Do Women Enjoy Anal Sex?

wonderful, what more do u want than a penis inside your….great.try it smoothly

I have been with my wife for over 17 years. We started dating in college. She was a virgin at the time and very curious about various types of sex. WE had vaginal, oral and anal sex, and she really enjoyed anal sex, as long as I go GENTLY. We occasionally still have it and obviously she still likes it. Whenevber you have anal sex make sure the guy is lubricated and definately have him go gently so you dont hvae any rectal bleeding.

A boyfriend in college introduced me to anal sex. Until that time I had only had oral and vaginal sex. He was good sized, but after plenty of foreplay and lube I found that it felt amazing – just very “full”. Now that I’m married I so have anal sex with my husband and I’m able to achieve an amazing orgasm if I stimulate my clitoris while having anal sex.

u r lucky, it is very sweet, i like it many times.

I am one of those women who prefer anal sex. It turns me on like no other form of sex. My current boyfriend is very well endowed and I love the way he feels in me more than my average sized boyfriends. He hits spots I never knew existed!

Interesting forum!

I have read allot of the comments by these lovely ladies and it appears that by quick consensus that most women here stated that they do it to please their man.

So with that said if the man did not request anal sex of them they would not have anal sex. Being a man and having been with my wife for over twenty five years. My desire for anal sex started about ten years ago for some unknown reason. I have been the only man she has ever been with so it’s not like some have suggested to conquer a first again.

I personally really like it allot and well my wife does it to please me. That is really not a nice situation I would prefer to be in but it appears to work. I do find it interesting that men can have fantastic oral and vaginal relations with their woman but hell, we always want more.

Allot of times I feel guilty divulging myself in a sexual act that she does not prefer. Not sure what drives this but I have accomplished having this type of relations fewer and fewer times.

I do agree with what some have said as it being a TABOO and I am sure that men like myself enjoy it more we feel we are taking something that is not freely given. I think if it was in my case “ Yeah do me in the butt any time you want and I love it and yada yada yada .” Men wouldn’t want it that much. I think deep down it’s a control factor and when the control is gone the need for it as well is gone…

Please give me your thoughts.

A man who craves anal sex with a women is insecure. The desire is for complete power and domination, not a pursuit of sexual pleasure for himself and certainly not for his partner. If a man truely found his wife sexually attractive and respected and valued her he would not have to sodomise her. I say to wives, if youre doing it to pleasure your husband and you hate it, consider whether he truely repects and loves you.

While my wife and I both enjoy anal sex where I penetrate her, the best sex happens when she pentrates me. It took me years to get up the nerve to ask her to do me, but now we do it more often than any other sex act — her strap-on dildo is always erect, unlike my penis. I think a lot of guys who are penetrating their women are fantasizing about switching roles

There is nothing wrong with anal sex and for me it is amazing! The orgasms are much stronger and the feelings much more intense. Make sure you are clean, lubed, and relaxed. Give it a try!

My wife loves anal sex and often slides her butt plug in my anus during foreplay BJ then we are both anally satisfied at the same time, it achieves intense orgasms for both of us. Please use plenty of lube…..

Sex is an amazing thing in all its ways, but its up to you on what you want to try.I have done it and have it with a four of guys and only 3 i enjoyed it with.

if you are uncomfortable with the concept, chances are you will not enjoy the act. remember that it should be give and take. What f your partner is not willing to do certain things that only you may enjoy. Be sure you keep your sex life on an equal even playing field

After 3years of togetherness my boyfriend and i tried anal sex and truth be told it was incredible. we tried once before,fairly early on in the relationship but it was too painful (my partner’s a big boy) however recently I have enjoyed anal stim when having sex in doggie style
and decided that perhaps i cud try again. at no point did my partner pressure/me. lots of lube+clit stimulator. amazing!

I like anal sex. My friend laker and I do it all the time and sometimes my wife will oblige too and use the strap on on me. I think both men and women need to be open to this experience. I am normally impotent, so receiving anal sex is for me the only way to feel like a man. Or woman!

Wow on comment number 14. Taking it up the ass makes you feel like a man…. LMAO

My current boyfriend turned me on to anal sex. I don’t tbhink he realized what a maniac he was creating when he convinced me to try it. All I can say is: WOW!!!!!!! He was slow and gentle and well lubed up. He is quite big and he made sure to take his time. Once he was in “to the hilt” so to speak I had a very pleasant and “full” sensation in my lower belly. After a bit of time he was, well let’s just say he was very vigorous! I had an orgasm so intense I never imagine it could feel so good. Then feeling him come inside me…felt like a living creature was released in my lower tummy!

Doit!Up the ASS is Heavenly ! DOIT ! AND DOIT! But Lube up Well First ! and then doit deep . . . hard n fast

I am a 56 year old male. I am reading this trying to find a consensus of those who have tried anal sex. A conservative man, married for 34 years, with mostly a normal sex life, my wife and I never experienced it primarily because it was undesirable to her, and I respected her wishes. She considers it unclean and immoral. The problem is, ever since I was a young lad, young adult and now middle aged, I have been more stimulated by the female butt and anal area than I was the vaginal area. At this age, without the prospect of anal sex, I am beset with ED. While Viagra is an option, my interest in vaginal sex is just no longer enough to motivate me to do anything about it. I understand her feelings about it and she understands my motivations. Without any resentment, we more or less accept the absense of sex. However, I can’t stop my desires for it, even at this age, and I feel like I am going to miss out an experience in life that has influenced me all my life. Am I a pervert? Do my desires and fantacies constitute an unreal expectation. I hear so many comments by women with bad experiences, and yet many of the female comments in this section have been positive. What am I to think?

two questions. i’ve heard that women in quebec (i live in toronto, canada) engage in anal sex more than in ontario – both are provinces in canada. is there any truth to it? i want to try anal sex, how do i go about asking a woman to have anal sex with me?

I am 28 and have enjoyed anal sex from the age of 17. I saw one of my brothers prono tapes and it was happening on there and it turned my on so much I wanted to try it. I’ve never had a bad experience however, I would say, use plenty of lube and if you have a clit viabrator use that at the same time, it’s simply sensational.

Isn’t strange that you get more men answering your question than women?? I’m suprise no one has ever thought of “human waste aka shit” can be get stuck on the tip of the penis … I have not tried and never will. Men are all for it cos its tighter and for their own perverse pleasure. Where only a handful women claimed they really like it but with lube. Its just not natural … Your anus is not meant for sex full stop.

Firstly my unlimited RESPECT,VALUE AND SALUTATION to all and thier personel opinions.

1-WHY WE HAVE NATURAL LUBRICANT FROM THE VAGINA AND NOT FROM ANUS ?

2-ANAL SEX IS CREATED BY MAN AND IT DOES NOT EXIST IN NEITHER ANIMAL KINGDOM NOR PLANTS !

3-WE ARE SURE THAT THE MAN DOES NOT ENJOY THE PLEASURE OF SEX IN ANY OTHER FORM MORE THAN HAVING IT THROUGH VAGINA .

4-CREATIVITY OF POSITIONS AND STYLES WAS ONLY DESIGN TO FEEL MORE SENSATIONAL BETWEEN PARTNERS OF DIFERENT SIZES SO ON AND SO FOR BUT NOT FOR ANAL .

5-SEX IS NOT NEW TO HUMANS NOR RELIGIONS WHERE WE CAN FIND GREAT PEOPLE TOOK THE IMPORTANCE TO EXPLAIN ABOUT SEX,FOR AN EXAMPLE KAMASUTRA .BUT NON;I REPEAT NON OF THEM RECOMENDED ANAL SEX .

6-MORALLY NO OTHER CREATURE WORST THAN US .

I CONCLUDE,WHY SHOULD WE GO FOR AN ALTERNATIVE WHEN WE HAVE THE BEST OF WHAT WE WANT.

A MAN AFTER SERVING SENTENCE IN PRISON IF HE IS GIVEN A CHOICE OF VAGINA OR ANUS OR ORAL OR MACHINE OR ETC ?
ALL OF US KNOW WHAT HE WILL GO FOR.

THAT IS ALL FOR NOW.

LoverNATURE.

Dolphins, benoboes and flamingos have full homosexual relationships. The kamasutra depicts anal sex. The rest of your post is anti-sex dogma so I’m dismissing it out of hand. The question wasn’t “Who would like to regurgitate some conservative rubbish to make me feel guilty and dirty about something quite common?” Try to stick to the facts.

Mitch: I don’t know how you are gonna get around this but 56 years old is too young to just give up on sex when you are still sexually active. You aren’t a pervert you are just more adventureous than your wife. Please stop torturing youself about this.

To most everyone else: Thanks for telling us of your useful pleasurable experiences.

Luke

Based on research, anal sex can be very pleasurable for women because the rectum shares a wall with the vagina, and the sexual nerves are actually closer on that side, which makes the sensation unique, stronger and quite possibly orgasmic.

Women are just as excited as man to be venturing into the anal aspect of sex and know how it feels. Today they don’t longer sharing the violating of some sort of unwritten moral code or taboo for trying what perhaps please them. Sure, for men it’s going to be much tighter, although the pain for women is inevitable, is perhaps the thrill of it all

So, the overall satisfaction is based on your mental or physical position.

I tried anal sex for the first time last night. I have to say, it didn’t hurt, and it made me scream like a banshee! My husband was great and just did as I asked and it was a pleasure for us both. It was sensitve in new areas and we loved that it was a little bit naughty. We did use plenty of lube. It wasn’t anything like I thought it would be. I think I actually liked it more than my husband, though he says he’s game anytime!

Wow!
Thanks for sharing everybody.
I pressured a couple of girlfriends into it during University days, but it always ended it awkwardness and neither really enjoyed.
I’ve been in a stable, happy marriage for 10 years and we’ve begun exploring the intimate ‘digestive tract’ sex possibilities. Now I don’t know if the posts above are true or not, but now that I’ve a clean and pain-free technique for the intimate act of anal, our relationship is more open than it’s ever been.
When I penetrate that area, gently at first, withdraw and re-lube a couple of times, don’t be anxious, stop immediately if things get awkward… that woman turns into a different person! She’ll enter a state of perpetual orgasm and collapses at the end. If any of you have ‘been there’ you know what I mean.
Why would I ever cheat? To be able to give my life partner such a sensation, it fulfills me.

I don’t know about reciprocating… I guess I’m the squeamish one in the relationship…

Anal in monogamy –> consenting adults should do whatever they damn well please

Here’s to ‘full body’ sex!

MFD420
canada

I enjoy anal play. Pain is not inevitable for the woman if you a work into it by using fingers, first one and work up to 3 and use lots of lube. Breathe and relax. One way to really get into it is for woman to squat or kneel over man and very slowly lower herself onto shaft bit by bit, moving up and down in tiny increments. Man may help “aim” but should not push until woman is very relaxed and comfortable. In this position the woman has more control of penetration, and by facing each other they can communicate easier, enjoy each other’s facial expressions and have plenty of clitoral stimulation. Fantastic!!

Ever since my dear husband of many years introduced me to Euro-porn, which featured extensive anal pleasuring, we have enjoyed anal intercourse as an essential aspect of our frequent love-making! I recommend it for everyone.

My first wife and I explored anal sex, and found it mutually erotic and enormously satisfying right from the start. As nearly all proponents have posted, lots of lube, and start slowly. We were both young, and “university student rebellious” types at the time, which probably helped the anal adventure significantly. Unfortunately though, as we grew older, we grew apart (mostly due to work pressures). My second wife flatly refuses to go there, though that does not stop my fascination with anal. I would never seek outside the marriage – I am just not that sort of guy, and in practical terms, it would cost the earth to divorce. Being a bit of a fatalist, I believe everything that is meant to happen will happen for the right reasons, and in good time, so I just continue to wait, like Sylvester the cat waiting to catch that darned canary!

Hey Richard,

Get drunk or stoned together and ‘accidently’ massage the ‘forbidden’ area through her underwear. It’s amazing how contained women are about these things until they get used to the idea. It might take a year or so, but build up to in very slow, subtle steps.
It took me five years (mainly for me to get the courage and to get past the ‘what if she thinks I’m a sick perv’ stage)
Or, while performing oral sex (after a bath or shower), use your tongue on the area between the vagina and anus–but build up to it slowly.

By hey, if she won’t let you go down on her, the anal thing will not happen. You’ll have to stick to spanking.

Sodomy in monogamy WOO HOOO!!!!

MFD

My husband and I have been talking about and just got a DVD to help us start. I am very exciting about trying this, not sure why all of a sudden I just am into this idea. I don’t think I would consider it with anyone else, he is the best in bed and out of bed.
Anyway, I do have a question. I am very concerened about poop. I know it sounds stupid, but I am worried that when he goes into me that something else will come out. Or that when I am trying to relax and breathe that something will come out.
Help relieve my worries. Be honest, tell me what I have to do to avoid that.
Lisa

I would love to have anal sex with my wife. But she does not seem to be interested in sex enough to ever get to do it anally. I’m lucky to get it more than twice a week. Marriage has been the worst thing for my sex life. She use to have sex with me all the time. After marriage it’s not even an issue anymore for her.

I am 67yo male ,my wife is 60 we been doing anal sex for well over 40plus year and it only gets better with age the trick is lots of lube and love for each other and be willing to try new thing in your sex life

Comment 30….. Good question, I do not claim to be an expert. (I have had 3 partners that enjoyed this) Yes it can be an issue and obviously “preparing” is a good move, Most times it isnt and a shower after is always good.
Do not mix and match “holes” going from one to the other, this is very unhygenic. But for the most part your fears will not be an issue.

ladies, this should be your rule #1 with those anxious guys: you can’t poke it unless you are willing to lick it first

bathe/shower before and after, lots of lube (also helps coat the insides and block residual poop smears)

be patient be gentle do not rush (at first)

get an anal probe or slim vibrator to loosen things up first

sodomy in monogamy is the most intense thing that I’ve ever experienced

have fun y’all

franc

Wow…I never knew that so many liked it. I’m gonna keep track of this thread for sure.

Thanks
Beth

I am a very tiny woman and my husband is a heavy man. He has brought this suject up several times because he says his friends like it and he has also seen porn and wants to do this very much. I however told him I would think about it but really dont want to. However he has insinuated that after 5 yrs of marriage and our child that if I do not comply maybe we shouldn’t be together. Should I try this though I don’t want to to keep our family 2gether or should he just leave me alone about it I am really upset about this whole sexual act please help

I have been married a very long time and have not had a wide range of sexual experiences so anal sex was a completely foreign thing to me……. until recently. I had my first experience a few weeks ago. I must say the thought was exciting and I thought I was ready, however I it was a little harder to accommodate the size of my partner then I thought it would be….and we didn’t really get to complete the act. It was painful and I had bleeding for a few days afterwards — I’m guessing it is all part of the “breaking-in period” And even though it was not successful the first time, I’m willing to give it another try it the opportunity presents it’s self again.

i was reluctant to have anal sex because i have irritable bowel syndrome and am very anxious about the butt area. last night was my first experience with anal and it was the worst sensation i have ever experienced. my boyfriend is experienced with anal and used lots of lube but it was still awful and i would advise anyone to make sure you really want it before you let anyone near your back door.

i’m willing to bet that half of all marriages fail because of this kind of issue

by ’sodomy in monogamy’ i mean that once you have had satisfying anal sex with a partner, how could you ever leave it?

but be fair to both: you’ve got to get the passage ready of an extended period of time–fingers for ten or so sessions, tongue a few times, then a butt plug or small vibrator (yes! from one of those dingy little pervert sex shops!!), lots of lube always (remember the smears guys!), patience, patience, ….

it’s about building trust and submitting totally to another human being… soul mates….. it’s real! soul mates really do exist! and if you want him be yours, let him poke your heiny….but remember ladies –> he MUST lick it first! just hope he likes the taste of lube….;)

Anal sex may be enjoyable for most men but it may not be enjoyable for most women, at least initially. If the man insists on doing it, ask him to wear a condom, lubricate it and go in slowly. I am told there are more germs in the anus than elsewhere and so condom is a must to avoid infection. Lubrication is a must to avoid pain as well as internal injury which may or may not be repairable. Going in slow is also a must to avoid pain to woman and internal injury. All said and done, dont do it on a regular basis; it might end up with permanent damage to bowel movement of the woman. And if the woman does not like it or feels uncomfortable, dont do it at all if you really love her.

My present girlfriend hesitated at first, but with a little “playing” in that area got turned on to it. Now we do anal sex almost all the time and she has earth shattering orgasms. She has just begun to involve me in those great pleasures.

It’s fine not to be interested in anal sex. Heterosexual anal sex is nothing new–the hetaira did this in Greece and it was used by couples in the Middle Ages as well.

If you’re interested in anal sex, research the facts, use plenty of lubrication and go slowly at first. If you’re not interested in anal sex, don’t do it, regardless of stereotypial assumptions about “everyone does it”. Some people may enjoy it, but medically wise, anal fistulas, irritation, loosened bowel movements can all occur. You’re also more likely to expose yourself to STDs, especially HPV, which can cause colon cancer.

Do what’s comfortable to you–don’t be with a judgemental or demanding partner who can’t take no for an answer. Or better yet, if he keeps pressuring you for anal after you’ve said no, tell him OK–you’ve always been interested in using a strap on on his back door. A real open man is one who enjoys anal sex as both a top and a bottom.

Thanks for starting this thread.
I’d love to see references for hetaira in Greece and couples in the Middle Ages–info too vague to do a search. I have not been able to find anthropolgic evidence of female anal sex. There is some new data which sugggests that many common lubricants (KY and astolglide) tested on vaginas are destructive to rectal tissue, so plenty of lube might be counter productive. Never use a spermicidal jelly, they definitely increase odds of infection. Most research has been done with men who have sex with men even though there are 10 times as many women having anal sex as MSM (because there are many more women than gay men).

This is to Mitch from December 31, 2006:

Your post sounded very heartfelt and sincere, have you tried telling your wife something similiar to what you wrote? You could also gather information from a woman’s point of view, and both of you read it together. If her concerns are based on lack of information, you may be able to alleviate them.

It can be sad to miss out on something you have always wanted to do, and I hope everyone gets a chance to do things that are important to them. If you and your wife have a heart to heart talk, being open, honest, and loving, whatever conclusion is reached will hopefully sit well with both of you, especially if you love eachother.

I hope that you both find a great solution!

I’ve tried anal sex with a girlfriend at the age of 15. She didnt enjoy it because it hurt even with lube. My recent girlfriend sweares that it wont happed ever but I snuck a finger while having oral sex with her and she really enjoyed it. We normally have great sex, she says I pack more heat than any man she’s ever been with. She has always been afraid of things she’s never done but I think she’d like this experience if she only gave it a chance. Obviously I’d take it slow because its only her first time…after i warm it up with a finger ^.^ . My friends girlfriend highly recomends it and I can’t wait! For all the haters/haterettes I’m not trying to use this as a control factor, just something new to spice up our sex life. I’m 23 and she is 21…im way more experienced than she is so I’d like to try something new which she likes but doesnt have the guts to admit lol. Advice or suggestions are welcome!

sorry for double post! All I know is after i performed great oral sex and gave her a poke or ten she told me her body felt numb. Ive never heard that before + her screaming orgasims showed me her shyness cant hide her anal interests

Also on one occation I made her squirt while she was on top (Though i tend to do all the work while she is on top). It was like a waterfall which not every woman can do. Ive tried it with my fingers like Ive seen on porn but I havent been able to duplicate it. When my hand is in i feel a webbed bit of flesh and a large ball up north In primary G-Spot location! She is stimulated by both but which is the G-spot? I’d like to know where to focus so she reaches a rediculous orgasm and squirts like Ol’Faithful lol

I’ve had anal sex with three different men. I enjoy it most of the time with my current partner but sometimes it hurts a little. We watch a some anal sex videos online to get me going sometimes and he kisses my neck and gets me all turned on before he can slide inside me. He has to be lubricated otherwise he has a hard time going in.

I must say that more and more of my girlfriends are ask me for anal sex, some even expect it as part of our usual sexual routine.

Being a caring sort of bloke and having asked my girlfriends what their views on anal sex are I get two answers.

1. Depending on how the woman is built and her mood, anal sex hightens pleasure gives a more intense experience.

2. It’s a naughty girl fantasy / controll thing… or just fun to do something seen as kinky or diferent.

So at the end of the day as long as the two of you are honest about what you want and like and are caring it’s all good.

THOUGH I WILL SAY….

1.Guys be gentle, she must also be very relaxed and happy to play!
2.More lube the better….
3.Even more lube…
4.Did I mention lube?

Have fun yall…

2.

Firstly, to #44, the thing that stood out of all the threads, was your bracketed comment about gay men. Let me put you straight…there are more hetrosexuals that perform anal sex than anyone else, because a man wishes or has anal sex does not make him gay, and not all gay men have anal sex. Comments like the one you made shows how homophobic people are.
Anal sex has been practised for centuries (as stated by others)it has often been used as a form of contraception.
There are many good books around on anal health & sex, which will tell you about hygiene etc. You should never go from anal to vaginal sex (the other way round is ok) use plenty of lube, take it real slow (also stated by others) you may have watched a porn movie with anal sex and seen how they just go at it…what you don’t see, is how long it has taken those people to get to that stage, and don’t forget, they do it for a living.. and another important thing not mentioned by anyone else, is trust and communication…they go along way in an anal encounter!
Also, it is still illegal in some countries. Many people enjoy (and so they should) anal sex.
Those who make comments like ‘oh it’s only for outgoing things, not in’ usually shows how you have been brought up to believe these things.
No-one should be or feel pressured into performing sexual acts that they do no want to participate in.
And to #7 thread…because a man desire’s anal sex with a partner does not mean that he is insecure, and only wants to dominate that partner….I’m wondering if you have had a bad experience in your past life to make you feel like this!
I would also suggest for those of you who may not be in a monogamous relationship, to practice safe sex by using a dam for oral sex, especially when rimming, use a condom when penetrating anywhere!
And my final comment would be to those of you who desire anal sex but currently have unwilling partners….all good things take time!!
To #48…I suggest you communicate with your partner about ‘where to go’ ask her where she likes it, get her to show you how….communication and sharing that is part of the enjoyment of it all.

I love anal sex, just thinking about it makes my panties wet

anal sex is an incredible feeling. It was not until recently that I became involved with an incredible woman who I foresee marrying. Before i could even ask her interest levels, she stated that she thoroughly enjoys it; especially during her period. She told me I had to experience it. I have to tell you the feeling is absolutely amazing. She moaned so intensely from the pleasure being received. We plan on practicing it more often. I am HOOKED. Woman … you must try it. If you do not succeed the first or second time, do not say no. I hear so many woman say that they did not enjoy it at first. But then upon more experimentation, they cannot imagine their sex life without it now. Get aroused, use lots of lubrication, and go slowly. Once in and she is relaxed. The motion can begin. Have fun …. !!!!

definitely only in monogamy…i don’t want to think that my partner would play with other E.Coli and then bring it back to our bed
my boyfriend always uses his finger first, this is like asking if it’s ‘OK’ at that time (like if I feel clean enough and confident enough) and lube applied several times while working the area to get it ready for bigger things!

trust, loyalty, cleanliness, patience, and LUBE LUBE LUBE!!

on average we include an anal session about twice a month (like on a weekend with lots of time to be patient and cleanup and such)

i was never sure how popular it is as i do not discuss with friends, but this boards seems to indicate that safe loving anal pleasures are a monogamous couple’s best kept secret!!

Jilly

My husband and I have been having anal sex for about three months now. We tried it after a friend told me she enjoyed it with her husband. I was a little surprised by this. I started thinking about it and asked my husband if he wated to try it. After four or five trys we suceeded. I had the most incredible orgasm I’ve ever felt. My husband said he never felt anything so intense as cumming in my butt.

Since that time we have anal sex almost every day. We can’t get enough. A lot of days I think about having him in my butt. When he gets home I jump him when he walks in the door just so I can have him in my butt. My husband loves it to. That’s good because I only want him in my butt now.

my gf once asked me to do it ” you been dying for this for age havent you ” it was out of the blue
and i hadnt been thinking on it
but i must admit it was a fantastic night

but i would like the women tell us men how we should try to ask our partners
hoow to ask if they would like it

Hello. I thought I would pop by and say – as a man – that some of these comments are very opinionated. Almost as if some of these women enjoy making men out to be the bad guy.

Never had an interest in anal myself, although I have used a finger with my girlfriend as the pressure on her anus helps achieve a greater orgasm.

I am proud to say I am not a selfish man and I never think of my own pleasure during sex. My concentration lies soley on my beloved and I don’t rest until she is satisfied. All the man haters in here are obviously dating the wrong people.

I apologise if it seems as though I am crabby. I just don’t like to see all men tarred with the same brush. I myself am very loving and I have feelings.
Please accept my apologies if I have broken the mood.

I ‘ve had many girlfriends that so loved getting oral sex with a finger in the butt. They had the most powerful, intense orgasms I’ve ever seen! Some of them really liked anal stimulation in general, and always wanted to take an enema first to clean out some. The enema was a huge turn on for them too. A few had special nozzles, like inflatables and dildo nozzles that were a huge turn on for them. As far as what is normal sex, Masters and Johnson put it best by saying that “abnormal sex is anything that can’t be done” (which is nothing).

I am married divorced and remarried person and personally feel that man like and always try for anal sex very few ladies love to enjoy. Ist point that lady should be willing for that
2ndly she should be happy and more hot before performaning sex.
3rdly her position should be properly and well direct for easy entery
4th lube of good quality be used
5th enter just head of cock and then take out many times then enter half and then slowly slowly enter full in deep to avoid pain and unpleasent. during this touch fingure on coilters
it will be better if lady sit on head of cock and take in side ass. just after opening by finure or head of cock then come in motion and enjoy properly hard ass and hips sequeeze man properly. so u can enjoy more perfectly and completly. but frequest enjoy of anal sex may destroy urs marriage life so keep it up in limited and some occassion for more and more enjoyment

My wife of 10 years and I had first tried anal sex after 2 years into our marriage. It happened in a very suprising and unexpected way. One night I teased her about her tight jeans and she said, “I know what you are thinking about.” We walked into the bedroom and without saying another word, she took my penis and began rubbing her anus. I pushed and before either of us knew it, we had both had orgasms. We have anal sex several times a month and are guilty-free about it. It is our lives and we enjoy it.

My wife and I have always had good communication. I tease her a lot because she has an incredibly sexy body, especially her beautiful butt. In jeans, she makes me super hot. Anyways, she enjoys getting her anus licked. One night we both came home early from a party and were in the mood for sex. She was wearing a thong and she took my penis and rubbed it against her anus. I got real hard. She continued to rub and just kept looking it my eyes, we were both silent, and I began to push in and it went inside her. First time for the both of us. She was breathing hard due to her reaching an orgasm. I continued to pound. We both reached our orgasms. She told me she secretly wanted to do this for some time but was embarrassed. I admitted to her that I too was embarrassed to bring it up. Now we have it regularly about 3 times a week. We have been married for almost 10 years. Anal sex can be very enjoyable with trust and honesty.

right on David! same here … i could have gone through life without it, but now that it has been discovered, neither of us would want to give up this special thrill!!

I want to try to do this with my boyfriend but I don’t know how to bring it up. Last weekend when he was fingering me he put his finger in my bottom and I want more…It was great. So the question is how do I bring it up??

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Liz, don’t do it. Threatening to break up the family over ANY sexual act is on par with RAPE. Your husband is an unreasonable, horrible person if he’s trying to pressure you into it that severely. You can find better.

I think that anal sex is a great alternative for people in their teens (like myself) who are worried about pregnancy or who don’t think they are ready for intercourse. I haven’t expirianced it yet but I am seeing my boyfriend during July long weekend and I’m SO excited/apprensive about it. Especially after hearing so many “mixed reviews.” I am truly a child of research and am learning so much, these definetly seem to be the key things:
- The anus is very sensitve and has no natural lube, use plenty of water-based lube.
- *Water-Based* Lubricant is important as it won’t reduced the effecttiveness of a condom, which should definetly be used because of the bateria and because the anus is somewhat more likely to become infected with an STI.(HIV, etc.)
- The woman (or man) on the reciving end must be VERY relaxed, as this will make for an easier fit for.. well whatever is headed for your rear end. Lots of foreplay helps with relaxation.
Anywho, I hope I don’t sound like a complete idiot and that I helped someone out.
There’s my two cents.

I have had many experiences with Anal sex, I tried it in my marriage and it really didnt work out, it was very painful and i didnt like it. After my divorce I met a guy who was really into anal, I suggested i would like to try it again, He did it the right way, Ladies if you are worried about the potty on the penis issue, try giving yourself an Enema before hand, this will clean out the area and you wont have the worry of poo on the penis.
Yes lube is important, Yes you have to work your way up to it.
I have been with my partner for 5 yrs, he had never had anal sex, i suggested it to him and he doesn’t actually like it as much as vaginal but he does it to please me.
So you see there are men out there who arent pressuring their women to have it, Us girls like it just as much as guys do.
People need to realize we are creatures of pleasure and we look for that next step in achieving it.
i say partake in as many pleasures as you can, you only live once.

Katie and Redda,

You two should get together and write a guide on this for adult females (and males too, I guess).

One has the questions, the other has the answers. And you both have the MOTIVATION!!!

sodomy in monogamy =)

My husband of 19 years is not interested in sex more than every few months – if I am lucky. I recently started having an affair with someone who asked if I would try anal sex. I am considering it….

Even dogs are smart enough to know the right hole! Disgusting and I do not believe women enjoys it. Women who enjoys it simply wants to please the man in their lives period!

I have been married to my husband for 20 years. I never knew that he likes anal sex until one day few months ago we were doing it doggy style and he tried to put it in there. I said ,honey, wrong hole and he replied” I want to put it in there” It was so painfull and I bled like I just lost my virginity.The problem is he tried to do it with out any lubricant. I think he didn’t think he needs it. The next day I went to the store and get some lubricant and do it again and it was good.Last week he tried to do it again but with out the lubricant, i couldn’t finish it cuz it was painful….believe it or not he can cum so quick while doing it the back door than the front door. Maybe because it’s really tight in the back door.

Plenty of comments…All valid..except for number 22

My first time ever performing Anal sex with a woman was at age 22. I had always wanted to try it but was always to nervous to ask. My partner at the time had just tuned 18.We were young and very curious but we started off with vaginal sex. As things moved forward, She was the one who asked if I wanted to try this taboo act. I was very suprised and excited at the same time. I am pretty sure that we both had better orgasms from it. Some women in my life enjoyed it,some… not so much. I think the key is to respect your partners limits. If they arn’t into this don’t push the issue. No pun intended!

I love anal sex, especially in between class breaks with my extra naughty students

2-ANAL SEX IS CREATED BY MAN AND IT DOES NOT EXIST IN NEITHER ANIMAL KINGDOM NOR PLANTS !
I suppose the all caps should have been a good indication, but this is simply not accurate. anal sex exists in *plenty* in the animal world, for one. sheep, monkeys, dogs, in both hetro and homosexual context.

two. plants?! PLANTS?!

I love anal. I prefer it actually. I think everyone should try it. You don’t know what you’re missing.

I’m a 49 year old female and have never had the privelege. I’ve wanted to try it as long as I can remember. It looks like I may have an opportunity soon and I can hardly wait!!

Some good comments for both the pros and the cons.

I’ve recently started researching this topic because my boyfriend (who has experienced anal with two other partners previously) has been grappling with this issue.

I have a ton of gastrointestinal health issues including Irritable Bowel Syndrome, have needed a colonoscopy by age 25, and have been prone to UTIs (despite all precautions). Furthermore, I have never really been interested in anal. I can’t even watch it on porn because it makes me so uncomfortable!

We have a very active, adventurous, and frequent sex life, including plenty of oral for both of us. However, I don’t want to lick his anus, and I don’t want anal sex for myself. I would be perfectly fine never having my anus licked. He hasn’t expressed an interest in being poked, only in penetrating me.

He insists that he “thinks {I} would enjoy anal, and just don’t know it.” I’ve seen this posted by other guys on this thread.

But I’ve had my “salad tossed” once by previous partner when I was intoxicated, and I’ve had a finger inserted partially before. I did not take any pleasure from the insertion. And I did not enjoy being licked when I was sober.

I feel really pressured to give him this because he is unsure how to deal with his problem (he admits it’s his hangup, not mine). I’m worried that he will resent me or be unhappy that I don’t want anal. He says he has to “deal with the fact that {he’ll} never get anal again.”

I’m leaning towards sticking to my answer of “no” for penetrating me anally. I was a solid “no” on licking him, but I did read about DENTAL DAM. One health website recommends it to avoid contracting a STOMACH VIRUS.

Other helpful information and concerns to consider:
1. Many websites recommend Astrolglide in combination with Latex condoms.
2. Many health website insist using a condom for anal to avoid bacteria and disease.
3. If licking or putting your mouth on an anus, use Dental Dam or clear kitchen wrap to avoid contracting a stomach virus.
4. Anal sex can result in tearing of the rectal tissue and bleeding which leaves “open gates” for bacteria, viruses, infections, cystitis and STDs. It can also cause permanent damage to the rectum and colon, in the worst case.
5. The RECEIVER is the one AT RISK for damage. As the receiver, it’s YOUR health at stake.
6. Anal sex can also result in fistulas, irritation and loose bowel movements.
7. Finally, most medical websites say: IBS + Anal Sex = a REALLY BIG MESS

So if you are willing to risk it, and you take all the precautions and it’s something you want…great. Hopefully knowing some of the risks will help.

You shouldn’t do anything you don’t want to do or be bullied into it.

As a open minded guy I have no interest in Anal but if others want to then fine.

Just be careful of injury and infection.

My girlfriend does not want it-so why should I force her?

And no I don’t want it done to me!

omg how can u ppl love anal sex…my boifren is crazy bout it…its painful u ppl…..

I feel that maybe I’m gifted in a weird sort of way! I understand the “ins and outs” so to say, from all veiwpoints. I’ve been sexually active since 14 (and I’m not even 30 yet), and every since my first experience with anal sex I not only feel in love with it….but I’ve never had a problem making a women feel comfortable enough to enjoy anal sex. I like what I do and I do it well!
There were a few that would not let me anywhere near the bootyhole…, thats alright, we still had fun. There has been times where she let me, but I stopped because I saw it was hurting her too much.
You can’t be greedy when it comes to anal sex, “it takes 2 to make a thing go right”!!! I’ve have been several of ladies first anal experience, and most of them get can’t get enough of it!
Funny story, I had one of my ex-girlfriends friends call me wanting tips to help her enjoy it in her relationship!!
All I’m saying is, if it is approached the correct way from start to finish, almost anyone should enjoy it!

My wife and I tried it this weekend and in the 15 years of marriage, she has never had an orgasim like that. It did take time, slowly working the fingers in and out, that was so erotic, that it made me cum

My husband gives me an enema before doing it. You need to try it.

Christie,
Can you please tell me how he does it and what are the benefits. My wife was extremely tight and it took about 30 minutes before I was able to enter. I know that normally in the past when my wife has an orgasim, she gets really wet, but when we tried anal sex, she actually quirted a stream of juice, is this normal?

I am a 31 year old straight woman and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years. Before being with my boyfriend I had stimulated myself anally during masturbation, but felt embarrased to ask for this with a man. When my boyfriend began to touch me in this area it was extremely enjoyable and I find gentle anal sex gives me the most incredible orgasm if combined with clitoral stimulation, much better than vaginal sex by a million miles. That is my personal story, but each to his or her own taste. Just for the record, I have anal sex because I want to, not because my boyfriend coerces me into it – my desire is as strong as his. I find the view that women cannot enjoy anal sex of their own accord without the notion that a man has to suggest it unliberated and insulting.

Mitch, you can have anal sex with me anytime you want!

Its your ass, no one has the right to tell you what to do, if you want to try it do if you dont then dont simple as that. My personal experience is, I was introduced to it by wife, i was not keen, afraid of hurting her, not a chance she loves it ! and as hard as I can manage, ( plenty of lube). Those who say it’s not natural, neither is flying put we still do it.

I am a male who has had anal sex with a few ladies. Never have they not enjoyed it as much as I do. I personaly think a women enjoys anal sex in ways she cannot enjoy it with out it. I have had my ladies on there tummy with me in there ass and a vibe in theri vangina. Lots of kissing holding and really being close. This goes on for a while then she gets to the palce where she is wild and wants to be ramed hard and then it happens. She has an amzing climax. But it is not jsut a physical thing if a man knwows how to give a lady anal she feels really close to him and vice versa. It can be very romantic.

I’ve been married to my wife for 10 years. I’ve always fantasized about her gorgious butt. We tried anal soon after we were married, but couldn’t get it in (even with lube) and she said it hurt, so we didn’t try it again for a long time. A few months ago, we tried again and she figured out a better position to get it in. It felt fantastic for me, very tight, and very erotic being that I had fantasized about her butt for so long. I had to go very slow, because she was very tender. She wanted to do it again the next day, and about once or twice a month every since. Now she has improved to where she wants me to give it to her hard and fast. I get off in like 60 seconds this way. It is also great because we don’t use any birth control (due to various reasons) and so normally I can’t just get off inside of her, but I can with her butt!

I started anal by myself ist to help dilate my anus and help with hemhorroids.Worked great. Then I liked bigger dildos for a bigger stretch. Not gay ,my wife doesn’t like anal and I’ve given up on her.Its not a power issue just something I enjoy.Our marriage suffers .Separated for a while now back together.Given up the toys but not turned on with normal sex.She is judgemental and not open to anything new.This issue is divisive for us.Best to fool around than hurt myself anymore. Had surgury before to remove foreign object.Its easy to get obsessed with anal desire.

I’m a transgendered person, normally (and genetically) male, sometimes female. All my life, most of my sleeping dreams I’ve been in my male persona, but at least one third of the time I’ve been female in the dream. This has been WAY before puberty and there was no eroticism in the dreams.

However, by the time puberty hit, I had the hots for women(both aspects of me). Curious, I had to try anal masterbation to see what it would be like to have something inside me. It was wonderful!

Presently I am 44, married to a wonderful woman, we have pretty vanilla vaginal and oral sex as male(me) and female(her), and we enjoy it immensely. REALLY.

She knows all about my feminine side and is actually supportive and gives me clothing/appearance advice occasionally when I crossdress.

My feminine side also has it’s own sexuality which my wife knows ALL about, she’s not into that as a participant but that’s fine, we’re such a good match otherwise it’s nothing to quibble over.

Basically I satisfy myself femme-wise by anally masterbating wearing sexy clothes and listening to pretty music such as Enya(sp?)and I love it. It’s like treating oneself to a long hot bath or massage. It’s also akin to Goddess worship by enjoying ALL feminine aspects of myself including the sexual side.

My wife knows I do this and actually lets me do it whenever I feel the need. I would gladly share it with her but again, she’s just not into it. I don’t pressure to DO it, and she doesn’t pressure me not to.

So, I say all that crap about anal sex being non-natural or power-complexes by men over women, male insecurity, etc, is nonsense. There are always going to be some men who are jerks and want power and control over women, and unfortunately, the popculture and porno industry portray and support that section of men. I AM NOT ONE OF THEM!!!

Anal sex can be beatiful, intense, subtle, enjoyable, relaxing, energizing, etc. It’s also clealy NOT for everyone, neither is mint-chocolate chip icecream. I’m tired of those who denigrate it by being abusive practitioners and I’m tired of those who denigrate it by portraying it as something negetive. It is what it is and what you make of it.

I want to tell anyone who is curious to try it, well lubed, with a condom, know your partner, take your time and relax and enjoy it. If it’s not for you, you’ll know it, if it is, you’ll know it.

-Thanks, Rachel

I’ve read most of the post on here and 90% seem to be from Men. It is amazing how much Men are willing to lie to convince women to try anal sex.

Women do not prefer anal sex. Women are typically coersed into anal sex by their partner. A woman doesn’t normally have a prostate, our bodies are not made to enjoy anal sex. The anus actually tears, unlike the vagina which is made to stretch and endure drama. However, an abused women can be made enjoy anything. The self destructive behavior of low selfesteem can make a woman do anything for the adoration for a man; even eat his shit if he requests. That is too bad.

testing

i’ve been with my husband for almost 20 yrs… we’ve gone through phases where we have lots of anal sex, little or none. most of the time i really enjoy it and have explosive orgasms- with the help of a vibrator or him rubbing my clit. the woman must be relaxed, the guy should go slowly and use tons of lubrication! these things cannot be stressed enough. unfortunately i do have IBS and sometimes just don’t feel comfortable with him “going there”. an enema wouldn’t always work in my case, but i’d still suggest doing one if you’re worried about a mess. if a mess occurs, let him clean it up… it just goes with the territory guys =P we’ve found that anal sex makes us feel so close, like we can do anything together. other than that i’ve felt i’ve had the control over HIM
not that he had it over me. but maybe its because i know how to *move* and make him crazy. enjoy honey! i love you
BIG.

in response to andik5, my beautiful wife of almost 20 years. anal sex was in the begining very one sided because although it felt great to me, we left her clitoris out of the game. BAD idea! we now know the “ins & outs” of anal sex & it is a wonderful part of our sex life. it is amazing how explosive her orgasms are with backdoor play & proper clitoral stimulation! for a long time this was the only way she would orgasm during intercourse. when she orgasms while i’m inside her butt it’s intense for her & the sqeezing involuntary contractions by her spincter muscles are OMG incredible. it’s of course important to use plenty of slipery lube ( we like “Wet” ) & make her very relaxed & ready. licking her clitoris & va-gay-jay & a gentle rim around her anus is a good start. gently inserting a finger into her bum while orally pleasing her clit is always a welcome start. from experience it is easiest penetrate her with my penis with gentle pressure from up above her anus & once my head meets her perininium it just slides in. then it’s a matter of repeating slowly in & out an inch @ a time until i’m all the way in her. after that it’s either off to the races or a slow steady build up… depends on her level of excitement. we feel so close when we “go” there. it’s like giving all of ourselves & being naughty! as for positions, give em all a try. for us, with my lovely wife on half on her stomach, with left leg bent up & out to the side is the best. i’m able to reach around & rub her clit with my fingers. once we “get” it she moves with me, pulling me in to the hilt & BAM, it’s amazing!!!! cumming in her butt is also a wonderful feeling!
we have been apart for months because of a relocation & will be together next weekend for good again. i can’t wait to reunite & have some great sex…. all kinds!!!!! i love you andi!

Well, I can actually speak form both sides of the coin. I am a hetero male, and I love to both give and receive anal.
I have never pressured my partners, it has nothing to do with control or insecurtiy, what kind of crap is that!
It requires trust, communication, and intimacy, and builds these into the relationship as well. Patience, gradually building form fingers and tongue, to small toys and up, allow one to relax and adjust. Lots and lots of lube, wehn you think you have enough, use more. Waterbased Slilquid Sassy is fantastic. Not only are the feelings of penetration, fullness and G or P spot stimulation out of this world, but it adds a new, and much deeper, dimension to the relationship.
In short: it’s not dirty, it’s not evil, it doesn’t hurt, if done properly, it can add spice to the relationship, and last but certainly not least, it will give you mind blowing orgasms.
In response to all you mindless dogma espousing, purtiannical sheep…get thee to a monastary, and keep your vacuous comments to yourself!

I havent thought about Anal Sex b4 but I found my self full with curiousity & really want to try it!
My g/f had never had it before, she is also willing to try
I will try & tell u folks — I will have my beloved g/f post her opinion too
there is nothing bad about trying sth new –i will use all the advices of the guys above

cheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeers

This is now becoming an issue with my boyfriend and I. We’ve been together for about two years. Have tried it a couple of times (with lube and without), as soon as he starts penetrating, my muscles tense and it hurts so we’ve never gone ‘all the way’. The other night “it slipped” I tried to relax but the pain was horrible and it made me bleed. The weird thing is that when I watch anal sex it gets me really excited, I even fantasize about it. I think I would really enjoy it if it didn’t hurt so much. Why do some women experience more pain in this area than others? does it get easier the more you try? this is something i want to experience but without the pain. any other suggestions besides using more lube?

dhaturastar~

what about a couple of drinks to relax you a bit before trying? the “keys” to pleasurable anal sex is relax, lube, relax, lube… be very excited! do you have a vibrator? use it while he SLOWLY PREPARES you, with a finger. in fact if you can climax once before he even goes there the better off for you. there is a product it’s called Anal Ease, it numbs you up a bit, you could get some and try it? i would say the reason some women have more pain/pain at all is because they aren’t prepared, they aren’t relaxed. you must not tense up. i have to tell myself over and over to RELAX, be “open”. and my husband and i have been doing it for yrs… it’s the same everytime, but you will learn to make yourself remember not to get tense.
it takes practice. but is so worth it! you could watch it and masterbate… get yourself more ready for him. that’s fun =D

best of luck to you!

~andik5

HELP – my boyfriend wants me to try anal sex, I am really frightened to try this, we get on really well and the sex is great but he keeps pushing me to try this. I am only tiny 5′2″ and an english size 6, he is over 6 foot, and huge in the willy department. Oh god, I feel like just calling it a day and sacking the whole relationship and walking away. I did it only once before with my first boyfriend and he told me he would stop if it hurt, he did’nt, and held me down until he had finished, and it really hurt. So I’m carrying a lot of fear from that first time. I haven’t told my boyfriend about this experience. please help before i walk away from this otherwise very perfect relationship. what do i do to stop it hurting?

liz~

have you explained to the current boyfriend what the previous boyfriend did to you? he raped you. you have to tell him AND be able to completely TRUST him.

since this is such a “personal” subject,
anal sex i mean, i have to ask a personal question… do you have a therapist, have you dealt with the rape?

~andik5 (i am female 36 yrs old, have been raped/assulted too)

oh lawd. got that right andik5. have tried an anal. and yes it hurts like just after not during, sez my girlfriend. but maybe the next time, just like the vagina, it gets used to it, u knw what i mean? just lube it for xo and tell him be gentle lol.

I have to say, this has been so helpful to me! Prior to my current boyfriend I had tried anal sex two other times, and did not find enjoyment in it at all. When my current boyfriend wanted to do it I was less than enthusiastic, and uncompromisingly uninterested. He assured me I would be begging for it one day. (He was very lucky we didn’t break up that night!) Well what do you know, but since that fated night I have grown to enjoy our anal sex sessions. My orgasms are intense and longer than during traditional sex. Yet despite how much I have been enjoying it, it still felt dirty, and I found myself feeling guilty for enjoying it the next day. After reading the women’s comments about the enjoyment they have found in anal sex I feel I can let go of feeling “slutty” and “dirty” for really enjoying it. Thanks so much!

hell yeah ur right ;p but one thing bothers me though. is it “dirty” enough to catch some diseases coz i aint wearin condoms. someone pls answer. and i hate buyin condoms. i have my reasons. and pls dont ask. lol. can someone help me with this one

following up comment #95, i have been trying anal sex with my gf for 6 times in the last 10 days!!! to be honest i have no special feeling about it except it was tight (as if she were graping my willy) my gf however thinks it was nothing special too it wasnt painful tho (thanks to the enormous tips above)!
we did it for 6 times to relax and get ourselves used to it (guys above said u gotta get used to it to be able to enjoy) but really i/we still find nothing special about it!
we turned to our classical sex which gives us skythundering orgasms ..
guess anal sex is not for us but it is for sure others main pleasure!
i think it has much to do with ppls psychology than their gentical desires

I’ve read all the comments about anal sex, and i found some to be very helpful, and some not to be. i got to admit the fist time i did ask my wife to try it cause i wanted to know what it feels like at first she did not want to, i let it go the one day i don’t know if it’s because she could read it in face or from my gestures, she decided to give it a try we did , as Cen said it was tight but did not like it as much as i did the vagina she got a way of tighting her vagina that i would not trade for anal sex but every time we have sex she always wants me to do her anal i do it and take pleasure it it because i can see how much she enjoys it but if i had the choice i would not do it again because i feel like I am hurting her.( any comments anyone).

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why would u think that ur hurting her?

comment105. why would u think that ur hurting her?
because he is hurting her! try to picture someone sticking a 1.25 inch pipe in to your butthole & visualize the feeling! (he should be kind enough to use lube and go slowly)

does it hurt buddy?

al~

hell yes you can catch diseases by not using a condom during ANY type of sex. and anal has the highest risk, so get yourself some condoms. be smart. protect yourself and HER.

~andik5

Well my wife and I have the best conversation while we’re having sex normal or bareback. She always tells me what she likes, and sometimes even if she likes it if it does not feel good we try something different after reading last night’s comments she and I had a long talk and we’ve decided to keep doing it I’ve come to realize it’s not about my wants, but HERS and HERS alone, if it makes her happy that her hubby does that for her then I have fulfill her needs and mine which is first foremost to please HER
PS: A HAPPY AND SATISFIED WIFE = A HAPPY HOME

andik5~ FRANCOIS~

we do have plenty of nerve ending in the sphincter/rectum cavity (and perheps P/G spots in there) –not everybody know they can enjoy the stimulation of the area due to many reasons/restrictions i.e. cultur, religion or personal prejudices.
a receiver must train him/herself to focus on the area and enjoy.. gradually (quite fast actually) it becomes essential part of his/her sexual life!
people who do not train themselves wont really enjoy (with/without a partner)!! they might have never thought of that at all, sometimes!
many cultures has mentioned similar scinarios through history but there is no scientific proof.

quite surprisingly, my gf asked me tonite to give her anal after oral and not vaginal anymore!! i am shocked –but that is not a proof to my theory anyway!

any comments guys?

HELP …. i dont really know how i feel about anal sex i DO get excited when i watch anal sex in porn ,and i am a little curious about it ,beside , it seems lots of people here enjoy it a lot , i dont want to miss the preasure, but i never tried real anal sex,,it just happened something when i was with my first boyfriend , when we were having sex, he kinda tried to insert a finger into my arse , it hurts like hell but i feel a little excited about it , i think i wanted more but i asked him to stop as i couldn’t stand the pain , now my current boyfirend, he always tells me he wants to try it , but ,, he ’s not experienced either , he’s never tried before and he is big .. I am frightened but willing to try one day soon , so .. please give us any tips suggestions as both of me and my bf are new about this..

I am amazed by the closed mindness of lots of people here. Criticizing people for doing anal sex using the old “it is not natural” excuse is typical of bigot, religious people.

Anal sex is not natural? what has to do nature with men? do we follow nature like ants? aren’t we evolved creatures? do you know that in nature ill ones, criplled ones, weak and old ones are just left dying by other animals? this is NATURAL. So what? do you think we man should act the same?
should we change mate each new season like most animal do? is monogamy natural?
Please stop using the non-existen nature argument. We are Homo Sapiens Sapiens. We do what we want, not what nature tells us. Otherwise what would be the difference between us and baboons?

Anal sex can be a perfectly safe activity as long as you take the necessary precautions. You should remember that your anus and rectum do not have their own natural lubrication nor the kind of elasticity the mouth and vagina enjoy. That is why anal sex must be practiced with care. There are three things that should always be used whenever anal penetration is taking place; lubrication, condoms TIME TIME TIME,and common sense. Liberal amounts of lubrication lubrication (LOTS OF IT) are necessary because the rectal wall can be quite sticky and is subject to tearing and lesions if not kept lubricated. (KY) In addition, the anus and rectum are narrow, so lubrication is needed to press inside smoothly. Condoms are another necessity. Enemas, douches and other cleaners will not be able to get all the germs and bacteria out of the rectum. Not only is anal sex facilitate the transmission of STDs better than any other form of sex, it can also cause urinary tract infections and other bacterial diseases. Latex protection is essential, and can offer additional slickness. Finally, use your common sense. The rectal wall curves and is thin so long, hard objects can tear your insides. Don’t wear any jewellery on your hands, and cut your fingernails if HE IS going to put he’s finger in your anus. Most importantly, he has to respect your body. Don’t push the limits and go only as far as you feel comfortable.
IF YOU WANT YOU AND YOU PARTNER MIGHT WANT TO SIT DOWN AND READ TOGETHER REMEMBER TAKE AS MUCH TIME TO READ AS IT WILL TAKE YOUR ANUS TO RELAX .
I DO NOT RECOMEND BUYING TOYS FOR NOW BECAUSE IT TAKES AWAY FROM HIM KNOWING HOW IT FEELS GOING INSIDE YOU, AND ALSO TO UNDERSTAND AND FEEL THE PRESSURE OF YOU ANUS AROUND HIS PENIS SO WHEN YOU SAY STOP IT MEANS STOP. HAVE FUN (:-

Omg, Anal sex was the best thing that heppened in my life! When My boyfriend asked me to have anal sex with him I immediately agreed and we did it with no lube! After an hour of intense anal I had such an explosive orgasm I almost knocked him off of me!

I love itttt!!!!!

I tried to have anal one time before but even with lube it hurt and we stopped (different b/f). I am young (28) and have a small amount of hemorrhoids. Is this going to make it hurt worse? Plus, when should you do the enema, like the morning of or an hour before? I’m scared it will hurt again but he really seems to want to do it. With his finger first he says. I’m not opposed, just scared. Kinda like the first time you have vaginal sex, it’s very nerve racking. HELP!

you sound like you 13 yrs old. One advice you are not ready to have sex and talk to your MOTHER.

scared~

i think you should talk to your doctor before you have anal sex… it just sounds like a BAD IDEA if you have hemorrhoids. jmho

best wishes,

~andik5

Im 20 and ive been with my gf for about 5 years now. we tried it once but it was too tight and it hurt her so since then we just stuck to vaginal/oral. She has not expressed desire although I would be down if the opportunity arose, however I do agree that it should be totally up to the girl. Having a sexual relationship doesnt just come with anal, so no one should expect their woman to just give it to them. I saw a comment above when a husband was threatening to leave the relationship if she didnt have anal. All i can say is get the hell out of that relationship because that isnt really love. As for all the people coming on here judging people who “sodomize” their willing partners, you are wasting your time. Some women like it, some dont. If they like it, have fun, if they don’t leave them alone. Just ask yourself this. Would you be down with HER sticking a strap on inside you?

my previous girlfriend introduced analsex to me when i was in college. i confess that i enjoy it so much. i’ve been married for 7 years now and my wife doesn’t even want to think about it. actually she turns paranoid whenever the subject surfaces! the desire grew stronger than ever & that elude me to cheating.. i cheated once & i continued cheating whenever i feel a strong desire for anal sex!!! now i don’t ask her for that anymore,,,, and i wounder does that make her any happier?

It feel great the wet penis

Comment by triquoise — November 1, 2007 @ 7:40 am

i’d just like to say to YOU triquoise, that you’re extremely immature. i feel sorry for your wife and i hope she comes to her senses and finds someone who really LOVES and RESPECTS her, because YOU obviously DON’T. or maybe you could just GROW UP, remember your WEDDING VOWS and change your ways. treat her like the blessing she is.

(ANSWER TO TRIQUOISE COMMENT 118).

I HAD A DOG , A CHOW MIXED WITH GERMAN SHEPARD HE DIED 8 MONTHS AGO I STILL HAVE HIS HOUSE HIS BOWL AND HIS TOYS. I WAS THINKING MAYBE YOU CAN COME OVER AND REPLACE HIM AS THE DOG THAT YOU ARE DON’T WORRY I’LL MAKE SURE YOU GET FIX BEFORE YOU MOVE IN YOU KNOW SNIP & CLIP SO YOU’LL REALLY BE LEAVING LIKE A DOG IN A DOG HOUSE BUT WITH NO BALLS.

Hi all, as one that has lived with a full anal fetish since the age of 15 (now 30) I thought I’d throw in my 2 cents.

My first girlfriend of 6 years from the age of 14 introduced me to anal, which I quickly became obsessed with. She then proceeded to use my obsession with anal sex against me. Fights would typically end with “I let you do that to me, so you will obey.” Okay, maybe not “obey”, but that was the running theme. Looking back, I finally realised that I never once forced her – any time she said it hurt, we stopped. It was her own issues that I got caught up in (the story is obviously a lot longer than what I’ve written here). And boy, did I get caught. For over 10 years I couldn’t look at myself in the mirror – literally. I’m an attractive guy, yet I was completely disgusted with myself, and was completely sure that everyone else knew it too. It took me years to drag myself out of the depression (now 31) and lots of councelling.

Anyway, I’m digressing. To be honest, after living with it for so long, I’m not even completely sure what motivates it, even after lots of councelling (apart from the obvious physical niceties). I’m pretty sure it’s about wanting the woman to be completely open to me, but it’s more than that – my fetish/fantasy is that the woman enjoys it as much as I do, like it’s the ultimate pleasure. So yeah, it’s all kinda mixed up for me.

All that said, I’ve just had the very wonderful experience of introducing my current girlfriend to it for the first time, and I’m happy to say, she really likes it. I’m totally amazed. She says it’s a mix up of vulnerability and physical tingling all over.

Something else I’ve realised (that I should have started doing a long time ago). Guys, it’s okay to be nervous, just make sure you go even slower – she will know you’re nervous and get nervous herself (unless she’s the one instigating, I’m guessing..)

Thank you sincerely to all the open minded and supportive people that have posted on here. Wow, there really are some bigots out there…

Cheers, David.

my first anal attempt was terrible i was drunk and sorta forced into it i didnt want to do it but didnt want to get in to a fight so just let him do it . it did not feel very good. then i started thinking about it for some reason even though i didnt enjoy it the last time. and about a month ago i let my new boyfriend do it an i just loved it it felt totally different in a great way and i crave it alot it was awesome i fully recommend trying it

The main reason these responses are so inconsistent is because women in general don’t really understand how to make anal intercourse really pleasurable. one often mistaken element is that not only should you use lube, but you need to be stretched as well (scissoring with two fingers particularly). I have experienced both unpleasurable anal as well as VERY pleasurable anal and the difference is obvious. One thing I’ve noticed however is as long as you are relaxed, it doesn’t matter how fast or slow you go. But generally once you’ve relaxed it in, its more pleasurable when its fast and hard. Unlike the vagina, the anus is VERY flexible.

I personally am new to sex in general, but I find anal to be incredibly comfortable; you just have to know what you’re doing.

I don’t wish to sound like some vile womanizer, but the women I’ve been with have all loved *mutual* anal sex. My friends, all of whom are lesbians, love anal with their partners. I absolutely agree with the many people who’ve said tons of lubricant is essential, otherwise it’s a very selfish man causing a woman unnecessary pain. My girlfriends have had tremendous orgasms from anal sex, especially if their G-Spot is stimulated at the same time by a dildo or vibrator in the vagina. Being penetrated by a woman wearing a strap-on is nothing short of wonderful and is an essential experience. In my experience, women f***ed in the ass have far more powerful orgasms than even having a man go down on them. Giving a woman an extended anal tonguing and licking oftens relaxes her anal muscles. And that is profoundly erotic in and of itself.
The fact that anal sex of any kind (straight, gay, or with tongues, toys, or penises) doesn’t fall under the heading of traditional, bourgeois, reproductive sex is what many people to loathe if not at least feel uneasy about it. With plenty of lube (and love, of course), anal sex shouldn’t hurt at all (unless pain is something you are into.)

I would like to say that once you try it like many women you will probably love it.I am a 30 year old man and have tried it with at least 4 women and the one girl that I tried it with was against it until one night I was giving her oral and she let me use my tongue on her tush and inserting my penis inside of her after doing it more and more and she would use her fingers in her vagina while I would be in her tush
the orgasms were AMAZING for both me and her we aren’t together anymore but once you try it you will probably love it as long as it’s slow at first I also would love to have a hot orgasm in her tush she loved it.

I am a 34 yr. old woman and it took my husband and I over 10 years to try it (even though I had fantasized about it much longer) – now that we have – it is amazing. We have been together for so long, I feel so comfortable and the erotic feeling it sends through my spine is indescribable! Tips: Make sure you’re relaxed (NOT TENSE), horny!, and some good old Vaseline does the trick. It feels spectacular and you’ll want more. Trust me! Have fun – that’s what sex is all about anyway!

I love anal sex, it turns me on so much and it makes me cum so quickly. I tried it before with previous boyfriends and never really enjoyed it but now my current boyfriend and I have it all the time. I cant get enough. Relax and try it!!

Continue having anal sex. You will soon start using diapers.
There is supposed to be a sphincter at the anal opening. When this is overstretched, whether through unnatural sex or manual dilation. it becomes permanently loose and you become incontinent of feces.
Unlike the vagina, the rectal muscles are not as resilient.
I still don’t understand why people will not appreciate and enjoy natural, complimentary anatomy of the female genitalia, but stick their…up the sewer. yuck!

I have had anal before and enjoyed it but what concerns me is the health risk, much like the comment before me i am worried about my tush being permenently loose.

Im a 21 year old guy.

Had plenty of girlfreinds and none of them ever have asked me to do them up the bum nor would i want to. I get all the thumbs up and A Starts without going down choclate avenue.

Ladies If you prefer anal sex over normal sex then then i guess you’ve never had a man that can hit your G-spot.

in response to john who wrote the post #130…

are you a doctor? where did you get this
information from?

omar? try getting her G spot, her clit and being in the “chocolate avenue”. now
THAT’S one unforgetable earth shattering
orgasm for a woman!

andik5 i would … but then i think about what comes out of “choclate avenue” i just think ewww…. Maybe im a bit too hygenic eh?

My first wife and I started having anal sex ,when we were dating and thru out our marriage. I’m liked consumed with the idea of giving my present wife multiple orgasms,and then having Anal sex but my wife says I’m to wide for her and she’s afraid it going to hurt to bad but she does like me penetrating her with my finger and rubbing she clit while she is giving me head,(69).
There’s just something about kissing, and biting her cute little ass and licking her Anus , while she is giving me head!
I think she is as consumed about giving me head as I am having Anal sex with her. I need some help from the Ladys on how I might succeed, in giving her another way of having amazing orgasums !

omar… i guess this is just a subject that is “to each his/her own.” you shouldn’t be forced into doing anything you’re not comfortable. sorry if i seemed pushy.

other john who wants the ladies advice… maybe you should take your “blessing” of being wide and accept
your wife’s anus has a limit =P

You are all either fake, liberated people, or just damn crazy. either way, you have my respect

Ok I have read this list of responses, and I must say. First I am 31 years old and have managed to talk many women I have been with into trying anal. Notice I said talk them into it. Of 14 women I managed to get to do this only one woman actually asked me before I did her. We spent 1.5 years together and near the end of the relationship she asked me to and it was too painful for her it never came up again.

My first wife knew I wanted it and did so to please me quote “please me” of all the 14 women I have shared this with

NONE i say NONE enjoyed this in the manner that I did.

And before you say I just didn’t do it correctly, I research everything before I attempt it.

Lot of lube …. patience ….. slow start ….. setting the mood … you name it

None of it matters for the woman, if they tell you they enjoyed it then I am going to say 90% of the time they just really really love you and are just trying to make it good for you.

Because I can just about bet anything it did nothing for them at all

my 2 cents

FYI after I come to this realization I don’t ask a partner about it anymore

If it comes up fine …. if not …. it needs to be pleasurable on both sides …. this subject isn’t in every experience i have ever had

best of luck to you all

Neil

I just love the feeling of a rock hard penis moving in and out of my anus

gross, i hate anal sex. it’s just so disgusting. missionary style is all I need

I tried to have anal sex with my self last nite with the handle of the glass sqidgy in the shower… i lubed it up with sorbolene and worked it in , it felt good , i was just getting a hard on and than i felft a rumble in my bowel … before i knew it i had taken a crap in the shower cubicle and had a hell of a mess to clean up ,,,, i an not so sure i want this to happen to my wife in our bed when i finaaly convince her to try … any ideas on what went wrong??

use an enema before hand. her too =)
nice and clean!

Well I Be, Ain’t never heard so much crap in all my days. You guys know good in well ain’t no lady wants no rod up the wahzoo! You young whippersnappers try anything to get your rocks off. In all my born days I ain’t never heard of such rediculus stuff. Butt plugs, anus grease, what the heck! Take it from Pa, If you look her straight in the face, I mean straight in the eyes, & be a real man. A real Husband, & give it to her the way a real man should, you want require none of these new fangled ideas of butt sex. Grow up, love your lady, honor & take care of her needs like a real man! If you young whippersnappers were half the man I was back in my day you want have to be a doin such things to please your woman. Sincerely, Old Codger

I tried buttsecks with my ex for the first time. Now I am engaged and my fiance is demanding it, so that he won’t feel like my ex got something he can’t have. (By the way, we engage in frequent 2-way anal play…so it’s not like he’s asking for something that would be off limits for me to do to him, and that’s how it was with the ex…A selfish lover, but I loved him for some reason.) Still, I don’t think that’s fair, because I didn’t find full anal sex pleasurable when I tried it. I told my man that, and he retorts by saying that if we only do it once, that’s enough. I don’t want to feel forced or pressured into anal sex, and I tell him all the time he’ll be able to have buttsecks with me when I’m comfortable with it, but all of his pressuring makes me feel less and less comfortable. I don’t feel like this is creating a good foundation for a lasting marriage. It makes me feel like he is just looking forward to putting his penis in a hole no matter my wishes. Any thoughts on this situation?

my advice is marriage counseling… we went for it before we got married so we’d have “issues” dealt with. that’s my
two cents!

best wishes =)

I have to tell you that I am a woman in my early 40’s and have found anal sex to be very orgasmic. I have an awesome guy that makes me have multiple orgasms during anal sex without needing vaginal stimulation at all. This is a rareity but a very unbelievable sensation. If you haven’t tried it – what are you waiting for?
We both enjoy it thoroughly and no one is just doing it for the other. The satisfaction is very mutual.

“The real man is not the one who can love a million woman but who can love one women in million different ways.”

so I heard that sometimes women poop after anal.Is it true? How often does it happen.

I always take a big crap before I engage in analcourse, that way my hubbie always gets fecal matter on his member.

I have a question regarding the timing of the enema. I love giving and receiving anal with my boyfriend (he does too). He was new to it … I wasn’t new to anal but it had been many years since I had a willing partner. Anyway, my question is what is the best timing for me to give myself an enema? The first time I tried it, I did so about 1-2 hours before we had anal. All seemed well at the time however, later that night and the next morning I still had the hershey squirts. Thank god I didn’t during the session! So, how far in advance do you hose out?

I think it was a couple months ago that my fiancee and I tried Anal. A past boyfriend and I attempted one time, but my fiancee now is a little smaller then my ex, and it didnt really hurt all that much. My fiancee used to joke around with me about fingering my butt, and did a couple times, but it always just felt uncomfortable. The first time we did it was during sex, we were doing it doggy style and he wanted to see what I would do, and pushed it in a little, I told him no, and a few minutes later I decided that we needed to do something new, and it really couldnt be all that bad, so I told him to make me cum again [I usually have multiple orgasms during sex, the most I've ever had was 40 in a 3 hr session] he did, and we used a lot of lube, and he went slow. We did it one more time, and then we havent done it since. I think it was one of those things that we just wanted to try, just to say we have, and if we liked it.. well, good for us, but neither one of us was that interested, I dont think. The first time I ever really got into anything anal was during oral when he accidentaly licked a little too far back and noticed that I gave a little moan/gasp

I just want to thank everyone that has been honest about anal sex. My girlfriend and I have been sexually active for almost a year…she’s actually my first and am hoping to be my one and only. A couple of weeks ago by accident while grabbing her ass during sex my finger went a bit too far and well since then it’s been the best sex we have ever had. I am so amazed by how much a little bit of the finger during penetration can affect the act. Anyways she was honest with me and has always had a fantasy of trying anal sex, I was trying to do some research to make sure that I got it right so that she was pleased and I didn’t do it wrong. So thanks for building my confidence with this and for everyone else that wants to bash this…I can only agree with you if a guy forces, but some women want it and unless you only use sex as an act for procreation like it’s done in “nature” then shut the hell up and stop judging people who are enjoying themselves for then you!

Very interesting to read all of these comments. I’m a man in his mid forties. My wife and I have been married for 20 years. Great to find this post while doing some research. I’m intrigued by the idea of anal sex..mostly because of a similar situation to comment 152.

During foreplay time when rubbing my wife’s butt and the moving to caressing her clitoris, she moves in such a way that my hand will come up to her anus. This happens in multiple positions when I’m caressing her clitoris, to the point of some brief finger penetrations. She really expresses pleasure with this.

As open as we are about sex. I think neither of us ask the other about the anal sex because we somehow think it is taboo. Any ideas how to proceed? Communication is probably the best step on this one.

the diaper argument is an urban myth and whoever said it should educate themselves on the topic before babbling some nonesense.
To anyone that has been curious about anal sex i highly recommend this book “The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women” by Tristan Taormino, theres also a porn / documentary film by the same woman with exactly the same title, however the book is better imho
Enjoy

i had an ex a few years ago and we tried ananl.it was awful,it hurt me so much my eyes watered and i felt i never wanted to do it again.
then a few years on i met a guy with a smaller ‘member’ we tried it. it was totaly pain free, but also pleasure free, we tried it a few more times and still no joy so i just told him it hurt too much and i didnt want to do it any more, he persistantly kept asking to do it over and over everytime we did doggy,until we broke up. now the guy im with. i was a bit worried to do it with at first, but we tried it , and oh my god its amazing , i think 90percent of the time its me that instigates it, as soon as i feel his member sliding up and down from my ass to my clit, i just want it there and then, and the very rare times that i dont want it and he instigates it , i just tell him, not tonight love, and he agrees, he puts no pressure on me at all………
so basically, it can be good or bad depending on the trust you have with your partner, the respect he has for you and how you at that time feel,
remmeber the first time you had sex, that hurt, that needed you to be relaxed and you needed trust etc, just treat it like that and youll have no orobs !! xxxxx

I have been out with a lot ao ladie’s and each time i have tried to have anal with them it’s been a no no i dont think i am that big at 26 cm erect and 17 cm in circ so all i can say is that most of the men have smaller penises than me and because of this fact it makes them feel good because it is tighter than the vigana so ladie’s practice your pc muscle to tighten up on and you partner all the best take care

so how many men have had the pleasure? None of these posts mention men being penetrated, and I don’t mean gay sex. Dildo, strap-on? Some of you guys try it and then come back and talk about it – pain or not.

Ah, anal sex is, I believe is something that really has to be approached with caution. Go in with the idea that the woman you are with has never had it. Even if she has, still with caution.

I have tried it…and it depends on the situation…how sexually stimulated I am. I find that slow going on all areas is best for doing anal. If every other part of my body is enjoying you, then so will…my anal part…

but slowly.

im 19, ive been very close to trying it but never had, i would like to see more comments posted about how people feel,. i dont think theres anything wrong with it,i guess im just scared to try.

To loved (147)…What a description of a
” REAL MAN ” !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Every part of a woman is sexy, but the mind is where you turn it loose. If you are adoring your woman and making her feel Sexy, a little anal foreplay, a finger then two, a little stretching,oral,verbal,touching,etc.is essential. Don’t ask if you won’t put your mouth there. Anal sex is nasty sex. If either isn’t willing don’t do it! I’ve never been married and lots of women like it and just as many won’t so don’t push the issue. Good sex is about respect while thrilling. Prudes aren’t gonna enjoy it mentally.I’ve had women that lubricrated anally, it’s white. This isn’t for everybody and is high risk sex, use good judgement. If you are both sexual, nasty beasts it’s a treat but it isn’t for everybody.

i think this against nature , becasue when we think about that we find that it is not good to do this magic and God given in aplace we are not in the sex time never want to see it or think about. More if we like that and make it natural some wrong will happen because it sex is not for only injoing it is only for growth and having child, Mainwhile most women are not have any organism when doing anal sex , so if aman love his wife or his grilfriend he must not do some thing that she noe like it

Well, we were excited about the positive coments here about anal sex. We did it the other night, great for me I loved it. My wife however, does not want to do it again. She said I did it ok and did not hurt her. Butt, she finds the concept disgusting and doesnt like the feeling of needing to poop afterwards

Its stupidity, after reading above comments me also tried. nothing felt special. too much paining and spoiled 1 day good sex.wife also telling same. wasted some oil.

Before anal sex I eat lots of mints. Being a lesbian I only go with girls. I get her to crouch over my face so that I can lick her arse, put 2 fingers up and pull it open. I then thrust mt tongue up and try to suck her out. Quite often it makes her want to push so that bits slide out into mouth. Since my mouth is so minty I cannot taste her turd and just spit it out.

I’m amazed at all the lovers of anal sex here. The times I’ve tried it were painful and horribly uncomfortable and I’ve never had the desire to do it again. It will also lead to incontinence. My husband is a doctor and talks about how gays and porn stars have huge problems with incontinence due to anal sex.

On special occasions I let my man do whatever he wants to me. Hwever he knows that a lady needs a lot of oral and warming up b4 a r hard f***ing anal. I’m sure my man lives for bum day sunday. I was introduced to anal when i was 17 but didnt begin to fall in love with it til 21+. I would say to all you guys your best chance of you getting it is if you suggest it as sumthin that turns you on then back off about it. Give it time for your lady to think it all through, comment her on having a sexy behind

Taken from a christian website (in response to questions of morality)

Are you saving yourself for your wedding night? The Devil wants you to fail, that’s why he puts stumbling blocks in your way. But God wants you to succeed, and that’s why he has given us an alternative to intercourse before marriage: anal sex. Through anal sex, you can satisfy your body’s needs, while you avoid the risk of unwanted pregnancy and still keep yourself pure for marriage.
“I thought the Bible said anal sex was a sin.”

This is a common misconception. Anal sex is confusing to many Christians because of the attention paid to the Bible’s condemnation of homosexual acts. However, it’s important to realize that these often quoted scriptures refer only to sexual acts between two men. Nowhere does the Bible forbid anal sex between a male and female.

In fact, many Biblical passages allude to the act of anal sex between men and women. Lamentations 2:10 describes how “The virgins of Jerusalem have bowed their heads to the ground,” indicating how a virginal maidens should position themselves to receive anal sex. Another suggestive scripture tells of a woman’s pride in her “valley” (referring to her buttocks and the cleft between them) and entices her lover to ejaculate against her backside: “How boastful you are about the valleys! O backsliding daughter who trusts in her treasures, {saying,} ‘ Who will come against me?’ (Jeremiah 49:4) And in the Song of Songs, the lover urges his mate to allow him to enter her from behind: “Draw me after you, let us make haste.” (Song of Solomon, 1:4)

“Isn’t anal sex dirty?”

The Bible says, “To the pure, all things are pure.” (Titus 1:15) The Lord created your body, and no part of it is imperfect or unclean. God also created our bodies for pleasure, and anal sex is just one of the many ways, including standard sexual intercourse, that we can enjoy this pleasure and share it with a partner.

Although the anus is used for elimination, in reality it is not as dirty as you think, especially after a shower or bath. Elimination is also a natural process of our God-given bodies, so our conception of the anal area as dirty has more to do with our own psychological hang-ups. If the idea of direct contact with this area is still distasteful to you, the male can wear a condom as a barrier

“If you’re going to have anal sex, why not just have regular sex?”

This is a good question: If you’re going to have sexual contact before marriage, why not just go the whole nine yards and have regular sex? There are many good reasons for having anal sex instead. The first reason is practical: having conventional vaginal intercourse can lead to unwanted pregnancies. While it’s true that the Lord bade us to “be fruitful and multiply,” (Gen 1:22) the Bible also counsels that “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.” (Ecl. 3:1) Pregnancy outside of wedlock can have dire and life-altering consequences for all those involved. Having anal sex allows you to greatly reduce this risk.

Second, for a young woman who has never engaged in sexual intercourse, having anal sex allows her to preserve her virginity (i.e., maintain an intact hymen) until marriage. There is no greater gift that a bride can give than to offer her pure, unsullied maidenhead to her husband on their wedding night.

Finally, anal sex allows both partners to save the most intimate and powerful sexual act, that of face-to-face vaginal intercourse, for their mates in marriage. This type of sexual relationship represents the most powerful union between a man and a woman, and so it rightfully should be reserved for one’s life partner. Fortunately, you can engage in anal sex prior to marriage and still be able to share the deeper, more meaningful act of consecrated love through vaginal intercourse with your wedded spouse.

I used to have anal sex all the time with an ex boyfriend.. we both loved it and i think it feels great. I have been with a different guy for over 6 yrs now, and I really want him to give it a shot. We tried it once in the first year of our relationship and it was too tight for him, he was totally turned off, he actually cried… he says he feels like hes doing somethin wrong, and he just cant get over the fact that “thats where i poop from” lol. so we didnt try that again lol. He tells me he is interested in trying again… for me… so could anyone help me out with tips on how to get HIM ready? I am perfectly fine with anal.. i love it, and i like it rough. I know to use lots of lube but what position do you think would be most comfortable for him? me on top?

Freda
E-Coli bacteria is present in the human intestinal tract. It serves various purposes there to maintain proper health and function of the entire digestive tract. Outside the digestive tract, E-Coli bacteria cause harmful infection. Oral-anal contact leaves you succeptable to a multitude of gastr-intestinal problems, anything from simple diarrhea to issues that may require you to be hospitalized. Intravenous antiobiotic administration is used to treat systematic infection.Oral-anal contact immediately followed by oral-vaginal contact, leaves your partner succeptable to urinary tract infection, kidney and bladder infection. I’ve treated many such cases in my practice, this is not something I read about in a book.I’m about the most uninhibited guy you will come accross, pleasure is the name of the game when it comes to interacting with my partner sexually. I’ve made it my business not to engage in any activity which may compromise my health or that of my partner. Know the facts, examine your priorities and proceed from there. All the best.

The only people who enjoy anal sex are men. Women only say they enjoy it because they think it will please their men.
I don’t know when straight men started expecting anal sex but if they are not willing to take a giant butt plug up the ass then they ain’t getting any from me. If they do take it then they are obviously gay.

most guys are intro’ed to anal via porn and have unrealistic expectations that women are going to love having their anus pounded. this is not the case, a minority of women actually enjoy anal. and with those that do, it takes significant stretching foreplay and tons of lube. women shouldn’t feel awkward about not enjoying it. and please, never allow a guy to pressure you into this–that never has positive results for the woman. in my experience male fascination this anal often stems from suppressed homoerotic desire. there is nothing wrong with this, but my advice to the guys is: don’t torture your girlfriend out of fear of facing your true desires.

Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

Dear questioner, thanks a lot for your question and concern about your religion and Allah’s Legislation even in what concerns your sexual life with your wife.

Almighty Allah says in the Qur’an: “Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth (have sexual relations with your wives in any manner as long as it is in the vagina and not in the anus), when or how you will, and send (good deeds, or ask Allah to bestow upon you pious offspring) for your own selves beforehand. And fear Allah, and know that you are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give good tidings to the believers (O Muhammad).” (Al-Baqarah: 223)

In the foregoing verse the word harth (tilth) indicates that only vaginal sex is permissible in Islam, because it is from this place children are produced. The semen lodged in the womb from which offspring comes is likened to the seeds that are planted in the ground, bringing vegetation. Both of them are substances from which something else is produced.

All Muslim jurists agree that anal sex is haram (prohibited), based on the hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): “Do not have anal sex with women.” (Reported by Ahmad, At-Tirmidhi, An-Nasa’i, and Ibn Majah.)

Khuzaymah Ibn Thabit (may Allah be pleased with him) also reported that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Allah is not too shy to tell you the truth: Do not have sex with your wives in the anus.” (Reported by Ahmad, 5/213.)

Ibn `Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Allah will not look at a man who has anal sex with his wife.” (Reported by Ibn Abi Shaybah, 3/529, and At-Tirmidhi classified it as an authentic hadith, 1165)

Further, it is reported that the Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him) referred to such an act as “minor sodomy”. (Reported by Ahmad and An-Nasa’i)

However, it is allowed to caress the wife and stimulate her around the anus, without having sex in this area. It is reported that `Umar Ibn Al-Khattab (ay Allah be pleased with him) came one day to the Prophet and said, “O Messenger of Allah, I am ruined!” “What has ruined you?” asked the Prophet. He replied, “Last night I turned my wife over,” meaning that he had had vaginal intercourse with her from the back. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) did not say anything to him until the verse cited above was revealed. Then he told him, “[Make love with your wife] from the front or the back, but avoid the anus and intercourse during menstruation.” (Reported by Ahmad and At-Tirmidhi)

If one does have anal sex with his wife, he has committed a grave sin, which requires repentance. He should regret and feel contrite for committing such a sin. Allah Almighty destroyed a whole nation who were accustomed to this evil habit.

But, the wife is not considered divorced as many people think, because there is no evidence to support this view. However, scholars maintain that if a man habitually does this or insists on having anal sex with his wife, she has the right to ask for a divorce, because he is considered an evildoer who is causing harm by his action, and also because the purpose of marriage cannot be achieved through this action.

The wife has to resist this evil action and refuse to respond to her husband’s desire to have anal sex. She should remind him of Allah as well as the punishment of those who transgress the Bounds set by Him, Most High

1st off, Muslims never shut up. 2nd off stop imposing your will on the world. 3rd Stop blowing up Jews, its not cool. 4th Stop blowing up people who disagree with you. 5th If you in America, your not welcome, please leave.

‘Me’ – comment 174:
“All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.”

Please keep your religous comments to yourself – we are NOT all muslim and if you are truly seeking acceptance from the rest of the world you will not achieve this by thrusting your religous views upon the rest of us.

If you have a comment that is geared towards the topic at hand then please express it in context if you are able to think for yourself. ie in plain english.

“Allah Almighty destroyed a whole nation who were accustomed to this evil habit” – please advise how this is relevant to the topic being discussed? Are you aware of the topic being discussed?

Comment 175 and 176 pretty much says it all. I agree with both of you.

For the past 20 year, I have experienced anal sex with several girlfriends that had prior experiences and others that I introduced them to it.

And although almost all of them did enjoy having anal sex and had great orgazams; I must admit that all of them prefered veginal sex.

So I guess it is fair to say that women will consent to anal sex out of their desire to please their partner more then purely wanting it.

In other words, asking a woman if she likes anal sex is pretty much similar to asking her if she likes the taste of her man’s cum; It smells bad and most probably tastes bad, but they are willing to do it just to statisfy their partners desire.

Just remember the three “-ations”; lubrication, relaxiation, and communication! It may seem a little weird at first, but, patience, pratice and explartation; you will become more familar with you body before you know it!

testing

When my husband asked me for anal about 2 years ago I was so relieved. I have always fantasized about it and for years have utilized intense anal stimulation for masturbating. But even after being with this wonderful man-and enjoying amazing sex–for over ten years, I was still too embarassed to ask for anal. It’s what I’ve always craved though and yes, I enjoy it immensely. And yes–YES!YES!–I have great orgasms from anal sex.
I’m sqeamish about cleanliness. We joke that I’m “fecal-phobic”. I only ask for anal when I’m feeling super fresh down there and if my husband asks for it and I don’t want it for whatever reason, we just go vaginally. He never pressures me.
I don’t believe anal is for every woman, though. If you can’t get turned on by the idea I don’t see how you’ll enjoy the act.
Don’t be pressured and don’t settle for a selfish partner who can’t respect your boundaries.

I always thought in times past anal sex was to
avoid pregnancy.

I Was married for many years and never asked for anal sex becaused i was embarressed that he would think there was something wrong with me… i didnt know other women liked anal sex… I now have this boyfriend who makes me feel so comfortable and free with my sexuality..i can have an orgasm with vag intercourse but it takes time but with anal sex i can have an orgasm in seconds…but outside my relationship it is still a secret u never know who understands and who looks at it as wrong and dirty.. its my little secret and i like it….

Wow!itis amazing to hear this wonderful men and women commenting on this issue of Anal. i ve never tried it b4 becos my girl will not give me a chance even for once i ve this sentimental attachment to female butt(anus) i heard friends say is fantastic, i will love to try it with a woman who knows d need and who loves it. i ve great dick both in length and size, it would a dream come true if i deep my hard dick in d back door of a woman.

I am a male (41), from Atlanta.

I apprciate the women who are open about their preferences. Sex is an intimate action between 2 people. No one else has the right to tell them how they should feel or how wrong they are. Wake up, the dark ages are over.

Atlanta Man.

I am a 27 year old male, and I have always fantasized about having anal sex with a woman. I tried but it never seems to go in, I’m not that big just a little more than average but I cant seem to fit it in and once i am close the girl would be in pain so I wouldnt continue. This is with using lube of course. Any advice? I’m so glad to hear that some ladies love it, the thought of seeing feces stick to my penis is scary though. Anyway please advise.

To all the lovely ladies who have discovered the joys anal sex can bring,we{I} salute you!!{hehe}Seriously though,I,ve met some women who were turned off by it and some that couldn,t get enough{anal}Not “all”men are into it though as I found out during a “survey” at work once and proceeded to cop a bit of “flak” for my honesty…Should a guy come right out and ask if she likes anal when he first meets a girl??”Fozzy” from downunder!!Cheers…

I have often fantasised aboutanal sex & was too embarassed to bring it up due to societial views not hygienic , must be only gay men who want to do ‘it’ etc
Now having been in a relationship with a lovely man where we are totally honest & open,anal sex was a natural progression for us.My partner had not done this before whereas I had but I had not expiereinced such intense pleasure & satisfaction.Clitoral stimulation & gentle (well lubed,& relaxed ) anal penetration is a match made in heaven. Sex between 2 consenting adults should be open,honest,caring & enjoyable.If it feels good to both of you.Do it!

To all those who shared your knowledge and experiences, thank you for your openness… It helped more than you know. I can’t wait to put all that information to good use. OMG, it’s hard to believe but I’m actually looking forward to having anal sex! I will be sure and let my luck partner know he owes his good fortune all to you! LOL.

To the “OTHERS”, stop hating and damning! If this act is such an abomination, why are you on this site??? We all have our religious convictions and didn’t ask for yours. I don’t know anything about the qur’an but I’ve got a bible verse for you: JUDGE NOT, LEST YE BE JUDGED. And analsexlover, don’t be an a**(every pun intended)! Your are proof ignorance and hatred comes in many forms.

WOW!

It can be very enjoyable.

Be gentle and careful though. With objects, make sure they don’t have sharp edges or can break, or can go all the way in (they can be hard to get out, some people have to go to the ER). With penises, use a condom for hygienic and health reasons (even if you’re monogamous).

Also, thanks to all you women. I’m glad to hear so many enjoy it too.

Anal sex power! my wife always ask me do it everytime. About 16year ago i ask her try do anal sex first time, she dislike it, so few month later she ask me try do it again, then using it……now she addict anal sex.

Couple years ago by accident we my husband and I tried anal sex. I did not enjoy it it was very painful,and he did not want anything to do with it. I saw it on the tape and think about it all the time an wants to try it again. My husband is the type that once he said now one time thats it. I however crave to try it, then one night he came home high and want to have sex, and naughty me put exactly where I want it to go…and I am totally hooked on it-unfortunately, I tried talking to him about it again and he still did not want to discuss it but I personally had a feelings that he enjoyed it, so every opportunity I get when he is high and put it where I want it…I cannot wait for the day to come when he will just accept it and go with the flow where I can experience the licking and then the sticking the whole shabang…ouch thining about it just turn me on… until then I do not pressure him, but feel bad that I do it the way I do, somehow though I know he knows because he is usually just high and never drunk – those ladie who husband wants to do it just give it a try if you dont like it then dont do it, but it is quite fustrating and hard when you want something and cannot get it from the one you love ,your sole partner if the person is weak willed they can have extra affairs which is worse than the pain you will feel from trying at least once….guys how can I get him to fest up to me and want to go all the way…help desperately awaiting a good but plub…..

I was married for 6 years and could never enjoy anal sex with my husband. I could not relax enough for a comfortable entry. He was always interested, I wanted to participate but it wasn’t enjoyable.
Since I have been in a serious relationship again, my boyfriend and I have been more experimental. He is very caring, sincere and will communicate with me about our sexual experience. I too am more open about it now. We have been ‘working’ up to anal sex and are able to enjoy it together after two months of foreplay. WE enjoy it. I don’t do it for him and he doesn’t do it for me. It’s something that takes a lot of relaxation, massaging, lubrication and ofcourse cleanliness. Try it if you’re comfortable. If you’re not then don’t.

Interesting topic

I was looking for the reason why I find the idea of “anal sex” with a woman so attractive; not necessarily penetration as such, but the act of using my tongue in a lovers’ anus to pleasure her. It has such a magnetic attraction! I could do it for hours…..

So: Is it a thing that woman gives in reciprocation of allowing her lover to derive pleasure from her, for himself?

Either way; man and woman are together to enjoy their reciprocated mutual sexual pleasures without condemnation, dogma, fear, guilt or force…

Happy Daze

i love it it was great the way his dick went in and out of me was great

i love sucking cock i have had anal oral any kind and i am only 13

I had a very full relationship with a girl I used to live with (we were not going out, we just happened to be sharing accommodation and ended up having sex quite often).

The first time that I slept with her it was apparent that she preferred being taken from behind, because her back was so sensitive (?). I always put a finger in her butt and she obviously liked that so on about the 3rd occasion we made love she was lying on her front and I just took a chance. I was very concerned that I might have got the wrong idea but she was keen.

So from then on we had anal sex as often as vaginal. I much preferred anal sex in the missionary position because it sort of felt so intimate: you can kiss and you can go very deep and you can touch each other. We never used any kind of contraception during anal sex (it wasn’t that kind of relationship), and often did not bother with any lube, but we did inhale poppers which sent her completely over the edge and made the whole experience almost surreal. We got as high as we could, me lying on top with her legs wrapped round me neck and I felt that I was as far inside her as it is possible for a man to go.

She also loved reverse cow girl for anal sex. And of course I loved sitting on her strap on. We also did a lot of other stuff.

The whole relationship was completely sexual. She was a bit older than me but she was wet 24 hours a day and she had a wonderful body (small breasts). She said that she came when I withdrew.

In short it was pretty good news and it makes any subsequent relationship seem a little bit inadequate.

sorry about the last comment – will no doubt annoy a large number of people x

im a very horny 15 year old.
mmmm anal sex is soo kinky
hell yeah up the ass
treat me like a bitch mmm hmmm
blackheart2go@hotmail.com

I’ve always been more turned on by anal sex but only tried it for the first time with my fiance. At first it was a little painful but I knew it would get better so we kept trying. I enjoy it more than vaginal sex, and my orgasms are amazing and more pleasurable than vaginal. We do it every time we have sex now. Ladies if you don’t like it the first few times, keep trying, it’s so worth it!

I have to admit, the first time I experienced anal sex, it was horrible. I was frightened and it hurt worse than losing my virginity. I really thought I loved this guy so it was a first for me. Well, after the awkwardness wore off I enjoyed it. ALOT>>> Well that was 4 years ago and since then, well lets say I finally moved on and I suggested going anal to my fiance. He wasnt sure I was serious till I took the tip of his penis and started rubbing it on the opening to my anus. Lets just say he realized I wasnt kidding. We don’t do it alot this way, hes not some kind of freak in the bedroom. But Anal sex with someone you love is just like vaginal sex or letting a man lick between my thighs. Its erotic and sensational. Normally we spoon together to do anal sex for his fear of hurting me. Last week though, I think I broke him of it. In the midst of vaginal sex, I let it poke my butt. I was already extremely wet from going vaginally and it was on his penis. It only took a small amount of lube and before he knew it he was moaning…YES HIM> I love the feeling of letting loose and being a bit naughty. I can not wait till next weekend!

Just a tip though. For all the ladies who are scared. Its ok. Be scared, and if you dont want to let him come in the back door its ok. Its gotta be something that the both of you want to do. Anal sex can be very enjoyable for both of you. Its a feeling I cant describe and do it justice!!!

my wife & i have been married for 11 yrs. and have anal sex as much as we have vaginal sex,fellas when you want some butt start off slow and use your tongue.start off with your penis in the crack of her ass, then very slowly put it in and let the lady control how fast and far you go u will be surprised on how much the both of you enjoy the experience.ps- its great birth control

is there a cleaner way in have anal sex.

A relative forcibly did anal sex to me saying that i wont get pregnant. My husband has never done anal sex with me may be because he is very simple person and also in India people talk dirty about such things. In fact my relative’s wife has also never allowed him to do anal sex. Since i was worried i spoke with my house maid on this. She told me she also had been raped in ass by a military person. My relative has been lately insisting that i satisfy one of his friends who has not experienced anal sex. I am bit worried now. Could anyone advise on doing anal sex in group.

I have read many of the experiences and opinions listed above…and being that the experiences and opinions are much the same, the response is many. I am a 53 year old woman who has been divorced for 25 years. I have had many loving relationship during this time and a few flings. I have tried anal, but never completely penetrated. There was not enough pleasure to endure the discomfort associated with it. Yes, there was plenty of lube involved. Point being and this is going to be raw and unfiltered. As a woman I have experienced with my own body as well. I do not believe my body is designed extremely different than most females. I will admit, my true pleasures come from clitoral stimulation. If women would stop faking and lying about orgasms they say they achieve through vaginal penetration..to please a man, keep a man, compete with all the women looking to land a man…then maybe we could finally truthfully get real answers to these questions. Until then it is mostly bla bla bla coming from the women. Those women who will write and say I do not know what I am talking about, then let me be the first to congratulate you on your “one of a kind” body parts and nerve endings that defy most of the women that exist and why book are written by doctors to educate and encourage women not to feel guilty for not achieving “so called” vaginal orgasms. Ps..I am not spell checking.

I have tried anal sex and I didn’t enjoy. It was very painful I guess it my first time doing it. I tried it another time and I still didn’t enjoy it. I rather stick to oral and vaginal sex.

as long as I have had sex I have never had nor desired anal sex I think its dirty and dangerous I am now 81 and still feel the same way I would never even mention it to my wife or any other women

I am 41 and tried anal for the first time just a few weeks ago…it was the most incredible feeling….i didnt know how good it would be. The problem is after he came inside me the next couple of days i felt quite ill, loose bowels and wind pains etc. Is this normal? I want to do it again but am afraid of the after effects..

guys please I would really like to hear from real women about this kind of sex not men pretending to be women.

can’t we just make this blog usefull?

Reply to Comment #174, “Me”:
> who the **** are u greating with that sentence?? do u think u r entering a mosque?
I am Muslim too but I hate the way sick ppl introduce islam to others!!
sorry but what u posted was spam!!

Comment #176 “analsexlover”, I feel u r another extremist from America!! America wasn’t built for analsexloverZ only! it is for all americans regardless of their religion.

don’t spoil this thread with politics .. plz focus of the subject!

Oh I cherish the moment my boyfriend suggested the idea, I had never tried it and I never expected it would be that good! Still, we did it very slowly at first and with loads of lube too (it’s funny how i found out he had bought a lube bottle, just in case – he was totally planning to convince me)

My favourite way of doing it is being on top. I can control how fast and how deep it is, and it is more intimate (although sometimes is really cool to just go about it wildly, doggy style).

And really, he likes it so much i love doing it, not to mention it has given me such incredible orgasms…!

good thanks

I love anal, my gf said she *enjoys* it occasionally. We did anal almost every time we had sex. I am sure we did it in the best way possible. She developed little hemorrhoids, then later slight incontinence. Since last year we stopped anal completely. Now that she restored control over her sphincter muscle the hemorrhoids are still there!! as i said i love anal but i will never do sth that hurts her!!
some ppl would argue that doing anal the right way wouldn’t hurt! but man i wouldn’t shoot my self in the foot twice just to prove the opposite. It doesn’t worth the pain.
that’s my two cents.
luck!

My husband is my one and only sex partner. It was by accident early on in our marriage. I was 22, he was 25 that we had anal sex. I was on my side and he was thrusting away and I was very lubed and on the out thrust I moved and on the in thrust he went into my ass. Funny bit, he asks what hole am I in? It was good then but I was too lubed up. I am 37 now and I truly enjoy it, it is MY fetish. I don’t like too much lube just a little blob will do. Best position is leaning over the bed, another one is missionary where I can put my legs over his shoulders that way we can still kiss and bite each others neck. Sex gets better with age, and trust & love are wonderful. Try anal sex only with someone who you trust. I’m sad to see that so many people have had multiple partners that just does not agree with me. I’ll buy the toy shop out if anything happens to my lover/husband. Going on 18 years of marriage. Whoo Hoo. If you happen to be a little unclean just make a joke of the pooper smell and get in the shower and go for it.

I haven’t read all of the posts so hopefully this is not redundant. I’m a hetro 46 year old male. I pretty sure my interest in anal sex was triggered by the Penthouse magazine “Forum” sex stories I used to read as a young teenager. I’ve have had anal sex with all my partners over the last 30 years. I think I like it (or the idea of it) because it’s a bit kinky and I like the idea of the women being naughty and/or submissive. I am most interested in it before it’s happened with my partner for the first time. It’s a thrill when you get let into to that forbidden, unchartered territory. For guys who don’t understand the interest in anal sex, a thought: think about how badly you would want your partner to give you a blow job if she never had, or refused to do so.

In reality I think anal sex on the “giving end” is a somewhat over-rated. First off it’s not really any tighter and it doesn’t feel all that different except that it’s less juicy. Second, it can be a bit of a come down when it’s over because sometimes you can be a bit “messy”. Don’t ever let on when this happens because she’ll be embarrassed. Finally, like vaginal sex, when it’s over the women can have issues with wet sounding gas that can be embarrassing for them if you hear it.

I’m quite large so women are often reluctant when I try to initiate anal sex for the first time. However, I have a very successful technique. First, to avoid any unpleasantries, make sure you do a deep investigative probe with your finger. It sounds gross, but much better to find out before hand that the passage is all clear. After she’s is loosened up, lubed, etc, get into the missionary position with her knees raised up (yes doing it from behind is more fun, but be patient). Position your self at the entrance, but do not attempt to penetrate. Tell her to push herself down on you whenever she is ready, and to do so at her own pace. Let her control the penetration and strokes until she is fully relaxed. This technique is about 10 times more successful than the man initiating penetration from behind.

When women put their finger in my butt it has almost always been uncomfortable. It’s probably because I’m too tense and the only lube was saliva. There was only one time in my life where it felt good, and I have to say it was really good. So I can understand how being on the receiving end can be great once you are in the “zone”.

By the way, since I’m over forty my doctor always gets on the rubber glove and checks my prostrate. He tells me to “bear down” or “push”. When I do this, it never hurts.

from my experience, to make anal sex feel good you have to be positioned on your side while your man is playing with your clit. he has to start off really slow and work his way up to being rough. it really works try it.

i like it !!!! i mean ive just got engaged but weve been together for 5and a half years and i simply enjoy it if a man knows to take i slow and understands that its an occasional thing its cool i am a young 20 yr old lady and i +
love anal sex!!!!

I am a male and I prefer anal lovemaking to vaginal anytime It’s partially because I do enjoy the the dominant aspects, but also because of the tight squeeze.

One of the most IMPORTANT things I love about anal lovemaking is the intimacy it builds.

Any woman can give up her booty hole, but when a faithful and intelligent woman loves me with her bottom its mind blowing. Whenever I’m a womans first Its extremely special to me. Most woman have lost their vaginal virginity, but not all have lost their anal virginity. Anal lovemaking makes a woman and a man closer hands down.

I respect all woman and I would stand up for a womans rights with my life, but I must feel her love from her back door. its the best love their is, THE ABSOLUTE BEST!

My wife and I have tried it and I have had it with other women before my wife. She does not like it and now I find myself really wanting a woman that will let have anal intercourse with her… Not sure why, but I really enjoy it and would love to have an affair with a woman that is like minded…

Anal sex between a man and a woman is illegal.Anal sex between men is legal. do you know what they call this……. Sods law…

Me, 63, she, 61. Married for 40. Been fingering her ass rimming her, and using buttplugs for many years. About 3 yrs ago, she said “You can put ‘it’ in if you want.” I did and she came like never before. I came inside her. Now, anal is part of almost every lovemaking session, always at her request

Ive been having anal sex with my husband for 7 years, I dont do it to please only him, and I never do it if I dont feel like it.We do it on occassion, and I have geat orgasms, I prefer vaginal sex most of the time, but I like to mix it up.Honestly my husband likes it because of my reaction to it, more than anything else, sure its tight and naughty, and he’s in control and all of that, but he loves to hear me moan and scream and loose control of inhibition in a great way.Honestly its the same for me when I give him oral sex, I love to do it for him, because Im in control, I have him by his most valuable body part in my mouth making him moan and yell and loose control and inhibition, and I see nothing wrong with that because we love and trust eachother deeply.

I find many of the comments about this to be interesting.To the guy that does it to his wife when he knows she doesnt like it, shame on you, you are taking advantage of the one person in this world whom you are the closest to.It doesnt matter if she is submissive, she still deserves your respect and empathy.

I would say to the Poster, if you want to try it, then theres nothing wrong with that and to go for it, if you dont want to then dont allow this guy your dating to pressure you.Doing something you dont want to do with a man in a new relationship is no way to start your divorced life.Also please use a CONDOM and lubrication if you decide to do it.If you dont like it then stop right then and their, and if he still trys to push you into it after he knows you didnt like it then get rid of him.

Bobby just because you dont enjoy vaginal orgasm or dont know what one is , doesnt mean we all dont.I have always had vaginal orgasms, along with clitoral stimulation and without, infact I find clitoral stimulation to tickle too much to the point of discomfort if there is too much stimulation.A great vaginal orgasm is when you feel the penis on the inside and the thrusting creates a grabbing sensation on the vaginal walls and your vagina starts to pull the penis harder and harder and then you orgasm much more intensly than you would from just clitoral orgasm .Also not all women fake liking things to please men, so dont assume that just because a women says she likes anal sex that it means shes “faking”.It sounds like you dont know very much about sex, and maybe you should do more research before you start trying to tell other people what they feel and what they dont during sex.Every womanes anatomy and sensitivity to penetration and touch is different.

I find it OH SO sexy when the girl squirts a minimum of 8 OZ (1 cup) of extra fudgy diarrhea all over the place at the time of climax. After this terrific mess is made, I ask her to eat / drink the remnants from my penis/torso/legs first, then to consume the remaining diarrhea from the rubber sheets. If I’m extra lucky, she’ll vomit profusely AFTER this ritual, giving us YET another bodily excrement to incorporate into our passionate mess. If I could find a way to work in some other wastes/fluids, such as blood, boogers, tears, and sputum, i’d be ON TOP of the world!

Try it folks, Try it! You WON’T ever want to have ?normal? sex again!

I’m sorry folks!! I just couldn’t resist the urge to make up that disgusting nonsense (previous post) !!!! the posts here are lacking something truly twisted…

Seriously Tho – If you’re in a loving, respectful relationship, there’s nothing more personal and invigorating than having a chick want to take it up the *ahem* and like it!

I’ve converted 5 girlfriends to Butt-Piratesses in my nearly 20 yrs of doin it.

enjoy yall

My view abot anal sex.I was told by my doctor its not a healthly thing to do,your anal is where you pass your bowel it is can lead to std. I know its very uncomfortable an painful. I was force that way twice it was like if someone took a knife an cut me. I am sorry. I have seen patience who had anal sex through out their life a the hole it left its scary. if people like that so be it.

Any sex can cause infection, however, anal is horrendous. To any man who goes with a woman cos his wife wont do this and who does not use contraception needs shot in the head instantly. But then again men who do this generally have their brains down there anyway. Just give a thought to your partners safety, if you cant have any for yourself, or respect for that matter. Nasty, nasty little bugs live up there and cause bad problems with the ph level of the vagina

I’m a soon to be 50 male and neither my wife or I enjoy anal. The orifice located a few millimeters to the North or South (depending on one’s perspective), works just fine for the two of us.:) I hope I’m not weird.

Reply to comment # 205

Looks like you enjoyed the anal sex your relative forced on you. I will advise you not to agree to satisfy your relative’s friends desire, otherwise, before you would realize, there will be a line of his friends eager to stick in your ass and you will become famous ass giver which might ruin your married life.

Moreover, be careful whom you allow to penetrate from behind. Too forcrful and rough penetration my loosen up your musceles and you will always have poop leaking out in your underwears.

Ok, the guy that said men that want anal sex are “insecure” is way off. I am a man that likes to have anal sex because DANG does it feel tight. Even if I am really liquored up and struggling to reach orgasm I can usually get there by anal for sure. God it’s really great feeling! Unfortunately my wife pretty much does it for me and does not get too much from it. Because of this I usually prefer not to have anal sex with her. It bothers me that she only does it because I want it. It’s an occasional thing…..sadly…

Hi guys,

I am new here, I am not going to debate whether anal sex is good or not. I am asking abt the technique, I mean, how do you have a CLEAN anal sex.
Well, it seems that I cant have a clean anal sex, unlike those performed in the hardcore DVDs. It seems that those pornstars have a certain technique on how to have a clean anal sex, I mean, the penis doesnt get creamed with filth unlike me.
Should a girl has a fasting period before anal sex? For how long before the sex itself? Is there any minimum time limit to crap before the sex? How do a girl clean her rectum? Just by using finger? Is a finger deep enough to cover the filth area? How do those pornstars do it?

Cheers,
Confused

has anyone considered using a deadener and a good lube? i know tooth pain killer gel works great, the active ingrediant is 21% and won’t de-sensitize him if he has a good fitting condom on…and it’s only a buck at the dollar stores.
also, using the latex free condoms help as they go on tight(ish) and don’t get too baggy too fast.

anal can feel good, if you do it in a way that makes it enjoyable for all.
have fun,
rena

I have only thing to add to this discussion. My partner of many years ago had a phase where he used to like to do it anally for a while, then ending up in my vagina. 10 years later, after having been mysteriously ill for some time, I ended up having emergency surgery to have one of my ovaries removed because it had rotted. My advice is, never let anything into your vagina which wouldn’t be good for you to have in your mouth.

I’ve been with the same guy for 25 years and we’ve had anal sex from the beginning. 2 important things for girls to enjoy it: 1)You need a good lube, one that maybe is kinda thick and gooey for good coverage. 2) relax, have you guy stay still while you guide him in and take your time. A really great way is to have your guy lay on his back while you straddle him. Lube him up, alittle extra lube on your bum and guide him in. As you bump and grind, your sensitive area up front will get a nice work out too. Guys can play with those nipples for extra fun. Do remember that after anal sex, do not enter the vagina again and guys need to also wash up with soap after too to prevent any infections. Take it slow, lube well and practice!

I first had anal sex in 1997 and loved it, I have anal sex about 3 times a week now and have the best orgasms I have ever known every time and prefer it to any other sex, you really have got to try it to find out if it’s for you,,,Heather

I personally hate it, Me and my husband have tried it and it hurts so bad for me, he never gets to go in the pressure is to much for me. I think one time he got a little in and it brought me to tears. He was lubricated and we was gentle but it just isnt something i am comfortable with. I guess if you arent comfortable then i wouldnt do it. the woman needs to be completely sure before hand.

hi eveery one
1- in many religions anal sex is prevented
Judaism’christianity,Islam consider it agreat sin
2-iam adoctor and i say that anal sex is very harmful it may lead to
anal incontinence
rectal fissure
rectal prolapse
Infection with HPV virus which may lead to rectal cancer
infection of penis wit E Choli which may lead to urethritis and cystitis
leakage of semen fram anal canal to blood leeading to formation of antibody against sperms and infertility
3-most of comments talked about pleasure ,orgasm
none af them talk about if they have children after that
so any one have anal tell us if he had children after that

Well everyone, after reading all your comments, I can see there are many similarities and common differences. I see the typical “i love anal” and the “I’ll never do it” or “I tried it b/c hubby wanted to and it hurt, so I’m not going to do it again” or “I’m scared.” I’m a 29 year old young man who has been gradually more and more obsessed with the female ass and anal sex since I was about 15. One girl let me experiment a little in college and finger her ass and she wanted me to put it in a little, but I was so nervous it didnt go in. None of the girls I dated would let me into their behind complaining I was “too big”. With enough lube and patience, I’m sure it would have worked, but anyway. I finally tried it after marriage, and I can say that although we both liked it, I discovered that it is something that is more of a perversion than real satisfaction. Something drives you to it, whether it be pyschological or the devil himself, I don’t know…but it’s not just human desire for the tighter taboo back door. It does feel great, and the image alone of a big dick going into a girl’s tight sexy ass is enough to send me over the edge. But in all honesty, the vagina “feels” overall better – it’s wetter, smoother, easier to start the action, healthier, and most of the time, both parties usually don’t complain about it. Religiously, culturally, anal is wrong for some, but to each his own I say. Do what you will, and repent if you feel it’s wrong and try not to revert back to it. My opinion is if you want to do it, do it in moderation…like once in a while, not every day or every time you have sex…it’s a sensitive area. In the end, I’ve found that anal sex should not be something that is endulged in because it can become a perversion of the mind or heart which can tear apart relationships if the other partner doesn’t like it equally or enough to enjoy it. And this takes away from the love that the relationship was built on to begin with. To Everyone – happy lovin: vagina lovin, mouth suckin lickin lovin, finger lovin, or butt lovin…take care. peace.

My husband and I have just started to experiment with anal play. I have never been that interested before, until my husband used a finger inside my *** while I was using a clit stimulator. the orgasm I had was like nothing else I had experienced, sooooooo intense.

Relax and enjoy, you’ll love it!

hi
I am an Arab and Muslim and I like anal sex, we have in Islam may be religiously but I do not dismissed by sometimes but I do not find pleasure when I occasionally enjoy

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my name is mark. i love anal. blah blah blah. i dated a girl who wouldnt let me play with her anoos. once when she fell asleep i lubed it up and slipped it in. is that wrong???

sincerely,
buttmaster in boston

id love anal sex. im a guy yes, but my girlfriend seems to be strongly against it. i really want to find a way to persuade her to try it. any tips? arguments for?

thank you.

im a muslim girl i know its not allowed in my religion butt i try it and i feel amazing i like it more than vaginal sex in front i dont feel aroused but w/anal sex i feel so horny and i dont want to take it out there i want it inside me 24/7 wow its lot of pleasure try it girls

I want my bf to do me in the bum but i feel like he may be turned off if i make poopy on his dinky….do men mind if there is a “poop ring” after???

girl never come out the poop if you was it w/a strong pipe put strong water to your anus then push it to relise do it again and again till its only clean water go out then injoy the sex darling

hi eveery one
1- in many religions anal sex is prevented
Judaism’christianity,Islam consider it agreat sin
2-iam adoctor and i say that anal sex is very harmful it may lead to
anal incontinence
rectal fissure
rectal prolapse
Infection with HPV virus which may lead to rectal cancer
infection of penis wit E Choli which may lead to urethritis and cystitis
leakage of semen fram anal canal to blood leeading to formation of antibody against sperms and infertility
3-most of comments talked about pleasure ,orgasm
none af them talk about if they have children after that
so any one have anal tell us if he had children after that

Anal sex is a dirty game ,used for pleasure only.
Good families they do not do so.but many they do .is left for every body to do what he likes.

recently my boyfriend and i have been trying to do anal sex but it has hurt me every time so from reasing i learned we probably need more lube but also we experienced him fingering me in the butt to kinda warm me up… but everytime it feels like i just have to go to the bathroom? is this normal, or should i relax more, or will it get past that once he’s all the way in? please help!!!

I asked my boyfriend to do me in the butt after watching a porno movie of many girls getting it like that up the butt and enjoying it. i know they are actresses and probly fakin, but i wanted to try cuz i was curious and kinky and it looked soo hott on video. so i took it the other day 4 the 1st time. he loved it cuz it was so tite. i loved it cuz it was so big and filled me up. when he gave me his cum up my butt it was totally awesome. glad i tried it. gonna do it like this once a week..at least! I luved havin his cock up my ass!! thats rite i agree i want it in there 24/7 too!

Myself and friends that I know have practiced anal sex on our girlfriends or wives for many hears and have openly discussed it.

The fake doctor that posted and does not know how to type English, is also very clueless.

The anus and rectum can easily deal with a human sized penis, because it is not much bigger than the waste it eliminates every day. Anal sex can be easily done if the man starts slowly, uses plenty of lube (though for some women they can actually do it without lube), and uses finger or a butt plug to stretch the woman.

My friends have kids and they do anal sex all the time. Many couples have practiced anal sex for YEARS without problems. Frequent anal sex actually makes the anus and it
s muscles stronger. Like any Karate, Yoga, or Gymnast can tell you… Muscle can be both strong and flexible. A couple of studies were done where people that practiced anal sex often, with a human sized penis, were LESS likely to suffer incontinence as they got older. Anal sex conditions the muscles, while not practicing anal sex means less conditioned muscles, less control, and more likely to suffer incontinence at older ages.

Washing up before and after sex, is proper hygiene. It does not matter if you are doing vaginal or anal sex. If you wash up, you don’t usually have any problems. Also people that have sex with the same person for extended periods of time, get “used to the other person’s flora of bacteria” to a certain extent.

Many women also can achieve orgasm from anal sex because the vagina and rectum share a common wall, the penis in the rectum can place pressure on the cervix and fornix area (producing deep orgasm), certain angles can stimulate the G-spot, and the man or woman can play with their clitoris at the same time.

anal sex is best worked at.i practised alone first,with toys and lube…now i am used to the sensation of penetration and can take my man without fear of any pain..just intense arousal.I am a real woman who enjoys anal.i have had the most intense orgasms through anal.plenty of lube though guys!!!!

I perefer anal kissing than anal sex.
GILL

this guy i knew just rammed it in me and it hurt so badly.before this incident ive always wanted to try it now i dont. luckily it was just the tip..for 2weks i couldnt hold my you know what! i dont recommend this at all..

i only like a tongue in my ass after my bad experience!

I consider that anal sex is the best over the other types of sex ,especially when i feel my penis moving inside my girlfriend ass ….Wooow it’s wonderfull and full of pleasure

What’s wrong with an big Johnson in the brown eye? I’ve been told every women dreams about it but most are afraid to even let their man lick their balloon knot.

The grass is always browner on the other side of the Hershey highway.

After two years of comments I did not see one that discusses high colonics as a pre-anal sex preparation. This provides the evacuation of fecal matter while stimulating the anus. This also provides a greater sense of control knowing that the “yuk” factor is eliminated or at least reduced dramatically. It also provides for more room in the rectum and colon. It should also be stated that after a colonic a probotic should be taken of introduced in the system to replace the good bacteria that has been eliminated.

Ladies, it also helps with those monthly constipation issues and relieves bloating.

Enjoy!

I love anal sex. I am a guy and find it very exciting to have a guys big member slide deep inside me. I like doing it with women but they usually are not into it as much as guys are. Guys are usually more willing and are easier to have sex with.

Anal sex feels really good to the guy because the ass hole is so tight onyour dick

im a woman but im really willing to have anal sex than vaginal sex anal sex is more powerfull and i feel really good

Hold on. So Anal Sex supposedly feels better, while Vaginal Sex is really known as sex, and can get you pregnant?

Hey Sue Honey! Unless you are a dyke, you are probably a very deprived woman or a cold hearted bitch who likes a passive guy you can boss around. Go out and get a real man! Maybe then youll realize you not only like it, it keeps its shape unlike the other hole.

My husband when we first got together and got intimate started asking me about the back door.. It was WAY to out there for me! I didn’t have any desire at ALL for it.. Well as time went on.. we tried it a few times… each time i still didn’t like it.. Honestly i felt like i was pooping but the turd was going in and not out..LOL.. So we let it go a while.. later on we adventured into the land of sex toys.. Well one time while i was bent over doggie style and he i was stimulating my clitoris with a bullet on high.. he was doing my china and accidently slipped out.. well being all lubed up.. he went to stick it in again and accidently poked the wrong hole. WOW! Let’s just say i went thru the roof! It was the most AMAZING ORGASM I”VE EVER HAD!!!! Seriously!!! I fully recommend it to anyone! STimulate your clitoris.. use lube, bend over doggie style, before he starts putting his penis in get to the point where you are just about to “go nuts” trust me.. you’ll be begging him! Also while you use a bullet or clit stimulator on yourself at the same time stick a finger into your vagina at the same time.. I GUARANTEE you will be the one to cum first!!! Trust me guys get turned on SO much when we like it! SO he will probably just follow as soon as you do! I cannot tell you how much you will enjoy this. Try it!

I am a girl and my girlfriend really enjoys anal pleasure. I found out she liked it a few months ago which kind of shocked me, but i slowly got used to the idea. She has a butt plug which she let me watch her use and the orgasm she had was magnificant. I have come round to the idea of anal sex on myself and we are gradually bringing anal stimulation into our sex life.

At first we used tongue (i love doing that to her), then fingers (we both love that) and i just yesterday bought my first butt plug! (vibrating plug…so excited, i can only imagine how amazing it is going to feel.

We have already spoke about using dildos (specially made ones that are slim of course). I have to say i am really looking forward to trying it. My girlfriend has been into it for many years and is aware of the ’safety requirements’. She is also very gentle and i trust her completely.

I do play with my anus in preperation i guess, just to get used to the sensation and so i will be able to use the butt plug more comfortably and soon the dildo.

I don’t care about any religious beliefs about it or even moral. Both my girlfriend and i are the only two involved in it. We are both more the comfortable and excited about it.
So if you are gay or straight, as long as you do want to genuinely try it and trust your partner to be gentle, then there is no reason in the world not to.

The feeling from even the tip of the anus is enough to send you over the edge. So be patient, buy lube, relax and have fun. Spend a few romantic hours having foreplay to get you excited. Tease the anus and when you feel ready gently push one finger in (with lube) and wiggle it about. If you are not comfortable with you partner doing it for your first time i would advise doing it yourself until you feel good about it.

Anal sex is filthy and all u perverts know it.The penis was made for the vagina and vice versa. Stop trying to convince us that what u r doing is normal. It is sick and leads to all kinds of diseases.

I’ve done plenty of research on the topic of anal sex, and most people agree that enemas are too invasive for anal cavity cleansing. They recommend that one uses a douche or something to clean out the bottom ten inches of the colon, and nothing more. And anal sex does not make a man gay or straight. If you’re using a condom it shouldn’t spread disease. Use WATER BASED LUBE with a condom to prevent the latex from breaking down. Always always use a condom to prevent STI’s, even in committed relationships. And doctors that say anal sex is “bad” for you are clearly out of the loop. Anal sex is only bad for you if you do it wrong. Same goes for vaginal sex.

My wife and I have been married for 6 years(26yrs old), we tried anal sex early in our relationship and it okay but she was very sensitive. Now for about the last 2 years we have regular anal sex that brings both of us to incredible orgasm. The best two positions, for us, are missionary with the woman grinding nd thrusting up against the man while he keeps his pelvis in a firm position and perhaps only slightly moving/thrusting. Great for slow loving making very erotic.

The other position is doggy style using either a pillow between the womans legs or either partners hand to stimulate the clitoris. We have found this position is best for hard, fast and heavy sex. My wife has the biggest orgasm from this position and you can change it up by lifting up ur lady so that you are both kneeling and upright which leaves both partners hands a lot more free to “roam”.

Anal sex, if done right, is amazing!

wow! its sad that people marry for anal sex or sex only….if that’s the only reason to get ‘married’ then the world is really more screwed up than I thought….don’t intend to try it anytime soon for health reasons and marriage or not, my health is more important than seconds of pleasure.

me and fiancee together 6 years have great sex and i like to lay across her stomache and lick on the clit and finger her vagina while fingering her anus and shes has great orgasms i dont plan on pushing her into it or giving her altimatums. if shes not comfortable then i dont see how it would ever work. when i first played with her anus she was kinds wierded out and now when i eat her out i will finger her anus and she is on the clit immediately because she knows she is going to orgasm hard and that makes me happy. never try to force yourself in her anus or vagina for that matter its rape dumb asses and she wont trust you and definately not be comfortable with you sexually. dont cheat on your woman in end you will regret it i promise trying little things and different things is great and you will find each others limits and comfort zones. if you love each other then you have all the time to do this making each other uncomfortable doesnt make progress if you will and for the comment above married people have usually spent some amount of time together and are usually comfortable with each other and are doing what happily married people do get closer. im getting married and its not for sex. why are you even on this page are you looking for free porn again. shame on you. i would suggest taking time all around and keep things enjoyable. start small literally and get used to the idea. it may be something you enjoy or it may be something you hate but there is all kinds of knowledge above take what you can use but dont be pressured you wont enjoy it.

One learns to satisfy a woman vaginally through vaginal stimulation, an in,around, up, to the side and withdraw rhythm that is truly her frequency alone, via close and then direct stimulation of her G Spot ( as per Mr hotshot and his G spot comment) and then via the but where one can also provide a variety of stimulating strokes and also hit the G Spot from another angle. The Doctor is right – super care is necessary and the most important thing besides LUBE is that there are two sets of sphincters – one set at the opening of her anus and another set – the part that hurts – that do not relax as easily as do the outer sphincter muscles. It is this second set that once you and she get beyond, you will, as the girls commenting here have shared, you will reach an orgasm BEYOND!! It is great – my ex and I tried it she asked for it but we were 19 and 20 and dumb – I hurt her poor sweety. We never tried it again ever! My next girl expressed that she was very interested in anal sex -and we planned ahead for it — upon getting my huge strawberry shaped penis head lubed enough to enter, she literally physically shuddered and fell from a doggie position right to her face on the bed from such immediate and intense orgasms – every move I made regardless of how small a move – she exploded!! This revitalized my interest and enjoyment of adding anal sex to our repertoire of fun things to do in bed together. Two sets of sphincters and yes lots of H2O based lubricant.
I think ass sex is great but I also feel that the human body possesses an innate intuitive barometer as to how frequent a couple should “plow the road!” This way, one doesnt tear down the tissues within the person he loves.
Chaser48

chihuahuas are way better than women. Their anus’s are so much tighter!!! And dont use lube just shove that dry hard cock in there…make him scream!!!

My wife and I do have anal sex now and then. She really likes it when we can do it. It’s not often that she can do it as she gets nervous to easy and as soon as that happens it’s over. She tightens up and we both know it won’t happen. I have told her that we can forget about trying it again and she tells me to bite my tongue that we will try again. LOL I guess she likes it when we are successful.

I tried it years ago and it didn’t hurt but I didn’t get any sexual pleasure from it. It just felt like nothing really. From the comments below I assume he was doing it wrong!

All men seem to want these days is anal. I’ve read all the posts here. There’s a lot of men pretending to be women, saying how great it is. (a couple pretending to be young girls, yeah right!)

I’ve had anal sex, I know what it’s like. You can’t fool a woman who knows. Indirect simulation is not as good as direct simulation.

So much is expected of us girls. We must be nice, look a certain way, remove all our body hair, constantly be tanned and attractive. Never age. NOW we have to have enemas before we can get any touch!!

I’ve had enough! I’ve had enough of fullfiling mens desires and not getting much back. I don’t want anal. I did it for them! But I’ve had better orgasms on my own. Sorry but it’s true. Oh yes, I can be a big faker just like the rest of us. We are all turning in to fakers to prove we are as good as the girls who preform in films. Real troupers! We want it, we can take anything! Even though we all know they are acting, it’s their flippin’ job!!

Men are sheep. You show them endless films of anal and they think it’s the holy bleedin’ grail!! Oh, to meet a man that doesn’t!! That gets the job done without me having to yawn and think of england while he stinks it up my arse.

I’m finished! I’m growing ALL my boby hair, chucking out my fake tan and never doing a damn thing that I don’t want to again.

Over and out!

Woman definately love anal sex if the guy knows what he is doing. I tried in my earlier days and didn’t know what I was doing and neither of us got much out of it. Now more experienced I have had anal intercourse with my girlfriend that was very satisfying for both of us.

As for what is the motivation there? I definately love the female ass, but I think surely there is a significant psychological component to it with domination and what not. That’s the crux of the pleasure of it and if you and your partner can get into that (knowing the differnce between fantasy and reality) it can be great fun.

“I tried it years ago and it didn’t hurt but I didn’t get any sexual pleasure from it. It just felt like nothing really.”

Have your partner spank you and tell you what a filthy little slut you are for having a big cock shoved up your fat ass. And diddle your clit with your fingers or a small vibrator. You have to let your inner whore out.

I have been dating my girlfriend for 6 months now and we just recently tried anal and found out that she likes it more than vaginal sex I was astounded and very excited by this… use lots of lube and be easy until she gives you that green go light guys!!!

You’re all a bunch of freaks. What’s next? Stick your penis into my ear hole please, I can’t feel anything through my butt anymore? Come on. This just begins to explain why humans will destroy themselves(ourselves).

Hello everyone, after having anal sex, do you go back to having vaginal sex? Doesn’t it get boring? Vaginal sex is necessary for women’s health.

Oh my God, Jules, you are so right! I’m a woman, a young woman, and having anal sex sucks! It’s like taking a dump but to your insides, come on! Let’s cut the crap now, huh? Thanks, Jules, for your comment, it’s absolutely true!

Jules and Carla, what’s more likely: A)you do not enjoy anal sex so that means that all women do not enjoy it and that all women who claim to enjoy anal sex are faking it; or B)you do not enjoy anal sex so that means that some women do not enjoy anal sex.

Also Carla, as a “young woman” you haven’t figured it all out yet (sexually or otherwise). I like things sexually now that I didn’t care for in my early twenties (in my mid-30s now). So of course you like what you like but people and tastes change.

To M (message 282): of course it does not get boring. That’s like breasts becoming boring after you get to third base. From my experience it has been an “occasional” thing anyway. Certainly don’t go back to vaginal RIGHT AFTER anal though without bathing first.

My girlfriend Mycelia tried anal sex with me. She liked it because it didn’t turn out to be messy after all. I made her fart though, however there was no human waste whatsoever.

According to islam anal sex is prohibited. having it is a major crime in islma. and if the husband demands for it the wife has the full right to say no. there are many posts here which says that anal sex is great. but i feel most of them must be posted by guyz who want to get laid. I agree with jules and and carla. so i take it as women dont prefer anal sex. and islam prohibited it 1400 years ago. Islam doesnt opress the woman. Infact it safeguards her. You have to learn it to understand it. hope u ladies find the truth of islam and find peace in it.

me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 10 months here, and we recently tried anal sex and i was really shocked. i did it for him because i knew he had always wanted to try it, and im very open to ‘new ideas’ :]. but honestly with a little clitoral stimulation, and of course as everyone keeps saying, LUBE; it is really enjoyable.

and what is up with all these peoples weird comments anyways?

The only thing I can say
Doit!Up the ASS is Heavenly ! DOIT ! AND DOIT! deep . . . hard n fast

I am very curious about trying anal with my husband – but I have hemmorrhoids. Will it make them worse or what?

I told my wife once that I wanted to try it but she didn’t. I thought that was an end to it. Years later we both were drinking when she told me she wanted to try it. So we did. She enjoyed it while we were doing it, but the next day she said her butt hurt so bad she didn’t want to do it again. We used ky. I wonder if we didn’t use enough or maybe we should have used something different. I enjoyed the feel of it. For some strange reason it made me feel really intimate with her because she was letting me enter her in a place she normally wouldn’t. I would like to do it again, but I doubt it will ever happen.

I’m 52 an was an anal virgin until 3 weeks ago. Now I’m addicted to it! My husband has been patient and has for many years touched the area with finger and penis whenever he could. It was when his tongue moved to the anus during oral that I went into ecstasy and we’ve never looked back. We’ve had anal once or twice a night ever since! Amazing.

i am gay i love it when the cocoks stuck in there

At first I thought anal sex was bad and that is caused excrutiating pain. Not anymore. I tried it about 4 or 5 months ago and now I love every minute of it. I now make it a part of my sex life and do it everytime I have sex. I just make sure I have a lot of lube handy, because plenty is needed when having anal sex. I think every woman should try it at least once in their life.

i want to try it but i feel it hur her if some body wants to advise me wellcome

OMG some of you guys are so dumb….don’t you think that some people like anal sex while others hate it………

Some women like it while others say its painful and doesn’t feel right.

I hate seeing comments like……….How can any women enjoy it?????

Or……..you guys r freaks

Anal sex has been done for CENTURIES and I agree not to force you loved one to do it……………..but please all you people who think sex is taboo to talk about in open and was raised to think that missionary position is the only way to have sex…STFU’

Your ignorance makes me sick…close minded retards

I never even considered anal sex a possibility until I got with my husband and he suggested trying it. I love exploring new things and want to please him sexually so I gave it a chance. The first time we tried it he was very sweet and tender but it was still uncomfortable for me. We kept trying and now we have anal sex a couple times a week and we both love it. My advice would be to try different positions, maybe watch porn with anal in it to become more aroused by the idea of it, use lots of lube and experiment with different types of lube and to buy anal toys. Also use a clitoral vibrator while he’s inside of you…it produces the strongest orgasms. If you try it a couple of times and still have no interest at all then stop. If you try it and can’t quite take it all but the idea still arouses you then keep trying. In order to do it you have to be comfortable with the idea and learn how to relax yourself and open up to him. Good luck.

I am a 28 years old lady. I am scared about any kind of sex with my boyfriend. I do fantacise many times about sex with him, but when we try to do so, i could not perticipate actively. what should i do?

I have great anal sex with my husband. I orgasm in waterfalls and sometimes he will stop and finger me and the orgasms so are so intense that we both get soaked. Don’t know why but he can make me squirt like no other. My best orgasms are anal with clitoral stimulation.

right on target #7

My partner and I have been together for 4 yrs (since i was 16) and have a very open, adventurous and kinky sex life. When we first tried anal it hurt so it wasnt brought up again. But after awhile I couldnt stop fantasising about it, and I would finger myself up my ass and use toys. We tried it awhile later and it was amazing, and ever since then our sex life has been mind blowing! We both love knowing that we can indulge in all our wildest fantasies with each other without feeling ashamed or dirty

My bf and i BOTH find anal sex very pleasurable and exciting. We like to try new things, recently he got curious about why i love all things anal, and i was turned on about the idea as well! I licked and fingered him, and while i prefer being on the receiving end, I love the pleasure that it gives him! I would love 2 use a strap on with him n I know he is keen but im kinda nervous about it too! There’s nothing more fulfilling than feeling completely comfortable 2 share deepest darkest desires with partner

And 2 all the women on here who say that just coz they don’t enjoy anal sex that no women must, and that we r just pretending 2 please our man, don’t be so narrow minded!! We all r different, and while some women have no interest in anal, others find it very pleasurable and arousing! Just as we all like our icecream a different flavour, we all find different things sexually arousing!

Thanks for your article

This is an amazing post, and very facinating to read all of the different viewpoints from all of the different people around the world.

From my point of view as a woman, I absolutely love anal sex, whether it is with my boyfriend or while I am masturbating. I have extremely strong orgasms that are both extremely intense and uncontrollable. I have never experienced pain and feel like my sex life is well-rounded from including anal sex in my lovemaking and masturbation. My boyfriend had never experienced anal sex before we met, and said something on the drive home the other day that I thought was sweet. He told me that even though we do it for sexual pleasure, he feels connected to me because I trust him enough to do something that is very sacred and private between couples. I hadn’t thought about it in that context until he brought it up, but he’s right, it is about trust. I trust him to do something that has the potential to hurt me, but I know that because he cares about my pleasure first, he makes sure that I am enjoying myself so that he can relax and enjoy himself too. Maybe it’s weird to feel that anal sex is sweet, but I thought that him knowing it was important that our minds be connected was the biggest turn on of all.

I must say, I just saw this posting and thought I needed to say something. I started anal at 15 and ALL of my friends gave me crap about it no pun intended there! And it was great I enjoyed it and than 5 years later my same friends from highschool confesssed they love ANAL. I think if its done right than its is amazing!! I mean seriously it is based off of trust, as long as you use alot of lube and he slowly enters and listens to you and than once as he is in, go at it and stimulate the clit possibly with a “bullet” the most amazing orgasm you will ever have!

Im a newlywed and not to much after my honeymoon did me and my husband anal and I did not the after feeling at all, but it wasn’t that bad then I thought. I dont know what holds for the future but if I tried it once and guess I can try it again. lol

i have been left infertile because my partner and i were not careful enough during anal play. he occasionally after fingering me anally would put it back in my vagina, this caused pelvic inflammatory disease which i nearly died from and my fallopian tubes had to be removed. so jst be aware that CLEAN anal sex is absolutely important. we now use latex gloves and condoms for any anal play, and never go from one to other

anal sex is amazing. not saying you would like and not saying you wouldnt. but if you want to try it start off by 69ing with your man and let him slide a finger in. you’ll warm up to it and learn that you love it. i was against it til i moved in with my fiance. he surprised me one night when he slid a finger in and its been one of the main things since then..its great….you should try it….maybe talk your man into letting you finger his “butt”…a lot of men like it. its like a g spot for men

My wife became addicted to anal sex recently.

Being the curious researcher that I am, I learned that the reason why she can orgasm this way lies in the anatomy of the female.

There is an area known as the posterior fornix or “cul de sac” located on the far back wall of the vagina behind the uterus. It is only accessible after a woman is sufficiently aroused (her uterus will tilt allowing access) and unfortunately usually only accessible by a 6″, or longer, penis. Fortunately, This area can be stimulated anally (whether the female is aroused or not). The thin wall separating the vagina and rectum allows for stimulation of the nerves of the posterior fornix.

My penis is 7″ so I have the added benefit of getting her off with fornix stimulation, both vaginally and anally, but for some reason she prefers anal.

it sounds like most comments are left by gay guy’s pretending to be women. although i like women who like getting it in the butt. who do you think your fooling?

A lot of comments here are so puritanical and so completely lacking in understanding about the scope of human sexuality. People are into a lot of different things sexually. That’s the way it’s always been. If both partners in a relationship are okay with it, then they shouldn’t be made to feel immoral or dirty.

this is an interesting issue.Anal sex is one my most high fantasy in my sexual life.i’ve tried it before with someone but due to the pain because i’m an African man with a huge penis that is more than seven inche long we stopped before i can ejaculate inside her.i like women who are curveceous and have big bum.it is private and sacred because you need to talk first before engaging in something like that.you need to communicate about sex not to make it a taboo.all i can say is it doesn’t have to be painful if u are gentle.

hi all, this is important. My wife loves it but it is limited to 3 or 4 times a year. The reason is if you do it all the time, as you get older your muscles are weakened/stretched and your poop just falls out by itself. TRUE. Be careful you could have to wear nappies or diapers as you yanks call them.

When men need more then a vagina they went for the ass. When the ass isnt enough they will look for multiple partners or just cheat on there women. Why has the main focus of life been put on sex. Is it just another drug, another way to cope with life. Courting a woman, romance, dancing with her, pulling out her chair, opening a door for her, telling her how much she is loved by you, writing a love letter with out sex talk telling her about her wonderful qualities…..Is too much focus on orgasm cheapening the life, love relationship with women. Are women nothing more then something to poke. Where has respect for women and ourselves gone. Are we just animals with no choice. Are we becoming shallow….life is only about sex? When life is near the end for each and every one of us…is sex all what life was supposed to be about or was it much more? Have we become animals. Is the purpose of Life supposed to be about Love? What is Love? Do animals Love or just hump because thats all the choice they have been given for there existence? Are we becoming like animals that have no focus on Love? Are we looking for some ultimate fullfillment? Are we looking in the wrong direction? Is Love all we need or is it sex is all we need. Whats our choice which separates us from only having animal instinct. Is Love primarily about intercourse? Is life about intercourse. Do we really want a deeper meaning for life. Will we be at peace. Will sex be enough???

i dislike anal sex. i tried it last night for the first time, & never again.

OMG reading all this made me sick lol. first of all you men who want anal done on you…turn off ur porn , you watch to much of it. I bet majority of all of you watch porn 5 times a week. oh & you shouldnt even be around children, your all just horny all the time. its sick. calm down relax, you all want to much of everything, like animals. If doctors showed you a list of all the health effects of this, you would be in denial, if you caught stds, it wouldnt stop you either. thats why theres so many hirricanes in the world , your all going to hell, i doubt you care. also im not at all religous, im just not stupid, im not the type to justify my actions and making it seem ok to suit my desires. anyways animals take care , oh no man or women will ever be just satisfied with just anal , you will soon find urself wanting three-somes, & swingers, your desires will only grow, then when your in your graves (you cant deny that) you will look back & think about what you did with your life. a animal will being on a higher scale trust me

To (314) very sick people:

Of course sex is not the most important thing in the world. Of course love is more important and it’s sad for anyone to think otherwise.

But this is a discussion of sex. If someone is discusing cars or politics it is not saying that cars or politics are more important then other things.

Romantic dinners and love letters and all of those things are nice too. Anal sex doesn’t stop you from any of these other things.

317- your missing the point, we know this forum is about anal sex however,you have to admit that we have become a society that is obsessed with anal sex, porn, three-somes , swingers. im not religous but it doesnt take a genious to know that the anal area was created for poop. i was reading posts above on how women would strap on a dildo & bang a guy. its becoming more & more nasty, worse then animals. He might as well be gay. Just because it feels good dosent mean do it. a lot of things that would take me to jail would feel good. we are so quick to follow orders of man made laws but we ignore gods. Then you wonder why we get hit by hurricanes and we lose our homes. I can easily laugh at these posts and ignore them, but i care. For all the women who say ” i like it”, i hope u like it when you have to wear a diaper, or when you catch a desease. TURN OFF UR PORN, this is how ppl start out gay , bi, or confused!, u get into one thing then that one thing doesnt turn you on, so you try something else, then that doesnt turn you on, so then you try the worst. never satisfied. its like when you tell 1 lie, you end telling 10 lies.

to # 317…What I said is about anal sex….its also about vaginal sex, sex in general, backward morals and values, also about no values, and about life, love, happinesss, and about choices, and going down the wrong road looking for the ultmate fullfillment. Its all questions designed for our minds to think and then listen to our heart to see if it really feels right for each one of us. Let any question posted by anyone cause us to think and help you in any way that its meant to help you. Always we must decide for ourselves but listen closly to your soft still inner voice it will be your guide to all that is right and true. The Truth which is Love will set us free and keep us on the right road….There is a wrong road……

To the southern floridian, Tennessein, Georgian, Redneck azz holes. MOOOOOOOOOOO = AssBangingYourCows–Shut the F k up.

Its kind of Funny how all the Muslims, or pretend Muslims say that Anal sex is a forbidden charm in the Koran, adn if a woman says no then so shall it be? Yet Mohammed had sex with 8 year old boys, and how do you have sex with a boy, 8 years old?? And in Islam the woman has no right to file any greivince against her husband, no mater wat the issue. if they do, they are possibly stoned to death if the husband sees it right.

Muslims are the, besides the greeks No.1 butt pirates the world over. And it is not immoral to rape a boy up to the age 15 who is not related to the family. It is all in the Koran on behaviour and Mohamheds past. wh do people not kow this stuff when it is threatening to take over youre life’s?. By force neverless.
Mohamhed, the Child Molester, both Boys and girls, married when she was 9? is not a pervert, and a rapist, and raping boys is not a crime but enjoyfull for a scared kid?? Muslims, go to hell!!! If not by suicide by a 5.56 traveling 3000 fps up youre ass.
If you had the common decency to treat youre own women with respect and rights, then maybe we will listen to you. Untill then, shut up, or leave this country and world applaudingly, please before we have to shoot you all in the arse!!.

Some of you ppl r so closed minded…why do u think ur so much better than us that u can judge what we do? In most cases, anal sex is not about being immoral or that we’re not satisfied and trying to find some other way to get our rocks off. It is about being intimate with ur partner and being able to share all of urself with the person u love. At least, it is that way with me and my husband. If ur comfortable sexually and emotionally with someone then what is the harm in exploring new things together

Well woman and men, the truth is (almost every) living creature find mates for reproduction purposes. That includes us, human. And for this reason the only way of doing it is via vaginal sex (in natural way). Other than that such as oral and anal sex is purely for so called “entertainment” purposes only. Orgasm was just added into the elements so that the pleasure will helps to encourage us into more reproduction, maintaining our species. So, the conclusion is for what reason do you need sex in the first place? If you have the answer then determine how you want to perform it.

elmo10 can you plz give us proof in the quran where it states the prophet raped a 10 yr old boy? loool u should right novels, ur really good. stop dreaming about little boys u sick queer.dont be jelous that the muslim religon is about purity, about women waiting till marriage to have sex, they dont drink they dont eat pork, they clean our selves evertime when they pray 5 times a day, DO WHAT YOU WANT, YOU WANT YOUR GIRL TO STRAP ON A DILDO & BANG YOU FROM YOUR ANAUS, GO AHEAD, WHO CARES, BUT DONT MAKE UP LIES. KEEP UR FILTHY MENTALITY TO YOUR SELF. im not muslim but my brother converted, & my brother would never converted if he knew anything of the nasty rumors were true. AGAIN go do your homework , read the quran , THATS IF YOU KNOW HOW TO READ. anyways im outy i hope you all enojoy getting up your asses. bubyee

you i laugh when u idiots say theres no haram in exploring. Theres a limit to everything. As i was reading that men like it up the anal and the girlfriend uses a strap on, it so sick. let be real. you can achieve a orgasim the way god intended so why exceed limits. why do we women lower oursleves so this degree. DAMN

I first tried it when showering with my husband years ago. We were showering/playing. I was well lathered and bent over to pick up dropped soap. He was sliding his erect penis along m crack and it “slipped” into the wrong opening.I commented “you have it in the wrong place he stated to pull back and i stopped him and said to just slide in in carefully. I think he was shocked. But he did. I reached back and held his hi with one hand and massaged myself with the other. I tried to keep him from noticing I was taking are of my button. When I came, he exploded in me.
We have continued having anal ever since.
my husband isn’t large but good in bed. Some other guys who I had sex with in the past, I doubt if I would have allowed the acidental entr to continue due to size and lack of concern for me. but my gu is just right in both ways.
A few years later i got a “realistic” dildoe of six inches which is both longer and thicker than he. I as concerned about getting him to let me insert it into my vagina while he was in my bottom. he hesitated at first but went along with it. I enjoy having both spaces filled. Either he or I also massage my clit when both openins are filled. This part of our sex is done for me!!. He gets his special pleasures, too.
As an aside, I also have an 8 inch dildoe which i much thicker than the other one. I use that when alone in the sower and oly in my vagina.Its one I can straddle or bac onto on the shower wall. Those fill that opening. His tool does great in my bottom, mouth or hand. Of course he access to all of me whenever he wants. if you are curious try. It can take practice or as in my case . . one slip into the wrong opning planted a seed (more like a lot of seed) in me. I have loved it ever since.

wow ajb sorry for me coz no available dildo here in middle east i wanna try it really coz whene my husband do it in my backdoor im just playing w/my clit i wish i could get one of that dildo thing

elmo10 make sure please before you say any thing,,,

My husband and I engage in anal sex at least twice a week. Although a little painfull in the beginning, i really enjoy it. This is the only way I can reach an orgasm.

I enjoy sex. But I noticed my body as changed.

jane access to good dildos in the middle east is something I know nothing about. But. as i said, my husband is great in all ways. But, i like both openings filled and either he or I play with my clit (usually me).His dick is nice but doesn’t really fill my front (he can visit it any time he wants). that is why I want him to enjoy my backdoor, play with my clit, allow me to use my “small” dildo while he is in the back. It is great!! (His tongue is also great!!). When alone, I have a natural dildo that I can sit on or preferably attach to to my shower wall and back onto. I only do that when alone at home. I do not want my husband to feel inadequate . . . which he is not. I just like variety without seeing other men which I don’t (well not often).
Can’t you order a nice natural dildo from Doc Johnsons on the internet. High quality ones feel almost like the “real dick”. I love mine and they bith get used “hard”!! I’m nearly 60 years old and like all my openings filled by my husband, dildos, tongues, fingers . . . sometimes friends. Try to get what you need; artificial or by discreet friends.

Oh, Jane the dildo I use alone is an eight incher that is very thick. I’ve tried it in my bottom but like the six incher better there. Don’t overdo it in the back. Better to save it for smaller visitors. keep your vagina for your husband and if you get a good dildo (get a good natural one).Of course if you dohave other men of large size let them have access to the front and save one special place just forthe husband. At least that is my philosophy. Works for us!!

I was with only one man for over 25 years, and recently am involved with another. He introduced me to anal sex and I love it. He also introduced me to “poppers” found in the heterosexual community in Quebec – that is where he is from -and it certainly makes the sex easier. Poppers can be found in the gay community in Ontario

thanks ajb for the impormation sorry anyway coz im not so good in english im from phillipines my husband marry me when im 16 and now im 30years old im not really happy in our relationship coz hes so unfair he dont let me to go out or to have friend if i need something he take me i dont have any friend but just recently i found friend but his so far im in middle east and his in newyork

thanks ajb for the imprmation but i cant have dildo coz i dont have anyfriend here in middle east my husband not let me to go out or to have friend

i really wanna buy dildo but i dont know how or where i dont have a visa card i just have a cash but i know that its not allowed in here so sorry for me

In response to comment 178: (and several others)

I wasn’t going to respond, but this one was the straw that broke the feminist’s back.

My experience with anal is limited and comes from a time (I was 15) when I didn’t know my own worth. I was ’sodomized’ and hurt to the point of sobs as it happened and was pretty scarred by it.

Now, I am 28 years old, I KNOW my self worth, and I’m in a relationship with someone I truly adore. And I want him to pound my ass flat. I came on here today to do research, being an obsessively clean person, I was searching for horror stories. Instead I found a bunch of men and women trying to degrade me by saying that my desire of this new exploration with the man I love is only due to my subservient and spineless feminity. I couldn’t possibly be doing it because I am an adventurous, curious, and open woman. It’s because I am programmed to please my man.

There is POWER in pleasing your man. When I wrap my lips around his cock, I am in complete control of that man, and he knows it. And when I make him come (and swallow, because apparently I am brainwashed to believe that is my duty as the fairer sex and not because I like to show him who it belongs to!) I detest the taste and only do it because he tells me to, and that’s only after he decks me for burning the roast.

The moment I open myself to him to let him penetrate me bass-ackwards, I know that his greatest concern will be my comfort (and he has yet to make a move for fear of hurting me, he is rather well endowed). I won’t lie though, the thought of a clitoral vibrator and anal coersion, of my man losing his absolute mind with his fingers gripping my hips after being utterly careful to do it right, his skin against mine, his breath labored and excited…it has a moistening effect, ladies and gentlemen. That’s power…and it is mine. If we work, we will work it often, if not…he’s a stallion in any department, I don’t think it will cause too much trouble.

Anal may be taboo to some, but to those who don’t find it such, don’t try to force your anti female stance on them. If a woman wants her man to sacrifice his cock to the ass gods, and he is a willing victim…then step the hell off and let the lady through.

I’ve practice many different forms of sex with my partner as well. My partner even told me that during a session she had 5 orgasms with anal sex alone, while during another session only up to 4 with vaginal. I never thought that a person could get that many orgasms with just anal sex alone in one session. It is definitely great for me.

My thoughts on anal are simple:

What started off as something experimental with my wife (watching to many xxx movies) gave me a feeling of dominance over her (not to forget that it feels awesome). She would let me do it even though she didnt really get an orgasm from it.

Overtime and with some experimentation I finally found a way to make her want it. Once Im in and after everything relaxes she enjoys it, however, she has multiple orgasms when she puts the strap on clit stimulator on while I do her ass.

In our sexual exploration she also wanted to play with mine. A vibrator and a blow job rule. My best orgasm ever was the first time she did me with a strap-on.

Mutual Anal play is awesome. Incredible orgasms. At this point we have sex at least once a day. Mostly anal. Blow job without a vibrator boring.

Wow, all of you on your “domination” hang ups have it totally wrong. Firt off, it isn’t always about domination…what is that? It doesn’t mean the man is insecure, or has issues with woman or wants to control women. Some people honestly enjoy the feeling of anal sex, so what? Why turn everything into a psychological issue? Secondly, even if there is domination involved, usually the partner receiving anal (remember not just women can take it up the wazoo, men have butts too) likes that aspect of it. And NO that doesn’t mean he or she has esteem or confidence or self-worth issues, or is being abused. Some couples practice anal regularly along with other forms of sexual expression. I am not saying people (of both genders and then some) have not been forced into it…but women have also been forced into vaginal sex and oral sex, and men have been raped and forced also! So does that mean ALL forms of sex no matter what or a form of control and rape? I don’t think so. And to the remarks above about it not being “natural.” Well neither is any single other sexual act besides vaginal intercourse. So I guess oral sex is wrong also and is about some underlying psychological factor I mean that isn’t natural at all either, in fact kissing is not natural! We do not kiss by nature…that is a man made gesture of adoration! I guess that is wrong and immoral also!
I also don’t believe it is just about the man’s pleasure! Women , many women, find a lot of pleasure with anal sex…why are feminist always to eager to jump on the “she is just doing it for him! ” issue? If she didn’t want to do it, well she wouldn’t. I would also like to add to that however, that sometimes in reletionships we do need to do things the other partner enjoys. It goes both ways, not all men enjoy cunninglingus do they? No, many do not…but they do it to please her. It shouldn’t be constant, and one partner should not be the only one getting favors..but now and then, it is good to do those things. However, in most cases women who engage in anal sex, like it and that doesn’t mean she has childhood issues because of it, and it doesn’t mean her husband/bf/fiance/bed buddy/one night stander is some abusive, raping, dominating, womanizing jerk either! Most men , if you tell them no…will stop! They may whine or beg, be mad or hurt..but they will stop. A mature man will respect that and swallow the dissapointment and move on.
I also have to agree with the remarks I read above about men enjoying anal…why is that never mentioned? Men I have herd get more pleasure out of anal than women do because of the prostate factor. I say anal should go both ways, if she can take it…then he should be able to! That is also what I mean about domination and how ridiculous that is. Maybe both participants just really enjoy getting and giving it up the butt! It isn’t anymore about domination than both partners giving one another oral is it? Why does it have to be about domination? Unless that is what both people are into…it isn’t about that at all! And who says the woman has no control? What is that about? Women have A LOT of control during anal, control of their movement, of the speed of focusing on their pleasure and their partners pleasure. The person receiving anal does not have to just lay there like a lump! You can still be part of the act and should be! It is much better that way. I think far too many people have such cliche, naive and black and white mindsets on just about everything. It is either this way, or that way…case closed. Sexuality is dynamical and we are dynamical creatures…nothing about humans is black and white, so why would sex be? It isn’t about HIS pleasure and HER being dominated and only doing it for HIM. In fact it isn’t about gender at all…is SHE domianting him if she does it to him? Or if it is two men…is one more dominate? I never saw it that way, it is just another sexual act that feels wonderful if done the correct way. If someone isn’t into that that is fine, find something else. Geesh people…come on.

No you are wrong Dreika. Anal sex isn’t natural, and is no ok! And it is about domination, and men use it to control women. How could a woman find pleaure in something so grotestue, dangerous and painful? I guess you must enjoy rectal examns at the doctors office to? You sound like you have issues with men and never learned self-respect, you must have been incested by your father or uncle or brother and now you think you have to let men do what they want to you. I feel bad for women like you, you have been abused your entire lives and don’t realize it. You need some help , and then men forcing you into this need to go to jail. Men don’t really enjoy anal either, it is just a way to control women that is all. You deluded yourself into thinking there is pleasure to it…there isn’t. What happened to you when you were a little girl to warp your thinking like this? Also, what do you mean men taking it up the butt? That is wrong..men don’t do that, only gay men…are you a gay man? What are you talking about? Why even bring that up? You sound really confused, scared, lost and brainwashed. You should stop letting men take advantage of you just so you feel loved and wanted. I will pray for you that you can find the help you need and get out of these horrible releshionships you are in. I pray for all women who are deluded and coherced into anal sex and say they like it to cover up the pain. When are you men going to stop using your larger stature and penic to hurt and control women! Men are insecure and hate that women are by nature smarter and more clevere than them, thatis why they use things like anal rape to get the upper hand! It is sickening, and even more sickening that women like Dreika are so disillusioned they actually think they like it,and think the way she does!

i have been wondering for some time now wat anal sex is like i have been wanting to try it although my girlfriend is not up to it at all infact she said that there is no way that she would try it and i feel that i kinda said the wrong thing wen we were talking about it cuz i said “that i wouldnt want to either cuz i thought that my penis wasnt supposed to go there” and i really regret it cuz i actually do want to try it and i want to try it with her and i dont want to do something that she wont be comfortable with but i just cant stop thinking about it and i dont want to ask her cuz i dont want her to get offended or think that i am gross or something… wat should i do?

Some of these comments are disgusting, not in the sense that some of the posts above are looking down on people for what they do in the bedroom. If my wife and I want to explore what we like then so help us that is our right as beings with free will we owe it to ourselves to try and experience new things. As for the man who liked his wife to do him ok why not just respect the man and leave it be? Do you really not have anything better to do than to traverse the vastness of the web and preach your personal feelings? I don’t expect an answer and I don’t want one just please try to hold back the preaching ok we got your message but you deliver it in entirely the wrong way. You preach from personal disgust and hate that never changes peoples minds it just strengthens their resolve. (Not the person who posted about the Muslim faith you did it very non agressively it was still a bit gruff but you weren’t trying to destroy people) As for the feminist your post was utterly disgusting destroying what little respect anyone can have for you as a credible poster. First you berate men for wanting to “control” women I do believe that sex is about control it is something that turns both men and women on the power to control your partners pleasure is that a bad thing? It is good that you are passionate about something but you go about sending your message the wrong way by personally attacking women who say they like anal and saying that they were sexually abused is a stretch. (it does happen but some women may like it) Your whole post is Drenched with ignorance. Not every man wants to control women and sex CAN sometimes be a loving and passionate thing. The harder you preach your rhetoric the more people will be disgusted by your representation. Stating that “You will pray for them.” is only hurting your case, too often the church is portrayed as a negative entity because of people like you screaming your beliefs in a hateful manner. You destroy what you fight for.

Look at all these feminists and lesser men saying men who love anal sex are male chauvinists. Are you out of your mind?

For the feminists.. YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO SAY IN THIS MATTER WHATSOEVER. NONE. You probably wished you had a penis and to feel how great it feels like in the butt. Thats why you’re probably a feminist in the first place eh?

and for the guys who say its demeaning to women..yeah right. If the girl doesnt want to and you forced it on her..its called RAPE and she has every right to go to the police. WHY CANT YOU ACCEPT THAT SOME IF NOT MANY WOMEN LOVE ANAL?

this isnt the 1950s people. Live life.

For all of you who keep saying anal sex is some kind of domination thing, you are very wrong. Maybe it is for some men, but not for me. I’m just extremely attracted to my wife’s butt. It took almost 10 years of marraige before she finally let me try it. it didn’t work out the first several times because she said it was painful. Didn’t matter how much lube we used. But eventually she found a different kind of lube that worked much better (it is thicker than the usual watery stuff) Now we do it regularly. I love it. It feels different, it is tighter, and I love the feeling of her butt cheeks up against me. I also like it because we generally don’t use any birth control except for “withdrawal” or condoms. With the back door, I don’t need a condom and I don’t need to pull it out. Since we’re married, there is no issue of disease. It does require a shower afterwords, though.

I am recently divorced after 25 years and in my early 40s. My new partner who is bit younger asked me if I did anal and my inital reaction was no way….he is such an amazing lover and all it took was going down on me then down a little further….plenty of lube and a gentle lover who will listen to you and go slow until you say otherwise will make for a wonderful experience. I love it, it’s not a domination thing for him, it pleases him and it pleases me, the orgasm seems to just keep going. I love it and look forward to it each time we are together. It is such an intimate sexual experience, never have I felt so close to someone.

I am from Indonesia. I dont understand Americans -in this case-. Guys, you waste your time discussing about anal sex. They who dont want to have anal sex: leave them alone. If you want to try or like it. Its up to you. Lets talk about something more sane. Titik. Selesai. Orang Amerika memang gila…

I would like to offer a different perspective on this one. I’m a young ‘gay’ man, 20, who enjoys sex with women too.
A female friend and I had an excellent night of the hottest sex i have ever experienced with a man or woman because of our anal adventures. She initated this. Funnily enough, i do not enjoy gay anal sex, and certainly didnt propose it to her. However, for her to ask, even beg for me to enter her from behind, to pleasure her as she wanted to be pleasured, was exhililrating for me, as it was for her. Consequently, we both enjoyed the experience. This differes from my previous gay experiences (both giving and recieving) whereby anal is considered by many as the only way to have gay sex and is entered into without any real discussion or mutual care or understanding.

Clearly, anal is suited to certain types of people comfortable in themselves and their partners. For me, anal is more appropriate in a heterosexual relationship.

The informations above that divulge in homophobic and femminist commentaries are completely unfounded and built on moral conditioning of what we are taught to believe is right and wrong. The problem is, these beliefs are outdated and need to be looked at realistically – people are free to explore their sexuality as they wish. Unless some anti-sodomistic 1950’s feminist bible basher decides to smite you down in the process.

Play safe!

responding to Roger.

My partner never treated it as taking over or full domination. He preferred the tightness of anal as opposed to vaginal intercourse. It has ALWAYS been amazing. I am so sorry you feel that way.

Like many women, I have IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome) and it was hard to always enjoy anal because of gastro-intestinal instability with diarrhea, gas, hemorrhoids, etc. I was VERY uneasy about letting something go IN there rather than OUT, but I tried anal with my husband and just loved it. There’s nothing like the feeling of his cock in my ass. I never knew I’d like it so much, but it was difficult and at times painful because of my intestinal problem. I had to do something because I didn’t want to give it up, I was getting addicted to it. My GI doctor told me to change what I ate – more chicken, beef, potatoes, and yogurt drinks with “probiotic” cultures and cut back on the stuff like veggies, fruits, and salads all the time. It really made a difference and with the right lube specially designed for anal sex, we now do anal a lot more and it’s so much more enjoyable because I don’t have bowel inconsistencies or loose stool anymore because I eat a lot more solid foods in my diet. I have thicker, normal stool now which feels like it’s caused my rectum and anal sphincter to open up a lot more to accomodate my husband’s big and thick cock more easily inside me which just makes the anal experience a lot more enjoyable. It’s still very tight, but he likes it more now too because he can pound me harder without worrying about hurting me. I overcame my intestinal worries and can now please me husband with all my orifices equally, and it makes me feel more feminine than I’ve ever felt to know I can satisfy him in every way. He now sticks it up my ass almost every time we have sex, several times a month, and I orgasm much more easily because it feels so much better. We feel our sex life is very “fullfilling” now. (pun intended)

I find it that when u are very lubed up u doing the work once it is inserted that way u can control the movement and slowly going in until u get used to the feel and that..That is what I did the first time I had anal sex. And now I love it, It’s the most ultimate orgasm..exspecially when I am

Men who enjoy anal sex can’t be 100% straight. Bisexual at least.

Jeez you talk about him pounding you ….and you like it, it’s sounds animalistic quite frankly. I think your Americans spend far too much time watching porn and then running into your bedrooms to copy the actors, your a gullible bunch constantly wanting to try out what you see on TV. If you like that type of sex then fine but all it really means is that your anus is tighter than your vagina and he is fed up of your lose vagina so wants your anus…it’s insult. It’s like a drug the first time you take em’ induced is a grt feeling but then you contiune and you never get that very ’same’ feeling again. Same with virginity men want the tightness all the time and it is just impossible so they resort to Anal sex if you don’t want to do just tell him you have the runs!

I personally have absolutely NO interest in anal sex, but I respect that there are people out there that do….I just happen to be quite protective of my sensitive bum and know that another tear would be inevitable. I came on here to read opinions about anal sex because my friend’s boyfriend keeps insisting on having anal sex even though she’s still recovering from their previous experience – ie – tearing and bleeding. I told her that I think the fact that she’s NOT enjoying it and that he keeps persisting, is really selfish and sick….if it’s not mutually enjoyable then yes, it IS a control issue and completely and utterly selfish. That’s my opinion. If there’s ladies out there giving in to their man’s persistence though there’s no actual interest on your part, you’ve got a loser on your hands.

hey all i have read just about all the comments on this page, and wanted to just say that i was very scared to try anal but i tried it a few years ago with someone didn’t work tried it again with someone else some years later and didn’t work again then i just tried it this past friday and it was AMAZING!!!! thats all i can think about and i want to do it again i can’t wait till the next time it happens

To laila, I am from singapore..your neighbouring country if u didnt know u dumb indon.

Asians do anal too..your country is just backwards.

I recently started to have anal sex with my boyfriend and enjoy it allot. I never thought I would but I request it more now. As long he is lubricated and takes his time, you can really enjoy. I find more orgasms more intense when we have anal sex.

I can say that I tried it in my first marriage. It was unconfortably strange and naughty at first but so exciting I wanted more. It completely turned my partner on to no end!
I can’t wait to do it again!! How you enjoy sex with your partner is up to you.

My wife and I have been playing with other couples for years but it hasn’t been until recently that she tried anal and she LOVES it. She enjoys it so much that she prefers to be double penetrated.

My wife and I have been playing with other couples for years but it hasn’t been until recently that she tried anal and she LOVES it. She enjoys it so much that she prefers to be double penetrated.

I have been discussing this with my current partner because neither of us know how anal sex works because neither of us has done it. I am concerned that I am just foisting my desires on her and she won’t enjoy it. I would be much happier if I thought she would get as much pleasure from it as I stand to do. What is the physiology of it? It is clearly not a natural act so what pleasure can she expect to get apart from the obvious intimacy and giving of trust? My doubts will hold me back until I don’t feel too exploitative.

I can’t help it. I love getting it up my butt. My fiance loves to give it to me that way, but I always feel so guilty afterwards because it’s supposed to be wrong. Its not like we do it all the time like that, but sometimes I feel like feeling his penis in my butt and he wants to feel a tighter squeeze around his penis so we do it from time to time. whats the big deal if we both like it and he puts on a condom for cleanliness and i clean myself with douch? he really gets off on dominating me and i absolutely enjoy being dominated by him it makes me feel so submissive and girlie and hes so strong and puts me where he wants me and just takes me right there like that. i really feel like im the woman and hes the man. when he handles me this way, i totally give up my butt for him to do what he wants with my body. all i can think in my mind is ‘take it, my butt is urs, enjoy it, enjoy my body, im ur woman, im giving myself to u’ its like i set it to ‘autopilot’ and relax and enjoy the ride. and hes so good and smooth its awsome!

ummmm,I prefer anal to vaginal any day. it’s my choice my body and I choose anal.

I don’t care what anyone says. “anonymous” (comment #352) wins for the most idiotic comment. The sex act does not determine whether someone is homosexual or heterosexual or “bisexual” as he or she writes. it’s the GENDER (plainly) of the person with whom you’re having sex. If they’re the same sex as you are—yer gay (DUH!). If they’re the sex opposite of yours–yer straight (The Hell you say!). Claiming that a guy who likes to perform anal sex on a WOMAN is gay (or bi which is basically gay as only pure hetero is hetero), is probably THE most retarded thing I’ve ever heard. Gay men suck each others’ penises. So according to anonymous’ warped logic, obviously I’m gay because I like to receive oral sex from women. What an asswipe. And we wonder why the world is in the sorry state that it is when the answer is plain—it’s populated by too many idiots like “anonymous”. He or she should be ashamed to use his or her name.

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 16 months now and tried anal for the first time last night, it was quite painful. we stopped due to the discomfort. Could we have done something wrong? Should we try again?

Brittany

im a straight guy ive been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and we tried anal once but didnt use any lube i didnt get it even close to in and it hurt her really bad i want to try it again but the last thing i want to do is hurt her. should i just get the idea out of my head or is there something i could do.
i also like it when she plays with my butt and would not mind the role reversal i actually kind of want to have her put on a strap on and give it to me in my butt.
is there anyone else out there who could give me some tips on both of these subjects prefrebly honest ones not the fake made up ones casue i know theyre in here but i can tell the difference but im here casue i really want to learn so if you could help please let me know

I am 81 years old and had my second anal sex a few weeks ago. I had tried it once a long time ago.
I am really into it! My boyfriend is very caring and gentle. Last time it got pretty frentic with hard strokes but it was good. If you have someone that is kind and caring, try it.

Even as a guy who has seen a lot of anal porn there are times when I’m just not into it but when I am and she is it is great. I’ve now had the pleasure of three partners who had anal with me, plus one other that was curious but we never got around to it for one reason or another, and yet another that said no but later enjoyed it with a subsequent lover. I’m quite large but not huge, my partners have not performed enemas, and several times there has been no lube but natural juices and it has nearly always been nthing butt [sic] clean, sexy pain free fun. I’m probably just lucky so please heed all the advice about lube, cleanliness and preparation – good luck to you I hope you experience lots of pleasure and fun trying out anal!

ok anal,,, well lets just say of course any woman is going to be wierd at first. heres the thing the reason there is some women who like it alot and others who dont,, that due to the fact that there are men who dont know what they are doing they just want it and jump rite in , thats why there are those women who disslike it theyv had it done wrong way. those who do like it is due to the men who knew what they were doing or supposed to do. there is however the percentage a women who dont like it for the main simple fact that they have one either not done it yet so they scared or two have tried it once or three times and each experience sucked ass due to a male who had the lack of knowledge, or experience
so all in all ladies take this and run with it it is a good thing it does feel wounderfully fulfilling like some say they like the way it feels inside them like that they feel a more deeper penatration and connection , and it send you over the orgasm edge. !!! lol! yea buddy.

Anal sex leads to serious medical problems including incontinence. Once your sphincter muscles are torn during anal penetration, as time goes on you will lose control over bowel functions and the only remedy is surgery. THINK ABOUT THE CONSEQUENCES OF WHAT YOU ARE DOING PLEASE.

I’m 22 in a relationship and do anal frequently. before i was monogamous, i did anal with almost every boyfriend that wanted it – mostly jocks cause i was on the dance team in highschool and have been very active in college. i know im a slut. im not ashamed of my sexuality. its not my fault guys fall for my ass. ive been taking so many different men’s cocks up my ass i cant even recall how many exactly and i crap just fine, thank u Diane. i believe ive had 16 cocks inside my ass now that i think about it and they all did it with vigor. the man im in a relationship with now is 34 and is not far above average down there – about 7″ and good thickness to get the job done. i have no complaints and take it in my ass over and over again. so thanks for the advice, but no thanks. get ur facts straight, or try it first several times before talking about incontinence so you can feel it for yourself and get some experience…oh yea, and you know what?…you may actually get an orgasm from it!

My advise for anyone unsure about trying anal intercourse. First ask your partner to place his finger at the opening of your anus, then insert it during vaginal intercourse. If you experience the best orgasium you ever had. You should try it fully, expecially if you have a man that can go all night.

Hi dear do not worry you are not the only one of us out there that finds anal sex to be disgusting and unatural.There are trust me lots of us all ages that think this practice is for the kinky and preverse people.There are still normal people out there that would never push this on you.If someone to me sugests this they are on my never in a million years list.Let me tell you i have been in a very very nasty verbal abusive marraige for over 30 years.And am contamplating ending it.But if this is the only way men that i have talked to think of treating a lady.Than i would rather stay in this abuseive marraige than take it up the butt for any man.No thank you dear just tell any man have you heard of AIDs?I work in the nurseing field and find it funny that so many people think the condoms stop everything.Hummm wonder how many unwanted prenancies there are that have said the condom broke or it sliped off.Yeah right.The biggiest increase in new AIDs cases and Herpies and Genatel warts is in the age group between 40s and 60s.Why because so many women that have been in bad marriges that have been stupid and stuck it out for the children because our world told them to.Are just finaly getting feed up with this.Now that the children are gone and they are left looking at a man who they have not loved for years.And what left to enter dating again to a bunch of what sickos and perverts that cant get off by haveing sex with a normal woman who is not in to kinky sex.Thank you very much guys makes me really want to be single again.NOT.No thank you Mr verbaly abusive wins hands down to MR sicko.Not all women want to experance ANAL Sex so if it doesnt seem right to you dont do it.I am telling you talking to even younger women who i work with they say no to it to.So dont worry dear you are not alone.Just set boundries.Tell men before you met them i am not in to kinky sex or ANAL and if you are just keep moving and dont stop cause your a** just dont intrest me one bit.Dont let anyone tell you that it is normal or try it you might like it.I have not tried it and i am pretty sure if i had i would not like something put in a waste treatment plant and than what want vaginal sex or a blow job i dont think so.

Oh and i forgot working in the nurseing field i forgot to tell you women who are doing anal sex.We often wonder how these women who give birth to things that stop up the toilets what happened to them and why can they have such large very large BMs.Years and years of anal abuse.To me if a man wants anal sex than you should be able to shove the biggiest dildo up his anal passage and have him like it.I dont think so bucko.

Oh also i forgot guys.I am very glad that men know so much about Anotomy as there is a nerve in your rectom.That is called the VEGAL nerve.And if hit or damagaded can cause a person to be parlized for the rest of there life.Trust me working in the nursing field of this i know ladies.If hit wrong or damaged you are going to be one damaged woman and the plus side is being laughed at because you are no longer able to be able to hold your stool when you get older.So go for it women there is so many perks to anal sex.

I’m a guy who recently started taking a strap on from my girlfriend. It is an amazing thing. The sensation is uncomfortable for about the first 30 seconds, then it’s just so intense. I am completely relaxed afterward. I like knowing what it’s like to be on the receiving end of what I’m giving…that’s better for me and for her. Does it make you gay if you like this? Only if you do it with guys (as with oral sex).

My husband really likes it.. I hate it, but keep doing it anyway. It hurts so bad that I cry during sex, but he just keeps right on pumpin.. I don’t know what to do

My husband and I did it last night I want to say I loved it and was very pleased. I feel so close to him now, its very sexual.

and i main thing anal sex helps to enlarge size of the penis enjoy

And we wonder why our world is so screwed up.And so many children are getting hurt by these sick twisted individuals who no longer find sex confined to what is to be between consenting adults.What is next.This is the most disgusting thing i have ever heard of.I do not tell other people how to live there lives.But trust me this is so far off the map its not funny.Some people say at work it is a male domanance thing.But i think men who want to play with a womans butt are just trying out the waters before moveing on to being with a man.And they just dont want to let the rest of the world in on there secrets.So guys get off women butt and go and find some guy who likes it.Not all women like haveing something up there butt.And dont try and make it seem like this is a normal thing.As being a baby boomer its not.It is something that men have just decided that is ok and normal for there sick twisted little minds since they tire of there disgusting porno’s.What is wrong with people they have lost there fricking mind.No anal sex is not the norm.And dont pretend it is.Some men never learn and this is why we can not get a break on the AIDs epedimic.Sorry guys some women are not in to takeing it for the gipper.If my husband ever sugested it to me.I would have him castrated.Or take him to a gay bar.I do not mind gay people they dont try and push there ideas on straight people.

I really want to do anal with my wife of 18 years, but she has this mind thing that anal is nasty and it is against God to do such. We just started doing oral a few years ago and thats great, but I want to hit her in the rear. I have slipped a finger in her a few times while doing oral and I noticed that she just tense up and hold herself back from getting an orgasism. I can lick her clit until she gets ready to cum, but as soon as I try to ease one finger in that booty, she moves my hand. I really thinks she wants to let me put the head in her butt, she is scared or something. Most of all she is a christian woman that has been told for years that nothing is suppose to go in the rear. I am a christian and really believes it’s ok to do anal to my wife. I noticed that after we give oral to each other we are so lovely all day long and that state last for a few days and then we are not as close and lovely. I believe if she would let me lube up really good and ease the head in and then part of the shaft, she would like it. How do i go about asking her to let me put my penis in her butt? Even after I slipped my finger in her a few times, she is still against me going in to her. We can be in the act of having sex in the vagina and I try to slide my dick out and close to that tight booty hole, she always move my head back to the front of the vagina. Let me try to explain how I got the craving to do my wife in the anus. Well, one night we had sex doggy style laying on our side. After we both came, we didn’t get up for a shower right away. We laid right there and fell asleep. We went to sleep with my penis still in her vagina. Somehow, my penis went soft and got hard again, but in the process of getting hard, it moved up from the vagina to a tight spot. I woke up when I felt her a hole squeezing around my penis head. I laid ther and enjoyed it. My penis continued to get more and more erect. The harder it got the longer it got and the deeper it went inside of her butt. I could still feel her muscles tightening and looseing around my shaft. At one point it was like she was trying to push it out as you do when you have to do number 2. If felt so good to be inside. It was hot and really tight. I couldn’t help myself. I just started to cumming inside of that booty. I never pumped her once while this was going on. The pressure of being in her butt made my dick just start to jump and squirt cum inside that hole. Later after ejaculating my penis went semi soft, but it was still inside of her. She woke up and moved over from me and then up and to the bathroom. After taking a piss, she can back to the bed and said did I try to put my thang in her butt? I said what are you talking about!!! We went on back to sleep. She never said anything about it to me again. I want to believe that she know that I squeezed my penis her booty, I don’t know how to just ask her straight out can I slide my dick in her anus. At one time she took some sleeping tea and 2 benedryl pills and was almost out of it into a deep sleep. I lubed up good and aimed a semi penis right at her butt hole and as we we laying there, I started to get really hard, so the head went in and her muscle tightened and I started to get off, but she woke up and moved over. Do any of you think that if she would have awaken when I was deep inside of her that she would have liked it? The next time this happens, I am going to keep my dick up in there and wait until she awake to see if she would like it. But anyways, just to mention it about other couples, she says uuulll thats so gross and nasty. I believe she want to but think I will think she is nasty or something.

I wanted to say thanks for this string of comments. My wife and I have had anal a couple of times. It was OK for her but I think maybe we should try it again. She might like it this time.

Thanks for the thoughts

Well obviously you can’t generalise and say ‘women like this’ because everyone’s different. I personally think just about anything is worth a try because of that, and you can’t find out if you like it without trying it. For me though, I really don’t like anal sex. It hurts, even with proper lubrication. The going in part can be ok (if they’re not well endowed) but the coming out, excuse the grossness, feels like when you do a poo. Yuck.

GIRLS……..MEN ARE SICK…..U-R-ALL-GOING TO HELL….STDSTDSTD IS WHAT YOUR ALL GOING TO CARRY…..ON.

I AM A 35YEAR OLD MARRIED FOR 15YEARS NO KIDS WELL MY VAGINA IS LIKE A VIRGIN TIGHT, AND MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE THE MOST AMAZING SEX, WE DECIDED NOT TO TAKE UP THE A.. BECAUSE IF YOU WASH & SCRUBB ITS THE A.. SO WHEN PUMPING IMAGINE STINKY….YUK YOU MEN THAT TAKE UP THE A.. WITH TOYS …PLEASE COME-OUT OF THR CLOSET ALLREADY!!YOU ARE GAYYYYYY. MY HUSBAND IS 20YRS OLDER THAN ME, AND WE DOIT SO MUCH HE D… LIKE 15″LONG AND IM STILL SO..TIGHT!!HERES A MSS TO THE GIRLS THAT SAID THEY LOVE IT UP THE….YOUR VAGINA IS SOOOOOO LOOSE OR YOUR MANS D…IS SOOOO TINY THAT YOU DONT EVEN FEEL IT THE NATURAL WAY ANYMORE!!HA BYE BYE!!

Okay so my hubby and I have done anal sex for about 3 years..maybe only 5 times a year tops. At first it hurt was =uncomfortable..should i say because I was nervous tryin something ”new” anyways this past week alone, we’ve done it 2 times..on monday night and wednesday night! it was so damn good on monday, laying sideways (spooned) and he held me tight kisses my neck and grabbed my thighs and ass so close and warm just pumping slow at first getting him turned on big time!!! like i said it was sooo damn good on monday night that last night i had to give him the ass again! and was happy too! i guess it just took a lil time…to figure out how to enjoy it..now im sure gonna keep doing this..like at least once a week. i came and he came so much damn im getting turned on right now! woohooo

This is to luna. That was the stupidest comment I have ever read, first off what people do is up to them, you have no right to come in here calling people gay and saying just because someone likes anal sex their vagina is lose… OMG!, get a life and stop putting people down. I think its great! I love it and I’ll do it anytime… (and my vagina is probably tighter than yours:D)

i have been wondering for some time now wat anal sex is like i have been wanting to try it although my girlfriend is not up to it at all infact she said that there is no way that she would try it and i feel that i kinda said the wrong thing wen we were talking about it cuz i said “that i wouldnt want to either cuz i thought that my penis wasnt supposed to go there” and i really regret it cuz i actually do want to try it and i want to try it with her and i dont want to do something that she wont be comfortable with but i just cant stop thinking about it and i dont want to ask her cuz i dont want her to get offended or think that i am gross or something… wat should i do?

kc83 go on girl get that luna out of here coz shes a stupid im 30years old lady and pilipina my vagina is so tigh coz i dont im single till now and no baby but i give my ass to my boyfriend not because i want to please him its because i want to try everything its a free world if she(luna)dont want it so why shes reading it anyway lol

I THINK ANAL SEX IS VERY GOOD BUT SOME TIMES IT’S REALLY PAINFULL I KNOW EVERYTHIG NEEDS TO BE REALLY LUBRICATED BUT KNOW SOMETHING HAPENED AND IT SEEMS TO BE THAT I HAVE SOME KIND OF INTESTIN OUT OF MY RECTUM DOES THIS HAPEN OR SHOULD I GO TO THE DOCTOR
CAN SOME ONE HELP PLS?

I do love it. But I dont like being pounded. Very slow in and out makes me quiver. After he comes, I like him to stay in me a long time. Part of the thrill is that it is kind of taboo. Part is being filled up back there. I have some butt plugs and when feeling risky, will wear one on a date. It is like being screwed every minute of the evening.

wow susanj thats amazing if we have that buttplug her in middle east i will do that to everyday its like wow wow girl but sad to say we dont have anysex toys here in emarates im one of lebirated woman here i like sex toy anykind dildo butt plug im really sure i buy that if we have but sorry for me how i wish i can try that

nothin better than in de butt!

: )

I have been having fantasies of using a strap-on to hit my bf from behind–really pound him. I’m sure he will LOVE it–because men claim women LOVE it! He will be so grateful–he will have the best orgasm EVER…but how should I tell him and persuade him to let him have it in the butt?

Dear “im wondering” and all the men with similar situations:

If your gf said she would NEVER consider having anal, then LEAVE her. There are plenty of women out there willing to let you do it to them..so do your gf a favour and leave her..this will turn out better for both of you. Ditto for all those in similar situations. If you “just can’t stop thinking about it” then clearly you don’t have much to think about! Get a freakn life, people!

Cheers!

ROCKY–please stop harassing your poor wife as she sleeps! dayum…what is your problem ..no is NO ..ever fantasize about a large penis in YOUR A-HOLE??

I heard about some girl who got pregnant in anal sex. the semen must be able to get through the rectal wall. i also heard about a guy who came on his girlfirends face and she got pregnant but that might have been a joke

To “jessica” (197)…please get some help…at 13 you really shouldn’t know the pleasure of any kind of sex…someone has stolen your innocence…get some help…my bf of a year wants to have anal sex..I don’t…his friends tell him the women they have had it with enjoyed it tho I haven’t heard them say so themselves…I think of all the things that can happen after–rectal bleeding, rectal tearing, fecal matter on his penis, possible infections, possible incontinence later in life…it’s just not for me…more power to those of you that are comfotable enough to enjoy it…I think it is a bit demeaning…my opinion…stick with what you enjoy…be happy and be safe..

Well, I’m 18 and my boyfriend lives too far away to have sex so I’m still a virgin, but I’m open to just about everything. One night he asked me if I’d ever considered playing with my ass, and I’d tried fingering a bit when I was younger but didn’t like it. Well, he talked me through what to do and I bought some good lube and I absolutely loved how it felt. He loves that I love using toys in my ass. I gently push them in and move them a little in and out to get comfortable, then thrust as hard and fast and deep and rough as I can. The feeling is absolutely amazing. Not just at how dirty and naughty I feel, but there is this pleasure I get… I say that if you’re unsure about whether to have anal sex or not, play around with yourself. You don’t have to let him know, just see if you’re interested in it. Honestly, I was opposed to it at first. When he mentioned it I was like “eww… poop comes from there” but I tried it and I can not get enough. It’s been a few months now and he loves when I call him and moan for him or describe what I’m doing. If you do get an anal toy or a vibrator, just know not to use it vaginally after it’s been in your ass, no matter how well you clean it.

Well, I have read every comment on this page and upon reaching the end decided to add a comment of my own.
First of all, I want to thank some of the people who have posted honest and frank comments that have helped me in my current situation.
I was in a relationship for 18 years with 1 woman who could not have anal sex. We tried a few times over the years but it was too painful for her, so I never pushed the issue.
Other girl friends either did not want it or those who tried complained about the thickness of my penis, so again, I did not force the issue as it was not so important to me. The thought of doing something that might hurt my lady is not an option. I want her to feel good, not in pain.
Recently, and the reason I found this website was because my present girlfriend loves anal sex. I had to find answers on the subject and began reading the blog here.
Our first time having anal sex we were going at it like crazy doggie style, and I pulled on her long black hair a little, and asked her if she wanted me to give it to her in the ass. She practically begged me to, pleaded with me to give it to her good and hard in the ass.
This was after she had already had a few orgsms through oral and vaginal sex, she was very relaxed and extremely turned on.
I am not sure how she would have reacted if I was to have just asked her before we bagan, I am almost sure the answer would have been much different.
Anyway, the anal sex was amazing, she had several orgasms, and we have anal sex almost every time we make love now.
After reading some posts here, I got the idea to buy her a small vibrator for her clit while doing her anally, (thanks for the advice!).
Once we finished our normal, magnificent oral foreplay, of the first evening with her new toy, I gave her my hard shaft repeatedly in her vagina until she was super hot and in the throes of orgasm. Next, I lubed her ass and my rod up thoroughly and penetrated her beautiful ass. The vibrator added a whole new enhanced experience for her and she came like a wild banshee while I penetrated her from behind. She loves to be spanked on the butt and told how naughty she is, and she loves the thought of doing something “forbidden”. We both love the closeness and the fact that she pleased me with all of her sweet holes and I love her for that too. And, it is nice to know that I can have her in all of her holes.
There has never been a smell or fecal matter on me or her, always nice and clean, tight, enjoyable for both and mind blowing orgasms.
I can say that from some of my friends experiences and my own, that not all women enjoy anal sex, some tolerate it, and some absolutely love it.
You just have to let her know that you love her and be good to her, gentle, listen to her, and never do something or try to do something that she doesn’t like. For beginners, wait until she has had an orgasm already and let your body language ask the question. Finger her ass first while doing her doggie style and see what she does. If she pushes your hand away from her ass she doesn’t want anal. If she allows you to finger her ass, then I hope you have some KY handy cause you’ll be needing it, hehe.
Keep in mind that some women can handle anal sex and some cannot, some love it while others hate it. One more word of advice, never go from the anus to vagina so your lady doesn’t get an infection, and use plenty of soap and water afterwards!

Anal sex can feel great for a woman. However, the stretching of the anus don’t feel so good, and can get kind of gross over the course of the day – not exactly sexy. I also wonder whether the bleeding and strange sensations I’m feeling from my anus are from anal experimentation 2 years ago. Just be aware. People talk about how great it feels and how sexually free they are – then when they start to suffer the consequences they don’t say much.

I have had 2 relationships prior to getting married. In both of them I tried to do it in the back side. It worked by them letting me try once and then never again. When I was hoping for a wife I was dreaming of a nympho who would do everything I see in the movies. It has taken me 5 years to jab my wife’s ass, she is so uptight that she does not want to show pleasure of any sort. She always says she’s doing it just to please me. Nowadays I just don’t feel like having sex with her because I am tired of trying to make her a freak like me. All I want to do now is move on and find the right freak; a woman like those above… they all love it in the butt. Yet I love my wife and in many ways she is the best. However I’m not seeing myself dying before having a woman entrust her anus in my care, one who will be doing it to please herself as well and one with a dirty mind, loads of experience and no HIV

Hello, I am 79 years old and I adore anal sex ! It has been the drive of my life ever since I reached 50. I am now divorced as my husband of the time could not match up to my expectations. I am now seeing a man with a 10″ penis and really like the feel of it in my anus. But do make sure you lube up well, and as I know from past experience, make sure you put plastic bin liners on the bed as things could get a bit messy .

Happy Orgasms .. Mary. x

I am 63/4 thick by 73/4long.
My wife won’t do it because she’s afraid of it hurting her

well i like it . it drives me crazy how ever since i dated my boyfriend the last 5 years i havent done it cause hes too big to go in there

I am curious about anal sex, but every time I try during vaginal sex, she says no. how do i persuade her to at least try it?

Me and my Gf tried anal for the first time, it was amazing. But the problem was, we were out of lube, so we decided to get weird and try MAYONAISE. Two days later, she was having constant anal orgasms. so we took her to the doctor, and it turns out maggots had hatched inside her ass.

im going to be honest if you suck penis your officially a nasty hoe. I think its so disgusting and if my husband would ask me to i would slap him on his face.And why do people have to be such hoes and sleep with like 3 different men before they are married when they know he’s just using you…if you’re not commited to a relationship that just say’s your easy!

K” about doing it with a strap on does it make you gay. No, because it stimulates the prostate gland, which causes the guy to have the biggest orgasm he can have. I have had anal sex with my girl like about 3 times, and its been rare. However she doesn’t enjoy it.. .. She’s thai and african american.I don’t want to force her to do something she doesn’t want to do. Also there is something I bought a while back, its called a fleshlight, and I got the butt 1. I think its awesome if a women lets you have her backdoor. If not oh well theres always the fleshlight

I got used to being sodomized by my husband over the years. It all started with a bone headed move on my part one night years ago shortly after we got married. He got his penis soaked from being inside my vagina and just decided to stick it in my ass. It popped in and I screamed from my surprise. He didnt even ask. After it was already in, he asked if I was ok after I yelped, and from my fear of rejecting him or creating awkwardness between him and I so soon in our marriage, I told him I was fine, and he asked if he could keep going and I whimpered a yes and buried my face into the pillow. He paused a few times checking on me, and I reached behind and grabbed his hips and butt and pulled him deeper into me more. By the time he was finished sodomizing me, my ass was swollen red and the pillow was wet from my tears. He asked if it hurt, I wiped my eyes before he could see and I told him it hurt only a little because he was so big, but it was ok. Unfortunately for me I was a pretty good liar. After that night, he would always sodomize me monthly and I hated it. I wanted to make him happy so I gave up my anus for his ‘use’ and endured the pain until he would ejaculate inside of me which I hated because his penis would become so engorged with blood and be at its thickest at the point of his orgasm and I could really feel it stretching my ass like it was tearing it even though I never bled from it, and he would spurt his semen in me spurt after spurt and with each spurt his penis would throb and make the nerves in my ass quiver and my anus tightens up (which he loved and I hated) and then he’d pull out and I’d feel all his semen ooze out of my ass and trickle down my thighs. I felt so used every time…like his personal porno star ass slut. After 3 years of what I would call silent anal rape, I have come to learn to tolerate it and begin to get some pleasure out of it in my own way. My moans are from pleasure now rather than whimpers of pain and tolerance as before. I guess I learned to relax somehow. I knew he was never going to stop sodomizing me, so I figured I’ve got to get some enjoyment out of this. I don’t despise my husband for it because he did ask, and it was my decision to let him into my ass even though it hurt. And I’m partially glad I just kept my mouth shut and took the pain because now I enjoy the feeling of his penis inside of my ass moving in and out smoothly and we have another type of sex we can do together. Its a different feeling.

ANY SUGGESTIONS ON WHICH LUBRICANT TO USE WHEN HAVING ANAL SEX? I HAVE ONLY TRIED IT ONCE AND IT HURTS LIKE CRAZY EVENTHOUGH MY HUSBAND IS VERY GENTLE. I REFUSE TO DO IT ANYMORE AND IS REALLY CREATING PROBLEMS IN OUR RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE HE LIKES IT, IT DRIVES HIM CRAZY. ANY SUGGESTIONS?

Mary, I suggest you give him his walking papers,He’s probably gay and hiding behind it in the marriage. Tell him it’s an insult to your P***y , not only that disrespectful, and nasty.

You guys are demented, what is wrong with you? have the men in the world all turned gay?
Anal sex is discusting, any woman who says she enjoys it must have something wrong with her Enjoying it the normal way or she is trying to keep her man who likes anal because he is afraid of being found out of what he really is. I agree with Debbie, it’s an insult to the p***y for a man to go there with a woman. very stange behavior at that. These men have got away with disrespecting women in the past so they will continue as long as they can get away with it..BUT WITH SOME WOMEN IT DOESN”T SURPRISE ME WHAT MEN CAN GET them TO DO.

I’m not a gay and my dick is not a poo lol

hm yes anal is goodhm yes anal is good

well here is my problem and anybody with any suggestions please help. ok well i have a girlfriend that i love very much and we have always had a great time together and our sex life is good but i am just always into trying new thing and she is to but only to an extent in other words she said that she would never try anal sex and i messed up in saying ya i agree i dont think that my penis is supposed to go there so i wouldnt want to do it either. also i love her a lot and i dont want her to think that i am gross or something because i ant to try it and she doesnt, also i dont want to offend her just because i want to try anal with her and i definately dont want to see her in pain. i am not sure wat to so and i really need some addvice. so somebody please help me male or female it doesnt matter i just need some help

It sounds like you want to see what it feels like there. Just like crack cocaine, you try it once you are addicted and want it again and again. It could ruin your relationship because no woman wants to think her man might be gay. I let a guy once becasue he kept asking and as much as I liked him in the beginning, I started looking at him different after that. I felt violated and dirty. I have decided after that I’m not letting any man screw me back there for their sexual gratification. if that’s what it takes to get them to reach an orgasm maybe they need to take it up with a man since that is the way gay men like it.

Well, where do I start? About 3 hours ago, my beautiful woman was begging me to bury my tool deep inside of her butt. She was a bad girl and I had to give her the proper punishment required for naughty girls when they get very bad.
Here are two facts: 1) some women love anal sex.
2)just because a man is willing to please his woman anally does not make him gay.
You see, it doesn’t matter which of her precious holes I penetrate, what matters most was the fact that I love my woman and she loves me. We love each other and please each other sexually, and she loves taking up the butt. Quite frankly, I don’t require anal sex and neither does she, but we both find it to be an enjoying enhancement to our already excellent sex life.
And to those having questions about how to try it with your lady, and what type of lubrication to use, here is some advice.
First you must be a good lover, you must be willing and able to bring your woman to mind blowing orgasms. This way she will realize that you are worthy of being pleased in the most special ways. Keep in mind that some women just aren’t going to do anal no matter what the circumstances, no matter how much they love other types of sex, some women simply cannot handle anal sex.
A great way to loosen her up is by creating a romantic atmosphere with candles, music, a few drinks, etc… Then you must be able to screw her good and hard after pleasuring her orally for an extended period of time.
You should be willing to perform for at least an hour before you even attempt to fill her butt.
Lastly, good old fashioned KY Jelly is an excellent lubricant, without this you can almost surely kiss your chances of great anal sex goodbye.
To sum it all up, get her good and hot first, don’t be too pushy about the ass, and when the opportunity arises use KY Jelly. Tell her how naughty she is and this is what you do to your naughty, bad little whore. Take it slow until she is relaxed enough to go faster, she should have a great time while you smack her ass and pull her hair, all the while calling her a naughty little whore.

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Sarah, you truly are an idiot.

There is nothing worse than a judgemental idiot!

I think anal sex is great. My new boyfriend was the first to get it. He pestered me for months for it but I was afraid. I did it one day, It was the spooning position. IT FELT AWESOME! eventually we got to different positions, but spooning is the best, I have the best orgasms. I dont do it for him, but I play games with him and let him pretend to hold me down and do what he wants, I like it for myself, and it turns me on that it turns him on that I love it. If that makes sense.

Dave, now what is your problem? can’t deal with the truth? is that it? or are you tring to justify your sick relationship with women cause you like to give it up the a**

tHiS iS a TeSt

@Nikki

I feel really sorry for your husband, I bet he wishes he never met such an uptight, frigid cow like you!

Sex is supposed to be about exploring and enjoying each other, not about closing your eyes, doing it one position and wishing it would end!

You should lighten up and stop projection your backwards upbringing on your marriage.

Also, learn to spell. You might come across as more credible.

my ex an gf now no like it up the back door but i found a hooker who let me do it for cheap when i like

What a facinating and entertaining site. First of all the lady that started asking the questions wanted female points of view only! Crikey, apart from the feminist and religous freaks it certianly offers losts of angles about the subject. I saying that I feel I would like to add my own comments.

Firstly the fact remains what people do at home be they straight or batting for the other side is thier own business. I have been if you pardon the pun, into anal since about 1986. I have had anal with about 10 ladies in that time. I was “introduced” to anal by a lady who sttrongly voiced disapproval of the pratice but later asked me to try it with her. It was rather painful for her and all I could ever do was just slide into her but not thrust. This was all I ever did with her and later I realised that it was painful for her because I was in her upto the hilt and this is the widest part of the penis.

In any case the tightness was unreal and I went onto to having anal with perhaps another 10 ladies. On some ocasions I broached the subject and sometimes they did. Mostly it ws enjoyable but it took sometime before I was able to develop a technique, which ultimately is the the key to a woman enjoying anal penitration. It does help if you do not have a really thick penis however. Over he years I feel I have become confident and competent at it if what my wife and the ladies before her said is true.

The key to enjoyment (for both) is to ensure you both want to do it. I usually start by playing playing with the ladies bum, just running my fingers slowly down between her cheeks, if she is keen she will soon show it. If she gives me the message to stop I do or if she gives me better access I know I am in, so to speak.

I usually use KY and just spend some time sliding my middle finger up and down her crack, stopping on the opening, until finally I just inch a finger in and slowly starting pushing it in and then pulling it out. SALIVA is not good enough even at this point.

I spend some time doing this and just keep easing my finger in and out until I get the whole finger in. I do not however use 2 or more fingers as some poeple suggest, as the few times years ago that I tried this it always seemed to hurt the lady in question.

Once ready I usually do just go straight into her anus but entr her vaginally first, until she is ready. Once she is ready I use stacks of KY on my middle finger and rub it on and inside her bum, I then use it on my penis before SLOWLY entering her. This process is perhaps the most important as she needs to RELAX! So I usually get the tip of my penis inside her, to allow her to stretch and get comfortable. Once I get the nod she usually sends the messsage she is ready for me to carry on and so I

CONTINUED FROM ABOVE.

Having got the nod, I start thrusting slowly until I come, although on some occasions the lady concerned may asked me to up the revs, which I am happy to do. However the slower you go the more enjoyment the both of you get. Some positions are better than others, altho doggy, visually is a real buzz. Missionary an get you deeper penitration but it sometimes is quite uncomfortable for the lady. Never move from the anus back to the vagina tho as this can cause an infection / inflamation.

To cover a few points made and left by others I have not worn a condom in overeight years and have had anal perhaps four or five hundred times and have never got an infection. Part of the not wearing a condom is a bloke thing possibly about wanting to leave his calling card but its what I like.

As fo things like getting poop everywhere, only on one occasion have I had it on my penis and in any case most times I wash it down after anal anyway. I have never had a women say it has given her the runs or “clogged” her up. If you use KY and if you come inside the anus, this is no doubt prevents any clogging up.

On one occasion my wife did experience some sort of spasm after I hit the wrong spot but this did go away. At the end of the day if you enjoy it and both are willing do it, if not don’t. It probobly is a bit like 40 years ago when it was regarded as sexual deviancy to give head or heaven forbid come in a ladies mouth or on her face.

I have even let my wife use a butt plug on me after she she asked me. While a bit taken aback at first, it was different, she was keen and I was courious. The experience to me however was more in my head not my bum.

Some of the porno movies certianly do not reflect real life but that is for you and your partner to choose. But hell its not a nice world out there and if you can do something WHATEVER to spice up your life then do it.

For those out there who do “perverse” things, providing it does not hurt anyone, goodonya!

Dont let the feminists, religous freaks and the politically correct influence your life, live life, enjoy life and stuff em.

Jane, why don’t you just use a cucumber or something? Is it really that hard to find a dildo?

Honestly if you are curious it is great and once you do it a few times you will want more and it will feel better than vaginal sex but if you want to have good old regular vaginal sex its hard to get the awesome stimulation you once had before. So try it but after you are board and cant find a new better position in your vaginal sex. but i am probably to late to tell you.

I have been married for 8 years. I tried anal sex with my husband years ago but we obviously didnt do it proporly as it hurt too much and didnt bother again. I am now having an affair (sorry) and I have been having anal sex with him, he was extremely skillful. We have lots of vaginal sex first so I am really wet and relaxed. He then uses ‘only’ my juices to lube up the arse. It’s wonderful. I am so surprised how easy it is as he’s a big man! WOW. I do find I get a little diarreah afterwards if he comes inside though.

After reading the two years worth of post here about this topic: Anal Sex- I will add to the rainbow of opinions/comments regarding the topic in discussion.

Let it be known, anal sex (sodomy) practiced is one of the most repugnant and SELF-serving forms of sexual practices, and when really looked at closely showcases one of man’s greatest imperfection: continuously inventing evil devices of which always decimates the good it was woven into. Sodomy as you all know has been the most abhorrent, revolting of all sexual practices from times immortal after its invention by SELFISH men. Nations were destroyed because of it, and for any man and/or woman to debase themselves by such practices clearly deserves the shame and repulse that follows.

In our culture we have allowed this Pagan practice of sexual fulfillment not only to creep in but in retrospect we have become callused of the very practices which destroyed great nations.

Ask any secret society member or rather research as most will not divulge such information (Freemasons, Illuminati, Jesuits and Rosicrucian etc.) all practice sodomy at some point in a member’s inclusion into the hierarchy. Moreover, we all know the origin and purpose of secret societies: total domination.

Rhetorically, why would a men subject their female partner to such contemptible practices? The very practice they scorn when seeing it done among gay men!!

Ladies, you deserve more than this. Your respect as a human deserves more, your self-esteem, your pride and deportment as a lady deserves more. More of what you may ask: Respect!

Ask any of these men who ask women to engage in such grotesque practices…how would you feel if some man engages your daughter, your sister or your mother in such practices…look closely at his facial expression when replying and you will get your answer as to what he really thinks of sodomy.

In closing, systemically it seems men who savor this abominable behavior can truly be classed as: “Broken: Insanity and the Repugnant Male”.

Postscript: Just out of school (post grad), in a loving relationship with a Princess of a Lady I have always and will always respect.

As a woman who has tried anal sex in the past and did not enjoy it I just have to let you all know I recently was on top of my boyfriend and his penis slowly made its way into my anus. I must have been very relaxed because it felt completely different than the first time (many years ago). It was amazing and felt soooo damn good I had an orgasm that was far different than I have felt before. Now…I am the one who wants it that way…more than he does. Go figure.

bum boppers thanks for cucumber its really amazing and to (pj nassau )what are you talking abouth respect?well i i tell you something before when im not doing nauthy things w/ my husband hes always hurting me he have a gf he hit me you know why because he dont get the satisfaction that he need you put youre partner in youre shoes if you dont like what his doing you fell angry right so why all this nonesense just make youre partner happy and you to enjoy the moment

for more than 10years of my married i can say now that my husband was contented on me h e change a lot hes so inlove w/me now his always telling me thank you coz i make his life change and that happen whene i give him my anus and do oral become awhore just to him im always try some new style now the more im experementing the more he come crazy on me you girls make youre man happy and believe me you live like a queen coz if you lay only and not do anything believe me youre life is a hell

In response to Jane who asked why PJ would speak of respect in this situation, surely that is clear! Any man who would ask you to do this for him sees you as nothing more than a toy for his own sick sexual gratification, and surely we as women are worth more than that?

As it has already been mentioned within the first few comments, the attraction that men have towards this practice is control and being able to take something that is not freely given and there is a reason that it is not freely given…because it is a painful, humiliating and gross practice to say the least.

Don’t get me wrong, peoples own sexual preferences are their own business, and if its something you truly enjoy then who am I to say you are wrong. But to those who are truthful, who say they do it simply to please someone else regardless of their own pain and humiliation, I say isn’t it time to start saying no?

I for one am happy to be in a loving, respectful relationship, in which I will never be asked to degrade myself in order to “please him” or to ensure he doesn’t leave me. I know which relationship I’d rather be in.

Me and my wife of 3 years did it last week, she was so emberassed as sweetcorn was on the end of my penis!

I have never had anal sex. it is TABOO in my funny religion, therefore women do not like it or pretend not liking it. anyway, i am very much looking forward to try. Please help me how to convince my girlfriend to give me her comfort………

I agree, you guys are demented, is that the only way you like sex? Always getting around to the rear in the bedroom. Just can’t resist that sewer hole. your real sick people, you know that? don’t you? and I think you must have real sick relationships with your wives and girlfriends and they are just as demented that they can only have an orgasm if one is up them? Yeah there is something wrong with those women. NASTY and Discusting

Daniel such a delightful comment hope you both got a good laugh from the experience.I feel that is one of the attractions to anal sex for men dont be offended by some brown and a little sweetcorn

I just had a revelation reading almost all this thread:
Up to now, I thought that anal sex might be great. I did it a few times with my wife, but as she was ambivalent towards it and me being very cautions (therefore, not relaxed), there was not much pleasure neither for me, nor for her.
Yet, reading this thread I realized that it was simply exactly the curiosity that got me excited, not the anal intercourse as such. And since my curiosity is now cured, due to reading this discussion, I won’t try it anymore.

I don’t understand what the big fuss is about! I love anal from my husband, and we engage in it twice a month at least! I do not have a leaky end; it’s still as tight as ever. I know this because he always tells me about how tight I am around his penis (and I squeeze a little extra to drive him crazy too, lol) He wears a condom so he doesn’t get an infection from the e.coli. I love the way anal sex with him feels! He has a huge cock, and it hurt like hell at first, but I got used to it with practice and astroglide, and I love having him inside there now. And he stretches me out and fills me up really good. Nice and slow till he gives me his love juice inside me every time. Fantastic!

A few comments…1st I have had anal sex and I don’t like it! I was drawn to the naughty idea of it at one time, but found the sensation painful at worst and uncomfortable at best. I regret letting my boyfriend at the time pressure me into it. In hindsight I wish I had waited to try it with my present partner who perceived it in a more curious and fun way, rather than with an individual that was obsessed with it and felt some sort of false sense of entitlement to it. Sexual movies and literature portray it as a form of domination and submission, understandably it is a vulnerable position that you should enter into through independent choice. I agree with comments above, I think the fascination with it is related to a psycho-sexual power play that stimulates some people more than others. Personally, and logically I don’t think a marriage should end because one person is not willing to comply to anal sex. I think that anyone who coaches an individual on how to pursue this form of sex with his or her partner after he/she has made it very clear that the partner does not want anal sex performed on him or her is giving BAD advice. Healthy sexuality rests on mutual respect for one another, pressuring and guilting the person into having anal sex violates that respect and becomes selfish. It puts the relationship at risk for exploitation and in some unfortunate cases abuse. If you or your partner doesn’t want to have anal sex, then don’t worry! There are many other wonderful and fun ways to enjoy an exciting sexual relationship – don’t pester and guilt them into an experience they might feel is degrading or painful. Final note, for those of you who are just obsessed with anal sex and contemplating the end of your relationship because of it, think about it … do you not have better or more meaningful aspects of your life that you can focus on? Buy one of those crotch and ass rubber moulds from a sex store and try it without hurting or manipulating the person that you claim to love.
Oh, and to answer the person that started this thread. Engage in a sexual relationship that you feel good about. If you don’t want to have anal sex, then don’t. If you think it is something that you would like, go for it! However, don’t let your decision be influenced by social pressure or by what your partner thinks you should enjoy, or by what other people are doing in their bedrooms. You are the best expert on yourself, mind and body included!

This was a good post because it makes me feel like i’ve been closed minded about anal sex. Although honestly I feel like I have reason to be. My boyfriend seems to want to do it but the idea of it has always struck me as grotesque. First of all, there are two things that REALLY bother me about anal sex – the first is that my boyfriend has inadvertently tried to put his penis near my butt a couple of times and i am VERY UNCOMFORTABLE with it, ESPECIALLY when it comes as a surprise. To any guy wishing to have anal sex, I STRONGLY recommend that you breach the subject by talking about it before doing anything at all. Surprising someone with something like that is not only completely disrespectful it also might hinder your eventual wishes and close your partner off to to the idea comletely. Second of all, the idea of starting with anything bigger than a finger absolutely terrorizes me, so definitely the people who have advised to build up to it are on the money. And third, I think a lot of the reason that anal sex scares the bejeesus out of me, is that even though it may be natural and has been around as long as men have been alive, i have ONLY seen anal sex in sexually dominating pornos, which quite frankly make me want to puke. I would venture to say that maybe if anal sex had been presented to me in a gentler way (not by surprise, and not as a domination fettish) I might be more open to it. In fact I know that I like some stimulation/rubbing etc, but thats not what anal sex is presented as. I recently caught my boyfriend watching an anal porno and I found myself very repulsed. I think the major issue is trust – I dont trust him to be gentle, slow, etc. especially in a situation that could seriously hurt, and especially since he’s not very gentle generally. Dont get me wrong, i like it rough, but im 100% sure I will detest rough anal sex and the fact that so many men are into ROUGH anal sex, not just anal sex, seems to me more like an effect of the porn industry and less of a “totally natural” sexual act. The way the porn industry presents anal sex makes me reticent to believe that its a TOTALLY NATURAL completely wonderful sexual act – i would be willing to bet that if those women were not paid to take it up the &*s, 80% of them would not do it, or do it differently. So yeah, thats my take on it, I wish I didnt have such negative thoughts about the subject, but I do.

Oh yeah, and to the middle aged dude with ED that doesn’t feel any motivation to overcome his ED because his wife doesnt like anal sex, he SHOULD feel guilty and does deserve his repressed sex life. Not for fantasizing about anal sex, but for expecting his wife to pleasure him and not doing anything at all to pleasure her. Maybe if he wasnt so exacting with his wife and actually tried to please her she would be more willing to bend his way.

Anal sex is a practice that typically causes conflict between husbands and wives, is thought of as what the Bible condemns as sodomy (although many believe that sodomy is a reference to homosexual anal sex only), and tends to be initiated and desired by men whose interest got sparked by pornography. Many sexual experts and medical personnel discourage anal sex because of the danger of transmission of infection and tearing of the blood vessels in the rectum.
The penis and the vagina are clean passages, which are free of disease producing microorganisms. The anus/rectum, on the other hand, is a highly contaminated passageway. When the penis enters the rectum, the urinary and reproductive tracks of the man are invaded with the germs from the rectum of the woman. If the man enters the woman’s vagina after having entered her rectum, her reproductive passageways are then contaminated. Both can incur chronic infections like prostititus, vaginitis or a pelvic inflammatory condition. But you might ask, what if we use a condom? The fact is condoms have a significant failure rate when used to prevent pregnancy, yet sperm are much larger than the microorganisms that infect. In addition, a woman can only be impregnated several days per month, but men and women can acquire an infection at any moment of the month. So condoms are not a sure protection against being infected especially when entering the tight muscle of the rectum.

The muscular structure of the anus is different than that of the vagina. The vaginal passageway is controlled by muscles, that expand or tighten to fit any size penis; the vagina is an organ of accommodation. The vagina can tighten so tight as to not allow anything to enter and can expand to allow the birth of an infant. The rectum cannot. That is why the blood vessels in the rectum break when the penis enters it causing damage to the anal/rectal area and raising the possibility of transfer of disease producing microorganisms.

Spiritually, we would interpret anal sex as not fulfilling the New Testament expectation of mutuality. According to I Corinthians 7 and other passages, husbands and wives are to equally give themselves to each other and to delight in each other’s bodies, but never is that to be one-sided or to violate or do something against the other or to be demanded. The husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5), which required him to give up his rights like Christ did (Philipians 2) and give himself to his wife and love her exactly as she is. The women we talk to (in person, via e-mail, or through surveys at seminars) are hesitant or feel violated by their husbands’ pursuit of anal intercourse. Even in marriages where the men say their wives enjoy it, the women will tell us on the side that they do not.

Our personal/professional/spiritual stance on anal sex based on what we know today is that we would not recommend it. We will continue to study this issue and seek clear Biblical and physiological understanding.

Congratulation, there are lot of diapers….

Dear Sir/M’am,
I have been married for 25 years.
In the last few years I have started getting attracted to the arse. Initially I would just enjoy watching the arse then caressing it, licking it. I love the bums, just gripping them opening up and kissing and licking the arse. Now I want more. I want penetration. Rubbing my penis on the arse, seeing the arse opened up delectably and just enjoying the beauty. Thereafter I want to enter and my partner lets me do it, as I caress her clitoris and her arse too gets wet and my cock enjoys her arse and she enjoys it and my fingers in hwer vagina and over her clitoris.
we love love to see the encounter in the mirror.
Frankly, it is great enjoyment for me but for her it is submission and participation but not enjoyment.
The choice rests with individuals.
Harry Pal

My wife has tried it and does not enjoy anal sex, she has however given me the joy of receiving with her strap on. This has been common sex in our relationship for years.

Listen to Crotchduster while youre at it, it helps Love. J.S (gay)

I have tried it. It did not hurt but it did not stimulate me either. In fact, it felt like I was taking a dump… not a particularly sexy feeling when you are trying to be intimate. We did it right… I was feeling fine, I was clean and he used lube. But, I kept expecting to see a pile of poop on our bed!!! LOL… gross I know, but that is how it felt for me. I will not do it again.

lamp it in him he wow feel a thing the male loves a bit ov anal nothing wrong with being ruff!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think its OK.But please help in analysing LOT’s story.When Lot was visited by angels,some of the Sodomists come to Lot and said give us your visitors so that we can sleep with them and he said ‘Dont do such a thing I ca give you my daughters and you can do whatever you want with them.’I think Lot know that they want anul sex and they can do it with his daughters not man-to-man.What do you think?Me I think my wife will decide!

how can one do anything he/she feels good, that’s idiotic, never can man’s desire be satisfied, never!
Those doin it I advice them to think about their values

anal sex is a health issue, too much and cant get a seal, and need a plug, literally, comes latter in life.
re the muslim, how can they respect women with anal sex, when they can rape a women and then stone her cause its her fault, and young girls too!
At least christians respect their women.

The Significant Other and I find anal sex very enjoyable, and yes, sometimes it is about domination! The “kink” factor can certainly play a part in all kinds of sexual practises, anal sex included. Sometimes “degrading” is exactly the point, and it’s what we want to do. Duh!

Sex is fun, bottom line (no pun intended). If you have found someone you want to explore with, do so. With anal sex itself, we’ve found that too much “warming up” actually made anal sex more difficult, so it took some playing around to find a happy medium. Works wonderfully now!

As for religious dictums prohibiting anal sex: sod off. Your religion is not mine, thank you very much; and until your god decides to have sex with me, it’s none of their business what I do.

For those who protest it’s “unnatural”: so’s playing Scrabble, and we do that, too. Animals don’t weld, drive cars or ice skate, and I don’t think you want humans to quit those, do you?

As for the so-called medical experts on here, may I suggest ignoring them and looking up the information yourself? Avoid religious sites: they mostly only try to justify their own bizarre rules, using only that information which fits with their world view and distorting or discarding the rest.

Use your biggest sex organ, and see what your mind can do for you. Explore. Play. Have fun. Don’t be afraid to try something new with someone you trust, but first be clear in what you want to try. Without that communication, you’re just not going to have a good time, no matter what you’re doing.

tried it when my ex girlfriend asked. we did it after having a regular session and she’s been relaxed. Didn’t take too much effort luckily and after almost ten years i can still hear her voice inside my head saying “ohhh, now i can see why people like it”. we both were so aroused and had great orgasms..

I wouldn’t believe women could enjoy it if i had not seen with my own eyes. It’s a personal choice, and definitely is not something you could enjoy with being pushy and without mutual agreement on this

Some women truly like it and others do not. My wife is really not big on it. We have done it a couple of times but I know she did it more for me so I have decided not to do it with her unless some day she asks for it (not likely). In the meanwhile, her mother and me do it when we can….honestly!

90yrs old i ahve visited 227 vaginas,maybe a dozen fem bums and a couple of boy bums. My system with a reluctant lady.I asked her to adopt the doggie position at the foot of the bed.we had just come out of the shower.Standing behind i dragged my fingertips across her bum and legs, oh so geently,Up and down between her thighs and across herbum. so so gently.I then asked her to hold open her bum cheeks and bent down and placed my tongue in her anus.It was so sweet.I then alternated my tongue with my fingertips. soon she became uncontrollable and i placed a finger inside her.Asking if it was comfortable i asked her if i might place the tip of my penis there, she agreed and in no timewith GENTLY GENTLY I had the old feller insside her,we proceeded sosoftly.I didnt finsh butsaved that for the nexttime “Voila” as t he French say. i had done it.From then onwards it became more rigourous till she eventually had a bigorgasm for which she thanked me profusely I had acheived what i set ou to do.now she asks me for anal

Any man that wants totally unatural and perverse anal sex from a woman is a closet homosexual, it’s not natural the anus is a waste removal area, it’s for waste to come out of, nothing to go into! Any woman who says she enjoys it is a puppet and a friggin liar! What’s wrong with you blokes who like giving it up the arse? Go find yourself what you’re really looking for, another pillow biting bloke…gross!!

Although my wife says she does it to please me, she moan like crazy, cum much faster, biger and multiple orgasims to he point when we do the front she ask me to fingure her or she will fingure her self so she can cum. She always ask me to eat her butt hole and toung it. NOW DO YOU THINK SHE DOES IT FOR ME OR SHE DOES LOVES IT, SPECIALLY SHE ALWAYS ASK ME TO INSERT MY WHOLE PAT INN?????

My girlfriend and I enjoy anal sex a great deal. The key is great communication. I’m just stunned how many people can only focus on lube. God provided me with all the lube we need. Licking her ass drives both of us wild. I cannot imagine going down on her without paying some attention to her bottom. We’re writing this together and she just shared with me that orgasms are stronger when we’re having anal sex. It’s naughty and incredible.

After reading everyone talk about lube, my girlfriend and I just had anal sex using a lubricant. Although I will admit it was very slick, I am all about foreplay. I just asked my girlfriend her thoughts. She said, “I would obviously prefer hours of foreplay followed by a good anal rogering, but there is a time and a place for lubricant.”

People, ass is exit only. It does not matter how it is put. The fact that it feels good does not make it right. It does seem a lot of people do it; that still does not make it right. Medical doctors, please find a cure for this disgusting act ( yes it is!) It does not matter how it is explained, it is not right. It is immoral. Stop Justifying wrong and evil. A ladies @$$ and that of a man are made the same way, for the same purpose, output. Only In the presence of a real deal, why would one settle for a wrong alternative. And we are wondering why there are so many unexplained diseases. The greater the number of people engaging in this immoral act, the more condemned the human race becomes.
I am surprised we are looking for intelligent life on other planets when we have a lot to do here on earth. Wrong is wrong. Whether done in private, it is wrong. Stop sugar coating. Stop the act!

Well I never had anal until my most recent NB who I am still with, he givesme anal at least 3times amonth and I f*cking love it, I also take a good rimming from him and I rim him, anal is the best ever, especially anal speculum play.

Ass is the future.

Randy (461), do everyone a favour and don’t bother posting on a topic like this in future. Your one sided biased opinion is no good to anyone. Just because you consider it wrong doesn’t mean it is. You clearly have no respect for other peoples’ beliefs and opinions.

If anal sex makes you happy and you and your partner enjoy it, go for it. In my opinion, if you want to get the most out of life, do what makes you happy.

I haven’t yet tried anal sex but probably will at some point in the future.

#374, you are so fake. No way that you can be so ignorant and still be a nurse. Millions of people have done anal sex all of their life without any problems, including nurses and doctors.

Women that do only vaginal sex can have a huge list of problems with their vagina. It is wrong to take a few examples, like a prolapsed vagina, and then condemn all vaginal sex.

If you are afraid of doing something new in sex or a prude than confess, don’t create fake and ignorant scare stories. The real issue is that you may be a sex prude and if so, you are probably boring your boyfriend and husband to tears (or they are cheating on you and looking for a better sex partner of a woman).

I would kindly see a reply on my blog # 458….I need to hear your Idea’s…..do you think my wife enjoys it, according to what I wrote…..Please make your comments…so I can be sure if I’m giving my wife what she needs/ loves
Regards

One of the best ways for your wife or girlfriend to enjoy anal sex is to slowly get her used to it in the beginning. The first few times will set the tone. Extended foreplay, heightened sexual excitement, and timing of the naughty proposition is important and counters her natural desire to avoid the unpleasant act. As mentioned in other posts, lubrication is a must. Once she has done it several times, she can be trained to enjoy it more the way she likes it.

Do women enjoy anal sex? I know mine does when she is bucking from the bottom.

I had anal last night with my boyfriend. We’ve been dating for over two years. He has always brought up the subject. About a year ago he tried it after a long night at the bar, it was painful even though I was drunk so I was a little discouraged.

Last night we were hanging outside my house in my car,and we started fooling around. We couldnt have intercourse because I had my period, so I brough up the idea of anal, and he was thrilled. He first went down and licked it and used his fingers to open it up. He was very gentle and slow, once he was in, it was heaven for me. I never thought i would say this, but it was GREAT!

ok so here is my problem i have a girlffriend that i love a lot and dont want to do anything to weird her out or hurt her but i have been want to try anal for some time now but i dont no how to bring it up cuz i no that she is not wanting to try it at all and here are her exact worda ” i will never try anal and if u ever want to dont even bother asking cuz its not going to happen” ya that s wat i would have prefered not to here. i also made the mistake of saying that ” ya i wouldnt want to either cuz i dont think that my penis is supposed to go there” witch i now regret cuz i actually want to try it really bad. i also think that there is a chance that she would like it because she used to be againt being eatin out but i changed that around wen i did it to her cuz now she loves it and wants me to do it all the time. dont get me wrong we dont have a boring sex life at all but i just like to try new things and i would like her to be the person that i try it with. but i definatley dont want to put or relationship on the line from this because i love her a lot. so please anyone out there please give some advice on wat to do or try.

my only question is should you do it with or without a condom?

will doing it without a condom automatically give the male an infection?

Having read many of the comments here, I have ONE question: Of those people who said it is “sinful”, “Discusting”, “Immoral”, etc., WHY did they look this subject up in the 1st place? I think they must have some hidden curiousity. ANYWAY, I am female and I love it. I do not replace vaginal sex for it all the time, it just depends on me and my partner’s mood. Both parties must be willing to try it. (Guys, if you feel like you have to “talk” her into it, then dont do it.) It also cannot happen overnight. Be patient. If both truly want it, itll happen eventually. Oh, one more thing, for all of those out there who say ‘…women who say they enjoy it are lying…’, I find it amazing that you surveyed All the women in the world and skipped me. I TRULY love it or I wouldnt have had the kinky facination to look it up

Frankly i am amazed that there are no Pauls or Zoes on this thread yet. We are an unmarried couple from England who would consider the back passage if we could be sure that I wasnt going to hurt her – after all my manhood extends into Surrey.

We have differing levels of experience – not to say who has the greater. Can anyone advise as to which lube to use? I am also interested in pegging – what size should we use?

i’ve tried anal sex about 5 different times with my boyfriend. Every time I’ve started crying just right after the tip barely got in. We’ve used plenty of lube, he’s gone slow, i’ve relaxed, he’s sometimes played with his fingers… but most of the time it feels like something is going to come out??? HELP!

I have to say i was the one to bring up anal to my at the time husband. It was his first time also but instead of going slow he pretty much rammed it in. Needless to say i was apprehensive about trying it again. I’ve since divorced and have been dating a wonderful guy for almost 2 years. Every once in a while he’d joke about and i wanted to try at least once more since my 1st experience was hell. We went to the sex shop, got lube, and a few toys. He was amazing…he was patient with me and took as much time as i needed and once he was “in to the hilt” i was the one leaning back to meet him stroke for stroke.
Girls that want to try it…have a partner that is patient and someone you trust. If it hurts tell him to stop and wait. If he doesn’t i’d suggest getting out of there because that is not someone you want to be with.
Guys be patient with your girl and the more you pressure her, sure she might say yes but she’s only doing it so you’ll stop asking and she usually ends up hurt. If she ends up likin it then great.
Oh and no i’m not 1 of those girls that was “coerced” into saying this. In fact i look forward to doing it when my hunny comes home next week.

natalie d,yah its always something there like want to come out but try darling what i suggest to you coz i do this believe me(in your cr have a strong running water put it on your anus youd fell pain at first but it will dessapair later put it then push it do it how many times till the water is clear no any dirt come out then try to do it w/your man enjoy it

Peoples, DO I HAVE TO BEG SO MANY TIMES TO COMMENTS ON MY BLOG # 458……..PLEASE I BEG YOU ALL, PLEASE HAVE A HEART TO REPLY………..I NEED YOU HELP AND OPINION BADLY………….I HAVE WROTE THIS 5 TIMES NOW, LET US SHARE AND HELP EACH OTHER, WE ARE THE FREE PEOPLE’S AND I’M PROUD OF ALL OF YOU

My wife and I endulge in anal sex because it is something we both enjoy. The kind of pleasure we experience is different than in other sexual acts. I like to be penetrated anally too. I think that those who hold to the idea that anal sex is somehow immoral or dysfunctional just miss the simple point that IT FEELS GOOD!

Well I tried anal sex when I was 18. Doggie style. I didn’t want it, at that time I did it to please my man. Well over the past 9 years I haven’t really went there and my thought was if a man wanted anal find a gay guy. Tried a few times not successful with my newer boyfriend.

Now I have talked with another woman and she told me to be on top. And thought about it. Just didn’t know if I wanted to.

So my boyfriend wanted anal sex I told him no, but he has been through alot in the past year so I decided that I would try but I was in control, I am a control freak. I hate lube its just turns me off, So we did it only with my female juices. Oh god it felt so good and different. I crave it and I get turned on thinking about it. But there was not enough lube so it did hurt. But after I found a natural lube at a health food store and it doesn’t leave me feeling gross. So we used it the next time. Couple days later, still hurt from the first time, but oh my it felt so good. Try being on top and when he was all the way in I was like are you sure, it doesn’t feel like it. He is not huge, but he is not small. I haven’t got to have an anal orgasim, but I can’t wait because it makes me so good as it is. The Second time was all me. Since we didn’t use lube the first time he wasn’t sure he wanted to do it.

ON TOP!!!

Jimmy

With what you said I would think she likes it. But she may not being willing to say that she does it for herself.

Thanx lots and lots “yea yea” # 478 for your advice, by the way, now she came with another reason, as she always says, do the front with a condom , then take it off and cum in my ass, cuz I wanna feel the hot cum and I do not want to get pregnant….looooooooooooool, why she just tells me she die for Anal sex from the start and matter closed, but women are always the same, they never admit their anal desire loooooooooooooooooooooool

ok so here is my problem i have a girlffriend that i love a lot and dont want to do anything to weird her out or hurt her but i have been want to try anal for some time now but i dont no how to bring it up cuz i no that she is not wanting to try it at all and here are her exact worda ” i will never try anal and if u ever want to dont even bother asking cuz its not going to happen” ya that s wat i would have prefered not to here. i also made the mistake of saying that ” ya i wouldnt want to either cuz i dont think that my penis is supposed to go there” witch i now regret cuz i actually want to try it really bad. i also think that there is a chance that she would like it because she used to be againt being eatin out but i changed that around wen i did it to her cuz now she loves it and wants me to do it all the time. dont get me wrong we dont have a boring sex life at all but i just like to try new things and i would like her to be the person that i try it with. but i definatley dont want to put or relationship on the line from this because i love her a lot. so please anyone out there please give some advice on wat to do or try.

In retort to #166, No offense dear but your husband is either a liar,a fake,not a doctor at all or he has some deep seated opposition to anal intercourse. After 33 years in practice (Ob/gyn). I have NEVER seen a case directly related to anal sex of incontinence. There is NO available reliable data that supports your husbands point. I and thousands of doctors around the world recommend anal play as part of a healthy sexual lifestyle. I charge you or your husband to produce one white paper, journal entry or other substantiated form of data to support the fable you printed and supposed as fact. The data simply does NOT support your statement what so ever! Practiced in a healthy, secure, safe way … Anal play (digit,penile, safe oral) play is an excellent way to teach trust,communication and patience in a relationship. So in closing again I charge you as does the medical community charge you to produce on shred of evidence to support your negative babble.

Dr. JC,
Great post! I think it’s also important to note that forceful anal play can lead to anal prolapse. So, as it has been said numerous times in this thread, communication is key to a safe and pleasurable anal experience. So be safe out there everyone, and happy bum play .

It is horrible. Pain without pleasure.

Im 36 and have been enjoying Anal sex with women since I was 14. My first experience was in my Fathers furniture business with my girlfriend who was also 14. My father’s store was closed on Sundays and I had my own key because I would close at night.

Well, we decided to go to the store to have sex. We got down to Vaginal sex doggy stle when I got the idea. I stopped and went in search of vasoline. I found some and applied it to my penis and her anus. I entered slowly and she enjoyed every inch of it. I screwed her beautiful Black Butt for a half hour before I came in her ass.

Ive since enjoyed Anal sex with atleast 30 women. Im married now for 8 years and enjoy Anal sex with my wife who has the nicest BUTT this side of the Mason Dixon Line!

I had anal sex with both my ex and current partner, and I didn’t like it a bit. For one thing they never went gentle and they never lubricated as i read some comments. The feeling i get was I needed to take a crap. So I really don’t like anal sex, But for him I’ll let it happen once in awhile”GREAT” while..I prefer oral or just good old fashion sex.

Men who want anal are a pain in the ass!

It’s incredible–in fact, I prefer it over vaginal. It hurt the first few times, but then I started to really like it. You just have to relax and get used to the new feeling.

my boyfriend is always bringing up anal sex, at first he would beg me, when i told him that i am scared that it will hurt and that i feel like its dirty to put something where gross u-know-what come from, he became more subtle about it, but i can still tell from his little comments that he really wants it bad. we tried it once with lots of lube but it didnt even get pass the tip and it really hurt. honestly, i would be perfectly happy if i never tried anal in my entire life. but i feel like im trapped between two fears, fear of harming myself (ive heard it can be painful and bad for u”) and fear that my bf will leave me or cheat on me. the only reason i try is because i just want to make him happy.

Do men ever get tired of viginal sex?

I had anal sex for the first time last week. It was so amazing! I took the advice from a previous commenter to squat over my partner and slowly go down on him. The only thing is when I went too far up and he came out of me, I pooped all over his crotch. He said that he thought it was very hot though..thank god! I will be having lots of anal sex in the future! Thanks alot everyone!!!

-Debbie M.

RE: comment #488. If you aren’t in a committed,loving, sharing relationship, don’t do anal. If your boyfriend cared for you, he wouldn’t pressure you. A loving partner is supposed to make you feel safe. And if your partner makes you feel unsafe or anxious, anal is not for the two of you.

thnx for the advice, its not that i dnt love him, i love him enough that i would be willing to try anything to make him happy, but i just can’t lie about the anxiety i feel. but sometimes i cant help but feel like im a failure, like he should be with someone else who can have anal sex with him. even if i decide to try, i am *positive* that i wouldnt eat for atleast 24 hours before trying it because nothing grosses me out like poopoo (no offnse to anyone who likes it, i gues its a matter of preference)

My did anal sex my girlfriend afew times, not many..about 5. I really enjoyed doing it and it such a huge turn on for me. My current girlfriend is christian and she is against it as she sees it as a sin (she told me if it wasnt a sin she would of tried by now though) anyway i read a comment here earlier about how it is only a misconeception that is a sin? how can i explain this to here?? i may be in!! she has a much sweeter ass than my ex and mmmmm i can just imagaine…

ever since i became sexually active, i have always told myself i would never have anal sex. i thought it was so disgusting, and sounded very painful. but my current boyfriend started playing with my anal around 4 months ago….and it hurt, but then i began to enjoy it. then he decided to put it in and for the first maybe 5 or 6 time it was very painful but also caused me pleanty of pleasure as well. now we have anal sex just as much as vaginal. i love it so much. of course, not as much vaginal…to me nothing compares to vaginal sex, i perfer vaginal over anal any day. but anal is right up there along with vaginal. anal sex and vaginal sex are two completley different sensations. you get goosebumps, chills up your spine. it is like nothing i have ever felt before(and thats a good thing) ! it also turns me on knowing the fact that my boyfriend is releasing his sperm inside me.maybe thats just me…i dont know. as long as your safe about it, and i cant stress enough about how important it is to use tons of lubrication. but just have fun with it, take it slow at first and after that you will really be able to enjoy it.

ever since i became sexually active, i have always told myself i would never have anal sex. i thought it was so disgusting, and sounded very painful. but my current boyfriend started playing with my anal around 4 months ago….and it hurt, but then i began to enjoy it. then he decided to put it in and for the first maybe 5 or 6 time it was very painful but also caused me pleanty of pleasure as well. now we have anal sex just as much as vaginal. i love it so much. of course, not as much vaginal…to me nothing compares to vaginal sex, i perfer vaginal over anal any day. but anal is right up there along with vaginal. anal sex and vaginal sex are two completley different sensations. you get goosebumps, chills up your spine. it is like nothing i have ever felt before(and thats a good thing) ! it also turns me on knowing the fact that my boyfriend is releasing his sperm inside me.maybe thats just me…i dont know. as long as your safe about it, and i cant stress enough about how important it is to use tons of lubrication. but just have fun with it, take it slow at first and after that you will really be able to enjoy it.

I am a woman & I’ve had anal sex more than 80 times and really, really loved it. when my boyfriend penetrated me the 1st time in college, it was like heaven.
i’ve also tried double penetration (anal) with my boy friend and my girl friend (she wore a strap on)the best orgasm ever.

its always best to use a butt plug 1st and make sure your partners are well lubricated
also when they first penetrate i find it best when they leave it deep in there for at least 30 seconds before intercourse.

My wife has gotten off on toys in her butt, but insists she didn’t. Now she won’t let me go near it. she had an episiodemy 7 or 10 years ago and insists that it hurts too much now! I can’t even talk to her about sex anymore! What do I do?

RE: #489
No. we never get tired of vaginal sex.
the catch however is that orgasm is all in the guys head(no, the one on our shoulders) so when we get too much extreme stimulus the ordinary can become mundane. 99.9% of us guys agree heat, pressure, and moisture are the key ingredients to a great orgasm. what combines all three better than a vagina? My fiance loves anal and really gets off to it. She asks me to really pound her booty hole but the idea(again in my mind) that Im hurting her keeps me from cumming. I actually have to think about her vagina to make me cum! lol yeah i know I should be grateful but its tough *faking* this 3-4 times a week. I’m well built and it doesn’t look like it should fit, how can i overcome the feeling im hurting her?

I am male and love being penetrated in the ass. As some think a clit is a small penis, I think my ass has all the nerves of a vagina. I can have an anal orgasm which is often stronger than a penis one. My fondest desire is to be penetrated by my wife with a strap on. Too bad she finds the thought “disgusting”.

Define anal sex. Licking? Rubbing? Massaging? Fingering? My 50 YO girlfriend likes all of that sometimes when we make love. It’s her body, and she has the say-so. She requests anal intercourse 5 or 6 times a year, and likes it once we get settled and going. I request it 12 times a year, and guess what? I get it 5 or 6 times a year. We have sex three to five times a week – and every time, I have a ball. So there you have it. Balance.

That fact that your SO is really into it and has asked you to “Pound” should relieve you of all fear that you are hurting her. If she didn’t like it, you would not be repeating the act. So relax, enjoy yourself, obviously she is. And live it up and do what every good man does, Respect her request !!!

Spiro

That fact that your SO is really into it and has asked you to “Pound” should relieve you of all fear that you are hurting her. If she didn’t like it, you would not be repeating the act. So relax, enjoy yourself, obviously she is. And live it up and do what every good man does, Respect her request !!!

I think anal sex is wonderful gives u the greatest orgasm ever u should try make shure u lube b4 u have anal my girlfriend enjoys anal she tells she has the greatest orgasms I recommend u have anal sex =D

Ladies, it is always best to stimulate the butt with a good Butt Plug, or toy of choice, with a reasonable amount of taper, all the while using plenty of a medium lube, not too thick, not to thin. But, beforehand, if you are concerned about a dirty butt, or having an accident, just use a simple warm water and soap enema. Use 2, if you deem it necessary, an hour before being the anal retriever. I guarantee these steps usually take a lot of the guess work and discomfort out of the equation. And as always, RELAX, its only sex.

Some of the post are so stupid.

First off, many women like anal especially with a toy and can only reach an orgasm that way.

If you do it you are partial gay? that is so stupid it barely deserve a response My wife has a great ass and entices me to do it often.

Domination? May be bit, but only cause she like to be submissive “taken” if you will.

Damage? Splinter is very strong and moves right back tight right away. We generally do it after a bit of regular and foreplay, Did it at least 350 times with my wife….no problems.

I suspect the people posting negatively don’t get much.

Nothing wrong at all with anal unless she says no.

I would say from experience, get comfortable with the concept of anal sex all the good and bad. There is a cream (anal ease) that helps numb some of that penetration pain for the first couple of times. Makes sure it’s with someone you are comfortable with who will be gentle. Do something at the same time that stimulates other senses (like rubbing your nipples or having him kiss your ear from behind). Make sure you use lots of lube like ky jelly but nothing that causes friction (vaseline or lotion). make him wear protection because there are some really nasty infections that he and you can catch. Lie on your left side because of the way the body atnatomy is it’s the easiest least painful way and RELAX your butt muscles completely do not tense up. you can have a wonderful time. good luck. i have done this and i love anal sex and so does my man.

I’ve been with the same man for almost 27 years and we’ve never had anal sex.
I don’t like the idea and my husband has never pressured me in any way – he seems content to do other things.
I was horrified to hear from a nursing friend that anal sex often leads to fecal incontinence later in life…
She has nursed a number of older gay men…not a nice thought!

My boyfriend and was have sex and he want to put jelly on and then he went to put his penis back in and went in to my ass. I was on the ground crying I was in so much pain not to forget I am 8 months pregnant. I will never for get the pain ever. It was as bad as child birth to me. He said he was sorry. I know he was, but I felt like I was raped! Even though it was a true exacted.

Wow #14 – I guess you are bisexual, so that is a whole other ball game. Bless your little heart for answering.

Hi. I am a heterosexual man who loves anal, giving and receiving. I have tried it with my wife before, and only once did she like it. She is a nurse and is very disgusted by the “poop” factor, the bacterial risk, etc. She can’t get past this, so we don’t try it anymore. It is one of the crises of my sex life, but I love and respect her, so I don’t even go near that area anymore.
I have enjoyed anal stimulation for most of my life, and recently bought a butt plug and a large vibrator to loosen myself up. The prostate orgasm is real and earth-shattering. I would also like to say that I have never nor will I entertain homosexual thoughts of any kind, I don’t think if a man enjoys anal stimulation that he is gay, and it certainly does not affect my desire for vaginal sex either.

Say, I just didn’t want to get pregnant. My boy friend wanted sex, so I looked up anal sex. Got me a small penis dildo & vibrator. I got myself very clean. I then got myself very lubed & relaxed, I anally masterbated and to my exploration, I did enjoy it, I can say, I felt full & satisfied. So later on that week, surprised my boyfriend and allow him to have sex with me,,, only it was anally, he was happy, I was happy and still a virgin vaginaly. Now we only had anal sex once every three weeks. But after 2 years we got married, we do have vaginal sex, but for the past 25 years he still wants my Backdoor every 3 weeks or he will pout & drag his feet & poke out his lip, he is just to put it simply, he is hooked on having sex with my butt(anus)…. After while I wanted to quit, but the we went without anal sex was 16 weeks and that was becuase of the birth of our childred 6 (six), total. So to keep him happy & me, every 3 weeks we enjoy our selves with a long night of ANAL SEX !!!

For the husbands and boy friends waiting.

Keep waiting and gently approaching the subject, let her come around to the idea to do anal out of curiosity and pressure. When I first met my wife she was a “no way, not there, never gonna happen” girl. Over the next several years I would talk to her about it, trying to find out if she was opposed to it based on religious reasons, stories from friends,a bad first try…..the more info I had the better chance of coming up with a good game plan and a valid refute to her story. Eventually her mind got curious, and she’d let me “slip” with a pinky or tongue. Without any more pressure just some east teasing, she asked if that was what I REALLLLLY wanted. DUHHHHH YES, she then said if I had tons of lube, a condom, was very slow and gentle we could try it if I promised to stop if it hurt too much. That wonderful night started with a great bottle of champagne, flowers and dinner. I was showing her how much I appreciated what she was offering to do. After dinner nakedness soon began. It started with lots of body rubbing, kissing and caressing. For me to get my prize I was going to have to work at picking the lock. I started with my mouth, then a well lubed small finger, very slowly, let her get used to it. Then a larger finger with lots of time and lube. Pay attention to her breathing, body signs and the relaxation of her ass. The more relaxed and trustful she is the farther you get. Next I used a very thin jelly vibe. That seems to have sealed the deal. A few minutes later and she was pulling the toy out and asking for me to replace it. With the patients and pace of a bomb squad detective I slowly made my way full tilt balls deep, and just held still until she was completely relaxed. I let her set the pace and just leaned back to enjoy the amazing show. When I finally did cum it was the most intense orgasm ever, I still remember every detail of it. By taking time to build a great foundation for anal sex, I have it at home all the time, half the time she’s the one asking. TIME TRUST TUBES of AstroGlide and a little fore thought, and you should be knee deep is asscheeks forever. Good LUCK

anal sex is abnormal and nature never designed it for sex,it is only the passage route of excrement that nature allowed it.i advice you not to try it.

It’s New Years eve and Im anticipating enjoying Anal sex tonight with my wife. Married 8 years and I always go in bareback and always cum in her beautiful round butt.

#507 Michaela

Too bad for your husband. Life must be BORING at your home! I would have hund myself or left you by now;)

I spoke too soon. My wife went to bed early so I guess no Anal action tonight. I was really looking forward to cumming in her juicy butt. Oh well, too bad for me:(

If anal sex is normal, why don’t we see domestic and or wild animals doing it? Isn’t this against God’s laws? My wife and I are christians, but want to spruce up our sexual relationship. I want to try anal, but she says it’s nasty and God never intended for a penis to go in the anus. Help us if you can. I will check back in a day or two. Happ New Year!

My wife not only takes it anally most of the time, she has strong orgasms and even has a little trouble cumming without something in her ass now. And if I wake her up with anal play she goes WILD- a total animal need for rear penetration.

I am a woman that was married for years and never experienced anal sex with my ex husband. Never had the desire to do so, even though he asked about it several times. I am now however remarried and I have tried it several times with my new husband. Girls it is not at bad as some would think. I actually enjoy it from time to time with my husband and if I told him that it hurt I know he would stop and not mention anal sex again. Just when the mood strikes, take it easy, use plenty of lube and relax. After a couple of minutes you will discover that you actually enjoy it…

ive been taking it up the ass for years now and i can truly say that its what keeps me going. gives me hope that one day i will find that special dick that will feel so goood inside my rectum that it will bleed

In my sexual experience, it really depends on the guy. My first guy was completely against it, my current guy wants it alot. I personally am not a huge fan… and unless I’m turned on, tied up and spanked, anal will probably not happen. We use plenty of lube when we do it, but it’s still an uncomfortable feeling.

Women have been trained (deliberatly and not) to be clean, and well maintained. Most women hide their bathroom habits, and are usually embaressed by the idea. Especially older women (ages 35+). For me just the idea that something might come out…. or the ‘what if’s… the thoughts distract me enough to keep me from enjoying it at all.

My suggestion: if you really, really want to do it, warm your woman up to it. Talk to her about it and take a bath/shower together to clean up (helps the mind relax)… take the time to really turn her on and just slip a finger back there – not entering, just hovering around the area. Combine it with another activity, like oral, to make the feeling good. Take your time and use lots of lube. Eventually she may get used to it and maybe enjoy it, but if she just doesn’t like it don’t push the issue. Nothing build resentment faster than a nagging partner.

Best of luck!

ok so iv left a few comments on here about how my girlfriend does not want to do it at all but now things ave changed. i mentioned it to her the other day and she seemed more so scared about it hurting than that is disgusting. she is by ay means really wanting to do it but she seems some what open to the idea, she said that there is about a 5% chance that she will give it a try and im ok with that. she is now 18 and i am not there yet but pretty close but i am still 17. one of her friends have experienced it and told her that it was horrible it hurt really bad and that she started crying, but i have a feeling that the person she was with didnt take there time, dindt use much lubricant and didnt work their way up to inserting his penis witch iv heard are they main things to do wen trying anal. i plan on easing the idea to her and not pressuring her atll just slowly let her warm up to it use lots of lube and use my fingers first, i also thought that it might she might be more comfortable if we tried it in the shower. well iv got to go but anyone with any suggestions or comments for me feel free to leave some and some addvice would really be appreciated.

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i have just resently tried anal i would have to say that the first time it did somewhat hurt but now it is extremely enjoyable and i am starting to have it more and more and personally its better for me bc i dont really like when my husband puts a balloon on his penis…

I have had anual sex with a previous boyfriend and I really enjoyed it. He was an averaged sized man. Now my husband is a very large sized man and the idea of anual sex scares me to death. Sometimes he can be too much for me the “normal” way. We have tried it a few times–always well lubed, very slow and me slightly intoxicated–and I always end up crying because it hurts so bad. I feel so bad because I know he wants to do anual–especially since he can’t. We are a very good sexual couple and have amazing sex–but I can’t give him everything he wants. He is very understanding though–and yes he does “lick it” .
I just wanted to share my frustration. How can I go from loving it–to being terrified of it?

Jr boy Please try to answer these questions for me. Thanks
If anal sex is normal, why don’t we see domestic and or wild animals doing it? Isn’t this against God’s laws? My wife and I are christians, but want to spruce up our sexual relationship. I want to try anal, but she says it’s nasty and God never intended for a penis to go in the anus. Help us if you can. I will check back in a day or two.

I absolutely love having anal sex. I find it extremely pleasurable for me. It was slow at first but now I am used to it. Also when my boyfriend is inside me, I find that my vagina gets more wet, almost flowing with juices more than when he is inside me vaginally. I am dripping. And the orgasm? Its like nothing I ever experienced with vaginal sex, I feel like I just smoked some good weed and high as hell. lol. no lie. I lay there motionless in pleasure sometimes.

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The beauty of anal sex is to be in a relationship that is filled with love, trust and honesty. Anal sex is not a taboo subject as it brings out the intense feeling of pure pleasure….so, just go out and enjoy..

First of all the guy HAS to go slow and be experienced.I’ve met alot of girls who prefer it to vaginal sex. I did’nt get what the big deal was until 2yrs ago when my boyfriend entered me in a missionary position. You can’t imagine how shocked I was when I actually came and hard. Be sure you’re well lubricated and go slow. Try it with your knees touching your shoulders. I think you will be pleasantly surprised. Use condoms and lube and enjoy.

Try it its really wonderful! its such an orgasmic experience and ive never felt anything like it before. My boyfriend is well endowed and i love the feeling of my being “full” as he can fully stimulate the clit as well as providing plenty of good movements. Try it, you’ll never forget the great feeling (age: 23) xD

I’ve been anally minded since puberty. My first gf taught me all the wonders of some good butt-loving. I’ve found through my years of experience that some women like it, other don’t, just as some men like it and some don’t. I’ve been lucky enough to marry a beautiful woman, who like me, has a passion for anal sex. However, it wasn’t untill my wife first did my butt that I realized how incredibly beautiful anal pleasures really are.

My suggedstion: if you want to try it, try it. Otherwise you’ll never know what you’re missing. Conversely, if you don’t want to try it, DON’T.

I’ve tried anal sex with my ex and YES it did hurt and i was scared to try it again but i
have tried it with dildos and again it hurt ALOT but my current boyfriend has mentioned that he hasn’t done it and wants to try it. i’ve read all these comments and i do really want to try it but i’m still scared that it is gonna hurt like the 1st time.

Those who think I’m just doing it to please my bf, NO I am not. I have seen it on a porn site and the woman did look like she was in pain at 1st but she also seemed to enjoy it, lol.
So i say if you wanna try it… go ahead.
guys don’t be afraid to ask your wife /gf about it, my bf asked me. I think technically not all, but alot of women and men who have’nt yet done it actually wanna try anal altho i don’t think my bf would like the idea of a dildo up his rear end. haha

I first tried anal sex with the father of my kids whom I was with for 9 yrs. After being together for 5 yrs we expiremented and I have to admit I enjoyed it. After him I have had 3 boyfriends sence. the last one was not inrested in exploring in that but was very much so into oral sex and I have to say was he good at it. My current boyfriend who had never tried it, after 3mons I told him I wanted anal sex, he is a very big guy alot bigger than I had ever had, now we do it about once a week. we both enjoy all sorts of sex but only with eachother. Like most others have Have already said lots of lube and be gental.

You people are real demented, It’s sick and very strange behavior. first off, The Rear end was never meant for sex, only for
body waste to come out of and you go there? can you not have sex the normal way? or maybe some of you women do it to keep your boyfriend or husband from going else where…that is real sad. Or maybe just abused women will do any thing.

wtf…..women where are your dignity????, for WHAT u let hurt yourself and abase and of course corrupt your health!!!…men wants.. but do YOU really wanna it???
of course they want, for them it does not matter where to tuck they dick…if they love and respect you they never ask you this!!!!!
Only totally idiot and with out self respect women would let it happen!!

anal sex with the wife is great.slow at first but hard at the end.

One very important difference between the anus and rectum is that the anus has nerve endings which are capable of experiencing pain while the rectum does not. The sphincters or muscles that control bowel movements are located in the anus and lower rectum. These muscles are divided into the internal and external sphincter. The internal sphincter, which is adjacent to the colon wall, is an involuntary muscle that relaxes for a bowel movement to pass through. When you are far from a bathroom you depend on your external sphincter, a voluntary muscle that you can contract to prevent an embarrassing occurrence. While the internal sphincter relaxes when feces enter your rectum, it involuntarily contracts as a penis or other object attempts to enter from the outside. The relaxation and contraction of the internal sphincter allows you to pass large stools relatively painlessly. However, an inserted penis or sex toy of equal or smaller size may hurt because during initial insertion the object is pushing against the contracted internal sphincter. Once the internal sphincter relaxes, the experience can be more pleasurable, and no damage will be done.

A wonderful lubricant is lashings of olive oil which gives added sensitivity.

I heard that animals engage in anal sex also, I was surprised! Women who enjoy double penetration have the most intense orgasms, like machine gun fire!

Whatever turns you on, and isn’t hurting/harming anyone/anything I say go for it! And that includes anal sex.

In a male-female relationship, if the guy wants to go for anal sex way more than the lady, I think they should reverse the roles and try out a strap-on. That way they can empathize with each other in both experiences.

i’m 37 years old and have been in a lot of relationships. when i was in my teens i thought anal sex was gross and oral sex was degrading to women.
as i got older my sexual predilections migrated toward the more aggressive and obscure (most likely due to increased availability of and exposure to pornography), and i began to have an increased interest in anal sex in my mid-twenties. i believe it was roughly 11 years ago when i began a relationship with a young woman who enjoyed anal sex as much as i did, and our sex life was very intense and experimental.

since that relationship, anal sex has been a regular part of the majority of my relationships, with a few partners interspersed who had no interest in it whatsoever. one of those partners refused to believe that any woman in the world actually enjoyed anal sex (clearly a very narrow and ignorant view of the world), and it was a major point of contention within what was generally a fairly dysfunctional relationship.
i’ve known several women in my life who not only enjoy anal sex, but who request it and some who even profess to prefer it to vaginal penetration.
even during vaginal sex, i enjoy putting one or more fingers into my partner’s anus and pushing against the connecting wall to stimulate my penis. it’s an incredibly gratifying sensation, and with a few exceptions my partners have also enjoyed it.
of course, i’ve made some stupid mistakes in my time, since i generally only engage in long-term monogamist relationships, i generally eschew the use of a con-dom (and as i’ve grown older i have noticed a marked difficulty in maintaining an erection with one on), and there have been times when i neglected to wash myself after unprotected anal sex (being uncircumcised, this has occasionally led to moderate bacteriological unpleasantness in the days that followed), but i am quite free of sexually transmitted diseases, either out of pure luck or the fact that i do try to make informed choices in sex partners. i’ve never had a ‘one night stand’ with a stranger, and when i’ve engaged in casual sex outside the bounds of a committed relationship, i have typically used con-doms, though my most recent one-off experience (three years ago with a lesbian friend who wanted to try getting it on with a hetero male) began with a con-dom and ended without one. however, she was not interested in my finger being in her ass, let alone my cock.

problems problems.
from what i’ve read on this thread, it seems women mostly enjoy anal sex.
my fiancee had a bad experience when she was a teenager that i think has effected her outlook on it. i’m extremely curious about it, but every time i try to talk to her about it, she shrugs it off and changes the subject. any advice?

Re Sandra’s comment and other similar comments.

Sweetheart while you are right to express your feminist views, some ladies out there still are quite happy to be a lady and they have the right to do what they want, be it to please thier bloke sexually or otherwise!

Essentially men as part of sex do enjoy a partiall feeling of dominence” a little unkind but part of life for men. Women are more inclined to be nurturers.

The reason there are so many relationship breakdowns now is many women want to be “equal or better” the fact remains that women and men are different and for all intents and purposes will never be equal or better as they are just different.

The western world has freedom of speech but you need to remember that does not give feminists, activists, civil libertarians or drug addicts or whoever the right to say how anyone, male or female to live thier lives.

Lady get a life, if you dont like it do not do it but please just because you are a femenist, please do not put guilt trips on other committed ladies because of your own fears and desire to dictate to others!

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Ladies, I am one of you, and all woman for sure.
Tell you my story: my ex was pushing me into sex when I was still a virgin. Although we played in different ways, we hadn’t had it done yet, and as he was pushing more, I was refusing more…in the end I got a feeling he only wanted to have me, to possess me AND TO BE THE FIRST. Well, saint vibrator was THE FIRST and took my flower one December night!!!
I was selfish and took it! So what? It’s my body! After that I told him: yes, possess me now-and he was not happy for what he found, but, hell, I am proud of myself for in the end it turned that I was right: he tried to possess my whole being, even controlled when I smile and when I am allowed to smile. Hihihhi, the bastard turned into past ))
Now I am engaged to a wonderful man, but we don’t live in the same countries. We had amazing sex when he was here, and I was stuffed by the biggest penis you can imagine… But he also mentioned anal sex! In my country that is taboo, a death sin, and no guy ever mentioned it to me. But Mr. Right did! And I categorically refused! Two months ago I nearly broke up with him for he joked about anal sex: I told him that he’s got to decide about it that moment if he will continue asking me about it, so I could decide what to do, and that I am refusing it for life. Told him I wanted to solve the problem for the future, and if he wants it so much and will suffer desire his whole life for marrying me, then we better finish it all… But he loves me, and he accepted all I wanted..
But he was playing with my rectum when he was here, though I didn’t know that till just recently. It came up that I was feeling really horny and played to myself-I even gave myself a warm bath, then a massage with a nice baby oil-I just wanted to please myself, and so I gave it time, a lot of time… I was growing more and more excited, played to my body in all the sexiest ways you can imagine (my clitoris was rather growing like a small shadow of a penis and I could play it like one). I was laid on my stomach and pushed the vibrator into my vagina and even moaned, nearly screamed of pleasure, shivering of joy.. And then it happened: my whole body was very oily for I did the massage, and as I was on my stomach I played to my cheeks-I like it, and my finger “accidentally” slipped to my rectum… I was touching it and it felt nice, so in a second I HAD MY FINGER INSIDE. Oh, I wish my arms were longer! After a while I was so concentrated to my ass that I was not even noticing the vibrator IN MY EX TEMPLE OF PLEASURE! Soon I had one more finger there, and noticed there was some nice feeling: slight pain, but disappearing and turning into a new kind of pleasure-there is one spot that made me go wild! And the vibrator got the new office, brand new one!!! I was pushing it gently in and out and O GOSH how it felt! I was not touching my clitoris or vagina anymore, but I was wetter and wetter, flooded by my own juices! I could not believe it was happening! And I enjoyed and enjoyed, and IT WAS MUCH BETTER THAN MY EXPERIENCE OF TAKING MY OWN VIRGINITY! In the end I came with fireworks, moving like a snake and screaming-simply couldn’t hold it!!! Want to know haw it felt??? IT IS YOUR GREATEST VAGINAL ORGASM MULTIPLIED BY THREE!!! The next evening I played to myself again, but played to my vagina just to be prepared for the anal-all the time I just wanted it in my ass. And to tell you, cause many of you asked about the poop-there is no poop. As I learned from my experiences till now, the poop comes down when you are about to go to the toilet, but till then it is up in your stomach, and after you go to toilet and get rid of your burden, just wait about an hour and you can have anal sex-all that was rest after the loo is gone back up and disappeared from the channel. Believe me, besides the pain, the poop on his penis was my concern number one-it would be so embarrassing, although should not be-the as is the natural way out, the same mine as his and everybody else’s!
after I realized how much I enjoy it, I had a good talk to him about anal sex, and we talked openly like never before (we talk on msn-as I said we live in different countries). He knows quite enough about the subject, and I know even more for I read a lot to satisfy my curiosity and to be prepared to do it-I want to be sure to do it with him-it’s a big penis that stuffs with a bit of pain even my vagina entrance (tight because of sports I do), but soon it stretches and relaxes giving me loads of pleasure and fullness. So, as we talked he was quite surprised and very careful about what to say, for he knows what a drill I presented him recently… And I told him what I did… Then he told me he had his fingers in my rectum.. Wow, that surprised me for I don’t remember I felt it, but after he reminded me it came to my mind and i clearly remember: that time he turned me wild and I came as never before, just I didn’t know what happened and why Well, now I do! And we still play on the cam, just I have my toys in my ass the same ass I’ve had them in my vagina, and we both enjoy it though at such a distance. He is coming soon, and I am looking forwards to share my new experience with him-I know it will be even better than when I do it to myself for he will take care of me and relax me and give me a lot of pleasure like I have never been given before-he is my man and he loves me maybe even more than I love him, and I do love him by my whole being!

(I apologize for using some words that should not be used in public, but those are words we all use, and here we share our most intimate experiences, so I found it a bit natural)

Kisses to all, and enjoy your life, let him possess you if that is your point, but always know that we, women, actually possess our men: it is him who has the extra part which we take and swallow when we want and as long and as much we want, and then we reject when need no more. All they do is OFFERING, but we decide whether to take it or not, and even when they think they do possess us-it is only as long and as much WE want. So who is the real owner? They would never fight for the position if they actually ever felt they have it And the world is full of guys! Just look at that cute back of yours in the mirror: who could ever refuse it???? There will always be a man to give you loads of pleasure, straight to your command, or just as s shake, but it is you to choose which one will do it!
Cheers everybody and enjoy sex-it is a gift to human kind, it is a cure as well as a disease-so choose what to make out of it, protect yourself, use condoms-such an effort is made to invent it, use oils and lubes-it is invented just for your pleasure, use your man-he is created for you and for your pleasure!
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I love anal sex. Ladies, take it from another woman, it feels sensational. It’s erotic trying something new and slightly tabboo. Don’t knock it until you try it.

I AGREE WITH POST 21 SUE……PRETTY BAD WHEN PEOPLE don`t know the front hole from the rear one, GOD strickly forbids this sick practise, causes all kinds of health problems, colon problems, hemmoroids, and other things, don`t understand how a guy could put his woman through this pain, even animals won`t do this, there smarter than humans, GOD help this sick world of people. i have heard of women puping on the guy back there, sick sick sick.

I`VE known of women that do this alot and it stretches them so bad that they can`t hold their bowells, so walking across the wal mart floor, they dump in their drawers or on the floor, one lady was walking down the church when she let hers go…pretty sick huh. GOD bless these sick people…..

My wife and i try anal sometimes she doesnt like it to much says it hurts but she will do it anyways. SO i keep it to a limit. She is amazon in bed.The best lover one could want. But it hurts her but she can still get off. its weird. So we only do anal once in a long while. i think most ladies are just afraid

I’m 18 years old, have been sexually active since I was 15, and my boyfriend for a year is interested in having anal sex. I tried it once and I didn’t enjoy it to say the least. Although his penis didnt go in very much it hurt. I’m sure if he used lubrication it wouldve made a big differnce. So thats my question. Does lubrication make a difference? I want to keep my current relationship exicited, so I’m planning a big valentines day “surprise” if you know what I mean; (hint : anal sex).

I read #7 Rodgers comment and felt that i had to respond.
Rodger please don’t generalise that all men who want to have anal sex are insecure and that its a power trip, sure it may be that motive for some but not all and certainly not me.
I dont think theres a lot of guys who maintain that their girlfriends and wives must be hummilated by taking it in the ass and sucking cock on their knees while the guy stands and smirks.
I don’t think that a lot of women would stick around with that sort of abuse.

I have been doing anal sex since I was very young, most women I have known claimed they would never liked it, but all of them minus two,really liked it. My present wife has very intense orgasms just having anal sex.
I have done it with lube or without,
using my spit, or pulling out of the vagina with the penis lubricated from her juice.
I my opinion is only a matter of getting her really excited, then you can put your penis any place you want.
My last girlfriend who claimed she would never have anal sex, after trying bought a huge can of vaseline and left it in my house, it got so bad that I started getting tired of anal sex and wanted to do vaginal sex , but she wold pull it out of her vagina and put it in her anus.
Any kind of sex is good as long as both, woman and man enjoy it.

Anal sex is amazing! As a 39 year old male, I have had anal sex with both my wives. The first one was a kinky girl and liked giving it back to me with a strap-on. When our marriage fell apart, I turned to men for about 2 years and loved every minute of it! My second wife took a little more coaxing, but when i brought an ex-boyfriend in to double penetrate her, she quickly “loosened up”! Now we have three ways every week and there is anal-a-plenty for everyone. Use lube and wear a condom and keep your eyes on the prize.

i have tried this before, never b/c i really wanted it, just to make the man i was with happy. it was not enjoyable in any way, and just left me feeling bad about myself and resentful towards the man i was with.
try it only if you want to, and continue to do so only if you really enjoy it, not to make someone else happy.
to all the men on this site who know their partner does not enjoy this practice but do it anyway…why?? don’t you care about her, or are your own needs more important? it’s not like you can’t get off another way…

I have a question for this community of anal lovers. Do white gals enjoy anal sex more than blacks or hispanics? I found it very hard to get blacks to give up the cheeks, but whites mostly welcome it. Please post your opinion.

My lover introduced me to anal sex a couple of years ago. We now do it regularly. Not everytime, but anytime the mood hits us. Since I am short, he built me some steps. I can get on the steps and stick my ass backwards. He starts with licking me as I masterbate. I continue to masterbate while he lubes me nicely and has anal sex with me. It takes some practice to let the man stay in the tight muscle area so he can cum. When he does, it feels really good. I have found that I am having climaxes this way. I can rub my G-spot at the same time and feel what is inside of me from behind. Even better climaxes than normal sex!!

ok, so i read quite a few of the comments, and this is my story…
so i am the type of girl who is innocent but then again i have a curious mind… i don’t mind exploring my sexual self..
anyways… i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and i want to try it with him but then i want to continue and do new things such as maybe sticking my finger up his but.. i was told by a friend, if i give him head and when hes fixing to cum, stick my finger up his butt.. it is suppose to make him have a big orgasm.. but he wont let me.. hes all for like role play.. like me in cute costumes but he won’t let me do anything that i’m curious about.. because he is more of the conservative type.. and i just want to explore every aspect.. but i love him so of course i won’t do it..

how can i warm him up to it.. because he does say that he want to do anal and one time he did stick his finger in my but .. while licking my vagina..

i just want to have fun with sex but also give him the best orgasm of his life.. i mean i am up for anything.. .. at least once, twice if i like it

i dddon’t i am just asking for advice

thanks!!

as i was reading many people had to say that they like anal sex, well i am one of them but here is when i got a lil confused, few people wrote that they like to get panetrated and how guys fantasise about geting it anal, well not me and i know alot of guys so far non has said any thing about puting any thing up there butt, the only thing a guy might like is a rim job, getting there anus licked by a girl, so ya i just watn to correct you sir that not all men fantasise about a strp on, if you do like it thats fine, what ever makes you feel good, in my openion men are not ment to be panetrated thats why we have a different equepment which is designed to panetrate a woman, and yes anal sex is funn but then it gets boring so there is nothing like vaginal sex, i guess once in a blue moon is fine from my experiance but vaginal sex is where its at.

Me again. I am not sure how to get a boyfriend to have anal sex. I do know that I initiate anal sex most of the time. My lover is willing to do to me about anything I want. I just turn around, rub my ass against his penis, then reach up and around his neck and let him nibble on my throat. I tell him “exactly” what I want him to do to me!!

Yes, I really do like anal sex. I don’t know if this is race related or not. I am a redhead and i just love it!!

I also have learned how to “massage the prostate” to make the man cum in oral sex. It works best with me on my back with my head on a couple of pillows. He gets over me kneeling with his hands on the wall. If you reach up his ass (I have KY next to me), just a couple of inches up and bend your finger forward towards your mouth, you can feel the prostate. Once you make a man cum this way, he’s like a pet doggie and will follow you anywhere!!

I tend to suck him hard first. This makes his prostate swell some so I can find it easier. If I rub it gently, he cums right away. If I keep rubbing it, I can make him keep dry-squirting in my mouth as long as I want. Eventully, he can’t take it and asks me to stop. By then, I have want I want.

If you want really good sex, all shyness has to disappear. You can’t say no to anything until you try it first. As long as I don’t hurt, I like anything.

By the way, we recently got “yours/mine” KY. This stuff is really great. In fact, we rub it on each other “before” we do a 69. The taste is really better than you can imagine!!

Something sexy, we both are way over sexxed. When they develope products at KY, someone has to be there to test them out. We want those jobs!!!

To #18 reply from Mitch, can you masterbate on her ass?? That is how we started. If she lets you do that, maybe she will be more receptive to anal.

My lover said his ex-wife would not let him touch her ass in any way. Even rub it. But, she did allow him to masterbate on her ass.

One time, Mae West was asked what would be her definitlion of un-natural sex?? She thought for a second then replied, “I guess that’s something you just can’t do”!!

I live that philosophy…….

anal sex is gteat! my wife and i have anal sex all the time .She won`t addmit it but I think she prefurs it in the ass.

anal is good depending is to big it will hurt like hell, but he still likes it.

anal is good depending is to big it will hurt like hell, but he still likes it.

what do you think about anal sex in the middle east, such Irag with thier huge sexy butt girls. my wife ass is too wide like sex movie, we nevr use lube ???

How to approach the idea in the first place? From a male perspective it sounds too freaky to mention, so if you don’t already have a caring, open, honest relationship then don’t bother (IMHO). If you do then it is probably not an issue when the anal question arises. Start with a fingertip and see what the reaction is perhaps?

To those who’ve found they like it and want to go a little further, try a good plug for both partners during standard intercourse – the feel is amazing and my wife and I both had what felt like the best O’s of our lives!

I recommend the Njoy metal plugs – various sizes for starting small and working up. My wife is skinny and adores the biggest plug after starting small. Just the thought blew my mind…

My husband is a conservative indian and has never involved in anything abnormal. Few years back a relative started forcing me when he found me alone at home. He introduced me to anal sex suggesting that i won’t risk pregnancy. Initially it was very painfull for me. however now i have become comfortable and he is very caring while doing anal sex. Once he asked me to company his friend from abroad and i have done anal sex with him also. If done with sufficient oil its ok with me.

In response to those saying Anal sex is done just to please the man. . . NO WAY. I wanted anal sex, I was curious, I actually experimented with a vibrator first then had my husband do me. OH MY GOSH I HAVE NEVER HAD SUCH GREAT SEX IN MY LIFE.

We have been married for 30years. This is just what we needed to spice up our sex life.
Now I want it all the time.

I LOVE ANAL SEX and i’m almost 50

I had anal sex in college with an african american man who lets say was well hung. It was the best sexual experience that I have EVER had. The thrusting and my booty hitting his body while he was going at it was AMAZING! Sometimes not being the dominate one is fun. Also if he can reach around and &*$# you with his hands it makes it sssssoooo much better!!! Do It. Just let go and give him the control.

wow #374 is a retard… THE VEGAL NERVE IS IN YOUR HEAD NOT YOUR ASS, BUT ITS DIFFERENT FOR YOU BECAUSE YOUR HEAD IS IN YOUR ASS!

WOW Steve, your wrong! Your vagal nerve is in your head but goes all the way to your ass (shincter muscles)! It’s the longest cranial nerve in your body. Look it up in an anatomy book. Thats why you become so stimulated! The feeling is generated in your brain. You can become so vagally stimulated that your heart rate slows down and she will become dizzy. The anus is full of nerve endings that are all stimulated( both pain and pleasure)

i’m so much curious abt anal but unluckily my wife never allows me for it.i wish i could find a lady whos likeminded n invite me at her place for this.i must tell i can never think of anal sex with a man.i want it with a lady . i’m showing my email address.plz lemme know who is that lady ?. I can lick her n do all which satisfies her most.

As a 40-something guy with some experience, it really varies from woman to woman.

My very first girlfriend in high school introduced me to anal sex. We were typically nervous teenagers with each other, but in bed, she was great and loved sex.

Early on, she had encouraged me to put my finger in her ass while feeling her vagina.

But I was still shocked (and pleased!) when one day she guided me into her anus** instead of her vagina**. I was very nervous, but excited, and afterwards I asked her, “Do you like that?” (We were very awkward about talking about sex.) “Sometimes…” she said. It turned out she liked it a lot.

But there are other women I’ve known since who are great perverts in bed, but simply don’t really like it. On the other hand, I’ve managed to convert some… takes a lot of patience and you have to work up to it over a long time. But I really have known women who eventually came to like it so much that they sometimes preferred it…

Like so many sexual things, it’s very personal and idiosyncratic. But it’s just dumb to say women do it only to please men, or that if you don’t like it you never will. The most fun sex comes from experimentation — open yourself to new experiences, cultivate a dirty mind, and you will have a much happier sex life.

And yep, I’ve taken it up the butt too, from a woman. And I found I liked it… and I am not at all homosexually inclined (not that there’s anything wrong with that ), so that’s just a b.s. myth.

Seriously — let go of your sexual hangups, and you will have a lot more fun. And never force anyone to do anything… (they will resent or hate you)… *seduce* them into doing it (and they will love you for it)!

**(God, I hate these clinical terms — makes me feel like I’m reading a medical brochure. I’m only using them because I suspect people in this forum might be offended by the more attractive, ribald anglo-saxon terms I usually use).

when we start our physical relation I feel very exited and 3rd day my boyfriend says to suck his penis with touching hands and not touching i used my tounge on his pink part of penis firstly i feel yek but after that i like alot and my exitement grow more and more

Wow this thread just wont go quiet will it. Anyway, just to say I really enjoy reading everyone’s different takes on anal sex, especially the women. Clearly its not for everyone, but clearly there are many women who have found anal can not only be non-painful, but actually enjoyable. More power (and pleasure) to you – its your body so why shouldn’t you explore every way there is to enjoy it in the privacy of your own home?

I’ve had anal sex with three partners, one even initiated the idea, and with appropriate measures they all took my above average cock fully inside their ass. Cleanliness and pain were not an issue even without enemas and excessive amounts of lube (a couple of times nothing but saliva were needed, but I’d recommend some lube always). Judging by the number of repeat invitations it was obviously something that was reasonably pleasurable on some level.

I think its a very intimate act with a lot of trust involved and when done right very erotic and pleasurable, there’s nothing “gay” about it – I have zero interest in guys or their asses but I’ll happily partake in anal sex with a woman both giving and receiving if it gives her pleasure.

Those who think its immoral etc. etc. should just butt [sic] out of people’s private lives, its none of your business and I’m sure if we turned your private lives into public we’d find all kinds of things someone, somewhere would want to label immoral. Those who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones…

Anyway I’m headed upstairs to enjoy my gf sweet ass, I wish you all success and pleasure in whatever pursuits turn you on in your bedrooms.

Michelle was a anal virgin when we meet and I talked to her about doing it. I have enjoyed anal for many years. The 3rd time we did it, I did not wear a condom, at her request.

I hit the wrong key before finishing, so here is the ending.
The next day Michelle called me from work. She was is the bathroom, because she horny feeling my cum leaking out of her butt, she had to masturbate. When we got together the next time, she asked me to make anal love to her again, and could not understand why she waited until she was 37 years old to lose her anal virginity!

My girlfriend and i have never experienced it before, so we tried it and both enjoy. it feels so good when you are inside of her, but caution, if its too rough she can bleed, we never use lube, and omg, the expressions are aswome

This comment is for maybe (69)…obviously you dont have sex or have much experience with sex, do you not see that three quarters of the women on here obviously enjoy it. My partner of 3 years now can not get enough of it and if she did not want it, i would be fine with that, i have also had past partners initiate it. Maybe you should go back to the 50’s where you belong or maybe just start researching the topic some more, or maybe even just be open about something for the first time in your life.

ANAL SEX IS A VARIETY OF SEX
I THINK ONE WEEK ONE TIME DO IT
I AM ENJOYED

Anal sex as long as its between a man and a woman who ARE married is not a sin in Chrisitanity I suggest you nay sayers research before you comment on this

http://christiannymphos.org/2008/01/02/anal-sex-what-does-the-bible-say-2/

Yes, I do like anal sex. I masterbate my clit at the same time. I have found that with practice, my man can hit my g-spot even in my ass. Then, I take care of my clit and I experience an orgasm. At nearly the same time he cums in me.

Anal sex is more likely to transmit STD’s especially HIV,because of the anatomy – vascular mucus membranes, delicate tissues. I suspect a lot of these posts are by men masquerading as women.I think anal sex is unhygienic, no matter which way you slice it, that is where the fecal matter is. I know it is politically incorrect to say this but imho anal sex is gross and disgusting

What an utterly fascinating blog! It took some time but I have read nearly all of the posts (skipping the negative and judgemental ones). I’m curious what brings the anti-anal crowd to this page in the first place, since it’s not “their thing”. I appreciate the more constructive comments over the last two years.

This topic is frequently on my mind. I have been married over 20 years and during that time have had varying degrees of success enticing (asking, tricking, begging..) her into allowing back door. She is very old fashioned and anal sex has always been taboo for her. She also worries about future old age damage to the area but I point out that she has daily bowel movements that likely do more “damage” than a fully lubed penis. I am not a doctor but I cannot believe that if this is done correctly, with patience and gentleness, that there will be future medical problems. Note: she does complain about occassional hemoroids the next day but only some of the time.

At the moment she is “allowing” me to have it about once a month with penile insertion but always it takes some persistence. It’s always my idea, never hers. Yet, when we get down to it she LOVES it and her orgasms are much stronger and longer than with vaginal sex. This is the frustrating part. For many years she wouldn’t even allow the activity but has realized it’s a small sacrifice for a happy marriage. The other thing is, over the years I have really gotten good at this! I start by going down on her, paying lots of attention to her clit, getting the juices flowing then moving down to her anus. She loves it when I rim her and even push my tongue in. When she is excited enough, she enjoys rolling over and onto her hands and knees. That’s my signal that all systems are clear! She rubs her clit vigorously while I penetrate her ass. She comes quickly and explosively! Unfortunately, she wants me to pull out after her first orgasm. She says it no longer feels good after that. Frustrating!

I pay some kind of attention to her rear end during every sex session that involves me giving her head or penetrating her vagina doggy style. I often slip a thumb or two fingers in while pumping her vagina and the double penetration just sends her over the edge.

The posts of women enjoying anal sex, and even preferring it, give me room for optimism. I will continue to perfect what I do. My intention, aside from getting it back door, is ALWAYS to please her first. When she says no, it’s NO. I’m just hoping to get to the point when it’s actually HER idea and she says YES! Then I’ll be able to die a happy man!

Keep the good, constructive comments coming and I’ll check back later.

if you learn it and make your anal relax then is really good, ofcurse it depend how big penis he has, and how gentel he learn you.good to start with smaller penis. but do not forget to make it clean befor.
i found out all girls in our class they do it, some even befor vaginal sex.

If a woman really wants to do it – fine. But I think for most men it’s really about the woman not enjoying it and perhaps giving her some pain. It’s a fantasy of mine but I’ve never done it (I’m a male).

you people that say its cuz men feel power and all that bs thats crazy try it sometime its the best thing ever. there is so much more holding on to your man part its haveing sex for the first time every time

A good way to start anal is fingering with lube. You can work your way up from there as far as you feel comfortable.

TESTING

I think the quality of any type of sex is largely dependent on the quality of the relationship. If you’re in love with someone that you trust, respect, like as a person, and are turned on by, then anything you do together will be wonderful. That being said, knowing what you’re doing and practice can only make things even better.

Before I met the love of my life, I had never given anal sex any consideration at all, viewing the back door as strictly a one-way street! And my prior experience didn’t include anyone who had brought up the subject before either. When my love brought up the idea for the first time, I wasn’t enthusiastic but was willing to consider it because I am very open-minded about anything with him. We can talk about absolutely anything at all and try anything together without embarrassment. The first few times we tried it did not win me over because of the same reasons women have already listed here: it was uncomfortable and a bit painful. But my man is a wonderful lover. He began to spend much more time preparing me. It feels so wonderful when he kisses and licks me there, and this is after lots of delicious other foreplay as well. As I get more excited, he eventually applies lots of KY and enters me with a finger, which loosens me up and gets me more excited still. By the time he gently and slowly enters me with his cock, I want it more than anything. There is this wonderful thrill of being totally excited and a tiny bit scared at the same time. He starts very slowly and knows when I am ready for more when I start eagerly meeting his thrusts with my own.

The thing that amazes me most about anal sex is the incredible intimacy and closeness that we feel every time. That alone would make me love anal sex even if I didn’t have orgasms, but I do have them and they’re even more intense than the ones I have with vaginal sex and I suspect the incredible intimacy and closeness is the reason. And I’m sure the “naughtiness” factor is an added bonus.

I love anal sex as much as vaginal but prefer to keep it special by not doing it every time we make love.

There is NOTHING for the penis to stimulate in the anus, so why would it be fun, my ex talked me into once, and never again. It did NOTHING for me at all.

For those that enjoy it, great!!! Always remember that the anal region is quite frankly, filled with germs etc–after all the area and the entire rectum hold well,….waste. Of course we all know waste is dirty. I’ve not had it, but came very close with an old boyfriend.

I will say, at times I’m interested, then others, completely grossed out. I do agree that if your partner can’t respect your wishes enough by either going at it very, very, very, slowly, with fingers testing the reaction of his female sexual partner/steady

This is a great message board to read about anal sex. I have tried a few times with my husband but the pain is to much for me that i begin to cry a little. On his bday I lubed up and put in a butt plug, and that day wasnt to bad. But he told me to never use lube again!!He told me lube makes it hard for him to go. But without the lube it is impossible for me to enjoy. But I think my marriage will end if I dont do it.

I was one of those those women that swear they’ll never ever have anal sex……And everything started one day after me and my boyfriend cameback from the gym.
After taking a nice hot bath I told him I was a little sore and need a massage, and he agreed, so I laid down on my stomach while he reached for some oil…..He is a little older and more experienced when it comes to sex than me of course!!…So he started to rub my back and shoulders and I began to relax, he took his time working on my back and neck, then he moved from my back to my legs, thighs and feet, and I relax even more, then after taking his time, I noticed he moved to rub my ass cheeks and beetwen my legs, he concentrated to massage from my lower back to my thighs passing his fingers thru my butt crack rubbing my anus….and that got me really excited, nobody ever made me feel like that before, especially in that region of my body….He knew what he was doing and I was starting to get really horny, and he noticed it too!!…I was enjoying that massage so much that I didn’t noticed when he open my butt cheeks and started to lick my ass!!….OMG….It felt soooo good that i started to rub my clit while he was doing me with his tongue, then he suddenly stopped, and said …..You are sooo ready!! …All of the sudden he climb on my back while i was laying flat on my stomach, and slide his penis inside of me and left it there for a little while, and started to kiss my neck and lick behind my ears….I was so horny that i started to push myself against him, then he started to move it in and out of my ass really slow, and I swear i never felt anything like it in my whole life…..Long story short…..After that experience, I change my mind about anal sex…I’ve learned a lot from him, from cleanliness, diet to risks and diseases that you could get from anal sex, I consulted with my gynecologist and family doctor and also with a couple of female doctors friends of mine, and all of them told me exactly the same…..It’s not dangerous as long that you are not forced to do it, the sphincter is a muscle and like any muscle have to be loosened up before penetration, also it will get tighter if you exerciced more… also never have anal if you suffer from hemorroids.

I must confess that anal sex is now part of my sex life and i love it as much as vaginal sex.
I know also there’s still a lot of girls that are scared or disgusted of even hear mention the word anal, I know….I was one of them. i just got lucky to find someone that really knew what he was doing, so to ya’ll girls outhere….if you’re thinking about doing it make sure your guy has some experience and know what he’s doing and don’t let him do it if he doesn’t even warm you up first or you’ll end up hating it.

my ex girlfriend and i tried it. first time wasn’t so good. but she did like it a few times. She loved it when she was drunk for some reason.

I remember I had a GF … while doing our first vaginal doogy style I saw her anus open wide..

I’m 41 and still attractive. I was recently married. I gave my body 100% to my husband, we communicated about everything, I thought we had a perfect sex life. I let him do anything he wanted. I gave him oral sex, I did the one hour orgasim book with him, I let him use toys on me, and bought him the best (and doctor recommended) prosate toy. We have had sex in public places, oral sex in the car. He on an adverage has 3 orgazisms a day, but has up to 7 in one day. I was very much in love with him and thought he was with me. Then, one day I found hidden sex videos on our computer. The were different women having rectical sex in different positions. I felt very hurt, like I wasn’t enough. Why did he need that when he has me. I tried talking to him about it, and I saw signs of lying. So, I started spying on him and discovered he was having sex with married male buddies. I told him to me that was the same a cheating. And, I was sick about it. I wanted to leave him, but I was still in love with him, and I could never go through with it. He stopped seeing his buddies and worked very hard to convence me that he wanted the Christian family and that I was enough. Then, one night not long after I had reminded him that I had always given him everything he ever wanted from me in the bedroom; we where having doggy style sex when he took it out and slipped it in my rectum. I went with it, and tried to enjoy it. For me it made me feel raw, like I had been consipated. My vaginal stimulation that was there quickly went away, and I did not have an orgasim. The opening of my rectum was sore all the next day and I constantly was leaking semen mixed with poop. I had bowel movements about every 3 hours. My whole day sucked. I didn’t know how to talk to him about it because I had told him that I wanted to be his only partner and that I was willing to do anything to keep him satified. So, if I complained he would feel bad and hook up with one of his buddies again, then I would have to worry about catching a disease. So, I feel trapped to let him do this. He has done it a couple more times, and I’ve even tried drinking wine, clit stimulator, and lost of expensive lube to enjoy it, but it really is not pleasurable for me. And, it is messy. The lube mixed with poop (even after using ememas) drips everywhere. I don’t even like my daughter to come in our bedroom, because I’m afraid she will step in it somewhere. You can’t see it because it’s diluted, so it’s hard to clean everything well. I’ve been so distraut with the situation that I had to talk to my girlfriend about it. She was so shocked and concerned that it would cause my rectum to get stretch out to where I would loose control over my bowels. What is the right thing to do in my shoes. Do I leave the man I love over this? Or, do I risk my health for the rest of my life. Part of me feels like when I get old and flabby he’s just going to trade me in for a new model anyway. Or, he’s going to continue sneaking around with his buddies no matter what I do. They do it in groups. This is an airforce thing. Can you emagen all the wives with military husbands that have this to deal with.

First of all…to A Real Woman…eeeewwww!!! Could you have been any more disgusting in your post? I mean, really, you’re afraid to have your daughter walk into your bedroom out of fear she’ll step into what’s dripped out of your ass?! If you don’t have enough commonsense to use something like tissues or a towel to prevent that, I can see why you don’t have the sense to leave the horrendous relationship you’re in. Everything you’ve said about your husband told us that he’s a liar who cannot be trusted—hardly the basis for a good marriage or any other relationship. You say you’re in love with him, but it sounds like you don’t really even know him.

You are in serious need of counseling. Please see a therapist as you have issues that you need help with if you can’t see that you need to get out of this relationship. He’s lied to you from the very beginning about who he is and what he does. You are very likely fooling yourself if you think he’s going to stop what he’s been doing because you found out about it. You’ve turned yourself into a complete doormat to be walked all over and he’s been doing that without any remorse. Telling yourself that you’re doing this because you’re in love with him is pathetic and fooling yourself. You have self esteem issues and God knows how many others. Please, for the sake of yourself and your daughter, get professional help.

WOW

I am 39 and by husband does me in the bum many times. I love it and enjoy having his manhood penetrate my private place. He does it with passion and care. He makes me feel more of a woman when I give such a private part of myself to him. He enjoys my body and I enjoy his.

I love the thought of anal sex. I get very excited about it. I would make love to my wife first with oral and vaginal sex for a long time, then I might use anal sex to finish it off. I like to watch my penis pumping my wife’s anus, and can also see heer vagina opening and closing at the same time. This really turns me on. My wife prefers me moving in and out using the whole length of my penis which is six and a half inches long erected, and she can sometimes have multiple orgasms. As far as the sensation is concerned, anal sex is never as good as vaginal sex as all I can feel is a tight ring around the penis. There is no sensation at the knob as the rectum is too soft, not like the vagina where youu can feel every movement in the whole penis. But I like doing it often as it is still exciting and my wife does have better orgasm with it. I have also tried the tri-gasm by using my mouth to suck her clitoris, using a dildo in her vagina and my two or three fingers in her anus/rectum at the same time. You should try this sometimes

What a bunch of nonsense. I am sure many of you women after having anal sex you feel your anus red, swollen and oh yeah it hurts,right?
The way your anus muscles are made if penetrated a lot lubricated or not, it will start swelling and eventually fall out!
If it falls out, you’ll need surgery which does not mean it will heal. There is a great chance of occasional bleeding and getting infections by sitting in public places.
If a guys penis is as big as a humans finger then a women might be able to handle the force of in and out!
Unfortunately for the anal sex addicts! a guys penis comes in many different forms and it does damage a womens rectum.
It’s quite easy next time you pay a visit to a doctor ask him/her about the dangers of anal sex!
Now, many advertising about anal sex is done by porn industry otherwise their regular porn wouldn’t sell, and who buys them more then anyone else? that’s right dumb ass men! not women, usually women are not into buying porn. The nature of women is made in a way that they want their partners to pay attention to only them, not even a porn movie!
If you think that anal sex has no risks and I am talking mostly to men, why don’t you get a cucumber lubricate it and shove it up your ass and start going in and out fast, I am sure you’ll see how cool and good it feels!
Ciao,
John

Say what you think. I just want to share my experience with my wife with the public in this forum. We have anal sex for many years with no problems and we are in our thirties now.Let me tell you one example, after anal sex my wife can still hold my sperm in her anus with good control and walk to the toilet without leaking. How about that!!! Im not here to boast about sex or porn. You sound pretty ignorant. Youu dont know what youu are missing even if you tried.

John (#601), the “nonsense” is coming from you. Honestly, the comment about the anus swelling and falling out is the biggest bunch of nonsense yet! LOL

Anal sex does not have to hurt. Once you and your partner know what you’re doing, it is nothing but pleasure! The most important thing, I think, is being with someone you absolutely love and trust. Because I have that, I am able to completely relax and that is the key to pain free anal sex.

And like Bruce’s wife, I’m happy to say I don’t have any leakage problems either. I could hold it all day long if I wanted to without any effort whatsoever.

I personally do not like anal sex. My husband on the other hand loves it. The only reason i have engaged in anal is to make my husband happy. i can’t stand all these comments of “if you do it right any woman can love anal” that’s just bs in my opinion. not everyone loves anal and not everyone hates it, that’s just the way it is. and in my case no matter how much lube, stimulation or gently it is done, it still hurts a bit. I frankly am not comfortable doing it and actually find the idea revolting, but i do it because my husband loves it and i feel our relationship would fall apart if i never gave it to him again. That being said, if you AND your partner want to try it and are comfortable doing it then go for it. just be safe about it. and you should never be guilted or forced into doing anything you don’t want to, if someone loves you they will not do that

I agree with m&m, anal sex is not everybody’s cup of tea.Not everyone loves or can have orgasm with anal sex, Christ, there are lots of women out there who cant even have orgasm with normal vaginal sex!!! let alone anal sex. With time and keep checking on your man’s technique, m&m might just love anal sex in the end. I am glad that my wife can have orgasms with vaginal and anal sex everytime, and I dont have to force her into them. She hates swallowing my sperm, and yet I love watching her give me blow job and come into her mouth and watch her swallow it. It gives me great pleasure watching her swallow my sperm, but because she dislikes swallowing my sperm, she has only done it twice to please me and I have never forced her into swallowing it in over ten years of our marriage. Swallowing sperm is just not her cup of tea LOL. Also I know what it taste like, as I have gone down her after I have come, when I buried my face into her vagina with the labia widely stretched and I am covered in her juice and my sperm up to my eyeballs. Great fun, and she has to beg me to stop as it is just too stimulating for her.

I agree with m&m’s comment that not everyone loves anal sex. I think that is sort of a given—obviously not everyone will love the same things.

I feel very sad for her that she thinks her marriage would actually fall apart if she didn’t want to do it again. A marriage is surely based on so much more than one particular sexual act? I do think that partners will do things they don’t care for just to please their partner, but I don’t think many do things that they find “revolting.” That is going way too far, and I would seriously question the love of my spouse if he insisted on my doing something I found to be revolting. That is a very strong negative emotion and it is not right to do anything that makes you feel that way.

As an aside, I believe it is m&m’s feelings of revulsion that will always make anal sex painful for her. How could anyone properly relax while doing something they hate that much? Simply not possible. It is her feelings that cause that. Her comment about it being bs to say “if you do it right any woman can love anal” is absolutely true concerning women who find the thought revolting to start with. It is not bs concerning women who are attracted to the idea.

I hope m&m applies the last sentence of her comment to herself. She should not be guilted into doing this if she feels so strongly against it and it sounds like her husband is “forcing” her in a way if she really believes their relationship would fall apart if she didn’t.

My first sexual experience was anal, i have to say that i really like it and Mitch u are not old to try it im 27 and im married to 52 year old man, by the way he was my first sexual experience.

Anal sex is GREAT! My husband enters himself in me and I love it. I first tried it about two years ago without any lube and I must admit, it hurt like heck! Now, I would recommend lube- to get the feeling going.

I just want to say, I have read every one of these letters, and have learned a lot about you all, and anal sex.
I’m one of the lucky ones, and have a husband who is more than willing to explore anal sex with me. I’m 58, and my first marriage was 17 years, it was good. Sex was never our problem. It was great. But at the time I was believing all the religious crap, and frankly not interested in anal sex. It might have been aggravated by the fact that he didn’t bother asking me and just sprung it on me one night. After that, I wouldn’t even consider it.
I’m convinced now that had he talked to me about it, and taught me more about it, it would have gone quite differently for us.
First off, I’m a Healer, and discovered in my past lives that I was a Sexual Healer. For those of you that know anything about that, I specialized in Healing DNA on a molecular level, a very rare talent, I guess. Now this goes back some 12,560 years or so in history. And I was highly trained in the Sexual Arts back then. To make a long story very short, yes, I experienced anal sex back then, a lot of it.
So why in this life was I reluctant to even try it? The big thing I knew back then was that if your mind wasn’t into it, and your body wasn’t trained correctly, then it would hurt. You then have to deal with your body’s natural defence system. That means you mind would tell your body that anal sex was a bad thing, because it hurt, and you would reject any further tries to do it.
You have GOT to trust the person you are with, and in order for you to trust him, he has GOT to educate himself on how to train you ass correctly to relax and allow insertion.
This is very important. Once you can relax those muscles and train them to like it (because it is a very different feeling) you’ve got it made.
We used a form of mental telepathic hypnosis to relax the women. Once they were relaxed and properly stimulated sexually, they nearly always allowed insertion to happen. Then we concentrated on making sure the women loved anything we did anally. That was relatively easy, once they relaxed.
The anal muscles are exactly like any other muscle in your body. It can be trained to expand and become flexible. And yes, none were incontinent after sexual training. EXERCISE those muscles, and they will respond. It will take time for some, but the feeling of pleasure encourages further ‘exercise’.
If you give up, you train your mind that it was right not to like anal sex, and you may never be able to relax enough to truly enjoy anal sex.
It is NOT about domination or submission, it is about giving pleasure to the both of you. And that is what love is all about.
Forget the religions, they were created by man, not God. Forget the laws, they were also created by man. Even marriage was created by man, that is why divorce rates are so high.
This is only about you and your sexual partner, and loving your partner enough to want to please him/her sexually. Face it, people, the marriage won’t last long if the sex is not good and satisfying. That is a well proven fact.
So… if you want anal sex to feel good and satisfy you, you have got to relax, take it slow, and stop if it hurts. Women, play with yourself to loosen up those two muscles. Enjoy! Vibrators help, plugs help. In a few weeks, (for lack of a good Healer) you will make progress and open up to accept the penis. Tell yourself over and over to relax and breathe.
Fear makes you tense up, trust makes you open up. Remember that!!! You have got to have a partner you trust. Men, become a man they can trust, and you will reap rewards a lot more than anal sex. That’s just the bonus!!! The icing on the cake.
Try hypnosis self help tapes to teach yourself how to really relax, they work!!! Dick Sutphen has some really good ones. Those are what I use.
ABOVE all, teach yourself about how to have safe anal sex, get a book!!! Simple precaution are necessary, in this day and age. But it isn’t hard. Water based lubrication is recommended. Enjoy!!!
Tianca

I am 24 and have been married for 2 years. When I take off my wrangler’s jeans, my husband loves to do me in the butt. I, personally, love when he’s in me. But first we always have foreplay. I am giving him head while he and his tongue are doing their thing. Afterwards, I use PLENTY of lubricant. It slides in better! I stimulate my clitorus while he is thrusting in and out of me. When I am having an orgasm, I will shout like no tomorrow. He will cum in me while I am spreading my butt cheeks and he is holding my waist. He loves it when I am in total submissive/surrender to him! We will bathe ourselves and do it again…in a few hours. Same outcome, he cums in me. I never have the problem of my husbands cum dripping. Since I am an aerobics instructor, I am always stretching and leading others in stretching and exercising. There, I am in tights and nothing has ever dripped out of me. I guess I am blessed to have such an amazing husband who knows how to put cum in me!

To all guys who is sharing life with those wonderful woman who enjoys anal sex and ask for it. Don’t forget her bithday and bring them flowers because you are lucky mans!

I just had the greatest anal sex of my life. I used plenty of lube and had my husband enter his big cock into my butt. We did it until he came into me. I just love when he’s in total control!

Did not see any comments about ATM (A– to Mouth). Now THAT is hot! A woman who will do that is a TRUE Keeper!

Jack (613), I love my husband. Before we have intimate sex, we both have (your definition- ATM). My husband is not insecure about himself especially when he does me in my butt. In fact, it was ME who initiated it to him. Now he is HOOKED! We have a happy marriage and I am a happy wife. He cums in me a lot now. I am proud of him and love him. Jack, I guess I am a “TRUE KEEPER.” I just responding to the other threads. Hope this helps, Jack.

Hi Michelle. You keep saying you have just had the greatest anal sex, about your husband coming in your butt etc etc. But I did not see you saying you also have the greatest orgasm. I think true and genuine orgasms (particularly multiple orgasms like my wife; she can have three, one after the other for about five minutes with vaginal and anal sex) are still better than what you think is the greatest anal sex. Do you ever have orgasms with anal sex or just enjoy it. They are not the same. I think my wife is a better true keeper. Eventhough she dose not do ATM like Jack has suggested, because we are sensible enough not to run the risk of spreading infection to her vagina or mouth and guts.Its call common sense Jack.

Hey, Michelle (614). Thanks for responding, but are you sre you REALLY understood? I meant ATM, sure you know the meaning? It means him doing back door, then pulling it out and then you give him oral after.
Any women here do that, and do any enjoy it??

Jack. I bet you liked the “two girls one cup” video too. sicko. sucking a penis wet with lube and e.coli is just about as smart as eating feces and i’m sure you’ll find just about the same amount of women who are into it. good luck with that! maybe you should go look somewhere else (like a fetish site) NOT the women’s health section of about.com because I really don’t feel you are contributing to the original question here.

hey there im daniel