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Readers Respond: Life After Hysterectomy

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Updated April 22, 2009

un happy hysterectomy

I had a hysterectomy about six months ago, and i have gained weight, sex is ok, but not great. Im glad I don't have heavy periods any more from endometriosis, but i absolutely hate putting on weight, i do not know what to do to really take it off, i run , i have cut my calories, but i am not seeing results, i will keep trying different things to take it off, if i don't i am going to look like porky the pig, and thats not cute on me.
—Guest gail

complete hysterectomy 5 weeks ago

After years of suffering with extreme abdominal pain, due to the fibroids I decided to have a hysterectomy. I feel I made a very educated decision, having tried alternative treatments for the fibroids and excessive bleeding. It got to the point in my life that I was living in misery!! Along with the extreme pain I was moody, had nightsweats and sex was terribly painful. Now, after the hysterectomy with both ovaries removed I can enjoy life again. I am no longer moody, I can laugh again, I look forward to each day, the emotional rollercoaster I was riding for years has stopped. The hysterectomy gave me my life back and I am extremely glad I did it. I do not take any hormones,but do supplement my vitamins, E and all the important B's and the only real menopause symptoms I have are some hot flashes, they only last about a minute and I do and say some ditzy things at times but get a good laugh out of it and sex is a joy again! No regrets here, glad I did it!! YAY!!
—Guest andrea

What happened to me?

I had a hysterectomy five years ago and felt great; seven months later I had to have my ovaries removed and now I feel horrible. I am exhausted, I can't remember anything, my body feels old, and the weight gain drives me crazy. I have spoken with my doctor on many occasions but have gotten no where...he has told me that the hysterectomy has nothing to do with it. I had always felt wonderful and didn't struggle with weight problems but now I can't seem to lose or stop gaining. If I could change my decision and go back in time I would.
—Guest Margie

blessed to be here

I still have my ovaries after my surgery and my sex life is great. I do have mood swings. I am a stay at home mom who often feels a little depressed. My mom and sister had hysterecctomies as well. I have gained weight i am 48 and i find it hard to lose the weight i gained. I am glad i had the surgery and feel blessed to be here with out the terrible fibroids and bleeding etc...I wish there was support group to help me with the emotions, and exercise.
—Guest wendy

Total Hysterectomy

I had everything removed 8 days ago. I'm still in a lot of pain. It was uterine cancer. Everything turned out so far, so good. I advise anyone who gets the word from the doctor about cancer, not to waste anytime getting treatment.
—Guest DEBORAH HUNTER

I'm losing it...

I had a ysterectomy four years ago. Kept my ovaries so I didn't think I'd hit menopause for a long time. I'm 41 now. This year I've been really "foggy" and fatigued. I feel achy all the time, but then the next day I'm fine. I've missed a lot of work because of this... but that's not the scary part. Lately I'm doing things that I don't remember or... I do something that seems right and then 5 mins later I freak out because I don't know why I did it. I came here looking for similar stories to see if this is menopause, ADD, or early alzheimers. Example: I parked my shopping cart at the end of the aisle and walked away, looking for something else. Then walked over 2 more aisles. Came back to the first aisle and expected to see my cart in the aisle but it wasn't there (because that's not where I parked it) but instead of realizing this, I panicked and began yelling, "who stole my cart?!" Got employees involved and 5 mins later found my cart and remembered that's where I originally left it.
—Guest Concerned

Can't Accept the Consquences

I had a hysterectomy five months ago and am on bio-identical hormones but still working to get the right balance. My sex life is ruined. I still orgasm but externally nothing on the inside and I always had an orgasm from intercourse not it just feels dead. Every time I have sex I cry afterward for what I've lost. I can deal with the hot flashes and the mood swings but the change to my sex life has devastated me and I am struggling to cope with the loss. I had complex atypical hyperplasia and I fought against the hysterectomy but the doctor scared me so much about the possibility of cancer I finally caved in and had the surgery. I have asked for a copy of the pathology report but they still haven't sent it and my GP hasn't received a copy either. I feel so much anger and I wish I had spent time and found a doctor who thinks out side the box and doesn't think hysterectomy is the only answer. I know I can't go back and undo it but I really need to know how to accept it and move on.
—Guest Micki

GREAT after hysterectomy

Had a Vaginal Hysterectomy with Bladder and Urethra repair. Had to have Cervix taken out too, but still have ovaries. It has been three months and I am feeling great. It was a rough 24 hours after surgery with vomiting and trying to control the pain, but went home the day after surgery. The hardest part of recovery was not lifting and bleeding for 5 weeks. All worth it though! No more heavy periods or fibroids making me crazy! Sex drive thru the roof. I have been taking thyroid meds and antidepressants for years and have not felt this good since before having kids (8 and 4). Not sure what is going on but I am trying not to question it! I am swimming, biking, and doing all kinds of physical exercise after not doing ANY for 8 years! Now if I could just get my Insurance company to pay the bills everything would be perfect! Good luck to you and remember to be your own advocate for your health!
—Guest something about

I Am Only 25

I had a total hysterectomy on Feb 2, 2009. Since then, I don't want sex. Back hurts 24 / 7. And I'm very moody. I don't know what to do. My doctor uped my Premarin to 0.9. I feel bad I can't sleep. Tired all the time. And my back hurts all the time. My hubby is calling me a grandma 'cuz I don't want sex. And I am always tired. I am lost. My kids are ages 6, 4, and 2. I feel like I am leting them down.
—Guest Mom of 3

Foreplay Bleeding

I had a hysterectomy 8 years ago, recently after foreplay I noticed the outer side of the vagina is irritated with very minimal bleeding. I'm trying really hard to stop myself from having a panic attack.
—meg48504

Life Feels Over

I had TAH A year ago. I feel like crap. Pelvic pain, back pain, vagina pain, bladder pain, headaches, can't sleep, can't pee good. I don't want sex anymore. I think my husband will be wanting a divorce from all my problems and me not wanting sex anymore. My hair is like straw, skin so dry, hair so thin. My memory is so bad it's embarrassing. My brain feels like it's turning to a veggie. I'm scare how much I've changed to my kids and husband and mother. I'm not the women I use to be. I feel like damage goods. I'm not the happy person I used to be.
—Guest Juliann

It Hurts When I Have Sex and I'm Mad

I had a hysterectomy in 2002 and just had sex for the first time in almost 20 years. Can you believe that one? Anyway, it hurt like a stomachache. I am so disappointed and mad about this. I waited so long to give myself to someone and I didn't even enjoy it. I don't think I was dry either so I don't know why it would hurt. I used to really enjoy sex but now I feel I have been robbed. I have been taking Celexa for the past 5 years so I don't know if that is why I don't seem to get "horny" and enjoy the sex. I am so disillusioned; I need some words of encouragement. If you have experienced anything similar or have words of wisdom, please respond.
—pamelita1

Emergency Hysterectomy After Birth

I had to have a hysterectomy after the birth of my first child during by C section. I woke up 5 hours later. Love my daughter (now 3 years old) I've been on a very large roller coaster of emotions. The first 3 years have been okay. Now, when the time is here to want another child, I'm feeling very sick to my stomach. I hate that it happened, not in control. I want to be happy with my family.
—Guest Judy

So far, so good.

I had a hysterectomy three weeks ago. They took everything but the cervix, so I have no ovaries. No hot flashes, just slight warm spells. I don't mind them, as I was always cold before. Pain is mostly gone, and I'm up and about, going for walks, meeting friends for lunch, etc. Just one mood swing, and that was more anxiety about going back to work. In fact, overall, I feel much more stable and peaceful emotionally. No loss in sexual desire, either: I can't WAIT to have sex with my man again. Maybe I am lucky that way, or maybe it's my age. I am 42. I will not miss the excruciating pain of having a period with endometriosis and having to plan my life around my periods, and I definitely will not miss the horrible mood swings of PMS. I was resistant to having a hysterectomy at first, but now I'm glad I did it. The worst part is the fear, and I'm glad that it was unfounded. I'm also thankful to have the support of friends and my man. It made a big difference in my recovery and how I feel.
—Guest Tee

Almost 2 weeks post op

I had an abdominal hysterectomy 2 weeks ago and went on HRT 1 week out. The reason for my hysterectomy was endometriosis and not all of it was removable. So, I was angry at first because the one problem I wanted fixed, wasn't but I have come to terms with it. I am experiencing a rather quick recovery - I was very fit going into the surgery - biking, kayaking, yoga, etc daily and I believe that helped. I only spent one night in the hospital! I am almost back to my pre-surgery shape and have already started to do light walking of about 1 1/2 miles a day. My moods were pretty severe for a few days and the dr wanted me to go on zoloft but I decided to try and fight a little harder emotionally. So far, so good, but I know there is still recovery ahead. I hope that in the end, this will be a full positive and the patch left will fade away on it's own without the ovaries,even with a low dose HRT.
—Guest someregret

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