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By December 21, 2003

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Infertility Questions and Answers
At least one of six couples are affected by infertility. An infertility expert answers your questions about fertility problems, testing, and getting pregnant.
June 26, 2008 at 5:10 pm
(1) a friend says:

we tried this website and got help

December 13, 2008 at 8:46 am
(2) Noori says:

Iam 22 and since 6 month iam tring to become pragnant but no result, i want to be pragnant i dont know what is the problem? i need your advice



February 21, 2009 at 9:08 am
(3) ME says:

First of all no offense but you must learn to spell before you try to bring a child in this world…ridiculous!!! Just keep trying. My step dads best friend kept trying and trying and couldnt succeed. Well we had a bad storm on Wednesday and she took a pregnancy test to find out that indeed it finally worked. So just try.

April 20, 2009 at 12:38 am
(4) me too says:

ME: You’re a moron. Couldn’t is spelled with an apostrophe, and what the hell does a storm have to do with pregnancy? Do you know the quote about glass houses? if so, think about it. If not, get an education.

April 23, 2009 at 12:22 pm
(5) Julie says:

Wow to all of you…

April 29, 2009 at 12:31 pm
(6) Michelle says:

hi my name is michelle and i am 24 in a few days me and my fiance have been trying for over a year and still nothing. we went to doctors for help and he put me on some drugs to make my cycle come and then fertility drugs and still nothing. i need some advice on what to do as we are beginning to lose hope

June 2, 2009 at 7:38 am
(7) quokka says:

Michelle, do you know if you or your partner is infertile? You could always try another guy to make you pregnant? I am a guy and happy to help.

July 2, 2009 at 3:43 pm
(8) Shocked says:

WOW 22 and 24 trying to get pregnant that seems very young. I’M not judging don’t get me wrong if your husbands/boyfriends want the baby too then your further along then I am and I’m 32. Ive stopped taking birth control and try just about every trick I can to have sex with out a condom. Every time at the last min he either pulls out or grabs one from the nightstand. My problem isn’t so much that he doesn’t want kids but he wants to make sure he can provided and give them what hey want. Meanwhile 32 not getting any younger and having to watch my little sister screw up her child do to lack of parenting. I cant even pass a baby gap without tearing up.

July 14, 2009 at 1:43 am
(9) Shannon says:

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for over a year with no luck. We are getting older (32 & 37) and I feel like we are running short on time. We have two children but have both decided we want to have two more before it is too late. I keep saying if it is in the cards for us it will happen.. heck maybe we will conceive twins and have both babies at once! Good luck to everyone that is trying.

July 21, 2009 at 7:47 am
(10) Hope says:

Shocked – i feel your pain….exact same situation although i am still on birth control, i could never not tell my husband. the problem my mom had early menopausal onsett and by 37 needed a historectomy – i am scared to death that if i dont do something soon it will be too late

July 21, 2009 at 10:13 pm
(11) Momma28 says:

Hope and Shocked–I wish you both luck in conceiving babies. BUT, do you really want a baby that your partner isn’t ready for? Shortly after being married we conceived and it was surprise. I was ecstatic and my husband wasn’t so much. However, it wasn’t the happiest pregnancy, because I felt that I didn’t have anyone to share it with. He now feels horrible about the whole thing, but I will always remember that time as bittersweet. I hope that you both have great luck and can convince your partners that NOW is the time. :)

August 24, 2009 at 5:35 pm
(12) pod says:

I’m not being funny but there seems to be alot of women over 30 who are trying to conceive and finding it hard. It’s probably your age, women have a body clock and it seems that ladies nowadays want a career AND babies, you cant have both at the same time. Babies can only come at 1 time in your life, careers can happen whenever you want.I’m a 22 year old happily married mummy of 1, trying to conceive number 2. Maybe I’m just 1 of those lucky people who finds their perfect partner early on in life.

September 3, 2009 at 6:23 pm
(13) angelica says:

Hi i am 23 and i have been trying to get pregnant, But it just want happen . I would not give up on it. I lied to my family because at one time i thought i was prenant,but i wasnt.My boyfriend still think that i came pregnant ,but i dont no how to tell him that i am not. I wanted to have a baby by nov.

September 20, 2009 at 5:35 pm
(14) Kat says:

POD – I never wanted a career and just wanted to be a mother to a large family. However 33 and unmarried so unlikely I will have any children. Not all bad, have a great life and about to do post grad at uni. Plenty of friends with children I can play with – if it is not right then you can become a mum. When I was your age I was at uni living it up!

October 7, 2009 at 11:18 am
(15) Lisa says:

Shocked – Your nest bet is explaining to your partner how you feel. Does he understand that after 30 it becomes difficult, and after 35 more difficult, to concieve? You need to ask him why he thinks he can’t provide for a family and throughly understand HIS reasons, and then calmly explain yours. Trickery will lead to resentment and I dont think thats how you want to bring a child into the world.

Hope – If you were truely ready, I believe you would have stopped taking birth control by now. I understand that you’re scared and again your best option is to talk to your husband. Not only will he make you reassured and safe about the situation, but he might also be dying for a family that he thinks you’re too scared to build.

I’m quite young, only 19, and I too would like to start a family but I know that my other half isnt emotionally ready and I probably am not either. I got very stubborn a few months ago and he made sure I looked at things practically rather than looking at things through rose colour glasses.

Talking to your partner and understading every side of all stories is always the best course of action as far as I’m concerned because only when you know how your other half feels, and why, can you really make such a big decision.

Ps, I’m not trying to sound like I’m preaching. I’m just giving an opinion. =]

November 9, 2009 at 8:07 pm
(16) cristin says:

I bought this book about 4 months ago, after 11 years of battle with infertility issues. I am 45 and was extremely skeptical, but had nothing to lose so with the supervision of a holistic doctor that was recommended, I had followed the 5-step Pregnancy Miracle plan and to my utter amazement I had finally find a solution. Well, 2 weeks ago for the first time in my life, my period was late. I had a positive pregnancy test a week ago. Today my doctor confirmed my pregnancy. I am amazed, shocked and thrilled. I am speechless. It really is a miracle. “Pregnancy Miracle” by Lisa OLson changed my life in more ways than one.

December 30, 2009 at 2:38 pm
(17) BiggestFear says:

Ever since I was a little girl, all I ever wanted to be was a Mommy. Through out the years when I had had unprotected sex and/or had a pregnancy scare, it was always the same result. Now that I am financially and mentally ready to have a baby (and my boyfriend is too) I’m afraid that I will let him down by not being about to have one.. I know I’m just going by my past experiences, and I’ve never really tried before, but Im sooo nervous. My biggest fear is being to not make a baby..

January 10, 2010 at 8:24 pm
(18) Misty says:

Hey everyone! The names Misty… I’m 17 years old I really want to have a baby I know thats young but I have my concerns about getting pregnant because i have cervical cancer there already wanting to do a histerectomey and i want at least one kid I’ve been taking care of my cousins sence they were babies i know what im doing ive already done that i just want to experiance being pregnant and have my own baby that looks like me and my boyfriend of almost a year ive talked to him about it and he wants a baby to we both work hes 25 i just want to know what should i do?

January 26, 2010 at 3:04 pm
(19) Ttnneebn says:

I am 19 and want a baby me and my soon to be husband are trying we have 5 times a day when he is off work then and the days he does work 3 times at night I love him we did actually almost get a baby when we were in high school but when he pulled out not enough went in and we had miscarriage y can’t we do it know I guess not enough sex

February 9, 2010 at 9:09 pm
(20) Mel says:

Hi I have just read some of these comments and would just like to say to shocked I was 21 when I had my daughter who is now 5. You need to realize that age is absolutely nothing you and people like yourself need to get over the whole age thing. 21 was a great age for me and my hubby I have worked with children and been around young children my entire life. I agree with some comments in regards to a body clock ect …. if you are ready and happy to dedicate your life to raising a child. No parent is perfect I have seen parents 34 struggling with their children many times, and have not grown up themselves. I am a midwife and working into becoming a child psychologist I continue to see many older parents struggle and younger ones that are coping better then these parents so I just wanted to make that clear don’t judge a book by it’s cover. Give us younger mum’s a break and keep your opinions to yourself, I noticed in your comment “My problem isn’t so much that he doesn’t want kids but he wants to make sure he can provided and give them what hey want” sorry but your husband doesn’t sound ready for kids. 3 important things children need is love, food and shelter not a father that seems to have an anxiety so much he is indecisive. You need to teach your children the right values what family is about, not to be little snobs making sure they have everything and your doing everything right. You may think you know what you are doing but you are not a mother to judge other mum’s just because they are younger. I feel sorry for your sister but that is just her as a person, you may not do any better when It comes to the crunch as I said I have met people older then you even and they have no idea, parenting is not easy for anyone.

February 16, 2010 at 11:55 am
(21) Stacie Leigh says:

Hello. I have just been reading through these comments and I am quite relieved to see that I am not alone in my desperation for a baby. I am 18, yes still very young. But I believe that both me and my partner are ready for a baby and I know that we will make great parents. I have always believed that I’d have children but not so young. This all changed last year when I accidently became pregnant whilst I was on the pill. At around 8 weeks pregnant, I had a miscarriage and it devistated my partner and I. Since then, I have been desperate for a baby but have not yet fallen pregnant and I now have allsorts of thoughts flying through my head about which illness I have which is making me infertile, crazyness, I know. I guess losing a baby is harder than I thought. And the desperation for a baby is heartbreaking. Good luck to everybody who is trying to conceive, know matter what age a person is, I think only 2 people can make the decision to bring a baby in to the world and that is you and your husband/boyfriend. Take care all x

March 31, 2010 at 8:24 pm
(22) Kim says:

I’ve been reading these comments and they make me want to cry. I am 22. At 16 I got pregnant and had my daughter, who is now 5. Her father and I split and I got married to a different guy a year ago. We have been trying ever since to get pregnant. I have went to the doctor and she says everything is fine with me. I know I’m still young but I dont want a huge age gap between kids. I spend hours online looking up at typing in I want a baby!!! My sister is pregnant and my sister in law is trying to have a baby but is very fertile thus she plans the baby already. Everyone around me is so happy and pregant and i cry cause im having so many problems… I only want a baby and the whole world around me is pregnant… i love my daughter and to add to my saddness she has asked for sibling cause her friends have brothers and sisters…I feel no good!!!!

August 4, 2010 at 12:48 pm
(23) koketso modise says:

my name is koketso n have 21 years i hv been ingaged 4 two years so i want to have a child bt i cant.i have been using contraceptives bt have 9 months without using them bt stil i cant fall preg i need ur advise on wt i can do or use to fall preg soon pls help im desperate.if u have something 4 me pls help me

September 16, 2010 at 12:03 am
(24) Tiffeny says:

I want to find a woman who would be willing if paid to naturally get pregnant with my soon to be husband and carry a child for him . i would be forever greatful if someone can point me in the right direction I am a 27 yr old female who had a major hystorectomy at the age of 21 and now i have found the man that i want to spend the rest of my life with and am unable to give him his dream. I just want to see him happy and would be glad to hear from someone that could at least point me in the right direction i cannot afford the surrogacy but even then we would need a female to carry the child for me and I do not have any eggs. so please if someone could email me back I am desprestly seeking a female to bring the gift of a beautiful child to my man. We live in hawaii .

September 16, 2010 at 10:48 am
(25) carriane says:

hello im carrie

me and my bf been trying for a baby nearly a year and im still nothing at all im 22 and he 32 i was wondering wht can i do to make it work? its really upsetting for both of us

October 19, 2010 at 8:18 pm
(26) Ashley says:

My name is Ashley and Im 20 my fiance is 24. I have been leaving messages around on line to see if anyone has had Infertility problems. My fiance and I have been trying for a baby near 3 years, having two homes both careers only missing a baby. I have seen gicoligsts-obstetrician who told me that I may carry the baby without hemerging but getting pregnant is the only problem. The stress level is to the very miniumum, I have reuglar menstrals. However, 9 years ago I was in a bad car accident, had internally bleeding (from all my organs). My doctor wants me to have my tubes tied because of my ratherly large scare on my tummy and scare tissue inside. All of the people I have talked to about their problems with similair issues have told me “not having children” was their only option. My biggest problem is that I have such huge motherly istincts I want to have my own baby! Just seeing if anyone else has had these problems and still conceived naturaly. I dont want a deadly car crash to ruin my entire life :( Tips?

December 1, 2010 at 11:30 am
(27) Brittany Arnold says:

Hey my name is Brittany and my husband and i have wanted kinds for a long time but i have had two miscarriages and now my period is late but im not pregnant. i’m afraid that I’ve become infertile and i don’t know exactly how to handle it. My husband wants a child but i can’t give hime one. He says its fine but he’s more distant and spends less time with me and our marriage is suffering because of it. Has anyone else had this problem? What should i do about it? How have some of you handled it.

January 13, 2011 at 8:42 pm
(28) Anna says:

Hi everyone, when ur trying it seems like ages to see whether u cum on ur period or not. I found after a year of trying we tried a different position and i was pregnant that month. Legs over head. If anyone wants to email me about anything i will willing help anyone no matter what x

February 10, 2011 at 2:02 am
(29) cassandra says:

Hi, for the ones who do want to be mommys. I feel where u are coming from. I’ve been trying for a little over 6months now. I’m only 23 but i got the wants and needs for my child. Me and the soon to be father. But ladyies let’s keep it right k? Keep trying. When it do happen love that child. And always remember they did’nt ask to be here. So let’s be young good parents and do the best we can… When the time is right… But right now is my time. I want to know how can we get a baby in r lifes. Quick and easy. Safely. Im tired of this your not. Me and my soon to be baby*s father want this. Got ant tip*s?

June 27, 2011 at 10:28 pm
(30) Lexy says:

I’m 29 years old and have been divorced for 3 years. I’ve always wanted to be a mother and thought that I would have had a baby by now. My ex-husband informed me after we were married for 3 years that he didn’t want to have children anymore; he has one now with his current girlfriend. Anyway, my friends tell me that I’m too young but I don’t know if I’ll meet the right guy before I get too old to have kids. I have a steady full-time job, own a home, and have a great support system of friends and family.

I have a few guy friends that have offered to be my sperm donor, but I am scared to accept their help. I don’t want someone else to be “attached” to my child, just in case the donor wants parental rights later on.

Any opinions?

July 13, 2011 at 12:19 pm
(31) MM says:


July 13, 2011 at 12:20 pm
(32) MM says:


November 21, 2011 at 6:38 am
(33) S.Poornima says:

Iam 22 and since 6 month iam tring to become pragnant but no result, i want to be pragnant i dont know what is the problem? i need your advice

November 21, 2011 at 6:40 am
(34) S.Poornima says:

Iam 22 and since 6 month iam tring to become pragnant but no result, i want to be pragnant i dont know what is the problem? i need your advice



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