dick…if they love and respect you they never ask you this!!!!!
Only totally idiot and with out self respect women would let it happen!!

January 17, 2009 at 4:17 pm
(537) bluff boy says:

anal sex with the wife is great.slow at first but hard at the end.

January 17, 2009 at 4:54 pm
(538) Professor says:

One very important difference between the anus and rectum is that the anus has nerve endings which are capable of experiencing pain while the rectum does not. The sphincters or muscles that control bowel movements are located in the anus and lower rectum. These muscles are divided into the internal and external sphincter. The internal sphincter, which is adjacent to the colon wall, is an involuntary muscle that relaxes for a bowel movement to pass through. When you are far from a bathroom you depend on your external sphincter, a voluntary muscle that you can contract to prevent an embarrassing occurrence. While the internal sphincter relaxes when feces enter your rectum, it involuntarily contracts as a penis or other object attempts to enter from the outside. The relaxation and contraction of the internal sphincter allows you to pass large stools relatively painlessly. However, an inserted penis or sex toy of equal or smaller size may hurt because during initial insertion the object is pushing against the contracted internal sphincter. Once the internal sphincter relaxes, the experience can be more pleasurable, and no damage will be done.

A wonderful lubricant is lashings of olive oil which gives added sensitivity.

January 17, 2009 at 10:29 pm
(539) Eddie says:

I heard that animals engage in anal sex also, I was surprised! Women who enjoy double penetration have the most intense orgasms, like machine gun fire!

January 18, 2009 at 2:30 am
(540) J says:

Whatever turns you on, and isn’t hurting/harming anyone/anything I say go for it! And that includes anal sex.

In a male-female relationship, if the guy wants to go for anal sex way more than the lady, I think they should reverse the roles and try out a strap-on. That way they can empathize with each other in both experiences.

January 18, 2009 at 3:27 am
(541) certified assman says:

i’m 37 years old and have been in a lot of relationships. when i was in my teens i thought anal sex was gross and oral sex was degrading to women.
as i got older my sexual predilections migrated toward the more aggressive and obscure (most likely due to increased availability of and exposure to pornography), and i began to have an increased interest in anal sex in my mid-twenties. i believe it was roughly 11 years ago when i began a relationship with a young woman who enjoyed anal sex as much as i did, and our sex life was very intense and experimental.

since that relationship, anal sex has been a regular part of the majority of my relationships, with a few partners interspersed who had no interest in it whatsoever. one of those partners refused to believe that any woman in the world actually enjoyed anal sex (clearly a very narrow and ignorant view of the world), and it was a major point of contention within what was generally a fairly dysfunctional relationship.
i’ve known several women in my life who not only enjoy anal sex, but who request it and some who even profess to prefer it to vaginal penetration.
even during vaginal sex, i enjoy putting one or more fingers into my partner’s anus and pushing against the connecting wall to stimulate my penis. it’s an incredibly gratifying sensation, and with a few exceptions my partners have also enjoyed it.
of course, i’ve made some stupid mistakes in my time, since i generally only engage in long-term monogamist relationships, i generally eschew the use of a con-dom (and as i’ve grown older i have noticed a marked difficulty in maintaining an erection with one on), and there have been times when i neglected to wash myself after unprotected anal sex (being uncircumcised, this has occasionally led to moderate bacteriological unpleasantness in the days that followed), but i am quite free of sexually transmitted diseases, either out of pure luck or the fact that i do try to make informed choices in sex partners. i’ve never had a ‘one night stand’ with a stranger, and when i’ve engaged in casual sex outside the bounds of a committed relationship, i have typically used con-doms, though my most recent one-off experience (three years ago with a lesbian friend who wanted to try getting it on with a hetero male) began with a con-dom and ended without one. however, she was not interested in my finger being in her ass, let alone my cock.

January 18, 2009 at 5:42 pm
(542) ajohnonamous says:

problems problems.
from what i’ve read on this thread, it seems women mostly enjoy anal sex.
my fiancee had a bad experience when she was a teenager that i think has effected her outlook on it. i’m extremely curious about it, but every time i try to talk to her about it, she shrugs it off and changes the subject. any advice?

January 18, 2009 at 7:25 pm
(543) Pete says:

Re Sandra’s comment and other similar comments.

Sweetheart while you are right to express your feminist views, some ladies out there still are quite happy to be a lady and they have the right to do what they want, be it to please thier bloke sexually or otherwise!

Essentially men as part of sex do enjoy a partiall feeling of dominence” a little unkind but part of life for men. Women are more inclined to be nurturers.

The reason there are so many relationship breakdowns now is many women want to be “equal or better” the fact remains that women and men are different and for all intents and purposes will never be equal or better as they are just different.

The western world has freedom of speech but you need to remember that does not give feminists, activists, civil libertarians or drug addicts or whoever the right to say how anyone, male or female to live thier lives.

Lady get a life, if you dont like it do not do it but please just because you are a femenist, please do not put guilt trips on other committed ladies because of your own fears and desire to dictate to others!

January 23, 2009 at 12:06 am
(544) hannah says:

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!READ IF YOU HESITATE!!!!!!!!!!!
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ladies, I am one of you, and all woman for sure.
Tell you my story: my ex was pushing me into sex when I was still a virgin. Although we played in different ways, we hadn’t had it done yet, and as he was pushing more, I was refusing more…in the end I got a feeling he only wanted to have me, to possess me AND TO BE THE FIRST. Well, saint vibrator was THE FIRST and took my flower one December night!!!
I was selfish and took it! So what? It’s my body! After that I told him: yes, possess me now-and he was not happy for what he found, but, hell, I am proud of myself for in the end it turned that I was right: he tried to possess my whole being, even controlled when I smile and when I am allowed to smile. Hihihhi, the bastard turned into past :-) ))
Now I am engaged to a wonderful man, but we don’t live in the same countries. We had amazing sex when he was here, and I was stuffed by the biggest penis you can imagine… :-) But he also mentioned anal sex! In my country that is taboo, a death sin, and no guy ever mentioned it to me. But Mr. Right did! And I categorically refused! Two months ago I nearly broke up with him for he joked about anal sex: I told him that he’s got to decide about it that moment if he will continue asking me about it, so I could decide what to do, and that I am refusing it for life. Told him I wanted to solve the problem for the future, and if he wants it so much and will suffer desire his whole life for marrying me, then we better finish it all… But he loves me, and he accepted all I wanted..
But he was playing with my rectum when he was here, though I didn’t know that till just recently. It came up that I was feeling really horny and played to myself-I even gave myself a warm bath, then a massage with a nice baby oil-I just wanted to please myself, and so I gave it time, a lot of time… I was growing more and more excited, played to my body in all the sexiest ways you can imagine (my clitoris was rather growing like a small shadow of a penis and I could play it like one). I was laid on my stomach and pushed the vibrator into my vagina and even moaned, nearly screamed of pleasure, shivering of joy.. And then it happened: my whole body was very oily for I did the massage, and as I was on my stomach I played to my cheeks-I like it, and my finger “accidentally” slipped to my rectum… I was touching it and it felt nice, so in a second I HAD MY FINGER INSIDE. Oh, I wish my arms were longer! After a while I was so concentrated to my ass that I was not even noticing the vibrator IN MY EX TEMPLE OF PLEASURE! Soon I had one more finger there, and noticed there was some nice feeling: slight pain, but disappearing and turning into a new kind of pleasure-there is one spot that made me go wild! And the vibrator got the new office, brand new one!!! I was pushing it gently in and out and O GOSH how it felt! I was not touching my clitoris or vagina anymore, but I was wetter and wetter, flooded by my own juices! I could not believe it was happening! And I enjoyed and enjoyed, and IT WAS MUCH BETTER THAN MY EXPERIENCE OF TAKING MY OWN VIRGINITY! In the end I came with fireworks, moving like a snake and screaming-simply couldn’t hold it!!! Want to know haw it felt??? IT IS YOUR GREATEST VAGINAL ORGASM MULTIPLIED BY THREE!!! The next evening I played to myself again, but played to my vagina just to be prepared for the anal-all the time I just wanted it in my ass. And to tell you, cause many of you asked about the poop-there is no poop. As I learned from my experiences till now, the poop comes down when you are about to go to the toilet, but till then it is up in your stomach, and after you go to toilet and get rid of your burden, just wait about an hour and you can have anal sex-all that was rest after the loo is gone back up and disappeared from the channel. Believe me, besides the pain, the poop on his penis was my concern number one-it would be so embarrassing, although should not be-the as is the natural way out, the same mine as his and everybody else’s! :-)
after I realized how much I enjoy it, I had a good talk to him about anal sex, and we talked openly like never before (we talk on msn-as I said we live in different countries). He knows quite enough about the subject, and I know even more for I read a lot to satisfy my curiosity and to be prepared to do it-I want to be sure to do it with him-it’s a big penis that stuffs with a bit of pain even my vagina entrance (tight because of sports I do), but soon it stretches and relaxes giving me loads of pleasure and fullness. So, as we talked he was quite surprised and very careful about what to say, for he knows what a drill I presented him recently… And I told him what I did… Then he told me he had his fingers in my rectum.. Wow, that surprised me for I don’t remember I felt it, but after he reminded me it came to my mind and i clearly remember: that time he turned me wild and I came as never before, just I didn’t know what happened and why :-) Well, now I do! And we still play on the cam, just I have my toys in my ass the same ass I’ve had them in my vagina, and we both enjoy it though at such a distance. He is coming soon, and I am looking forwards to share my new experience with him-I know it will be even better than when I do it to myself for he will take care of me and relax me and give me a lot of pleasure like I have never been given before-he is my man and he loves me maybe even more than I love him, and I do love him by my whole being!

(I apologize for using some words that should not be used in public, but those are words we all use, and here we share our most intimate experiences, so I found it a bit natural)

Kisses to all, and enjoy your life, let him possess you if that is your point, but always know that we, women, actually possess our men: it is him who has the extra part which we take and swallow when we want and as long and as much we want, and then we reject when need no more. All they do is OFFERING, but we decide whether to take it or not, and even when they think they do possess us-it is only as long and as much WE want. So who is the real owner? They would never fight for the position if they actually ever felt they have it ;-) And the world is full of guys! Just look at that cute back of yours in the mirror: who could ever refuse it???? :-) There will always be a man to give you loads of pleasure, straight to your command, or just as s shake, but it is you to choose which one will do it!
Cheers everybody and enjoy sex-it is a gift to human kind, it is a cure as well as a disease-so choose what to make out of it, protect yourself, use condoms-such an effort is made to invent it, use oils and lubes-it is invented just for your pleasure, use your man-he is created for you and for your pleasure!
xx

January 24, 2009 at 9:34 pm
(545) J-Baby says:

I love anal sex. Ladies, take it from another woman, it feels sensational. It’s erotic trying something new and slightly tabboo. Don’t knock it until you try it.

January 24, 2009 at 10:56 pm
(546) sonny says:

I AGREE WITH POST 21 SUE……PRETTY BAD WHEN PEOPLE don`t know the front hole from the rear one, GOD strickly forbids this sick practise, causes all kinds of health problems, colon problems, hemmoroids, and other things, don`t understand how a guy could put his woman through this pain, even animals won`t do this, there smarter than humans, GOD help this sick world of people. i have heard of women puping on the guy back there, sick sick sick.

January 24, 2009 at 11:34 pm
(547) sonny says:

I`VE known of women that do this alot and it stretches them so bad that they can`t hold their bowells, so walking across the wal mart floor, they dump in their drawers or on the floor, one lady was walking down the church when she let hers go…pretty sick huh. GOD bless these sick people…..

January 25, 2009 at 12:40 am
(548) ldw says:

My wife and i try anal sometimes she doesnt like it to much says it hurts but she will do it anyways. SO i keep it to a limit. She is amazon in bed.The best lover one could want. But it hurts her but she can still get off. its weird. So we only do anal once in a long while. i think most ladies are just afraid

January 26, 2009 at 9:46 pm
(549) Katherine says:

I’m 18 years old, have been sexually active since I was 15, and my boyfriend for a year is interested in having anal sex. I tried it once and I didn’t enjoy it to say the least. Although his penis didnt go in very much it hurt. I’m sure if he used lubrication it wouldve made a big differnce. So thats my question. Does lubrication make a difference? I want to keep my current relationship exicited, so I’m planning a big valentines day “surprise” if you know what I mean; (hint : anal sex).

January 27, 2009 at 9:32 am
(550) John says:

I read #7 Rodgers comment and felt that i had to respond.
Rodger please don’t generalise that all men who want to have anal sex are insecure and that its a power trip, sure it may be that motive for some but not all and certainly not me.
I dont think theres a lot of guys who maintain that their girlfriends and wives must be hummilated by taking it in the ass and sucking cock on their knees while the guy stands and smirks.
I don’t think that a lot of women would stick around with that sort of abuse.

January 27, 2009 at 5:28 pm
(551) Alex says:

I have been doing anal sex since I was very young, most women I have known claimed they would never liked it, but all of them minus two,really liked it. My present wife has very intense orgasms just having anal sex.
I have done it with lube or without,
using my spit, or pulling out of the vagina with the penis lubricated from her juice.
I my opinion is only a matter of getting her really excited, then you can put your penis any place you want.
My last girlfriend who claimed she would never have anal sex, after trying bought a huge can of vaseline and left it in my house, it got so bad that I started getting tired of anal sex and wanted to do vaginal sex , but she wold pull it out of her vagina and put it in her anus.
Any kind of sex is good as long as both, woman and man enjoy it.

January 28, 2009 at 10:58 am
(552) sex king/queen says:

Anal sex is amazing! As a 39 year old male, I have had anal sex with both my wives. The first one was a kinky girl and liked giving it back to me with a strap-on. When our marriage fell apart, I turned to men for about 2 years and loved every minute of it! My second wife took a little more coaxing, but when i brought an ex-boyfriend in to double penetrate her, she quickly “loosened up”! Now we have three ways every week and there is anal-a-plenty for everyone. Use lube and wear a condom and keep your eyes on the prize.

January 28, 2009 at 12:13 pm
(553) jal says:

i have tried this before, never b/c i really wanted it, just to make the man i was with happy. it was not enjoyable in any way, and just left me feeling bad about myself and resentful towards the man i was with.
try it only if you want to, and continue to do so only if you really enjoy it, not to make someone else happy.
to all the men on this site who know their partner does not enjoy this practice but do it anyway…why?? don’t you care about her, or are your own needs more important? it’s not like you can’t get off another way…

January 28, 2009 at 12:27 pm
(554) Chuck says:

I have a question for this community of anal lovers. Do white gals enjoy anal sex more than blacks or hispanics? I found it very hard to get blacks to give up the cheeks, but whites mostly welcome it. Please post your opinion.

January 28, 2009 at 2:31 pm
(555) Bambi says:

My lover introduced me to anal sex a couple of years ago. We now do it regularly. Not everytime, but anytime the mood hits us. Since I am short, he built me some steps. I can get on the steps and stick my ass backwards. He starts with licking me as I masterbate. I continue to masterbate while he lubes me nicely and has anal sex with me. It takes some practice to let the man stay in the tight muscle area so he can cum. When he does, it feels really good. I have found that I am having climaxes this way. I can rub my G-spot at the same time and feel what is inside of me from behind. Even better climaxes than normal sex!!

January 28, 2009 at 9:03 pm
(556) Candy says:

ok, so i read quite a few of the comments, and this is my story…
so i am the type of girl who is innocent but then again i have a curious mind… i don’t mind exploring my sexual self..
anyways… i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and i want to try it with him but then i want to continue and do new things such as maybe sticking my finger up his but.. i was told by a friend, if i give him head and when hes fixing to cum, stick my finger up his butt.. it is suppose to make him have a big orgasm.. but he wont let me.. hes all for like role play.. like me in cute costumes but he won’t let me do anything that i’m curious about.. because he is more of the conservative type.. and i just want to explore every aspect.. but i love him so of course i won’t do it..

how can i warm him up to it.. because he does say that he want to do anal and one time he did stick his finger in my but .. while licking my vagina..

i just want to have fun with sex but also give him the best orgasm of his life.. i mean i am up for anything.. .. at least once, twice if i like it ;)

i dddon’t i am just asking for advice

thanks!!

January 28, 2009 at 9:08 pm
(557) nick says:

as i was reading many people had to say that they like anal sex, well i am one of them but here is when i got a lil confused, few people wrote that they like to get panetrated and how guys fantasise about geting it anal, well not me and i know alot of guys so far non has said any thing about puting any thing up there butt, the only thing a guy might like is a rim job, getting there anus licked by a girl, so ya i just watn to correct you sir that not all men fantasise about a strp on, if you do like it thats fine, what ever makes you feel good, in my openion men are not ment to be panetrated thats why we have a different equepment which is designed to panetrate a woman, and yes anal sex is funn but then it gets boring so there is nothing like vaginal sex, i guess once in a blue moon is fine from my experiance but vaginal sex is where its at.

January 29, 2009 at 2:53 pm
(558) Bambi says:

Me again. I am not sure how to get a boyfriend to have anal sex. I do know that I initiate anal sex most of the time. My lover is willing to do to me about anything I want. I just turn around, rub my ass against his penis, then reach up and around his neck and let him nibble on my throat. I tell him “exactly” what I want him to do to me!!

Yes, I really do like anal sex. I don’t know if this is race related or not. I am a redhead and i just love it!!

I also have learned how to “massage the prostate” to make the man cum in oral sex. It works best with me on my back with my head on a couple of pillows. He gets over me kneeling with his hands on the wall. If you reach up his ass (I have KY next to me), just a couple of inches up and bend your finger forward towards your mouth, you can feel the prostate. Once you make a man cum this way, he’s like a pet doggie and will follow you anywhere!!

I tend to suck him hard first. This makes his prostate swell some so I can find it easier. If I rub it gently, he cums right away. If I keep rubbing it, I can make him keep dry-squirting in my mouth as long as I want. Eventully, he can’t take it and asks me to stop. By then, I have want I want.

If you want really good sex, all shyness has to disappear. You can’t say no to anything until you try it first. As long as I don’t hurt, I like anything.

By the way, we recently got “yours/mine” KY. This stuff is really great. In fact, we rub it on each other “before” we do a 69. The taste is really better than you can imagine!!

Something sexy, we both are way over sexxed. When they develope products at KY, someone has to be there to test them out. We want those jobs!!!

January 29, 2009 at 3:53 pm
(559) Bambi says:

To #18 reply from Mitch, can you masterbate on her ass?? That is how we started. If she lets you do that, maybe she will be more receptive to anal.

My lover said his ex-wife would not let him touch her ass in any way. Even rub it. But, she did allow him to masterbate on her ass.

January 29, 2009 at 4:12 pm
(560) Bambi says:

One time, Mae West was asked what would be her definitlion of un-natural sex?? She thought for a second then replied, “I guess that’s something you just can’t do”!!

I live that philosophy…….

January 30, 2009 at 9:01 pm
(561) Mark says:

anal sex is gteat! my wife and i have anal sex all the time .She won`t addmit it but I think she prefurs it in the ass.

February 1, 2009 at 8:43 pm
(562) gabby says:

anal is good depending is to big it will hurt like hell, but he still likes it.

February 1, 2009 at 8:43 pm
(563) gabby says:

anal is good depending is to big it will hurt like hell, but he still likes it.

February 2, 2009 at 10:45 am
(564) Jim says:

what do you think about anal sex in the middle east, such Irag with thier huge sexy butt girls. my wife ass is too wide like sex movie, we nevr use lube ???

February 2, 2009 at 5:21 pm
(565) Mike says:

How to approach the idea in the first place? From a male perspective it sounds too freaky to mention, so if you don’t already have a caring, open, honest relationship then don’t bother (IMHO). If you do then it is probably not an issue when the anal question arises. Start with a fingertip and see what the reaction is perhaps?

To those who’ve found they like it and want to go a little further, try a good plug for both partners during standard intercourse – the feel is amazing and my wife and I both had what felt like the best O’s of our lives!

I recommend the Njoy metal plugs – various sizes for starting small and working up. My wife is skinny and adores the biggest plug after starting small. Just the thought blew my mind…

February 3, 2009 at 6:20 am
(566) Suneha says:

My husband is a conservative indian and has never involved in anything abnormal. Few years back a relative started forcing me when he found me alone at home. He introduced me to anal sex suggesting that i won’t risk pregnancy. Initially it was very painfull for me. however now i have become comfortable and he is very caring while doing anal sex. Once he asked me to company his friend from abroad and i have done anal sex with him also. If done with sufficient oil its ok with me.

February 4, 2009 at 2:01 pm
(567) married30years says:

In response to those saying Anal sex is done just to please the man. . . NO WAY. I wanted anal sex, I was curious, I actually experimented with a vibrator first then had my husband do me. OH MY GOSH I HAVE NEVER HAD SUCH GREAT SEX IN MY LIFE.

We have been married for 30years. This is just what we needed to spice up our sex life.
Now I want it all the time.

I LOVE ANAL SEX and i’m almost 50

February 6, 2009 at 2:21 am
(568) LLLOOOVVVEEE IT! says:

I had anal sex in college with an african american man who lets say was well hung. It was the best sexual experience that I have EVER had. The thrusting and my booty hitting his body while he was going at it was AMAZING! Sometimes not being the dominate one is fun. Also if he can reach around and &*$# you with his hands it makes it sssssoooo much better!!! Do It. Just let go and give him the control.

February 7, 2009 at 3:15 am
(569) Steve says:

wow #374 is a retard… THE VEGAL NERVE IS IN YOUR HEAD NOT YOUR ASS, BUT ITS DIFFERENT FOR YOU BECAUSE YOUR HEAD IS IN YOUR ASS!

February 7, 2009 at 11:02 am
(570) chuck says:

WOW Steve, your wrong! Your vagal nerve is in your head but goes all the way to your ass (shincter muscles)! It’s the longest cranial nerve in your body. Look it up in an anatomy book. Thats why you become so stimulated! The feeling is generated in your brain. You can become so vagally stimulated that your heart rate slows down and she will become dizzy. The anus is full of nerve endings that are all stimulated( both pain and pleasure)

February 7, 2009 at 7:07 pm
(571) hunny2hot says:

i’m so much curious abt anal but unluckily my wife never allows me for it.i wish i could find a lady whos likeminded n invite me at her place for this.i must tell i can never think of anal sex with a man.i want it with a lady . i’m showing my email address.plz lemme know who is that lady ?. I can lick her n do all which satisfies her most.

February 8, 2009 at 2:25 am
(572) sexdirtyonlyifdoneright says:

As a 40-something guy with some experience, it really varies from woman to woman.

My very first girlfriend in high school introduced me to anal sex. We were typically nervous teenagers with each other, but in bed, she was great and loved sex.

Early on, she had encouraged me to put my finger in her ass while feeling her vagina.

But I was still shocked (and pleased!) when one day she guided me into her anus** instead of her vagina**. I was very nervous, but excited, and afterwards I asked her, “Do you like that?” (We were very awkward about talking about sex.) “Sometimes…” she said. It turned out she liked it a lot.

But there are other women I’ve known since who are great perverts in bed, but simply don’t really like it. On the other hand, I’ve managed to convert some… takes a lot of patience and you have to work up to it over a long time. But I really have known women who eventually came to like it so much that they sometimes preferred it…

Like so many sexual things, it’s very personal and idiosyncratic. But it’s just dumb to say women do it only to please men, or that if you don’t like it you never will. The most fun sex comes from experimentation — open yourself to new experiences, cultivate a dirty mind, and you will have a much happier sex life.

And yep, I’ve taken it up the butt too, from a woman. And I found I liked it… and I am not at all homosexually inclined (not that there’s anything wrong with that ;-) ), so that’s just a b.s. myth.

Seriously — let go of your sexual hangups, and you will have a lot more fun. And never force anyone to do anything… (they will resent or hate you)… *seduce* them into doing it (and they will love you for it)!

**(God, I hate these clinical terms — makes me feel like I’m reading a medical brochure. I’m only using them because I suspect people in this forum might be offended by the more attractive, ribald anglo-saxon terms I usually use).

February 9, 2009 at 4:12 am
(573) nancy says:

when we start our physical relation I feel very exited and 3rd day my boyfriend says to suck his penis with touching hands and not touching i used my tounge on his pink part of penis firstly i feel yek but after that i like alot and my exitement grow more and more

February 9, 2009 at 4:30 am
(574) allitnil says:

Wow this thread just wont go quiet will it. Anyway, just to say I really enjoy reading everyone’s different takes on anal sex, especially the women. Clearly its not for everyone, but clearly there are many women who have found anal can not only be non-painful, but actually enjoyable. More power (and pleasure) to you – its your body so why shouldn’t you explore every way there is to enjoy it in the privacy of your own home?

I’ve had anal sex with three partners, one even initiated the idea, and with appropriate measures they all took my above average cock fully inside their ass. Cleanliness and pain were not an issue even without enemas and excessive amounts of lube (a couple of times nothing but saliva were needed, but I’d recommend some lube always). Judging by the number of repeat invitations it was obviously something that was reasonably pleasurable on some level.

I think its a very intimate act with a lot of trust involved and when done right very erotic and pleasurable, there’s nothing “gay” about it – I have zero interest in guys or their asses but I’ll happily partake in anal sex with a woman both giving and receiving if it gives her pleasure.

Those who think its immoral etc. etc. should just butt [sic] out of people’s private lives, its none of your business and I’m sure if we turned your private lives into public we’d find all kinds of things someone, somewhere would want to label immoral. Those who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones…

Anyway I’m headed upstairs to enjoy my gf sweet ass, I wish you all success and pleasure in whatever pursuits turn you on in your bedrooms.

February 10, 2009 at 10:31 pm
(575) Greg says:

Michelle was a anal virgin when we meet and I talked to her about doing it. I have enjoyed anal for many years. The 3rd time we did it, I did not wear a condom, at her request.

February 10, 2009 at 10:43 pm
(576) Greg says:

I hit the wrong key before finishing, so here is the ending.
The next day Michelle called me from work. She was is the bathroom, because she horny feeling my cum leaking out of her butt, she had to masturbate. When we got together the next time, she asked me to make anal love to her again, and could not understand why she waited until she was 37 years old to lose her anal virginity!

February 11, 2009 at 12:00 am
(577) ERIK says:

My girlfriend and i have never experienced it before, so we tried it and both enjoy. it feels so good when you are inside of her, but caution, if its too rough she can bleed, we never use lube, and omg, the expressions are aswome

February 12, 2009 at 10:12 am
(578) Derek says:

This comment is for maybe (69)…obviously you dont have sex or have much experience with sex, do you not see that three quarters of the women on here obviously enjoy it. My partner of 3 years now can not get enough of it and if she did not want it, i would be fine with that, i have also had past partners initiate it. Maybe you should go back to the 50′s where you belong or maybe just start researching the topic some more, or maybe even just be open about something for the first time in your life.

February 13, 2009 at 6:52 am
(579) KUMAR says:

ANAL SEX IS A VARIETY OF SEX
I THINK ONE WEEK ONE TIME DO IT
I AM ENJOYED

February 13, 2009 at 12:56 pm
(580) Christian Nympho says:

Anal sex as long as its between a man and a woman who ARE married is not a sin in Chrisitanity I suggest you nay sayers research before you comment on this

http://christiannymphos.org/2008/01/02/anal-sex-what-does-the-bible-say-2/

February 13, 2009 at 2:31 pm
(581) Missy says:

Yes, I do like anal sex. I masterbate my clit at the same time. I have found that with practice, my man can hit my g-spot even in my ass. Then, I take care of my clit and I experience an orgasm. At nearly the same time he cums in me.

February 14, 2009 at 2:37 am
(582) yeuch says:

Anal sex is more likely to transmit STD’s especially HIV,because of the anatomy – vascular mucus membranes, delicate tissues. I suspect a lot of these posts are by men masquerading as women.I think anal sex is unhygienic, no matter which way you slice it, that is where the fecal matter is. I know it is politically incorrect to say this but imho anal sex is gross and disgusting

February 15, 2009 at 12:04 pm
(583) Fascinated Male says:

What an utterly fascinating blog! It took some time but I have read nearly all of the posts (skipping the negative and judgemental ones). I’m curious what brings the anti-anal crowd to this page in the first place, since it’s not “their thing”. I appreciate the more constructive comments over the last two years.

This topic is frequently on my mind. I have been married over 20 years and during that time have had varying degrees of success enticing (asking, tricking, begging..) her into allowing back door. She is very old fashioned and anal sex has always been taboo for her. She also worries about future old age damage to the area but I point out that she has daily bowel movements that likely do more “damage” than a fully lubed penis. I am not a doctor but I cannot believe that if this is done correctly, with patience and gentleness, that there will be future medical problems. Note: she does complain about occassional hemoroids the next day but only some of the time.

At the moment she is “allowing” me to have it about once a month with penile insertion but always it takes some persistence. It’s always my idea, never hers. Yet, when we get down to it she LOVES it and her orgasms are much stronger and longer than with vaginal sex. This is the frustrating part. For many years she wouldn’t even allow the activity but has realized it’s a small sacrifice for a happy marriage. The other thing is, over the years I have really gotten good at this! I start by going down on her, paying lots of attention to her clit, getting the juices flowing then moving down to her anus. She loves it when I rim her and even push my tongue in. When she is excited enough, she enjoys rolling over and onto her hands and knees. That’s my signal that all systems are clear! She rubs her clit vigorously while I penetrate her ass. She comes quickly and explosively! Unfortunately, she wants me to pull out after her first orgasm. She says it no longer feels good after that. Frustrating!

I pay some kind of attention to her rear end during every sex session that involves me giving her head or penetrating her vagina doggy style. I often slip a thumb or two fingers in while pumping her vagina and the double penetration just sends her over the edge.

The posts of women enjoying anal sex, and even preferring it, give me room for optimism. I will continue to perfect what I do. My intention, aside from getting it back door, is ALWAYS to please her first. When she says no, it’s NO. I’m just hoping to get to the point when it’s actually HER idea and she says YES! Then I’ll be able to die a happy man!

Keep the good, constructive comments coming and I’ll check back later.

February 16, 2009 at 4:27 am
(584) biba says:

if you learn it and make your anal relax then is really good, ofcurse it depend how big penis he has, and how gentel he learn you.good to start with smaller penis. but do not forget to make it clean befor.
i found out all girls in our class they do it, some even befor vaginal sex.

February 16, 2009 at 7:49 pm
(585) Dan says:

If a woman really wants to do it – fine. But I think for most men it’s really about the woman not enjoying it and perhaps giving her some pain. It’s a fantasy of mine but I’ve never done it (I’m a male).

February 17, 2009 at 7:41 pm
(586) mr man says:

you people that say its cuz men feel power and all that bs thats crazy try it sometime its the best thing ever. there is so much more holding on to your man part its haveing sex for the first time every time

February 19, 2009 at 12:32 pm
(587) Mick says:

A good way to start anal is fingering with lube. You can work your way up from there as far as you feel comfortable.

February 19, 2009 at 2:33 pm
(588) J says:

TESTING

February 19, 2009 at 3:10 pm
(589) LovemyJ says:

I think the quality of any type of sex is largely dependent on the quality of the relationship. If you’re in love with someone that you trust, respect, like as a person, and are turned on by, then anything you do together will be wonderful. That being said, knowing what you’re doing and practice can only make things even better.

Before I met the love of my life, I had never given anal sex any consideration at all, viewing the back door as strictly a one-way street! And my prior experience didn’t include anyone who had brought up the subject before either. When my love brought up the idea for the first time, I wasn’t enthusiastic but was willing to consider it because I am very open-minded about anything with him. We can talk about absolutely anything at all and try anything together without embarrassment. The first few times we tried it did not win me over because of the same reasons women have already listed here: it was uncomfortable and a bit painful. But my man is a wonderful lover. He began to spend much more time preparing me. It feels so wonderful when he kisses and licks me there, and this is after lots of delicious other foreplay as well. As I get more excited, he eventually applies lots of KY and enters me with a finger, which loosens me up and gets me more excited still. By the time he gently and slowly enters me with his cock, I want it more than anything. There is this wonderful thrill of being totally excited and a tiny bit scared at the same time. He starts very slowly and knows when I am ready for more when I start eagerly meeting his thrusts with my own.

The thing that amazes me most about anal sex is the incredible intimacy and closeness that we feel every time. That alone would make me love anal sex even if I didn’t have orgasms, but I do have them and they’re even more intense than the ones I have with vaginal sex and I suspect the incredible intimacy and closeness is the reason. And I’m sure the “naughtiness” factor is an added bonus.

I love anal sex as much as vaginal but prefer to keep it special by not doing it every time we make love.

February 20, 2009 at 4:56 pm
(590) Betty says:

There is NOTHING for the penis to stimulate in the anus, so why would it be fun, my ex talked me into once, and never again. It did NOTHING for me at all.

February 21, 2009 at 1:15 am
(591) rhoda says:

For those that enjoy it, great!!! Always remember that the anal region is quite frankly, filled with germs etc–after all the area and the entire rectum hold well,….waste. Of course we all know waste is dirty. I’ve not had it, but came very close with an old boyfriend.

I will say, at times I’m interested, then others, completely grossed out. I do agree that if your partner can’t respect your wishes enough by either going at it very, very, very, slowly, with fingers testing the reaction of his female sexual partner/steady

February 21, 2009 at 8:09 pm
(592) nh1980 says:

This is a great message board to read about anal sex. I have tried a few times with my husband but the pain is to much for me that i begin to cry a little. On his bday I lubed up and put in a butt plug, and that day wasnt to bad. But he told me to never use lube again!!He told me lube makes it hard for him to go. But without the lube it is impossible for me to enjoy. But I think my marriage will end if I dont do it.

February 22, 2009 at 4:25 am
(593) Nivya says:

I was one of those those women that swear they’ll never ever have anal sex……And everything started one day after me and my boyfriend cameback from the gym.
After taking a nice hot bath I told him I was a little sore and need a massage, and he agreed, so I laid down on my stomach while he reached for some oil…..He is a little older and more experienced when it comes to sex than me of course!!…So he started to rub my back and shoulders and I began to relax, he took his time working on my back and neck, then he moved from my back to my legs, thighs and feet, and I relax even more, then after taking his time, I noticed he moved to rub my ass cheeks and beetwen my legs, he concentrated to massage from my lower back to my thighs passing his fingers thru my butt crack rubbing my anus….and that got me really excited, nobody ever made me feel like that before, especially in that region of my body….He knew what he was doing and I was starting to get really horny, and he noticed it too!!…I was enjoying that massage so much that I didn’t noticed when he open my butt cheeks and started to lick my ass!!….OMG….It felt soooo good that i started to rub my clit while he was doing me with his tongue, then he suddenly stopped, and said …..You are sooo ready!! …All of the sudden he climb on my back while i was laying flat on my stomach, and slide his penis inside of me and left it there for a little while, and started to kiss my neck and lick behind my ears….I was so horny that i started to push myself against him, then he started to move it in and out of my ass really slow, and I swear i never felt anything like it in my whole life…..Long story short…..After that experience, I change my mind about anal sex…I’ve learned a lot from him, from cleanliness, diet to risks and diseases that you could get from anal sex, I consulted with my gynecologist and family doctor and also with a couple of female doctors friends of mine, and all of them told me exactly the same…..It’s not dangerous as long that you are not forced to do it, the sphincter is a muscle and like any muscle have to be loosened up before penetration, also it will get tighter if you exerciced more… also never have anal if you suffer from hemorroids.

I must confess that anal sex is now part of my sex life and i love it as much as vaginal sex.
I know also there’s still a lot of girls that are scared or disgusted of even hear mention the word anal, I know….I was one of them. i just got lucky to find someone that really knew what he was doing, so to ya’ll girls outhere….if you’re thinking about doing it make sure your guy has some experience and know what he’s doing and don’t let him do it if he doesn’t even warm you up first or you’ll end up hating it.

February 22, 2009 at 4:11 pm
(594) hank says:

my ex girlfriend and i tried it. first time wasn’t so good. but she did like it a few times. She loved it when she was drunk for some reason.

February 23, 2009 at 1:41 am
(595) tony says:

I remember I had a GF … while doing our first vaginal doogy style I saw her anus open wide..

February 23, 2009 at 11:30 am
(596) A Real Woman says:

I’m 41 and still attractive. I was recently married. I gave my body 100% to my husband, we communicated about everything, I thought we had a perfect sex life. I let him do anything he wanted. I gave him oral sex, I did the one hour orgasim book with him, I let him use toys on me, and bought him the best (and doctor recommended) prosate toy. We have had sex in public places, oral sex in the car. He on an adverage has 3 orgazisms a day, but has up to 7 in one day. I was very much in love with him and thought he was with me. Then, one day I found hidden sex videos on our computer. The were different women having rectical sex in different positions. I felt very hurt, like I wasn’t enough. Why did he need that when he has me. I tried talking to him about it, and I saw signs of lying. So, I started spying on him and discovered he was having sex with married male buddies. I told him to me that was the same a cheating. And, I was sick about it. I wanted to leave him, but I was still in love with him, and I could never go through with it. He stopped seeing his buddies and worked very hard to convence me that he wanted the Christian family and that I was enough. Then, one night not long after I had reminded him that I had always given him everything he ever wanted from me in the bedroom; we where having doggy style sex when he took it out and slipped it in my rectum. I went with it, and tried to enjoy it. For me it made me feel raw, like I had been consipated. My vaginal stimulation that was there quickly went away, and I did not have an orgasim. The opening of my rectum was sore all the next day and I constantly was leaking semen mixed with poop. I had bowel movements about every 3 hours. My whole day sucked. I didn’t know how to talk to him about it because I had told him that I wanted to be his only partner and that I was willing to do anything to keep him satified. So, if I complained he would feel bad and hook up with one of his buddies again, then I would have to worry about catching a disease. So, I feel trapped to let him do this. He has done it a couple more times, and I’ve even tried drinking wine, clit stimulator, and lost of expensive lube to enjoy it, but it really is not pleasurable for me. And, it is messy. The lube mixed with poop (even after using ememas) drips everywhere. I don’t even like my daughter to come in our bedroom, because I’m afraid she will step in it somewhere. You can’t see it because it’s diluted, so it’s hard to clean everything well. I’ve been so distraut with the situation that I had to talk to my girlfriend about it. She was so shocked and concerned that it would cause my rectum to get stretch out to where I would loose control over my bowels. What is the right thing to do in my shoes. Do I leave the man I love over this? Or, do I risk my health for the rest of my life. Part of me feels like when I get old and flabby he’s just going to trade me in for a new model anyway. Or, he’s going to continue sneaking around with his buddies no matter what I do. They do it in groups. This is an airforce thing. Can you emagen all the wives with military husbands that have this to deal with.

February 27, 2009 at 3:57 pm
(597) Disgusted with "A Real Woman" says:

First of all…to A Real Woman…eeeewwww!!! Could you have been any more disgusting in your post? I mean, really, you’re afraid to have your daughter walk into your bedroom out of fear she’ll step into what’s dripped out of your ass?! If you don’t have enough commonsense to use something like tissues or a towel to prevent that, I can see why you don’t have the sense to leave the horrendous relationship you’re in. Everything you’ve said about your husband told us that he’s a liar who cannot be trusted—hardly the basis for a good marriage or any other relationship. You say you’re in love with him, but it sounds like you don’t really even know him.

You are in serious need of counseling. Please see a therapist as you have issues that you need help with if you can’t see that you need to get out of this relationship. He’s lied to you from the very beginning about who he is and what he does. You are very likely fooling yourself if you think he’s going to stop what he’s been doing because you found out about it. You’ve turned yourself into a complete doormat to be walked all over and he’s been doing that without any remorse. Telling yourself that you’re doing this because you’re in love with him is pathetic and fooling yourself. You have self esteem issues and God knows how many others. Please, for the sake of yourself and your daughter, get professional help.

February 28, 2009 at 11:50 am
(598) Jane says:

WOW

March 1, 2009 at 12:58 am
(599) Sylvena says:

I am 39 and by husband does me in the bum many times. I love it and enjoy having his manhood penetrate my private place. He does it with passion and care. He makes me feel more of a woman when I give such a private part of myself to him. He enjoys my body and I enjoy his.

March 1, 2009 at 3:11 pm
(600) bruce says:

I love the thought of anal sex. I get very excited about it. I would make love to my wife first with oral and vaginal sex for a long time, then I might use anal sex to finish it off. I like to watch my penis pumping my wife’s anus, and can also see heer vagina opening and closing at the same time. This really turns me on. My wife prefers me moving in and out using the whole length of my penis which is six and a half inches long erected, and she can sometimes have multiple orgasms. As far as the sensation is concerned, anal sex is never as good as vaginal sex as all I can feel is a tight ring around the penis. There is no sensation at the knob as the rectum is too soft, not like the vagina where youu can feel every movement in the whole penis. But I like doing it often as it is still exciting and my wife does have better orgasm with it. I have also tried the tri-gasm by using my mouth to suck her clitoris, using a dildo in her vagina and my two or three fingers in her anus/rectum at the same time. You should try this sometimes

March 4, 2009 at 11:44 am
(601) John says:

What a bunch of nonsense. I am sure many of you women after having anal sex you feel your anus red, swollen and oh yeah it hurts,right?
The way your anus muscles are made if penetrated a lot lubricated or not, it will start swelling and eventually fall out!
If it falls out, you’ll need surgery which does not mean it will heal. There is a great chance of occasional bleeding and getting infections by sitting in public places.
If a guys penis is as big as a humans finger then a women might be able to handle the force of in and out!
Unfortunately for the anal sex addicts! a guys penis comes in many different forms and it does damage a womens rectum.
It’s quite easy next time you pay a visit to a doctor ask him/her about the dangers of anal sex!
Now, many advertising about anal sex is done by porn industry otherwise their regular porn wouldn’t sell, and who buys them more then anyone else? that’s right dumb ass men! :-) not women, usually women are not into buying porn. The nature of women is made in a way that they want their partners to pay attention to only them, not even a porn movie!
If you think that anal sex has no risks and I am talking mostly to men, why don’t you get a cucumber lubricate it and shove it up your ass and start going in and out fast, I am sure you’ll see how cool and good it feels!
Ciao,
John

March 4, 2009 at 1:04 pm
(602) bruce says:

Say what you think. I just want to share my experience with my wife with the public in this forum. We have anal sex for many years with no problems and we are in our thirties now.Let me tell you one example, after anal sex my wife can still hold my sperm in her anus with good control and walk to the toilet without leaking. How about that!!! Im not here to boast about sex or porn. You sound pretty ignorant. Youu dont know what youu are missing even if you tried.

March 5, 2009 at 12:17 pm
(603) LovemyJ says:

John (#601), the “nonsense” is coming from you. Honestly, the comment about the anus swelling and falling out is the biggest bunch of nonsense yet! LOL

Anal sex does not have to hurt. Once you and your partner know what you’re doing, it is nothing but pleasure! The most important thing, I think, is being with someone you absolutely love and trust. Because I have that, I am able to completely relax and that is the key to pain free anal sex.

And like Bruce’s wife, I’m happy to say I don’t have any leakage problems either. I could hold it all day long if I wanted to without any effort whatsoever.

March 5, 2009 at 12:57 pm
(604) m&m says:

I personally do not like anal sex. My husband on the other hand loves it. The only reason i have engaged in anal is to make my husband happy. i can’t stand all these comments of “if you do it right any woman can love anal” that’s just bs in my opinion. not everyone loves anal and not everyone hates it, that’s just the way it is. and in my case no matter how much lube, stimulation or gently it is done, it still hurts a bit. I frankly am not comfortable doing it and actually find the idea revolting, but i do it because my husband loves it and i feel our relationship would fall apart if i never gave it to him again. That being said, if you AND your partner want to try it and are comfortable doing it then go for it. just be safe about it. and you should never be guilted or forced into doing anything you don’t want to, if someone loves you they will not do that

March 5, 2009 at 1:40 pm
(605) Bruce says:

I agree with m&m, anal sex is not everybody’s cup of tea.Not everyone loves or can have orgasm with anal sex, Christ, there are lots of women out there who cant even have orgasm with normal vaginal sex!!! let alone anal sex. With time and keep checking on your man’s technique, m&m might just love anal sex in the end. I am glad that my wife can have orgasms with vaginal and anal sex everytime, and I dont have to force her into them. She hates swallowing my sperm, and yet I love watching her give me blow job and come into her mouth and watch her swallow it. It gives me great pleasure watching her swallow my sperm, but because she dislikes swallowing my sperm, she has only done it twice to please me and I have never forced her into swallowing it in over ten years of our marriage. Swallowing sperm is just not her cup of tea LOL. Also I know what it taste like, as I have gone down her after I have come, when I buried my face into her vagina with the labia widely stretched and I am covered in her juice and my sperm up to my eyeballs. Great fun, and she has to beg me to stop as it is just too stimulating for her.

March 5, 2009 at 2:47 pm
(606) LovemyJ says:

I agree with m&m’s comment that not everyone loves anal sex. I think that is sort of a given—obviously not everyone will love the same things.

I feel very sad for her that she thinks her marriage would actually fall apart if she didn’t want to do it again. A marriage is surely based on so much more than one particular sexual act? I do think that partners will do things they don’t care for just to please their partner, but I don’t think many do things that they find “revolting.” That is going way too far, and I would seriously question the love of my spouse if he insisted on my doing something I found to be revolting. That is a very strong negative emotion and it is not right to do anything that makes you feel that way.

As an aside, I believe it is m&m’s feelings of revulsion that will always make anal sex painful for her. How could anyone properly relax while doing something they hate that much? Simply not possible. It is her feelings that cause that. Her comment about it being bs to say “if you do it right any woman can love anal” is absolutely true concerning women who find the thought revolting to start with. It is not bs concerning women who are attracted to the idea.

I hope m&m applies the last sentence of her comment to herself. She should not be guilted into doing this if she feels so strongly against it and it sounds like her husband is “forcing” her in a way if she really believes their relationship would fall apart if she didn’t.

March 7, 2009 at 4:33 pm
(607) liva says:

My first sexual experience was anal, i have to say that i really like it and Mitch u are not old to try it im 27 and im married to 52 year old man, by the way he was my first sexual experience.

March 8, 2009 at 1:33 am
(608) Michelle says:

Anal sex is GREAT! My husband enters himself in me and I love it. I first tried it about two years ago without any lube and I must admit, it hurt like heck! Now, I would recommend lube- to get the feeling going.

March 8, 2009 at 2:31 am
(609) Tianca says:

I just want to say, I have read every one of these letters, and have learned a lot about you all, and anal sex.
I’m one of the lucky ones, and have a husband who is more than willing to explore anal sex with me. I’m 58, and my first marriage was 17 years, it was good. Sex was never our problem. It was great. But at the time I was believing all the religious crap, and frankly not interested in anal sex. It might have been aggravated by the fact that he didn’t bother asking me and just sprung it on me one night. After that, I wouldn’t even consider it.
I’m convinced now that had he talked to me about it, and taught me more about it, it would have gone quite differently for us.
First off, I’m a Healer, and discovered in my past lives that I was a Sexual Healer. For those of you that know anything about that, I specialized in Healing DNA on a molecular level, a very rare talent, I guess. Now this goes back some 12,560 years or so in history. And I was highly trained in the Sexual Arts back then. To make a long story very short, yes, I experienced anal sex back then, a lot of it.
So why in this life was I reluctant to even try it? The big thing I knew back then was that if your mind wasn’t into it, and your body wasn’t trained correctly, then it would hurt. You then have to deal with your body’s natural defence system. That means you mind would tell your body that anal sex was a bad thing, because it hurt, and you would reject any further tries to do it.
You have GOT to trust the person you are with, and in order for you to trust him, he has GOT to educate himself on how to train you ass correctly to relax and allow insertion.
This is very important. Once you can relax those muscles and train them to like it (because it is a very different feeling) you’ve got it made.
We used a form of mental telepathic hypnosis to relax the women. Once they were relaxed and properly stimulated sexually, they nearly always allowed insertion to happen. Then we concentrated on making sure the women loved anything we did anally. That was relatively easy, once they relaxed.
The anal muscles are exactly like any other muscle in your body. It can be trained to expand and become flexible. And yes, none were incontinent after sexual training. EXERCISE those muscles, and they will respond. It will take time for some, but the feeling of pleasure encourages further ‘exercise’.
If you give up, you train your mind that it was right not to like anal sex, and you may never be able to relax enough to truly enjoy anal sex.
It is NOT about domination or submission, it is about giving pleasure to the both of you. And that is what love is all about.
Forget the religions, they were created by man, not God. Forget the laws, they were also created by man. Even marriage was created by man, that is why divorce rates are so high.
This is only about you and your sexual partner, and loving your partner enough to want to please him/her sexually. Face it, people, the marriage won’t last long if the sex is not good and satisfying. That is a well proven fact.
So… if you want anal sex to feel good and satisfy you, you have got to relax, take it slow, and stop if it hurts. Women, play with yourself to loosen up those two muscles. Enjoy! Vibrators help, plugs help. In a few weeks, (for lack of a good Healer) you will make progress and open up to accept the penis. Tell yourself over and over to relax and breathe.
Fear makes you tense up, trust makes you open up. Remember that!!! You have got to have a partner you trust. Men, become a man they can trust, and you will reap rewards a lot more than anal sex. That’s just the bonus!!! The icing on the cake.
Try hypnosis self help tapes to teach yourself how to really relax, they work!!! Dick Sutphen has some really good ones. Those are what I use.
ABOVE all, teach yourself about how to have safe anal sex, get a book!!! Simple precaution are necessary, in this day and age. But it isn’t hard. Water based lubrication is recommended. Enjoy!!!
Tianca

March 8, 2009 at 3:38 am
(610) Michelle says:

I am 24 and have been married for 2 years. When I take off my wrangler’s jeans, my husband loves to do me in the butt. I, personally, love when he’s in me. But first we always have foreplay. I am giving him head while he and his tongue are doing their thing. Afterwards, I use PLENTY of lubricant. It slides in better! I stimulate my clitorus while he is thrusting in and out of me. When I am having an orgasm, I will shout like no tomorrow. He will cum in me while I am spreading my butt cheeks and he is holding my waist. He loves it when I am in total submissive/surrender to him! We will bathe ourselves and do it again…in a few hours. Same outcome, he cums in me. I never have the problem of my husbands cum dripping. Since I am an aerobics instructor, I am always stretching and leading others in stretching and exercising. There, I am in tights and nothing has ever dripped out of me. I guess I am blessed to have such an amazing husband who knows how to put cum in me!

March 8, 2009 at 1:43 pm
(611) Sunny says:

To all guys who is sharing life with those wonderful woman who enjoys anal sex and ask for it. Don’t forget her bithday and bring them flowers because you are lucky mans!

March 9, 2009 at 8:32 pm
(612) Michelle says:

I just had the greatest anal sex of my life. I used plenty of lube and had my husband enter his big cock into my butt. We did it until he came into me. I just love when he’s in total control!

March 9, 2009 at 10:28 pm
(613) Jack says:

Did not see any comments about ATM (A– to Mouth). Now THAT is hot! A woman who will do that is a TRUE Keeper!

March 10, 2009 at 5:41 pm
(614) Michelle says:

Jack (613), I love my husband. Before we have intimate sex, we both have (your definition- ATM). My husband is not insecure about himself especially when he does me in my butt. In fact, it was ME who initiated it to him. Now he is HOOKED! We have a happy marriage and I am a happy wife. He cums in me a lot now. I am proud of him and love him. Jack, I guess I am a “TRUE KEEPER.” I just responding to the other threads. Hope this helps, Jack.

March 10, 2009 at 5:54 pm
(615) Bruce says:

Hi Michelle. You keep saying you have just had the greatest anal sex, about your husband coming in your butt etc etc. But I did not see you saying you also have the greatest orgasm. I think true and genuine orgasms (particularly multiple orgasms like my wife; she can have three, one after the other for about five minutes with vaginal and anal sex) are still better than what you think is the greatest anal sex. Do you ever have orgasms with anal sex or just enjoy it. They are not the same. I think my wife is a better true keeper. Eventhough she dose not do ATM like Jack has suggested, because we are sensible enough not to run the risk of spreading infection to her vagina or mouth and guts.Its call common sense Jack.

March 10, 2009 at 11:52 pm
(616) Jack says:

Hey, Michelle (614). Thanks for responding, but are you sre you REALLY understood? I meant ATM, sure you know the meaning? It means him doing back door, then pulling it out and then you give him oral after. :-D
Any women here do that, and do any enjoy it??

March 11, 2009 at 3:28 am
(617) nancy says:

Jack. I bet you liked the “two girls one cup” video too. sicko. sucking a penis wet with lube and e.coli is just about as smart as eating feces and i’m sure you’ll find just about the same amount of women who are into it. good luck with that! maybe you should go look somewhere else (like a fetish site) NOT the women’s health section of about.com because I really don’t feel you are contributing to the original question here.

March 11, 2009 at 11:37 am
(618) daniel warhurst says:

hey there im daniel warhust from bowthorpe and i love anal sex wats wrong wiv it most girls nowadays have such big fannies its hard 2 get that nice tight feeling so i say anal all the way

March 11, 2009 at 10:06 pm
(619) Michelle says:

Hey Jack (617), you know, to be honest, I really didn’t quite understand the question…so thank you for your clarification. To answer it, yes, my husband and I have done it (ATM) quite a few times. It doesn’t get me sick to my stomach or anything or grose me out. I mean, that is my husband in me. When he pulls out, since he WAS in me, he cums in my mouth and I really don’t think anything of it (to be honest with you) just the enjoyment…for us both. I don’t know of many girls who do it with their husbands like this. I am the type of girl who just enjoys my husband all around. He’ll never do me vaginally and then anally. You can get UTIs this way. Once again, to answer your question: yes. I love it and enjoy it! I hope I answered your original question, Jack.

March 11, 2009 at 11:08 pm
(620) Michelle says:

Hello Bruce (615). Good question! When my husband and I are making love, I get multiple orgasms both vaginally or anally. I tend to have multiple orgasms when I am on top of my husband and we are doing it vaginally, with a condom. Whenever we do it without a condom, my body literally lights up! When I have a MASSIVE orgasm and when he is about to go, I immediately get off and finish it with my mouth and we ’69′ each other. He will cum (it feels by the quarts!) in my mouth. I will have an out-of-this-world experience this way.

WHen we have anal sex, I will shout, lose myself and have a great orgasm when my husband goes fast. Especially when he is near to go. When my husband first inserts his fingers into my butt (foreplay), I get a GREAT feeling. When he doesn’t use his condom and does me from my butt, WOW! I will not fight his cock from entering. I will relax and enjoy it entering in me. Then, I will have a great orgasm. Since we have no children yet, I will rock the bedroom anytime of the day. So Bruce, I enjoy it so much I have multipe orgasms to the very point of me not being able to catch up to my heartbeat. It feels amazing when my husband cums in me (I’m sure your wife can agree =). I have yet to experience three orgasms, anally. I cannot believe I left that one out! I hope this answers your question. you men know what is GOOD for us!

March 12, 2009 at 9:14 am
(621) recently engaged says:

I DON’T MIND ENGANGING IN ANAL SEX ,BUT MY FIANCE IS VERY BORING IN BED WE DO JUST THE REGULAR POSITIONS WE HAVE ORAL SEX ALSO.THE THING IS THAT WITH MY EX RELATIONSHIP I HAD ANAL SEX ON THE REGULAR AND NOW I GET NONE .WE HAVE HAD IT ONCE OR TWICE BUT NOT ENOUGH…I LOVE THE SEX WE DO HAVE BUT ANAL TAKES ME TO ANOTHER LEVEL

March 12, 2009 at 2:31 pm
(622) Bruce says:

Hello Michelle
Good to hear from you. Great to read your fantastic sex life. May be you and I should get together some time to try out all our fantastic sex skills and see if we can get better sex. LOL. That was just my FANTASY for about 5 minutes. Just a little curious, why do you sometimes use condoms and sometimes not?
Also, I think if you really want to have three multiple orgasms anally or vaginally, you should tell your husband to keep pumping steadily for longer and not cuming until you have had your three or more orgasms, only then he can cum. Once you have your first orgasm, the sensation will calm down a little bit while your husband carries on pumpin away and then you will feel the orgasm sensation returns again to reach another orgasm, and the cycle will repeat itself as long as your husband keeps on thrusting into you without cuming, and then he can cum. This can take about 15 to 20 minutes from your first orgasm to the 3rd one like my wife can. ALso like you said about how you feel when your husband cums, when I cum my wife feels great because she can feel my penis pulsating with each squirt of my cum. Lastly I wish my wife is more willing to let me come in her mouth and to swallow it like you more often. She has only done that twice ever. Still. I cant complain. She is a great woman all round, not just with sex.

March 12, 2009 at 4:47 pm
(623) oliver robinson says:

hey there people i totaly agree wiv (618) dainel. i love anal its tight and it feels good and the woman needs to be treated rough and with little resepect sumtimes cos lets face wat else are they here for. i sumtimes put dog treats on my wife’s arse and get the dog 2 lick it off and i love anal dry with no lube it makes her scream bt i stil like it u woman need 2 get a grip. im a;ways interested in meetin new girls so call me on 07901966590

March 12, 2009 at 5:13 pm
(624) Gary says:

I like anal sex ans so does my loving wife. We have been married for 25 years and for the first 15 she did not really like it. I never pushed her. Once in a while she would push he ass into my in a way that I kew what she wanted. Now she initiates it more often. I ocasionally ask when we will do it again but I never push. I understand that many women do not like it, do not want to try it, si why push them to do something they do not want. Not all me will eat a woman. Why, I do not no as nothing turns me on more then to bring my wife to orgasm. 90% of our sexual encounters begin with me bring her to oral orgasm,and then we have intercourse. I have some ED problems with necessary pain medications, but after making my wife cum, all my ED problems are over.

March 12, 2009 at 7:09 pm
(625) Michelle says:

Bruce,
What a jerk! This is my second threat I am writing. I was so mad at you and oscar robinson (623) I forgot to include my URL; so I lost my original two page thread.

In a nutshell to both of your jerks, get a life! When I am practically drinking my husbands cum, I’ll be thinking about what you’re missing!

March 12, 2009 at 9:51 pm
(626) Jack Blunt says:

You go girl, Michelle (619,620, 624)! Yeah, Bruce sounds like an uptight dork. I’d just ignire him. By the way, I am NOT married, and too bad you are, cuz you sound AWESOME!
If you’re ever single, let me know first, ha.

And Nancy (617), you should loosen up too. How can ATM NOT be relevant to this chat? It’s added a whole new angle here, and if you can read, there ARE women who actually do it AND like it!

If anyone thinks ATM is stupid (it IS risky and dirty–DUH), then they’re idiots to say that AND be on this site at all in the first place! LOL.

March 12, 2009 at 9:57 pm
(627) Jack Blunt says:

PS, I’m Jack (613,616), and meant Michelle (625), not (624). Either way, I like Michelle!! Any single Michelle’s out there?

:-D

March 13, 2009 at 3:38 am
(628) Jeannine says:

I first tried anal about 18 years ago when my husband and I were first together and didnt really think much of it and basically did it at his request(s) then about 3 years ago we decided to give it another go and this time I had the biggest orgasm I had ever had! We usually start out with him giving me head so Im pretty wet and he will finger my vagina while doing it,just to tease me he will move his fingers near my anus and just slightly touch it then go back to my vagina, he’ll do this ubtil Im begging him to give me anal.
He has to take it slowly and be gentle.. at first then when IM ready I’ll let him slam me so hard that Im nearly going through the wall!! I guess anal is one of those things that hardly any girl admits doing but alot probably are. I remember a friends very drunk husband once said that when he got her home he was going to @#$% up the bum because she liked it so much, all the women there just tried to change the subject, but all the men looked at their partners and smiled, later we found out that out of the four couples there, all of us were into anal.
Its weird isnt it? That we can easily brag about how good we are in bed or how great we are at giving head but when it comes to anal we dont want to own up to it. So Im here to tell you that not only do I love having anal sex, and have the most explosive orgasms from it, but I think Im pretty dam good at it!
And for those who want to criticise it or make those who do it feel shameful or dirty, tell me this, if you’ve never tried it, how do you know its bad? If the thought of it makes you sick, how did you end up in this topic? And for those who maybe want to give it a shot… just remember three things…
1. He has to be gentle
2. He has to go slowly
3. And you need to be relaxed

March 13, 2009 at 9:51 am
(629) oliver robinson says:

michelle u want to shut ur trap i bet ur sum 60 stone ugly whore thats y u love ur husbands cum so much they do say the bigger girls try harder. yea i am a jerk and im sure i stil get more action than u do. u stupid slut

March 13, 2009 at 1:32 pm
(630) JL says:

This is a great site for those of us who find anal sex to be erotic, sexy and an unbelievable way to connect between two people who love and trust each other.We have learned to enjoy this form of lovemaking and find it to be not only amazing in it’s feeling, but also a way to show each other the trust we share and the complete openess we have with each other. We would never want to replace vaginal sex with anal, so we choose to have anal on an occasional basis to keep it special. My girl has some of the most explosive orgasms thru anal sex and seeing and feeling her respond to me inside her very beautiful ass gives me orgasms like no other. We also enjoy oral play and the feeling of a warm tongue licking, sucking and probing that special area sends us both into orbit. We, like so many others here, learned by practicing and of course going slow and preparing for anal by using anal foreplay and lots of good quality lube. Once you have mastered the fine art of anal sex, you will want to make it a part of your lovemaking on a regular or occasional basis as we have. To those on this site who make anal sex sound disgusting or try to make it that way by saying filthy comments, you are simply showing your stupidity and lack of commonsense. If a woman does not enjoy anal sex, then a man should not force it upon her. And a woman should not feel she needs to give it to “save” her marriage. If your marriage needs saving thru anal sex, then it does not sound worth saving to me. Any form of sex should be enjoyed and shared pleasurably between two people and not used as a tool to get what you want or keep what you want. I really don’t get the ATM thing on here. Why would anybody want to put a penis in their mouth during or immediately after anal sex? And why would any man think that a woman is a “keeper” if she does? ATM in my opinion and mine only is a way to degrade and humiliate a woman. And why would you want to risk your health with such an unclean act? However, to each their own and if that’s your thing, then have at it! I feel that anything that two people agree upon and enjoy in bed is just fine. That’s all I got to say about that. (Forrest Gump)

March 13, 2009 at 4:43 pm
(631) Bruce says:

Michelle
I am disappointed that you actually misunderstood me.My whole last email was actually paying you compliments, and glad that you are my type of woman when it comes to love making. anyhow, the ways that you have responded to various blogs, I have come to think that you are a very contradictory woman of all the things you have said. You are a very explosive and moody person. I think you are just a fantacist, imagining all those sex acts and your orgasms are in your fantasy. Not worth talking to you really. I think we are all a bunch of sad gits, telling each other about our anal sex experience. Basically, anal sex is OK. If you like it fine. If you dont, what’s the big deal. Sex can be enjoyed in different ways. Good relationship, love, caring and sex should all be together. I’m signing myself off permanantly from this sad blogs.

March 13, 2009 at 4:56 pm
(632) Michelle says:

Jack Blunt, pleasure to meet you. I cannot stand insolent jerks like Bruce and oscar robinson. I see jerks like them, daily, at my gym. Jerks like them are the reason why divorce rate is high in America. They don’t appreciate us women. They see me and instantly, they think I’m arrogant…poor jugdment.

oscar robinson, judging on your grammar, you sound like a foreign teenager who cannot find a date to your OWN prom. You should be lucky because I received my B.A (Bachelor of Arts) degree in English. I am a certified teacher so let me educate you buddy, treat women with respect! (I am taking a year off from teaching to do something that I truly love: dancing and teaching aerobics). I bet you’re 19, had a tough time in high school and are living at home with your parents.

Like they say, ‘those who swear are ignorant and use it as a substitution for a lack of education’.

some 60 year old? Whenever I try to assist anybody online and when they disagree, I get that quite a number of times. In actuality pal, I just turned 24 and am happily married. Jerks like you are the ones who are envious (express jealousy) of my husband. At least I turn heads when I wear my wrangler jeans (cowboy/cowgirl western jeans) and you turn everyone else’s for the wrong reasons- “Oh crap, oscar robinson cannot fit into his XXXL super-sized jeans! Let’s help him get off!”

p.s. don’t correspond to me. I am here to help others and to educate them from my own experience. Did I make myself clear? I meant in English to say that this is an online women’s health forum- not eharmony.com. Find a real job and get a hobby.

By the way, do women enjoy anal sex? Yes. I do. Keep this thread going by answering the question. This is for WOMEN you jerk!

March 13, 2009 at 6:04 pm
(633) sandra says:

I enjoy anal sex very much with my current partner. We usually have anal sex after we have had quite a long session of oral and vaginal sex, especially during the time of the month when it is not safe for my partner to ejaculate in my vagina. Actually, birth control is more the excuse than the reason we have anal sex, because the fact is we both enjoy it very much, and I expect we’ll continue to have it after I have passed the menopause. My experiences of anal sex with previous partners were not so good – it usually hurt – but despite that I was very keen to try anal sex with my current partner, and I’m glad I had the courage, because it is a very intensive experience which I would not want to miss. It started with my current partner by accident, soon after we first met, when I was looking through his bookshelf and came across some books about anal sex. I told him I was interested in it too, and borrowed some of the books. Reading the books increased my desire enormously, and I wanted to try it with my (then quite new) boyfriend. In preparing myself I examined my anus with a mirror and was a bit worried by its appearance, as there were some folds of skin apparently hanging out. I looked this up on the internet and learnt that it is quite common in women following childbirth, and is nothing to worry about; it is not haemorrhoids. I also visited a proctologist and told her I planned to have anal sex, and wanted a check-up. I was pleasantly surprised by her positive attitude; she was very supportive, and after examining me told me that everything was as it should be, and that there was nothing to stop me having fun. She was a fairly young, attractive woman and it surprised me that a doctor like her would choose this field to specialise in. She told me she liked helping people to accept and enjoy their anuses; I didn’t ask her directly, but I got the impression she was herself a fan of anal sex. She kindly wrote on my insurance claim form an excuse for visiting her that did not mention my interest in anal sex, to save me the embarrassment.

A girlfriend of mine gave me a good type about lube to use. We now use an oily lube that is more effective and lasts longer than the water-based lubes we used at first. My partner usually starts by licking my anus, which I enjoy, and then slides a lubed thumb inside. After I have got used to having the thumb inside me, he slides a second thumb in and gently pulls my anus apart. Soon it is time for him to enter me with his penis. We have a special foam cushion which I lie on face down and my bottom is at the right height and angle for him to enter. He goes very slowly at first, and usually I like him to withdraw for a short breathing pause and then he enters again. I like him to stay still for a while my anal muscles relax. Soon I am ready for him to start thrusting. I like it when he bites the back of my neck and I try to turn my head and kiss him while he is thrusting in my bottom. Often I have intensive orgasms with him inside my anus. I like it when he comes in my anus but he doesn’t always. Usually after anal sex we just embrace and relax together and that is the end of our sex session. I wouldn’t say that anal sex dominates our sex life – we still have oral and vaginal sex more often than anal – but I would certainly not want to do without anal sex.

March 14, 2009 at 2:05 am
(634) Sami_Kay says:

doesn’t you butt hole stay stretched out eventually?
and can it really be good that you push your poo back the way it came? that can’t be very healthy..

March 14, 2009 at 2:18 am
(635) Normann S. says:

>> Sami_Kay

poo doesn’t stay in the rectum all the time, you push it down when u want/need to..

You speak like a doctor btw, are u??

You lack knowledge and your imagination is too lame,, educate ur self first before making poor judgments.

March 14, 2009 at 2:32 am
(636) Normann S. says:

>> Michelle,,

Stop pretending to be a sexy woman,, you freakin’ gay!!!

you leave a trail with every post .. gay gay gay!

— i have no problem with gays,, just with fakes! sickoo

March 14, 2009 at 4:10 am
(637) Sami_Kay says:

Norman S that is why i am looking at posts. my boyfriend is very in to it. i have never had anyone so much as play with that area of my body. so i was curious. asking questions is how you learn things right? obviously a lot of people on this site enjoy and do it. so i can take a pretty good guess that they know more about it that i do.
and i am not a doctor lol. ty for the compliment?

March 14, 2009 at 11:24 am
(638) Michelle says:

Hi Bruce,

Moody? Hello!! I am a girl you know. Please think twice about leaving this forum. I never meant to take it out on you. I did get upset over your, “you and I get together” (or something to that effect) comment. Please think twice. Educate yourself from other women here.

March 14, 2009 at 11:39 am
(639) Michelle says:

Hello Normann S.

Gay? Stop pretending to be sexy? Gosh, I now heard it all. That offends me greatly! Hello!! I am a straight as an arrow and truly, madly, deeply in love with one man: my husband.

I have no problems with the GLBT population, but totally disagree with their lifestyle and their choices. In fact, my hair dresser, co-worker, boss, mailman, etc. happens to be gay. My shopping partner (who is a gay man)happens to know the styles of clothing and makeup better than I do. Am I less of a woman? Heck no.

Stop prentending to be sexy? What?! Maybe you’re the scores of people who show envy towards a girl like me. In fact, I know you do. My sex life are what dreams are made of and you cannot keep up with that. I think you owe me a MASSIVE apology!

March 15, 2009 at 7:20 am
(640) Brian Wayne says:

Now for some contraversy:
As a 46 year old male, I am convinced that the rise in anal sex is directly related to the availability and rise of anal sex in the adult film industry. Today, n nearly every hardcore film released since the 90′s has included anal sex as a regular sex act. Additionally, most adult films today end with the woman taking the money shot in the face, or mouth including swallowing.
Is it a coincidence that with the rise of the internet and the ease of access to such films, that both acts, anal and oral swallowing have become very popular with today’s young women?
I am a firm believer that access to media (in this case porn) leads the cart, not the other way around. They see it in films, thus it’s considered normal.
Entering adulthood in the 1980′s only a real hardcore male sexual pervert got away with such acts on a regular basis and only the “sluts” would comply. Today, thanks to Adult Films leading the way, the pervert’s dream has come true. Women have been convinced that these degrading acts are normal and seem to comply at a much higher rate than ever before.
Whether such acts are degrading or not are up for debate, but surely one can agree with the idea that youth’s watching such acts displayed as “routine” have brought anal and oral facials into the mainstream??

March 15, 2009 at 1:37 pm
(641) Sami_Kay says:

Brian Wayne, I totally agree. My current boyfriend’s first sex partner was into anal. That’s all she wanted. Starting his butt fetish. Then slowly he got more and more into anal sex videos. Which has lead to very disturbing, for me anyway, videos. He thinks I am going to do them, heck no. He wants to, as you said “the money shot.” Isn’t sex supposed to be showing how much you love and care about someone? Honestly anal is just f*cking.

March 16, 2009 at 6:18 pm
(642) Michelle says:

Hi guys,

If you’re making love and you’re experiencing an amazing orgasm you cannot hold back. You have children stay with you; how would you explain what they were hearing in the bedroom? Please advise.

March 16, 2009 at 7:54 pm
(643) Sami_Kay says:

Play a movie, if you have a TV or laptop. Or play music. Not ridiculously loud. Just loud enough that that is all any outsiders will hear.

March 17, 2009 at 2:30 am
(644) Indian says:

I enjoy sex especially seeing my wife having sex with some other man and at times with three men at a time… We have done that two times now and we once went to for a site seeing in Aaustralia and there I made her wear all the hot clothes which made men look at her and soon four guys were screwing her on an open land…I also joined them…she enjoyed it and she told me that she liked being raped and like wild sex. Anal sex is wht she is enjoying the most.

I am just concerned about one thing is that she like guys to leak on her face and mouth.

March 17, 2009 at 10:53 am
(645) JJ says:

Indian,you sound like a Doctor…are you?And Michelle,I really hope you don’t breath on your friends and fellow aerobics partners after you do ATM.Talk about a potty mouth! Yuck!!!!I thought Oliver Robinson was a sicko.But Michelle,you win the battle of the sickos on here.And why on earth would Bruce fantasize about a woman who eats her own poo!Yuck again!

March 17, 2009 at 5:57 pm
(646) Michelle says:

Hi JJ, I have a question for you: WHAT!?

March 17, 2009 at 9:00 pm
(647) Michelle says:

(645), you’re a jerk! You have too much time on your hands…literally. Are you keeping track of my threads? Great! You’ll learn something.

You leave my husband out of this right now! He never once complained about “ATM” or something to that effect. Why should a jerk like you complain? You leave Bruce out of this, too.

Are you buds with Oliver Robinson? Exploring a womans forum. Interesting.

March 18, 2009 at 3:31 pm
(648) can u please give me some advice says:

Michelle,

ok i am asking u cuz u seem like someone that knows wat u r talking about.so this is my problem, i am very interested in trying anal and i have looked up a lot of things about it as far as how it should be done and how it should be brought up and i have found that there r ways to prevent it from hurting as long as u take ur time and let her adjust and let her go at her speed and not mine. i love her with all my heart but she does not want to try it at all and i dont want to push her into it cuz i love her and dont want to hurt her but i just cant stop thinking about it i want to just say ok u dont have to worry about it cuz i dont want to push u or make u feel like u have to do it cuz i want to, but i cant cuz it is always on my mind wen we have sex especially wen we do 69 cuz i can see that beautiful butt of hers right in front of me and i want nothing more than to just make love to it! i have tried so hard to just forget about it but i cant, i have mentioned it to her and she is not into the idea at all. recently while doing 69 i did stick my finger in her butt slowly and right around the time wen she was about to have an orgasm and the way her body moved it seemed like it felt good for her, she says that she did not like it at all and it made her feel like she needed to go poop. i was wondering if u could possibly give me some advice on wat to do or on how to aproach it or anything i really need some help with this so if u could i would greatly appreciate it.

p.s. thank u in advance

March 18, 2009 at 7:18 pm
(649) Michelle says:

Well, first off, thank you for seeking me. I am, by no means a medical expert or anything like that.

I cannot give or offer advice because what may work for me and my husband may not work for you and vice versa. We have been married for two years now so that alone doesn’t qualify us for anything.

Anyhow, what turns me on like fire when we have anal sex is when my husband licks my anus’ perimeter. He will then enter his tongue in me and simulate a thrusting motion with his tongue. No complaints there. I have nerve endings that I feel he, literally, ignites…I mean every last one! (I am serious about this)- please forgive me but when I am walking around our home in my workout clothes (XL t-shirt and tights), I can get him to do just about anything.

I don’t experience as much pain when my husband enters in me anymore. Don’t get me wrong, it does hurt because there is something entering in me. But the pain goes away but turns into a numbing sensation when he begins to thrust. He will go slow and then pick up the pace and then repeat the cycle. What I do is have my butt cheeks spread while in the doggy style position. He will hold my waist and at times, pull my butt cheeks apart. I love to look at the mirror to see him thrusting in me!

Once again, my husband, indeed, sticks his fingers in me. He is my husband. I cannot speak for your girlfriend, but I love when my husband licks me. I really hope this helps. Take care.

March 18, 2009 at 7:55 pm
(650) Vicky says:

I believe that anal sex should be kept between responsible adults as well as couples. If this is someting that you enjoy if not to each his own it is not for everyone. Do I enjoy it very much but it took for mr to meet my husband in order for me to even consider it but when i did try it I loved it and I amhooked we son’t do it every time we have sex be I do enjoy it occasionally.If you are going to try it partake with lots of lub and extra lub

March 18, 2009 at 10:35 pm
(651) Tired of Michelle says:

Hey JJ, your post made me laugh out loud. I don’t think Michelle understood it, which didn’t surprise me as her ignorance and immaturity are overwhelming. I still can’t tell from what she’s posted that she actually understood what Jack meant by ATM even though his description was explicit.

Michelle, Jack didn’t mean just licking the anus. He meant that after your husband was thrusting inside your ass, pulling it out and immediately putting his cock (covered with e-coli bacteria) inside your mouth! That’s what JJ was joking about by calling you a potty mouth, literally if not figuratively.

Even you posted about the dangers of UTIs, so why on earth would you want to put it inside your mouth right after it came out of your ass? If it is too hazardous to put in your vagina, do you really think it’s a great idea to put it inside your mouth??? It’s really stupid and I am pretty sure the majority of people who enjoy anal sex would never consider it–not the responsible ones who believe in practicing good health. So your proud proclamation of loving it in response to Jack’s inquiry was one of the many things you’ve posted that made you lose all credibility in my eyes.

But your response to JJ (regarding ATM) once again made it sound like you don’t know what it is. JJ never said anything about your husband complaining. Why would he? The nasty e-coli is going inside your mouth, not his. It could only feel good to him regardless of the health risks you’d be incurring. Duh! I do find it hard to imagine that any man who truly loves and respects the woman would want to do that.

Your response to JJ about tracking your posts is also laughable. Right now I bet most readers are wondering if it’s possible to NOT see your posts. You have posted more than anyone else since this website began. It’s impossible to avoid you even if we wanted to.

Why that last guy (649) actually thought that you know what you’re talking about is amazing. There are way more knowledgeable posts throughout this website. You come across as a very immature girl who is too full of herself. Seriously, why do you feel the need to make comments like “please forgive me but when I am walking around our home in my workout clothes (XL t-shirt and tights), I can get him to do just about anything.” I think we all get it that you think you’re the hottest stuff on the planet. You brag about yourself in almost every post, which actually makes you sound like you’re very insecure inside because most women who are self confident don’t feel the need to broadcast stuff like this.

March 19, 2009 at 10:56 am
(652) Miah says:

I have aquestion, I enjoy anal sex a lot. fingers, toys, my boyfriend’s penis. The thing is, that, even though I make sure I’m clean before we start, I fantasize that poop is coming out because it arouses me to think about it. I have had dirty anal before and It was very sexy. Via cam, i do that with men and women who have the same fetish. it is a lot more common than i thought. i love watching other place toys there and pull them out dirty. is there something wrong with me?

March 19, 2009 at 11:09 am
(653) miah says:

To all those women and men who say that women do not prefer anal sex, SPEAK FOR YOURSELF! I love anal sex. I have never been abused or talked into doing it. i have always enjoyed masturbating that way and i was the one to bring it up with my boyfriends. nothing feels better to me and if i like it why not? by the way, i have a very high self esteem, i am beautiful, nice, very smart, a great mom and wife, and because i am good to others, i am good to myself, so i allow myself to enjoy the things i like, like chocolate, steak, pate, working out, and yes, anal play.

March 19, 2009 at 12:54 pm
(654) Laura says:

Miah, I think most people here agree with the concept “to each their own,” even if we might personally think what you’re doing is gross, so I don’t see the point in asking if there is something wrong with you as you did in comment 652.

What is interesting is how you changed in comment 653! In your first comment, you talk about loving your boyfriend’s fingers seeing poo. In your second comment you refer to being a great mom and wife and enjoying anal play! Having a boyfriend on the side conflicts with that image, don’t you think? Is it the boyfriend that you’re doing the dirty anal stuff with on cam? Anyway, it’s like posts from two different people: Mr. Hyde and Dr. Jekyll! LOL

March 19, 2009 at 12:57 pm
(655) Laura says:

Oops. I left the word “and” out after boyfriend’s fingers…hate typos!

March 19, 2009 at 3:13 pm
(656) JJ says:

Laura(654)Thank you for getting what i was saying to Michelle(647)And thank you for your insite and well phrased comments.Michelle is lacking in her understanding of many comments about her on this site.And no Michelle,i do not look you up intentionally,it’s just that you say such strange things that it is not hard to notice you.I enjoy this site vary much and have a great,no fantastic anal sex life with my girl.It really bonds us together and creates an amazing closeness we both charish.As for Miah(652)as Laura said,each to their own.However,you ask is there someting wrong with you because you enjoy seeing poo and your husbands fingers and penis and have a major poo fetish….well of course there is!That is usually a womans greatest fear when having anal sex,but for you it’s a turn on.Michelle likes eating her own poo and you Miah like seeing your own poo.May i suggest that you and Michelle get together and have one giant poo fest.Michelle can put her husbands E-Coli covered penis in her mouth while you watch her do it.Presto!Two freaky needs met at the same time.How good is that?And Michelle,you claim to have a BA in english.Well it is obvious that you have a PHD in analology because people are now “seeking” you out for your sage advise.I am happy for you that you can get anything you want from your husband when you wear your XL cloths and parade around the house.Please don’t let hubby kiss you after you do ATM!Safety first!

March 19, 2009 at 6:06 pm
(657) Michelle says:

(651) and JJ. Tired of me? What is WRONG with you people!! Why are you two attacking me? Leave me alone.

I don’t claim to know anything compared to most folks on this very site. I mean, what do you expect from me? A Ph.D. in what?

Why don’t both of you jerks move out of your momma’s house and find a job!

ps. I understood what Jack meant. I’m sorry for making that commitment at 8 years old promising not to have sex until marriage. I guess my lack of knowledge is finally haunting me.

March 19, 2009 at 9:11 pm
(658) can u please give me some advice says:

michelle,

thank u for the tips i really appreciate them but i was actually wondering if u knew anything that i could talk to her about to warm her up to the idea like wen u were new to the whole thing wat did u think and how did u end up trying anal sex. was it a spur of the moment thing or something that took u awhile to think about and start to feel comfortable with? wat kind of lubes do u use and do u prepare urself before u do it as far as enemas or going to the bathroom?

well anyways thank u for ur help i was just wondering if u could answer some more questions.

and for everybody else that would like to help me out there help would be greatly appreciated to

March 20, 2009 at 3:49 am
(659) Sarah says:

can you please give me advice

i wasnt up for anal the first time my bf brought it up. not untill maybe the thentch or 15th time did i go for it. the ass hole is a muscle. you have to loosen it. as your gf if it is ok if you put a finger in there. build up to three. if she is ok see if anal is alright, let her know if she isn’t comfy with it that you wont pressure her. if sh says no. tell her you are sorry. and keep doing the finger( i she is ok with it) it is def. not someting everyone is into. way dif. from normal sex. if she says it isn’t somethoing she wants maybe you arent sexally in tune. idk. you say you love her so yuo should e ok with what hse wants. it took me many many mionths to build up to anal. now bf and i thats all we do. occasionally we have reg vag sex but not much. just becareful, build up to it. if she is uncomfy wait a while, if yuo love her then it will be worth it.
i wish you and your gf the best of luck.
sarah

March 20, 2009 at 3:58 am
(660) sarah says:

can you please give me advice.

my bf and i didn;t use lube till last night, we used spit and my cum from him fingering me.
we bought a brand called equate personal lubricant, it was different(i think since we never used lube before) (he is my anal virginity) it was nice. it didn;t hurt as much. when yuo guys get there (if you do) use a vibrator on the clit or have her (or you) rub the clit. it helps you (as the girl) to relax. when bf and i started anal sex i was on these sites trying to find diff. positions and such so it wouldn;t hurt, i found spooning not to be soo bad. just go at her pace (when she is ready) know it is slow. but at first it really does hurt. my first time i bled. and i was scared to death.
if yuo have any more questions please email me. mesam04@yahoo.com

it is a friends but we share it.
she was new to anal too. so you can ask us both if yuo want.
i will let her know.

March 20, 2009 at 7:07 am
(661) Michelle says:

658,

Hi. Just treat her right. The hidden thought/message is love. Tired of me and JJ wouldn’t know anything about this!

I was introduced to anal sex when a group of us girls were talking about it while our husbands/boyfriends were making a bar-b- que. I initiated the talk to my husband and now, he is HOOKED. We do it at least once or twice a week.

I will try to answer any question(s) you may have. I hope this helps. Take care.

March 20, 2009 at 12:14 pm
(662) Laura says:

To can u please give me some advice,

You said in your original question that your gf has stated quite plainly that she does not want to try it at all. This is a very big hurdle for you to overcome (which you might not be able to do) and I find it funny that people are trying to give you tips on how to do the actual act when you’re trying to find out how to get your gf to even CONSIDER doing it at all.

How long have you two been together? Anal sex is something that requires a great deal of love and TRUST—without that, she will never be able to relax enough for it not to hurt. You can use all the lube in the world but if she can’t relax, it’s still going to hurt. So this is why I ask how long you have been together. How well do you really know each other? You need to take the time to really know each other well. Talk with her and find out why she is not interested in even trying it. How open is she to trying new things in general? Does she enjoy trying new restaurants and foods that she’s never tried before? Is she adventurous in anyway? Open-minded in general? If she is, then you’re going to have a much better chance of eventually getting her to consider it.

Everything always begins with good communication. A lot of women are very fastidious about cleanliness (especially with that area of the body) and their main hangup about even trying anal sex is the absolute terror that they won’t be clean inside and that there will be a mess. The two of you should be close enough to discuss all fears and wishes about anything at all without embarrassment. If you are not at that point in your relationship, then even thinking about doing this with her is extremely premature. So the first order of business is to get to know each other thoroughly and build up your relationship to the point of having the love and trust that is required.

March 20, 2009 at 2:20 pm
(663) Tired of Michelle says:

Michelle, I actually felt a little sorry for you yesterday in your post (657) when you asked me and the other person, JJ, to leave you alone. Honestly, I felt the one post to you was more than sufficient to give you things to ponder over and hadn’t planned to say anything else to you again. And I felt sorry for my part when you seemed so upset. I thought to myself “OK, just leave the twit alone.” (Although you had no problem lashing out at Bruce when he had actually paid you a compliment, to the point of making him leave the website. Another sign of your lack of comprehension skills: You were unable to tell that he was actually complementing you.)

Then I see your subsequent “attack” in comment (661) this morning. You ask me to leave you alone but feel free to continue on yourself. A further demonstration of your lack of intelligence, I see.

So here is my response to your ridiculous post in (657) My comments will be in caps, not as in “shouting,” but as in distinguishing them from yours:

“(651) and JJ. Tired of me? What is WRONG with you people!! Why are you two attacking me? Leave me alone.”

YOU DON’T MIND SAYING WHATEVER YOU FEEL LIKE TO BRUCE AND OTHER PEOPLE—WHY THE HECK SHOULD YOU BE SPARED? IF YOU CAN’T STAND THE HEAT, GET OUT OF THE KITCHEN.

“I don’t claim to know anything compared to most folks on this very site. I mean, what do you expect from me? A Ph.D. in what?”

OH REALLY? IN FACT, YOU HAVE VERY MUCH CLAIMED TO KNOW MORE THAN OTHER PEOPLE. HERE’S A CLASSIC QUOTE FROM YOU IN POST (632): “You should be lucky because I received my B.A (Bachelor of Arts) degree in English. I am a certified teacher so let me educate you buddy,”

WOW, YOU HAVE A B.A. IN ENGLISH WHEN YOUR WRITING IS ABSOLUTELY TERRIBLE. YOU DON’T MAKE ANY SENSE HALF THE TIME AND YOUR READING COMPREHENSION SKILLS APPEAR TO BE ALMOST NONEXISTENT. WHO DO YOU TEACH—PRESCHOOL KIDS? ANYBODY ANY OLDER WOULD CERTAINLY NOT TAKE YOU SERIOUSLY.

AND HERE YOU GO AGAIN IN THE VERY SAME POST: “Whenever I try to assist anybody online and when they disagree, I get that quite a number of times.” MAYBE PEOPLE DISAGREE BECAUSE THEY CAN SEE YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU’RE TALKING ABOUT.

ALSO IN THE SAME POST: “I am here to help others and to educate them” DOES THIS SOUND LIKE SOMEONE WHO HASN’T CLAIMED TO KNOW ANYMORE THAN ANYONE ELSE?

“Why don’t both of you jerks move out of your momma’s house and find a job!”
CLASSIC IMMATURE MICHELLE COMMENT…

“ps. I understood what Jack meant.” THEN YOU REALLY DO PRACTICE ATM? INTERESTING THAT YOU’RE PICKY ABOUT WHAT GOES INTO YOUR VAGINA BUT NOT YOUR MOUTH.

“I’m sorry for making that commitment at 8 years old promising not to have sex until marriage. I guess my lack of knowledge is finally haunting me.”

OK, YOU’VE COMPLETELY LOST ME ON THIS COMMENT. WHAT HAS THIS GOT TO DO WITH ANYTHING THAT HAS EVER BEEN SAID? IT’S LIKE YOUR FEEBLE BRAIN CAN’T COPE WITH IT ALL AND SIMPLY BROKE DOWN…THE ONLY SENSIBLE STATEMENT HERE IS YOUR ADMISSION OF LACK OF KNOWLEDGE.

OK, CAN WE ALL GO BACK TO ACTUALLY BEING HELPFUL ON THIS WEBSITE? MICHELLE DO YOURSELF AND EVERYONE ELSE A FAVOR AND SIMPLY DON’T RESPOND.

March 20, 2009 at 4:55 pm
(664) Tianca says:

I have a question.
How can you have a B.A. in English, which assumes that you went to college, and you talk about your lack of education in sexual matters? Doesn’t college require Sexual Education in the curriculum? Not to mention Psychology? High schools teach those classes these days. You have to have those classes to get a degree of any sort.

Tianca

March 20, 2009 at 5:26 pm
(665) JJ says:

Wow!Looks like a literal dog pile on Michelle.It would appear to me that Tired of Michelle(663)knows Michelle better than Michelle knows herself.Well done and said!And i could not agree more with Tianca’s take as well.After the last two comments michelle,your going to have one very happy husband seeing that you have just been cut a second anus!Please share with all us anal lovers on here your new found joy!And i am sure will will have no problem in comprehending the comments in the last three posts since you do have a B.A. in English,look good in your wranglers,teach aerobics and eat your own poo!

March 20, 2009 at 10:08 pm
(666) Michelle says:

Go to hell!

March 20, 2009 at 10:28 pm
(667) luv2learn says:

I am new to this sight, just happen to b scoutn around which lead to my comments. I am married almost 20 yrs and, like any other marriage I suppose, it’s been a roller coaster ride but, here we are still 2gether; yet, no happy, at least not sexually.

My wife and I have made passionate love with each other in many ways, including anal but; the anal sex has been nothing but a long forgotten memory and I have always enjoyed it even before we met. I go out of my way to please her but I cannot receive the same. She refuses to have anal sex with me even though we have done it before. I am to the point where I am ready to seek other women who enjoy this and are looking for someone to share just this part of intimacy with. That’s my story and I’d appreciate any suggestions from anyone, good or bad, about what I should or should not do.

March 21, 2009 at 12:36 am
(668) Michelle says:

663, JJ and Tianca,

Wow! Where to first begin. First off, Ms. Tianca, mind your own business. Secondly, sexual education as part of my curriculum? Are you even from America? Where I received my degree (UT-Austin), I don’t even think sex ed was even offered…enough with that.

JJ and 663, based on your writing, you two are jealous of me. I can walk into y’alls lives and take away your significant other(s)…or, even you by the way I take care of myself and the way I dress. Wait a minute, I am full of conceit and arrogant, right? 663, going back to Bruce. Paying compliments to me? HELLO! I am married! Finding me in bed with another man in non-existent for me. Where are your moral values? Both of you deserve a major slap right across your face. I can take the heat, darling, can’t you? I cannot explain why Bruce left this forum. It would be nice to have him back but I cannot take back what I said to him. Plus, stay out of my conversations with other people, you jerk! Plus, 663, how can you be tired of me? I have no clue as to who you are?

Actually, by not replying back to me would do us all a favor. Question for ALL THREE of y’all: do I get more action on my back side than all three of you all (combined) from your own front side? Darn, I would hate the Texas girl, too, if she got all the action and not me!

Now, leave me ALONE! I am warning you. (663), find something better to do with your time, like, not dissecting my every thread that I have posted. Translation: get a life.

ps. I’ll be sending you three a nickel so that you can buy yourselves a life! Don’t forget, I want my change back!

March 21, 2009 at 4:25 pm
(669) Sami_Kay says:

luv2learn
Are you kidding me? You really want to throw 20 years away just for anal sex?

It isn’t something everyone enjoys. If she doesn’t want to do it, you would think you would have enough respect for her not to pressure her.

It is her body. Like I said you would think you would respect that.

March 21, 2009 at 5:19 pm
(670) Laura says:

luv2learn,

After reading your message, my first impression is that you and your wife sound like you have grown apart, which can easily happen in a long-term relationship. It takes real steadfastness to keep passion alive. The day-to-day world (particularly if you have children and/or a demanding job) can get in the way of intimacy if you allow it to. A lot of us tend to put everything else before our own needs. Women in particular are guilty of this, but I am sure it’s true for men as well.

Anal sex requires very deep love & trust to be enjoyable. I find it to be way more intimate than the usual vaginal sex. If your wife is now refusing to do it with you when it is something you both enjoyed in the past, I find that a very telling message that something in your marriage is missing. You are no longer as in tune with each other as you used to be. I think working on your marriage is the path you will find the most fulfilling and that cheating on your wife will simply lead to divorce.

You need to think back about all of the things you love about your wife. There is a reason you fell in love to begin with. Have you both really grown apart entirely or has life simply gotten in your way? There is a possibility that you both really have grown apart in a way that is not recoverable, but it is also possible that you could reconnect and get that delicious intimacy back again and if you can, it will be so worth it.

Think back to the times when you both used to enjoy anal sex together. When the anal sex stopped, you can be sure that something else stopped as well. Your wife lost that deep intimate feeling that made her want to share that most private part of her body with you. What was happening in your lives at that time?

If you can’t figure out what it was that changed, start working on your intimacy with your wife–and I’m talking about outside of the bedroom. Start getting to know her all over again and let her get to know you. If you can get to where she is comfortable opening up with you, she might very well tell you why she stopped wanting anal sex. You never said in your message whether you asked her why she stopped wanting it, and so I don’t know if you already know this answer. But it is key to everything.

Again, trying to find other women to share this most intimate act with is a sure way to divorce because secrets and lies only drive people further and further apart. If you can’t find fulfillment in your marriage, get the divorce first and then go explore with other women. The other way is very messy and leads to a lot of heartache and regrets. Just my opinion, of course.

March 21, 2009 at 6:25 pm
(671) Michelle says:

Hi guys,

Last night, my husband and I were primed to have the GREATEST orgasm ever. I normally have my eyes closed- enjoying the moment while we make love. I was on top riding him; while he was controlling the movement(s). He was about to go (cum in me) and I was about to explode when I opened my eyes (I saw the television flashing) and heard- “ESPNEWS”. That, absolutely killed the moment! I slapped my husband and got off him MAD. Was I too rough on him or did he deserve it? Please advise.

March 21, 2009 at 8:41 pm
(672) Sami_Kay says:

Michelle,
I am taking it he turned the tv on while you were doing it..
I think that is pretty messed up.
My Boyfriend and I always have music or a movie going. We have room mates that probably don’t want to hear. And we don’t want to share lol. Once we get going we don’t pay any attention to anything but each other.
I probably would have done the same thing though. Even if I wasn’t about to go I would be a little mad. But from what you said it was about to be done anyways so waiting a little longer wouldn’t have killed him.

March 21, 2009 at 9:10 pm
(673) P@ says:

Just take it slow. My wife and I started with a subtle toying with fingers, it progressed and is something we enjoy quite a lot. Don’t be nervous, if you trust your partner then you are always in control. Don’t let the religious and ‘social’ pressure dissuade you. Its harmless. My wife prefers it because I can lie behind her and hold her close (yes, we realize that this can be achieved through vaginal means too). She likes the feeling and it feels different for me too.

March 22, 2009 at 1:32 pm
(674) Michelle says:

Hi Sami-Kay!

My husband knew that I was mad at him. Yesterday afternoon, I was tired and decided to take a nap. He would never take any sort of naps whatsoever. I was fast asleep and i was dreaming of our unborn babies. It was so sweet!

Well, my husband managed to pull up my shirt and start kissing and sucking my breasts. I decided to play the same game he did to me, so I pretend to wake up mega-turned on! I wake up and kiss him and then we ’69′ each other.

I know this is childish but I pretend to get on him (his condom is set and everything). Then I get off him and go straight to the shower. He knows that I am mad at him for what he did to me.

Well, please tell me (ANYBODY) that they played games like this with their beloved husbands/wives. It is killing me but I want to send him the message of no tv on while we are being intimate.

March 23, 2009 at 12:34 am
(675) fun4both says:

My girlfriend and I are rather kinky and she enjoys anal sex, but not too often. Just a few times a month. Sometimes we get carried away with it when she wants it fast & furious. It isn’t self lubricating like the vagina so if you do it long & slow use plenty of lube and reapply often. Communications as well as lube must be continuous to make it totally enjoyable for both. She says her orgasms are more intense and normally multiple when we do anal. We’ve been experiementing with double penetration by using a small vib in her vagina at the same time give both of us explosive orgasms. Lately we have been taking turns so we both enjoy it now.

March 23, 2009 at 4:53 am
(676) MR. says:

It is seriously awsome. For her and for me. I am not immoral and I am also not a pervert. Also those who say that it is not natural. Then why does it feel so good for both people? And why is the anus so close to the vagina? I enjoy and I am happy that I have managed several ladies to try it with me.

You basically need to be very very gentle. Basically grab your shaft as close to your body as you can. You do not have to go balls deep. Then massage it in. She has to be completely relaxed. You will be suprised at the sensation.

Ladies. work your way up with the fingers and get used to the thought of having something inserted into your ass by someone else. That way you can work your way up to where you can get ready for some penis action in the bum hole.

Keep it super clean. do not go from anus to vagina with out some soap and water and a good cleaning after penetrating an anus.

March 23, 2009 at 5:16 pm
(677) John says:

Wow…a LOT of very frank comments here! Glad to see that so many people can be this honest and upfront. Overall it seems as though most of the opinions on anal sex are very positive.

I was married for 12 years (been divorced now for 2) and my ex and I would engage in occasional anal intercourse, maybe once or twice a month after (as already mentioned many times above) really “gooping-on” the lube and taking it very slowly and gently!

We found that by having her on the bed, on her knees and forearms with her butt as high-up as she could get it, helped her to relax her anal muscles enough so I could enter her rectum. We’d also been having vaginal sex anyway, and my still being “sloppy” with her juices helped with lubrication.

I could ease into her anus by moving rythmically back and-forth with short, quick GENTLE! strokes to massage and dialate her sphincter until the head of my penis just kind of “popped” into her ass. from there, I would listen to the soft sounds of her moans and sighs as a way to decide how slowly to sink the rest of the way-up into her.

I’m not the “girthiest” guy in the World, but I am fairly long and the first time we had anal I was really amazed that she was able to take all of me. I was bottomed-out against her ass-cheeks and I still hadn’t reached the end! She was LOVING IT too, by the way, as she writhed with pleasure!

I have to admit that the feeling was really INTENSE! In fact, I’d only gotten-in maybe a half-dozen good strokes before I was fighting the urge to explode everything I had into her…after a short time I just couldn’t hold-on any longer and my orgasm was an incredible series of long, shuddering spurts like I’d never experienced before! I must have filled her-up, because after I pulled-out of her I could hardly believe the huge wad of semen she discharged back-out of her ass.

Trust me…it was one HOT time!

March 23, 2009 at 5:36 pm
(678) JJ says:

Michelle,how y’all doing?I would have to say that a man who would turn on the tv right in the middle of you bouncing up and down on him to see ESPN Sports makes you a total bore in bed.You mentioned earlier in a post that you get more backdoor action than all three of us combined get in front tells me your husband would rather look at your ass than your face and tits.If you have this problem with keeping your husbands attention after only two years of marriage,what will it be like in five years?He will be eating burritos and drinking beer while reading the sports page for sure while your bouncing away!When i spend time with my girl it is all about us and we don’t allow or want any distraction to take place.One thing you do is have him wear a condom.Why are you using a condom and ruining the closeness you get without a condom.There are very good forms of birth control without condoms.That alone makes you boring in bed.You mentioned that you are so hot you could take anyones man away from from another woman.You may want to keep tabs on your husband since he is already bored by you and may be looking elsewhere.Apparently your B.A. degree,teaching aerobics,looking good in your Wranglers and eating your own poo can’t keep his interest.Y’all come back ya hear!

March 23, 2009 at 5:55 pm
(679) JJ says:

Michelle,to your other question.Have any of us played sex games like you played with your husband or wife?I think using him that way just to make your point on how mad you are at him instead of talking it out further proves your immaturity.Using sex or lack there of to punish your mate is a mistake.But you are not the sharpest knife in the drawer and even Forrest Gump makes fun of you.Plus you eat your own poo!

March 23, 2009 at 6:18 pm
(680) Michelle says:

Hi JJ,

Good, I only have to deal with ONE today! It took you an entire weekend to figure out what to write…as an attack and this is all you could come up with? You obviously didn’t see or read when I wrote- “Go to hell!”

Admit it. I get more action (any position, anytime of the day) than you three combined. That is, one plus one plus one = three.

Say what you want about me. In reality, know that I can take YOU away from your “girl”…if she actually exists. If she does exist, please give her this message: Honey, your “guy” is slow at heart. I know this because I see guys like him at the gym. I’ll give him this- he does talk good. Are you really satisfied with him being so small? Please, consider this: have him put on a condom. We need to control the pet population! ps, get out while you still can.

Have a good day, you jerk! Oh, by the way, go to hell! Go ‘horns!

March 23, 2009 at 6:32 pm
(681) Michelle says:

679,

Once again, you didn’t read the message clearly. I said that I was CHILDISH for what I did. Be honest, what is your reading level?

I am so mad at you right now!

Erika, I’ll never forgive you for us.

March 23, 2009 at 7:11 pm
(682) JJ says:

Dear michelle,

Thank you for a well written comment.I can see you are starting to write better and gaining some form humor from reading other comments on here.As far as taking the weekend to write you back,i am not on the computer on the weekends as i have a life and am far too busy making love to my very sexy lady with an ass you could bounce a quarter off of.ESPN Sports would never distract me from her during a long,hot lusty anal session.As far as taking me from my girl…Hahahahahahah !I have a smart,sexy,sensuous,beautiful girl who meets all my needs and desires not only sexually,but emotionally and mentally.I play her body like the fine instrument that it is.Her ass is a Statovarius Violin(that’s a fiddle to you Michelle)a work of art that is not only beautiful to the sight but can be played both softly and vigorously depending on what type of music you want to play and hear.So as the statement that you can take me from her if you wanted to.I assure you that you could NOT!I have everything in her i will ever want.And really Michelle,you could not handle me in any way shape or form.However,Bruce who you chased away you could probably get since he fantasized about anal sex with you.Of course you would have him watching ESPN too in a short amout of time.As far as go horns…you do mean the Texas Long Horns and not the horns on your head right?And who the hell is Erica and what does that last comment mean?Now back to what this site is about “ANAL SEX”!Yeah baby!

PS..Do you still eat your own poo?

March 23, 2009 at 7:44 pm
(683) JJ says:

Laura(670)

I just finished reading your comments to (luv2Learn)about his problem with his wife and the anal sex issue.Wow,were you right on with your thoughts and you answered his questions so well.Too bad Michelle cannot take some advise from you instead of spending her time defending herself and telling everyone how hot she is.Thank you for your comments because i learned soemthing myself about things to consider in a relationship.Now,you are not “The” Dr. Laura are you?LOL…Do you enjoy anal sex often and what type of lube would you recommend?Michelle likes to do ATM which i believe is a risky thing to do.What do you think about Michelle putting her own poo in her mouth?Can’t this cause a potential intestinal track infection?Anal sex i believe Laura is wonderful but should be done in a healthy and safe way.Thanks again for sharing so well and hope to hear from you again.

March 24, 2009 at 6:49 am
(684) Michelle says:

JJ,

You’re such a jerk!

March 24, 2009 at 7:17 am
(685) Michelle says:

You’re always into my business and have an attack waiting for me whenever I do write. Erika is a family friend who doesn’t believe me when I tell her hat YOU are not minding your own business and jerks like you are always on the offensive. Plus, she introduced me to this forum! I wrote in her name to let her know that I am trying to prove a point here. I know you didn’t comprehend (understand) any of that adult talk…and I am sorry for that.

Tell me AND ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS: where is your lady? Why didn’t she write?

It is kind of hard to make love to a nonexistent girl you know. That’s cute: growing my own horns. Did you come up with that on your own? Admit it, now you’re jealous of my alma mater: UT-Austin. Quick geography lesson- the capitol of Texas.

Has your “girl” ever slapped you?

March 24, 2009 at 2:00 pm
(686) BORED with Michelle says:

Michelle,

Just when I think you can’t get any dumber, you actually do. Not only are you boring in bed, but you are boring on this forum. Your pathetically juvenile attempts to come up with witty retorts to JJ or anyone else make you sound like a complete idiot. Comment (685) takes the cake. You’re accusing JJ of not having a girlfriend merely because she doesn’t post messages on this forum. By that idiotic reasoning, should we conclude that your husband is also a figment of your imagination because he hasn’t posted any messages here either?

By the way, when you tell people to mind their own business, that also makes you look stupid because here you are posting messages on a very public forum. That means your every comment is public fodder and we can say whatever we want to about it whether you like it or not. If Tianca wants to ask a question, she can. No one is forcing you to answer anything. If it really bothered you that much, you’d be smarter to just ignore it instead of continually making a fool out of yourself.

In your comment to me on 668, you said: “Now, leave me ALONE! I am warning you.”

Or what?

Actually, Michelle, I’m getting the feeling that you’re thriving on this attention, even if its negative. And since you have become an absolute bore, I’ll be happy to leave you alone from here on out.

JJ, I hope you don’t waste any more time on this twit either. Your messages are very entertaining and too good for her.

March 24, 2009 at 5:45 pm
(687) Michelle says:

fighting girls- is that all you know how to
do? You, absolutely, have no class. leave
me alone!! Are you trying to kick me
out…rather, force me out of this forum? ASk me, with respect, to leave! I have no problem with that.

I cannot control comments being made on this forum. I cannot control people asking me question(s) about my sex life, either.

Don’t form an army and have other folks join your bandwagon to hate me. It’s not any fault of mine people are asking me questions pertaining to anal sex.

My head, neck and back hurt me. I have a class to teach so I’ll be back in a bit. Take care. I hope I am reaching you.

ps. try harder!!
pss. it’s not polite to fight with a
professional woman. Where are your manners?

March 24, 2009 at 6:29 pm
(688) JJ says:

Hi again Michelle,

Always nice to hear from the girl who lusts for me!Well,i have to say that i am even more bored with you now than your husband!Your lack of understanding and poor ability to comprehend(understand to you Michelle)means you are lacking the facilities required for cornial comprehension(that means your a dumb ass Michelle)As far as my girlfriend goes.She has posted on this site,however i would never share who she is because you would be so ashamed of being a woman after reading her sexy comments about our love life which by the way includes copious amounts (that means a lot to you Michelle)of anal sex.And yes,i do have a LONG HORN!And i do not watch ESPN SPORTS while we are copulating(that means having sex to you Michelle)at the same time.

Thank you “Bored With Michelle” for sharing your thoughts on this twit!Nice to know that i am not the only one who see’s thru her lack of understanding,but also the complete disregard of other peoples feelings and comments.You are a breath of fresh air to Michelle’s potty mouth(that means you eat your own poo Michelle..Yuck!)”Bored With You Michelle”you have read her like a book and what a twit she is as you so eloquently expressed(that means said it well to you Michelle)We should all be afraid of Michelle because we have been warned!Well i will leave you alone because the only thing more boring than you is death!(that means you are no longer alive to you Michelle)…I will not respond again to Michelle “The Twit” ,but thank you “Bored With “Michelle”for understanding bit of humor unlike Michelle who is clueless to ALL things in life.But what do you expect from a girl who gets a B.A.in english,then pursues her real love of teaching aerobics?Adios and astlavista(that means goodbye to you Michelle).Tell Erika i said hi and and everytime i watch ESPN Sports ,i will think of you and your husbands sex life!Plus,you eat your own POO!BYE!:-)

PS…JJ Loves his Laura!

March 24, 2009 at 11:59 pm
(689) Candice says:

Hi all, I have been reading your blogs for weeks now, and I feel that I have to contribute.
I am much like Michelle in that I thoroughly enjoy anal sex with my husband, and the majority of sex is via the ‘backdoor’. I am not on the pill and this is our form of birth control at the moment until we decided to have children.
I introduced my husband to anal, as I had had previous anal sex with a boyfriend, and found the whole experience to be completely pleasurable and I find my orgasims are so much stronger.
I encourage any female who hasn’t tried anal to try in on themselves with a dildo so that you understand the sensation and work out how long it takes for your sphincters to relax and what techniques work for you.
Anal sex is the best!

March 25, 2009 at 5:42 pm
(690) Erika says:

michelle,

hey girl, this is Erika writing. Why did you hang up the phone on me? I did receive your calls and sorry for not returning them on time. I read your message on this website and you were right. why are they hating on you? You weren’t kidding. I am sorry for the negativity built up here. When are you and jason coming up to Austin? do you still have myspace? Micha, please call me! text me or send me a msg on your myspace.

hope everything is okay with you girl. talk to you soooon Micha. Love ya.

March 25, 2009 at 10:16 pm
(691) Jack ATM says:

Ok Candice 689, but do you ALSO do ATM w/o a rubber, like Michelle? Hard to top that.

And this site has unfortunately become a Michelle soap opera more than the intended topic, lol.

March 26, 2009 at 11:48 pm
(692) ase jim reyes says:

does anus sex makes pregnant?i mean if you will not withdraw your sperms from the anus……

March 27, 2009 at 12:53 am
(693) katie says:

Michelle,

You are such a complete idiot!! You do all women a disservice every time you open your mouth on this forum. Please, please just go away …

March 27, 2009 at 4:40 am
(694) Sarah says:

There was a guy who I used to date. He was a God in bed. Once I wanted to try anal and he was ok with that. HONESTLY, I did not enjoy it at all.. It gave me no joy. I dont see how everyone else loves it. Thats really strange..

March 27, 2009 at 10:02 am
(695) Stacie Reeder-Myers says:

I love anal sex. Nothing feels better than when by boyfriend ejaculates all inside of me doing the “Greek”.

March 27, 2009 at 5:34 pm
(696) Michelle says:

hi guys,

I could see that there are so many people tired, mad and upset at me. I never meant to offend anybody, nor did I ever intend to get people to be tired of me.

I was feeling sick for most of the week. I was so sick, I thought that my internal organs
(JJ, not any form of a musical instruments. I meant that my lungs, liver, intestines, etc.) were going to melt. My head hurt so bad, it felt like my brain (something JJ wasn’t born with) was going to melt.

I am feeling great and ready to roll. Stacie, what exactly is the “Greek” and how is it performed? I think JJ will be learning a thing or two about this.

March 27, 2009 at 5:42 pm
(697) Michelle says:

katie (693),

What did I say about joining a bandwagon? Why are you even choosing sides? I was burning up with the fever and you were attacking me? Go to hell.

March 27, 2009 at 10:55 pm
(698) New-ish to anal says:

Hello all,

I asked my wife about anal years back, we’ve been married 12
years (we married pretty young actually), but she didn’t want to
know. I hadn’t mentioned it since.

Then, about 6 months back, she came home after a night
out with the girls and after they’d dropped her off and gone,
she said she wanted to love me in every way possible from now
on, and wanted to take it up the arse.

She was pretty tipsy, so I just put her to bed, and – while thinking
the idea quite a turn-on, pretty much forgot about it.

But that weekend, and entirely sober, she asked me how about
it. I did some reading up, was very slow, very gentle, and was
surprised how easy it went. No condom, and I was surprised to
see my penis came out clean as a whistle. Obviously, we used
plenty of KY jelly, about 1/2 a small tube.

We have done anal on a monthly basis, but on the last occasion
she said she’d like it every week. No problem with me.

I think the idea is to give no pressure – a hint or two, maybe,
but no nagging. If your wife/gf is up for it, she’ll let you know.

One other thing – unless your partner is a drop-dead gorgeous
sex-bomb porno standard anal athlete like Michelle, you will
have to realise there are limits. Keep talking to her, and stop
pretty much as soon as she starts feeling at all uncomfortable.

Any discomfort, or betraying the trust that you are granted on
entering in an anal fashion, and you can pretty much forget
about anal for a good long while, perhaps a lifetime. No banging
away hard because it feels so damned good, even if it does.
Which it does, actually.

Not sharing Michelle’s husband’s rather odd liking of having my
wife risk foul disease by having her suck my newly soiled dick,
I either quickly rush off and scrub it, or use a condom for the
dirty deed.

Rushing off and washing breaks the moment, I think… she likes
to have sex in the more traditional fashion before finishing. But
then again, wearing a condom while having anal isn’t _quite_
the same. Such are the trials of life! :)

March 28, 2009 at 12:03 pm
(699) Michelle says:

Hi guys,

What is the big deal when a person is having anal sex and then finishes it by sucking your husbands penis? I am married to him. I know that he doesn’t get it anywhere else. I watch what I eat. I workout and get plenty of rest. What goes in me is ALL of him. What is the big deal? We ’69′ each other and fills my mouth with his cum and I drink it. I will swallow it and then kiss him. Same difference. What’s the big deal, people? It’s trust, honor, and love.

Please, just leave me alone! Don’t let this be a cyber fight or anything. Comment on this but keep your negative (that’s just what they are) opinions to yourself.

If you want me off this forum, please tell me to leave; I may honor you with sufficient reason, of course. Also, leave my husband out of this. I understand that this is a public forum but hardly anyone is commenting anything good about me. Please make it positive and respectful. Take care.

March 28, 2009 at 1:15 pm
(700) Max says:

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March 29, 2009 at 5:02 pm
(701) Geena says:

I enjoy anal a whole bunch, but I like to help out my boyfriend by pushing back and rotating my behind when he is inside me.

March 30, 2009 at 12:15 am
(702) katie says:

Just testing … i think my last comment was deleted

March 30, 2009 at 1:30 am
(703) katie says:

I really luv anal !! To give u guys a little info bout me, I’m from Dallas, am 20 and am a junior in college in Boston.

When I was 15 I had my 1st anal experience, although it just was my bf using a finger up my butt as he was doing me. It felt a little weird but also pretty good but unfortunately nothing more happened.

A year later, just after I turned 16, I was with a more aggressive bf; he just asked me if i wanted to try anal. I said yes!

The only problem was his size. He was huge! I’d only been with 2 other guys before, both “normal” sized … but they hadn’t been up my ass! This guy worked it … very very slowly, with a LOT of lube and also a LOT of attention to my clit.

I came like crazy! First time I ever squirted and omg did I squirt! I screamed & shrieked & probably scared the hell out of my bf, but was it ever great!!

I think that he did me up my ass at least 6 times that 1st night. Wow!!

March 30, 2009 at 7:56 pm
(704) JJ says:

Poor sad Michelle,

What is your deal girl.i said i was done on here,but you make me have to respond.First off,Greek style IS anal sex you dumb bimbo!And the reason you were sick in your stomach you dumb bimbo is because you do ATM! You eat your own poo after anal sex with your husband!And no body is ganging up on you.You nare such a ditz,that you make yourself a mark on here.And i agree with katie,your are a complete idiot Michelle.Grow a brain one day and come back to the room.As Jack said,this is a Miche;lle soap opera and you need to goe elswhere for your therapy!get a life and i pitty your poor husband.Anal sex will not save your marriage if you don’t grow up.Peace out and stop eating your own poo!

Love my Laura!!!

March 30, 2009 at 10:53 pm
(705) Michelle says:

JJ,

Who’s Laura? Guy, re-read my other threads (previous posts) that I have written. Okay, what do you want from me? Has anyone ever mentioned to you that YOU need assistance (help) with your grammar?

katie? Uh, can you say “child abuse”? Sheesh, a fellow Texan!!

March 30, 2009 at 10:54 pm
(706) Michelle says:

JJ,

Who’s Laura? Guy, re-read my other threads (previous posts) that I have written. Okay, what do you want from me? Has anyone ever mentioned to you that YOU need assistance (help) with your grammar?

katie? Uh, can you say “child abuse”? Sheesh, a fellow Texan!!

March 31, 2009 at 8:31 pm
(707) what says:

I am amazed. I can’t believe so many woman seem to like anal sex. My husband and I used to have anal sex under his urging. It was more tolerable at first but NEVER felt good. I did it to please him. IT HURT and still HURTs, even with a lot of lubrication. I think he did some major damage and also it gave me infections and I have been having problems ever since. He doesn’t insist on it now but he seems so obsessed with doing it and touching my anus, the smell, everything. It seems odd. He’ll make jokes about gay men “fudge packing” which is so stupid because he wants to “fudge pack” me. It hurts, it is really unhygenic, and I am so far from an orgasm I have no desire to repeat it ever again. I am not a sexual prude at all. I just like to have an orgasm and I don’t like to be so utterly uncormfortable and in so much pain. Why would my husband prefer this over vaginal sex? I really don’t understand how so many woman find pleasure in it.

April 1, 2009 at 4:33 pm
(708) JJ says:

Michelle,

Greetings to the Lone Star State(That’s Texas Michelle)
Did you think your last post was so witty you had to say it twice? And thank you for helping me with my grammar.After reading your well written posts,you qualify to assist me in grammar and proper and sentence formations.You do have a BA in English,look good in your wranglers and teach aerobics and bore your husband to death in bed.That reminds me.Has your husband seen any good tv shows lately while having sex with you?He might try reading War and Peace(that’s a book Michelle)while having sex to ease the boredom.

I hope my grammar meets with your approval. Being a former teacher who now teaches aerobics tells me you care more about your ass than teaching kids.And that’s how it should be.You should be kept away from kids at all costs.A teacher who does ATM and eats their own poo should not be breathing on children!Have a yippie-kye-aye day Y’all.

April 1, 2009 at 5:39 pm
(709) Laura says:

This message is to (707):

You know, there is nothing wrong with trying something new with your husband to see if you might like it, yourself. But if you really don’t like it at all, then you shouldn’t feel obligated to do it anymore. I get the feeling that anal sex is not something that has ever appealed to you—it certainly doesn’t to everyone. But if you are uncomfortable with the idea of something to begin with, it is unlikely that you would be relaxed during it. And relaxation (not just lubrication) is the key to not feeling any pain. It doesn’t matter how much lube you use; if you can’t relax, it’s going to hurt.

What I really don’t understand is how your husband could possibly prefer something you clearly dislike? That you don’t enjoy it should make it much less appealing to him. The fact that it doesn’t makes him sound like an extremely selfish person to me–especially since it actually hurts you.

April 1, 2009 at 6:39 pm
(710) JJ's Laura says:

Michelle, are you mentally retarded or what? People have described to you in minute detail exactly what ATM is, and you have said that you actually do really understand what it is and that you do it. Yet, in comment (699), you ask what the big deal is? Oh come on, you really don’t understand the health risks involved with sucking a penis covered in e-coli and other bacteria from your rectum??? Your comment about being married to him and knowing that he doesn’t get it anywhere else shows that you still have no comprehension of what we’re talking about. We haven’t been talking about an STD—we’re talking about the risks of ingesting bacteria from your own ass! What is so difficult about this that you don’t get it?

OK, here’s yet another analogy in an effort to help you understand:

Say, Jason (Thanks for the name, Erika!) just took a big dump in the bathroom and was very sloppy with his wiping and then he leaves the bathroom without washing his hands. Then he goes straight into the kitchen and makes you a big hand tossed salad to eat. If you knew that his hands were dirty from the toilet, would you still eat the salad? I would think not. It’s no different to suck his penis immediately after it’s been in your ass, except that it’s probably even more of a health hazard because the bacteria would be that much more concentrated. Do you finally get it now? Now do you see why you look so ridiculous when you say things like it’s OK because you’re married to him and that it is about trust, honor and love?

And it’s hard not to make fun of you when you come on this board anxious to let everyone know that you’re here to educate people, that you have a B.A. in English, and are a certified teacher…and yet, you can’t grasp the simplest concept. You should definitely stick with aerobics.

You can demand respect all you want, but if you’re going to continue to prattle on, showing your endless ignorance, then you’re not likely to get much.

April 1, 2009 at 6:49 pm
(711) Michelle says:

Actually, I had no clue it was written twice (two times) but thank you for informing me (letting me know). I will sleep good at night knowing you know how to count!

707,

It shouldn’t matter how much pain you will encounter. It is the closeness and the feeling of exploring your anus which drives a man nuts. Any advice about a man should NEVER come from JJ. For inquiries, NEVER seek JJ.

Anyhow, my inner circle of girlfriends say that the reason why a man loves our behinds so much is because of its tight “squeeze” on his penis. I would have to agree on that. I mean, my husband takes it slow behind me and then will pick the pace up…with a lot of lubrication. For me, I have no problem with that! I, personally, have no clue what men think or see the fascination about it.

I hope to get back to this forum later on. Secondly, I hope this helps.

April 1, 2009 at 7:26 pm
(712) nano says:

Anal sex is great,especially with wife after giving births,as vagina is like a cave where u might fall while anus is tight hold your thing

April 1, 2009 at 7:29 pm
(713) Michelle says:

JJ,

You know, you have a mega problem buddy. Please, leave me alone! Don’t go back and re-read my previous threads that I have posted. You’re trying to get back at me for something that I may have done. At first, I thought that you were my bff Erika because of how you were writing to me. But after lengthy (long) girl talk, I found out you were not. You have issues! Now I am highly convinced that you and I and of course, your henchmen, are the only ones on this forum. It can be easily inferred that Bruce was just one of your characters…he never existed! And here I am arguing in this forum with a clueless psychopathic moron like you. I have done stupid things in my life- this tops them all.

You leave my husband out of this! I am warning you. You have no respect for women and are clueless in life. I bet you’re old enough to be my father. JJ, Laura, whatever you choose to go by today, get a job! Speaking of jobs, I teach aerobics, not because I need/have to, but because I WANT to. Can you say the same?

I don’t demand respect, especially from you. I am 24 and am too mature for your liking!

I have tried ATM and didn’t know it had an acronym, nor a name. I know what my husband does. We both take care of ourselves, get plenty of rest, watch our diets, and exercise. We don’t stuff our faces with What-a-burger (#1 Texas burgers) combos and drink pepsi all day. (I hope I didn’t offend you because you probably need to workout.) So I know what is inside of me. Oh, by the way, your analogy sucked!

I am sorry you don’t get quite as much action as my husband does. I would say the same if I was jealous too. By the way, your previous post states that “I think that I am too hot” comment is for the birds. One of my husbands old co-workers tried to hit on me. The guys at the gym try to do the same. The managers at HEB (Texas food chain) do the same. My mailman- the same. Should I go on? I don’t think I am hot,. People nonverbally (without words) tell me all the time!

April 1, 2009 at 11:01 pm
(714) Alias says:

Here is the obvious question about anal that noone seems to ask: Isn’t it messy? You sh*t out that hole after all.

April 2, 2009 at 6:53 am
(715) Michelle says:

JJ,

Have you ever had performed anal sex or was it done to you? That’s what I thought!

Well, I have had anal sex with my husband and, NO, it is not messy. That is what I meant by “what’s the big deal?” I have NEVER deficated on him or was there any type of my stool on him. When we do it, he goes WAY UP in me…to the very point of hitting my lower tummy.

Anal sex is not messy and I understand what comes out (human waste). Try it. By the way JJ, you’re a punk!!

April 3, 2009 at 11:46 am
(716) Michelle says:

JJ the Punk,

Just leave me alone JJ.I am too hot for you.Not only do the people i mentioned in (713)hit on me because of my hotness,but so does the the trash man,the pool boy and the entire Dallas Cowboys football team !I am the the bomb and Y’all should know it.My husband not only tickles my tummy during anal sex(he is as long as a Texas bull ya know)but sometimes i think he is going to come right out my mouth.So JJ,and JJ’s Laura,leave me the hell alone and leave my husband out of this.And please stop seeking me for my advise on anal sex.I am warning you or else!
(JJ)

April 3, 2009 at 1:37 pm
(717) Test says:

Test

April 3, 2009 at 1:47 pm
(718) JJ's Laura says:

Hi Michelle,

In my last post to you, I asked if you were mentally retarded or what. Thank you for satisfying my question: you are unequivocally mentally retarded.

I find it hilarious that you thought I might have been Erika (your friend thinks you’re stupid, too!?) as well as Bruce! ROFL I should think my writing style is easily recognized but because you are so stupid, I’ll spell it out for you. I have only written to you as “Tired of Michelle,” “Bored with Michelle,” and “JJ’s Laura”. I don’t have any henchmen unless you want to count my love, JJ. So, anyone else making fun of you in this forum are actual other people who visited here and also recognize your colossal (really big) stupidity.

I’m going to answer your comment (713). Your statements are the ones in quotes…

“You leave my husband out of this! I am warning you.”

Oh here we go again with your big warnings. I repeat my earlier question to you: Or what???

“Speaking of jobs, I teach aerobics, not because I need/have to, but because I WANT to. Can you say the same?”

LOL! Michelle, I told you that you should stick with Aerobics and this is your response? I don’t care WHY you teach aerobics—I’m just relieved that you do instead of teaching kids in a school—no one as dumb as you are should be allowed to teach anyone. And what’s that last part of your statement—can I say the same? No, I don’t teach aerobics and have no desire to.

“I don’t demand respect, especially from you. I am 24 and am too mature for your liking!”

You demand respect in almost every comment you write, dumbass. Should I copy and paste the number of times you’ve done it? LOL And it’s even more funny that you actually think you’re mature. A mature woman doesn’t constantly tell everyone how hot she thinks she is. This comment from you is the case in point:

“By the way, your previous post states that “I think that I am too hot” comment is for the birds. One of my husbands old co-workers tried to hit on me. The guys at the gym try to do the same. The managers at HEB (Texas food chain) do the same. My mailman- the same. Should I go on? I don’t think I am hot,. People nonverbally (without words) tell me all the time!”

OMG, how pathetic is that comment?! I especially love that last part where you say people nonverbally tell you all the time that you’re hot. So you’re a complete mind reader, eh? You sound mentally ill as well as retarded and, clearly you WANT to teach aerobics so that you can feed your illness with imagining that every person in your class (the whole universe, undoubtedly) is privately drooling over your body. I used to think that you were just stupid, but you’re really pathetic, too.

Your comment here demonstrates the degree of your ignorance:

“I have tried ATM and didn’t know it had an acronym, nor a name. I know what my husband does. We both take care of ourselves, get plenty of rest, watch our diets, and exercise. We don’t stuff our faces with What-a-burger (#1 Texas burgers) combos and drink pepsi all day. (I hope I didn’t offend you because you probably need to workout.) So I know what is inside of me. Oh, by the way, your analogy sucked!”

OMG, you actually think that diet and exercise prevents any e-coli from getting on your husband’s penis during anal sex?! And you call yourself educated??? EVERYBODY has e-coli in their rectums! It is both natural and healthy for it to be there. However, it is NOT healthy to put it inside your mouth. You can’t see e-coli with your eyes—you’d have to use a microscope. When your husband’s penis leaves your ass, it is teaming with the bacteria (regardless of how much he exercises and what he eats). My salad analogy was an excellent one but if you’re too dumb to understand it, I can see why you think it sucked. Surely even you have heard of hundreds of people getting ill from eating contaminated salads in restaurants? Obviously they couldn’t see the bacteria or they never would have eaten any of it. What did you think it looked like? Pieces of turds? LOL

You’re not smart enough to even be embarrassed, are you? Wow.

April 3, 2009 at 5:44 pm
(719) Michelle says:

JJ (whatever you call yourself),

Wow! Impressive! It took you two whole days to come up with that. I’m impressed! Blah, blah, blah. Try quoting that.

April 3, 2009 at 6:15 pm
(720) Michelle says:

Hi JJ’s Laura,

First off, why in the first place, did you attack me? It seems as if you know me personally. At first, I thought that YOU were my friend Erika because of your subtle attacks. At that time, she was mad at me and my husband. I defend myself and YOU had the nerve to turn others against me. Trust me, I’ve seen PLENTY of this in high school…so I figured that you were one of those kids’ age. You and/or JJ mocked me last week when I was burning up with fever adding your comments after my explanation of why I took a mini, mini sabbatical. Speaking of sabbaticals, this is where your mocking gets stronger. I am going back into the classroom beginning in the fall…fyi.

By the way, be more ladylike and wash your mouth with soap! Hope to hear from y’all on Monday. Take care!

April 4, 2009 at 5:56 am
(721) Rob says:

be honest here, Micha, how does having anal sex feel for you? Your hubby said that you were a goddess in bed and that you hit him all around. estoy jugando micha. erika wants it in the ass all of the time and we do it but she still tells me to stop. Porque? hermanita, why did you leave early last night? dame su opinion. cuidado micha.

April 4, 2009 at 9:29 am
(722) Cumming says:

Ahhhhh!!! I’m cumming over this thread!

April 4, 2009 at 11:36 pm
(723) Michelle says:

Rob? (721),

Wow!! You are the LAST person I thought who’d end up on this forum. Wow. I cannot believe that of all the people, you’d write here. I guess Erika must have recruited you too. Anyhow, I am sorry for delaying my contact with you.

I am sorry for me to ignore your question. Rob, I cannot answer that. What is wrong with you? I cannot speak for Erika nor am I going to. Secondly, don’t be spreading rumors, either. Call me or email me. There are too many (actually, two people) who happen to criticize my every post. Nothing personal.

Nos vemos. Paz y amor con muchas bendiciones!

April 6, 2009 at 5:32 am
(724) nick says:

Michelle I think you would like a Hungarian Poptart, i concluded this after the intelligence that just radiates from you during your blogs.

April 6, 2009 at 6:32 pm
(725) Michelle says:

To the men:

Hi guys, last night, my husband was squeezing me hard. He squeezes the life out of me to the point where I cannot breathe.

Well, I was riding him (I mean HARD)! He was holding my waist, trying to connect his fingers, meanwhile, I am in pain trying to breathe. My guess, it is a “guy” thing because all of my girlfriends and I have girl talk and that has been the main topic lately.

After we are done, we ’69′ each other and I could feel my vagina being stretched apart. And, when I am laying flat with my legs resting on his shoulder, he’ll use all of his weight on me thrusting away. There are times when I will experience pain from my lower back.

Question: why do y’all do that? What goes though your mind watching us suffer like that? It is not spousal abuse or aything. This only happens when we are about to make love. What drives men to be so masochistic before and during making love?

April 7, 2009 at 12:02 pm
(726) Interested in anal says:

Michelle,

You’ve said in a few of your threads that you would leave this forum if politely asked. I am making this request now. I feel that you have completely derailed the subject of this forum. I am interested in reading about the anal experiences of lots of people. But it has totally turned into the “Michelle Show” where you’re just talking to your own friends and your last thread had nothing to do with anal sex at all.

Please leave this forum forever.

Thank you.

April 7, 2009 at 12:41 pm
(727) ~*K-Rae*~ says:

After reading up to comment 37 i feel a little better. i haven’t tried anal yet but i have been wanting to. I mean me and my ex fiancee have tried to try it, but once he starts to put it in i start freaking out thinking it’s going to hurt. i feel like i know more and i feel as if i’m a little more relaxed to try it without freaking out too much. i have recently been talking to my ex about this and it got him wanting to try it again too. so thank you all for posting, i know what you all have said made me feel better.

April 7, 2009 at 1:08 pm
(728) Interested in anal says:

Hi ~K-Rae*~

You should keep reading as there are some really good comments here, I think. I was browsing through them and think comment (589) really speaks to what you wrote.

There are also a lot of nonsense comments, too, but if you weed through them, you’ll find some really helpful stuff. :-)

April 7, 2009 at 2:52 pm
(729) vannnn says:

ummm well for me it hurts but when he tries sumthing a lil smaller its alright i think the guy gets off on it first my friends say its great i think i need to try it more they say not to try it alot of it will streatch sorry if that tmi

April 7, 2009 at 5:11 pm
(730) Backside lover says:

I have found that a key to enjoying anal
sex with my girl is to spend copious amounts of time in foreplay.Licking,sucking,fingering and messaging that area will relax her and also form a trust between you and her.Being comfortable with her body and knowing that you want her to be pleasured without pain will cause her to let go and let the man take control.Once you have spent the proper amount of time preparing her for anal,then you can lube her and you heavily with a good quality lube.Cheap stuff and vasoline just won’t cut
it.Go slow and easy and she will accept you entering her with just a small amount of resistance.That tightness going in drives me crazy.Once in wait for a bit and allow her to adjust.You will know when she is ready to begin your slow penetrating thrusts.Anal sex should be started slow and not rushed as it is truly an act that is to be savored and enjoyed.A woman who trusts you enough to share this very private part of her body with you should be honored,loved and treated with respect and appreciation.We are lucky men!

April 7, 2009 at 5:30 pm
(731) Michelle says:

Take care guys! God bless y’all and spread your love for one another. Anal sex is a good thing. Lastly, learn from one another!

M.S.
San Antonio, TX

April 7, 2009 at 8:10 pm
(732) GooGusher says:

This may sound, (and I’m bot bragging) I Have a woman who calls herself my slave, and she says when she is with her husband she misses it. When we are together she wants it “in the end”, but she prefers me to start DRY. she says that she enjoys the intense (what she calls) stabbing pain, that only lasts a couple of minutes.

April 8, 2009 at 3:43 am
(733) *INSERT ANONYMOUS NAME HERE* says:

Hi all,

I started reading this thread out of curiosity. The whole back and forth between Michelle and JJ is interesting.

Michelle, before you think i’m another one of JJ’s alter egos, i’m not. I’m just a curious reader who stumbled upon this thread. However, I am also a lab scientist.

Please don’t take it as i’m making fun of you or whatever. But I have to say, the rest of the people in this thread are right about ATM being hazardous to your health.

E coli is just one of the many bacterium that is found as normal flora in the human gastrointestinal tract. It can cause diarrhea, vomiting, fever, headache and even hemorrhaging in extreme cases (E coli O157:H7).

I apologise to everyone else for this boring medical talk. But Michelle, pls do be careful. No amount of love is going to stop bacteria from harming you. If you want to know more info about this, just look at some of these search terms (Opportunistic pathogen, Esherichia Coli O157:H7, faecal contamination)

Back to the topic, anal sex sounds amazing, i want to try it with my gf, but i don’t think shes ready yet. Girls who have tried it, what made you decide to do so?

April 8, 2009 at 10:41 am
(734) Pete says:

Troops, really I can see how self opinionated some of you are but PLEASE, this is a forum where everyone can have a claim to fame. PLEASE respect other peoples point of view be it Michelle or “in the name off allah etc”. Everyone has an opinion, you dont have to take it on board but everyone has a right to share thier opinion, in this case it is about people interested in anal sex! Many of these comments will help people form an opinion that may make thier sex lives more intersting. Some people have no experience in it, so they are reading this page to assist in forming an opinion. My wife and I love it but then there may be people out there that have had a bad experience, let them share thier view, PLEASE! Just because some people go into more detail, so what, thank you everyone who has offered advice, one way or the other, providing it is not of a moralistic or religous freak nature!

April 8, 2009 at 6:22 pm
(735) Michelle says:

Hi guys!

733, Wow!! You remind me of my husband hearing all those medical terms/jargon. For the record, JJ is NOT my husband. We have cyber fought like a married couple, but he is nothing related to me…at least, I hope not! I must admit, I did find it cute that he was literally forcing me to fight him. I mean, there was no way around that. I had to defend myself!! Maternal instinct, I believe.

Anyhow, te aprecio mucho! (I appreciate you) understanding me. To answer your question, what made me do ATM (I hope I am saying it right)? Without a doubt, I LOVE the man I am married to. Enough said. I know what goes into me when we do have anal sex. I understand E. coli and its implications but that doesn’t phase me. I just love when he cums in me: anally, vaginally, orally; it doesn’t matter!

BTW, I teach aerobics and will be teaching it until summer’s end (part time). I find that keeping your mind, body and spirit clean; you will prosper.

ps. I will be careful. Once again, many thanks for understanding!

April 8, 2009 at 10:24 pm
(736) vagianus says:

im going to be honest with you , women , out there.
im a man ,and the reason all men love anal sex , love to put their penis up women ass is because is more degrading for women.
sad but true

April 9, 2009 at 12:11 am
(737) *INSERT ANONYMOUS NAME HERE* says:

Hi all,

Thanks for your post Michelle. I understood that you and JJ are not married from your previous posts.

I was referring to anal sex, what made women decide to do so? What is it about it that makes it so amazing? Any women out there have any more opinions, comments or advice?

And Michelle, as for you about not being phased about E coli infections, please understand that a simple course of antibiotics can fix it, however, it does involve plenty of pain before the diagnosis. Of which, bloody diarrhea is also a symptom. All of this regardless of how healthy one’s diet is.

April 9, 2009 at 5:25 am
(738) Michelle says:

737,

Hey!! To answer your question, I really do not know what made or makes women try anal. For ME, it is the sheer dominance of my husband taking full control over me. I cannot answer for most women but that is what turns me on.

Maybe it is because of its tightness? Maybe because we cannot become PG this way? Maybe because it’s adventurous? I don’t know.

April 9, 2009 at 3:47 pm
(739) JJ's Laura says:

Pete (734), I haven’t seen anyone told, at least not recently, that they couldn’t express their opinions, including Michelle.

Unfortunately, when she first appeared on this board, she didn’t stop at just relaying her experiences and expressing her opinions, which would have been nice. No, she informed us about her B.A. in English, being a certified teacher and about how she was here to help people by “educating” them. Quite laughable, really, considering she is just 24 years old and newly married with very little experience. This coupled with her near constant bragging about how hot she is and that everyone, without exception, wants her-that she could easily steal anyone’s significant other away (Hey Erika, how do you feel about that? Rob made some rather suggestive comments to Michelle.)made her quite the target for ridicule. Neither Michelle or anyone else here requires your defense. No one is forcing Michelle or anyone else to respond, so feel free to relax and enjoy this forum.

April 9, 2009 at 5:30 pm
(740) Michelle says:

you again.

what is WRONG with you? I am serious about this…you have issues. Why don’t YOU leave this forum and/or make it topic related. YOU have mental problems, I swear!!

I have left you alone (actually, I was glad to see that you didn’t post anything on this forum) but no, you’re here. Why don’t you fight with someone else and leave ME alone. YOU cannot leave well enough alone, can’t you?

Has anyone ever mentioned to you that you are hard to get along with? I bet you and JJ are both miserable people. He’s an insolent jerk and you’re his sloppy seconds, in short, miserable as heck!

You’re just jealous of my accolades. I’d be too, if I was a jerk’s sloppy seconds!

April 9, 2009 at 5:45 pm
(741) Michelle says:

why do you make it a point to know this much about me? I know, absolutely, nothing about you…because I DON’T want to know anything about you!! Leave Rob out of this! I tell you, what is wrong with you. It’s none of YOUR business who I communicate with. I understand that this is a public forum and many people read this thread but it wasn’t addressed to you. Pick a fight with someone else.

I was about to leave this forum because of YOU. Fight with someone else and LEAVE me alone! Please, leave me alone. I cannot stress that enough. Leave me alone!

It wasn’t my fault that you were kicked out of school because of your POOR academic performance. Please, leave me alone. AND don’t quote my every line and dissect it.

April 9, 2009 at 6:02 pm
(742) Erika says:

hey bitch, why don’t you leave her alone when she says to leave her alone. michelle is one of the most cleanest and most professional girls I have known. it appears that you are making fun of her age and her values. It also appears that you are making fun of her job. No, it doesn;t bother me that Rob is asking micha for advice. I was the one who told him to do so.

I brought her up to this site and deal with it, bitch.

April 9, 2009 at 6:31 pm
(743) JJ says:

Sounds like Michelle and Erica are having major issues.Rob is talking to Micha about anal sex instead of his wife.And Jason is watching ESPN Sports while having sex with Micha.I see a major new soap opera in the making here!This could be bigger than Dallas was a few years back.

You really stirred the soup this time Laura.Now you got dumbass one and her back-up dumbass two to deal with.They say two heads are better than one.But in the the case of Micha and Erica you have a combined half a head!!!Does Erica do ATM and eat her own poo like Micha? I bet she does!Happy poo eating girls!Now leave us alone Micha,we are warning you!LOL

April 9, 2009 at 6:50 pm
(744) JJ's Laura says:

Michelle, my Goodness, it certainly doesn’t take much to ruffle your feathers! LOL Such an over-reaction only begs for more. And I don’t believe for one moment that you really planned to leave for good. Heck, you never left at all—even when asked nicely. You protest a bit too much about my comments to you. If you simply didn’t respond, I’d have no reason to write back, but you always do…because you never seem to learn.

By the way, I haven’t made it a point to know so much about you—YOU’RE the one putting it all out there on a public forum and then acting outraged if we know what you, yourself, told us! LOL Everyone visiting this forum knows as much about you as I do. It’s not my fault if you want to tell the whole world all these personal details about you. Why do you think you don’t know anything about me? Duh! I don’t broadcast my personal business to a public forum. You treat this place more like “My Space” than the way it was set up for.

Erika, clearly my comment touched a nerve with you, since you’ve responded back in such a pissed off fashion. You’ve read all of Michelle’s threads. You seriously don’t get tired of her telling people that she’s the hottest girl on the planet and that everyone wants her? I’d be embarrassed for her if she was my friend. And it didn’t look to me like Rob was asking for advice of any sort. He was complimenting her in a very personal way. So I’m not the one who has anything to deal with—it looks more like you do.

April 9, 2009 at 6:53 pm
(745) Michelle says:

Hi JJ,

I was being nice here. (Oh, BTW, you were better off away). All I want is for Laura to leave me alone. I don’t mind her writing to me or about me but it seems like everything is filth coming from her. Is she is mad at me or something? Why?

Why do you two hate me? I want this drama to stop, too. Why do you mock me? Explain that to me. And finally, do you want me off this forum? This time, let me know the truth.

April 9, 2009 at 7:36 pm
(746) JJ's Laura says:

Michelle, oh please…you’re actually asking my boyfriend for help in dealing with me? Stop acting so put-upon. You talk about “everything is filth” coming from me when you’re the one who just called me “sloppy seconds” a couple of comments ago (more of your juvenile wit).

JJ and I do not hate you now and never did. We do think you’re bragging about yourself is in very poor taste and your initial know-it-all behavior equally bad from someone who clearly doesn’t know all that much. But you’re also kind of funny in your obvious ignorance. There is actually quite a bit you could be learning from all of this but I kind of doubt that you will.

April 10, 2009 at 12:14 am
(747) Just a test says:

Testy

April 10, 2009 at 6:25 am
(748) Michelle says:

Laura,

Hi!! Why don’t you post your experience on this forum…in detail like I did? Who’s the IGNORANT one here? I described having anal sex with my HUSBAND, in great detail (at least I hope I did) to the point of me experiencing headaches afterwards. No. You’re too busy dissecting other peoples threads that you are ready for an attack.

Your JJ is a jerk! How does that man treat you? It appears that he has no respect for women. Oh, since you’re so knowledgeable, educate me on anal sex! No, you would rather fight me and form a “gang” to fight me.

I waste my time writing to you because it is YOU who happen to be the ignorant one here by fighting me and telling me that I am too young, with little experience and am the hottest girl on this planet. I described myself because I wanted (whomever may read my threads) people to get a mental picture of me.

Obviously, I may have brought upon too much info that is making you jealous of my appearance. Maybe JJ mentioned a thing or two about me that “ruffled your feathers”?

I don’t want to hear from JJ. Please relay this msg to him. Your man is a jerk, who fights girls- to get that dominance. Please, kick him in the nuts for me! Wait a minute, you’re the one with the nuts. My apologies.

April 10, 2009 at 1:56 pm
(749) John says:

Okay…Once and for all…

Michelle AND JJ…why don’t you BOTH just knock-it-off already!!

This is a serious adult thread, dealing with a serious adult subject. We have no room for “flame-wars” here…quite frankly, at your tender age it’s doubtful that either of you even have the faintest clue how to please anyone, anally or otherwise. you don’t even know where you stand as human beings, let-alone who you are sexually.

I speak for the majority of the visitors on this site by asserting that if you can’t stay “on-topic” then at least be courteous enough to take your juvenile, “twenty-something” antics elsewhere.

We don’t want to read any more of it.

Understand?!

April 10, 2009 at 6:58 pm
(750) Michelle says:

Yes referee John. JJ is still a jerk!

April 10, 2009 at 7:31 pm
(751) THICKEST_COCK says:

All the girls want my thick cock up their poop chute.

April 11, 2009 at 6:02 am
(752) Michelle says:

Hi guys!

Take care and God bless you all.

M.S.
The rest is silence…this time!

April 11, 2009 at 10:59 am
(753) Greg says:

Hello,
My wife and I have been together for almost 9 years , married for 5. She would offer Anal sex every now and then usaually teaseing me all day the before it would happened. It has always been a huge turn on plus she says she has incredable orgasams when we do it. However as of the last two weeks she wants it all the time :) We have an awsome sex life and I think my wife is the best, she is all I ever think about, she nows what to say and always knows when its time to mix it up. This is just another amazing chapter in our relationship. Believe me my wife knows ever day that I charish her because I never forget to tell her. We tried to do the prostate massage involving my ass but we coulod not figure it out. If anyone has pointers let us know. Thank You to everyone who is sharing there thaughts. Sorry for my spelling.

Happy Husband,
Greg

April 13, 2009 at 7:12 am
(754) nicole says:

Michelle and JJ . I am laughing out loud reading your posts. I dont like JJ’s girlfriend-she needs to get a life and leave you alone,Michelle. Anyway to both of you-thanks for a great laugh this morning . This is better than any soap opera ever! Oh Michelle one more thing, you go girl! Plz dont leave this forum!

April 13, 2009 at 11:21 pm
(755) leea says:

according to the Sunday night sex show..anal sex can cause some serious problems,like loss of bowel control and tears that can’t be repaired. Dr. Sue said it’s like trying to sew jello, it can’t be done . So,I’d really give it a lot of thought.

April 14, 2009 at 12:53 am
(756) Doctor says:

I have been a doctor for 10 years and let me tell you, I have seen more serious intestinal injuries from anal than I can count. It is not safe, clean, or natural. Just because something “feels good” does not mean it is good for you.

April 14, 2009 at 1:20 am
(757) PHD says:

I have been a doctor for the past 18 years. Let me just say to all you who believe anal sex is not destructive, you are incorrect. It is damaging to your intestines and other areas of the rectum. Just because it “feels good” does not mean it is good for you.

Though sexuality is a luxury for some, it should not be. Sex should be based on safety as well as pleasure. And due to the fact that anal is not safe, it should be a serious issue of discussion.

April 15, 2009 at 4:19 pm
(758) What happened? says:

Wow,

I hate to say it,but i miss Michelle,JJ and JJ’s Laura.Since they left all we have are the last depressing posts ruining our joy of anal sex.At least they were entertaining and funny.I hope some more hot anal sex stories are posted soon or i might do something i might regret!LOL

April 15, 2009 at 4:56 pm
(759) Maryanne says:

To What Happened?

What don’t you get the ball rolling again with a hot anal sex storie of your own? :-)

You’re right, though, it has gotten a bit dull around here.

April 15, 2009 at 5:26 pm
(760) What happened ? says:

Hi Maryanne,

Would love to share delicious anal sex story with you,but i am a bit of a newbie to this.Have you enjoyed anal sex in your life?I have been so facinated by the thought of it that i think about it so often.I would love to know what you think about it and i will share some of my experiences which are limited.I have only licked and rubbed my penis against a girls ass a couple times.I want to go all the way inside her and feel that tightness,warmth and erotic feelings of closeness people talk about.Tell me more about you Maryanne.

April 15, 2009 at 6:11 pm
(761) Maryanne says:

Hi What happened? (How about an actual name—doesn’t have to be your real name.) :-)

Thank you for sharing something about your interest in anal sex. I got a little bit of a giggle at you saying you have “licked and rubbed [your] penis against a girl’s ass” ‘cause it makes it sound like you can lick your own penis and if you can do that , well, you probably wouldn’t miss anal sex! LOL Of course, I know what you really meant, but thanks for the laugh.

Licking a girl’s ass and rubbing your penis against it is a very good start to anal sex! Nothing makes me want it more than starting out that way! Why did you stop at that? Was your girlfriend too nervous to go any further?

April 16, 2009 at 5:40 am
(762) nicole says:

michelle and jj . plz come back!!!
Hi What happened: i loved the story lol but you have to try all the way in. Since im a girl cant really tell how it wud fell for you but for me its so amazing. its like i feel the earth move under my feet :) )) too bad my husband is not really into it :( therefore it only happens once in a while

April 16, 2009 at 3:09 pm
(763) B-Dubbaya says:

MY FIRST ANAL SEX EXPERIENCE…
My first time was quite remarkable. It’s a long, but good story…and there’s a point at the end. I know this is going to sound unbelieveable, but it’s true.

I was seventeen or eighteen and she was my friend’s divorced mother…who was and still is a judge!

As a teenager, I was (and still am) very attracted to women who are well-endowed. She really wasn’t that good looking but was fairly slender and yet wore around a 36EE bra (can’t quite recall, but I know what DD is and she was way bigger).

Starting around age 14 or 15, when I would visit my friend at the judge’s house, his mother would come downstairs in a tight little teddy or neglishe…no joke! Each time she would be a good host and ask if there was anything I wanted to eat. It made sense later, but at the time the double entendre went over my head.

Being very well endowed even a blind person could see huge chasm between her breasts. And she could tell I was drawn to them. My buddy would quite literally run interference…always trying to stand directly between the two of us. As much as I wanted him to get the hell out of the way I really couldn’t.

She would occasionally invite me over for dinner (with her son there) and would wear the teddy while serving dinner. Because her son was sitting at the table, he couldn’t step in the way while she was serving nor while we were eating.

Although I tried to resist the temptation to look, she could tell I enjoyed the view and would often brush her breasts against me as she cleared the table.

When my buddy started driving, he’d visit his dad every other weekend. One day she invited me over for dinner. When I arrived, I discovered my friend was no where to be found.

On this night, during the clearing the dishes, she did the usual brushing of her breasts against my body…and asked if I wanted dessert. Admittedly, I was clueless and thought I’d be having your typical cake and ice cream. Anyway, she said dessert would be served upstairs…she just needed to freshen up.

After a few minutes she said “Come upstairs”.

When I got to the top of the stairwell, she said, “In here”. Upon entering her bedroom, I found her sitting up naked in bed. She said, “I noticed you like looking at my breasts.” as she cupped them. She softly asked, “Would you like to play with them?”

Okay, no surprise what happened next. As she de-virginized me, she guided me and was very patient. My first time was a lot of fun even though we didn’t do anything super special.

Afterwards she asked, “Did you like that?”
“Yes” I replied.
“Would you like to play with my breasts again? she asked.
“Absolutely” I said.
“Well, you know…if anyone finds out about this, you won’t be able to touch them”. You can’t tell your family, you can’t even tell your best friends. And ***** (her son) can’t ever know.
I recall being overcome with sadness of the thought of our affair ending and said that no one will know.

Even though we could never be seen in public, there was a wonderful rush to this secret we had. And now that I’m much older, I think that that in large part is the draw to anal sex. Anyway, back to the story…

But nearly every weekend my buddy visited his dad, his mother and I had “dessert” together. Sometimes it was as simple as giving her a nice back massage. But usually she would gently guide my head down to her crotch where I would eat her until she was completely satisfied.

When it was “my turn” she would often start by teasing me with her breasts. I’d be on my stomach and she’d slide her breasts over my back, barely skimming it with her areolas and nipples…my favorite! Then she’d fully rest her breasts on my back whispering naughty thoughts into my ear.

Rising a bit to my hands and knees she’d wind up doing a wrap-around thing and stroking my cock. In time, she found that the tip of my cock is extremely sensitive when she would very gently scrape the tip of my cock with her fingernail..I can’t speak for other guys but for me it replicates the sensation of cumming…incredible! It’s almost like it puts me in a trance.

At some point, she discovered how turned on I was by this she started teasing me. She stimulated the tip of my cock while asking, “How far would you go to play with my breasts?”
“I’d do anything” I desperately muttered.
“Aaaaaanything?” She asked.
“Anything” I confirmed.

On my hands and knees with her sitting slightly to the side, she started stimulating the tip of my penis as she whispered naughty ideas into my ear. After I was fully aroused, I suddenly had this odd sensation..it wasn’t bad. I just couldn’t recall any sensation like that before. I slowly started getting this full feeling but was concentrating more on the pleasure to my cock.

Somehow, it really heighted the experience. When I came, I collapsed from exhaustion….Undoubtedly the most amazing expereince I’ve ever had. Afterwards, I asked, “What’d you do”? She replied that she was wiggling a finger inside of me.

She could tell that this was heads-and-shoulders more intense for me that she wanted to try it again. The next time we had sex, we did it again…same result. Soon I started requesting it at the outset of each encounter.

After a while she started getting jealous..like she was missing out on something. She didn’t tell me until later that she could feel my sphincter contracting and expanding uncontrollably So one time I started eating her out and when I could tell that she was starting to cum, I inserted my finger inside her. At first just the tip…then my whole finger…then I started wiggling it. Let me just say there’s nothing like the feeling of a hearing a woman call your name and quivering after climax.

Later we moved up to penile insertion, but I think we both preferred finger stimulation.

Okay, lessons learned….
1) Take your time.
2) Find out what your lover really craves first…it could be a wonderful way to lure him/her in
3) Double stimulation!

April 16, 2009 at 6:58 pm
(764) nicole says:

b-Dubbaya.
Ok its either your fanatsy ( you should write for porn magazines ,but please up the age a little !!!!!!!!! ) or this woman of yours had sex with a child. yuck and illigal. sick too

April 16, 2009 at 8:41 pm
(765) Erika says:

b-dubbaya,

you are one sick bastard!!

April 16, 2009 at 10:25 pm
(766) Sue says:

Im 45 year old divorced female who never even thought abaout anal sex till my new man introduced me to the concept (4 years ago). Now thats my favorite and leave it till last in our sex play and have the biggest orgasms imaginable. He loves it too and we have become very intimate and engage in anal sex nearly every time we have intercourse as we both love it (especially me) and have become very proficient with the act.

April 17, 2009 at 12:36 pm
(767) Jake says:

There have been many comments saying that anal sex is all about domination because for some that may be case. It’s not that I completely disagree, but there are plenty of other factors why people may find anal sex enjoyable.

First, the perspective on domination discounts or eliminates the fact that the people actually get physical pleasure out of the anal sex.

My girlfriend find anal sex to be far more orgasmic than regular sex or masterbation (manually or with a toy). Second, I find the taboo associated with anal sex a turn-on. Next, we have anal sex about one out of every four or five times…it’s not every time. So when we have anal sex it’s a little special…it’s kinda like Thanksgiving dinner. It requires some extra preparation, but much more enjoyable than the everyday thing. Third, I feel more connected with my girlfriend. I wouldn’t have anal sex if it hurt her in any way. Sex in our puritan culture is still somewhat taboo. Knowing that she truly enjoys anal sex (the most taboo of all forms of sex) means that she’d be open to to trying other things too.

April 17, 2009 at 12:43 pm
(768) Zimmy says:

I tried to like anal sex for my boyfriend. Thats his favorite. I tried to close my eyes and fantasize about different things while he’s inside. I’ve relaxed and tried to find the “pleasure” that other females talk about getting during anal. Nothing helps. My boyfriend doesn’t know that I don’t get any pleasure whatsoever out of anal. I’ve resorted to faking my orgasm, only to end up severely sexually frustrated afterwards. I don’t understand what my problem is. I really want to feel this “pleasure” you others are talking about.

April 17, 2009 at 1:04 pm
(769) ava says:

My husband and I have been married for 5 years and we have been trying anal for about the past 1 1/2 years.I have noticed that on here many women enjoy it but for me it is always painful and I have even had some rectal bleeding. My husband is not rough we always use plenty of lube and have also tried numbing cream. Is there anything else anyone can recommend to make this more enjoyable?

April 17, 2009 at 3:25 pm
(770) Heather says:

At first I wasn’t really excited about it, now I am a convert. A couple of years ago, I had already gotten started bathing when my boyfriend came in and sat by the tub. When he offered to help, he made sure every inch of my body was clean. As he was cleaning my crotch, he switched back and forth from cleaning mode to stimulation mode. At some point, he started “cleaning” my butt hole, but for only a second or so then moved on.

Everytime I took a bath, he’d do the same thing. It wasn’t until months later that he penetrated me with his finger. The bath always helps me relax but what made me bring my guard down was that it I knew it was already clean…or at least in the process of being cleaned.

We’ve moved it to the bedroom and usually have anal sex after a shower. I’ve tried taking his penis but it’s too just big.

Now that I feel more comfortable with it, it is actually more stimulating that vaginal sex. Now whenever I show him my butt, that’s the okay.

April 17, 2009 at 4:58 pm
(771) Pam says:

Hi Ava,

I have found anal sex to be wonderful. In fact, I find it exhilarating! When my husband and I were first dating, he begged and begged me for anal sex and I always refused.

He’s not really that big, but it’s simply too big for me. Somehow guys have this weird notion that women’s sphincters are just as elastic as their vagina.

As a result we compromised and I let him watch a porn movie every now and then. Watching the behind the scenes of one, the porn stars was saying that liked anal sex yet she really wasn’t built for the monstrous dicks on most of the guys in porn and every time, she has to get “warmed up”. She had this balloon/pump. On one end of this hose is a small balloon. On the other is an oval hand pump. She inserts the balloon and squeeze the pump to start inflating the balloon until it fills her. Then she starts getting ready for her scene. When she doesn’t really notices it anymore she gives it another squeeze. You can see how this is going to work.

I now do this with my husband but in a slightly different way. I’ll insert the balloon/pump inside of me while he stimulates my clitoris. By now, he knows exactly how, where, and how long. Everytime I reach a new plateau of exhilaration, I give a squeeze. By the time I orgasm, I’ve squeezed several times so I’m not so tight. By this point I’m always good to go.

April 17, 2009 at 5:29 pm
(772) Michelle says:

Hi guys!!

Can someone please explain to me the overall effectiveness of “sex” toy(s)? I was reading Pam’s thread about it. Take care.

April 18, 2009 at 1:00 am
(773) Pam says:

Hi Michelle,

I’ve found that I prefer toys that semi-stiff toys that bend because they can more easily reach certain spots that the stiff ones can’t. I also prefer ones that have a vibrating on/off switch or intensity dial so that I can have that option as well.

For those newbies who feel a bit uncomfortable with anal sex (especially around another) this might be a great way of getting used to it. If he’s around, say you’re taking a bath and run the water half as fast. By going solo, you can basically take as much time as you want until figure out what works best for you.

Would love to hear other people’s thoughts too.

April 18, 2009 at 11:07 am
(774) Michelle says:

Hi Pam,

Thank you for your insight. How does your husband feel about sex toys in the first place? Mine is pretty shy and never brings up the notion. Although, I hear that you will be experiencing a “knock out” feeling.

Let me know. Take care.

April 18, 2009 at 12:15 pm
(775) suz says:

Im 36 years old and first had anal sex with my Iranian boyfriend at the time (i was Aged 21ish), at first i wasnt too keen and i thought he maybe a bit gay?
So then i went travelling and secretly fell in love with a bloke in Australia and i dont know why it happened i was ontop of him and i just had the urge to have anal sex and i was so sexed up it didnt hurt and i was bouncing up and down on him it was fantastic.
Then i met my long term partner who ive been with for 12 years now and we have 3 children. He had a huge Black cock and a few years into our relationship we tryed anal and maybe because i had been stitched (from virgina to rectum) up since after first child i was maybe a bit tight, he could only get the head of his cock in, but it was good all the same even though we were drunk. My partner has never had anal sex with anyone but me and he was hesitant at first but was willing to give it a go.
Its years since we have had anal sex(Tryed) and recently im so horney even right now that i have been on the internet for the last week ordering anal plugs, enema gadgits, nipple rings, cock rings, blind folds and lots of sex creams and special anal lubes, and silk feel lubes and am even considering buying ankle and wrist restraints. We have a fantastic good sensual sex life and love each other very much, but ive hinted about having anal sex again soon and he keep wondering if im going mad as i keep telling him that his mum has to take the kids off our hands for the weekend as ive cocked up a real treat. I want him to firstly ladyshave my bikini area which i know turns him on, and then i want him to insert the enema and have a little fun there (we dont have a problem with each other going for number 2′s in the open), then when im nice and clean in that area im going to get him to squirt anal gel into my recum so its nice and sloppy, and then lube him up.
Beofe i let him enter me i want to let him watch me while i pleasure myself from the Virgina and when we ready had hes so rock hard and throbbing we will enter into the world of erotic pleasure. Im hoping he will last out with the cock ring ive bought him, and im so excited and just carnt wait for thhe children to get out of the way and just bring back a bit of extra spice and a bottom full of cum…. YUM YUM Wish me LUCK

April 18, 2009 at 12:36 pm
(776) Brendan says:

I had always fantasized about having anal sex with a woman. I’ve talked about it with several girlfriends, but none were interested.

I’m not the kind of guy who whines, pouts, or pressures my girl into doing someting they are not comfortable with.

The very first time my previous girlfriend had sex, I was pleasantly surprised to see her fingering her own butthole. I didn’t say or do anything at the time, but certainly took notice. I recall her having a very intense orgasm…at least compared to previous ones.

Obviously, my girlfriend had done this previously. But my point is that maybe self stimulation might be starting point for anal-curious women so they can “dive in” slowly.

Just a thought…if you’re new to the world of anal sex, perhaps you can begin by using your own finger just for exterior stimulation (no penetration). Then at some later point inserting your finger (which might take a few days or a few weeks). When you’re ready, you can move up to other things.

April 18, 2009 at 12:54 pm
(777) Brendan says:

Just for clarification…

I should’ve said that I recall my girlfriend having a very intense orgasm compared to previous ones (previous girlfriends).

April 18, 2009 at 6:02 pm
(778) Leslie says:

Last summer my boyfriend and I started watching porn movies. Sometimes I would choose; sometimes he would.

Ever since, my boyfriend has been nagging me for us to try anal sex, butt I’ve held off (pun intended). Admittedly, I’ve gotten very aroused with scenes of anal sex. I’m so eager to experience these incredible orgasmic “highs” that so many of you have shared yet I don’t want to jump in so quickly that I have a horrible experience.

Well, last weekend I brought up the subject of anal sex and he was very excited. I mentioned I was very curious, but had concerns. And I told him why. I said that I would truly love to be at a point where I am begging him for anal sex. Right now, I’m not there.

I just want my boyfriend to appreciate my reservations and to better understand how WE can approach this. I printed out about 10-12 pages of comments from this forum. Now he has heard many perspectives from both men and women.

I told him that I loved him and would respect him even more if we could work together to get me get there…slowly. And I said it might take several days or even weeks. Soberly, he said okay.

I like the idea of starting in the bath or shower. We’re going to start with finger insertion and go from there.

Wish us luck.

p.s. A big thanks to anyone and everyone who has contributed to this forum.

April 19, 2009 at 3:48 am
(779) Pam says:

Hi Michelle,

I’m uncertain if you’re asking about toys for “him” or toys for “her”, however I’ll assume that you’re talking about a toy for yourself.

Before meeting my husband, I’d been with several guys. I’ve always used toys when I was “single” and have always wanted to incorporate them when I was seeing someone else. I think you’ll be okay as long as you make your man feel special. Here’s what I mean. Guys love to think that they are the biggest stud on the block. I’ve never come across a guy who didn’t want their woman to moan incessantly throughout intercourse and for her to scream with ecstacy at orgasm.

Here’s my foolproof plan: Describe to him how you and your friends were talking about some fun ways to jazz up what happens in the bedroom…and the topic of toys came up.

I wouldn’t have this conversation in bed. You can take the pressure off by having the conversation while you’re taking a walk together, cooking or doing some other activity. Judge his reaction. Most guys I’ve been with were perfectly fine with toys. There were a couple of guys that needed some minor convincing. I told them that I love having sex with each of them…its just that I want to keep things lively and fresh by having a little variety. After all, when I’m happy, I’ll keep you happy. And they understood.

Assuming all systems go…when you get your toy, practice alone a few times so you’ll know how to constructively instruct your man how this is going to work best for you.

While you’re climaxing with your new toy, say his name as many times as you can….there’s not a man on Earth who doesn’t like his name called when his woman is climaxing! If you already call his name, just say it louder. Afterwards, gather yourself as quickly as possible…which might take a minute or two. Immediately reward him for trying something new by performing something he REALLY, REALLY likes. Now don’t go and do something that you’re uncomfortable with. As an example, my husband LOVES a good hand job. He also LOVES when I slowly run my fingernails all the way along his backside from his neck to his back, butt, and thighs. Everybody’s a little different. Just do something memorable so he will start to associate Toy 4 Her = Pleasure 4 Me.

Before you go to sleep that night, kiss him and thank him for trying something new. In the morning, kiss and thank him again. In a short while, he’ll pulling the toy out of the drawer before you even think of it!

April 19, 2009 at 3:56 am
(780) Pam says:

Hi Michelle,

I’m uncertain if you asking about toys for “him” or toys for “her”, however I’ll assume that you’re talking about a toy for you. Before meeting my husband, I’d been with several guys. I’ve always used toys when I was “single” and have always wanted to incorporate them when I was seeing someone else. I think you’ll be okay as long as you make your man feel special. Here’s what I mean. Guys love to think that they are the biggest stud on the block. I’ve never come across a guy who didn’t want their woman to moan incessantly throughout intercourse and for her to scream with ecstacy at orgasm.

Here’s my foolproof plan: Describe to him how you and your friends were talking about some fun ways to jazz up what happens in the bedroom…and the topic of toys came up. I wouldn’t have this conversation in bed. You can take the pressure off by having the conversation while you’re taking a walk together, cooking or doing some other activity. Judge his reaction. Most guys I’ve been with were perfectly fine with toys. There were a couple of guys that needed some minor convincing. I told them that I love having sex with each of them…its just that I want to keep things lively and fresh by having a little variety. After all, when I’m happy, I’ll keep you happy. And they understood.

Assuming all systems go…when you get your toy, practice alone a few times so you’ll know how to constructively instruct your man how this is going to work best for you.

While you’re climaxing with your new toy, say his name as many times as you can….there’s not a man on Earth who doesn’t like his name called when his woman is climaxing! If you already call his name, just say it louder. Afterwards, gather yourself as quickly as possible…which might take a minute or two. Immediately reward him for trying something new by performing something he REALLY, REALLY likes. Now don’t go and do something that you’re uncomfortable with. As an example, my husband LOVES a good hand job. He also LOVES when I slowly run my fingernails all the way along his back, butt, and thighs. Everybody’s a little different. Just do something memorable so he will start to associate Toy 4 Her = Pleasure 4 Me.

Before you go to sleep that night, kiss him and thank him for trying something new. In the morning, kiss and thank him again. In a short while, he’ll pulling the toy out of the drawer before you even think of it!

April 19, 2009 at 9:01 pm
(781) Carolina says:

i honestly love anal sex. i did have a few bad experiences when someone forced it on me and it hurt. i bleed for a few days after. but over all i loved it. my first boyfriend came in me and ive never had a bigger orgasm. it just felt amazing.

April 19, 2009 at 9:06 pm
(782) ADEL says:

i am a boy. i will never try anal sex in my life. i advice every girl & woman not to do it. because the boy will feel happy but the girl will feel pain. And the anal sex is very dirty. Have fun…

April 20, 2009 at 8:08 am
(783) Matt says:

My wife and I have been married 28 years and just started enjoying anal sex. I do her and she does me with a strap on. It has been wonderful.

April 20, 2009 at 4:34 pm
(784) Sam says:

I really spent 4 days reading your messages and opinions reflecting your life experience about anal sex. I enjoyed them so much. But in my opinion, I think, the woman is not created for that kind of sex. The normal is the normal. Anal sex may be a fun but vaginal is healthiar, cleaner and more comfotable and respectable for both sexes.

April 20, 2009 at 6:57 pm
(785) Michelle says:

Hi Pam!

Thank you for your input. Wow! I must say that you know what you’re talking about. Take care.

April 20, 2009 at 11:15 pm
(786) Michelle says:

Hi Pam,

Sorry for being cut short. I enjoyed reading your thread and will try your advice. One thing though, my husband is not one who’d like to try any toys. He once mentioned to me that he felt like he was in competition with them or they in comp with him.

I love screaming my husbands name when I am about to climax. He watches me tense up and loves when I am TOTALLY his! I will be entertaining the thought to him. One question: will this take away any of the closeness? I mean, I don’t want to use mine so that he can use his and that this will be our only reliable source of closeness.

April 21, 2009 at 1:27 am
(787) TheDPmaster says:

Replying to comment 22.

You seem to talk a lot of nonsense. I HAVE seen to male dogs mount each other so you are wrong there amongst other points.

STOP SHOUTING! Just because you hit the CAPS button, it doesn’t mean you have good points.

and yes I have served sentence. I did NOT get done OR do another anally and that’s only because I find the female body so gorgeous that I can’t even beleive some of the stuff that went on inside. And when I was out, yes there was a lot of jokes, by my own mates and their girlfriends However I’ll have you know I did ButtF*#% 3 of those Girlfriends by THEIR request.

I do agree that it CAN be a domination thing, but some females like this, having said that however, personally I think the anal grip is by far tighter than the punani one.

conclusion: None that it comes from anything I have said above but more like through an incident that happened the last time I did go up someone’s bungholio. Anal sex is hightly over rated! The pleasure a man gets out of it vs. the consequenses that the female party suffers makes it and unfair deal.

Here’s what happend. We started but we never finished! Why? just as I was about to cum, she had a bowel movement and crapped all over the bed not to mention covering the front of my body with fudge, which for me was even more disgusting than seeing a dog get slashed in prison! It was stinky and sticky. She turned around and laughed at first , and seconds later vomitted all over the Sh%t. at that point i decided it’s just not worth it.

another personal advise, if you have regular anal sex with a chick be prepared to make sudden stops or turn arounds when your’e out and about sometimes, as this particular chick was so loose up the bum, by the time we got together, that she would have solids coming out every time, she did a fart as her anal opening had no longer had enough tightening control to just let air out and hence anal leakage. I would imagine this is why only ‘some’ old folks need nappies when they are much older.it’s sad, but it’s the truth. so if your’e grandma/pa wears a nappy then you can be have a guess what they may have gotten up to in their younger years.

Be a gentleman about it. If she wants you to do it to her, then do it only if you want to give it, but i would say don’t marry the one you analled, because you probably be paying diapers when she gets older!

April 21, 2009 at 5:58 pm
(788) Michelle says:

Hi guys!!

Has anyone ever experienced back aches/pains from making love at various positions? Secondly, can someone tell me about sex toys for “him”? I didn’t know such existed!

April 21, 2009 at 11:25 pm
(789) Pam says:

Hi Michelle,

I think this is a pretty normal feeling your husband has but it also sounds like your man might be pretty sensitive so, you might need to go with a long-term approach here. This might be somewhat long-winded, but you need to “reframe” sex for your man.

Right now, it seems his perspective is “My dick pleases my girl…and I don’t want to feel or be replaced”. Consequently, he values “unenhanced” sex.

You basically need to introduce new sexual values…values that he can mentally latch onto so that he understands, appreciates and hopefully desires the same kinds of sexual experiences you want. Before introducing any toy (for him or her), I would a light talk outside of the bedroom. I would start by saying that “I love having sex with you and want to keep it that way by having variety. After all, variety is the spice of life right???

Case in point…I luv cherry cheescake…luvvvvv it! Just because I like it so much, doesn’t mean I want cherry cheesecake every night…or even twice a week. I’d evenually get tired of it….I want and need variety. Think of what food you like best…now, do you want that food EVERY night. When you have the talk, don’t be confrontational, just mention this casually.

You are esentially saying, “Yes, hubby…I appreciate that you like to have traditional types of sex…and I want to continue having those experiences. I’m hoping that you’ll also understand and appreciate that I have needs (basic human needs) for variety. After all back in the days of Columbus, sailors would be at sea for months traveling thousands of miles to retreive spices from India. Back then sailing was far more dangerous…not only because of pirates, but the inability to forecast storms. Okay, sorry about the dorky part of me coming out there….my point is that humans have a need to escape the monotony of the same thing day in and day out. And these guys were willing to risk their lives just to get spices!

Also many women stimulate themselves with their fingers while their boyfriend/husband is going at it. So for those couples it’s kind of ridiculous for men to think those intense orgasms are completely their doing. If you stimulate yourself during sex, simply say, “Hubby, you know I pleasure myself while you’re inside me. So I still need you. I REALLY do need you..the toys just heighten the pleasure.”

I don’t know what turns him on, but you need to reiterate, “Sweetie, I still need you. I love it when you….slap my ass, role-play, cum in my mouth, whisper in my ear (or whatever). And I want to continue sharing my most intimate thoughts and desires. So, no toy can ever replace you.”

If the talk goes well, I’d start with a soft-core toy that doesn’t compete with his dick…like scented massage oil, edible panties, a blindfold, furry handcuffs, etc. My personal soft-core toy is actually a feather duster!

Now don’t use it every time out, maybe once every three or four sessions then introduce a new toy every month or two. After a while, see if he’s comfortable having the soft-core toys being used on him…obviously not the edible panties…ha, ha!

Hopefully, you’ll have a special day coming up in a few months like a birthday or anniversary. By then, maybe you’ll be able to have your own fireworks show on the 4th of July or find an interesting way to ring in the New Year! Just start with the soft-core toys then ask for that special hard-core toy as a “gift”.

Given the delicate nature of your situation, I think you should focus on toys for “her” long before you introduce toys for “him”.

Hope that helps.

April 22, 2009 at 2:54 pm
(790) JJ says:

Hi Michelle!

If your looking for a sex toy for your husband that will make him happy and satisfied,may a recommend the largest butt plug you can find and shove it in your mouth and wrap duct tape arouns it to hold it in place.That should make your hubby a very happy man!

April 22, 2009 at 6:11 pm
(791) Sarah says:

Regarding backaches, have you considered trying Yoga? It has helped eliminate backaches entirely for me. Maybe it will help you, too.

April 22, 2009 at 8:43 pm
(792) Brian says:

JJ,

This is not the place to have a private talk between two people…If you have something constructive to contribute, great! Otherwise, please find somewhere else to express your negativity.

April 22, 2009 at 10:45 pm
(793) Michelle says:

JJ,

you again. And again. You really need a life buddy! Contribute; not fight girls! May I assist you in finding a site? ufc.com. Oooops! They don’t fight women there.

Laura must really regret being with a jerk like you!

April 22, 2009 at 11:20 pm
(794) Michelle says:

Hi Pam,

Thank you so much. I am sorry about delaying my message to you. I tell you, there happens to be a JERK that seems to attack everything I say. He (JJ) is like a bully at the playground and his only prey are girls…in this case, me. Wait until he brings his other half (Laura) with him. Watch out for her!

Anyhow, when my husband and I go dancing or get together with family outings, he tells me that he wishes that he had a vibrator with him. What he does is he starts kissing the front part of my jeans and actually stick his tongue down where my vagina is. However, when we get home, we will make love and nowhere is the same conversation of any type of sex toy(s).

Pam, I am sorry to be so abrupt. I promise to write more tomorrow. If I am not making much sense right now, I apologize. I am very tired. Take care.

April 22, 2009 at 11:41 pm
(795) Tanya says:

I loved it, loved it loved it. My husband and I tried it twice. I felt comfortable and relaxed. We’re still exploring. But, it’s great. Try it first before making any judgements.

April 23, 2009 at 1:44 am
(796) Pam says:

Hi Michelle,

Please do not respond to JJ’s (or anyone else’s negative comments)…it just adds fuel to the fire.

If this person has nothing better to do that to spread hatred, it says quite a lot about that person and the relationships s/he has with other people.

And you nailed it, this is bullyish behavior. Bullies act that way because they want to see (or in this case, read) people suffering.

It’s natural to want to stand up for yourself, but take the high road here…it takes a stronger person to turn the other cheek!

I’m sure JJ or someone else will try to suck you back into this mess. So anytime you see something, just ignore.

April 23, 2009 at 7:21 am
(797) Mohammed says:

I am 30 year male, have been reading & watching many anal sax movies, I really love to have anal sax but unfortunately, I have not tried it yet
I am desperate to find a woman ho like to have anal sax relation with me, can anybody guide me?

April 23, 2009 at 9:00 am
(798) Heather says:

Tanya, who brought up the idea? And how did you start..with a finger, toy…or did you just get right down to it?

April 23, 2009 at 1:17 pm
(799) Annette says:

Wow, I thought JJ’s statement to Michelle was more funny than being a bully. It just goes to show that perspective is everything. And at least he was on topic since a butt plug is related to anal sex whereas she seems to stray off topic alot of the time. I was curious about what she was telling Pam about JJ and Laura, so I went back and read each message exchanged between them. Michelle seems to appear on the scene in message #610 and JJ’s first response to her is #645 and Laura’s after that. They seemed to call her on a bunch of contradictory comments she made. JJ was usually being funny and it looked to me like Laura was trying to help her understand what ATM really was. They were sarcastic but not mean. Michelle had called other people all kinds of names (like insolent jerk, etc.) so I really don’t see why she felt so attacked by their comments. She seemed very arrogant to me at first (But again, perspective is everything. Obviously Michelle doesn’t see herself that way) and they were trying to knock her down a peg or two. It seems to have worked because she hasn’t been anywhere near as bad as when she started.

In the second message that Laura wrote to her, she gave her the same advice that Pam just did: Don’t respond any further as there is no need to prolong the argument. Michelle ignored that and continued to argue while at the same time complaining of being attacked. Actually, most of what she said didn’t make any sense but she obviously wanted to continue the confrontation. Their responses to her got steadily more sarcastic. A few other people agreed with Laura and JJ and wrote to say that they were tired of the “Michelle Show” and would she just leave. Michelle says good bye twice and then keeps coming back again.

If you actually read all of her messages, it’s obvious that this chick doesn’t contribute anything useful to this forum. Whatever; that is true of a lot of other people as well but I totally get why JJ wants to stuff a butt plug in her mouth and duct tape it in.

Well this is just a bystander’s two cents. Will Michelle be able to follow Pam’s advice or will she now try to continue a new argument with another person (me)? Don’t bother as I want to see this forum get back on topic, so I won’t respond. If I make another comment again at all, it will be completely about anal sex!

April 23, 2009 at 5:03 pm
(800) JJ says:

Hi Annette,

Just read your insightful and keen response to Michelle and the others on here.Michelle has a buddy in Pam now,so they can both inform us about the thrills and joys of anal sex.However,all Michelle ever does is complain about her husband,bitch about her aches and pains and ask the most stupid questions imaginable.All the while expressing to us the joys of ATM while most people find it disgusting and unhealthy.

And now to top it off,Michelle tells us she and her husband go dancing and to family gatherings in which he goes down on her and and kisses and licks her where her vagina is thru her pants!WTF?They do this out in public dancing and at family gatherings?Please tell me that i am not the only one here that finds that sick and weird!I am sure Michelle’s family just loves seeing that take place.You and your husband Michelle are in need of serious counseling and if Pam thinks this is cool,then she might want to join you.

I think Mohammed(797)and you Michelle might want to hook up.Sounds like you and him would make a perfect couple.Stupid is as stupid does!

And by the way,my girl Laura and i are just fine and more in love than ever.You could learn a few things from her Michelle if you go back and read her posts.But wait,you need a brain to comprehend and the Scarecrow from the Wizard of Oz already took yours so you will just have to live with being a moron the rest of your life.Now put that butt plug back in your mouth where it belongs like a good girl and let this forum return the the subject of anal sex!

April 23, 2009 at 9:15 pm
(801) Honesty! says:

Remember…. real man plugs and does not get plugged!!! This thing about butt plugs, strap ons and sich are for “plugees”… Keep repeating you all guys… REAL MEN PLUG!

April 24, 2009 at 7:05 am
(802) Michelle says:

Hi Pam,

I posted this a while back, please tell me what you think of this. It has to do with masochism. Well recently, I injured myself at the gym and now my ribs are bruised. My husband wants sex and does me with him on top. As he is thrusting, he gets closer. By this time, I am not shouting of joy, I am shouting of pain.

My legs are on his shoulders and he is going at it. I cannot breathe because of the position of him on top. Well, at the while, he is loving it.

Tell me, does your husband do this? Why are men so masochistic?

April 24, 2009 at 4:37 pm
(803) Lowlife Degenerate says:

About all that’s missing from this thread are a few good, close-up pics of some of you fine ladies doing some serious “rump-humping”.

Especially…Michelle! Since you seem to think you’re just the “cat’s meow” of butt-banging, I’d like to see just how big of a cock you can really take.

Talk is cheap. It’s time to see some action out of you!

April 24, 2009 at 6:19 pm
(804) Michelle says:

JJ,

You’re such an a-hole, I swear! Admit it, you want a girl like me. I’m someone Laura will never be. You’re a jerk as well.

April 24, 2009 at 6:51 pm
(805) JJ's Laura says:

Michelle,

JJ is not Lowlife Degenerate. That is yet someone else who sees through you. And thank you for the compliment–I certainly will not ever be like you…a mental midget, abused by her husband.

April 24, 2009 at 11:28 pm
(806) katie says:

Michelle … Learn to use a dictionary. The word you are attempting to use describing your husband’s sexual behavior is “sadistic,” not “masochistic.”

Masochistic is a term that could well be applied to you … you seemingly enjoy and somehow must benefit from all of your illogical, presumptive & inane posts on this forum.

And I seriously doubt that (in real life, not from behind the anonymity of a computer) many people … either men or women … would find you remotely as “hot” as you continually pretend to be.

Why don’t you find another type of forum; there, at least, you could initially amuse some of the participants before becoming known as simply repetitious & irritating.

April 25, 2009 at 10:05 am
(807) Michelle says:

Hi katie,

I do not recall asking for your input, much less your opinion. Where are you getting the term “hot” from? What did I ever do to you?

JJ’s Laura, everytime there’s a fight, you’re right there. You have mental issues, you psychopath!!

Why don’t you and katie run yourselves against a brick wall. Both of you are hard heads! Better yet, why don’t both of you go to hell and leave me alone!!

April 25, 2009 at 2:53 pm
(808) Michaek says:

Anal sex is well ok for a girl to like but my question is. Why do women like it when a male’s penis is inside of them and when a female moan in a erotic voice. Does the female enjoy it?
When some people have sex, why do the female suck on the male’s penis and when the male is squirting, the female tends to eat it as such.
To all the women that has tasted male penis and sperm, what does it taste like and why do you like it?

April 25, 2009 at 6:07 pm
(809) Michelle says:

Laura,

Abused by my husband? How dare you!

April 26, 2009 at 9:37 am
(810) Pam says:

Hi Michaek,

I think you’re reality has been warped by watching too many porno movies because I’m having a hard time seeing how you’re coming up with that generality.

Of the hundreds if not thousands of people I’ve met in my lifetime, I’ve probably had conversations on raunchy sex with a few dozen. Of those, only a handful (not me) have enjoyed swallowing.

I think that’s an issue for many, including myself. Having watched pornography, I’m often turned on and even intrigued because it’s presented as though it is mutually pleasurable. Realize that most porn is made to satisfy men.

Admittedly, there’s something mesmorizing about watching a well-hung guy having steamy anal sex with a woman. As much as I’m turned on by it, I know that I’ll never get there.

As foreplay in many anal movies, guys will lick the woman’s butthole. Personally, I love it! But I wouldn’t generalize by saying that in real life most guys like it.

April 26, 2009 at 10:18 am
(811) Pam says:

Michaek,

I submitted and kind of danced around the point…What I’m trying to say that for those who might watch porno movies…even occasionally, we really need to differentiate fantasy from reality (myself included) to consider which aspects of our sexual fantasies actually fit with other’s realities.

April 26, 2009 at 2:47 pm
(812) Pam says:

Hi Michelle,

Regarding your having sex with a bruised rib…let me start of by saying that Katie is right that the word “sadism” is more accurate than “masochism”. Having said that, “machismo” might be a better choice…and I’ll explain why.

Sadism and masochism are obviously the ying/yang of an abusive act, whether physical or emotional. It simply depends on who the giver or receiver is. Worth noting is that the act of sadism is intentional and focuses on inflicting pain.

But your husband isn’t completely about inflicting pain as this only happens as he gets near the “finish line”.

I was thinking exhibiting machismo seems to be a better choice of words because he exhibits “an exaggerated sense of power or strength” (take from Mirriam-Webster).

At any rate, I am concerned that your husband disregards your need to enjoy sex. In other words, he places his machismo so far above your need to be comfortable that it is borderline abusive.

It’s hard to imagine that you haven’t said anything by now. If you have mentioned the pain to him, whether during sex or afterwards and if he continues…this is abusive.

April 26, 2009 at 8:30 pm
(813) Michelle says:

Hi Pam,

I did realize that I was wrong and that katie was right on correcting me. But, why was she mean about it? I was mad at her but I got over it quickly.

Anyhow, I don’t consider it abuse though. And you’re right as well, machismo is the correct term that I was looking for but I hate using it!!

April 26, 2009 at 11:30 pm
(814) Pam says:

Getting back to a topic you wrote a short while back…

Your husband said to you that he wished he had a vibrator to get your aroused in public. Well go out and buy one. There are some great wireless gadgets, like vibrating panties for exteral vaginal stimulation…or even a vibrating egg for internal anal stimulation.

In public, your husband can keep the remote in his pocket…so no one will even know! Sounds really interesting, huh? Oooooh, I’m getting excited thinking about the possibilities of wondering when he’ll decide to use it!

April 26, 2009 at 11:40 pm
(815) Pam says:

My husband and I watched an adult movie last night which involved an enema. I found it very appealing. Does anyone have any experience using an enema? If so, any thoughts or advice?

April 27, 2009 at 9:28 am
(816) Alana says:

Years ago, before we were married, my husband gave me my first enema. We were already into toys and anal play. He blindfolded me then told me he had something special waiting for me. He already had several towels laid down on the floor of the bathroom. When he led me there, he had me drop to my knees and hands. Next thing I remember is him putting something in my ass. As the water flowed inside me, he asked how I felt every couple of minutes. At first I didn’t realize what was happening. When I started getting that filled up sensation I asked and he chuckled. When I was full, he took out the enema nozzle and replaced it with a butt plug. Without warning, he proceeded to use our electric hand massager to stimulate my clit. OMG, I thought the butt plug was gonna shoot out and hit the back wall! My husband lightly runs his fingertips over my ass and whispers in my ear while he’s filling me up, “How much more can that juicy ass take?”. “Show me how tight your wonderful ass is.” OMG, it’s a huge turn-on! Ememas don’t hurt although they might be a bit uncomfortable at times. But when I’m filled up, the orgasms are always wonderful.

April 27, 2009 at 2:02 pm
(817) Stephanie says:

Hi Pam, thanks for your comments. You always seem to have some thought-provoking ideas. Your thread on our reality got me to thinking.
When I was in college I started dreaming about anal sex…and I’ve actually had anal sex with four men. I can easily see how watching a lot of porn can distort reality, especially for younger people who haven’t had many experiences. I was wondering how many people actually engage in anal sex. And is there a big difference between men and women. Well did some research. According to the National Center for Health Statistics (2002), 40% of men and 35% of women between the age of 25-44 have engaged in anal sex with someone of the opposite sex. Obviously the study is a bit outdated, but I think you’d have to agree the numbers would be slightly higher if the survey were redone in 2009. It makes you wonder how taboo it really is when so many people have tried it.

April 27, 2009 at 4:19 pm
(818) Pam says:

Hi Michelle,

I normally don’t like to speculate on other people’s motivations. I apologize in advance if I’m coming across at the gatekeeper of this forum; I’m certainly not. I just want to keep this online community from spiraling out of control to the point where people leave or become discouraged from contributing.

We all have something to contribute, whether its our personal experiencs (or lack thereof) or just a different perspective.

A lot of negativity has been flowing back and forth and I’d rather not reiterate those thoughts. Instead I’d rather move forward.

I hope that everyone realizes that anal sex is a very delicate topic. Therefore, there aren’t too many “watering holes” you, I or anyone else can candidly discuss this. If anyone disagrees, I invite you to go into work tomorrow and start discussing anal sex with your boss! If that doesn’t work (pun intended), try talking about it with your clients or even your family and friends. So, let’s face it, that’s the reason why we’re all here!

Perhaps said a little harshly, but Katie does highlight some things we can all benefit from…like using a dictionary if you’re unsure about the meaning of a word. I can recall being in college and using an unfamiliar word during a presentation…and I was roasted mercilessly. Using words thoughtfully will serve you and anyone else very well inside and outside this forum. Having said that, there’s no reason to bash someone for a mistake. If you feel the need, just politely correct him/her and move on.

Second, as the age-old adage goes…’tis better to give than to receive. Yes, Michelle go ahead and ask questions, but give back. Be supportive of others by offering your perspective on their topics and helping others by giving constructive advice.

And let’s keep the focus of our conversations on anal sex. There’s so many other places online or otherwise to discuss everyday sexual issues.

Keeping these in mind will serve this community very well. Now let’s get back to talking about wonders and joys of anal sex!

April 27, 2009 at 4:43 pm
(819) JJ's Laura says:

Michelle,

You may not like what I said, but I said it based on the behavior you have described about your husband more than once. You said that you were literally “shouting in pain” from your husband. For him to disregard that makes me think that he is abusive.

April 27, 2009 at 5:31 pm
(820) Michelle says:

Hi Pam,

I would LOVE to contribute but I feel that there are many folks much older than I am, who know more than I do. They wouldn’t learn anything from me or even take my advice once they found out my age.

April 27, 2009 at 6:20 pm
(821) JJ says:

Hi Michelle,

You again!And again!LOL.I don’t think you are too young to contibute to this site at all.Instead you chose to whine and fuss about your husband and continually felt the need to reminds us all how HOT you are.You could have actually stayed on topic instead choosing to respond back in your mentally challenged ways.

You now have your new mentor Pam talking about everything from Columbus and sailors looking for spices to enemas now.

So i don’t see why you can’t remind us once again how you look in your wranglers and can take any womans man away if you want to and how all the What A Burger employees all lust for you when you go there.

I am sure myself,Laura,Katie and Lowlife Degenerate would love to hear more stories about your hotness.There seems to be an underlying reason for your husbands abusive nature towards you during sex.Maybe Pam will be able to figure this out through exhaustive psychoanalysis into the mind of Michelle.A scary thought indeed,but Pam seems up to the task.

Stay tuned for the next episode of Michelle and Pam go the White Castle.

April 27, 2009 at 7:03 pm
(822) Betty says:

My husband tells me that he’d like me to try an anal bleaching cream. Has anyone here ever tried this? He said that my anus is already pink and beautiful but thought that the cream could make it even more appealing and he wants to use it himself to make his even more appealing to me as well, so he’s not asking me to do anything he wouldn’t do himself. I’m certainly not opposed to the concept of this idea—just don’t want to do anything to irritate such a sensitive area. So I’m curious if anyone else here does this and what product they use?

April 27, 2009 at 7:10 pm
(823) Pam says:

Hi Michelle,

Hey…Michaek’s post is a great opportunity. He’s asking what a woman thinks! Now I realize it helps if you’ve actually done this, but whether you have or haven’t you still have an opinion. So, from your perspective, what are your thoughts?

Michaek’s wording was difficult to read, so I’ve tried to interpret in a way that does it justice. He writes: “Why do women moan in a erotic voice during anal sex. Does the female enjoy it? Also do women like swallowing? If so, what makes it fun?”

And I’m sure there are other lurkers out there :-)

April 27, 2009 at 7:32 pm
(824) JJ says:

Hi Betty,

Nice timing on that question.We started using anal cream a couple months ago and love it!My girl already had the most luscious ass ever before we used the cream.But curiosity got to me so i asked her if she would try it and OH MY! She is pinker and softer in that region than you could imagine.I love to perform analingus on her and just the sight of her back there drives me crazy.I highly recommend that you give this a try.The one we picked is South Beach Lightening Cream and it is all natural and very gentle.I can’t keep my tongue or cock away from her sweet soft pink ass!

By the way,there are other creams too.Just don’t buy and use one with harsh chemicals.
Buy a cream that is made for that region only.

April 27, 2009 at 8:42 pm
(825) Paul V. says:

After reading Pam’s “War and Peace” length responses to every single question in that patronizing I-know-everything tone, I wish someone would yank the butt plug out of Michelle’s mouth and shove it in Pam’s.

Pam, if you don’t want to be the gatekeeper to this forum, quit acting like it. Your not the referee here and your not Michelle’s mother.

April 27, 2009 at 8:54 pm
(826) Betty says:

Hi JJ,

Thank you so much for your enthusiastic reply. You made it sound so hot that I found South Beach Lightening Gel online and ordered it. You have a very lucky girlfriend!

I can’t wait to surprise my husband with it. We can apply it to each other.

Thanks again!

April 27, 2009 at 11:21 pm
(827) Jack Meoff says:

To all the retards above:

How about you internet warriors stop arguing over the INTERNET and STFU. Thanks

Jack

April 28, 2009 at 2:11 am
(828) Brian says:

Well said Jack!

April 28, 2009 at 4:29 am
(829) Darren says:

Word.

April 28, 2009 at 5:36 am
(830) Michelle says:

Hi JJ,

Do you believe in having peace every now and then? If not, make it now! Contribute or get out…please.

April 28, 2009 at 12:03 pm
(831) Paul V. says:

Before I read anything that was posted after my rude comment last night, I just want to apologize to Pam. I don’t like rudeness ever. I’ve taught this to my children and feel irritated with myself that it even happened. Good bye.

April 28, 2009 at 6:12 pm
(832) Michelle says:

Hi guys,

My husband has received word that he will be getting deployed back to Iraq or somewhere to the Middle East. For obvious reasons, I will not be contributing to this forum as much anymore.

I haven’t been in the best of moods lately and I apologize. I am sorry if I may have offended anyone. Take care and be blessed.

MS

April 28, 2009 at 9:02 pm
(833) Joe says:

how long do you girls like em

April 29, 2009 at 12:58 pm
(834) JJ says:

Hi Michelle,

Good luck to your husband and i hope he stays safe.You should be very proud that he is serving his country in such an important way.

April 29, 2009 at 1:33 pm
(835) Jenn says:

Joe,

Us girls like em just like yours…3 inches long

April 29, 2009 at 2:09 pm
(836) JJ's Laura says:

Hi Michelle,

I am going to ignore that last comment you made to JJ that didn’t make any sense because you obviously have much bigger concerns on your mind.

I wish your husband the best of luck and pray that he comes home to you safe and sound, as soon as possible. Good luck to you, too.

April 29, 2009 at 11:07 pm
(837) Raph says:

I have no experience with anal sex, but I would really like to try it with my girlfriend. As we all know, anal sex is kind of taboo; and my girlfriend really just refuses to even talk with me about it. I just want to know if anyone has some good ideas about how to get her to open up to the subject and even consider it.

Thanks

April 30, 2009 at 1:12 am
(838) art says:

nothing like a cock up your ass

April 30, 2009 at 1:23 pm
(839) JJ says:

Raph(837)

There are a lot good posts on this site that will answer some of your questions.Read post(662)from Laura and that will get you a good start from a womans view point as well as some things to consider.Anal sex does require trust and being comfortable with each other.Good luck because it is an amazing sexual experience!

April 30, 2009 at 11:04 pm
(840) Jo-ann says:

Never liked anal sex until met my husband. 5 years later… we’re doing it the nasty way. He’s a black man really with a big one measuring 10×2 (you know what that means) and veiny… He puts is all the way to the balls in my butt – and then he shoves a 12×3 dildo in my pu@@y… it’s a tight fit in both places and believe me there’s room for nothing after both are in… We’ve been playing with the dildo in the back but I cannot get it in yet. Working on it though. I’m slowly stretching. I want DP next! What can I say? I’m a hungry chick!

May 1, 2009 at 1:36 pm
(841) alondra says:

i have never acutally had oral sex. i have a long distance realationship. he always wants me to play with it but it hurts. i like it when its in but when im taking my fingers out it hurts. i try using lubricater. what should i do?

May 2, 2009 at 8:04 pm
(842) yassir says:

No one love his wife or his girlfriend do it like that it only the animal how do that, not because he enjoy it, but only he is animal

May 2, 2009 at 8:27 pm
(843) Marion Cobretti says:

WOW….. almost 3 years of comments up to now. WOW..WOW.. All I have to say is Anal sex is just another way for you and your woman to have more intimate times and not only that but good lord is it HOT or what. She loves it, she loves it, trust this. When a woman askes for it, the proof is in the pudd’n. I don’t know who loves it more me or her?!

May 6, 2009 at 10:23 am
(844) Jim says:

My first wife did not enjoy anal sex until I convinced her to try a vibrating “egg” in her vagina. That changed everything and she had intense orgasms during anal sex after that, which made it all more acceptable. Take that as a tip.

After my divorce and I was dating I found varying views on the topic. Some women “had no taboos” and simply enjoyed anal sex as much as vaginal while others wanted nothing to do with it. No two women or experiences were alike. I didn’t really press the issue but it seemed to come up on it’s own.

My second wife is 50/50… while she enjoys it sometimes and has had anal sex orgasms without the use of any other “toys” it’s not something she really wants so we use it as an occasional diversion. I find it gives me my most intense orgasms for whatever reason.

And like previous posters as I age I find occasional ED to be a problem so as my overall sex life is declining so is my need for anal sex. Any sex is great these days and I have some great memories!

May 6, 2009 at 6:19 pm
(845) Michelle says:

Hi guys!

alondra, how do you and yours make it in a long distance relationship…in an intimate way? If anyone can assist me on this and provide your input, I’d greatly appreciate it.

I have my husband with me but he will be leaving in 6-8 weeks. The thought of it kills me. Please advise.

May 6, 2009 at 7:13 pm
(846) Laurie says:

Hi I am a college student and I LOVE anal. I had two guys and all I have to say is wow.firs we did vaginal and anal at the same time then DOUBLE anal. It is so amazing.use lots of lube and go for it

May 7, 2009 at 4:23 am
(847) loveit, love it, loveit says:

I was always the girl who said that my ass was an “exit hole only”…well not anymore. I asked a couple of my female friends about it and some said it was painful and only tried it once, but others said it was amazing.

I love to masturbate and do so almost daily. I decided I wanted to try anal by myself first before approaching my boyfriend. I used my vibrator in my vagina first and was plenty turned on when I decided to use a slim vibrator on my ass. I put plenty of lube on it and rubbed it on the opening of my ass. It felt so go that I gently pushed it in my ass. It took several tries and patience to get the vibrator in. It felt weird…but good. I used my other vibrator to stimulate my clit and got off pretty quickly. The next day, my ass felt a little sore, but it wasn’t too bad.

I couple of days later, I tried it again. First getting plenty turned on, then lubing my vibrator up and pushing it in. After I put the slim vibe in my ass, I put my rabbit vibe in my vagina. Between the two of them and I came so hard almost immediately. It was the best orgasm I’ve ever had. I’ve been doing this for a couple of weeks, and I can’t get enough. I can’t wait until my boyfriend is back in town…cause man, do I have a surprise for him!!!

May 7, 2009 at 2:42 pm
(848) david rosales says:

anal sex is the best!! it

May 8, 2009 at 9:17 am
(849) missylady says:

I guess I’m the odd-lady-out on this one.
To put it bluntly, it feels like passing a giant turd. Unusal feeling but not a purely sexual feeling. Thank goodness my husband likes it a little rougher in the old-fashioned out-dated nether-region.

May 8, 2009 at 9:26 am
(850) D says:

When I was dating my (ex) wife, when we’d have sex, I would always kind of play with her butthole a little bit, nothing really big. Just rub it some. We got married and I kept doing this. Pretty soon she liked it when I slid my finger in a little. Then, one night she was begging me to put the head of my dick in, I did. Nothing else for a year or so, then she lubed me up and we tried. I went really slow. It was ok for her, then a year or so later we did it again, and pretty soon we were doing it about once every other month. With varying degrees of sucess. Then one night she was so horny and got on top and slid it in her butt. She came so hard that night she almost passed out. She was shaking so hard it was so good. From the time we started dating until the time we were doing it two or three times a month was probably about 9 years. Before we were divorced, we were doing it once a week. She loved it. But I always went slow. Except once, about 2 months after our divorce, she came over to my apartment and told me to have anal sex with her, and she wanted me to just do it as hard as I could with no lube. Just her juices from her vagina. AFterwards, she said she just wanted to be humiliated by me, and that’s why she did it that way. I miss her. I’ve had several women since we divorced, but none were near as good in bed as her. The woman I’m dating now likes for me to lick her butthole and finger it a little, but that’s about it.

May 10, 2009 at 12:13 pm
(851) Nightflyte says:

I’m fascinated about the religious and “dirty” contact that many responders have. My GF loves anal sex and so do I. We don’t do it often but enjoy it very much: being very relaxed, prepared (clean)and well lubed are the best. Be patient and go slow. It is NOT animalistic, filty, anti-religious or any of that nonsense. Its a sensible choice if both enjoy it and I reassure you I’m not gay and my partner loves to do it.

May 13, 2009 at 12:56 pm
(852) selene says:

A relaxed ass is a happy ass. Lube up well using vaginal juice or spittle or any lubrication made for sexual relations. Forget about the taboos, just relax yourself and allow the penis to enter slowly. Once it is in, make sure he makes slow movements until you are used to it. ENJOY!

May 13, 2009 at 9:37 pm
(853) Concerned says:

Several posters have written that one cannot become pregnant from anal sex. This is WRONG! If you do not use contraception, you CAN get pregnant from anal sex. Some semen can leak and get into the vaginal tract. So, please be aware that there is some risk of pregnancy if you have unprotected anal sex.

May 14, 2009 at 6:05 am
(854) Brandon says:

I begged my girl for months for anal sex. She was pretty resistant because she felt it was too dirty. I eventually persuaded her to try an enema to help her get over the cleanliness aspect. We lathered each other in the shower then did the enema (in the shower too). I guess it was pleasant enough cuz we even started experimenting with adult toys. After she relieves herself, she’ll jump back in the shower and I’ll slowly fill her ass with graduated beads…the ones that get bigger and bigger. She’s moved past the medium set and using the large set of beads. Now she can take beads wider than my dick! After three or four months I asked my girl last summer if I could put my cock in her ass and she did’t hesitate. She likes it! Hey Mikey!!! Ahhh, there’s nothing I like more than backdooring my girl in the shower with the smell of conditioner in her hair!

May 15, 2009 at 12:06 am
(855) another wife says:

I love anal sex. After 14 years of marriage, I slowly opened upped to my husband about liking anal sex. He is way more traditional then me! I would love to try spanking next….lets face it – after many years of marriage and kids, house, jobs – we need a little spice!!
We do visit clothing option resorts – NANR only! No swinging. Its great relaxing couple time!! Check it out. Google National Nude Recreation Assc.

May 15, 2009 at 4:03 am
(856) Amber says:

The first few times i did anal, i really hated it and would only bear through it to make the guy happy. However, now that im with a different guy he did it differently and i was moaning in pleasure the whole time begging him to do it harder and faster! what makes a difference is lube! I suggest the KY warming lubricant, since your anus doesnt produce fluids like the vagina it’s very important that lube is used, because if your try it dry….well cudos to you if you can handle it. I also found that its helpful if he lubes up his fingers and fingers you there before hand to open you up and while doing it, he rubs your clit while he penetrates you…well hope this helps! it is also good if you trust the person your doing it with.

May 16, 2009 at 12:28 am
(857) Clear Thinker says:

OK, first, those that engage in regular anal sex can have a high rate of anal cancer–particularly if HPV is present or other kinds of warts.

Second, that track was created for ONE purpose, period. I know some dont’ want to hear this, but it is what it is. Sodomy, even with lubrication, is often traumatic.

That area is particularly highly vascular. Why do you think it is a go entry place for a number of sexually transmitted diseases.

Thirdly, if you think sex is mostly about how well everyone gets off; you’ve really missed the big picture.

Also, it’s often not difficult to pick the people that prefer anal sex. Not always true, but often their bottoms get flatter after a while. It is sort of how women’s behinds may start to get a bit broader after virginity and regular sex–though, the flat butt syndrome is definitely more of a problem for some that others–even if indeed they didn’t start out that flat-butted.

Fourth, it is known after women have a lot of sex or children, well, honestly, um, the circumference can get bigger. Why is this different that the anus? Well, the anus has a sphincter that is totally different from the vaginal canal. Kegel exercises can and do work, if women practice them regularly. Also, women have to make sure that the hormones are in balance, b/c that has a lot to do with the thickness and integrity of reproductive tissues–even women’s face and breast tissue.

Bringing aninals into anything sexual–especially in pointing out the exception and not the rule is this. Animals, like some pig humans, will and do go for any port in a storm–especially when in heat and hormones are raging–and yes, male animals do go into heat. Dolphin B could be hitting up against an open an available sperm whale for all it knows. It just knows it wants relief from sexual tension. period, end of story.

If humans want to continue to religate the beauty and glory of intimate relationships to that of animalistic behavior, don’t be surprised if you eventually find out that there is much missing.

Finally, the anal tract, even if cleaned well, is still super dirty compared with the vagina–unless you are talking about some promiscuous pro or (what’s the nice way to say slut???).
And before you bring oral sex into it–one can clean and mouth wash the mouth (and definitely should) quite thoroughly without missing too much from a microbiological standpoint. I recommend using sonicare–for no less than two full minutes and good toothpaste, and excellent tongue scrapper and a nice and effective enzymatic mouthwash like Biotene (We are using this to prevent infections starting in the oral and nasal tract for people that are intubated on ventilators in the hosptials. The numbers are looking pretty darn excellent.)

Also, again, great potential for trauma and bleeding with anal sex–even if you are careful–and microbleed-based infection from stool that can’t be completely removed.

Think things through. That’s how we make healthy decisions.

No one can make you do so, but don’t be surprised if you become one of the sad numbers if you don’t listen.

Thank the dear Lord my husband has never had any interest in anal sex–and he loves my behind–he’s good with the external beauty and cleanliness of it.

May 16, 2009 at 1:26 am
(858) Mari says:

Im a 40 year old single mother of three and I just happened to stumble accross this website because I was curious if having anal sex causes cancer. I have had anal sex with my ex husband and I did love it and it made me have the best organsm ever! Now that im single and NOT dating, I miss this intimate moment with a man that I love. I often wondered if older people had anal sex and reading all the comments leaves me hopeful to have this type of relationship with someone in the future. Thanks guys for these adult comments that are very honest and natural.

May 17, 2009 at 12:35 pm
(859) Peter says:

Hi Mari,
I am a surgeon specialising in colorectal cancer. I can reassure you, anal sex absolutely does NOT cause cancer. THere is a bit of red herring in some of the posts above about HPV virus which does indeed casue various sorts of cancer, including anal cancer but this is almost always spread through vaginal and anal sex and there is no greater chance of getting it thru anal sex than vaginal sex. Probably the same is true of HIV tho precise data unreliable. I too have been interested in many of the posts on this site; some of them complete nonsense of course. While we are on the health related thing, there is no evidence that anal sex causes incontinence, provided it is not traumatic; to be brutally frank, the size of the average adult erect penis is no larger than many stools (faeces, poos, whatever your name for it) that are passed.

I was interested to see what women actually enjoy about anal sex as I have recently had conversations with women professionally who very obviously DO enjoy this and it has not been appropriate to ask them in detail what is good for them about it. The answers I read here are the sense of being very deeply filled, a profound abdominal pelvic sensation which leads to a very intense orgasm. I am interested in the sensation of anal stimulation for a woman. I can tell you professionally form experience in giving pain relief following surgery and the requirements of local anesthesia during minor operations, the anus is far, FAR more sensitive than the vagina. It is possible to do minor procedures on the vagina (not the outmost part admittedly but once past the inner lips) whereas impossible to go anywhere near the anus without very deep anaesthesia. I am intrigued, can anyone answer the question, is the pleasurable sensation also that of the anus itself being stimulated as well as the pleasure of deep penetration/being filled?

Hope this helps

Peter

May 17, 2009 at 9:11 pm
(860) Pete says:

Re Clear Thinkers comments.

Lady you are evidently quite articulate and yes you no doubt think you are a clear thinker.

However EVERYTHING CAUSES CANCER! Particularly University tests and living on earth. There is however no real requirement for you to fall back on this line! You do not have to justify why you are not willing or game to try it, just dont do it and try not to influence others to adopt your unwillingness or morals. Leave religion and that sort of moralistis/scientific crap out of it.

Have a nice day anyway and enjoy whatever it is you enjoy.

Pete

May 19, 2009 at 1:51 pm
(861) Jb says:

I wanted to just thank everyone for the insightful comments here. My husband has just started some anal play with me the last few times he’s gone down on me. He started just fingering the outside of my anus. Then licked it a bit. That felt good and definitely turned me on. This last time he slid part of his finger in me and I enjoyed that too. He could tell. So I am here getting information and learning more because I think we both know that we’re going to move on to trying with his penis.
Thanks again for all the helpful posts.

May 20, 2009 at 1:27 am
(862) Paul says:

I have tryed anal sex once with my wife of 20 years she said she didnt mind it and was up for again . I have a 8 inch penis and she said it burned like hell ,and i went easy . My question is whats the best position and the best lude , i used astroglide

May 20, 2009 at 1:41 am
(863) Paul says:

whats the best postition and lube for anal sex

May 20, 2009 at 5:17 pm
(864) nicole says:

anal queen is a miss.the first time i did anal, my boyfriend used his finger then he gradually put his penis in and went to work. the only reason it hurted a little was because we didnt use lube. otherwise when my husban gets home from jail its all ass

May 20, 2009 at 6:31 pm
(865) Tammi says:

Wife Says: When I first tried vaginal sex, it was painful and un-enjoyable, but over time, I grew to enjoy the pleasure that sex brings. I had to learn to relax, breathe, and be to become open and connected to my partner. I first tried anal sex at 17, and it was just as painful as vaginal sex. I have been having anal sex (primarily anal and oral) for over 14 years now, and I love the erotic nature of the act. My husband starts by rubbing my vagina, and he inserts his penis and I reach the greatest height of orgasm I could ever experience.

Husband Says: My wife and I have been routinely having anal sex and it has been without a doubt intoxicating. We often find ourselves sneaking out to do it in just about any place, thank god for Mother Nature. I just wanted to be clear do it with the one you love and go-slow fall out.

May 21, 2009 at 9:26 am
(866) Ed says:

I have had lots of anal sex with partners in my life. I guess I am a lucky man. I found that all women I have been with have been interested in trying it, and all have enjoyed heaps. My current partner loves it and we have made up our little code names for anal sex which we use when we talk and email and sms each other. Using @ for the ass. Or using “Butt” nonchalantly in the sentence instead of the word “but”! The best lubrication is Nivea Soft, it contains natural oils and butters and it just lets the penis glide in so smoothly. Other lubricants such as KY are too thin being are water soluble, which means the friction increases and tear can happen. Nivea Soft, smells sweet and makes you think of a tropical treat, mmmmm all that nasty chocolate! hahaha pigs bum!

May 21, 2009 at 10:24 am
(867) lovinit says:

I am a married woman in my 30s with one child and another on the way. I truly enjoy anal sex and have never felt pressured to do it. In fact, I was the one who suggested it to my husband after his penis slipped and a thrill went through me when I felt it brush against my ass. His eyes almost popped out of his head when I asked if he wanted to go in that door. I had done it with a boyfriend in college who was huge (my husband has good girth/length but not huge) and the key is to go really slowly. There’s really nothing else like it, the sensation is amazing!

I noticed there were many anal virgins asking for tips and most they got were pretty vague. While I’m certainly no expert (we probaby do it a handful of times each year, but I hope to do it more after reading this!) I thought I could help. First off, the woman has to be completely in control of the penetration. This is obviously a vulnerable position to put yourself in given the potential for pain if it’s done too quickly. My husband and I start with plenty of foreplay, sometimes will have vaginal sex first. The important part here is that she is really fired up and wanting more (for me, I seem to want it more when I’m drunk). Other people have described the anal play/stretching leading up to the sex so I won’t go into that. We don’t do more than him rubbing the outside or inserting a finger during oral (that’s also a great way to start if you’re still warming up to the idea of anal). Once I’m all hot and ready, we lube up my ass and his penis. I know I can trust him to wait for me to be ready so I prefer to do it doggiestyle and kind of back up into him. The key here is lube, relaxation, and slow, slow, slow! I reach behind me and grab him for control. We start by teasing the area with the tip…this feels awesome. A little dancing around the area with some occassional light pressure. We do this for a couple minutes to relax the area and get it eager for more. Then I hold him and push against him a bit to start to insert the tip. I won’t lie, there is a very minor amount of pain at first but it’s the hurt so good kind. DON’T try to get the whole head in all at once…I think that’s a mistake many make and it’s why many women chicken out or won’t do it again. Men, if you can be patient and let her go at her own pace, you will be rewarded with a partner who will be asking you for it! The key for the woman is to push very gently and slowly and once it starts to hurt you stop the pushing. Don’t pull out, just leave him where he is. Relax, think about how much you want him and focus on the feeling of how he’s filling you up and how naughty you both are! Slow and steady…it may take you 5 minutes or so just to get the head in. Once you get over that hump though and his head is in, you’ll get more of the good feelings. Savor it, enjoy the moment. When you feel pain and stop moving, you are listening to your body and allowing it to adjust to accomodate him. The muscles will expand and relax, you’ll feel good again, and then you can take in more of him. Men, at this point you’re still along for the ride and letting her run the show. Don’t get all fired up once your head is in and think you can go to town…this is very different from going in the front door! If you use this inch by inch method (although it’s probably much less than an inch at a time) you will be able to take him in all the way and enjoy yourself. I actually love the thrill of taking him in so slowly and feeling the alternating sensations…the stretching, then the relaxing and filling sensation. Oh, once he is in up to his balls, it’s amazing. You’ll feel so filled and horny, and in a weird way very empowered. There’s also definitely a thrill that you’re doing something taboo, like you’re his dirty girl and no one one even knows. Once he’s in, then the real fun can begin. I keep it in there and really enjoy the fullness. Oh, I forgot to mention…since I’m guiding him the whole way, he has a free hand to stroke my clit and finger me while I’m taking him in. This makes it SO good! It feels great, it’s a nice distraction, and it keeps me horny so I want him in me more. Once he’s all the way in my ass and I’ve enjoyed staying still like that and taking it all in, we can start thrusting. Guys, remember she’s still in control of this until she gets going and can take in full thrusts. Again, I’m on all fours, he’s staying still and I’m backing up into him and rocking forward. I rock forward so maybe an inch of him comes out (slowly, the speed will come later) then I push back into him. I do that a few times and then let out a little more of him and push him back in my ass. I keep doing that until eventually, I’m getting his whole shaft out and only the head is in my ass, then pushing all of him back in. Sometimes we stay at a slow pace but usually once we do the full shaft a few times, all of the buildup to this has driven me mad and I go faster and faster and faster until we both can’t take it anymore. ooohhh. Sorry, hubby is out of town and I’m getting fired up. I like the feeling of him finishing in my ass, but to each her own. However you do it, I suggest pulling out slowly. If you pull out too fast the sudden change in pressure feels like you’re going to have an accident. For those hesitant to try anal due to mess, first, I only do it on days when I know I’m empty and I clean really well in the shower, maybe slip a soaped finger up there so I feel cleaner. Also, it’s something you can definitely do in the shower and it will remove some of the doubts about making a mess. Either way, use a ton of lube or mild soap.

I loved all the other posts. It’s been great to hear about everyone’s experiences with anal. I’ve also gotten some great ideas! First I want to try anal spooning so he can take care of my front. It’s also an easy position for me while I’m pregnant. After that it will be doggiestyle but I’ll have a vibrator for my clit. I love love love it! We don’t do it all the time but it’s such a nice treat when we do and it really spices things up. I don’t know why but it makes me feel closer to my husband. For my last pregnancy, we couldn’t have sex for months because insertion just hurt too much. We had been in an anal dry spell for a while so I guess we just never thought to take the other route! This time, so far so good on the vagina but now I’ve got a backup plan!!!

Would love to hear how other couples do anal, this page has been great! Hope my post was helpful to some.

May 21, 2009 at 4:35 pm
(868) Helen says:

(846) Laurie,

That is probably the most erotic thing I have ever heard. You have to get your next session on video and upload it on http://www.youporn.com.

May 21, 2009 at 5:33 pm
(869) Michelle says:

Hi (846) Laurie,

Please don’t!! Especially when a woman asks for it. Sick lady.

May 22, 2009 at 4:32 am
(870) Micheal says:

my gf was always completely against any sort of anal play,

until about a year ago while she was on top, i reched around and pressed my balls against her ass, stright away i could feel her pressing her ass against me harder and harder, and within seconds she orgasimed for ages, i started using my finger (just touching ass) and now as part of foreplay i push my penis against her ass while masterbating her. I still haven’t mantioned inserting, but its only a step away now

May 22, 2009 at 10:53 pm
(871) Clear Thinker says:

Yes, of course HPV is spread many ways sexually.

The truth is the anal track is more sensitive and IF INDEED YOU ARE A SURGEON you should know it is more vascular–making it a great way to hasten innoculation with any organism–and all you need are micro-tares.

Last I checked people’s stools were not forging in back and forth repeatedly in the anal tract.

This is an unbelievably unhealthy practice, but of course there are those that have their pro-unhealthy sexual lifestyle agendas. And they will keep beating the drum, b/c they won’t admit what most must admit about regular anal sex.

The female vaginal tract as well as gland that preceed it produce natural lubrication that prevents trauma, unless there is a hormonal issue–variation in the cycle causing decreases in estrogen, etc.

We could go on forever–and people could talk about how focused they are on the extremes of getting off, or they can talk about healthy (in every way) lovemaking that increases true intimacy–which is NOT BTW primarily sexual.

The anal tract is a very dirty tract period. Unless you fast for days on end and do the big colon cleanse doctor’s give you before a colonoscopy-and then you are very meticulous about cleaning every little nook and cranny (and trust me, people aren’t going to do this, even for the sake of an anal-ignited organism), you are talking nasty waste material filled will E-coli and you name it.
Next thing you know Pete, you will be strongly advocating oral-rectal reaming.

I am betting Farrah wished to got she bypassed anal sex–And I bet she wished more people were current on the various kinds of HPV and other horrendous sexually transmitted diseases that people could in fact avoid, if they were more cautious and less hairy-cary about sexual behavior. And all you need is interaction with one person who has been around, and boom, you are putting yourself at serious risk with all that his or her other partners carried.

Or maybe that poor soul only had one other partner than you, but that partner wasn’t upfront with him. Boom, there you are. Another male or female statistic.

Living healthy and right has its numerous rewards. When you don’t, you will probably pay one price or another–or someone you love will–or an unborn child might.

Frankly, I can think of few other things that are as nasty as anal sex. Don’t care how well you clean it, it will never be clean enough.

And you can do a much better job at cleaning your oral cavity than your anal cavity.
The vaginal tract shouldn’t need a whole lot of “scrubbing” borrowing certain kinds of common infections, such as certain yeast a flagella, and a few bacteria–all quite curable. Also preventable if people would make sure they replaced their healthy bacteria w/ probiotics–and they are careful at maintaining the delicate lower pH of the vaginal tract–why vingegar and H2O are best to use if you must douche.

I have had one partner my whole life. We have been faithful to each other and practice healthy loving making and intimacy. I take care of myself and engage in healthy practices, as mentioned above. In my whole adult life–after have several pregnancies and children and living under quite stressful circumstances, I can count on half a hand how many vaginal infections I have ever had.

BTW, our lovemaking is quite pleasureable, exciting, and increases our true intimacy.

Be wise and steer clear of the rear–at least the anus that is. Cut your body a break.

May 25, 2009 at 2:52 am
(872) wish2140 says:

867…thank you soo much for your advice! My wife & I have tried it a few times with her in control always but I’ve gotten different reactions from her. There have been times when she has thrust herself back at me to a point where I was concerned about hurting her. I love anal sex but don’t know whether I should suggest it or not. I definitely don’t want us doing it if she doesn’t want to. Can someone suggest a way to tell her my desires without having her feel pressured?

May 27, 2009 at 4:37 pm
(873) DikDaddy says:

I’ve intro several ladies to anal sex, and it has never failed to surprised them w/the intensity of the orgasms they’ve had….

May 27, 2009 at 5:58 pm
(874) red says:

just courious what the long term effects are to the ladys as far as physical. remember for every action there is a reaction. or maybe the men have got the ladys so convinced that nothing can happen to them ,wel at least to the male. or maybe the men of today cant satisfy the ladys any other way so this is the bes they can do. i am a male but i just cant believe he men cant satisfy the ladys any other way no wonder so many are gay.sorry fellas read some more books on sex and leave the porn films alone

May 27, 2009 at 11:53 pm
(875) analcob and analease says:

it’s the bees knees.
have you heard?
anal is the word.
It’s amazing. just MAKE SURE to drop off the kids at the pool before ;)

oh and don’t eat mexican food

May 28, 2009 at 2:12 pm
(876) Southwest Tim says:

My wife always has, since we stopped having vaginal intercourse about 28 years ago. I make sure she climaxes before me, but she gets obvious pleasure from anal penetration in and of itself. Some of you have asked about long-term physical problems of anal-erotic women. My wife’s anus is pretty loose, but still works well enough, kind of like my left hand which is mildly arthritic from many years of using a barber’s hand vibrating hand massage device to get her off.

May 28, 2009 at 3:50 pm
(877) Tammi says:

(871) Within the vagina, oral cavity, and the entire body for that matter habituates bacteria no matter how clean you are. We do not live in a bubble, so humans will come in contact with several types of bacterium on a regular basis-it is completely unavoidable. It is clearly a personal choice on whether you have anal sex or not, and really I respect your opinion 100%.

You are not simply at risk for developing cancer from sex alone, many behaviors including diet, genetics, chemical exposure, medications, and other lifestyles can put you at risk of developing cancer. When you first engaged in sexual activity with your spouse you took a risk at the onset. In addition, we cannot guarantee our loved-ones fidelity, but it is a chance we take for love.

May 28, 2009 at 8:01 pm
(878) Southwest Tim says:

There’s been a lot of comment, most of it bitterly negative, about why men want anal sex. That’s kind of like discussing why people prefer a certain style of art or music. It isn’t a rational choice so much as an acquired taste. My parents played a lot of Victor Herbert’s music, and I still enjoy it.

At 12, an impressionable age, I learned, almost simultaneously, that my mother regularly gave herself enemas and that some girls would permit boys to “cornhole” them. I concluded that my parents were having anal sex. Later, I learned that my mother was dying of cancer, and years later the she was probably constipated by the primitive opiates of the 50′s.

She died when I was 13, and my 18-year old sister took over caring for me and our 11-year old sister. I became very close to a first cousin, also a girl of 18, who often took up for me when my big sister was too strict. Our cousin, who was very frank about sexual matters, once shooed me out of her parent’s house, telling me she needed to take an enema, in case her boyfriend showed up horny and she had to “take it up the ass.”

By age 14, I was more interested in girls’ bottoms than anything else about them. Then, my first sexual experience, with a college girl, culminated in anal intercourse, at her suggestion.

Barely into my teens, I was fixated on the female ass. It took me until my mid-thirties to find my soul mate, but all’s well that ends well. My heart goes out to the frustrated men and angry women who denounce people like me and my wife. We hope all of you somehow find the happiness we share.

May 29, 2009 at 10:14 am
(879) Andrew says:

ANAL MYTHBUSTERS

It’s been very interesting reading these posts and peoples polarized opinions on anal sex.

Many women have posted that they enjoy or love it and a lot say they even prefer it to vaginal and have stronger orgasms. (hallelujah, this backs up my personal experience with my beautiful previous partners, 3 of which I’ve had anal sex with and they have loved it. One partner introduced me to it, by requesting it (bless her) otherwise I probably always would have assumed women hated it and never requested it myself)

Some posters are religious extremists who think it is just another symptom we’re on a fast track to damnation (sorry, but MY god is not a vengeful god, if s/he creates me with these desires, then I’m assuming I have his / her approval…)

Some say it’s unnatural and doesn’t exist in the animal kingdom… (lol, you guys, unlike myself, obviously weren’t born on farms..!)

Some women think it’s an act of misogyny, with the man wanting to degrade the woman (The world is kind of over the “woman as victim” mentality. Empower yourselves. If you really don’t want to try it… don’t try it! If you’ve tried it and really don’t like it… don’t repeat it! Although I love anal sex, I could never enjoy it if I thought my partner wasn’t enjoying it. I love her, the least arousing thing to me would be her hating the experience! If you have a malicious or misogynistic partner, take responsibility for being a bad chooser, correct your ways and find a human being.)

Then there are the “Beavis and Butthead” boys, who love a topic like this to make fake posts and get their jollies (Get a life)

Some irresponsibly spread a load of myth and misinformation, which is the more concerning and serious side of this blog. I am suspicious that it may be the same religious extremists and others with a scaremongering agenda. There is minimal risk get permanently stretched, become incontinent etc, etc, from anal sex unless you sleep with an elephant (which is illegal). If it were that simple, then you would suffer these problems from the regular stretching of your daily motions. The simple fact is the rectal muscles are designed to be able to expand far more than the vast majority of boyfriends will cause. If pain occurs, it is often more to do with the women not being properly aroused or tense (anal suits a long, slow, delicious build up and does not normally suit a quickie)

The current anal sex debate is slowly coming out of the closet and people are growing in confidence about discussing it. It reminds me of oral sex which was once considered scandalous and a social taboo. I have always considered that anything that’s done in the bounds of love and mutual respect is great, as long as reasonable health precautions are also taken. I find it bizarre that many people have a disturbingly “puritanical” attitude about what is right or wrong, normal or perverted behavior and try to prescribe their beliefs on others. My hunch is that it’s these same people who think it’s fine to buy toy guns and swords for their young boys so they can have “fun “ pretending to kill people… Now that’s perverse.

Make love, not war!

May 29, 2009 at 2:32 pm
(880) Hippy says:

i am in a steady realtionship with a woman i love so very dearly and we are engaged to get married, we have had one of those realtionships were everyone was like ‘just give them time and the puppy love will fade and they’ll get theirs’ but we been together practically every second of everyday for years now and never once got tired of each other or anything, but anyways i have read allot of post about respecting your woman and all that mess and ill just throw in my 2 cents, my rule of thumb is i never ask for anything im not willing to recieve, me and my woman frequently give oral sex to one another in all areas ‘anal,vaginal,penal’ and both finger each other anally and swallow each others ‘loves juices’when we do orgasm during sex,but anyways over all these years my finace still describes anal sex as this a slight pain at first its a pressure in your anus kinda like the speculum at the gyno’s feels in your vagina back in the day when you were first having sex then after it progressively feels better and better and the deeper i go in her and faster i rub her clit it becomes amazing, she has squirted many times from anal sex while i was stimulating her clit, mind you she has never squirted w/o the clitoral stimulation but she has told me with just anal stimulation she has acheived a moderate normal ograsm and really i guess all i can say over all the advice posted above is Love your partner, sex is fine and dandy, but making love to the woman/man you are going to raise your children with and spend your life beside is an experience that can never be simulated “not even close’
Love,Respect and Determination the 3 keys to the most mind altering life changing sex ever, at least its worked for me so goodluck all

May 30, 2009 at 12:18 am
(881) Michelle says:

Hi guys!!

I have been hearing quite a bit of info pertaining to anal cancer. Can someone please educate me more on this issue? Take care.

May 30, 2009 at 1:40 pm
(882) JOE says:

HAS ANYONE EVER GOT AND INFECTION FROM A PARTNER USING THE SAME FINGER TO FINGER YOUR VAGINA AFTER USING THAT SAME FINGER TO FINGER YOUR ANUS AND IF SO HOW DID YOU RESOLVE THE INFECTION

May 30, 2009 at 4:05 pm
(883) Layla C says:

I have a firm no lick, no stick rule regarding anal sex. Also, he must be prepared for me to penetrate him, if he wants to penetrate me.

Cleanliness is first and foremost bathe, bathe and bathe (There are small anal douche kits available), as well as, lots of lubricant and CONDOMS. For all of the poopochondriacs (Coprophobia to be exact) out there, use dental dams, condoms and finger condoms.

Anal sex only hurts if you’re doing it incorrectly. The majority of us carry a lot of tension in our sphincters–the same way we carry stress in our shoulders. Pain results when an object is forced through tight sphincter muscles, damaging the delicate anal tissues. If anal sex ever hurts, you should stop or take the stimulation back a notch. Remember–the key to anal pleasure is relaxation and lubrication!

May 31, 2009 at 3:27 am
(884) yadab says:

Make sure that none of you get infected while doing anal sex and I recommend not to have vaginal sex after having anal or use condom for either of the case.
Enjoy “THE SEX”

May 31, 2009 at 8:41 am
(885) Donna says:

I agree with comment 157, well i read that many im sure it is no 157:)….anyway i tried it with my current boyfriend who i love dearly cause he is mad on it….but it hurt like hell even with all the lube, time, love etc. Now i have put it to him if he wants to do it again i am going to penetrate him first with my vibrator and see if he likes it. I know some of the guys commented that they enjoyed being penetrated as well but most of them didnt, so just wondering would you be up for it guys. Like i say to my boyfriend our arses are both the same, same size etc and used for the same thing so why do most men think it is something that a woman should enjoy but they wouldn’t try it. Have to say i dont know what the attraction is we do not have a clitoris in our vaginas and when i have heard about the great orgasm it is usually whilst getting clitoral stimulation…..so its not actually just the penis in the anus. Also when i did it first two times nothing but next time poop and plenty of it…disgusting, he said “just comes with the territory” but i was mortified. Ive read all about the enemas but sort of takes the spontanaity out of it. I dont know i just dont get it, really i dont and im broad minded but im in no way judging and for those that love it good for you, my boyfriend i know would love a woman who did and that makes me feel a little inadequate even though i know it shouldn’t. So i will see if he is up for it and if not then im not…simple…will keep reading the comments. PS: what John said is right, regular anal sex can cause a lot of damage and i dont want to be wearing a diaper,..also check out the girls ass next time your watching a porn with anal….it is not a normal ass no ass is as dilated as they are BEFORE the penis goes in…think about it and how loose their sphincter muscle is.

June 1, 2009 at 5:03 pm
(886) DeJaVu09 says:

I was married when I first experienced anal sex with my husband I was reluctant to try it but he was a very erotic man. Must I say is was one of the best orgasum I ever had. I almost fainted. That how intense it was and he was well hung. That was years ago and now I am in a new relationship and he is much younger than I and wants to indulge in anal but I want. I will wait until we maybe get married. He know my past and he has experienced it before but I will not give in. I feel I have to be married it very special to me but for some men just a adventure.

June 2, 2009 at 10:46 am
(887) Janet says:

I’m a 32 year old female and consider myself to be fairly open minded, and I’ve tried anal play several times with mixed results. Most boyfriends that I have had have expressed some interest in my rear end. I find being gently touched or licked back there to be very erotic, though I struggle not to feel self conscious about the fact that, well its my ass!
However when it comes to penetration, its never been pleasant – I’ve tried it three times with two different men. All three times the discomfort overrode any feeling of pleasure. The last time was just plain embarrassing; he came inside me but I was unable to control a bowel movement as he withdrew, it was nastly, smelly and I could tell it turned him off. So my advice is if you stick to gentle tickling on the outside, it really can be a turn-on without the pain and embarrassment.

June 2, 2009 at 5:28 pm
(888) Michelle says:

In reference to cancer, can anyone please tell me about this. I was reading some threads pertaining to this and am intrigued by it.

June 5, 2009 at 4:36 am
(889) Vedika says:

I’am 21 year old. Last year i get married. After 4 to 5 month ago my husband ask me for anal sex because i dont know wht is anal sex, when he discribe me about anal sex, i immediatly say “NO” i’am not intrested and forgett about anal sex. After few days my husband force me, when i again say “NO” he bit me very badly.I Scared. He bit me two to three night. I really very very scard about anal sex and my husband too.and one night my husband forcely tight me on the talbe in that position as he want.He try to insert his ** in my anal without any lubes, i really really feel very very pain because he try too hard to insert his *** only half to one inch inserted. i really very cry,i cant manage the pain which feel and at last he put some lubes then then he try very very hard to insert and last he get fully inserted and he bihave like animal.He goes as hard as he can. He not care for little. Whole night i cry due to pain. Whole he not leave me. And now he do anal sex every day. Some time he do twice a day.”IS THIS IS ANAL SEX,I HATE ANAL SEX.AND I HATE ALL THOSE PEOPLE WHO LIKE ANAL SEX.”

June 5, 2009 at 4:38 pm
(890) wilson says:

Disease. Very good way to spread some horrible diseases.

June 6, 2009 at 12:44 pm
(891) bill says:

Jesus had anal sex in the bible once.

June 6, 2009 at 11:39 pm
(892) Chris says:

My wife and I had anal sex for the first time after 22 years of marrige we both enjoyed it. She liked it so much that she asked for it hte next three nights. We continue to have anal sex as a spice to our sex life. Usualy around her monthly cycles, but she has been known to be tie up and submits to my whims

June 7, 2009 at 1:17 am
(893) Commonsense says:

To Vedika (889) that is what is known in modern day society as rape.

Your husband is breaking the law every day according to your words so maybe you should get off the internet and report him.

Also, without sounding too insensitive, your saying that you hate people who like anal sex on a site full of people that do. You have had a BAD EXPERIENCE, thats your husbands fault. Again, WHY ARE YOU GIVING YOUR TESTIMONIAL ON THE INTERNET INSTEAD OF A COURTROOM?

June 7, 2009 at 2:04 am
(894) Diana says:

Hi this is my first time blog… I have been with the same man now for over 6 yrs. Our love life has been short of amazing. We learnt about anal touching and massage at a workshop we attended about 4 yrs ago. We even learnt about what they called “anal breathing” ..which is not obviously breathing through there but a way of in and out breathing whilst connecting the feeling and sensations of your anus with your brain. The results were amazing because at first I had limited sensations there and a lot of tightness and stresses. We both still do the squeezing and releasing exercises at any time of the day..even when sitting in the car at the lights… its a great feeling and gives a great awareness of your newly found orifice and ultimately a connection of control from your brain to this area… the sensations are what i call sweet tingling or burning tingling. Now whenever I do these exercises I get an aching feeling of wanting something in there or at least touching…. my cheeks and neck will flush with heat..its a great feeling.
From there we were learnt anal touching and self masturbation…. my partner bought a couple of silicone butt plugs which we still use today although we have gone to the larger versions as they are perfect to help the relaxation and stretching that is needed.
I love anal sex ..we masturbate annually together

June 7, 2009 at 2:32 am
(895) Diana says:

we masturbate anally together… each at opposite ends of the bed so we can each see the others actions..I use my fingers and my 2 butt plugs ( one is glass perspex and quite large ) this allows my partner to see my stretched opening… thats hot and such a turn on. Penetration or anal love making is basically a follow on from all this play type stuff… once you have gone through the learning,the breathing, the awareness,the stretching,and being excited about your new found treasure you do feel quite empowered… and everything follows naturally as normal love making after that.
One thing that we have found important is having a good diet…brans fruits etc to keep your toilet needs regular and at the same regular time each day etc.Cleaning is also very important At the beginning we both had a small rubber bulb shaped douche to help wash out the anus before we went to bed..we now use this only when we are travelling as we have had a proper connection with a chrome douche attached in the shower (these are readily available on the net). taking the grate off the drain to allow the outlet We both spend 2 mins every night whether we intend to have anal play or not before going to bed… its easy its just mildly washing inside and we think its as important as cleaning our teeth. It takes all the fear away that one of us may not be totally clean.
Hope this helps some of the women.. it doesn’t hurt at all after your self practising sessions… its just another wonderful way of making love to someone you really love…and very very sexy

June 9, 2009 at 2:17 pm
(896) Bruce says:

For Janet 887

“The last time was just plain embarrassing; he came inside me but I was unable to control a bowel movement as he withdrew, it was nastly, smelly and I could tell it turned him off”

My Advice:To avoid accidental bowel movement like above, its best to ask your man to leave his penis inside you after he has ejaculated, and wait for the penis to gradual shrink or he can withdraw it ever so slowly so you have more control

June 9, 2009 at 3:51 pm
(897) the violator says:

any time an article comes out about women and anal sex is a good time. anything that gets the ladies to get their butts packed with boners is always a step foward!
more buttsex articles!

June 9, 2009 at 9:14 pm
(898) Laura says:

I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we always did the same things, the same way and after a while it does get boring, so we tried anal, cuz he did it before me so i knew he knew what to do, i thought of it as nasty and something only gay men do, which it is not the case at all, after finding out my boyfriend loved to put toys up there it kinda got me interested, he said it is nothing like a regular orgasm, and my first time it hurt and it was a lot of pressure, and it still is, I don’t really know how else to really like it then to just practice with yourself first and gradually work on up to doing anal sex with your partner. I know that once we do it more, the better it will feel, so just keep on trying and before you know it you will only want that….

June 9, 2009 at 10:26 pm
(899) hannah says:

All of you who have a question, try this: http://www.askmen.com
It’s all on there: how to convince her, how to get him, how to do it… All! And more!
BTW, there’s my comment, think it was end of January… Well, we did it, and I loved it, and now want it every time and all the time. None of us has any problems, no feces, no pain, nothing but the joy, pure pleasure… And I haven’t experienced any pain or anything of the kind, and still have the full control.
Guys, let her do it! Girls, trust him, be informed, do it slowly-the easiest is that you slowly sit on his penis, as slow and gentle as you want, but remember, in a few minutes you’ll be sticking yourself on it, fast and roughly, and you will beg him “o, just let me enjoy it!”.
I was AGAINST! Now he knows what I want, and, certainly, it is anal every time-that’s how it always ends and I insist!

June 10, 2009 at 11:44 pm
(900) EEK says:

I recently lost my ‘anal virginity’ and I have to say that absolutely, I did.
Let me elaborate about the situation though. I’ve been masterbating anally for a really long time, which after my research is something I fully recommend! It helps to get the idea that waste is the only use for anus out of your mind.
Now, in answer to anti-anal person, about why one would have anal sex, I have an answer for that, too. I suffer from vaginismus, a tightening of the vagina that prevents sex. I’m married, and have been for 5 months, and so after failing to have sex because of my disorder, anal sex was a really useful way to keep us from getting discouraged. Also, I don’t ever plan to have sex on period, and anal is a nice answer to that too.
The only warning I have is to go really slow, I prefer being on top and therefore a little mroe in control, but other women sometimes find that this tightens them up more. Be alert to pain, anal sex SHOULD NOT HURT. It may be slightly uncomfortable at first, but pain is a red flag that something is seriously wrong and you can hurt yourself pretty bad by ignoring it. Finally, if your vagina is short (your cervix isn’t far away) warn your partner to try and avoid it. It feels really weird at first and then hurts. That was my only complication. Also, I should add that the reason people suggest it so much is that there is obviously no pregnancy risk, just the risk of STDs, and most of the time, condoms are used anyway.
I hope this helps you.

June 12, 2009 at 1:50 pm
(901) sxymel says:

I want to address the infection issue of putting anything in the vagina that has been previously in the butt…don’t do it. This most definitely can be a cause of bacterial vaginosis. Bacterial vaginosis is nasty and can only be treated with antibiotics orally or creams inserted vaginally. The most common symptom of this is a fishy odor from the vagina and yellow or greenish colored discharge. Do not confuse this with a yeast infection, as they are two totally different problems. If you are curious about either, please look on webmd.com or ask your physician.
Now, with that being said, I LOVE ANAL PLAY!! The key is use lots of lube, the woman needs to be in control, and go SLOW SLOW SLOW! If your partner is not willing to go slow, or wants to just do it against your will, then you need to be on a different forum. It has to be a mutual decision and requires complete trust and patience. You, as like me, may not be able to start out with anal sex. I start out with oral play with my ass, then gentle fingering, then more fingers inserted, then the head of the penis, then the full penis. This process took a very long time to get to the full penis. I think I get just as much pleasure from being fingered in the ass too. One key note for me though: I cannot do it unless I am fingering my clit and ready to go. If I already orgasmed, forget it. I have to be close to orgasm and fingering my clit to be able to take the penis in my ass. I think most other women are this way too. When I do orgasm from anal sex though, it’s AMAZING! It’s like no other. I can’t handle a majorly huge penis though…but that’s just me.
Addressing long term effects of anal sex: I’ve heard most women can develop anal fissures, more problems with hemorrhoids, problems holding their bowels, and anal warts (HPV), etc. This can all be found on line. I have experienced the anal fissures and they’re no fun. It does require medical treatment.
I am in the medical field, not going to say how, and I am fully aware of the precautions about anal sex. As far as anal cancer, etc. goes, I have not heard much about this being caused from having anal sex. That’s not saying that it doesn’t, I just have not researched it enough I guess. I know cancer is caused by all different types of things, some we don’t even know yet, so it would not surprise me if anal sex increases your risk, but like I said, I haven’t seen any proven research about it yet. I’m thinking that if something had been proven, we would have heard about it.
I hope this helps and if you have any other questions, please ask. I will try and help in any way possible.

June 12, 2009 at 7:30 pm
(902) anonymous female says:

for me and my husband anal sex has been ‘extra special’ in a way because neither of us were virgins when we met, and neither of us had engaged in any sort of anal play before so it’s been something that we’ve only ever shared with each other. i believe that in a monogamous relationship where neither partner is pushy and where both are patient and understand, it can be a really fun way to AMAZING pleasure. i’ve always had a very difficult time having a vaginal orgasm – even a clitoral orgasm – but i’ll have a fantastic orgasm 9 times out of 10 with anal sex. i felt so bad for my husband for a while because, like any loving partner should, he wanted me to feel as much pleasure as he was feeling from our sex life and it made him feel inadequate. for me it was no big deal because i used to never orgasming but i still found a lot of pleasure out of the closeness that sex brings between two people. however, since engaging in regular anal sex, all of that has gone right out the window and sometimes i wonder if my husband actually gets more pleasure out of my pleasure than i do! *wink* as for tips, everyone has pretty much covered that – LOTS OF LUBE. don’t skip it. EVER. bathe before and after… go slowly at first until you’re comfortable with more “aggressive” movements… and i am a total advocate for woman on top when it comes to anal sex. so many porno’s show it being done doggy-style and i’m going to bet that it’s mostly for the view. with the woman on top, you get the added benefit of clit stimulation and you get to be in control for the initial penetration, which is SO SO SO important, even when the male partner is very slow and gentle – he can’t feel where the “hold ups” are and even with regular anal sex, you always have to take it with small movements at first to avoid real injury. oh and you definitely want to make sure you have a bowel movement within a few hours of sex if you’re a “couple times a day” sorta pooper, or within that day already if you’re a “once a day” sorta person. lol otherwise, it’s not safe and it’s NOT comfortable. LOL

AND VEDIKA – number 889 — sweetheart, rape is rape even when it’s in a marriage and, if that is a REAL submission and not some jerk just messing around, it’s heart breaking to read your story and i highly suggest that you go to the police. no means no even between husband and wife. no one deserves to be forced into any type of sexual act – and especially not a very DELICATE act. please please please call the police or go to someone you trust with this!

June 14, 2009 at 6:26 pm
(903) Jizz King says:

Anal sex is 4 gays and dirty sluts….!

June 14, 2009 at 6:54 pm
(904) RatFancy says:

I’m 24 and never entertained the idea of anal sex until my husband had been dating nearly 6 months. We had been talking about it for a long time because I was plain terrified of the idea, but I decided to try it since I HATE being scared of things and will face them any time I have the chance. It took us a very long time, lots of lube, and an incredible amount of patience on his part, but we succeeded and now I must say I’m very glad we did. He’s always gentle with me in the beginning and remains so unless I specifically ask him to be rougher, which I’ve done out of curiosity… and discovered that I can take it rough given time. I enjoy it very much, not only because of the physical feeling (to me it feels better than vaginal) but because of the level of intimacy and trust it brought to our relationship (something you can never get too much of).

My advice is if you want to try it with your partner, tell him or her, and be nice about it. Also remember to explain your desires and fears, and remember to be honest about everything you’re feeling before, during, and after. Also create a safe word, something totally unrelated to the act of sex (my husband and I use the word “blue”), and should you or they use the word, it’s the signal that everything comes to a stop immediately. Also, use plenty of lube… astroglide works great. It’s cheap, lasts a long time, and doesn’t make your skin and sheets gross and gummy feeling like KY jelly.

June 15, 2009 at 2:17 am
(905) towardtheprize says:

I’ve been an operating room nurse for over 14 years. A man has what he has and woman has what she has for very good reasons: pH’s, bacterial environment–simple and scientific–lock and key. I have seen many foreign body removal cases from this area. Some of my patients ended up with a colostomy because of stupidity and some because of drug usage. Problems associated with this type of sex–Hemorrhoids, loss of anal sphincter muscle control (loss of bowels), fistulas form–major infections–anal fissures. The sigmoid colon is designed as a one way valve. Think seriously–do I want to be examined because my “toys” got stuck or something else, or for other issues related to anal penetration. Eroticism lasts but a blink. The possible colostomy, embarrassment, and physical pain/disfigurement lasts a lifetime.

June 15, 2009 at 12:02 pm
(906) Robb Bronze says:

This is to Roger..Dude u’r in Denial get over it if you think theres no pleasure in a man doing his woman in the butt and that all the man feels is control over her than you have a very small penis or your really a woman using a mans name on your comment.And so what if some men do it to feel control as long as the woman agrees theres worst things that women do mentally to men so quit crying you wimp.Hahaha

June 15, 2009 at 9:44 pm
(907) Wiebke Nedel says:

Can you get pregnant from anal sex?

June 16, 2009 at 5:53 am
(908) AALAM says:

In my openion if there r wife & husband,There is a holy relationship between them.It is the relation of souls.If god has created the paticular opening for sex why to change it thus challanging the God.If we see not a single animal does it in the way as we do it.Ya this is a hot thing for all of us but should be done with love & respect.(Thanking u)

June 18, 2009 at 3:33 am
(909) Abe says:

I am endowed with 10 inches and 7.5 girth. I thought anal sex is impossible for me. My girlfriend encouraged me to try it. We used lots of lube and it must took 2 hours rubbing her anus with my fingers and penis head. I was surprised I was able to penetrate her tight anus. I could not ejaculate inside her. I had to pull out and ejaculate outside. She told me she had an orgasm. The next day she told me she felt pain in her ass. I felt very guilty. I talked to a friend who is a doctor he told me that normal because your penis stretched her anus muscles. Being a good friend he gave a tube of muscles relaxant lotion. I rubbed the lotion in her anus three days in a row. I stopped because she told me there is no pain anymore. This was the only trial we had with anal.

June 18, 2009 at 2:14 pm
(910) Christina says:

The first time that I had anal sex was painful. The second time was ok but wen I did for the third time it was amazing. The man I do it with is totally amazing at it and I cum everytime we do like that now.

June 18, 2009 at 8:21 pm
(911) NatureLaw says:

THE NATURE IS STRONGLY AGAINST ANAL SEX.

DID YOU ALL LOOSE YOUR MIND?

FOR ALL WHO ENJOYED ANAL SEX, I RECOMMEND NASAL SEX. THE NOSTRILS ARE SMALL BUT IF YOU DON’T LIKE NATURE, GO SLOWLY IN THE NOSTRIL AND YOU WILL GET USED TO.

VAGINA SEX IS THE SAFER, THE ONLY AND THE BEST SEX.(MEN BECOME THE MORE AND MORE CRAZY)

I AM SORRY BUT, NATURE DON’T LIKE YOU EITHER.
LIFE IS SO FRAGILE, SO BE CAREFUL

June 19, 2009 at 9:57 am
(912) Brian says:

Ever since I was in college, I wanted to at least try every possible sexual pleasure…different positions, places, toys, etc. It wasn’t until my twenties that I had my first anal experience. I certainly enjoy anal sex and the reason is definitely more mental than physical.

Let me start by saying that I’m not gay, bisexual, bi-curious or anything of the sort…I’m strictly hetero. Second, I am not into dominating women nor having them engage in something they are uncomfortable doing. When I’ve broached the subject, I’ve had conversations about anal sex but never physically forced or pressured lovers/girlfriends into having it.

I must be extra horny or something because I seem to be thinking about sex every waking moment. So finding a woman that enjoys sex and is good in bed is very important to me…whether or not we ever get to anal sex.

We know a fraction of women actually enjoy anal sex, somewhere between 15% to 25%. Obviously, some men have had better luck/success than others in finding a receptive or eager partner. Because it’s against the odds, I find anal lovers precious because it’s something important to me that we have in common.

Beyond that, I find anal sex a thrill because it’s taboo. It’s our little white secret the rest of the world doesn’t know about…I mean what would the neighbors say if they knew??? Or our priest??? Or what would her parents think of their sweet and innocent little girl?

I mentioned that I’ve always wanted to have as many different experiences as possible. Since anal sex is probably the most taboo of all, it suggests that if she is willing and even eager to do that, she’d also be open to trying other things as well.

June 21, 2009 at 11:55 am
(913) bottleman says:

its a great felling for both just be well lubed

June 21, 2009 at 11:55 am
(914) bottleman says:

its a great felling for both just be well lubed

June 21, 2009 at 12:16 pm
(915) NATURELAW says:

THE NATURE IS STRONGLY AGAINST ANAL SEX.

DID YOU ALL LOOSE YOUR MIND?

FOR ALL WHO ENJOYED ANAL SEX, I RECOMMEND NASAL SEX. THE NOSTRILS ARE SMALL BUT IF YOU DON’T LIKE NATURE, GO SLOWLY IN THE NOSTRIL AND YOU WILL GET USED TO.

VAGINA SEX IS THE SAFER, THE ONLY AND THE BEST SEX.(MEN BECOME THE MORE AND MORE CRAZY)

I AM SORRY BUT, NATURE DON’T LIKE YOU EITHER.
LIFE IS SO FRAGILE, SO BE CAREFUL

June 22, 2009 at 12:58 am
(916) Pete says:

Crikey this is creating quite a controversy, it just goes to show there are those who will try things and those who want to need to preach thier own form of values, so people will become like them in thier own small world, people like the violator who has some serious mental issues and people like NatureLaw who evidently have a desire for heavy drug use as well as the need to preach to those who are unconverted either in anal sex or drug use. Goes to show why drug use needs to be stamped out of society. None the less this is a good thread and hopefully people will not be put off by the druggos, bible bashers and the retards who visit this thread.

June 22, 2009 at 3:42 am
(917) Bennie says:

Ok, I’d like to make a quick comment on this. Firstly, I think, as I guy who’s had anal sex with multiple partners, it’s all about relaxation. Lube, love, blah blah – relaxation is the key. Think about it – we all poop. Think about a time when you’ve strained to get the poop out – hurt, didn’t it? Now think about a time when you’ve just relaxed and let it happen naturally. Much easier – no pain. And it felt good, didn’t it? Now add the stimulation of foreplay, clitoral stimulation, and the excitement of “breaking a taboo”, and you’ve got yourself quite an experience. Seriously, though. Relax those muscles, or it will hurt, period. Even with lube.

June 23, 2009 at 4:10 pm
(918) Joanne123 says:

I find it fascinating that many (and perhaps most) people think that anal sex is desired, initiated, and perpetuated by guys. As a high school health teacher I can attest that the new trend is for girls to provide anal sex.

Obviously, there’s always the risk of std’s no matter which form of sex chosen, but many girls feel that they can a) be accepted for sexually active among their peers, b) please their boyfriend just to have any kind of sex, c) avoid the risk of getting pregnant, and d) keep their “virginity”.

There are certainly other factors for girls to consider, but many girls (not all) weigh risks/rewards…pleasure, medical, social, financial, etc.

My point is that for high school/college girls it may be more complicated compared to adult women, especially for those who are already married. So let’s not be so quick to blame the guys.

June 23, 2009 at 7:34 pm
(919) AnalLover says:

My first anal experience was at the request of my girlfriend many years ago who was curious what it was like. This was shortly after my girlfriend discovered that her Muslim friend had her vagina sewn shut by her parents, which didn’t stop her and her boyfriend from having anal sex.

June 23, 2009 at 10:25 pm
(920) Karla says:

Anal Sex is very very very good. Just be careful and you will be ok.

For NATURELAW: A lot of species in the animal world practices anal sex, fellatio and even homosexuality. Please review your sources. It seems you have a boring life.

June 24, 2009 at 2:10 am
(921) analhater says:

anal is the worst. my boyfriend always wants it and it just feels gross.

June 24, 2009 at 7:50 pm
(922) Alyssa says:

…i have tried anal once with a past boyfriend, but it was very painful. He was not lubed enough and we rushed it. I am tempted to try it again, since from previous comments, most women seem to like it. I have a very slow bulid to my orgasim and this makes me wonder if i might experience a stronger orgasim.

Thanks to all of your comments…about lubrication, relaxtion…it really helped me overcome some fears i had.

June 25, 2009 at 12:57 am
(923) GeorgeGollin says:

My friends, I am George Gollin (George D. Gollin, George Dana Gollin) a professor of physics at University of Illinois. I highly recommend anal sex and do it every chance I get. My wife likes it, my daughter likes it, my dog likes it, my friend Alan Contreras likes it, we all like it!!! Let’s all have anal sex right now!!!!

June 25, 2009 at 7:28 pm
(924) NATURELAW says:

Oh my God!

What kind of human do you have on this earth?
-For sure, SODOM with their manner is coming back and the BIG Anger of God is coming back too.
-God didn’t put that orifice for sex. Be careful for those who never try this and get on this forum

June 26, 2009 at 2:50 am
(925) Leon says:

Nature Law,

It would be great if you have something constructive to share with others. Instead you’re using it as a virtual pulpit to spread your opinions, which are tenuous at best.

First, you make the assumption that readers here are a) religious, and b) believe that God is vengeful. Sure there are plenty of religious folks. But let me break some news to you pal, this is a different audience.

Second, it’s okay to share your opinion with others here… but you’re basically reiterating the same thing over and over…again and again…repeatedly. :)

You wouldn’t say something to a friend, leave the room, then return only to start saying the same thing again. So why would you do it here??? If you have something to ADD, great…say it! Unless you have something NEW to say, then shut up.

June 26, 2009 at 5:38 am
(926) naturelaw says:

Leon,leon

I just want to protect some people from you and they have to know that anal sex is dangerous and no healthy.
-God hate it
-Jesus hate it
-Mohamed hate it
-The nature hate it
-I hate it

June 26, 2009 at 5:57 am
(927) fred says:

I am a 40 something male and have had a curiosity about anal sex but two things stop me. First, I find feces on my cock disgusting and a turn-off. Secondly, my wife does not want to do it. I respect her wishes and I keep our fecal matter separate from our sex life.

June 26, 2009 at 1:30 pm
(928) Leon says:

Okay NatureLaw,

If Jesus, Mohammed, and God have spoken against anal sex, please advise where in the Bible, Torah, or Koran it says that anal sex is immoral, blasphemous, or unethical. Please help us by citing chapter and verse.

June 26, 2009 at 6:43 pm
(929) Patrick says:

I have been with a girl for a number of months now. She is very orgasmic most of the time. I do enjoy anal sex for a number of reasons. She had never done it before and is actually quite good at it. We have only done it a few times and only in the spooning position. She has no difficulty accepting it or with relaxation. She does not say she is or seem to be in any pain. The problem is I would like her to enjoy it. She is more neutral than anything. It doesn’t hurt her, but she doesn’t really get into it. Are there any tips or tricks to get her to enjoy it more?

June 27, 2009 at 2:19 am
(930) NatureLaw says:

Leon, Leon

I strongly believe that is a good beginning for you and the All Mighty GOD will help you if you keep your heart opened for a while.

Anal sex is an Abomination and your own body can tell you that at the time you will be doing it.You will feel it.
What do you already know from the bible?

June 27, 2009 at 10:51 am
(931) shygirl says:

My ex wanted to try anal sex and while I wasn’t crazy about the idea I let him since I figured sex is about pleasing each other. The first time was extremely painful. The second time wasn’t as painful (he used Vaseline as lube though). My biggest complaint about the second time was that it was painful to use the bathroom for days afterwards. Using Vaseline as lube was nasty too; very bad idea. We never tried anal sex again after that.

Now that I’ve left my ex, I’ve met two guys who are interested in having anal sex with me. One has never tried it but has fantasized about it. I think it’d be fun to help him fufill that fantasy but I worry that, since he’s inexperienced, he’d hurt me.

The second guy has a lot of experience with anal sex. He claims women enjoy it more than vaginal sex and can have stronger orgasms through anal. I find that hard to believe, which is why I came here to skim over the comments. This guy has tried playing with my ass which I actually enjoyed and has inserted his finger. Insertion didn’t bother me but I didn’t get off on it either. Eventually we’ll work our way up to larger things. I’m not sure I’ll ever really enjoy it though. I’m more neutral than anything.

I have some questions though. First, I’ve been told anal sex is actually very clean (at least most of the time), is that really true? Do woman really have orgasms through anal sex? I can’t even achieve orgasms through vaginal sex so the thought of anal sex producing an orgasm seems very far-fetched.

Also, I’ve been told that some women will have anal sex instead of vaginal sex so that they’ll still be “virgins” when they get married. Has anyone ever heard of that before?

June 27, 2009 at 11:15 am
(932) Emma says:

I’m 40, I have been married for 20 years, and my husband has brought up the issue of anal sex now for the past 10 or so years.

He’s…gently…lured me into accepting the idea of it by ‘massaging’ the area. But, we are a timid couple…always have been…and I ultimately stop him before it actually happens.

Recently, we have gone through some very trying times and have realized life is not a dress rehearsal. You only live once, experience all you can. So, last night, I let down my inhibitions and l let him take it further. To my disappointment, and probably his, it was too painful. We couldn’t get past the…huh…warm up. I’m just too small, I mean after all these years, it’s still small in the vaginal area too.

So, I don’t think it will ever happen, but for those of you out there that think you are too shy to attempt it, don’t be. If I can try it, anybody can. Maybe one day, when our bodies start to fall apart, we can try again, lol, who knows…

June 27, 2009 at 11:23 pm
(933) vartan says:

IT IS ALL ABOUT HOW TO PLEASE YOUR MAN.

TO THE PEOPLE WHO SAYS WOMEN LOVE ANAL SEX,

IN MATTER OF FACT THAT THE WOMEN WHO EXPERIENCE ANAL SEX AT VERY FIRST TIME THEY ALL COMPLAINING ABOUT HOW IT HURT, WHERE IS THE ENJOYMENT OF GETING PLESURE FROM CAUSING PAIN TO YOUSELF AT THE FIRST PALCE.

WOMEN PUT UNDER PRESSURE TO MAKE THEM GET USED TO SOMETHING THEY DIDN’T LIKE AT FIRST PLACE.

MEN WHO WROTE MY PARTNER HAVING ANAL SEX ALL THE TIME! HA HA HA BECAUSE SHE IS HAVING HER NORMAL SEX IN SOME WHERE ELSE!!!

IT IS TIME WOMEN SHOULD STAND UP FOR THEMSELF AND SAY NO TO ANAL SEX, IF YOUR PARTNER REALLY LOVES YOU HE WOULD NOT CONSIDER TO GET YOU HURT, THIS IS LOVE OF ANAL SEX NOT LOVE OF A PERSON!!!

June 28, 2009 at 5:42 pm
(934) hehe says:

to comment 22 anal sex occures in all animals

June 28, 2009 at 6:21 pm
(935) shygirl says:

In response to comment 933

“MEN WHO WROTE MY PARTNER HAVING ANAL SEX ALL THE TIME! HA HA HA BECAUSE SHE IS HAVING HER NORMAL SEX IN SOME WHERE ELSE!!!”

Why are you assuming that since couples have anal sex it means that aren’t having “normal” sex too? You can do both with the same person.

Please buy a grammar book and locate your capslock key too. That was painful to read.

June 29, 2009 at 4:32 am
(936) Nicolas says:

My girlfriend said yes to anal, but we havnt done it yet. the thing is (comment 833) if it hurts her one bit, we stop. maybe she likes it :P

June 29, 2009 at 4:34 am
(937) nicolas says:

sorry comment 933…

June 29, 2009 at 3:08 pm
(938) vartan says:

2004 study by the American Cancer Society found that woman who had anal sex were twice as likely of developing anal cancer. Women having anal sex are also 20 to 500 times more likely to contract the HIV infection compared to unprotected, vaginal sex.

June 29, 2009 at 3:14 pm
(939) Roberta says:

It is a dangerous and unnatural perversion that is only desired by men who have homosexual tendencies and that no woman ever enjoys. Anyone woman who says that she enjoys it is lying and has either brainwashed by some deviant man or is a homosexual activist and trying to promote degeneracy. All real women hate it and that is the truth.

June 30, 2009 at 8:45 am
(940) James says:

Hello, i have been having anal sex since i was 16(11 years ago). I can honestly say that in the four relationships i’ve been in since then, all four women liked/loved having anal sex. One of them did prefer anal to vaginal sex! If two consentng adults would like to do this then they should be allowed to without others telling them “its wrong, its not normal” i love having sex especially when the woman i’m with will let me penetrate her in bum! If you are boring in bed and dont experiment, your partner will find someone else who will! “ANY HOLES A GOAL” is my favourite quote! enjoy your sex life! Experiment!

June 30, 2009 at 6:05 pm
(941) steve says:

I love anal sex with women. I think it feels incredible and am extremely turned on by feces stuck on the edge of my penis.

July 1, 2009 at 1:52 am
(942) reese gurl says:

I just recently tried anal sex to please my man and I DID NOT ENJOY it at all, it hurted like hell and I wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy. He took it slow and used lot of lube as I was instructed but he only got the head in and it took forever to do that. My bottom hurted for about a week after that. Definitely wouldn’t recommend that.

July 1, 2009 at 5:32 pm
(943) Carolyn says:

I had tried anal sex with my husband several years ago and did not like it. However, we started planning a long trip out of town in our rv and for some reason, I decided that it would be a good time to try anal sex again. WHAT A GOOD DECISION. I ordered lots of lube and did not tell my husband about my idea until we were parked in a truck stop for the night. I told him as soon as we were parked and then made him wait a couple of hours to think about it. We started out with foreplay and lots of teasing my hole. We had vaginal intercourse and then started on anal. Lots of time getting me ready really paid off. I thoroughly enjoyed the session and my husband had such a rocking orgasm. Over the last couple of weeks, we have had anal three or four more times. Sometimes I tell him that I want it. Sometimes, I just put out the lube and let him at it if he wants it. Sometimes, he asks for it. He loves to watch in a mirror we have on the closet door and has made me start watching also. I get turned on just thinking about it. I have quickly ordered a couple of anal plugs to wear beforehand so that I am somewhat prepared for the workout I know I am going to receive. These toys are great. I also have a vibrator with anal beads on one end and use these. From an almost anal virgin to a real anal slut, who would have though.

July 1, 2009 at 9:25 pm
(944) fatma says:

well most of the men using women name in this blog in order to give impression women point of view.

men should put a dildo up his ass before he stick his penis in a women butt, they they would know how painful and sadistic it is.

my husband wanted anal sex with me in our early marrige and I told him that I will do it in one condition, only if he stick a dildo up his bum, lol ever since he never mentioned anal sex conversation.

July 1, 2009 at 9:29 pm
(945) mato says:

I do not respect women who is plesure slave of a men and has zero respect for her dignity.

July 3, 2009 at 4:17 am
(946) Brian says:

Vartan (938),

Hmmm, let’s take a closer look at this.

According to some people, anal sex is a deviant behavior. If so, this means that only a tiny fraction of society engages in anal sex. Yet, only twice as many cases have been attributed to anal sex….right???
Explain that please.

Second, if I were you I wouldn’t be so concerned whether it’s 10% or 1000% as likely to get AIDS through anal sex or regular sex…I’d be asking myself why I’m having sex with someone with AIDS in the first place!

July 3, 2009 at 5:52 am
(947) Brian says:

Vartan (933),

You present your own dogmatic opinion as fact. It’s one thing to speak from personal experience; it’s something far different to speculate about others simply based on your own opinion. So, you’re basically saying “All men…” or “All women…” which means you’re stereotyping.

Forgive me for going slightly off topic here, but I hope you wouldn’t say something like “all white people are racist”. Perhaps some are but certainly not all (and hopefully a minority). Usually stereotyping is reserved for very uneducated or ignorant people. I trust you aren’t in either category.

Many women I’ve been with enjoy it…but certainly not all. And for many of my female friends, they say anal sex can be amazing. In fact one of my girlfriends would beg me for to plug her ass. When I’d go down on her, she’d often stimulate her own butt with her finger….hmmm, kinda hard to reconcile that with your theory, huh?

So to all you women (and men) out there that say anal sex is derogatory and that no woman enjoys it whatsoever…you are making a huge blanket statement.

Just reading the comments in this forum should compel you to realize that some women actually enjoy it. There are those who’ve mentioned that anal sex was forced upon them, which is wrong. If you do any research, statistics show that roughly half of women in their sexually active years have tried anal sex. And one out of every three really likes it.

July 3, 2009 at 9:56 am
(948) NatureLaw says:

I know, if the nostril was bigger than it is. I am sure, a lot people on this forum would try nasal sex.

What are you looking for?

What do you need for a better life?

I am sure God is very angry because he showed you the way and you keep going the more and more crazy because you just wanna try.
Go ahead try and don’t cry after that.

July 4, 2009 at 8:12 pm
(949) Female Anal Lover says:

Some of you people leaving comments are blithering idiots. I’m a WOMAN WHO ENJOYS ANAL SEX. We exist, I promise! There was no coercion from a man involved, it was my decision to try it. I know not everyone will like it, but nowadays I prefer it to normal vaginal sex.

To all those who say it is painful and dangerous: It doesn’t have to be. If you use plenty of lube and RELAX it can feel really good, or at the very least not hurt. The important thing is that you really do have to be very relaxed, let your muscles go loose until you can actually feel the sphincter muscles relaxing. Then using plenty of lube, start with a finger, then toys, then work up to actual anal sex with a partner’s penis or strap-on.

For those who say it’s dirty: Again, it doesn’t have to be. Have a good bowel movement and an enema about two hours beforehand and you’re set!

For those who say it’s perverted: Well, that’s your opinion.

As for other misconceptions: The anus does not stay “stretched out.” It goes back to its normal state within moments after the penis/toys/whatever are removed.

Poop doesn’t “get pushed back up.” It might become a little impacted if you didn’t void it beforehand, but trust me it’s going to come out like normal once all is said and done.

If a man enjoys having his anus pleasured, that does not make him gay. Loving men makes a man gay (or bi if he loves women, too.)

Anyone who says that no woman has ever enjoyed anal is a bit off track there. I know LOTS of women, myself included, who absolutely adore it. And you know what? That’s their business.

What this should all come down to is: To each their own! If someone like anal, you should not harass them over it. If they do not like anal, don’t try to change their mind! If someone has dangerous misconceptions you should try to correct them, but there’s no reason it can’t be done politely and with facts, not opinions.

July 5, 2009 at 5:23 am
(950) Karin says:

post(949) it sounds like you are in anal toys business.

July 6, 2009 at 12:25 am
(951) Female Anal Lover says:

to (950) Karin: Haha, actually, I’m not! I’m just a woman who enjoys anal sex and wants to help stop the spread of misinformation about it. I don’t want to convert anyone if they don’t want to try, but I would like to have the facts out there to compete with the wild lies and scare-tactics thrown out by prudes and religious nuts (no offense to the reasonable religious folks!)

July 6, 2009 at 2:03 am
(952) custom_pubic_mop_4_ROY says:

my names ass stein. i enjoy crop sex with hairy cop corn and i like gaping men who cum tickle-style in the winter wonder land…GAYYYYYY*****
to be honest ive been exploring the possibilities of sexual likings, i found that if i take my penis and force it into a half full pepsi bottle and shake it untill become erect and the bottle is under great pressure it forces my sperm out into the pepsi..i dont know what causes this but its an instant oragazim, TRY IT-ITS AMAZING

July 6, 2009 at 2:03 am
(953) custom_pubic_mop_4_ROY says:

my names ass stein. i enjoy crop sex with hairy cop corn and i like gaping men who cum tickle-style in the winter wonder land…GAYYYYYY*****
to be honest ive been exploring the possibilities of sexual likings, i found that if i take my penis and force it into a h alf full pepsi bottle and shake it untill become erect and the bottle is under great pressure it forces my sperm out into the pepsi..i dont know what causes this but its an instant oragazim, TRY IT-ITS AMAZING

July 6, 2009 at 2:12 pm
(954) Rhonda says:

Twenty or thirty years ago, the big deal used to giving head. Some women felt it was disgusting. Some women simply couldn’t envision receiving any pleasure from it. Others (probably some from the first two groups) wondered whether it was “right” for girls to go down on guys…assuming that it was a one-way street. “If he asks you for it, make him do it first!” they cried. Nowadays, oral sex is no big deal. Just makes you wonder if anal sex will also come to pass.

July 7, 2009 at 1:51 am
(955) MrWarmth says:

I like having ana sex with farm animals

July 7, 2009 at 2:53 am
(956) frank sears says:

This is really incredible. I just stumbled across this site, can’t remember how I got here. Sounds like good stuff for adolescent male masturbation-make sure you have plenty of kleenex handy. Now that we’ve subdued nature I guess rhere’s not a lot for the average working stiff to do but sit around watching big screen tv and dubbing around on the computer talking endlessly about sex–at least until we run out of fossil fuels and have to scratch and claw out an existence as people once did. Won’t be a lot of dead time for mental masturbation then I’ll wager. Good thing too.
Hey, that’s an idea-maybe you could use some of the vast waste of time and energy to do something useful? Naa, let’s just all hang about and act like a bunch of dicks.

July 7, 2009 at 10:54 pm
(957) jethro says:

I’m just trying to figure out how to get my wife to have any sort of sex let alone something as advanced as anal sex. After 25 years of frustration and misery its amazing to see that there are some women who actually have an interested in anything in the bedroom. Do you take some magic potion. What’s the secret? Once I know this then I cane move on to the avanced stuff

July 7, 2009 at 11:04 pm
(958) Lana lora says:

I enjoyed reading the comments above but after reading the Muslim’s comment about the Qu’ran and hadith, I will stick to oral vaginal, and only oral during menustration

July 8, 2009 at 10:17 pm
(959) Withheld please says:

I accidentally discovered this forum and am amazed at the reaction it seems to have generated over a period of years. Many of the comments reveal a basic premise that of “consenting adults”. If what you do with your partner is fine by both of you, great. If not, then don’t. All else is personal preference. Ignore those with agendas to push – like religious ones (read: dark-age superstition). The same nonsense used to be trotted out about oral sex. The fact is that people should be free to explore whatever they want. I have had partners who did enjoy anal now and then, and those who didn’t. The same thing can be said about anything sexual between – repeating myself – consenting adults.

July 9, 2009 at 12:34 am
(960) RUSerious!? says:

This thread is unbelievable. I think that two consenting adults should get their groove on in any way they please. But for goodness sakes, don’t act like it doesn’t hurt. You know dang well it does. Those of you lying about it because you want to convince yourself or seem more sexual are full of it. There are plenty of very sexual people who don’t put large objects in their butts. COME ON! It’s not close-mindedness I have here because I’m not saying don’t do it. I’m just saying that you’re full of it if you are saying it “feels good”. Yeah, like saying a BM feels good.

One guy says, “She’ll enter a state of perpetual orgasm and collapses at the end.” That’s not orgasm you selfish closet flamer, that’s called PAIN and you’re too wrapped up in your own pleasure to realize that. You even said, “Oh, why would I cheat on her when I get everything I need with her willingness for anal.” You even sound like a selfish jerk! Your poor wife. Not only does she fake orgasms and collapse because of the pain afterward, but in a few years she’ll be wearing Depends because she can’t control her bowels. BRAVO, husband. You’re a hero. Good looking out for her “pleasure.” Your wife doesn’t need anal, she needs to grow a set of balls and stick it to YOU!

July 9, 2009 at 1:59 am
(961) saywhat says:

I dated a girl in college who loved to have her ass blasted exclusively. It was quite erotic and fun for the both of us.

July 9, 2009 at 10:04 am
(962) *NEVER* DO IT - SO BAD FOR YOU!! says:

I find it difficult to believe this many women enjoy anal. I suspect men, with loyalties to the brotherhood, are posing as women in order to convince women to try anal sex.

Of course there are the odd few women who enjoy it…I’ve spoken to many female friends on the matter- and my gay brother- and the general consensus was *it is HORRIBLE*…

One friend said the pain was so intense, she hurt and bled for days and going to the toilet was a further painful experience. She told me how the use of lube was no help for her- as the rectum walls were micro-torn from friction (inevitable) the lube began to sting her like…buggery.

Another friend, endured the intense pain for her boyfriend’s sake, and had a bowl spasm-which resulted in feces being oozed all over the bed.

I had to drive my flatmate to hospital after she had her INSIDES PULLED OUT during anal sex.

One close friend of mine enjoys it. However, she now suffers from anal leakage. She now has to wear adult diapers.

My friend’s mother regaled me with tales of her anal exploits. She attempted anal sex three times-enduring the shocking pain- in an effort to save her marriage. She said the internal damage from a mere three times was extensive. She advised us, that any man prepared to cause that amount of damage to you is not worth any attempt at marriage salvation!

My gay brother says the pain is so horrific- especially if feces leaks through the rectum walls and a chemical reaction occurs, causing sharp pain and cold sweats- he refuses to ever ‘take it’.

I have never tried it, and never will. When I’m aroused, my anus does not come into the equation- there is no desire emanated from this region.

That aside, even if it was the best sex I would ever have, I refuse to do it for health reasons. Hepatitis, Gonorrhea (caused by the bacteria in feces), AIDS, rectal cancer (more predominant in women than men who are anally penetrated), anal leakage, rectal prolapse, vaginal infections (as the sphincter is damaged, fecal bacteria constantly seeps out and creeps into the vagina) etc. etc. are enough of a deterrence.

There’s a reason so many gay men suffer from AIDS and shorter life expectancies. I am grateful my brother does not allow anal penetration of himself. Although, I dread the day his life-partner suffers the effects.

Also- have any of you actually looked at the anus of a woman who practices anal sex? Google it- it’s feral! It’s so large and gapping, with a swollen and bruised perimeter and pink flesh falling out. Not the epitome of good health…

July 9, 2009 at 5:12 pm
(963) Teo says:

I do agree with you (962)

I’m a man and I never had intention to have anal sex with my wife, we have been married for 18 years and I have 1 boy and two girls. my wife admited that she had anal sex several times from her previous relationship, she also said to me that she never enjoy anal sex when she did it. the only reason she did she told me it because she was in love with that guy, just to make her boyfriend happy, she also also said that when she first did it she was not able to sit down for a week with horible pain, I did crayed when I listened her story I hate to think there are men claming that women enjoys anal sex, god damn you people, I don’t want my wonderful girls going through the same experience like mine frau did in her previous relationship.

thank you for reading
Teo

July 10, 2009 at 2:35 am
(964) *NEVER* DO IT- SO BAD FOR YOU!!! says:

I have no interest in anal. I’m too well educated, concerning the detrimental health effects (see comment 962).

However, I resent the fact I am made to feel like a prude for not wanting to endure pain so some guy can ejaculate into my bowels.

A guy, in an effort to pleasure me, can offer me his genitals, hands and mouth. I will only reciprocate what I am given. His anus brings me no pleasure, my anus will therefore bring him no pleasure. I am not going to suffer so he can release some semen.

I only hope, if this mainstream anal pressure is to continue, that women start pressuring men into being anally penetrated, and that a man who refuses to take it up the rectum will be ridiculed and viewed as a poor and unadventurous lover…. exactly what is being done to women.

July 10, 2009 at 4:09 am
(965) Brian says:

RU Serious,

I’ve occasionally been around women when they’ve talked about their sexual experiences. For vaginal sex, some have mentioned they have very pleasurable experiences with well-endowed men. Others have said that vaginal sex with well-endowed men is painful, which implies that for these “smaller” women their vaginas are less elastic. Why can’t the same be true for anal sex?

July 10, 2009 at 11:43 am
(966) Rebecca says:

personally, i love it up the butt. i love having a man’s big rod moving in and out my ass. don’t listen to these PRUDES! women out there love anal as much as men!!

July 10, 2009 at 2:32 pm
(967) Teo says:

Brain, you better do some experience on your anus, for exaple use a dildo up in your ass and lets see how elastic it can get.

imagine it is your own daughter going through the same experience.

July 10, 2009 at 6:04 pm
(968) the dominator says:

what a great article! almost 6 years and this post still gets a bunch of attention. for all those fuddy-duddies who don’t want women to do this: a woman’s body was built for penis. especially her ass. we need women getting their butts packed with boners! the buttsex is a good thing for a woman when done properly(plenty of lube and gently done at first)
and just for all you who are against it, i made this little tribute to women and buttsex
3-:
see that? the number 3 is the woman’s ass and the dash is the penis and the colon mark is the balls!
just for you anti anal folks!
women and anal sex is here for keeps!!!

July 11, 2009 at 1:40 pm
(969) thoughtful says:

I believe that different types of lubes produce different results. Consider a dimethicone or silicone based lube that doesn’t get sticky or dry out after application. Eros is a good example. There are other manufacturers of lube that claim they are for anal. Check them out and see what works best. It cannot be understated how important and essential proper lubrication is to ensure pleasure.

I also wanted to mention that when attempting anal the first time, let your partner back into your penis. Let them control the penetration. This will set the pace for penetration.

Finally, a great way to test whether she’s at all interested in anal stimulation is to rim her. Caress her anus with your tongue and see her reaction. It may pique her interest in going further.

Be respectful, and go slowly. If she enjoys the experience, you’ll both be adding a new dimension to your enjoyment in the sack. It also builds a level of trust, because this is a very very intimate act.

July 11, 2009 at 7:07 pm
(970) creepella says:

NEVER HAVE ANAL SEX IT RUNS YU
YU GET PAIN IN YUR TUMMY AND ASS
PLUS DIARHEA
I HAD IT 4 A MONTHH ND I DNU WHEN I’TS GOING TO STOP!

July 11, 2009 at 11:30 pm
(971) Gas Giant says:

I envy every one of you motherf&%k$rs who have had anal sex with a woman as I can’t find any women who like it.

July 12, 2009 at 4:19 am
(972) curiousitykilledthecat says:

So, everyone has had those doo doo’s that won’t come out so you push and it comes out almost all the way, but it won’t go any further, so you stop pushin and let it go bak in so you can try to push it out again right? Well that’s EXACTLY what anal sex feels like!

July 12, 2009 at 8:41 am
(973) martin says:

push in and out? (972)

somebody need to do some anal exercise on your waste hole lets see what its like!

it seemes you are very open about it but if it so good and simple then surely you can recommend it to your own famile.

July 13, 2009 at 11:40 am
(974) john says:

Damn, I wish I could meet up with most of the women who posted here. I can never find women who like anal. Im obsessed by it.

July 15, 2009 at 8:26 am
(975) Johnny boy says:

Regarding 962 & 964 comments the “*Never* do it” girl. I think 90% of what you’ve written is either fiction or gathered from the internet. ****Plus*** if you think it’s so awful, painful, dangerous and degrading why would you go about looking for discussions like this and (supposedly) asking all your friends and acquaintances about it??!!! It just doesn’t add up for me.

Whatever the truth is you’ve obviously got no experience of it yourself so just keep your made up lies to yourself in future. With common sense, patience and care nothing like that ever happens! Don’t listen to her people. Enjoy your consensual sex life (whether it involves the anus or not) guilt free! Just be sensible about it.

July 16, 2009 at 1:02 am
(976) Kim says:

I cannot speak for other women but I have only done it with my husband and it took years to get used to it. For me, the only pleasure I get from it is knowing I am giving my husband something I have never given anyone else. After 3 children and over 10 years of marriage, I wanted to please him as much as he pleases me. So it’s a “treat” that is done every few months.

July 16, 2009 at 9:16 am
(977) ferida says:

that is exactly my point, women who do it, they do to pleased their husband or boy friend not because they enjoy it. I personally did once when I was 8 months pregnant, I never want do it again, it doesn’t feel good to think that men don’t enjoy vagina sex as much as anal.it I can’t belive that women buy special toy to strech their anus, it is uterly horible to go throug this exprience this is nothing to do with love bur raw sex

July 16, 2009 at 9:12 pm
(978) Anon says:

Women don’t just have anal sex to make their men happy. I personally enjoy it, maybe not more than vaginal sex but it’s nice every now and then. As long as it’s done in a safe and intelligent matter, I don’t see what the problem is. So here’s an answer, it’s normal to do, don’t feel guilty if you want it. And if you don’t want it, don’t feel guilty about it either. It’s a personal decision and you should never do anything in bed that makes you feel ashamed, sex is about pleasure and connection. Talk it over w/ who you are with, come to a decision together. Exploration can be the most fun part of sex.

July 17, 2009 at 3:55 pm
(979) david from south end says:

well, I must tell you that I do enjoy vaginal sex never treid anal sex personally i’m more than happy have vaginal sex. my question to those egoistic men over there, who is asking to have anal sex first is it men asking for anal sex or is it women asking for it???

if yyou don’t mention anal sex to a women she is more than happy to not have it!

I,m 34 I’m very smart and good looking when ever I go to west end London at the weekend I very offten meet nice ladies for having good time togeter, so far never ever I came across to a lady baging for anal sex. in other word if you don’t mention they wouldn’t do it as simple as that.

July 18, 2009 at 9:45 pm
(980) Paul says:

My wife and I have tried anal sex before but we were both new to it and we went to fast and it ended up not being pleasurable to her at all. Lately I have done some research on this and have read and read and I think I have aquired the proper “tools” to do it right…..Now my problem is is that she is not interested in doing it because of past experiences. Any suggestion on how to change her mind? Thanks

July 19, 2009 at 12:35 am
(981) franc black says:

Want to approach your lady for anal?

First of all, don’t talk about it. Too awkward. You’ll screw up and never get browneye.

Get her off, but don’t come yet. Keep pleasing her until she’s downright willing to do anything to reciprocate. If you blow before assplay starts, that’s it for tonight.

Popular way is to ‘wander’ during oral. Licking the spot between the anus and the vaginal opening will likely get a reaction that let’s you know either: “don’t go any further you sick bastard”, or “hey, that is kind of nice, where is he headed next?”

Drunk and/or stoned will definitely help.(possibly other substances, but I wouldn’t know about them)

Patience and lube, and wash thoroughly afterwards.

July 19, 2009 at 12:10 pm
(982) webcamgirly says:

Damn, I wish I could meet up with most of the women who posted here. I can never find women who like anal. Im obsessed by it.

July 19, 2009 at 4:06 pm
(983) charlie says:

with all women i have sex with , they all have give me their butt hole , cause i love coming in that ass .

July 20, 2009 at 9:55 am
(984) Karin says:

(983)

if she does’t want sex that is her right to do so, nobody should get forced to have anal sex or put under pressure to do so,that is selfisness. I would kick ass if I had a partner like you .

July 20, 2009 at 5:59 pm
(985) Tom says:

Are these comment mostly written by men posing as women? I can’t imagine something 1.5 inches in diameter inserted into your butt hole to feel good except for the guy who is inserting it.

July 21, 2009 at 4:23 pm
(986) Deborah says:

Cheers Charlie, that’s lovely.

I practice anal sex for a living and it’s a living nightmare. How would you feel with a 7 inch rock solid tube ramming up your ass? I’m guessing not great. I would love to lie like the rest of you but anal sex is nasty. Vaginal on the other hand is reallu quite nice. What’s my profession you ask? Dentist

July 21, 2009 at 10:09 pm
(987) the dominator says:

hey, deb. (986) nobody cares if you are a dentist. what we do care about is the fact that as time moves on…… more and more women are out there getting sodomized!
AND they are liking it!
yep, more and more women out there are getting their butts packed with boners and it is great. i think i will get me a lady this summer and fill her buns with my hotdog!

July 22, 2009 at 11:53 pm
(988) Joan R says:

Air conditioning, eyeglasses, and cars are also extremely unnatural in the animal kingdom. So what? Some of these dogmatic posters inexplicably want it both ways. They compare us to animals to make a point about naturalism and morals, yet they simultaneously say we are in God’s image and are thus far more advanced than animals. Make up your minds!

July 23, 2009 at 1:58 am
(989) fixedgearhead says:

I have never really been attracted to the thought of anal sex with my wife. We really enjoy oral and vaginal and mutual masturbation. When I told her that I don’t really have any anal desires yeards ago, she said she was OK with that, and made some comment about alot of men demand it. I asked her if she wanted it, and she said that no it’s OK.
I stumbled across this site and now I am really curious. maybe there is something to anal after all for women. I have inserted my own digits into my rectum while mastgerbating in the shower to bring myself to a whopping orgasm by depressing my prostrate (it swells with seminal fluid prior to ejaculation). As a youth I used to insert those travel bottles of shampoo into my bum while having my “hour power shower” getting to know myself and getting off in the process. It just felt good, and gave me something to clamp down on when that special moment arrived. The manual-digital stimulation just followed when there was no bottle of a proper caliber available in the shower, and I made the additional discovery of the prostrate gland which can be manually palpitated. I think this is the anatomical reason it feels good. At least this is my response to folks who liken it to ramming a 7″ stone up there–there are anatomical reasons why it could feel good. Comparative anatomy lessons aside, i don’t konw if the ladies are simularly situated with a similar functional anatomy.

Anyhoo, I may try it in the shower with my girl, if it ever comes up again. Wow, what a well disected topic. Who knew?

July 23, 2009 at 5:23 am
(990) uthorns says:

i want anal. anyone live in albuquerque

July 23, 2009 at 11:41 am
(991) anna says:

After I read these remarks – I have to say some women do like anal sex. I do not think all of the comments are fictionalized. I tried anal sex with 2 different guys – not God-awful but not great!
Recently, my husband and I have tried it again. He cares for my enjoyment more than his own. Oh my! He used a vibrator in my vagina, while he was in my ass! I have never come so hard!!! We were glad the boys were asleep and the tv was on! True story from a 37 year old woman – but NOPE I do not talk about it with my friends!;0)

July 23, 2009 at 8:41 pm
(992) Brian says:

I was surprised 25 yrs ago, that a girlfriend who I had only know for 6 mths ‘submitted’ to anal penetration…whilst anal stimulation preceded, no lubricant was used.
Anatomically & Psychologically she seemed ready willing and able, and with out pain.

I am infatuated with the visual aspect of the various shapes and forms of the female anus. I know I’m perverted, but some are prettier than others. Further, some look like they are physically more capable/able to accept a penis.

My partner of 10 yrs has one of the biggest & prettiest anus’ I have seen. She knows I would love to have anal sex with her, but because of her religious views she is reticent, and I respectfully accept that. We venture all other places, and enjoy our love making immensely.
My partner had suggested that if it (anal) means so much to me, then I should take a lover who is interested in going there. She says she is fine with me having a lover, but I am to ensure I use a condom.
It has to be said, I am a very lucky man!

An old friend of some 35yrs became my lover (the 1st time we had ever ventured there) about 6mths ago…it goes with out saying that we know each other, and trust each other implicitly. We have explosive sex… but are only able to meet on average once a fortnight.

Whilst there is a ‘love’ between my lover/friend and I, it is basically about sex.
Many here may think my behaviour is absolutely abominable… I don’t wish to try and justify my actions, but I would never have gone outside of my partnership without the ok I was given.

My partner once showed some discomfort at my having a lover (even tho she sanctioned it)… basically it was because I had known my friend/lover for so long,and felt somewhat threatened by the longevity of the friendship.
On reassuring my partner that she & I are life partners she is happy… my assurances are not lies! I would NEVER leave my partner for my lover. Both my lover and partner know this.
So what is the point of my little missive you ask.
I guess I am supportive of the view that; what goes on between 2 people in privacy is their business, providing of cause it is consensual and age appropriate.

So here’s a cat amongst the pidgeons…if your partner doesn’t want to engage in anal sex, then politely and respectfully ask if she would mind if you took a lover for that purpose.

July 24, 2009 at 1:42 am
(993) andrea says:

hello my name is andrea im only 15 yearz old n well i have bn having sex wit my bf n well we decided to try anal sex n we tryd it couple of wkz bak n i noticd sumthin eveytime we have anal sex after we r done when i go to the bathroom i feel a lump or small bump stickin out of my butt hole bt its like a small ball of skin well dats how i feel it n well i wantd to kno if dat was normal after havin anal sex??!! It really scard mi da first time bt i just told my self it was normal bt it happens everytime now so im worrid if it is or not plzzz answer mi bak as soon as possible cuz im freakin out bout it n i want to kno wat it is?!!! for example i had sex wit my bf on tuesday n well itz almost friday n i still have dat little bump of skin stickin out of mi butt hole plzz just help mi out!!!

July 26, 2009 at 7:25 am
(994) *NEVER* DO IT- SO BAD FOR YOU!!! says:

Johnny Boy,

I am not making my examples up. They are purely fact. I had in-depth discussions with my friends on the matter as I had a horribly selfish boyfriend who was pestering me for it.

I had no desire for anal and the hypocrite would not let me anywhere near his anus- so I discussed the situation with my friends. My listed examples are the horrific facts of their experiences.

I search and comment on articles like this as it is now my endeavor to educated as many people as possible on the dangers of anal.

Also, Brian- you say if a partner does not satisfy your desires it is permissible for you to take another lover who is willing to do so. I like my partner to be able to go for hours. So if I had a husband who could only last an hour, you’re saying it is perfectly reasonable of me to have other lovers ready and waiting who can satisfy my urges?

July 26, 2009 at 9:20 pm
(995) abbygirl says:

WOW!! I think i’m the only women on here that dose’nt like anal?!?! Now dont get me wrong I like to have my husband play a little around there but not with his cock. We have tried it before but the pain was to bad even with LOTS of lube. He has been asking me for years and we still try in hopes one day I will be able to do it.

July 29, 2009 at 7:16 am
(996) anonymous says:

Its weird, everyone says that anal hurt the first time, for me it didn’t…maybe its ab being with a guy who knows what he’s doing? Both guys I have done this with have been a lot older than me. It didn’t hurt in the beginning, but it felt weird. With the guy I am with now tho it’s actually nice, feels good, and makes me feel extra close to him. Guess I’m lucky that I never had a bad experience!

July 30, 2009 at 12:20 am
(997) breanna says:

okayy so im kind of sex and i know you guys are going to preach about me doing this. But i have questions that i cant seem to ask anyone else and it would be greatly appreactiated if they got answered. So me and my boyfriend have had anal sex a couple of times and it still hurts badly so is there any way to fix that? Afterwards he finishes there and a couple hours later i have bad diarrhea….can any thing fix this??

July 31, 2009 at 6:00 pm
(998) Alice says:

Anal sex is amazing, I mean with the right person, at the right time, with the right lubricant :) I never had anal sex with my ex-boyfriends coz they think it is disgusting. But recently, I did it with my friend, it was great. At first it hurts, but your partner needs to be gentle and take it slowly. maybe first starts with figures.

August 2, 2009 at 4:49 pm
(999) Bobby says:

Fully loving your partner’s body means loving their whole body, that includes their ass.

Get past the taboo/sin/immoral nonsense. This is outdated religious dogma. The church is responsible for all sexual problems, as it’s almost 2000 years of using guilt, shame, and the fear of God have taught people to put themselves down, to subvert love for manmade judmgental laws, and to be unaccountable for their emotions and actions.

First, for the man, a man’s G-spot is in his anus. Stimulating his prostate during oral sex can give him quicker orgams. Personally, I find the strength of them not a good, however.

For women, if you stimulate the back of the vagina, it can give them sensations of anal sex. Stimulating their anus during doggy style or oral sex can also give them more pleasure. Women are highly incredible orgasmic creatures. With plenty of lube and foreplay, introducing women to anal sex can increase their orgasms. Giving someone an orgasms is hardly the worst thing you can do to someone. I don’t even talk to women about the foreplay. I just slowly rub the area with lubed fingers for a while, then slowly insert my fingers a little at a time. You can ask her if she likes it, and use positive affirmations to make sure she knows it’s for her pleasure too.

Secondly, women want to be dominated and lead into new things. Not domineered, controlled or forced. They want a man who has a stronger reality than her, who tells it like it is, who dominates her and ravishes (overcome with emotion, like joy or delight) them in bed until they are crying tears of joy. Women are capable of 28 different orgasms. A cranky woman is an undersexed woman.

It’s okay to not like anal sex or just not have the desire, but not doing it because of shameful perceptions is showing that you do not love yourself enough to explore your sexuality or body enough. I know women who love it and those that do are the most sexually comfortable women I know.

August 3, 2009 at 9:58 am
(1000) walter ego says:

I love anal sex, rough hard anal sex. if my gf crys i like it even more. I feel powerful when I ram her as hard as i can in her arse and the fact that she doesnt get satisfied makes me harder.
in fact I think she loves being pseudo raped and sodomised in a subconcious sub serviant masochistic way. if yoru gf wont do it just take it! if she leaves you she didnt like it, if she doesnt she did!

August 3, 2009 at 5:34 pm
(1001) Southwest Tim says:

Breanna (997) — If it hurts and gives you the “runs,” I’d say tell boyfriend to slow down, respect your limits and wear a condom. If he’s an inconsiderate jerk, dump him, but keep an open mind about anal sex. There’s a lot of men out there who want it and know how to treat a woman who’s willing to give it. Just be careful to avoid sadists like Walter Ego (1000). I really feel sorry for his “gf,” assuming she’s not a figment of his perverted imagination.

August 3, 2009 at 11:45 pm
(1002) TuffBull says:

This is a very interesting thread.
I searched this because I am seeing more and more porn with women receiving anal sex and I was curious what was in it for them.
I am a gay man and I love to give and receive anal sex. But men have a prostate that is stumulated during anal sex and when done correctly can result in an incredible orgasm. All the nay-sayers talking about “the dangers of anal sex” are somewhat correct, but with plenty of lubrication and an experienced partner anal sex is wonderful…every doctor I have had says the same thing.

I also wanted to comment on the 15 year old girl who says she and her boyfriend are having anal sex and she has a bump on her anus afterward. It’s most likely a hemorroid honey and will probaby go away on it’s own, but you should use more lubricant to avoid this injury to your anus. See your doctor if this condition persists. Don’t be embarrassed about it…he’s seen all kind sof things like this.

August 4, 2009 at 10:56 pm
(1003) Fred says:

My understanding from the comments here is most of women do not enjoy anal sex. That is a fact that men should accept it: Anal sex for many women is nothing but a just a pain.

However, as a strait man, I really enjoyed the experience when the Ex gf penetrate her finger and some times a dildo in me. I have heard from some strait men that they have had such experience and most of them enjoyed it. Yes it has pain, but the enjoyment is incredible.

With this background, I always thought that women enjoy giving anal sex. My main reason was that I myself was enjoying it and naturally was thinking that women enjoy it too.

Now that I am more aware of the anatomy of my body, and that stimulating prostait can produce a huge sexual satisfaction for most of men, my expectation has changed. Now I completely understand if a women has no feeling about anal sex. Women do not have prostate, so why they should enjoy anal sex?

August 5, 2009 at 9:58 am
(1004) Michelle says:

Hi Fred!

My husband recently finished his training was allowed to be discharged from the Marines. Anyhow, with that in mind, we haven’t had anal sex since he left for training about the last week in May.

Last night, he was thrusting in and out of me from behind. There was pain but was a good sense of pain. I could manage it since I haven’t seen him since then. I, do, enjoy anal sex and the feeling of him inside me especially when he is about to ejaculate in me.

My girlfriends have bought a dildo and have simulated anal sex with their husbands. Myself? I couldn’t fathom the thought of doing that to my husband. He’s one of those “macho men”.

I don’t see myself using something that’s not mine…biologically.

August 6, 2009 at 8:00 am
(1005) the dominator says:

uhm fred, (1003)
you are flat out wrong with your understanding. in this day and age more and more women are giving anal a shot and they are LIKING it.
the ladies out there are deciding that they want to try getting their butts packed with boners!!.
a woman’s body was built for penis- that is a fact. and part of her body is her ass that too is a fact.
a woman’s ass was built for taking it up there. i know because the very first time i got action was when the girl was on her period and asked if we could do something else besides traditional intercourse. so after a good while of fourplay, she asked if i had any fantasies. and i told her and guess where i put it?
thats right! i buried a bone of my own up her dirt road (with plenty of lube of course) and she loved it!
she came as soon as i was able to get it in.
we did it again a couple of nights later but only after i worked her vadge for a while since she was finished with her period by then. needless to say she became a big fan of buttsex!

August 8, 2009 at 4:44 am
(1006) Roberta says:

I am 18 and have enjoyed anal sex since I was 15. I find it much more intense and pleasurable than vaginal sex, plus there is no risk of pregnancy. The key is for me to be relaxed and lubricated with saliva or some other lube. Initial penetration might hurt a bit during the first inch or two, but once he goes deeper, the pleasure far outweighs the pain, and deep anal thrusting almost always makes me cum several times.

August 8, 2009 at 12:01 pm
(1007) Mme. Cunegonde says:

Those of you here who bring in religion might think of going elsewhere to publish your pablum. The human body is made for pleasure, not for denial, suppression, and pain. Practice your ascetic trip on your own. Anal sex can provide such pleasure, much more so than vaginal intercourse, and for a man, it’s paradise, so I am happy to oblige with my dildo and harness. However, there is that little problem with fecal matter, which even enemas don’t seem to be able to solve. Are we doing the enemas wrong? Your advice, please. Otherwise, anal sex is so intimate and cool. I love it, both giving and receiving. Oh, and for the fanatics: I also enjoy vaginal intercourse and most other sexual play, too. Go be unhappy and miserable on your own.

August 9, 2009 at 5:12 am
(1008) jennifer says:

i just had anal two nights ago.. and i was very nervous and hesitant..and had also gone through 2 straight days of my temperature being 100.2+ fever. i feltt noooo pleasure vaginally or anally.which sucked cause he literally tried hard to pleasure me. the anal for the first time hurt a lot and was very uncomfortable.. and my butt STILL HURTS.. but reading these comments makes me want to try it again.

August 9, 2009 at 7:53 am
(1009) Andy says:

I love anal, I prefer it to vaginal (I find it much more intense, intimate and erotic) and have had it with 3 partners, 2 of who loved it (the first requested it).

Since experiencing and becoming comfortable with anal, I don’t think I could be compatible with a partner who didn’t enjoy it, I mean imagine if you had a partner that hated oral…

It’s too long a life to deny one of your greatest pleasures.

August 9, 2009 at 3:00 pm
(1010) d j low says:

wow! lmaof at # 14 . incredible ! /un- credible ! dont play wit my booty!

August 10, 2009 at 7:40 am
(1011) Michelle says:

Hi dominator (1005)!

I disagree with you on your recent thread. A women’s butt wasn’t created for sex. I mean, when my husband cums in my butt, I know that I will not get pregnant unless his sperm is in my vagina.

When I am on my PMS cycle, I will never ask to substitute my vagina for my butt. You and your female friend should respect her natural body’s cleansing process.

I have a question for you: who are you dominating?

August 10, 2009 at 10:05 am
(1012) khandi says:

where shall i start?
My present boyfriend introduced me to anal and it was the most beautiful, gratifying experience i have ever had.

This man sensitively spoke and caressed me whilst he penetrated me anally, it was magical. i felt myself submit entirely, I melted.

i felt all the nerve endings up my spine respond to his firmness, the tingling in my cheeks as he titalated my anal rim with his member.

i felt myself climax again and again with an intensity only matched to lovers who effectively communicate with each other, trangressing all boundaries.

i will most certainly recommend anal love making for all people who are in a trusted and committed relationship.

August 10, 2009 at 1:01 pm
(1013) Southwest Tim says:

Mme. Cunegonde (1007) — Combining enemas and anal sex can be problematic. Let me give you the benefit of some experience with the subject.

All that’s necessary is for the woman’s rectum to be empty, not her entire colon. A 12-oz. douche bulb is more than enough water. A full two quart bag is going to be way too much.

Assuming you can take that much, it will get everything in the entire colon moving and require at least an hour to expel. If you start anal sex before expelling the entire enema, it will be a really disgusting experience. Also, my wife says expelling two quarts leaves her bottom too sore for anything else. The supposed benefit of full bag enemas in anal eroticism is mostly a figment of the male imagination.

Hope you find this advice helpful.

August 11, 2009 at 1:30 pm
(1014) Denise says:

I found anal sex during pregnancy. It was I not my husband who wanted it. I found it then and now to be very pleasing and fullfilling in a different manner than vaginal sex. Now I often crave anal sex even when we are having vaginal sex. I have often swithed to anal for the different sensation and feeling of fullness that it brings. Anal sex ROCKS!! I say relax, lube up and enjoy.

August 11, 2009 at 2:46 pm
(1015) WJ75 says:

My wife agreed yesterday to test the anal sex, she said that she its hurt first minutes … but after that she almost cried from the pleasure feeling!!!

But I will never do it again … my penis was covered with $##$% … I prefer to cut than clean it again!

its good feeling .. amazing … but you can`t avoid the dirty !

Do`t say she need to clean herself inside/outside .. she did .. even as she said she used enema ( to clean her from inside) … but no result!

its dirty enjoy!

@(309) abraham. You may be right, but will be too many gay here!

@(175) analsexlover … “If you in America, your not welcome, please leave.” please Mr. Obama that guy “muslim” does`t link anal sex :D .. kick him back to Kabul.
@962 I do agree with you!

August 11, 2009 at 5:04 pm
(1016) Southwest Tim says:

WJ375 (1015) is permanently grossed out because his wife had an “accident” while having anal sex after a preparatory enema. Please see my post (1013) and follow my advice. Mine is the voice of 28-plus years of experience with anal sex and enemas, all of it with the same woman.

August 11, 2009 at 6:54 pm
(1017) Travis says:

Whoever says anal sex is a male domination thing and has nothing to do with love probably never had it done properly if a woman, or never did it thinking about pleasing the woman if a man.

Several women will say it’s very pleasurable, some say it’s even better than vaginal sex. Some of them may be lying, but I’ve seen women have overwhelming orgasms during anal sex done with care and patience and they weren’t such good actresses and would come asking for it again without me ever asking for it again. It has nothing to do with domination, because when done properly it’s much more about having the woman being in control than the man, and it has a lot to do with love when you get intimate enough to do it like this.

Male’s domination in anal sex is a porn fantasy, not a real life thing. I do enjoy having anal sex, not because the physical sensations a tight hole gives or for domination, although some women do enjoy it. I like it for the stumbling contradiction it is and all the sensations it’ll arise, because I get to see the woman have such overwhelming orgasms and at the same time seem even defenseless, while actually I am letting she do it as she wants, at the pace she wants while I know I could have more physical pleasure if doing it rougher and faster. I may even get as frustrated as I can be when she stops exactly when I’m about to have an orgasm and I won’t complain or try to continue beyond what she wants.

Given enough time, care and patience, any woman will be at least willing to try it once without the man ever even having to say the word. She’ll bring the subject up! The problem is that most men don’t have the patience to wait for it, and most important, the patience to do it. Actually, most men don’t even know how to handle a vagina and there’s no sense in doing anal sex which is a discover thing if there’s still a lot do discover in more conventional ways. If she’s having lots of pleasure from vaginal sex and discover new sensations in other places, may be willing to try. If it’s done wrong once she may be never willing to try again, but if done right… well… will have a much more pleasurable sexual life.

August 12, 2009 at 4:18 pm
(1018) Michelle says:

Hi Travis!

Some men feel like they’re in a dominant position when performing anal sex…especially my husband. I cannot and will not speak for other women on this forum but I find it very sexy when my husband is in total control.

It’s not a sexual, “porn fantasy” or however you stated it when he dominates me. I am very submissive when it comes to love making. It’s very sexy when he’s dominant!

August 13, 2009 at 11:39 am
(1019) Jimmy and Penny says:

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August 13, 2009 at 12:19 pm
(1020) Barbaramthomas says:

I never had anal sex with my husband of 16 years. I am now remarried to a man who put the woo on me and talked me into it. He is well hung, but knows how to be gentle. The infection issue is mute if you both use common sense and STAY IN ONE HOLE! Make sure you relax and use lots of lube. I usually beg him to switch before he is ready to. I have achieved ejaculation orgasms with anal sex and me stimulating my clitoris. My Mamma told me, “Try it you might like it.” If I didn’t, don’t do it again. Just use caution and LOTS OF LUBE! Have fun!

August 13, 2009 at 12:19 pm
(1021) Southwest Tim says:

Michelle (#1018) My wife of 28-plus years agrees with you, even tho a majority of women do not. Different strokes for different folks, and vive la difference!

August 13, 2009 at 11:04 pm
(1022) D dre says:

I dunno about putting anything in my ass but I would love to penetrate a woman’s behind and have her enjoy it. I tried it with my wife 1 time and she did not like it because she was not into it and was not patient enough. Plus I had to use conditioner cause I had no lube. I wish asked me to do her in her butt.

August 14, 2009 at 12:08 am
(1023) greg says:

wat u do ladies.. is when a man offers to stickit in ur cornhole, u let him and u take it with a grain assault , tell him to ram ur pooper harder once he sticks it in and u shall enjoy!!!

August 14, 2009 at 8:44 am
(1024) Michelle says:

Go to hell Greg.

August 14, 2009 at 11:14 am
(1025) Elaine says:

My husband and I first experimented with anal prior to marriage. We tried it twice, the first time it was wonderful. The second time I felt sore after. So, I lost interest and he stopped asking.

Years later, my perspective changed. The birth of our children left me, how shall I say it, stretched. Kegals and time helped, but only to an extent. My husband’s member is fairly long and very thick, yet things were really loose. When we would make love, I’d climax a couple times and he would end up throwing in the towel without a climax as he just wasn’t getting much stimulation.

My gynocologist is also a good friend of mine and I had confided this all in her over coffee. She asked if we ever tried anal. I told her about our 50/50 experience years ago. She suggested we try again. She told me a full bag enema is not a good idea, but a bulb enema is. The goal is to get the rectum clean, then lots of lube. Getting it clean first would help me to relax.

Hubby dearest and I tried it and it was like we were newlyweds! My climxes were intense and hubby climaxed without feeling like he was running a marathon. I honestly can’t remember when we last had vaginal sex, I guess it was about three years ago after having that chat with my OBGYN friend. We make love once, maybe twice a week but it is so good.

August 15, 2009 at 5:16 am
(1026) KAcca says:

nal sex is the primary cause of the Production of the HIV aids VIRUS

August 16, 2009 at 7:59 pm
(1027) Pete says:

Crikey.

I have just read the feminist sick of abuse line. 380 I think. Sweetheart, this blog is about one ladies question and others seeking advice as well. Whilst I have no issues with people seeking attention be it feminists to Gays and Snivel Libertariansists. This blog is not about you trying to run with your banner. You would get far more attention if you got Barack Osama on ya side, why dont you and your like join the bible bashers peddling to peoples front doors every weekend. That way you may even get some like minded people to join a group to force your wishes and fears onto.

To all the silent majority out there, dont let the likes of feminists, drug peddlers, civil libertarians and Al Bore and the doomsayers get ya down, go out and enjoy life, sex or whatever. Keep the negitive people out of your life and dont let them influence you.

Luv yall except the above

Pete

August 17, 2009 at 3:20 pm
(1028) the dominator says:

hi michelle (1011)
well perhaps i got little bit over the top with saying that a womans ass was built for it. it may not have been designed with this act in particular however, i do believe the vast majority of women can find this act extremely satisfying and rewarding if they have a guy who is careful and respectful of her and uses plenty of lube and is gentle at least at first. some like adult film star amber micheals actually prefer it to vaginal intercourse. i mean she likes vadge action but LOVES anal. her favorite sexual position is doggie anal. she has a perfect pair of firm, shapely buns that if you see them, you can just tell they were made for some action. i envy those lucky bastards that get to work that tail!!
your hubby is a lucky man indeed in that you are a lady who is cool with anal. if i ever marry, it will be with a woman who is willing to try it. if she tries it with me, she WILL like it because i know how to be gentle first and give her all the time she needs to adjust and relax. only after she has adjusted will i start to thrust more and pick up the pace. i don’t think of anal sex as a form of domination to the woman. it is just like vaginal except that it is tighter and the way a womans ass is shaped, it cannot be properly described how perfect it is when the action is on!

at the moment though, i am not currently ‘dominating’ any special lady :(
perhaps though that will change in the near future.
i believe it will. i am a pretty decent looking guy.

August 17, 2009 at 5:02 pm
(1029) Michelle says:

Hi dominator!

It was just a question…not any form of insult. I do appreciate your clarification and do understand you.

ps. I believe you are a “pretty decent looking guy.” Looks have nothing to do with it. Take care.

August 17, 2009 at 5:05 pm
(1030) likem2 says:

michelle, i would love to bang u. ur very motherly.

August 17, 2009 at 6:08 pm
(1031) Jimmy says:

I have started to tease my wife of 22 years with some finger play in her beautiful ass while she is riding me on top. Most times she is not interested and has only let me once go in about 1/2 way with my finger. Any suggestions on how to get her over the top so to speak?

August 19, 2009 at 8:00 am
(1032) Big Mac says:

It’s amazing. This morning when I had a sh*t I thought, all those people must see sh*tt*ing as some form of masturbation. I mean do you girls who like being bummed, play with you clit when you have a sh*t? I tried to have a w*nk whilst sh*tting but figured that would just be well complicated when it got to the reach for the toilet paper stage and gave up.

August 19, 2009 at 1:56 pm
(1033) hercules says:

I’m not here to convince anyone about this, but I know I love giving it, if there is someone that can’t get enough please let know!!! :)

August 20, 2009 at 6:32 am
(1034) ROD says:

I am a 62 y/o male I have enjoyed anal sex with several girfriends. On te first Occaision I was performing Oral and massaging the buttock with my fingers my GF was getting excited and thrust up a bit my finger went inside her butt a little, I was about to pull it out and she said dont and thust up again giving her more penetration. She came like an expres train ) her words) It took us several goes to achieve full anal with me penetrating her fully. Three things important. She always after the first time took an enema (a mixture warm water and lubricant) I always used a condom. We had vaginal and oral sex first as a warm up it helped relaxation. The sensation when she came for me was brilliant her muscles clamped onto me in a spasm driving me over the top.
It may not be for every one but for us it was great. We used to practise it about every 3rd or 4th time we made love. Sadly she passed away and i have never found someone who could enjoy it the same. If it works for you as a couple do it.
If you enjoy it do it but take things slowly speed kills pleasure.

August 20, 2009 at 6:50 pm
(1035) Southwest Tim says:

Rod (1034), what a sad ending to your happy story! I’m still happily married to my soul mate, and I’m 65. Hope you get as lucky as I did 28-plus years ago

August 21, 2009 at 10:56 am
(1036) P says:

People can think what they want, but to me the idea of anal sex is just down right nasty. With the waste, toxins, and bacteria that exists back there, you would think that most people would leave that area completely alone, after all butt hole stink!

August 21, 2009 at 2:42 pm
(1037) malikkkk says:

what is anual sex
how i can do anual sex

August 24, 2009 at 1:45 am
(1038) Laura says:

I was always afraid to have anal sex because I thought it would hurt. I’ve been married for 7 years and anal sex was never an issue. Last night my husband asked for anal sex and I said you can try but if it hurts to stop. I never thought he would get in but as he did it felt incredible. I came so much it blew me away. I can describe how great it felt. We really spiced up our sex life and I love having anal sex! The orgasms from anal sex are truly mind blowing. I wish I tried it early in life because it is amazing!

August 24, 2009 at 3:26 am
(1039) john says:

em Laura, how many times did you do it last night, you said it was the first time…… but in the last 3 lines you go on like its a regular thing

August 25, 2009 at 3:09 am
(1040) the girl in the green scarf says:

I would just like to say that if two adults wnat to to enjoy their bodies then great, i have been engaging in anal sex for quite some time now and really enjoy it, the orgasms are incredible and wonderfull, I would have it all the time but I am afraid of complications firther down the road. The experience is breath taking and one you will never forget as the pleasure from anal is unbelievable.

August 25, 2009 at 7:58 pm
(1041) Real Red says:

Anal sex is my ultimate pleasure! I’m 37. It took some years to get here….well worth the ride. Hits a different G-spot. Yes men have them too. Start w/ his finger, use lots of mineral oil, loosen it up. Do the doggy position and reach back and place your hand on his stomach to control his penis movements inward. Have him start slow but enter only! This is key. A little at a time. Not in till he is all the way in do you have him stroke it in and out. Trust and believe this is and will be thee best Orgasm you have ever had. Good luck! And stop being a prude!

August 26, 2009 at 4:19 pm
(1042) Kay says:

Reading all the previous comments got me curious how it would feel so I looked for an opportunity to try it.
I summoned the courage a few nights ago. We normally finish our sex sessions on our sides with him behind me so I can rub my clit. We always use lots of lube too, so it was easy for me to change position a bit then push onto him. He’s reasonably sized but went all the way in the first time, and what a feeling. I was already near to climax, and that long deep entry gave me the most massive orgasm of my life. Hubby was asking if he was hurting me because I was screaming. I just yelled “no, stay in” and had another enormous one after a few minutes of frantic clit rubbing.
Afterwards he said it was like a dream come true for him to see and hear me enjoying sex like that – I’m usually very quiet.
I sort of fancy having him do me that way again this weekend if he’s amenable. For some reason I’m sure he will be!

I’m a convert after just one session ( and two wonderfully huge orgasms ). So, to everyone else out there I would say “Give it a go, you really, really will be amazed”.

August 27, 2009 at 7:15 pm
(1043) Rachel says:

This is all so interesting! I always assumed that I was in the minority but obviously not.
I have always been curious during my marriage but when it ended I plucked up the courage to give it a go and I LOVED IT! My bf and I now practice it at least twice per week. For me, the best love making is when it involves oral, vaginal and anal. It adds a different dimension to our intimate relations and I orgasm doing all three.
You obviously need to be in a trusting relationship and I agree that the female needs to be the one in control. I do find, however, that as I am always soooo relaxed about the whole thing that it is never ever painful and I don’t even need lube. I’m not sure what that says about me and my anatomy (lol) but if you are totally relaxed and want to do anal then there should be little or no pain at all. My bf is happy as larry that I love it so much because he does too but ladies, please remember that if you are not ready or don’t want to then DO NOT feel pressured into it.

August 28, 2009 at 5:32 am
(1044) jaspreet says:

Hey!! i know we guys enjoy anal sex, but morally speaking anal is not made for sex.

SO we better shouldn’t try it amd think of moving back to vagina.

CHeer up guys!1

August 28, 2009 at 9:08 am
(1045) skip says:

If you trust your partner in attempting anal remember your anal area needs stimulating the same as the vaginal area. make sure you have an empty anal area and shower first then make sure he oraly stimulates you as well as digitaly and for the first time you are better of sitting on his lap in a chair etc it is easier for you to control the penetration. but if you have doubts or are nervious dont do it it will only hurt and spiol your experience. My wife enjoys anal sex and i learnt from that I prefer gods given hole but it is all about give and take and the enjoyment of sexual pleasure so do what you enjoy and not what others want you to do.

August 28, 2009 at 10:12 pm
(1046) Claire says:

Well.. I have wanted to do this for a long time. The idea of anal really excites me, I love pornos with anal etc. My husband and I finally did it the other night and WOW was it great. Here are some of my tips for trying/ preparing for anal.
I do like to give myself a little enema, if when I shower and clean my anus I feel “anything”. Then I have a trick that some gay friends told me about. I insert some Preparation H ointment inside my anus. It has some lubricating properties as well as it can “numb” the canal a bit. It comes with a applicator which goes inside you. In addition, it is VERY important that a good amount of lube is used.
Now ladies, this is important, when your man is inserting the head of his penis, push out your sphincter muscle, like you would if you were going to the bathroom. If you do this at the same time he is inserting the head, it helps it to pass through the tight sphincter muscle. Now the man should just stop once the head is in. He should reach around and stimulate the clitoris and let the woman determine the amount of movement. Basically just stay put and let her move back and forth to control penetration. The man should be stimulating the clitoris the entire time if possible. Ladies, do not forget how important it is that you really let your mind relax and think sexy thoughts. Maybe you are imagining that you are with 2 men etc. Done correctly, with a “hot” movie playing, this experience can be AMAZING. Good luck !

August 29, 2009 at 2:54 pm
(1047) LOVE-IT says:

This has been one of the funniest, most fascinating articles I have read in my life. It is a part of our curious nature to think about the topic and whether it is good or not. After reading some of these posts, I have a few points to make:
1) If you are a man and like to have anal sex with a woman, be ready to be receptive as well. An ass is an ass, is an ass. If it is ok in her ass, why not in yours?
2) know that, feces WILL splash out at one point or another and it will get on your bed, as well as her back and your body, not to mention what will be stuck on the condom or your penis. Now, A) If you are a man, ask yourself whether for the rest of your life you are ready to associate your partner with a bunch of crap that got splashed on you possibly mixed with semen, and still love and respect her. Some things we just naturally do not like to share with others no matter how much we love them and how intimate we are with them, and feces is one of them. That is why most of us when defecating, close the bathroom door even if we have been married for years. The memory of the smell or the experience is best kept to ourselves; B) same thing goes for a girl. Ask yourself if you are ready to be associated with the piece of feces that flew out of your anus during the experience.
One must analyze why the rate of divorce is going up by the minute, and try to find all the factors that can play into it. I am not saying anal sex is the reason people get divoirced, but it sure plays into it.
Everything else has pretty much been mentioned in the last posts, but remember common sense suffices most the time.
Best wishes in finding the truth about sex as well as other things in enjoying life. It is inside you like the Torah says; in your own heart and mind.

August 30, 2009 at 2:25 am
(1048) Steven says:

I did my first Anal yesterday with my girl friend. I was prepared with some KY jelly and went to her place. Then we started fooling around and she was in her period, so immediately i went to her ass. I have read lof of articles about anal sex….So after 16 years of love for anal sex, i put my fingers in her rectum and first fingered with lot of lube.

Then i inserted and it went fine, but i was not sure. So i pulled out and again re-inserted and she was screaming a lil….the position and her looks made me want her more and more…I banged her so good and finally came. No condom ripoff, no bleeding, nothing crazy happened except some poop in the condom.

Overall wonderful experience. Everybody should try atleast once….

Thanks,
Steven

August 30, 2009 at 3:01 pm
(1049) ricky says:

well im a married men i been with my wife for 12 years i told her about anal sex she said ok but when we try it she it its was paintfull so i told her ok lets try it some other time she said ok so 2 weeks pass and we were doinf sex and i told her can we do anal sex she said yes so i started playing wiht her nice hole then i put a lot oh lubricant then i put some more on my cock i had my cock really hard i have 6 inch cock so i started pushing it in her ass and soon as she took like a long breaht she had all my 6 inch cock in side her ass and she was loving it she was telling me dont stop papi give it to me all

August 30, 2009 at 5:36 pm
(1050) broytham says:

me 23 yrs old.though i m not gay yet one year past i make a anal sex with a stranger boy.it was good to feel.i advised to lubricate on penis and it was awsome feel in my life.

August 31, 2009 at 12:19 am
(1051) Laura says:

I recently had anal sex for the first time and it was amazing! I have never had multiple orgasms before but I did with anal sex. I was always afraid to try it but it is amazing! The key is you have to be in control not your husband. You have to control the penetration and when you do it is a wild ride or like my husband said, “you rocked my world”. He enjoyed it too is an understatement. I only wish I tried it sooner because I have never had and orgasms like I have had from getting from behind!

August 31, 2009 at 9:30 am
(1052) Tamicka says:

I tried anal for the first time this weekend and I never knew you can have an orgasm from Anal. It was truly amazing and it didn’t hurt at all. I always thought it would be painful but it felt great and I never had an orgasm like that before. I cant wait to have it again it was truly a great experience

September 1, 2009 at 1:23 am
(1053) Marcela says:

My girl friend Jacarei told me how she was having amazing orgasms from anal sex and kept asking why I never tried it. I never thought about it and thought it would hurt but the way my girl friend went out about her intense orgasms from anal I finally got the nerve to try it. My husband had asked me in the past but never presured me to have so he was really surprised and happy when I offered him the opportunity. I was blown away because it didnt hurt at all and I had the best orgasms in my life. I could believe it. My husband said it was fantastico. I cant wait to do it again!

September 1, 2009 at 8:42 pm
(1054) derakhsh says:

Something tells me that the last three comments (1051, 1052 and 1053) have been written by the same person, somebody who likes “a” at the end of female names (Laura, Tamicka, Marcela)!!! ;)

September 3, 2009 at 3:16 am
(1055) zy says:

99% of women don’t like annal sex

September 3, 2009 at 12:25 pm
(1056) Crazy Anal Guy says:

Man where do I find that 1%???

September 3, 2009 at 5:54 pm
(1057) Hercules says:

I’m offering up free anal sex for all females!! :)

September 3, 2009 at 9:51 pm
(1058) Shannon says:

99% of women dont like anal, really? Not according to Tristan Taormino. Look it up. Many women love anal sex but no women will like it if it’s not done correctly. You must be in an excited state of mind, foreplay and plenty of lube is the key. If you experience a mind blowing orgasm from anal sex then you would do it again.

September 4, 2009 at 1:32 am
(1059) Dr. D says:

Dr. D
The fact is anal sex in the hetero world at an all time high. Every couple of years, another once-scandalous sex taboo starts making its way toward the commonplace. A decade ago, blow jobs were what people whispered about; then three-ways became the naughty bedroom act. Now, it’s anal sex—but according to the Centers for Disease Control’s National Survey of Family Growth, it’s rapidly becoming a regular feature of hetero couples’ horizontal activities. Hetero couples are doing more and more and the stats show it is growing in the hetero world.

September 4, 2009 at 10:19 am
(1060) Eileen Spinney says:

asdas

September 4, 2009 at 10:20 am
(1061) Eileen Spinney says:

I used to have a lot of anal sex with many different guys in norfolk, ma. now my boyfriend has a tiny cock so he is unable to penetrate me.

September 4, 2009 at 4:18 pm
(1062) a boy says:

yuck!! i dint know woman actualy do enjoy them …yucky yuckerson as they are…yuck yuck

September 4, 2009 at 6:15 pm
(1063) Erinn Alexa says:

Every guy I’ve been with wanted to do it, even if I’m satisfying him in others ways – tight vagina, talented tongue. That tells me something – it’s not about pleasure, his or mine, but about controlling another person.

I’ll never choose to do it of my own accord, because even the few tries I’ve suffered through…wow, very painful. I think I’d rather get stabbed in the clit. The pain would be less/the same, but it wouldn’t take as long.

It’s one thing for a man to do it to another man. Where else could he put it? But I think men who do this to women, especially roughly/sans lube or to women who do not want it, are extremely loathesome.

September 5, 2009 at 12:04 am
(1064) AirForceAmy says:

Erinn, it sounds as if you had bad experience with anal sex. If it is not done correctly it is painful and the bad experience would turn off anyone. Especially if it is forced on you. Anal sex is not for everyone so if someone forced it on you and it was very painful to the point where you would rather be stabbed in the clit then yes anal is not something you should do, ever! But not all men who wants to try anal is loathsome. The majority of people who have anal sex are married and it is never about controlling another person it is about loving and experiencing an active sexual life. I never wanted it because I thouth it would be painful too but I eventually did try it with my husband and it was the best sex I ever had. I was in total control not him and that was the key. When it comes to anal sex the women needs to control everything and trust me your husband will be turned on by you being in control and having something so intimate as anal loving making. Once you make that bond it is something special so do give it up for a boyfriend wait until your married and have something incredilable with your husband!

September 10, 2009 at 1:03 pm
(1065) izzy says:

I recently just tried anal sex with my parter for 3yrs and the first time was very painful as there was no lube but the second time we tried it we used excessive amounts of lube and i quite enjoyed it… Im not going to make this a regular thing but maybe every 1s and a while and if u r going to try it again i recommend lube made specially for the anus

September 10, 2009 at 7:43 pm
(1066) innocentplay says:

im 23 yr old male, ive done anal with 3 different girls, the most recent has been most, shes youngest and smallest, but knows how to get freaky.

just wanted to share an experience that may help expand your anal sex creativity.

it was at night under a tree on a towel, we were smoking herb, that night yer anus was very empty and open and reddy, iwent straight for it, using spit as lube, one finger at a time, before too long i could fit two fingers all the way nice and smooth and deep, so i slid in my erect penis. i penetrated her little ass for a while till i realized how gaping open it was wen i pulled it out. she was totally blissed out.
i put my mouth on her open gaping anus and slurped at it a while till i realized i could blow into it
i then took a nice hit of herb and blew it into her ass, it wworked surprisingly well, all the smoke went up her ass till i told her to fart it out. it was amazing sucking up a cloud of smoke blowing out of this little sexy girl’s butthole, what a dream..then i blew it back in, and she blew it back out i sucked it back in….
i good way to recycle good smoke…the best of both worlds if yer into smoking, if u and yer partener are into smoking and anal sex…give it a try…itll blow yer mind

September 10, 2009 at 9:30 pm
(1067) prettyshapelyone says:

I enjoy it very much. If you take the right steps(cleaning yourself, lube, patience). I’ve spoiled my husband with it and vice versa. It’s so f#@king good.

September 10, 2009 at 10:08 pm
(1068) Cheech says:

Man I never seen anybody smoke an ass like that man. Wow man

September 11, 2009 at 9:40 pm
(1069) moh says:

I advise you to not try it, coz it’s very painful. If you do it one time, you will not do it again, belbive me.
threr’s another reason, Your hausband will push you to make that kind of sex every time you go to bed and he will forget the mormal sex, so both of you will never have ababy.

September 12, 2009 at 7:38 pm
(1070) mary says:

I have never had anal sex, oops I take that back I had it once. It was kind a painful at first because I wouldn’t relax, but once he got it in it felf good to bad it didn’t last that long. Now whenhe tries to do it, i want let him because it hurts to bad.

September 13, 2009 at 1:01 am
(1071) innocentplay says:

its seems like a lot of people just dont see and dont believe how the anal ring CaN and will expand and widen, it can open to a much wider whole than a lot of people can imagine, its a really arousing interesting fun part of the body to explore.
through time and practice and patience and boredom ive managed to git my whole fist up there all the way up to the wrist, its quite a sensation

September 14, 2009 at 2:50 pm
(1072) analboy says:

i love anal sex very much and my wife also like it,we are married about 13 years ago and we always doing anal sex…she told me that she love it

September 14, 2009 at 4:48 pm
(1073) boyfrendo says:

well, in my experience some women love it, some hate it, some like it only under exactly the right circumstances, some will never ever even try it, and some keep trying it even though they have had bad experiences with it. it’s ridiculous to say that 99% of women hate it, or that all women should try it and if a woman hates it it’s because she and her boyfriend weren’t doing it right. it’s also hard to tell how many people on the internet are even trying to tell the truth. i suspect many of the “women” posting here aren’t women at all.

i have a fairly small penis so i think some ladies that enjoy having anal sex with me might not enjoy is so much with a man with a larger penis. i personally don’t enjoy having anal sex with a woman AT ALL if i think she’s not enjoying it or it’s painful for her — if a woman isn’t receptive to a finger or a tongue playing with her ass i’m not even going to think about putting a penis in there. but if she is, it can be fantastic for everyone involved.

my current girlfriend has never been able to achieve orgasm from anything other than direct clitoral stimulation by her own had — and we’ve been having fantastic sex of all sorts for a year in a monogamous relationship. this week she told me that she has felt very close to orgasm during anal sex, and she thinks she can have an orgasm from anal sex alone and wants to try. anal sex is not “easy” for her (requires plenty of foreplay, lube, etc.) but when it works she truly loves it. i have had fantastic anal sex with women for whom it WAS easy, but no woman has ever told me that anal stimulation of any kind has brought her close to orgasm before. which just leads me to believe that different people are really different — physically, psychologically, emotionally, etc.

September 15, 2009 at 12:31 am
(1074) Beelzebub says:

I wonder how many of these married chicks posting here that talk about having anal with their husbands are doing so because their marriage is failing, if in fact they are women at all. All you women should just leave Mr.Closet and come to me, the God of Down Below for your anal ecstasy, because he’s probably banging 5 other chicks(dudes) that you don’t know about.

September 18, 2009 at 4:12 am
(1075) irl-john says:

for all those saying anal is for gays.

women have much nicer asses them blokes

i just did a quick google image search for woman ass and then man ass, try it and you’ll see what i mean, woman all the way, actually man ass is pretty gross don’t bother

also why would a gay man bother trying to have anal with a reluctant woman when any gay bloke would be more then willing ( I presume as they can’t do much else)

September 19, 2009 at 10:18 am
(1076) Nancy says:

Although I participated in anal sex in my previous marriage, I didn’t find it to be so enjoyable that I wanted to continue to have it on a regular basis. Although I very much enjoy sex and consider myself adventuresome (I’m in my early 50s) I, like Julie, suffer from irritable bowel syndrome so having anything stuck up my backside is definitely not a sexual “turn on”. Although my significant other (of five years) and I have what I believe we both would say is a great sexual relationship, he is pressing me for anal sex, which has, unfortunately, had a negative affect on our overall relationship. Maybe I’ll take the advice from another comment I read and tell him I’ll strap on a dildo and see how much he enjoys it! As I had suspected, it does appear that men tend enjoy this type of intercourse more than women . . . surprise! Really appreciated finding this website and reading everyone’s comments. Very helpful and informative.

September 20, 2009 at 8:54 am
(1077) Nina says:

This has been a fascinating read. From the extremely moronic uptight religious dogma to the extreme “I’m an anal slut” advocates. The one completely incredulous thought about the religious diatribes and the “you must be a ho if you like it” comments is the fact the you actually spent time searching the internet on the topic on anal sex in the first place. So something about the act fascinates you enough that even the mere thought of anal sex motivated you enough to seek out and find this site in the first place.

I was turned on by the idea long ago. The exploration and subsequent stimulation of my anus during masturbation as a young teen was a
completely natural event. I enjoyed sex and it simply felt good to touch and penetrate my ass as much as it did my vagina.

My first real experience with anal sex with a partner however didn’t come off so well. I wasn’t exactly prepared for it, in multiple ways, because we didn’t have or use any lube. Later we tried vasaline and it helped slot but it’s not good for condums and it can create other problems too.

Eventually with patience and experience I found and still do find anal sex to be extremely enjoyable. Like so many have said before you need to use a generous amount of lube. You can’t use too much. The first step however is to make sure you’re in good health. By that I mean eat a sensible diet and drink plenty of water. Water is a great natural source of fiber. Between the water and eating healthy meals with lots of bulk fiber too you should have regular bowel movments and you colon will generally be clear of any copius amounts of fecal matter. Most people with normal health habits should be able tell whether of not their colon is full. – Its generally empty until your ready to go. – However if you’re not sure simply use a nice warm water and very light soap enema before you have sex, though I would reccomend a shower afterwards too. Now you’re ready, at least physically anyway.

Using plenty of lube I then let my partner use their fingers to gently massage and get me losened up and my anus in the mood. However if you fortunate enough to have a generous lover like mine a good rimming can send me over the top with screams of joy and pleasure. By this point I’m usually so mentally stimulated that I’m begging to feel my bf’s penis inside of me.

Using plenty of lube we start slowly which helps me get use to the expansion of my anus. By the way this stretching isn’t unatural in any way. When you think about it, under normal health circumstances your anus stretches just fine when you have a bowel moment right? It’s just that you don’t have the inner colon stimulation to help signal your muscles to get ready to relax. Consequently going slowly at first helps this occur naturally. As your partners penis begin to enter your ass it your sphincter muscles begin to relax more, though only as much as you “mentally” allow them to relax. If you’re nervous and uptight you’ll be more tense and will have a hard time letting go of the tension.

One technique that helps is to actually push like youre trying to move you bowels against your lover’s penis as it enters. Eventually with just a bit of time and patience you’ll be in for that same incredible sensation of being “filled” with your lover’s penis but with a slight variation. And when you combine it with clitoral stimulation the feeling is absolutely heavely!

The anus has lots of nerve endings and in the same way that some woman can acheive and orgasm from simple vaginal intercourse and others need more direct stimulation either manually (fingers) or from oral manipilations, the sensations will very from person to person. But the bottom line (pun intended) is that with the right attitude, preperation, patience and gentle manipulations before hand anyone can enjoy anal sex. However if the idea is still repulsive to you then obviously you won’t be able to make it past the attitude stage. Hopefully your lover will respect your wishes and not push thd idea any further.

To those that claim it’s “unatural” your wrong. Hmans beings are unique within the animal kingdom because we’re capable of enjoying sex just for the sake of our own pleasure and not simply because of an instinct to reproduce. As a result, anal sex, like oral sex, genital sex or masturbation and hand/finger jobs is well within the human norm.

September 20, 2009 at 7:29 pm
(1078) Decadence says:

“Water is a great natural source of fiber.”
Ha! Thanks for the laugh, Nina. I was all set to come up with a rebuttal, but now I can’t take anything that you wrote seriously.

September 20, 2009 at 8:01 pm
(1079) LoveMD says:

Please everyone take heed. Anal sex is one method to accomplish pleasure. Both must be aware and understanding of the act. As in all sexual activity, you should be clean, well lubricated and passionate. You should be considerate of each others feelings and desires. When it comes to anal sex however, you both need to understand the implications. Some women are experienced and still do not know how to clean internally. Some do! It is very important to prepare well in advance for anal sex. Make it a dual partnership event. Have your partner administer an enima. Use high quality flavored or scented lubricants to prevent irritation and or allergic reactions. Try to accomplish the act within a 30 minute time span after the enima. Repeat the emima after 30 minutes to prevent bile or bowel material from entering the anal cavity. Another positive method to prevent anal sex conditions, eat lots of fiber 30 to 40 grams per day. Be sure to have a bowel movement at least 30 minutes to 1 hour before the event (Enima). Be extremely gentle and slow everytime penetration occurs. Porn stars are trained and go through extreme measures to prepare for a sex scene on video. Most people will never have sex with a Porn Star so please be careful and considerate. Good luck!

September 20, 2009 at 8:58 pm
(1080) Decadence says:

LoveMD, I agree with most of what you say, but not this:

“Porn stars are trained and go through extreme measures to prepare for a sex scene on video.”

You really should watch some modern-day anal porn before you say something like that. You have no idea how bad things are within the porn industry… Sadly, that is typical of medical professionals outside of Los Angeles, CA.

September 22, 2009 at 12:48 am
(1081) innocentplay says:

hey Nina, wow, u are an expert, thats good to be that in touch with your body and know how to receive good penetration up that tight hole

i noticed how much u enjoy getting rimmed..i wish more girls could appreciate that.
i think if a man truly adores ,cares, appreciates and loves his woman, he should be motivated to tasting her most sensitive, forbidden and insanitary part of her body, this shows how much u truly love everything about her body
just b free and passionately indulge in her tight sexy butthole, lick it, kiss it suck it, finger it, love it, its a very special part of the body, and should b a very intimate experience
to show how unbeleivably attracted and interested u are in her beautiful body, in and out. what really ‘sends me over the top’ is after good, deep buttfukking that loosens the ring nice and wide and relaxed, slide the tongue in there and start making out with it.
its an unbelievable sensation slurping away at the hole wen its at the unusual status of being so open, stretched and loose,
its healthy to get in touch with the mindless animal self and show her just how much u like her,
after licking the hole a little bit, id tend to get much stiffer and slide it back up the ass, then pull out, lick to recharge, then stick the erection back in and back and forth, could go on forever like that.
sucking the tail bone sends all the blood to my groin
if yer worried bout the germs and hadnt bathed enough beforehand…just gargle some mouthwash before sleep,

September 22, 2009 at 1:25 am
(1082) The Girl says:

I guess I am the only girl posting on here that thinks that anal sex HURTS BAD! There is nothing about it that feels good to me. I dont like doing things for a man in bed if it hurts me that much. I have tried it a few times and its just horrible! I have had 2 babies naturally, so I know what pain is.

September 22, 2009 at 2:21 am
(1083) lourdes says:

I THINK ANAL SEX IS GREAT. WIVES AND GIRLFRIENDS SHOULD DEFINETLY CONSIDER IT OR ELSE WE MIGHT GO ELSEWHERE LOOKING FOR IT. IT IS GOOD TO EXPERIMENT BUT DANGEROUS AT THE SME TIME, BECAUSE YOU WILL AWAKE OTHER CURIOSITIES. GROUP SEX… GOLDEN SHOWERS…DEFICATING ON YOUR PARTNER THAT SORT OF THING…. EITHER WAY ENJOY AND GIVE IT UP

September 22, 2009 at 3:42 am
(1084) innocentplay says:

nina, u amaze me, im sure u have a very healthy sex life, and sounds like u know what yer talking about. that would b a dream to have a girl whod watch her diet just to have good easy anal.
and if a man truly cares for and appreciates her woman..sum good rimming is a good way to show it

September 22, 2009 at 7:46 am
(1085) nell starov says:

I have never seen it in nature but I know for sure that some women who have had regular anal sex , have serios anal problems- musces has laxed and cannot retain faeces, ugly sight to sh.. because the hoel has become large!!

September 23, 2009 at 1:40 am
(1086) dmangradi says:

While she slept, i lubed up good and put my penish head between her cheeks against her anal. Penish went semi soft then extremely hard and in the process, the head went in a little, but she squeed her butt hole to force my head out. I repeated it for a second time and the head went in smoothly. I was able to put about 4 inches of penis inside of her anal and then I couldn’t hold back from having a strong long orgasim! This was the longest/ strongest orgasism that I have ever had! The next day, she asked if I put my penis inside of her and came, because she had spern and semen in her stool after she had a bowel movement. She never complained about pain or anything unusual with her anus. Question: Do you think she like that penis inside of her and just played sleep? I can’t wait until she ask me to do her. I have 8 1/2 inch. Should I try to put 8 inches inside of her? I don’t want to cause bleeding or other problems.

September 23, 2009 at 9:17 pm
(1087) steve says:

to 556: Suneha , i hope we can chat reply me please on stev2006@gmail.com

September 24, 2009 at 3:05 am
(1088) Marco says:

It is vital to use cream if you want to have anal sex and to be gentle the first time

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September 24, 2009 at 1:50 pm
(1089) Expert @ It. says:

My first husband turned me out in almost every way and I enjoyed it. Anal sex has become one of my top favorites next to giving a good blow job. My second husband might want to thank my first. ha ha… Give it a try ladies. Oh! and lots of lube.

September 25, 2009 at 12:03 am
(1090) Marcus Boersma says:

reading all the things about anal sex
I like to try it sometime im 71 and i still like sex
i like to go down on a guy while being watched
my wife knows it some time she likes to watch
me do it

September 25, 2009 at 5:40 pm
(1091) susanj says:

I have been married for 22 years. We originally used anal to keep from being pregnant. I got to like it more and more. Each time we would start in my vagina and he would finish in my butt. We both have tremendous orgasms that way. The only problem with this is that there is no time to prepare or stretch my anus for a quick entry. We solved this problem with my having a nice collection of plugs that I wear several hours a week. I have come to enjoy wearing on inside me and there is nothing that prepares me more, mentally and physically for an evening of sex than to go out to dinner and a movie with one of my plugs in.

September 25, 2009 at 5:58 pm
(1092) susanj says:

Follow up…For me, having anal sex, even on a daily basis does not do much for making my butt used to a quick entry. Wearing an over sized plug for 3 to 4 hours maybe once a week does a great job.

September 25, 2009 at 7:02 pm
(1093) LENNY says:

Not for nothing…ALLLLLLLLL you women (and some men) need to make some gay friends, preferably gay men who take it and not give it. If you are CONCERNED with POOP there are EXPERT ways to keep it clean..and according to MY DOCTOR…the more anal you have, the less chances you have of accidental poop. Something about how the anal muscles tighten up and doesn’t allow the poop to move to the anal tunnel…but yes they do have special (actually SEVERAL) things you can use to ALWAYS be clean. Oh and by the way, for the idiots that have been saying your ass can’t get wet…you’re out of touch on the body that “GOD” gave you..LOL LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!…I LOVE ANAL SEX…byeeeeeeee

September 25, 2009 at 9:40 pm
(1094) WB Allison says:

Both of us were virgins in this department and did not talk about it. Then I had my fantasies.

Once after a normal session, during pillowtalk she turned her back while we cuddled then while massaging her back and shoulders I became firm again and she could obviously feel it, because she pressed herself against me in that particular are. I was not sure if she was asking for it or not, but started massaging her lumbars. Then lightly ran fingers on them and in between them, kinda lightly scratch the general area for stimulation, then added a little KY, when she kept pushing but told me me to stay motionless. I obliged and did my best to remain motionless, but was very firm and excited. After gently moving back and forth, she gradually eased me in all the way and remained motionless. We both remained motionless with me all the way in till I felt her spasms there and I burst and she burst with the fireworks and earthquake.

We have been regular fans ever since, but she still wants me to remain motionless while she takes me in. I guess she might hut otherwise. I don’t know. What I do know is that it is a mutual blast. Especially when I grab her 37 breasts from behind and love bite or nibble her neck, back and shoulders until the crescendo.

September 26, 2009 at 4:25 pm
(1095) charlotte xD says:

just use lube… it dont hurt then..
i was drunk when i was done anully
didnt hurt really
doesnt hurt no where near as much as sex first time

September 26, 2009 at 6:51 pm
(1096) Jack says:

Anal is the way to go because it is intimate, hot, and uncharted territory. However, I see myself passed anal and moving onto baked goods. It’

September 27, 2009 at 11:20 am
(1097) ali says:

i am very hungry to enjoy anal sex but my one and only gf dont allow me so is there any solution i want babby like (1091) susanj who says she can enjoy for even hours ……………………..i wish i could be with her goodmaninuae30@yahoo.com

September 28, 2009 at 3:26 am
(1098) Mike says:

Go very slow, rim first, then heavy lube. If totally monogamous bareback is ok, if not condom required. Nothing is better than being in someone’s ass when they cum. You are milked like you have no idea. My G.F. likes it and holds the cum for hours. Then tells me to do it again and can push it back out just a bit to lube herself again with the cum. Its incredible. But be gentle and if they say NO, its no.

September 29, 2009 at 6:12 am
(1099) Steve says:

Some very interesting posts here – obviously this is a most contrevorsial topic. I am like most men… I fantasised about anal sex with my wife and indeed on occasion I used the fantasy to bring myself to orgasm with her during vaginal sex. She enjoyed some anal stimulation but she would never allow me to have full blown anal sex and I never pressured her. After 20 years together (we had only ever been with each other), she decided that she no longer wanted to be married and we split up. After a while, I started dating again and found that there are certainly some women in their late 30s and early 40s that were interested in trying anal sex or were down right into it as a significant part of their sexual expression. I was staggered!
I have been exclusive with a 35 year old woman now for a few months and she had not had anal sex until our relationship, although she did say that she had enjoyed some anal stimulation by tongue or finger before. She asked me to have anal sex with her and she absolutely loved it. She says that her orgasms are much more intense. Her favourite is using a dildo vaginally while I penetrate her anally and I must say that it is a big thrill for me also! I honestly thought that anal sex was something that women did for men to please them, but my experience is that for many women, anal sex is something that they desire and that they find extremely satisfying.

September 30, 2009 at 2:20 am
(1100) YesToAnalYes says:

WOW, this discussion has been going on since June 2006! My wife and I do it all the time. We started in like 2000 and do it more often now than vaginal. We’ve never had to do anything than add a bit of lube and we’re off. It’s not dirty, I’ve never used a condom, we wipe off the lube and after and she puts her thong back on, no big deal. From behind on her side works if I need to go for a while or I can wear myself out with her on top of me – she was on top like 4 days ago and last night she was on top too, but she was really grinding on me this time kissing and grinding. It was great! The stuff does come out a few hours after, but it’s not like it gives her problems at all. I think it’s fun and she’s down with it too.

October 1, 2009 at 2:43 am
(1101) Hemorrhoid says:

/|\ LIAR!!!
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October 1, 2009 at 2:53 am
(1102) Hemorrhoid says:

Hey dudes! You should have your beyatches do this: http://www.asssmoothie.com/2/?nats=MjM6NTo2,0,0,0,0

October 1, 2009 at 10:23 am
(1103) Karen says:

My boyfriend & I have anal sex at least as often as we have vaginal sex and I would say that we average 5-6 times per week of some kind of sexual activity. My orgasms when penetrated anally are extremely intense and I find anal sex very very satisfying.
My boyfriend always comes inside me and I enjoy the feeling of his cum leaking out of me during the day. It is a constant reminder of the hot sex that we have had and it gets me hot and horny and ready for more action later!
If I have ever been too enthusiastic and not worried about lube, I have regretted it later, but a well lubricated penis and a well lubricated anus is a recipe for absolute bliss.
I waited until I was in my 30′s to try anal, and I wish that I had done it earlier. It was a revolution in my sexuality and I tell all my girlfriends that they should try it at least once. It really is the most extraordinary and exquisite feeling and I feel sorry for anyone that does not at least try it because they have some idea that it is dirty or unnatural.
God gave us the gift of sex in all its forms and I am sure that he delights in us giving and receiving pleasure.

October 3, 2009 at 9:31 pm
(1104) michelle loves poopydick says:

Hi y’all again. My husband turned gay and left me. Found the love letter from his florist friend. Anyway, JJ I just wanted to say that you’re right. I love to eat my poo. COPROPHAGIA ALL THE WAY, BABY!!!

October 4, 2009 at 7:50 am
(1105) indian says:

can anyone please guide me.
i am 26 yrs male.i love anal sex.But my wife really not.

She is too beatufull when ever i see naked wow its amazing.She has cool and lazy sex drive in vagina but thats enough to ** her.But i want anal sex with her. she is refusing since 4 yrs.last month with lots of requests by me one night she allowed me for 5 mins. and i was exteremly happy.i saw her ** and put some oil on her ** and started to ** but she felt lot of pain and after one ecounter again she is denied my demand.But when i remeber that past night i felt i was goin to die with pleasure coz she very beautifull and most tightly virgin i felt.
What could i do to start agin.
if anyone has good idea who faced and solved same situation plz mail me at info.hktailors@gmail.com

October 4, 2009 at 10:41 pm
(1106) Hemorrhoid says:

To indian:

I would recommend getting her ready for her anal plunging first. Remember, it is a very tight hole that needs to be gradually expanded. Try using 1 finger and move it slowly in and out before inserting another finger with the first. Buy several butt plugs to get her sphincter muscles more relaxed. Remember to use plenty of lube and start off really slow and work your way into a rythm. Hope that gives you some input(pun intended).

October 5, 2009 at 2:34 pm
(1107) Jawad says:

This is totally forbidden in Islam and may not have fun without the vagina … It is the source of many diseases and women are the biggest loser in this type of sex….
I’m 100% enjoyed infront the door than back door who should not be used whatever reason due to dirty.
Jawad_nz@yahoo.co.uk

October 5, 2009 at 6:44 pm
(1108) unnamed says:

i cannot get passed the fact that if a man wants anul sex with a woman he will want anul sex with a man I mean whats the bloody difference! …. whats the psychology behind it I’m very interested to know as my latest boyfriends also want anul, am I just constantly choosing ‘gay’ men whether closet / bi or whatever…I’m so over it – someone please explain, help me understand!!

October 5, 2009 at 7:46 pm
(1109) JJ says:

Michelle,

How ya’ll been?Sorry to hear about the hubby going gay on you.It’s about time that you admit that you love “Poosicles.”Anyway Michelle,you are the queen bee of anal and i am sure the line is around the block waiting to plow that fine Texas ass of yours!Remember Michelle,head down and ass up.Tony Romo is available now that he left Jessica!Yeehaw !!!

October 6, 2009 at 1:28 am
(1110) YesToAnalYes says:

Did someone call me a liar, yes, Mr. Hemorrhoid. There’s no need for plugs you twig! What’s your problem? And yes, we did anal 4 times in 5 days – so there’s a little update for you. Oh, except nothing came out from last night’s adventure. My wife said it stayed in her all day. So, play with your plugs and I’ll see how fast I can use up this tube of KY.

October 6, 2009 at 2:06 am
(1111) Hemorrhoid says:

Geez guy! Give that poor woman a break! Well then, if your are doing it as often as you say, she’s probably at risk for having her rectum fall out of her ass along with having uncontrolled bowel movements. I think it would be only fair if she plowed you from behind with a strap on everyday.

October 6, 2009 at 8:42 am
(1112) Chris says:

All my ex-gf’s are into anal sex. Of them, the last one liked it in the ass more so than vaginal intercourse. Interesting enough, all the ex’s had kids which might have some correlation to liking anal sex better because the anus is tighter and not loose and gutted or gapped out like some vaginas get overtime. Since I would always go bareback, the feeling would be that much more intense for both of us. And as far as lube is concerned, saliva does the job just fine, (Just hack up a few loogies and open that anus up and fire away) infact its a natural lubricant and contains enzymes that actually decrease bacterial risk factors. Another step that women can take into account is douching the anus prior to penetration. From experience…this is great advice. lol. Not to be too graphic…but I do recall a time when i pulled out and had a kernel of corn stuck to the head of my cock. No joke! All in all, I like the control and dominating power I feel when I’m doing a girl anally. I think it goes back to the days of cavemen, the man was the MAN and the woman wasn’t. And from having conversations about this with the ex’s, they like the MAN to be and have the control to do what HE wants. It boils down to the essence of human psychology. Women like it rough, sure they may wine, bitch, complain or even cry about it, but it’s nothing more than a test to see what the guy is gonna do next. So guys…if you’re reading this…remember to step up to the plate and give your women what you want, when you want it…on your own time. You make the rules!

October 6, 2009 at 10:42 am
(1113) john says:

i love sex and womans antoniodemir@hotmail.co.uk

October 6, 2009 at 11:21 pm
(1114) Linda S says:

Gee Chris – you are a classy guy! and they say that romance is dead!
I tried anal with my husband for the first time last October while on holiday. It certainly wasn’t planned, but the opportunity just sort of presented itself – I was lying face down on the bad reading a book one night (naked), he came in from the shower, started to massage me, and the next thing I was opening my legs to ‘let him in’ when he got a bit over-eager and thrust forward into my anus.

Think he was a bit embarrassed, but the sensation was actually nice – don’t think he could believe his luck when I suggested going back to the bathroom to get the lube! I was a bit nervous, but couldn’t believe how good it felt, & I had the most amazing orgasms – fair to say it was the best sex we’d ever had. Still have a lot of vaginal sex, but definitely get more satisfaction now from anal, and it’s made my husband and I more intimate than we’ve been in years. As an added bonus, it’s also helped me feel much sexier and self-confiden, so it’s a winner all round really!

October 6, 2009 at 11:27 pm
(1115) Tony Leach says:

Hi. My girlfriend loves anal as well. She also seems to prefer it, so you’re not alone. We do it pretty much every time we’re together though not as much as you. We’ve never used condoms either and we never need to use any extra lube as she’s always really wet down there.

I was actually wondering if anal is something that women get into as they get older? I only say this because my girlfriend is 42 and you’re 37 and I see nickynocky is 40. When I’ve been involved with women my own age (I’m 29) they’ve never even wanted to attempt anal so the last few g/f I’ve had I didn’t even suggest it. But my current g/f literally demanded I do it to her on our first night together. It was the first time for both of us and afterwards she told me that when she was younger the thought of doing it disgusted her but as she neared 40 she’d really wanted to try it. I don’t know if anyone has experienced the same?

October 6, 2009 at 11:32 pm
(1116) Brooklyn says:

message to (640) Brian Wayne : what you say is a load of rubbish -
Women feel more emowered in the current age and so want to experience sex differently. They are driving the focus in current porn movies and not the other way around.

October 7, 2009 at 7:19 am
(1117) LastDays says:

This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;

Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.

For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, [even] his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse:

Because that, when they knew God, they glorified [him] not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools,

And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things. Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:

Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.

For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:

And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was necessary.

And even as they did not like to retain God in [their] knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;

Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,

Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:

Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

October 7, 2009 at 1:19 pm
(1118) john says:

ha ha last days you easter bunny believing wacko

googling anal sex again, stright to hell with you

October 8, 2009 at 3:02 am
(1119) Hemorrhoid says:

Yep! anal sex is sinful, but I’d rather be doing it with some hot bitches in Hell than being in Heaven and having to listen to a bunch of fundamentalist nuts like you.

October 8, 2009 at 4:54 am
(1120) Joanna says:

I rather enjoy it it actaully gives me alot of pleasure & turns me on alot but I assume my husband doesn’t enjoy because everytime I ask him for it he says yes but won’t

October 8, 2009 at 6:01 am
(1121) innocentplay says:

joanna, u deserve to get your desires met, theres lotta guys out there that could really satisfy that urge, i think its important in a relationship for the man to satisfy u however u want…i hope u at least got a toy for yer ass

October 9, 2009 at 11:22 pm
(1122) James says:

my first experience was with a coworker, she was 39 and I was 25. Her car was in the shop so our office mgr asked if I would see she got home and I said no problem, the bank paid for my gas so why not ?

She was married but her hubby was a big shot at some comapny and was never home and had his secy. girl on the side. She made a great dinner for us, her kids were in private college, just the two of us.

I pleasured her orally and she never had sex that way,
hubby always refused her requests.

after we had vaginal sex, we relaxed a bit and she asked me if I wanted to try anal with her, never did it before.
She introduced me to anal and all I can say is WOW.
After I climaxed, my toes tingled, my prostate was in heaven.

I’ve never done anal since, never asked for it or
asked my wife of 30 years to try either.
some day perhaps.

October 10, 2009 at 1:44 am
(1123) Lode Bhoshdike says:

Anal sex is amazing; I had it once with my kam wali bai

October 10, 2009 at 7:15 am
(1124) Joanne says:

I have been having anal sex with my husband for 20 years. It’s fantastic and I for one love my ass filled with a rock hard penis. We have never used a condom during anal, and I love the feeling of his hot cum in my ass. We would average anal at least 3 time a week, so over a 20 year period, my ass has been rammed over 3000 times. I hope it never stops, my orgasms are tremendous.

October 10, 2009 at 5:22 pm
(1125) Phil McCracken says:

I have never had anal with a human, but my pet turtle says she loves it.

October 10, 2009 at 6:36 pm
(1126) Cheese says:

I put cheese and food up my ass and leave it there. Bacteria have a field day and stuff grows. I call it my anal garden.

October 10, 2009 at 11:25 pm
(1127) happy fisherman says:

I had anal sex with a 200 lb yellowfin tuna that I caught on a long range tuna fishing trip in Mexico once. What happens in Mexico, stays in Mexico!

October 11, 2009 at 12:10 am
(1128) Matt says:

damn I am man and the thought of anal sex scares me, I love more than anything to make sure the woman enjoys doing it and I just can’t imagine how she’ll enjoy somebody stuffing something big up her butt, I can’t imagine somebody doing that to me it must hurt like hell but reading that people actually enjoy it may change my mind maybe one day I may think of trying it lol

October 11, 2009 at 2:51 pm
(1129) Benjamin says:

I am a man, but I hate anal sex. It is just a torture for women

October 12, 2009 at 2:42 pm
(1130) GETinIT says:

All ladies! Please let your lover stick you and get off at least once. The feeling of cummin in a woman’s anus is the strongest orgasm that I have ever experienced! My wife of 18 years finally let me enter her anus the other night and she cum like never before!!! Now we’re talking about a woman that hated the very thought of anal sex. For 17 years I tried to do it to her with finger and penis, but was always refused. She was in bed laying on her side the other night so I decided to stimulate her clit from behind with a small vibrator and in the process of doing that the vibrator went near and into her anus. She jumped and called my name, but I continue to stimulate that clit. Soon I was laying behind her with my penis at a strong erected state and while stimulating her, I put the lubed my penis good and put the head right on her anal hole. At first she moved it, but I put it there again all the while still massaging the clit and she just enjoyed the pleasure and i inserted the head (go slow)let her relax. Then minutes of relaxation, I was able to ease more of my penis inside of her. I only got about half of my rod into her butt and she started squirming and moaning while I began to stroke her anus with penis. She came so hard and soon after I popped a nut deep inside of her anus. We are closer now than we have been in all 19 years together. Loving it!!! She’s looking forward to next time and it might be tonight. She will tell you that it’s a little painful at first but the pleasure override that pain, so take it easy and enjoy.

October 13, 2009 at 11:04 am
(1131) Mouhnad says:

Yes i like it its so nice

but i do it becuse her vaginal was big

and it was not filling that way

for everybody any one to do it with his wife or GF
but slowly

October 13, 2009 at 3:09 pm
(1132) Patti says:

I am a woman who enjoys anal sex with my husband. We use cocoa butter.My husband started with just his finger and once I got used to that we progressed to making love. I love how it feels. Especially when my husband sits on the couch and I am on top. I love it when my husband is rough with me. The rougher the better.

October 13, 2009 at 7:27 pm
(1133) Janine says:

i think that it is hilarious that some of you are able to make blanket statements about anal sex like “it is torture for women” without speaking to every single woman and asking them if they like receiving anal sex.
I am another woman who loves my husband’s penis in my ass and experience massive orgasms as a consequence.
i have girlfiends who like it and girlfriends who don’t, but surely everyone is entitled to work it our for themselves! please don’t be so narrow minded. janine xx

October 13, 2009 at 11:51 pm
(1134) Decadence says:

There is a lot of astroturfing going on here. IMO, anyone who’s thinking about having anal sex (especially on the receiving end; male or female) should ask a few medical doctors for their thoughts first. In person. It might be an awkward subject to bring up, but then, what’s worse: a little embarrassment or potentially chronic health problems?

The gastrointestinal issues that anal sex can lead to are not fun at all. Don’t go into this blindly or you might seriously regret it later.

Just some friendly advice. Take it or leave it.

October 14, 2009 at 5:06 pm
(1135) Lucky Guy says:

WOW, the wife just called and said that she wants to try some anal tonight! She told me to stop by and pick up some lube. She claims she talked to some of her girl freinds the other day and afrer some cocktails she had asked them if they had had anal. Much to her suprise a couple of them said it was the best sex they have ever had! Ohhh man I can’t wait!

October 14, 2009 at 9:19 pm
(1136) Pete says:

Crikey this is a great thread but hell for some reason it draws in so many religous wackos. While I think this thread is great, its a worry I think for any normal people out there that these religous freaks actually live amongst us be they Muslim, Hindu or Christian, thier extreme anti sex stuff is frightening. But none the less keep the comments flowing.

October 16, 2009 at 2:30 am
(1137) Odnocer says:

After reading each and every comment, I noted the anti-anal people are the ones who never have sex, at least not with another partner, who just may enjoy any form of anal sex, i.e. licking, fingering (I’d bet anti-anal people have done this to themselves during their childhood), butt-plugs, etc. If you have never done anal, then you simply have no experience in it or how it feels. Why are you even commenting?

Any male who has performed penetration, feels only the sensation of tightness, it’s not the same feeling the recipient has when the anal cavity is gently rubbed or expanded to fullness.

Of the delights of this world, man cares most for sexual intercourse, yet he has left it out of his heaven. – Mark Twain… Samuel Langhorne Clemens (1835-1910)

If you never tried it, then you can not say anything about anal sex, period. To those who have and did not enjoy it, at least you’ve tried it and can honestly say it’s not for you.

It difficult enough just talking about ones sexual desire to another partner, be it woman or man. Personally, I don’t believe it’s bad when properly and safely done, it will only add enjoyment to your love life. It’s a feeling of close togetherness, next time you’re have intercourse, look deeply into your spouses eyes and if they smile, there’s nothing hidden at that moment.

October 17, 2009 at 11:30 am
(1138) Billy Bob says:

I have had these experiences, and can add nothing other than, be careing and keep it decent

October 19, 2009 at 1:36 pm
(1139) Gary says:

My wife is 54 and menopause was a little over a year ago. Since then vaginal intercourse is not happening, no sex drive, dryness, shrinking, etc. She has a small mouth so oral is not happening except once in a blue moon for a couple of minutes. We do some frottage with me sliding my penis between her butt cheeks until orgasm. I really miss penetration and coming inside and want to penetrate her anally. We talk about it and I am trying to convince her to let me work her into it slowly. Don’t want to hurt her but really miss intercourse and coming inside her. Any ideas?

October 19, 2009 at 6:38 pm
(1140) Magala says:

My boyfriend introduced me to Anal sex and after getting over nervousness I love how it feels when the man is gentle and caring. I think my nervouness stemed from many women saying they dont do it etc but I concluded after talking to many of my friends that many women don’t admit to it becouse of past views and religious opresion.

October 20, 2009 at 6:07 am
(1141) art says:

my problem is my wife never let me near her ass.

October 20, 2009 at 7:08 pm
(1142) MiMi says:

My husband and I have anal sex regularly. I was the first to suggest it – neither of us had tried it before. We BOTH like it. People have been having anal intercourse for as long as people have been having sex, and in past times it was practiced as a kind of birth control. All I can say is: if you enjoy it, do it; if you don’t enjoy it, don’t do it.

October 22, 2009 at 1:14 am
(1143) duwaneeeeeeee7777 says:

I don’t know why there are so many comments on here about lubrication……..the pain upon entry is bearable, as is any pain………and it is part of what makes me wet…..and stimulated……….I use lube but not tons of it………and once it’s in, it stays in…….and it feels great………and even hurts upon taking it out a little but like I said it’s bearable pain and some people like a little pain and I’m one of them…..everyone is different………everyone gets stimulated in different ways…..now don’t they………….so what’s good for you, might not be so great for someone else and vice versa……I’m 50 and still having anal sex, either with a dildo or by forcing my singnificant other to do it with a strap on…….he claims he can’t break in there without viagra……….and he doesn’t like it that much…….he’s a prude……..and he has been screamed at by the nun with the stick inside his head one too many times……….
I don’t plan on stopping having anal sex once in a while……not all the time………until my skin is creepy and translucent, that will let me know that my colon might be in the same condition, but, not neccessarily, because I am a beast……….lol………………so, might I suggest simply you stop with all the prep work talk, because some women don’t need it………they like a little pain…….it makes them wet………….

and as for the fecal matter on your penis……use a condom…….or realize, it might happen once in a while and there is a shower in the bathroom and a washcloth right? Of course you have to be careful not to be grose and be in good taste……..I put a towel down because lube jelly drips on the bed sometimes and the floor and your ass isn’t the most wonderful orifice you have on your body………so…………use your imagination………and realize what you are getting involved in and if it groses you out that much don’t do it then…….it’s as simple as that.

I like the way it loosens up my butt muscles………..

October 22, 2009 at 3:01 am
(1144) duwaneeeeeeee7777 says:

Dear God, you don’t need an enema unless you don’t poop regularly……………and I do……………..if you do the enema thing, you’re likely to have water running down your butt………..people if you are going to have butt sex, deal with the fact that it is a poop hole and poop is organic matter………….

October 22, 2009 at 4:31 pm
(1145) Lana N says:

I would say that I actually enjoy more than my husband these days. The funny thing is that when we were first together, he used to pester me to do it, and now that I am in my late 30s, I am the one to pester him for anal sex!

October 23, 2009 at 3:13 pm
(1146) Jeet says:

could it mean the women is not tight enough?

October 23, 2009 at 5:10 pm
(1147) married25 says:

YES, ANAL SEX is the most erotic form of sex. When it is done in conjunction with a clitorial vibrator, WOW, it’s FANTASTIC ORGASIMS for both of us.

October 24, 2009 at 12:51 pm
(1148) Manchester Escorts says:

Me and My Hubby Love Anal Sex. It give me a good organsm and I am doing with my husband from last 7 years.

October 26, 2009 at 4:59 am
(1149) dr ruth says:

If you practice anal as a hetero-couple, this means your partner’s vagina is stretched out &/or your partner is really fat &/or ugly &/or your partner has been sexually abused/assualted in their earlier years or your man may be a homosexual hiding in a hetero relationshet

I know medical professionals who live by the claim that the folks who are really into anal, need therapy, because they have such low self respect from being abused, sexually in their earlier day.

NOTE TO THE DUMBER SEX (and to women as well, the ones that lie about liking anal irrespective of trying to please male counterpart…):

Women do not enjoy anal. Women do not have a prostate. The woman’s Gspot is in the vagina. And I agree with *185 that any real man is not going to pressure or think/say that his female partner has something wrong with her because she has no interest in anal (or other type of) sex.

The topic of anal sex came up in a casual phone convo with a former boyfriend, who said “I’ve done it [anal] a couple times and it was cool” and I said “Do you think there is something wrong with me, that anal sex is a deal breaker for me?” And he said “yes” and that’s all I needed to know.

Furthermore his idea of any oral, ie, deep throating, swallowing sperm, generates from PORN. And most PORN IS VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN. Men get off from regular oral sex, and deep throating causes bruising in the back of the throat, just another way to torture women.

Ask him to swallow his sperm first and then say you’ll consider…or strap on and penetrate his bum with a huge dildo…or stick a dildo all the way down his throat…most men will not want to…and if they do, what can I say?

I truly am starting to believe that most PORN is just as smutty and sick as a SNUFF films. And I think that some of this outlandish, unatural sex practices is MEN HATING WOMEN and MEN WANTING DOMINANCE OVER WOMEN.

A REAL MAN DOES NOT NEED TO BELITTLE OR DISRESPECT HIS WOMAN, BY PRESSURING HER TO HAVE ANAL SEX, DEEP THROAT OR SWALLOW HIS SPERM.

Sex is about intimacy, procreation, and most of the time showing love…I don’t know if our society is becoming so desensitized that there is need to get into bizarre ways of messing with the body or dominating/power-tripping on an intimate partner to just get your rocks off.

I believe other beings of intelligent life is laughing at the spectacle most humans make out of having sex.

Because it seems now most of the time people just have no respect for the sanctity of the body as a temple.

And this is coming from a 20 something female virgin. I deserve better, I deserve a real man and I’ll wait for him.

Finally I just started looking at internet porn at least for a half hour each day this week, for the first time, and I’m amazed at all the ANAL SEX PORN! this is not normal, well suppose the industry is trying to normalize it…happy catching anal cancer.

God bless Farrah Faucette

In her honor, I refuse to watch porn because most of the porn involves anal. Society is depraved and wretched.

And think about this, who creates the wars? MEN

October 26, 2009 at 6:44 am
(1150) dr. ruth is wrong. says:

dr. ruthm you are indeed wrong and seriously messed up. your arguments hold little to no water.
1st off among your many claims or statements, you say sex is about intimacy and procreation. right on the 1st wrong on the 2nd. people who only do it for procreation are weirdos. sex is meant to be enjoyed. if people want to do it for procreation as well- so be it- it is not some mandate that it be only for procreation.
then you go and blast people for doing any other sex than tradition vaginal and try to make it seem the guy is unreasonable if he wants it any other way. wrong. variety is the spice of life and a woman who enjoys getting her ass filled with a cokc is a great woman indeed. just because a guy may want to cornhole a babe does not mean he should want her to plow his backside or have to eat his jizz before the woman should consider it. womens’ bodies were built for penetration that seems to be a fact that eludes you for now.
don’t worry though, one day you will find a man who will turn you out and he WILL cornhole you and you will realize it is the best, most satisfying sex you ever had!! yes- you will get cornholed baby!!!!!

October 26, 2009 at 9:42 am
(1151) just a thing says:

Anal sex yes!

October 26, 2009 at 11:40 am
(1152) Victor says:

The gentleman who says that he has dated many women who want mainly anal sex is playing a game with you. While I have known a couple of women who were really into anal sex, they are definitely a very small minority. It sounds to me like he is trying to bait you by inducing you to compare yourself to other women he has dated in the past. I love anal sex but would not resort to this tactic in order to get it. What a creep.

October 26, 2009 at 2:32 pm
(1153) researcher says:

As someone who has tried anal sex and liked it; then done some research on the possible medical consequences, it has lost its appeal for me. It’s not that good.
Why does everyone on this list sound so mad and write like they are the final authority on the issue? I wonder if people who like anal sex are mad in general? I haven’t read every comment, but none of the ones I sampled had an ounce of tenderness. The original question was simply do women like anal sex? The answers are mostly boastful put downs of anyone who does not like anal sex the way the writer does. There are a million ways to love someone.

October 26, 2009 at 5:13 pm
(1154) k&laurie says:

screw him i would not b doing any anal sex.. don’t do it… he is an idiot.. and if he likes you.. he would not want you to do it if you don’t want to…and i have never heard of any woman that does this crap…

October 26, 2009 at 9:40 pm
(1155) Uncertain says:

My husband and I have been married 38 years. He tried the first time about nine years into the relationship. I did not find it pleasurable at al but quite painful. He tried a few times over the next few years same rusults and in the last couple of years he’s been wanting it quite a bit. Problem is he tries to do it everytime we have sex which stops any sexual desire I have achieved to that point and gets upset when I don’t want it. He calls me prude and that all I need is to relax and I will enjoy it. He has more resently tried to use his finger and lick to make me more comfortable but I can’t relax because I know what it is leading up to. He will also start making derrogatory coments about my weight and my thinking when things don’t go his way. He has been watching porn regularly where you see all these women acting like they are having such a great time and maybe they are, but they are getting huge rewards for this and is not necesarily that they asked to do it and if I mention any of this while a movie is on he gets royally upset. Our marriage hasn’t been the greatest but now it is really going downhill quickly with every refusal to indulge in anal sex. Why is this so important to him?

October 27, 2009 at 10:33 am
(1156) Phil says:

Roger. Obviously you’ve never done it.

October 27, 2009 at 10:32 pm
(1157) jager261978 says:

Anal sex. I do enjoy a woman that will try it.. but.. I don’t enjoy it unless she does. For me it is a taboo.. and I agree that is maybe a form of control. But, normally I leave all the control to her. If I tease and all lot of forplay, have not been with a woman that did not want to try it. That is the key.. if she does not want it, chances are she will not enjoy it. Very, risky form of sex, so, not some thing you should do, with someone that you would not have unsafe sex with even if you use a condum. With me ex wife we have sex all the time, and she enjoyed anal sex, the feeling of my cumming deep inside her.. made me shake.. that drove her crazy.. so we did it alot.. at least once a week. But, She would start it.. It would made me very hard so hard, when she was the one playing rubbing back up to me until I was inside her, sometimes.. I was so wet we did not need any lube. After a few mins she would get faster and faster and then I was take over.. and I had control.. She could not get it hard or deep enough. So, guys let the lady enjoy it.. don’t rush or push it. If you wait till she really wants and enjoys anal it pays off big time.

October 29, 2009 at 9:05 pm
(1158) Dr. Sam says:

Excuse me… as a man and a doctor

“”"”what the hell is this?”"”"
you’re talking about something that’s totally wrong.
womens for your own safety you should go to a doctor and he/she will tell the danger of anal sex what it really happens to your body?
Don’t think that’s ok…nothing happened…it’ll take some time and you’ll get sick.
guys, you have to see a shrink cuz’ that’s not in human nature and something bad happened to you and the shrink will explain my point
please ladies, don’t let them control or use you. you have the right to chose what kind of sex you want….

Now, It’s you’re turn to decide

October 30, 2009 at 12:13 am
(1159) Benjamin says:

It’s really amazing to read all of the comments.

It obviously helps when people have had REAL and various experiences to substantiate their opinions. Sorry, but if you’re still a virgin or been married 40 years to your high school sweetheart, you really don’t bring much to the table.

Of those that have experience to base their thoughts, many have hit an aspect of human sexual interaction that is right on target. Some are simply unsubstantiated opinions…and way off base. Others seem pretty solid at first glance, but when you really think about what the author is saying, it seems rather superficial.

I’m now 40 and have had numerous lovers. I’m not boasting because it’s not some outrageously low or high number, but I’ve had my share. I readily admit that I’m not a know-it-all, however I would like to offer my perspective.

First, research studies reveal that about one-third of women have engaged in anal sex. Of those that have tried it, roughly fifty percent enjoy it. And the percentages are higher in younger generations (high school and college students). After you do the math, that’s one out of every six women that likes it. One out of six! So no one should be saying that ALL women like anal sex..or even MOST. No one should be saying that it’s a perversion for some TINY percentage of the population either.

There are other points I want to make. Since they will likely be pretty long, I will post them later.

October 30, 2009 at 12:16 am
(1160) Benjamin says:

It’s really amazing to read all of the comments.

It obviously helps when people have had REAL and various experiences to substantiate their opinions. Sorry, but if you’re still a virgin or been married 40 years to your high school sweetheart, you really don’t bring much to the table.

Of those that have experience to base their thoughts, many have hit an aspect of human sexual interaction that is right on target. Some are simply unsubstantiated opinions…and way off base. Others seem pretty solid at first glance, but when you really think about what the author is saying, it seems rather superficial.

I’m now 40 and have had numerous lovers. I’m not boasting because it’s not some outrageously low or high number, but I’ve had my share. I readily admit that I’m not a know-it-all, however I would like to offer my perspective.

First, research studies show that about one-third of women have engaged in anal sex. Of those that have tried it, roughly fifty percent enjoy it. And the percentages are higher among high school and college students. After you do the math, that’s one out of every six women that likes it. One out of six! So no one should be saying that ALL women like anal sex..or even MOST. No one should be saying that it’s a perversion for some TINY percentage of the population either.

There are four other points I want to make. Since they will likely be pretty long, I will post them later.

October 30, 2009 at 7:21 pm
(1161) neways says:

I convinced my girlfriend to have anal sex the other night. She was sober, i was drunk. She didnt seem to enjoy it at all. Are there any girls out there that have done it and didnt like it, but liked it later on?

Just curious because she didnt say “no more” or “stop” or nothing. She looked a little uncomfortable, but then again i was drunk.

So are there any girls out there that didnt quite enjoy themselves the first time that ended up enjoying it later?

October 31, 2009 at 3:37 am
(1162) LoverOfMyFemalePartner says:

To Roger who says:
A man who craves anal sex with a women is insecure. The desire is for complete power and domination, not a pursuit of sexual pleasure for himself and certainly not for his partner.

YOU ARE INSECURE! ANAL SEX HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH DOMINATION FOR MYSELF AND MY FEMALE PARTNER. I LOVE ANAL SEX BECAUSE I LOVE THE BEAUTY OF THE FEMALE BODY. THERE IS NOTHING MORE INTIMATE THAT HAVING ANAL SEX WITH A WOMAN THAT YOU LOVE. THERE IS NOTHING MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN THE SHAPE OF A FEMALES ASS. IF ANAL SEX ONLY GAVE ME PLEASURE, THAN I WOULD NOT ASK THIS OF MY PARTNER. IT IS QUITE OBVIOUS THAT MANY WOMEN ENJOY IT WHEN A MAN PUTS HIS PENIS INTO HER ANUS AND EJACULATES INTO HER WARM BODY. THERE IS ALSO AN ELEMENT OF TRUST. IF MY PARTNER ASKS ME TO SLOW DOWN OR STOP FOR A WHILE, I RESPECT HER WISHES. THIS SELDOM HAPPENS HOWEVER.

October 31, 2009 at 10:17 pm
(1163) whitespace says:

You don’t love the beauty of the female body if you like anal sex. It destroys the beauty of her anus and nearby skin and leads to poopy health problems.

Look but don’t touch, I say. A healthy anus is lovely and helps to keep poop where it belongs: in the toilet, not on my penis nor leaking into her undies.

November 2, 2009 at 1:56 pm
(1164) chad says:

i have been married for 14 yrs id love to have anal sex how do i approach it with my wife? I know she is scared of it and also says its gross help me!!

November 3, 2009 at 2:54 am
(1165) Benjamin says:

There have been many people (mostly religious fanatics it seems) who are against anal sex for two primary reasons. First, because they consider anal sex dirty. Second, they claim anal sex is unnatural. In my opinion, most religions forbade anal sex because of the diseases they didn’t understand nor could control. Today we can take precautions to get around that (condoms, enemas, washing, etc).

Some also say that anal sex isn’t natural. Well guess what almost everything we humans do is unnatural. From the ways communication, transportation, medicine….the list goes on. Western societies are obsessed with continual improvement, which compels humans to invent newer and better technologies which perpetually puts us (or keeps us) in situations that are unnatural.

We live in an era in which sensationalism is king. There are literally hundreds (if not thousands) of television stations. With the Internet, ANYONE and EVERYONE can upload a video to share with the rest of the world. The problem with this is two-fold. First, people act differently if they know a camera is recording them…and in many cases will do extreme things. Second, by uploading these videos (amateur or professional), they give false impressions as to what mainstream really is. Or what people really want or prefer. Applying this to the porn industry…so just because you see a guy pounding his 12” black dick into a white chick’s ass doesn’t mean that every black guy is packing at least 10 inches…or that every woman out there enjoys big dicks, interracial sex…or even anal sex. Or that every woman can take a dick with the girth of a soda can. But I’d imagine that for guys like me, who enjoy anal sex or are at least fascinated with anal sex, we will seek out videos that highlight anal sex. By watching these on a regular basis I’d also imagine it builds up a hope (and maybe an expectation) that many if not most women will enjoy anal sex.

November 3, 2009 at 9:53 am
(1166) Stephen says:

I have had anal sex many time with many ex-girlfriends. I had one girlfriend that really loved it. Now I have a girlfriend for 4 years and 2 childern with her. She never had anal sex before, but after some nice talking, over a year and a half later she decided to try it. She did it a few times just for me and just to keep trying. Now, 2 years later she loves it. She loves doing it every time me make love. Sometime we do just anal. It makes her more wet, and she cums like a kicten sick’s water when the tap is turned on. We both love doing it. She says she likes the feeling of a penis or dildo stoking inside her anus.

November 3, 2009 at 2:58 pm
(1167) PuckerFactor says:

To 1158. “Dr” Sam. I have never known a doctor that writes like a f*cktarded 2nd grade child. Thanks for the laugh, “doc.”

The beautiful, fantastic woman I’m with likes to have anal sex. In addition to the different feeling she says it gives, she says it actually helps her PMS cramps during that special time of the month. Go figure that. Anyway, I love her and if it is what she wants, then it is what she gets.

Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy obliging her. A lot. If she didn’t like it I certainly wouldn’t pressure her. That wouldn’t make me much of a man. It would make me a scumbag. I also know that if I were turned off by it, she wouldn’t force the issue. She would simply do it with a toy when she does herself.

We are in a serious, exclusive relationship. We love each other and we love to enjoy each other. As long as neither of us are being abused, the way we choose to enjoy each other isn’t “wrong.”

November 4, 2009 at 2:32 am
(1168) Benjamin says:

Different Strokes for Different Folks (we are not all alike)
When discussing anal sex many people in this forum (pro and con) have focused almost exclusively on the physical senses…either the pleasure or pain of anal sex. But stop for a moment to consider the emotional side of anal sex. You might be wondering, What the f**k is this guy talking about??? I’m gonna take the long way to make a point here…In hopes of circumventing physiological problems, many posters (like have encouraged others to seek qualified medical advice before engaging in anal sex. Hey, do you think people who smoke weed or snort coke or join a gang consult advice before engaging in that activity? At some point I gather some become addicted or too entrenched to turn back. But, I’m talking about BEFORE they get deep into it. Seriously…think about it. By third or fourth grade, every kid knows that drugs, gangs and such isn’t right. Yet they do it anyway. So, if there’s no logical or rational reason why they do it, there must be an emotional desire behind their actions. Applying this train of thought, perhaps some desire some emotional aspect of anal sex that regular sex doesn’t provide. Many claim that those who crave anal sex want to dominate others or want to be dominated.

Personally speaking, compared to vaginal sex, I don’t get any more physical enjoyment from anal sex. Anal penetration is probably considered the most taboo sexual act. So, what I get from anal sex lasts beyond the bedroom. It’s the pleasure of knowing my girl is willing to try new things and will do her best to please me.

Now there’s going to be some moron out there who’s going to jump to the conclusion that I was pressuring my girlfriend(s) into having anal sex. Or that she is so submissive that she’d do anything. In either case, that is the furthest thing from the truth. In some cases I have suggested anal sex and girlfriends have said “no”. I probably brought it up once more (politely) and when they responded a second time with a “no”, I never mentioned it again. I recall the first time I had sex with an ex-girlfriend. I couldn’t help but notice that she was fingering her own ass. I didn’t say anything at the time. It was a few weeks later when she came over to my place and she decided to take a bath by candlelight. A few minutes later I joined her by the side of the tub. I took the sponge and started to bathe her. When I asked her to get on all fours so I could bathe her back, I started eating her to her delight. Then I slowly worked my way north. From the gyrations, and muscle spasms, and moans I have to conclude that she wasn’t just pleasantly surprised, but completely satisfied. It wasn’t until several weeks later that we decided to have true anal sex for my upcoming birthday. My point here is that I didn’t pressure her into doing something that she didn’t want to do. And this wasn’t a quick decision by either of us…this took months!
I know some girls who love guys who swing with a “big stick”; some prefer smaller “packages”. I know other girls that don’t even like sex. I know guys that will only date Asian gals; others will date any race, as long as the girl has a rack bigger than a D-cup. So guess what…some people will probably like anal sex, some won’t and probably for many different reasons.
Some of you have a very narrow perspective on life…with some intuitive insight on how EVERYONE should feel…or how EVERYONE should act. Do we all like the same kinds of foods? Do we all enjoy the same kind of music? Do we all subscribe to the same religion or watch the same TV programming? Of course not! Yet it’s amazing how naysayers can’t imagine how anyone would like anal sex. Now I’m not saying anal sex is for everyone. What I am saying is that when two adults CONSENT, it’s their life—not yours.

November 5, 2009 at 4:25 pm
(1169) Jingizu says:

Benjamin, of course people have the right to do foolish things. But such activities should not be popular, particularly not in an era of social decadence and failing educational systems. And yes, anal sex is incredibly foolish from a medical health standpoint. Yet the booming popularity of heterosexual anal sex has not improved the public’s awareness of the risks — quite the opposite, in fact. Receptive individuals whom experience problems as a result of anal sex generally don’t tell others; the taboo nature of the activity ensures that. Plenty of people are even afraid to discuss anal sex with medical doctors, let alone embarrassing gastrointestinal problems.

Worse still, the medical establishment, with a few exceptions, is by all appearances content to stay silent about anal sex. That leaves the few medical doctors whom speak out publicly (such as Drew Pinsky) looking dogmatic and out-of-touch because they don’t tell people what they want to hear. Not surprisingly, that leads those whom may be curious about anal sex to listen to individuals who have not studied anatomy, peer-reviewed medical journals, and evidence gathered through empirical observation.

The porn industry is taking advantage of this sad situation as well. I do not know whether or not it is the driving force behind the increasing popularity of heterosexual anal sex. However, it is clearly profiting from the public’s ignorance with unsafe (and some might say criminally negligent) practices. And it is undeniable that much of the anal sex content in porn is targeted at viewers with destructive tendencies; specifically, those whom enjoy pain and humiliation (at least in a sexual context), whether they’re viewing/inflicting it (sexual sadism disorder) or experiencing it (sexual masochism disorder).

I have researched the risks of anal sex exhaustively and extensively. I am in complete agreement with former Surgeon General C. Everett Koop: “anal intercourse is simply too dangerous to practice.” (Source: http://www.fda.gov/ForConsumers/byAudience/ForPatientAdvocates/HIVandAIDSActivities/ucm126372.htm)

November 5, 2009 at 6:07 pm
(1170) Woody says:

My wife of 20 plus years has enjoyed anal sex for much of this past year. She is post menapause and has enjoyed anal much more than vagina! She wishes she would have tried it long ago. We usually start with a backrub then work down her back to her bottom! She will often pull out a vibrator and while I penetrate her ass she will use the vibrator on herself. She comes multiple times this way! The feeling of the vibrator while doing it is AWESOME

November 6, 2009 at 12:07 am
(1171) Benjamin says:

Jingizu,

Thank you for a very thoughtful response. Even though we disagree in a way, I appreciate your non-judgemental tone and attempt to educate me and others. BTW, the url you provided doesn’t work. Could you supply a working link.

November 6, 2009 at 1:05 am
(1172) Jingizu says:

Benjamin,

Remove the closing parenthesis character from the end of the link.

November 6, 2009 at 6:43 pm
(1173) Miss D says:

I tried anal sex for the first time with my second husband and love it. I trust his gentalness and caution. If i say its ok, he’s okay with it and we both enjoy it immensley. If i want it harder, gentler, or just the tip, i just ask. Try having your partner finger your anal first and wow the orgasm you can have will amaze you and you will definitly want more. Lube and go slow. Also make sure your bowels are clean. Eat fiber….Enjoy it with someone you care deeply for and trust.

November 8, 2009 at 5:07 am
(1174) janine says:

i’m kind of mixed on it. with the right guy, i LOVE anal.
better, harder orgasms than anything. but, i have IBS, and if that has flared up, no way in hell. also, another thing to consider is that i have to feel 100% comfortable with him or else what happens is i tense up, and if you tense up during anal, you’re done…gotta relax in order for it to be enjoyable and not a pain in the ass, so to speak.

i started trying it just to make the guys i was with happy and didn’t like it too much at first but it wasn’t really unpleasant or anything, just weird. and then i found the right way to go about it and haven’t looked back (except to see who’s behind me during anal sex)

basically, if you think you’re using ‘just the right amount’ of lube, you’re not – add more. if you’re starting to suspect too much lube is being used, you’re in the ballpark. at least 10 mins of anal foreplay beforehand is what works for me, and if you even have the slightest suspicion that he won’t stop exactly at the moment you say stop don’t do it. nothing is worse than an extra two or three strokes when it’s not wanted if things start getting uncomfortable.

despite my cautions, though, go for it…when it’s done right with the right man you’ll think that your most earth shaking clitoral/vaginal orgasms are ‘meh’ in comparison.

November 8, 2009 at 12:13 pm
(1175) D Bootie says:

My husband of 10 years and I have an active sex life, averaging twice a day. It wasn’t always that way. I had to open my mind and clear it of old clutter. It probably saved my marriage. We both enjoy vaginal, oral, and now anal. The key to anal is lubing, and never re-enter the front door until cleaning up from the back door. He loves it, and now rushes home instead of straying out… if you know what I mean.

November 9, 2009 at 3:24 pm
(1176) Pearce says:

My girlfriend have enjoyed analingus, usually while in a 69, since the night of our very first date two years ago, but we’d never had actual anal sex until last night. OMG!! It was the most awesome sex I’ve ever had. The strap-on that she wore was long and thick, and it felt so wonderful as she pounded my ass doggy-style. I felt so slutty as I did it with my bad self, and I eventually had the most intense orgasm of my entire life (I’m 16). Needless to say, I cannot wait to have anal sex again tonight. Eventually, of course, I know I’ll want to experience the feeling that only a real penis can give me. Until then, thank you Doc Johnson.

November 9, 2009 at 5:39 pm
(1177) Jessica says:

my boyfriend and i of almost 7 months now tried it for the first time. At first it was a bit painful but then as he slowly went further inside the more i enjoyed it until he got completley hard and became quite painful. Afterwards we discussed it as something we would try again someday but not soon. we decided things we did wrong like him not being completly hard before entering and not quite enough lube(you can never have enough) and using something smaller like a small dildo first. I am more than willing to try again the bit of pain was more than worth the few minutes of pleasure! Remember Lube Lube Lube!

November 9, 2009 at 7:46 pm
(1178) Em says:

To #44: In Greece most hetairai (high class hookers above concubines in the social scale) actually preferred anal sex to any other because it was the only sure-fire method of birth control in the day (beside the pull-out method). In fact anal sex has been popular for ages. The Egyptians participated in anal play, the Greeks, the Romans, even in the early hay day of the Christian Church. The most prevalent reason being the inadequate birth control methods used.
My husband and I engage in anal play and find it quite provocative and enjoyable. My advice, be open about your curiosity and start out slowly, well-lubed, and with the woman being in complete control of the situation until she is willing to relinquish control. As far as safety goes, as long as the anal sphincter is stretched gradually, there is no need to worry.
Good luck and best of wishes to you.

November 13, 2009 at 3:46 pm
(1179) Justine_M says:

Wow. Stumbled upon this thread. What a hot topic. Too many posts to read them all, but just scanning through them it looks like some women are posting, but mostly guys. I’ll post my female point of view. I’m 40 something and I’ve been married to my wonderful husband for 15 years. We have an active sex life and we both really enjoy anal sex. I had a few intimate relationships before meeting my husband and in a couple of those relationships enjoyed anal sex. None of my partners, including my husband, ever talked me into something I didn’t want to do and I don’t do it only to please my man. I do it because we both really like it. I’m not a hater or a judgmental person so for those that are not into anal sex I respect your decision not to engage in it. What I don’t respect is the suggestion that it is immoral or unnatural. It’s between my husband and myself and we really like it. I don’t impose it on anyone, including the lady that started this whole thread asking us ladies to chime in with our opinions. That’s my opinion. I like it. I do it a couple of times a month and look forward to it each time. There were several ridiculous assertions that anal sex makes you incontinent. Oh please stop with the scare tactics. If you do the deed without relaxing and without lube and your partner jams it in without regard to your pain (i.e. rape) then I imagine injury could result and yes you could have an issue, but if you take it slow, use plenty of lube and communicate with your partner, it doesn’t result in being any more sore than a hard session of vaginal sex and certainly doesn’t result in not being able to control your bowels. Just be patient if you try it and demand that your partner be patient too. If he won’t take his time and let you relax, then he’s not the right partner for anal sex. Don’t expect to be a porn star anal queen the first time. It took me several sessions of working up to it, me gaining trust in my partner before I was able to relax enough where he could actually stroke in and out quickly. Patience. And add more lube while you are at it. You can’t use too much! Also read some concerns about it being messy. That’s never been an issue for me. I’ve never used an enema before anal sex and haven’t felt like I needed to. I will tell you that for those concerned about mess, I would say that sex during my menstrual period is a lot more messy than anal. And, unlike menstrual fluid, a tiny bit of poo won’t stain your sheets, towels, carpet, or wherever you decide to shag. If it is a concern, then I would guess an enema taken a few hours before the act would pretty much prevent an issue. But, it isn’t an issue for my husband and I and none of my other partners have had an issue with it either. Good hygiene is a plus, I would say. Shower before and shower after. Oh, and ladies, I would recommend a good long pee afterwards to make sure no bacteria have found their way to your bladder. No sense having a bunch of fun only to get an UTI. On the pleasure side, I read more than few comments from women that said they had bigger orgasms doing anal than vaginal sex. I’m in that camp. Can’t explain why, but the feel of my husband buried deep in my ass while I run a vibrator over my clit results in a mind blowing orgasm for me. On a few occasions I’ve even had an orgasm without any clitoral stimulation. Each time it has been a complete surprise but was also mind blowing. Any downsides? Well, for us doing anal sex is not quick, so if it is a night/day where we are limited on time or one of us is tired and we just want a quick session, it isn’t a good time for anal. Generally a full anal sex session for us is a couple of hours, from build up to “resolution” :) . That gives me time to relax and quite frankly, time to enjoy it. I guess another assertion I read is that some women like anal better than vaginal sex. I would be hard pressed to pick a favorite. I like it all. Oh, in the “TMI” department, ladies I should tell you that if you tell your partner it is okay to ejaculate in your bottom, what goes in must come out. I don’t mind it, and in fact it is a little joke my husband and I have. I usually spend 20 minutes or so after we do anal sex sitting on the toilet tooting out his sperm and the lube we used. For the young ladies that are perhaps shy about that, be advised that it can be a little noisy. My husband and I just laugh about it, though. It “cums” ha ha with the territory. Sorry, I’m sure that really was TMI. Okay one more thing. I’ve had two kids. Both were big babies and I went natural with both of them. Long hard labor. So yes, I got hemorrhoids from it. Ladies if you’ve got them, go get them treated. If they are on the inside, they are so easy to treat at the proctologist. Was easier than going to the gyno. I didn’t even have to get completely undressed. Doctor used this infrared/laser thing to cauterize them. Two visits after each childbirth and it was fixed. I have a couple of small ones on the outside (those they have to do surgery for, but they are really small, and don’t warrant treatment) that are occasionally bothersome, but if there is something anal sex has taught me is to relax and not strain or bear down too much. Probably TMI there as well, but I’m telling you, don’t suffer as treatment is probably really easy. Anyway, that’s my view. Hope it is helpful for the ladies considering it. I might check back sometime in case there are questions about my experience with it. I don’t consider myself an expert, but don’t mind sharing my experiences if it would be helpful!

November 14, 2009 at 5:56 am
(1180) Censored Truth says:

> As far as safety goes, as long as the anal sphincter is stretched gradually, there is no need to worry.
“The main long-term complication of all sphincter-damaging procedures is some degree of fecal incontinence. Anal stretching, known as Lords procedure, has long been advocated as a therapy; it is still practiced. The anus is digitally dilated over its full length using up to six fingers. This procedure leads to an uncontrolled fragmentation of the internal sphincter; consequently, it should no longer be a therapeutic option.”
Integrated Medical and Surgical Gastroenterology‎ (2004) – Page 390

> What I don’t respect is the suggestion that it is immoral or unnatural.
Immoral? That depends on one’s views. Unnatural? Oh, hell yes. The anus is a one-way valve intended to let feces pass through only. There is nothing natural about anal sex.

> There were several ridiculous assertions that anal sex makes you incontinent.
Here’s another assertion. From a medical book.

“Regular anal sex leads to internal sphincter dilatation and soiling.”
The ASCRS Textbook of Colon and Rectal Surgery‎ (2006) – Page 654

> Can’t explain why, but the feel of my husband buried deep in my ass while I run a vibrator over my clit results in a mind blowing orgasm for me.
*While you run a vibrator over your clit* You can’t explain that it’s NOT the anal sex at all?

Women don’t have a prostate. The G-Spot is not a factor unless he’s jamming his penis up against the vaginal wall through the rectum. That could lead to what Dr. Drew Pinsky calls “prolapse into the vagina” as the rectovaginal wall is weakened.

http://www.marieclaire.com/life/sex/advice/sex-tips-pro

November 20, 2009 at 12:07 am
(1181) the violator says:

ok, we see the occasional garbage declaring anal sex as unhealthy, immoral or whatever. these are of course all wrong.
everyday more and more women turn to anal for the 1st time and most enjoy it. some love it so much they even PREFER it over vaginal. that is a fact. the negative feedback folks will never give up their outdated and illogical arguments and will always try (and fail)to get their stance recognized.
anal sex is a way for women to get satisfaction and it delivers. some women like a vibrator on the clit AND the feeling of having their man’s johnson deep up their butt. yes they do enjoy and the naysayers hate that reality but their is nothing they can do to stop this reality.
face it- WOMEN AND ANAL SEX ARE HERE TO STAY and anal sex will soon become as popular as regualr vaginal intercourse. modern women have realized that anal does not have to be bad or uncomfortable. they are realizing that using lube and patience is they key. and when they have that 1st anal orgasm- there is no turning back. they know anal sex is going to be a regualr part of their sexual lifestyle for keeps. yep, everyday more and more women are getting their butts packed with boners. their men are happy for it and the ladies are loving it too.
ladies: make sure your man uses lots of lube and is gentle. make sure he knows you are in control and that he keeps the pace the way YOU want it. if done right- you will love it!!!

November 20, 2009 at 4:13 am
(1182) Roxana says:

Dear Lisa (31)
Persians, Greeks, Turkish, Arabs and most of national that virginity is important before marriage would and will do anal sex.
Sound stupid but really naughty girl that wants to have anal sex to keep their virginity.
It’s commonly called Greek sex. (Like oral sex that called French sex).

I had a friend that she had a wow orgasm while doing Greek sex but could not enjoy that much with normal sex.

Just if you are worry about something come out you need to make sure that it is clean perfectly.

In those countries that I named have a washing facility in the toilet and after toilet you can wash and clean your self but we do not have it in Europe.

So you can, get some stuff from pharmacy to wash inside ( usually it used for infection inside, that you enter it inside and leave the liquid inside and when you send them out clean inside ( you need to send them out while you are setting on toilet) )

Some of girl just used shower head and let water goes inside and then send the water out. Shower room or bath may be getting dirty that you need to use bleach to clean up.

Greek sex is so enjoyable, but you may lose you man if you were not clean. Just do not scare of sending water inside yourself and wash it up. It is good for yourself even if you do not make Greek sex.

November 20, 2009 at 4:31 am
(1183) William says:

Hi dear,
I love anal sex but my partner had problem with her back so it mostly 5 years that we have not done it.
We were enjoy it so much and I really missed that.
If any one like other girls here like it please help me and we can see what we can do, Britton@hotmail.co.uk I used to be so good in anal sex and last 2 partner that I ever had was enjoy anal sex more than…
Please e-mail.

November 21, 2009 at 3:57 am
(1184) Censored Truth says:

1181,

Anal sex is unhealthy. That is fact, not opinion. There is plenty of corroborating evidence from people who are familiar with the human body. That is to say, medical doctors and medical students that have studied anatomy.

I would continue this argument, but there is no point. I have better things to do. Besides, we live in very decadent times; a rise in anal sex, amongst other things, is to be expected.

I honestly hope that I and plenty of medical professionals are wrong, in fact. But I suspect we are not. I have read many first-hand accounts from receptive individuals who experienced serious problems resulting from anal sex.

Believe me, or don’t. Either way, I’m certain that the truth will become clear sooner or later. I’ll leave you with one last quote, which you may look up using Google Books, as with the previous ones.

“Traumatic complications of rectal intercourse include prolapsed hemorrhoids, anal fistulas and fissures, perirectal abscesses, rectal ulcers, and anal tears.”
Primary Care Medicine (2009) – Page 528

November 21, 2009 at 12:59 pm
(1185) Linda says:

I like anal sex. I was doing it with my husband and I enoyed it. The first time I was scared to it too becouse some of my friend said that its painful and not enjoyable. But i liked it very much :) !

November 22, 2009 at 9:05 am
(1186) Kimberly says:

I for one , am a 30 + y.o. female who has been practicing anal sex for the last 15 years. I did not feel compelled or coersed into it from my partner. But rather, I began masturbating as a virgin who had never been on 1 date and stumbled upon the intense feeling of anal masturbation. Does that make me a non woman with a vagina? No. I’m 100% woman. Born female will die a female ( only with a smile on my face :D ). In short, I adore anal play. I don’t have anal sex as often as i’d like to… but it’s still a healthy part of my relationship.
For those of you who are concerned of the poop factor…consider an enema before hand. The enema can actually end up as part of your “foreplay” as well as many people find that to be very pleasurable as well.
The thing is y’all…what goes on in peoples private lives is not up for the general public to decide. My b/f doesn’t enjoy anal play on himself but he loves the feel how tight my butt is. He loves how accomodating my body is, and the fact that all the lube i generally require is for him to rub some of my vaginal juices along my anal area. if any more is required…spit is the worlds greatest lube ( sue johannson even says that about lube! )

November 22, 2009 at 4:51 pm
(1187) Wasted Time says:

Ugh, this site is ridiculous. Not only does it lack pagination, but also it won’t let me post several links in a single post.

Anyway…

`The thing is y’all…what goes on in peoples private lives is not up for the general public to decide.’
There’s nothing wrong with warning people not to do stupid things (and anal sex is stupid). It’s like warning people not to smoke, which was also popular at one time.

`My b/f doesn’t enjoy anal play on himself but he loves the feel how tight my butt is.’
Isn’t that a bit hypocritical of him? I mean, what’s good for the goose is good for the gander … Right?

`spit is the worlds greatest lube ( sue johannson even says that about lube! )’
Actually, saliva is a terrible lubricant for anal sex: it evaporates very quickly. I can’t find where Sue Johanson (one n) says anything like that, either. What I CAN find is Sue Johanson writing this: “If you feel that your genitals are dry, you may use saliva to moisten the area.” She’s not talking about anal sex at all there (look up genitals in a dictionary). If that word isn’t enough to convince you, then the title of the page should be: “Lubrication and Vaginal Dryness”
http://www.talksexwithsue.com/lubrication.html

November 23, 2009 at 8:04 am
(1188) Moron #4392 says:

Would like to say that I had anal sex for the first time in my life two years ago, age 49. I was excited about the experience, but I would never do it again. The jackass who gave it to me did not use enough lube and I was left bleeding badly. I did agree to the complete experience. But he did not take very good precautions and I was left bleeding so badly that I was hospitalized. I would never do it again and I hight recommend women not to do it. To painful.

November 23, 2009 at 11:47 am
(1189) Cait says:

I must be honest and admit that I do enjoy anal sex. My boyfriend and I are both very young so we love to try anything and everything. So, when he brought up the subject of anal sex I thought that it wouldn’t kill me so I might as well try it out.

It does hurt at first, but after a while I started to really like it. I don’t see anything wrong with it if as long as both people are adults and know what they are doing.

November 24, 2009 at 1:03 pm
(1190) nulord says:

to comment 21: thou doth protest so much as to think thou art fearful of thy own desires.

November 25, 2009 at 6:04 am
(1191) Kumdine says:

I am a 46yrs woman.My husband died couple of years ago and from then total celibacy of three and half yrs. I maintained myself with yoga and I am fit and flexible and good to look at 5ft 3inch and 135 lbs.Last year my nephew from U.S. Came he is married with a beautiful wife and 2 offsprings.
He is a irrestible handsome man of 38yrs and wellbuilt a foot taller than me we hit it out instantly I had never seen a man so endowed he confessed that his wife use to strave him for sex an Anal definitely a no no…… I myself had never tried it but one day he lubed me well with KY jelly and it was best sex I ever had we almost try it every alternate day and I enjoy it. Babe try
once and see the fun. Its fullness is different as he humps me and plays with my button. Its tantric sex and out of this world Wow! What a treat.
I really feel sorry for his wife for not treating his man properly.

wellbuilt

November 26, 2009 at 2:38 pm
(1192) beachboy222 says:

Wow how life has changed since the 1970s era of “free love.” In Richmond at VCU, just about everone was sexually hungrey AND always looking for new mates.
But at least for me I never even dreamed of asking the woman if she wanted to have anal sex. Nor did one ever rerquest it. Nice girls just didn’t do that.
But cunnilungus? They loved it. Nor did they have to ask me, that technique came with the package. Never had an unsatisfied lover.
Back on the dating scene again after wife of 26 years up and left.
Any tips on how to approach a woman to see if enjoys the back door approach? If land in bed with woman for first time would that be to early, or am I to judge by posts here that most are willing and able?

November 26, 2009 at 4:23 pm
(1193) beachboy222 says:

I left a comment. Where is it? Do you pre screen and edit before posting argument?

November 28, 2009 at 11:23 pm
(1194) Samantha says:

Anal sex is fun as long as you lube up and use a condom cause face it ladies stuff is ment to come out and you know exactly what Im talking about when evr me an d my husband do it we use condoms for his safety just as well as mine that stuff can make them sick and for some reason my bowel movements change when he cums in me so we just stick to condoms its cleaner and safe and if done right it feels good.

November 29, 2009 at 9:24 pm
(1195) Phil McCraken says:

anal sex? love it. get it every Thurdsay when my line managers on double shift

or is that double shaft…

December 2, 2009 at 9:26 pm
(1196) Mia says:

I am 26y old and just recently tried anal sex for the 1st time, actually 2nd time but back then it didn’t go well and we just gave up. I have a man who is very well endowed and we usually have normal vaginal sex and it’s incredible. He is a great lover and really strives to satisfy me first and would do anything it takes. Few days ago he was just playing aroung that area and I was very turned on and allowed him to enter gently without even trying to stop it. He was so nice and gentle that it didnt hurt at all and at the end we got lost into it and he made me completely relaxed and satisfied at the end. He said it was great. Now we didn’t talk if he ever done it before or not but considering his size every woman would get a lil hesitant. So I don’t even think it’s about the size, it’s about mutual attraction and chemistry that can get u excited enough to trully enjoy it.

I can’t wait to pleasure him again since he keeps fantasying about it ever since.

December 3, 2009 at 1:46 pm
(1197) Gwen says:

My husband has asked for anal sex for a long time and I just couldn’t see why it was necessary. We tried a long time ago with no lube and it hurt so bad! I never wanted to do that again! Also My viewpoint was that men just think that since women are the receiving end of thier penis that any hole a woman has should be available to them. He never really pushed the issue though especially after I told him if I let him then he would have to let me do it to him so most of the time I got the last word.

I have since changed my mind about the whole anal sex issue. Sometimes during doggy style sex my husband would insert his thumb into my anus. He made sure it was well lubed and it always seemed to intensify sex for me. I just became more curious about how anal sex would feel and one time after thumbing my hole he asked if he could stick his cock in there and I told him lube it up reall good and go ahead. At first it was painful while the head was penetrating. But once we got the right amount of lube (spit at this point)and I relaxed a bit it was amazing! I knew I wanted to explore this further. I bought some lube and gave it to him the next time we had sex and he knew exactly what it was for. He suggested that I use my vibrator for clit stimulation and the resulting sex and anal sex was absolutely amazing! I now expect it every time and have even searched how to cleanse the bowel so that feces won’t be a problem. It is not hard to clense that area out but I would suggest using water and not enemas! They are too harsh and powerful. I do have to say that I am a REAL woman that loves anal and it has opened a whole new world to my sexuality. I never thought that area could generate such pleasurable orgasms, some way more intense than just a vaginal orgasm. What is truly amazing is when you have an anal and vaginal orgasm at the same time. That is the absolute best!

I would totally suggest for a woman to try anal with a trusted partner that is not going to push the issue. One that you will be comfortable with and will take it slow. Use lots of lube and if you are worried about fecal matter being expelled then look up some anal sex tutorials on how to properly cleanse the area. I also tell my husband I will try to keep the area cleansed but there’s no telling what’s gonna come out of there once you start putting things up there. Don’t be embarrassed if it happens though.

December 4, 2009 at 7:30 am
(1198) sam says:

I request all of you to lead a life that doesn’t accommodate pervertion.

December 4, 2009 at 7:51 am
(1199) Mona says:

wow!What a good man you are, Sam!I would like to request you to marry me!!

December 4, 2009 at 10:25 am
(1200) Rahin says:

The thing i like bout anal sex is the smell of my gfs butt, its great , i like to like her ass often . anal sex is great but tight ass gives are less fun rather that lose and dirty ass .

December 4, 2009 at 2:56 pm
(1201) roy says:

I am working up to this, I just got married and we have a great sex life that I don’t want to ruin by getting pushy now. It is my belief that you can work up to almost anything you want a woman to do in bed (within reason) in increments. For this, when we shower together and mess around I will play around that area while stimulating other areas. She seems to like it so far, so who knows maybe next time shes already worked up I play the “just the tip” game with my finger and see if it makes things all the better. Plus in the shower with all the soap it doesn’t seem “dirty” and one can get used to the idea…

December 7, 2009 at 3:55 am
(1202) the violator says:

gwen 1197, that is a wonderful story. you went from being a woman who wan’t interested in the act to a woman who tried it. yet years later, you were open minded-enough to give it another go. good for you!
i have heard many women who try it- do indeed love working their clit with a vibrator while having their backside plowed. keep having the fun good times there. hubby is a lucky guy and probably couldn’t be happier in the sack now that you are more sexually versitile.

December 7, 2009 at 5:47 pm
(1203) BlueTarnation says:

OMG…. this has been the BEST afternoon ever!!! LOL… just sitting back, relaxing and reading this from top to bottom.

December 7, 2009 at 6:50 pm
(1204) Hungryghost says:

To all you beautiful ladies that love anal I say God bless you and where the heck were you when I was a teenager and constantly had a woody a cat couldn’t scratch : )

December 8, 2009 at 7:00 am
(1205) fake name says:

anyone else noticed that these commenters have really bad english?

makes me feel bad by association :(

and i bet more than half of the commenters here who claim to be women are men.

i have seen anal in porn. find it hard to believe that women like it.

such is life.

December 8, 2009 at 7:10 am
(1206) fake name says:

“he keeps fantasying”? “i like it many times”? “Today they don’t longer sharing the violating of some sort of unwritten moral code or taboo for trying what perhaps please them”? and post #6? — you people have such terrible english. it makes me feel bad by association :(

half of the commenters here who claim to be women really must be men.

i have seen anal in porn. i find it hard to believe that women like it. unless of course they’re in to pleasing the man while experiencing pain.

December 8, 2009 at 7:12 am
(1207) fake name says:

oops.

December 8, 2009 at 7:16 am
(1208) fake name says:

And why must everyone say well-endowed? Can you not simply say he has a big dick?

December 9, 2009 at 12:00 am
(1209) Crystal says:

I had anal sex but with out any type of protection or oils etc …after 3 months I found out I was haveing triplelets..I also found out that past and aunt had had anal sex to and ended up getting pregnet with more then one baby at a time.Also now that a cusin did it was gana be pregnet but unfortunly she had a obortion but what happen then is she ended up haveing a bacteria and died after couple months.So take really good care on how u have sex.

December 9, 2009 at 12:07 am
(1210) Rob says:

Hi,
I never wanted to have Anal sex, but two womn i have know requested it , the first we did it totaly wrong no lube, and she never requested it again,
the second my wife, it took her five years of asking to get me to do it to loves it, she tells me after four kids it the only tight place left. any way use plenty of lube I’m sure you will find it interesting, if not pleasant and in the case of my wife extremely orgasmic I am sorry now for not pleasing her that way long ago…

December 9, 2009 at 12:49 am
(1211) love it says:

I actually have only tried anal sex with 1 man and i loved it. My current boyfriend and i have tried it, but his penis is larger than the other man i tried it with and we havent been able to succeed due to the pain. We both really want to, but are not sure how to proceed. any advice?

December 10, 2009 at 3:22 am
(1212) innocentplay says:

love it- the key is to open and loosen your anus to the point where it is so open and relaxed til it can handle something really large and deep.
i know its usually the guy who’ll slowly finger yer ass one finger at a time to loosen and stretch it to get ready for the penetration, but its actually easier to really loosen and stretch it if u finger it yourself, you have more control and can feel it out better, even on your own private time its a good idea to practice on yourself, especially right before u see him. find a comfortable place near a bathroom, have lube and start with one finger, start slowly, then wen u thrusted in and out enough and all the way in, lube the second finger,,it takes time, patience, deep breathing, muscle relaxation and persistence, dont forget to lube the WHOLE finger.
by the time u get 3 or 4 fingers fully in…im sher his dick can slide right in, itll b painless and youl love it!
dont b afraid to b in touch with your own body, its healthy
if u or anyone wants to chat: freeasabird711@hotmail.com

December 11, 2009 at 3:26 am
(1213) Cori says:

so i just recently turned 30, i have been married for almost 12 years and for almost 12 years my husband has begged and tried for anal sex, i refused, about two hours ago i gave in. and WOW was that great. i loved it, and can’t wait for it again, now i won’t say it’s better than regular sex, but holy crap was that great! feeling his big dick in my ass was awesome, and for the neighsayers out there, don’t knock it if ya havn’t tried it. and for the woman that have tried and not liked it, u get an a for effort, at least u tried. Men, u need to let ur woman read these comments to get her to let u, that was the most amazing feeling i have ever had.

December 11, 2009 at 12:10 pm
(1214) Jerry says:

I am a 9 years old.

December 11, 2009 at 1:25 pm
(1215) assman says:

i love doing girls in there ass. i love eating ass, i love when an anus is fisted and it is gaping or prolapsing, i eat the inner rectum i love watching women destroy there holes i love fisting and violating women, god im getting hard right now, im gonna go double fist my girs ass

December 12, 2009 at 9:19 am
(1216) Mr clean says:

I have done anal sex with a few girls and I have had no complains about them most of the time they request it also I have been the first Guy they have done it with but sometimes wen we do it they leave fickle matter on me how can this be avoided.

December 12, 2009 at 8:46 pm
(1217) soloist says:

I personaly enjoy pleasuring myself analy, even though the question is regarding women and im male i assume that its the same consept, just take it slow, use pleanty of lube and relax and there is no reason for you not to enjoy it.

Oh and before someone with nothing better to do with their time decides to coment, being a man and liking anal DOSN’T make you gay.

December 13, 2009 at 1:50 am
(1218) Roni says:

I love anal mostly because I have the BEST ORGASMS that way!!! Done correctly,,,mmm, HEAVEN!!!

December 13, 2009 at 4:31 am
(1219) Matt says:

“(1214) Jerry says:

I am a 9 years old.”

This is a Pisser, he is now mentally scared….

…I am 15 Male and a bit curious (Bi-Sexual), I have tried my girlfriends dildo in my ass and loved it whilst masturbating and wanted to know more about anal sex and why it feels soo good and more stimulation while I am masturbating? Does anyone know why it increases sexual stimulation for both men and women if enough lube is used and you are relaxed?

Cheers
Matt

December 13, 2009 at 4:08 pm
(1220) Luke says:

I am eighteen and therefore no the sitch,
anal sex is not normal, its where you poo you idiots.

December 13, 2009 at 7:13 pm
(1221) goodguy says:

I have anal with 2 different women in my time of having sex and the second woman LOVED vaginal sex and had regular strong orgasms, then the first time we tried anal she was out of control. I didn’t think female squirting was real, but it is – and this was the first time I’d ever seen it happen – and I know it was real from the color. Incidentally neither were with, shall I say, 3rd party lube, just saliva and it worked out quite well.

December 14, 2009 at 3:59 pm
(1222) misti says:

i just want to say if a man wants anal sex he really saying his gay!!!

December 16, 2009 at 2:54 am
(1223) ann says:

i’m a 19 year old woman, and my dad just came out at the age of 55, and i never noticed before, but it suits him so well. anyways, im all for trying anal, i’ve wanted to because i think it would suit me. problem is, whenever i get around to it, my dad pops into my head! worst. possible. thing. if there could be anything to kill the mood, i think that covers it. i just wish i could get it out of my head, it grosses me out, horribly, which honestly i think is a loss on my part, because i want to enjoy anal, minus my dad being in the room.

December 17, 2009 at 3:59 am
(1224) biggieh says:

anal sex can be pleasurable for males
but i believe it’s not what women want, it’s not the right way to make love, that spot is made for something else
and it was a huge amount of risky funguses and viruses, it’s not made for sex, just like a guy having sex with another, that’s not the way it should be, anus doesn’t produce lube as vagina does, it has really bad effects on woman’s body if done alot, in bad levels she may not hold for long and could poo anytime, it breakes the rectum’s muscles, and most of all, it’s not natural for normal women, they WON’T enjoy it…

for me, I think I love my girlfriend and I respect her and won’t do something to her that affects her badly just to have my own pleasure when i can have it in a better place and make her enjoy too ..

December 17, 2009 at 7:09 am
(1225) Farhan says:

Dear fellows
Islam is a natural religion, it stops from doing things which are bad for human health, as you all know that anal sex is not good for females so Islam dont alow man to do this sin, because if we do so then there will be no diffrence between human and animals.
Secondly i will also say that putting dicks in female mouth is also sin, because with the same mouth she eats,drinks and reads Quran,Bible etc ,so will it be fair that one make her mouth dirty ??????????????????????????????
Why Islam stops from drinking wine?
Ans: Because Islam is a natural religion and one of the reason is that wine causes problem to human health as heart attack etc

December 17, 2009 at 12:16 pm
(1226) biggieh says:

Farhan (Comment 1225)
1-Anal sex doesn’t make humans as same as animals, even animals don’t do such an unnatural thing.

2-Putting dicks in females mouth isn’t prohibted in islam, please come up with a proof from a good source.

3-Islam is a logical and fair religion, i think it’s the only religion that makes lifestyle better and more peaceful (I’m talking about real islamic religion not what bad people are doing after they understandmate the whole idea of islam)

4-Anal sex is a sin, as gay sex, and anything that LOOKS good but has many bad effects is prohibted (for example. using drugs is a sin, you can enjoy the good moment of it but then you’ll find that your whole body and life is screwed and wasted).

when I read about Islam I really find it interesting..
some1 challanged me to find an error in the whole holly book of Qouran, i think i failed, it’s just not like any other books ..

December 17, 2009 at 6:49 pm
(1227) SABERWOLF says:

I personally think that one should do what ever pleases them, if you enjoy a penis up the pooper then so be it take it up the pooper and don’t let anything stop you, i myself have been with women who actually wants it up the pooper, so i give it to them, and i’m talking about women from different nationalities, so if there are any women out there that wants to try it , look me up i will clean your pipes for you, (IT’S MY DUTY TO PLEASE YOUR POOPER)

December 18, 2009 at 12:23 am
(1228) the violator says:

1224- you are simply wrong about your statements about anal. a woman’s body was built for penetration and that includes her ass. you say that spot was made for something else well, her mouth was made for something else too. doing a woman in traditional form is fine too but the woman needs to good for anal too. it’s the best thing in the world to work her vadge for an appetizer before taking her ass for the main course!
for 1223- don’t worry about your father and what he may be doing. you need to focus on yourself. you say that you are curious and feel that anal would suit you. you are right. get yourself a dildo and some lube and get a vibrator for your clit. this would be a great way to start exploring yourself and your body. relax and have patience as you take it slow and see how the two stimuli can work together to bring you the most powerful and satisfying orgasms of your life.

December 18, 2009 at 8:51 am
(1229) James says:

I never had anal sex until my wife told me that she had anal sex with some former boyfriends. I was pretty surprised because she is modest about her sexuality. So we tried it and it felt great for me and she absolutely loves it. We have anal sex in the shower and can have multiple anal orgasms, it’s amazing! I’m definetly glad she told me about it.

December 19, 2009 at 5:32 am
(1230) Sto Kin says:

I’m a 45 year old single male. I have had anal sex in my adolescent years and early twenties, but then my interest in it waned. I was actually suggested anal sex by various girlfriends, who wished to remain virgin due to social pressures in my country. The first time a girlfriend hinted that we could have anal sex, I remember kindly refusing it mostly because I too young and inexperienced. I didn’t know what to say at the time to this girl who made the suggestion. Upon reflection, it’s plain to see she was trying to compensate for the impossibility of having vaginal sex. After her, I felt prepared enough to know how to handle such requests.

Later, more than five or six girlfriends offered anal sex to me without I ever mentioning it, to all of whom I obliged. I was clumsy at first but learned my ropes soon, how to prepare them both pyschologically and in terms of cleanliness, how to give pleasure anally and how to avoid causing deliberate pain or harm.

As I aged, due my choice of partnering with equal-age women, anal sex, which was once a necessity was replaced with your regular vaginal sex. Anal sex was just too much hastle with condoms, lubricants, preparations such as enema, etc. So, for many long years I totally forgot about it.

Then, three years ago I began to date a woman who had s&m relations in the past. She was actually a very dominant woman. I told her at the beginning of our relationship, which lasted two-years, that I too was very dominant, which was not entirely true. I only said this to prevent her from going all berserk-mistress on me in bed. It was sort of an equalizing move on my part. I told her I wanted a relationship of equals, which was entirely true. It worked, but occasionally, especially when she drank a lot, she was attempting to dominate me in bed. This was something which I never permitted no matter how much she tried.

As her random attempts to dom began to cause me concern about our relationship, I opened up to a female friend of mine. I told her that my girlfriend was acting up in bed, and occasionally out of bed as well. Very open-minded and experienced, she suggested I try anal sex with her. (Mind you, my girlfriend, although she was very a dominant character with a past of whipping and torturing and doing what not to her boyfriends, had an incredibly low pain threshold.) In her own words, “f*!king her in the a*s will settle the question of who the real boss is once and for all!” I told her I’d think about it and put her advice on the back burner.

About a month later, my girlfriend who occasionally liked to snort some white stuff up her nose, made an offer of anal sex to me herself, after consuming one night some of that white stuff. That stuff must have given her the euphoria and courage about anal sex. So we went about it for the first time in the shower without condoms. Of course, due to her zero pain-tolerance, she winced and screamed a lot but I was gentle as I could get. Although at that instance she confessed she got no pleasure out of the deal at all, she said she was ready to try it again in the future. A few days later, we did it in bed, after she gave herself rectal cleaning in the bathroom. This time around, I was deliberately forceful on her, and as she cried under me I realized she wasn’t shedding tears because of pain but because of the agony of completely surrendering herself to me spiritually. They were tears of parting with her inflated ego, her dominant self-perception. She said it was the first time she felt a man totally controlling and owning her. My female friend was right.

Anal sex did establish the roles between my girlfriend and I firmly. This may not be true for everyone but it helped our specific case. Thereafter, we had anal sex occasionally for the remainder of our time together. This was about a year ago. Since her, I’ve had several partners and anal sex was never mentioned with them at all but I’m open to it.

December 19, 2009 at 12:58 pm
(1231) Khandi says:

Just as I thought anal couldnt get any better and was quite satisfied with the heights my partner and I achieve. Last night I experienced another dimension of Anal love making.

Honestly no exaggeration………

Last night, my partner got me to a state, where I was extremely relaxed and welcoming of his genourous, pulsating in anticipation, member.
With his encouraging words and steady rhythm, he entered me gently and probing at first, then harder and deeper became his thrusts. My whole body rocked with spasm as I came, continuously for approx 4 mins. Although it seemed like eternity.

This was definately not like multiple orgasms, but rather like one continuous orgasm which went on and on and seemed to have no end?

My orgasm ebbed and flowed all over my body and was overwhelmingly powerful, that I envisaged some of my orgasm entering the environment (because my body was incapable of coping with anymore of the waves)
just above my head, in full view of my sight, but staying close enough to my body so both entities could be in time together.

I have never experienced anything of that magnitude before and still reeling and somewhat confused from the intensity of my experience.

I say to women unclear about Anal Sex, ” Categorically, It will be the most powerful orgasm you will ever encounter!!”

December 19, 2009 at 3:42 pm
(1232) Idiocy says:

“My fiance has been asking me for a year and a half to have anal sex. I finally gave in. He had barely penetrated before I made him stop because it hurt really bad. Ever since then, I’ve been in pain. It’s been over two weeks and it still stings and burns every time I have a bowel movement.”
yourtotalhealth.ivillage.com/sex-pain-after-anal-sex.html

“So the past couple of months, my boyfriend and I have been trying anal sex a lot and we both enjoy it but I think I may be having some side effects. After we do it, my butthole looks really red and weird, and I usually won’t be able to take a crap for like 2 or 3 days. and I get really constipated and then when I go poo a whole bunch comes out and it hurts just inside my butthole really bad, and I always am either constipated and have to force it out or I always have to go.”
answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080829134849AALnhQ6

December 19, 2009 at 6:47 pm
(1233) Oldztimer says:

My wife is 61 will be 62 very soon. We’ve been married over 40 years and through that entire time I’ve been trying to get her to try anal sex. She is no prude and has been a willing participant with me in many a sexual experiment EXCEPT anything anal. She has repeatedly made it very clear that her butthole is exit only. Yet, I’ve never give up trying to convince her to at least try.
To my surprise about a month ago after we had a long session of foreplay and oral sex and she had orgasmed quite a few times, she finally felt she had all she could take for the time being and rolled over and looked at me and asked her usual question “Ok, what do you want?” Now I know that my choices are just about anything except anal. Yet, I always start off by asking for anal. I was no different this time. To my complete surprise she said, “Alright, enough already! Do me in the butt and get it over with and I don’t ever want to hear about it again.”
I started assuring her I would be gentle, go slow and pull out immediately if she told me to, etc. But she just said, “Look, do it, get your jollies, if it hurts it hurts, just get it over with and don’t ever bother me with it again.”
I lubed her up, she took the all fours position and I slowly began to work a finger, then two, then three into here. I was surprised at how much she was able to relax as I did this. I finally slowly started to work in, if I felt her tense any at all I stopped until I felt her fully relax again. It took almost a minute but I got the head through the spincter muscles and slowly slid all the way in. I waited again a few seconds to be sure she wouldn’t tense up, she remained relaxed. I began to make very short and slow pumping motions, gradually increasing it. In about a minute I was pumping away fairly vigourously and she wasn’t screaming or tensing up.
My wife never really gives you much of any indication that she is sensing anything during sex but when she starts to orgasm she generally moans loudly or out and out starts to scream. My wife began with some deep moans then moved on to screaming, no pain, her pleasure scream. This went on for quite a while, well past what would have her shouting “too much” if we were stimulating her clit. Finally I came harder than I ever remember and stopped, we both sort of just stayed there panting and exhausted.
She said nothing negative, but I figured that was my one shot and it had been great. About a week later we were heavy into foreplay again and after she reached her normal overload point from oral, she fell back panting for a bit, then rolled over and instead of her old “what do yo want” question she said, “want to do me in the butt again?”
I didn’t need a second invitation. Another tremendous experience apparently for both of us. Again, no comments from her positive or negative after the fact.
Last night after we put the dinner dishes away, she hugged me and said, “Want to do me in the butt?” Now in over 40 years of marriage my wive has NEVER initiated sex in any way. She has never said she was in the mood or wanted sex in any form. I had to be the initiator in all of it, and her she was asking me to do her anally again!
I don’t know how much longer this will go on, but I have a feeling that it will be a long term thing.

December 20, 2009 at 10:23 am
(1234) MMR says:

Don’t do it! It hurts SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH!!! I tried the anal toys with my boyfriend, we did everything gently, used lots of lube, used enemas, and did everything like we were supposed to. I didn’t enjoy it, I don’t feel sexual stimulation in my anus, and I felt it was quite unpleasant. After all the anal stretching from toys (this was done over a period of weeks to get me “acclimated to it) we finally had anal sex. We tried it a few times. Oh, it hurt so much. I’ve had a kidney stone and it pales in comparison to the pain. After trying to have anal sex about 5 or 6 times (not all the same night, of course) I finally said enough is enough. I don’t care if everybody else is doing it. It hurts way too damned much. Why do it if it feels bad??? So now that I am married to a man who has a larger penis than my boyfriend had, I told him there’s no way I am trying anal sex. He’s fine with it. I have a really nice and tight vagina, so there’s no need for anal sex. I think people who HAVE TO have anal sex do it because the woman has had kids and her vagina is too loose.

December 21, 2009 at 3:18 pm
(1235) mega says:

im a 34 black male living in barbados,i 1st did anal sex when i was 16,she was 24 after watching porn i wanted to try so i ask her and she said ok and my god was it the best feeling i had ,i later did it again at 20 to a 45 year old white lady from the UK,o man she love my big blak cock up he ass,now i can’t stop i did over 40 women up the ass, there nothing like when a women gives her butt to you,mmmmmmmmmm

December 22, 2009 at 3:31 am
(1236) anonymous says:

Response to number #383 and all nasty ass girls pretending to like anal.

BOTTOM LINE: ANAL SEX IS FOR GAY MEN ONLY. IF YOUR MAN WANTS IT HE IS GGAAAYYYYY! AND IN THE CLOSET. TRUST ME! AND I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH COMMENT 383! YO MAN IS GAY IF HE WANTS IT THERE. I KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE. I’M GAY MYSELF! WTF. CHANCES ARE IF HE IS DOING IT TO U SKANKY GIRLS YOU BETTER BE DARN SURE HE’S SCREWING EVERY “MAN DUDE” AROUND TIME. LEAVE THIS STUFF TO THE GAY FOLKS.

December 22, 2009 at 3:53 am
(1237) anonymous1010101 says:

Response to number #383 & #1234 and all nasty ass girls pretending to like anal.

BOTTOM LINE: ANAL SEX IS FOR GAY MEN ONLY. IF YOUR MAN WANTS IT HE IS GGAAAYYYYY! AND IN THE CLOSET. TRUST ME! AND I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH AND AM IN FULL SUPPORT OF COMMENT 383 AND 1234 AND MANY OTHERS! YO MAN IS GAY IF HE WANTS IT THERE. I KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE. I’M GAY MYSELF! (I PRACTICE SAFE SEX ALWAYS BY THE WAY) BUT FOR REAL WTF. CHANCES ARE IF HE IS DOING IT TO U SKANKY GIRLS YOU BETTER BE DARN SURE HE’S SCREWING EVERY “MAN DUDE” AROUND TOWN. TRUST ME… LOL… LEAVE THIS STUFF TO THE GAY FOLKS.

December 22, 2009 at 2:29 pm
(1238) Pat says:

Wow, unbelieveable amount of comments!
Interesting article!

December 22, 2009 at 11:57 pm
(1239) PAT says:

i am 40 and am a women the best sex i hever had was anal. now for some resen i have problems having a ORG.I have been with the man for 26 years and i LOVE hem . He get’s up set some time’s because i do not come to ORG.

December 23, 2009 at 12:04 am
(1240) PAT says:

O CAN ANY ONE PLEASE HELP ME I AM AT A DEAD END . After a wile you can not fack it any more .

December 23, 2009 at 1:01 am
(1241) Jo-Ann says:

I’ve been having anal sex for a while with my boyfriend. We managed to get a new toy – 12×3 in my anus… We’ve been using it for over 3 months… almost nightly. He had fisted my anus too several times. Just for fun I got a beer bottle and we took several pix… kinda crazy, isn’t it? The only problem is that now I have fecal incontinence and severe diarreha and need to wear a sizeable buttplug. Because I am a big girl, the plug goes unnoticed. Anyone has had any issues with stretching?

December 23, 2009 at 1:03 am
(1242) Jo-Ann says:

Does anyone have a solution for fecal incontinence? We’ve been having anal sex with a sizeable toy (12×3) and now I have to wear a large buttplug at all times. Thanks.

December 24, 2009 at 5:54 pm
(1243) Caitlin says:

My boyfriend asked me and although i was not keen on the idea i said yes and im glad i did! it was fantastic if he starts gentle but after a while he can be quite rough! Fantastic! No harm in trying! :)

December 26, 2009 at 10:06 pm
(1244) MaskedMarvel says:

I’ve been married ten years to a wonderul woman who is giving in every way, except she refuses to even discuss having anal. I’ve tried putting my fingers there after satisfying her orally, but she pushed them away. I’ve tried rimming her, which shocked her (most women I’ve done adore having it done to them), and she told me that was dirty and not to do that again. I haven’t hounded her about it, but every few years tried to have a frank talk about her discomfort with it. She just finds that part of her body to be dirty and doesn’t want it touched or stimulated, period. Instead of driving her away by insisting on something she doesn’t want, I’ve dropped it.
However, life is short, and I don’t think I’m selfish not to give up something I’ve enjoyed so much in the past.

So, a few years ago I found a married woman who was unsatisfied with her husband’s lovemaking: intercourse, and that was it. He found giving oral distasteful, but expected it from her. However, she did love him and didn’t want to leave him. I met her and went down on her twice on the first date; I think she came a dozen times just from the oral, and returned the favor. I kissed her bottom and she got really turned on, and when I rimmed her she practically screamed, and let me do it for her for almost half an hour. She said she’d always wanted that, but no man would do it for her. When I asked if she was comfortable with anal she smiled and casually said sure, then rolled onto her side for me. I was shocked. I hadn’t had anal in almost ten years, and was almost shaking when we did it. I went as slowly as possible, but by the end was lying on her back, with my hands reaching around and masturbating her furiously while pumping into her ass.
I had the most intense orgasm I’d had in years. I stayed there for what seemed like forever, recuperating. I told her that my wife would never allow me to do that, and she smiled knowingly (having been deprived of fulfilling sex herself). We’ve been seeing each other for years now, neither of us wanting to leave our spouses, but getting from each other what we’re missing at home.
I have no guilt about it at all. I love my wife, but I’m not going to live my life without what I enjoy most in sex.
My married mistress feels the same way; I give her what her husband won’t, as much as she wants. If my wife finds out and leaves me, so be it. But it’s unfair to expect a person to give up their passion and desire, simply because you don’t want to participate in it.

My partner and I have anal every other time we meet; I try not to push it. But she loves it when I rim her, and that is almost as satisfying to me. But just knowing that is not something I have to give up forever, and I will eventually have it again, is enough to make me smile.
Life is short; enjoy it while you can.

December 27, 2009 at 11:07 pm
(1245) alice says:

I married a Greek guy and my father told me that some day he would ask me to roll over and have sex that way, but my father said never to do it. We got married and had sex three to five times a week for several years and finally one night he asked me to roll over and have sex that way. I said that my father told me not to do it even if you asked.
Then my husband said don’t you want to have children

December 29, 2009 at 6:06 am
(1246) jim says:

I am 60years old and my wife is fifty married for 25 years.on the wedding night my wife suggested that we should have anal sex but i refuse and got frighten after 20years of married life my sister in law told me how interesting about anal sex. so one day i gave a try with a 8 inch long vibrater. she felt no pain and really enjoy the job.after few weeks i propose to my wife to have anal sex and she agreed with out any objection, i apply some vesline and slowely enter my one to her anal. she took very easy as she had experince before.when i ask her about it’s pain ful to her she replied to me saying before she marry me she had more then 20-30 times with her her ex. boy friend.
now the days we both enjoying anal sex twice a week thanks to her experince and advice from my sis in law, ladies ,gentlemans in our old days no other than anal sex you can enjoy.

December 29, 2009 at 3:49 pm
(1247) Cathy says:

I’m also 60 yr young and after many years of not having a sex life due to a painful medical condition. I have re-entered the dating scene wondering how I could make this work. After reading all the positive feedback on anal sex. I don’t think I have a worry when it comes to the intimate question of,” will you sleep with me.” Only question now is how do you approach it with a new partner? I have had anal sex many times and can say it can be a very pleasurable experience. Maybe this is the answer for so many older people with the same condition but no yet ready to give up a healthy sex life.

December 29, 2009 at 5:56 pm
(1248) David Mavid says:

one time when i was drunk i was having sex with my girlfriend and then without thinking i tried to stick it in her butthole and she was like “NNNNOOOOOOOO!” so guess i wont be trying that again. maybe i should buy a 12 sided double dildo and let her stick it up my butt first then she’ll let me do it? my friend did buttsex with his girlfriend and all they used was lotion for lube, but of course his girlfriend is built like a refrigerator so she’s tough enough to take it in da butthoooole

December 29, 2009 at 7:45 pm
(1249) Albert says:

Hi everyone, I am a 26 year old young man I need some advise. I have been wanting to have anal sex with my girlfriend and she keeps backiing out. We did it once when we both had a few drinks in us and we both went wild. I guess when she is buzz it takes over her because she did things she does not normally do. Like suck on my cock and then sucking it and tasteing herself. I then decided she was in the mood for whatever and she let me cock her from behind and did not even resist it. It felt great to be nailing her in her back cooch; however, I did not end up finishing her ass, rather her mouth. I wish I could have felt the sensation of finishing in her ass though. Anyhow I figured there would be future times we would do it again. There was, when we were sober. I was enjoying it, but she was not into it and prefered to do it thru the vigina so I respected that and we did and I really could not get into it if she is not as well. Anyhow, I we have spoken about it and she prefer not to. I think I can still work her to do it again though. Anyhow, my questions or concerns are, and maybe a girl, ladie, or women would be best to answer these questions, please email me back at trojans3peat@hotmail.com for I really need to know the answer.

My question is, do girls cum from behind when having anal sex. I mean, do they get lubricated from there or not? I think they do, but I am not positive since I don’t have much experience there and was using lube that one time.

I here so much on this site about orgasms, but are these orgasms from the vagina, behind, or both?

Another concern I have is how do I know they won’t actually poop on my cock? I am sure their is some sort of routine b4 you have anal sex, but if you are unexpectedly doing it, how do you pre-prepare?

I have heard its good for the women to have gone to the restroom, not eat anything heavy aftewards and be well cleaned from there and of course, use plenty of lube.

Your response is greatly needed?

Thanks for your time.

December 29, 2009 at 7:51 pm
(1250) Albert says:

I have another question, my girlfriend says that anal sex could cause complications in her behind such as trouble with going to potty, is this true. Can it cause constipation or something?

December 30, 2009 at 10:39 pm
(1251) Gary says:

Regarding comment 1246, woman of 60 re-entering the dating scene, suggesting anal sex for older women who have medical issues preventing vaginal intercourse as a viable alternative if she does not want to stop having intercourse. So many older couples have this issue (lack of intercourse) and it can lead to divorce in otherwise happy marriages. Older men can buy Viagra or other drugs and end up using it with their younger girlfriends and dumping their wives. I agree that anal should be considered and tried, skip the marathon sex drugs, try to keep the flame alive with the one you love.

December 31, 2009 at 11:04 am
(1252) Gertrude says:

I’m 72 years young… :)
Although I am an old gal, I consider myself young and upbeat. I’ve tried many things in life, including anal sex. I simply love it, love it! I remember about 10 years ago how curious I was about it. While my husband was traveling on business, I decided to experiment it after lots of thinking… I decided to do it. I came back from work, took a shower, got some lubricants, took a polish sausage, warmed it up and kaboom!!! It slid it nice and easy. I did not know I could take it all, but it went in about 9 inches. The only drawback was the thickness of it. I think it was about 2 and half inches thick. After the in and out motion, my anus was on fire… but it felt great! The following night, I took another sausage and did a double dip! That was something else. When my husband got home I told him what I did and he was mad, mad. After a couple of days he went back to normal and asked me if he could try it on me. I agreed. Now we have 2 beautiful toys that he uses on me almost daily. I also have begun with fecal incontinence and would like to know if anyone knows if it can be resolved without a plug. Does anyone know? Please help. Thanks.

January 3, 2010 at 6:27 am
(1253) woww says:

I just tried anal sex for the first time 2 hours ago, initially it hurt at first, as my bf got more into it and started penetrating faster and harder it started to get more painful. Next time, I will be sure to use more lube and stimulate my clitoris.

January 4, 2010 at 7:24 am
(1254) Ralph says:

My wife and I enjoyed our first anal experience on NYE 09. It started with a massage then ice all over her body including her nipples, vagina and anus.
Suddenly I slipped a finger gently into her anus and she didn’t move or refuse. I took it out and slowly inserted my finger again. The whole time no lube was used. Just the wetness and the numbing sensation of the ice.
I figured I slip my penis in. Obviously a few times slowly then that was it. She lay there quivering on her back whilst I had the most intense time inside her tight and warm hole.
I played with her clit and she exploded into an orgasm that made her cry.
Interestingly enough she is a very conservative women that generally doesn’t like any kind of sexual contact but this was a first and I hope we enjoy it again.

January 4, 2010 at 4:24 pm
(1255) Cheryl says:

I am over 40 and had never tried it before until about 10 months ago. My husband has gotten so into it that he now fists me as my anus became more elastic. He had been fisting my vagina for quite a while and now seems to have a lot of pleasure of fisting both. I feel really full when he fists “double” and several organs happen. The only drawback to this is that my vagina and anus are too flacid for his penis, so I can only reach an orgasm with his fisting. A couple of my girlfriends were grossed out when I told them what we’ve been doing. Oh well! In any case, I need some advice regarding fecal incontinence that I’ve been experiencing in the last month or so. My anus is now stretched a bit at all times, about the diameter of a bottle cap. Anyone has a suggestion? I heard of buttplugs and am open to possibly wear one. It’s a shame that I could have to give up my anal sex. Too good!

January 5, 2010 at 3:32 am
(1256) to_each_his_or_her_own says:

I gladly oblige my girlfriend when – and only when – she asks for anal. It’s only about once a month, but she goes wild. And we both love when she does me with her strap-on. It’s like nothing I’ve ever felt, almost an out-of-body experience. Her strap-on rubs her clit so she orgasms, so we both enjoy it. Not for everyone, but we each love giving as well as getting.

January 5, 2010 at 5:53 am
(1257) Tara says:

I hate it…it hurts…my husband loves it but i dont….we dont do anal often but if we do its only wen he really begs me for it so i do it for him basically but yea thats my opinion…i dont like anal at all

January 5, 2010 at 7:49 pm
(1258) Michelle says:

JJ, (1104)

My gosh. From reading your comment, I’d say Happy New Year to you as well!!! BTW, go to hell!!

January 5, 2010 at 8:13 pm
(1259) Michelle says:

1109,

Hahaha, very funny!! Looks like Laura needs to take her plastic off of your ass. Admit it, you WANT a girl like me. Oh, we have something in common: we both love when OUR husbands thrust ALL of himself in us. Admit it.

January 8, 2010 at 11:01 am
(1260) On The Lam says:

My girlfriend and I enjoy anal sex occasionally. She comments on the “fullness” she feels. She prefers to be on top for anal. When she is fully aroused, and I gently pinch her clit, she goes into orbit. Her orgasms are almost violent. Complete trust and open communication are key.

January 8, 2010 at 7:07 pm
(1261) liam says:

michelle,

hi. my name is liam. i have a question. How do I get my girl to have anal sex with me? what works for you?

January 8, 2010 at 10:01 pm
(1262) Snoop says:

My friends and I have always enjoyed anal. I notice white guys seem to really like it, and their girlfriends enjoy watching my big black pole sliding it. After I bust that booty, the white boys don’t care what I or my boys do to they women, so it’s all good.

January 9, 2010 at 1:33 pm
(1263) Insane_Me_or_You says:

Why would you do it on the first hand ? Its like, “can you take food through ears or drink through nose?” May be, you can but is it necessary.

Stop please unnatural ways… we have polluted the planet and are all set to distort the human body (in long run) and invite more and more complications.

Someone gave example of Dolphins and so on in nature …. Are you a Dolphin ? Also, illustrated Kamasutra examples, Well…. where in Kamasutra they prescribe this, and even if so, so what ? its just one author’s opinion. Grow up, folks, we have bigger issues than this!

January 9, 2010 at 6:44 pm
(1264) Michelle says:

Hi Liam,

Of all the folks on this forum, you asked me? I will reply…I just hope that I’m the Michelle you’re referring to.
Well, communication is the key! Secondly, don’t rush into the idea of anal sex. Let PATIENCE take over. Be patient on this issue. Most women are delicate when this comes up.

I hope this helps. Good luck!

January 10, 2010 at 2:55 pm
(1265) charles says:

I enjoy both giving and receiving anal with my wife. If you do it right (go slow, lots of lube, start small) then it’s in some ways more pleasurable (for both partners) than any other sex.

My previous girlfriend introduced me to anal. I always liked to kiss/lick her ass and to finger it while giving her oral. One day while I was doing that she pulled me toward her and then guided my cock into her ass. Wow!

I introduced my wife to it after we’d been dating for about a year and she soon started asking for it regularly.

I’d never had anything bigger than a finger in my ass before about a year ago, but then I saw a strap-on video, got really turned on by the idea and asked my wife if she’d like to try it. To my surprise, she LOVED the idea and now this is a regular part of our lovemaking menu.

For anyone wanting to try it:

1) GO SUPER SLOW and be patient. Communicate! Keep asking the receiver if you’re going slow enough and make sure it feels good.
2) LOTS OF LUBE (KY is good, saliva is usually not enough)
3) START SMALL (tongue, pinky) and gradually work up – 1 finger until it’s comfortable and pleasurable, then 2 fingers, then scissor the two fingers and then you should be ready for a cock.

Have fun!

January 10, 2010 at 4:27 pm
(1266) trevor says:

Answer 22 was not correct. There is anal sex between some animals, and in any case what is natural. The comments that anal sex is not natural, well if we want to be that strick, then one could say oral sex is “not natural” as a womans mouth is not designed to suck cock and shall we say not vaginal intercourse except to produce babies only, and no fingering your woman or foreplay as this is “not natural and no touching breasts as they are for baby milk only. Where do we stop ? I love anal sex and in the past when I was in love with various women enjoyed it very much as just another act of making love to a woman i adored. Live and let live !

January 10, 2010 at 4:56 pm
(1267) liam says:

yes thank you. Tell me about how you do it.

January 11, 2010 at 8:04 am
(1268) Tito says:

Hi guys, are you sure once you open the back door, the front door will not be sad?

January 11, 2010 at 6:39 pm
(1269) Erick Madrigal says:

I did not feel anything special when I did it to my partner. I guess its purely psychological because there was no extra special physical pleasure at all.

January 11, 2010 at 7:34 pm
(1270) Michelle says:

Hi guys,

There’s nothing wrong with anal sex. The only time it’s WRONG is when there’s two men doing it! I mean, they want what I have.

January 11, 2010 at 7:56 pm
(1271) Michelle says:

Hi Liam,

First up, what works for me may not work for your wife (assumming you’re married). But, I hope it does. What my husband does is he will carry me to the bedroom. I find this very romantic!! I’m not telling you to do this but I find it romantic when my man carries me.

What he does is he’ll strip my clothes off and I his. I give in and fall captive to his company. I’ll be on top of him (69 style) and will put his entire penis in my mouth. I will be stroking up and down as he is sticking his tongue into me. Now, what blows me away is when he sticks his entire tongue in me…both anally and vaginally. I feel great and will forever argue whenever folks say that there’s no sensation on our butts!

Afterwards, we’ll kiss and began our love making. Most times, I can smell myself on his nose and lips; which I find very sexy!

He’ll stroke my butt (doggy style) and I mean hard. He loves when he is in command of me. But, I, personally, don’t feel right when I am on my back with my legs up while he is in the middle pumping me away. I love it vaginally but will pass when it comes to my anus. I mean, I stand 5’6″. How would you feel when someone is nearly 6’4″ pumping away? Let me tell you, it hurts!

Well, I hope this helps. You should make your wife satisfied because it does for me. Take care.

January 12, 2010 at 12:10 am
(1272) Tito says:

Hi Michelle,

You are really great. Your explanation is wonderful. If you are not married I would have proposed to you. Keep on sharing your experiences with us for our guidance. You are really lovely.

January 12, 2010 at 11:28 am
(1273) Tom says:

I am a married 60yr old virile man who recently separated after 35 yrs of a straight once a month 5 min sex session. Well my new partner is in her mid 50s divorced, and introduced me for the first time to the pleasures of anal sex.Obviously though we never spoke about her experience she had all the required knowledge and I took my lead from her reaction. As I am quite a big boy we used loads of lube and I just provided the rod on which she impaled herself. It took quite some time to get fully inserted but boy was it worth the effort….mind blowing says it all….the tightness made me climax as never before and her satisfaction was so orgasmic that she almost passed out. All in all a wonderful highly recommended experience but two bits of advice as former poster here have mentioned ….The female must want it and plenty lubrication…Enjoy

January 12, 2010 at 6:48 pm
(1274) Michelle says:

Hi Tito,

I am just being 100% honest with y’all. Believe it or not, but I do get that a lot…proposals; especially when my husband is away training.

I cannot help it, I am so in love with my husband that I express it on this forum; which may not hold a lot of credibility!

I will be sharing as I hope to learn something from y’all as well. It is wonderful to express your love to your spouse, isn’t it?

January 12, 2010 at 10:20 pm
(1275) Michelle says:

Hi Tito (1268),

You’d asked if anal sex will overcome vaginal sex (or to that nature)? Well, my answer is no.

From the “girl talk” I have with my friends, we all can agree that it will not. I mean, when my husband and I do it anally, I feel very submissive to him. However, when it comes to vaginally, I feel more in command. There are more positions you can do when it comes to the vagina…as I am limited when it comes anally.

My husband cums in me both ways, but, I feel better when it’s in my butt! I can parade around our home with his cum in me and I love it. I love it when I am getting pounded, getting butt stroked as he is thrusting in and out of me. I am a cowgirl and he’ll tell how he felt when I was wearing these jeans or those jeans, etc.

I, personally, feel great when he cums in me…as I feel it entering my butt. He may pry open and spread my butt cheeks to get all of himself in me. I am serious, it is great! I am sure all of Texas can hear me scream!

I hope I answered your question. Take care.

January 12, 2010 at 11:04 pm
(1276) thellrietian says:

I am 29 years and had enjoyed all kinds of sex. For me sex is not a single person game, it should be enjoyable for both the partners equally. So I had enjoyed every kind of sex – hand sex, oral sex, thumb sex, toe sex, vaginal as well as anal sex. After discussion with many of my female friends I learnt that females are mostly put in submissive position and than a man only moves in a rhythm that gives pleasure to him only. So I now do the opposite , I and my partner , have their equal share in roles , she rides me in the way she likes and she sets he own motion with me inside her , this lets her reach to an orgasm and once she feels relaxed , than I start my own rhythm. The anal and vaginal sex have been very enjoyable , and when she is having periods , we enjoy a lot of anal sex. I think females should have thier own movements while having sex to enjoy and get an orgasm. If u want to share more views , u can post me on all mail servers :)

January 13, 2010 at 12:05 am
(1277) Tito says:

Hi Michelle, I heard woman’s scream once, i believe it was you, hahaha, I really love the way you post your comments, thanks. I am 28 and still single, shall I try anal before getting married, and if doogie style is comfortable in the beginning?

January 13, 2010 at 12:23 pm
(1278) Michelle says:

I can’t tell y’all how many times i have made poo on the bed after my husband cums in my sweet tight Texas ass.But i just lick all the sweet taste up then we kiss each other and share our smell and taste…LOL.We look like we have been eating chocolate ice cream.No more marrriage proposals please!I know i am hot,but i love my husband.

January 13, 2010 at 6:50 pm
(1279) Michelle says:

1278,

Go to hell!

January 13, 2010 at 11:52 pm
(1280) Tito says:

Hi Michelle, I can wait for you.

January 14, 2010 at 6:42 pm
(1281) Michelle says:

Hi Tito,

First up, let me tell you that this is not a ‘dating’ site. And, please know that I am married and express ZERO interest in you. Please quit informing the world of your age and how patient you are.

In terms of your question, waiting for marriage is the best option. You should wait until you get married to have have anyway!

Take care.

January 14, 2010 at 6:50 pm
(1282) Michelle says:

JJ,

Please quit using my name on everything. I mean, do I know you? Please, just leave my husband and I alone!

Do you know us? Don’t display any sensitive information about us…if I think I know who you are. I am warning you. I will cut all ties with you.

Who else introduced me to this site? Rudy, leave me and my husband alone!! It’s not funny anymore. Find a hobby and get busy with a craft or something.
I HATE YOU (whoever you are behind the screen).

January 14, 2010 at 6:52 pm
(1283) Michelle says:

Hi Tito,

You should wait until marriage to have SEX anyway.

January 15, 2010 at 2:35 am
(1284) CORRECT says:

The main people who promote anal sex in the USA and Europe (and probably elsewhere) are the Jews who own and run the pornography industry.

These porn-pushing Jews encourage anal sex, homosexuality, and all kinds of other filthy things to lower the morals of the ‘goyim’ (Gentiles) who they hate and see as below animals – in this way they control Western societies.

January 15, 2010 at 12:34 pm
(1285) ShyGirl says:

I read some comments above from men asking more for a woman’s perspective, or how to ask a woman.

I’m a woman and I’ve been with my man for six years and we actually just tried anal sex for the first time about a week ago! After six years! I think it was something he was always curious about but I think he was concerned about how I would feel and so for six years…it didn’t happen. I was actually sort of sad about this, truth be told. I think if your woman really loves you that doesn’t mean she’ll automatically do it but she WILL be willing to sit and talk about your desires and I’d venture to say that even if she was against it she’d be sad that you hid something from her because you were nervous about it.

Basically he just sort of teased the area, I think to test the waters with me as it were one night. He was crafty and it got me thinking about and what do you know? A few nights later I was asking for it in bed.

It was uncomfortable at first, yes, but he listened to me and if I told him to flat out stop for a bit, he would. It’s about trusting your partner and having that relationship. Once we got going though the kind of psychological “dirtiness” of it really had me screaming. I felt like I was the sexy star in our own dirty movie! And he loved it and just knowing I was turning him on was a huge confidence booster for me in terms of how I felt about myself in bed. Now I enjoy it too.

I think this irrational fear for some also becomes, “Is it one or the other?” It’s nothing like that, it’s just another tool in the toolbox. Like oral, foreplay activities, etc., it’s just one more thing you can add to spice things up. We still have completely satisfying traditional sex. Or, “Will they judge me, will it be gross?” Listen, the same could be said about some aspects of traditional sex. And I really doubt while they’re enjoying some serious pleasure they are judging you, my goodness. I have more hang-ups about menstrual sex, myself.

I really think it’s about respect and openness. If there is something you want to try you need to put it out there. Initially I was reluctant but just the introduction of the idea really sparked my curiosity.

For me it’s all about trust, respect, going slow, and listening to each other.

January 15, 2010 at 3:03 pm
(1286) Genocide says:

Do women enjoy anal sex? It doesn’t matter. If you take a look at extreme porn out there, painful anal sex is a recurring and popular theme. Nevermind that anal sex is dangerous and leads to all sorts of nasty problems for the bottom partner. The viewers don’t care as long as it gets them off. They know it’s destructive, yet “anal destruction” is socially acceptable.

At this point, the only solution is … Sadistic sociopaths cannot be reformed.

January 15, 2010 at 7:03 pm
(1287) jon says:

Genocide is ignorant and intolerant. You probably march with the “god hates fags morons”

January 16, 2010 at 5:40 pm
(1288) Andrea says:

Each to their own, but I think it is unnatural. Everything on the body has a purpose… there is no purpose here… just pleasure it seems. Personally I think its a vile sexual act. And yes, I have tried it. Over Rated. I do not want to reach old age and not be able to keep my poo in either..so Its a no no for me..yuk. Makes me cringe thinking about it..just go to U tube and look at the Inside of the colon…vids, especially the ones with piles, enjoy all.

January 17, 2010 at 7:14 pm
(1289) Rudy d says:

michelle marie sanchez, tell me more about anal sex. yes, the 1st grade teacher who is also a gold’s gym aerobics leader. remember, i am your best bud. i knew I’d get you micha.

January 18, 2010 at 1:26 pm
(1290) Lindsay says:

I am a 26 year old female, been married for 4 years. I was always the one interested in Anal sex, not a “domination” thing, I just love the feeling. I had a former partner “toss my salad” when I was just 18. From that moment my facination in anal had began. Ever since then whenever I would materbate I would also Assterbate. I DO find it very enjoyable. I was the one who had brought it up to my husband and he also expressed an interest. We began working our way towards it taking a couple of weeks to get me streched. If you use a lot of lube (and I perfer silicone based) and take your time it can be the greatest sex you’ve ever had. But you must relax. Also my Dr. perscribed me some Lydocane Jelly which I did use the first time. It numbed the area just enough. I just wanted to say that some of us woman out there genuinely enjoy it, with zero pressure from our partners. :)

January 18, 2010 at 6:55 pm
(1291) Bubba says:

Hi Michelle(Micha)

Would love to be in your aerobics class watching that fine Texas ass shake.Please share more anal sex stories with us.Sounds like you are the queen of anal!Do you use vibrators during anal sex?Have you ever done ATM?What Golds Gym do you teach at in the Austin area?Look forward to hearing from you! Love how you teach the fine art of anal pleasures.

January 18, 2010 at 10:53 pm
(1292) Michelle says:

I really hate you, Rudy. So, were you JJ this whole time? Why did you do this to me? How could you do this to me? And, why did you change? I have ALWAYS thought that YOU were my big brother…but I guess I was wrong about you!

Just leave this forum and don’t utter a word about my husband. Leave me alone and don’t call anymore. You make me sick! I hate you!!

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