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Readers Respond: Life After Hysterectomy

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Updated April 22, 2009

If you've had a hysterectomy, how has your life changed since the procedure? Have you gained weight? Do you now experience mood swings? Do you have hot flashes or night sweats you never had before? Share the good and the bad about life after hysterectomy.

vc

My sister had a total hysterectomy and she states she has loss 50-75% of her sexual response. In other words she feels next to nothing with intercourse. Pretty close to impotence...wouldn't you say. She has also loss her nipple sensation. Also, she is 67 and is now having slight hot flashes. Ladies, this procedure is desexualization. We need to STOP this somehow. It is more damaging than doctors let on. Shame on them. Women are being sexually mutilated without true informed consent.....This is criminal.
—Guest vicki childress

prolapsed uterus and cervix

On 18 Nov I had my uterus, cervix and tubes removed vaginally but the doctor left my ovaries. When I woke after the surgery the doctor smiled as he told me the good news. I had problems with my bowels and bladder but once the doctor removed my uterus everything went back into its normal position and he didn't need to touch my bladder or bowels. It has been 4 days and I haven't had a bowel movement yet but my bladder empties and it feels wonderful. I am taking some laxitives so tomorrow I should be able to go. Sex before the surgery was great because I finally found the perfect partner. I was married for 20 yrs and I was always dry but with this man I am always wet. My concern is how sex will be now that I`ve had my hysterectomy. So far I don`t feel any pain inside, but my back hurts, I am still spotting some blood vaginally and my stomach is bloated. Sleep is what I want to do more than anything else. I will keep you posted on my recovery.
—Guest Deborah

8 weeks since FAH

I am almost 9 weeks after my abdominal hysterectomy. Sex drive is good, energy still lower than I'd like. Sex is scary because I still have pain and discomfort around and under incission. Thought pain free around scar at this point. Otherwise, I can do almost all activities again, just doing everything carefully so I don't slow healing process.
—Guest Donnalyn

8 weeks since FAH

I am almost 9 weeks after my abdominal hysterectomy. Sex drive is good, energy still lower than I'd like. Sex is scary because I still have pain and discomfort around and under incission. Thought pain free around scar at this point. Otherwise, I can do almost all activities again, just doing everything carefully so I don't slow healing process.
—Guest Donnalyn

exhausted

I am 45 and had a total hysterectomy back in june 2011. I feel better re the pain I used to have all the time, but, I do feel so tired all the time. I thought after the op I would feel energised, but as the days pass, I feel like I have less energy than before. anyone else experience the same? re weight gain, yes I have a bit more of a tummy now, but I have lost 4lbs thus far, dont figure, but I'm not complaining. lol. good luck all.
—Guest beakmans

A week after hysterectomy

I had complete abdominal hysterectomy a week ago. My doc suggested this to treat abnormal hyperplasia in my uterus. Having done 2 D&Cs + hysteroscopy, after yrs of suffering pain, excessive bleeding (upto 3 wks a month), mood swings & generally a poor quality of life caused by these issues. Being blessed with beautiful twin girls almost 10 years ago & having researched other options to deal with the diagnosis, I concluded the hysterectomy was the best choice. Day 1-removed catheter & relied on meds taken orally rather than the IV bcoz I was so disoriented. Within the week I"ve had 16 staples removed, incision is healing well, am completely mobile albeit taking it easy & it may be premature, but I am in a better place today. One has to consider the benefits of doing the surgery vs. the consequences of not being able to concieve, etc & it is relative to your personal beliefs/goals/aspirations. May God bless you to make the best decision & believe He will bring you through it.
—SIMNIGEL

Husband?

To the husband who said it was barely worth it after. Did your wife have her cervix removed?
—Guest PreOp

I'm over it!

My wife had a radical hysterectomy at 36 and I've been there for her through the whole thing but since then(for the past two years) she has been mean, hateful, hurtful, full of rage and degrading to me especially me but it has branched out to our children. It all came to a head about two months ago when we got into a fight so bad that I was forced to call the police because of her level of violence and anger. After that incident she claims that she "snapped out of it" and that I should forgive her. I have decided after that incident that the marriage was done but she claims that women go through this alot. Meanning that they'll "go crazy" for about two years and all of a sudden snap out of it. IS THIS TRUE? because after reading some of your stories and after speaking to other medical professionals it all seems a little far fetched that it could happen quite like that. She has been on HRT and taking anti depressants. Was it her homones or the cops that snapped her out of it?
—Guest Joe

SURGERY FELLING GREAT

I had hysterectomy about 5y.ago I fill better.Just have to deal with hot flashes sometime.And that ok.I Still have my health and strength.It could be a lot worst.Lady never give up there is hope.
—Guest JM

Alive but not the same

I had a full hysterectomy in June 2011 after I was told I had cancer. I went thu a full blown menopause afterwards, mood swings, hot flashes, unusual sweating thru the day, night sweats, panic attacks, depression, anxiety, dealing with all this I am cancer free! As far as the sex I have no desire at all, I feel bad for my husband but there is nothing there, I am only 50 years old, it is one day at a time for us. He has been patient but I feel bad when he goes to want sex and I would rather go to bed or just watch TV, will it come back the desire I don't know?
—Guest Guest Sandra

HAPPY SAD

I'm 38 yrs old.I had a partial hysterectomy(removal of 1 ovary, uterus & cervix)3 yrs ago. Had the other ovary removed last year. I deal with the hot & cold flashes but my sex drive is not like it use to be. If I could get that back everything would be perfect. Refuse to take hormone pills due to the side effects. I'm too young to be sexless, so I"m doing everything I can to get my sex drive back and stay healthy and fit at the same time. Everyone doesn't have the same experiences from hysterectomys. It depends on the person and their body the side effects they'll experience...if any.
—Guest SLIM

3 Weeks & Waiting for NORMAL?

I had a "partial" hysterectomy on 6/20/11 & was totally amazed at the ease of the whole process. Oh...btw, it was done vaginally...no invasion to tummy at all. I was histatic because of the ease of it all. I am a very ENERGETIC person & have a cleaning company. I had that "high hopes" of being back on the wagon, FULL FORCE, 2 wks post op....WRONG!!! Week 2 & 3, I feel liike someone pullled the plug on my whole sense of being. Had all these goals to pursure on my "down time" & maybe got to half :( I wake up early, do coffee, get on computer & do something constructive. By noon, I'm pretty much wiped for the day! Have had increased low back pain & cramping (off & on) Since I have had a partial, I have a hard time grasping (even after reading several times), what parts remain at the South Pole region? The only other things, other than the back pain, is the meloncholy mood changes & night sweats. Nice to read other testimonies to know how I stand, ranked amoung everyone else :)
—Guest domesticdiva

3 Weeks & Waiting for NORMAL?

I had a "partial" hysterectomy on 6/20/11 & was totally amazed at the ease of the whole process. Oh...btw, it was done vaginally...no invasion to tummy at all. I was histatic because of the ease of it all. I am a very ENERGETIC person & have a cleaning company. I had that "high hopes" of being back on the wagon, FULL FORCE, 2 wks post op....WRONG!!! Week 2 & 3, I feel liike someone pullled the plug on my whole sense of being. Had all these goals to pursure on my "down time" & maybe got to half :( I wake up early, do coffee, get on computer & do something constructive. By noon, I'm pretty much wiped for the day! Have had increased low back pain & cramping (off & on) Since I have had a partial, I have a hard time grasping (even after reading several times), what parts remain at the South Pole region? The only other things, other than the back pain, is the meloncholy mood changes & night sweats. Nice to read other testimonies to know how I stand, ranked amoung everyone else :)
—Guest domesticdiva

How long to heal?

After a full hysterectomy 6 months ago, I still experience cramping. I am dating a RN, and he thinks I should be completely healed by now and says "at our age, we all wake up with aches and pains everyday". I thought he would be the one that understood the surgery and what it all entailed and the after effects. I still am visiting the surgeon, but keep all the conversation of the visits to myself. As if it wasn't bad enough to have the surgery at 37 with no kids, dealing with the homelife afterwards is worse. Understanding that every body is different, I wonder how long before the body should be "healed"? They did extensive cutting and burning to kill the endometriosis.
—Guest 37 and no kids

Hysterectomy at 27?

Hi i am 27 years old. i have been suffering from chronic bleed (more days of the year than not) and chronic pelvic pain - so bad that sometimes i can't even move. I was diagnosed with endometriosis and poly cyctic ovaries in 2007. and just this past june (2011) had another sugery because the pain and bleeding were so consistant and no doctor knew why. turns out my surgery came back with nothing major - but i sit here almost 5 months later in so much pain, so much bleeding, and not able to have a normal relationship, nor wanting sex because of the pain from intercourse as well. i am waiting to see another gyno to see about a hysterectomy because i cant cope with the pain anymore.. and no one understands the pain i am in, to help me out with pain control. please help me with some advice on this issue. i dont want kids (as i say this now) and who knows if i will change my mind later on in life, but i also don't want to live with chronic pain.
—Guest chronic pain

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