Adoption Reunion Resources
I'm an adoptee and a birth mother. Being adopted had quite an emotional impact on my life; I spent many hours as a child crying, wondering, why my birth mother, "didn't want me." The hundreds of birth moms and adoptees, who I have met on the Net have shown me that I am not alone and neither are you! As many as 30 million people are affected by the secrecy of closed adoption-- six million adoptees, together with their adoptive parents and birth parents.I found my birth son using the Internet only three weeks after joining a birth mother's email support group. If you're a birth mother, you will find an enormous amount of love and understanding by joining Alana's birth mom's email list and everyone who is affected by adoption will find exceptional search information on Alana's page, it's not just for birth moms (Only birth moms can join the list).
Probably the most important reunion registry online; the LINC Reunion Registry is the former AOL registry, it's a must go place for those who are searching. It has a free, easy to search data base; see if someone's looking for you and be sure to register your search information here. New entries to this registry are distributed weekly to the adoption email lists.
TXCare is a wonderful Texas organization which is particularly helpful for those involved with Texas adoptions; they also provide a nice list of other online adoption reunion registries.
KKay's Adoption Corner contains exceptional adoption searching information; Kay and her birth son Ken, are uniquely reunited, in fact, Karen has legally adopted Ken back! Read about their unusual reunion and check out all the information for searching Karen has provided on her site. Karen is also an excellent adoption searcher!
If your adoption occurred in Dallas County, TX; you're in luck! Judge Hal Gaither is an advocate of open adoption records for adoptees and he will sign an order to open your records!
Update 10/28/01
I'M FINALLY REUNITED 4 1/2 YEARS AFTER FINDING!
It's been a long wait, but my patience finally paid off last weekend when I was reunited with my birth son and my birth sister. I found them both about 4 1/2 years ago. It was definitely worth the wait! We spent the last years communicating mostly by email, and a few phone calls.My birth son, Aaron, is a wonderful young man and is attending college. I met him at his house and he showed my birth sister and I around his campus and the Art Department. Then we picked up his very sweet girlfriend and had lunch. I have pictures (sorry I can't get them online yet) and it's amazing how much he looks like me. He also looks a lot like my younger son and his cousin (my birth sister's son).
My birth sister, Sonie, is the sweetest sister ever. She is just one year and about a week older than me and I feel so close to her. My birth mother died almost ten years ago. I met her in 1979, but she promptly rejected any further relationship with me. So it is just so great to have my sister. She showed me all the family pictures and things that my birth mother never did; I didn't know my birth mother was an artist, my sister showed me several paintings and gave me some of my choice. I now have pictures of a family that I actually look like. Another insteresting thing I now have is a card to my birth mother from my famous, and now also deceased, birth father. I found that I look a lot like my great-grandmother. My grandmother had 7 or 8 sisters in her family and 2 brothers; so there were lots of pictures of aunts, uncles, and cousins. I was amazed to see one of the cousins in an elementary school picture who had the same face I had at that age with the same freckles.
Waiting to meet the person who you've found is hard, but considering my experiences I think it has really been better for my birth son and me in the long run. I met my birth mother only 4 days after I had my records opened; we were total strangers trying to force a relationship in only a few days. Maybe... if we had waited and communicated before meeting, as my birth son and I have done, it would have turned out better. If you've found someone you still haven't met, remember that your day will come when the time is right and hopefully it will be better for you too.
You can read my personal adoption story (before meeting my son and sister) on my adoptionpage, come and visit me sometime. I wish you all the best in your searches and a very happy reunion! Good luck to everyone!
